There is upbeat internal surge
When there is a birth of a solid urge
To excel with a desire to get more
Surfaces from thy inner self – to fore
And raises the pitch of thy confidence even further
Thence thee raise thyself to higher pedestal of life
For, there arises a self-fulfilling prophesy
Of touching the sky with glory
Creating a right image on the mind slate
Thee then challenge even thy unpredictable fate.
Birth of an idea – expectations that could be quantified
Could be worked and gracefully acquired
With right attitude and extra dose of sincerity
By so doing thou create positive environs directly
To tilt balance in thy favour
And raise pitch of thy expectations still further
But behold – not beyond the rules of expectations
Dare not go haywire in our assumptions
That the umbrella of hope gets shattered
Under the downpour of too much of expectations
Thus changing the meaning of coveted opinions,
Creating in its wake distrust, anger,
Ill-will and ultimate – ruins!
Expectations so fixed should be realizable
Based on our capacities and environs holding sway
Doubtlessly propelled by thy effort anyway
And bountiful blessings of our Father in the Heaven
So that our expectations succeed without friction.
Today, we are living in a competitive environment. Sometimes, we go haywire in setting our expectations. There is no harm in setting high expectations (goals) but it should never be forgotten that are we having raw materials, in the form of our capacities and other influencing factor, needed for building that edifice of our expectations. If we have, then we can visualize the work to be put for achievement of the same. And on the way, if there is tangible improvement in achievement then perceived expectations could be increased/stretched. Our expectations and our performance thereof for realization of those expectations (goals) realistically determine our success or failure.
When it comes to expectations from our own self it is a bit difficult. If we know ourselves fully; our strengths and weaknesses, we can devise ways and means to work on our weak areas. This way we can plug the weak areas and influence the outcome. This way, first of all, we have to have self assessment of ours and then proceed in setting our goals (expectations).
SOME IMPONDERABLES FOR EXPECTATIONS
Anger and our Expectations. We expect much from ourselves but do not exert to control our anger which becomes an inhibiting factor for our further advancement/stretching our goal. Care ought to be exercised that sense control is of paramount importance and in that agent anger is the main mischief maker. We should be so completely absorbed in work or study or a project in hand that we become unaware of everything else, even of its results (which would be good) if the work and the intended goal is positive. To achieve the best results from what we do, we should be focused on the action with undivided attention. It should never be forgotten that in anger we are not focused to our work at hand. So the best way to control anger is to control or limit our expectations in the first instance. Too much expectations from our dears and nears just lead us nowhere if those expectations are not met.
It is synonymous to our complete surrender to our Lord – lock, stock and barrel.
We get angry if our desire is not fulfilled. (Gita 2.62)
Expectations and Self Realization. A self realized person knows his/her potentials and weakness. That person works to fill the weak areas and draws out the innate potentials with positive frame of mind. He/she knows that meaningful living is living actively, sensibly and selflessly. A self-realized person when meeting his/her goals (expectations) never forgets to meet ends with sincerity while being good to all those who come across his / her path. With positive attitude everything gets accomplished. Our expectations are not belied even if some failures may come sometimes but these could be surmounted with positive frame of mind / attributes. Fine-tuning the expectations could also help – lowering the pitch of our expectations. A self realized person is never shaken by some failures. He/she is not attached with result of his/her action. That person is peaceful and happy beyond doubt. Never feeling angry if something goes awry is his/her way of doing things.
Bhagward Gita rightly articulates a self realized person as:
A person who neither rejoices upon achieving something pleasant nor laments upon obtaining something unpleasant, who is self-intelligent, who is not wildered, and who knows the science of God, is already situated in transcendence.
Mind Control & Expectations. Our mind raises the pitch of our expectations. The best way to limit our expectations is to rein in our senses. Our mind asks for more and more. A satiety level, commensurate with the potential and other connected factors should be fixed and then efforts directed to fulfil the same.
The desire for pleasures takes one to the dark alley of sin, gets us in trouble, and prevents our progress. (Gita 2.67)
For getting our expectations fulfilled we are constrained to adopt different strategies. We even take the evil and criminal /unethical and sometimes immoral and irrational routes for getting those expectations fulfilled. It is, therefore, paramount that we have the total control of our senses and limit our expectations.
Our Expectations from others and our Attitude. In life we expect that we ought to be treated well by others. If there is any deviation in this, we feel disappointed. It should never be forgotten that for getting good treatment from others we have to treat others well, too. Then, we have high expectations from our close relatives and friends on whom we repose our trust. When trust deficit takes place, we feel disappointment. Expectations are in fact two ways traffic. Man being a social animal cannot work in isolation. If I meet somebody’s expectations/needs today then I can bank on his/her help whenever I need that person’s help. It is but natural. In other words, it is quid pro quo game. We can hardly trust people with whom we have not established any working relationships in this respect.
When our expectations are belied by our own kiths and kin, it pains us severely especially when we have invested our life’s savings including our goodwill for their advancement in life. Alast! when we need their assistance, we got thumb down. Then?
Then our Creator’s succor is the bank balance we are having. We should exploit it to the hilt! And why not, it is our Father’s treasury.
The Mirror is easily shattered? Help.?
I always set my values, thoughts, beliefs and I walk forward trying to aim for what’s important, but every now and then I seem to look at the mirror and see a face with no …show more
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• Harbans answered 2 years ago
From the account you have penned down it is evident that you give too much credence to your values in life, your beliefs are quite dear to you. You also tend to follow and implement what is more important. Till this everything is too good and fine. But if you still stretch your imagination too much then there is over stressing / over pressing / over stretching yourself to a limit of not returning. This, in my view, may take to a realm of imagination and not reality. Too much everything is bad. Take one thing at a time and do your best in delving upon that in your present moment. Exert your maximum. If successful in that endeavour, it is a premium, and if not, it should not depress you. It should be a stepping stone for still more efforts and not put you in ‘depression’. Moving on in life is more important than solving one problem or the other. The result should not impact you adversely.
But make you more determined. If it still makes you unsuccessful, hardly matter. Sky will not fall down if you could not get your result. It should not affect your mindset.
As far as to know about who I am. You are specially created for a mission in life. Everyone is created for a mission. He should perform that as if this is ordained by our Creator. Please do not be hyper sensitive with anything under the sun. Everything has got time tag for its fruition. Nothing comes without honest effort. So do not be overly influenced by small things in life. These are hurdles but the result after you surmount those hurdles would be highly rewarding.
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Thank you , friend. You have put my mind at ease atleast for now.
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I NEED HELP TO GET CLOSURE, CAN SOMEONE HELP ME?
Recently, the famous wonderful singing sensation Whitney Houston passed away. I remember being young and listening to all her music. When she died, I couldn’t believe it, and I cried, because I was a big fan of hers. You might call me silly, but sometimes I just sit there, and listen to Whitney’s songs over and over again, because I can’t believe such a beautiful voice has left this Earth. I feel as if I need closure…
Lately I’ve been listening to:
“You Give Good Love” (I love this song <3)
"Saving All My Love" (This song soothes me)
If you're a Whitney’s fan out there, please tell me, if you're feeling the same way. I feel like there will never be a voice like Whitney's voice ever again, and it breaks my heart. My heart goes out to her family. Rest in Peace the Amazing Whitney Houston! <3
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• Harbans answered 2 years ago
Whitney Houston was a singing sensation. In all her singing, she has left an indelible impression on the world of singing. All, amongst them, myself too are having the same emotional upsurge. But can hardly do anything but pray to ALMIGHTY GOD to grant her peace in His abode.
The work of art gives a person the status of immortality through their work through which we remember them. In her case too it is so. So, in a sense she will not be dead till her singing or music is there in our midst. And that is really great.
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Ricky is retarded lmao.
I'm a guy…
GOOD FRIDAY – A SOLEMN DAY
(ON 18th APRIL 2014)
Amongst all Fridays’, the most Holy,
Call it a Good Friday or a Great Friday,
No strings attached whatsoever for us all,
A day long penance and fasting observed without fail,
This Day is commemorated as an anniversary,
Of death of our beloved & revered Lord Christ,
This Day’s purity remains for a commoner or a priest.
A Day which we reminisce,
When our beloved Lord Jesus Christ,
Offered himself on the Cross,
Without even a slightest emotional upsurge,
Peaceful & compassionate while in real life passage,
And serene whilst embracing death by hapless.
Underwent crucification and ultimate surrender,
On this Day – to our common Creator!
Suffering for us – relentless pangs combined with humiliation,
A holy death indeed for our redemption,
His supreme sacrifice is an instrument of compensation,
For the sins of everyone of us on this earth.
AND then followed by a surprise resurrection,
Thus stunning the people at large by this revivification.
Methods may differ of observation,
But the holiness of Good Friday remains above par,
Devout kneel with utmost reverence, they pay,
Before wooden Cross kept in Churches so holy on this day.
Seven last words of Lord Christ are too repeated,
So that HIS utterances remain engraved,
In our memory lane forever and ever.
A symbolic burial of the Lord too is performed,
Differences may be in the methods,
Yet inner most springing of touching feeling is unparalleled,
For our Beloved Jesus Christ,
Who for Truth’s sake gave His everything,
So that we may be absolved of our sins.
It has been seen that the incarnations of our Creator had to endure trials and tribulations in their life time while living on this earth. They presented a living example for us humans to see how best they withstood onslaughts of those who opposed the very idea of departure from their pseudo and outdated beliefs. While reforming the masses, the messenger of our God faced umpteenth obstacles from those who opposed their ideals. These incarnations faced hurdles at every step but with their foresights and fortitude these Apostles of Peace challenged the old and hackneyed mores of behaviour and came out unscathed ultimately. After their earthy sojourns they were accepted as the Messengers of God by one and all. This is the tragedy of humans that we do not recognize His Messengers/Incarnations while they are on this planet but when they are no longer with us then we take them as their revered ones!
Lord Jesus Christ is one example amongst others like Prophet Mohammad, Lord Krishna, Lord Rama who gave new meaning and content to the philosophy of living. These Messengers of Peace fought for the common people and were able to rid the society of the evil doers and challenged the very philosophies of people at the helm of affairs during the periods on this earth. In that process these Sons of God had to face opposition. People who mattered suspected these and they had to face trials and tribulations. During the life time Jesus Christ did everything to rid the then society of the evils prevalent and wanted to change the outlook of the people.
Jesus agonized on the cross for us all. We should never forget that He suffered so that we are redeemed of our sins that we as humans do commit. There were quite a disturbances after he gave up his spirit.
Crucification of Jesus Christ gave a new meaning of life to us humans to follow. His ideals and preaching are held dear by us all and will remain so till eternity. May this Day remain etched in our memory as the day of redemption of humanity and He remain a beacon of light for all of us on this earth.
KARMA IS OUR TRUE DHARMA
Karma is our way of performing our task at hand
First by training and synergizing fully our mind
To acquire requisite expertise in the field of activity
Putting all the resources including all our faculties
For a predestined cause chosen with care and caution
Ridding off barriers like egotistic pride with full attention
Dissociating from the motion picture of the past experiences – if probable
Enjoying every act in an objective way
Enjoying the movie of our life of every day
Like an open book
With no doubt brooking.
Concentrating on the deed at hand with full sincerity
Overcoming ifs and buts with piety and purity
Putting ourselves physically; mentally and emotionally
Law of Karma : Action leads to a similar reaction
Good actions leads to good reactions
Bad ones push us to bad results imaginable
Today’s Karma (action) influences tomorrow’s life
Past good / bad karma cannot be wished away easily
For our Creator keeps its record very assiduously
Bhagwad Gita exhorts us to act justly
Caring not for the fruits of that act actually
Every deed ought to be taken as a sacred duty
With singleness and holiness of purpose that it entails
Our Karma ought to be transacted with full Dharma
Respecting all the Natural Laws that befall
Then our Karma becomes our Dharma
Our Karma becomes an active partnership with our Lord.
KARMA IS OUR SACRED DHARMA
Karma philosophy stresses the importance of action without giving much credence to the fruits of that action. Karma is action or deed we transact by the use of all the faculties at his/her command. The action we put in depends on our expertise on the subject matter that we have gained over a period of time besides the mindset we establish for ourselves. But one thing cannot be disputed; if we sow thorns we shall get the crop of thorns only it will not yield the crop of fragrant flowers.
Law of karma can be summed up as : Action and reaction is equal and opposite. We are persistently doing our karmas physically, mentally and emotionally. Nothing happens without a set purpose. There is always some reason for every action or reaction that it entails. In other words; it is the law of karma / cause and effect. An individual is responsible for all his / her actions. One suffers or is rewarded according to one’s good or bad actions. Our Creator rewards us for good actions and punishes for the bad actions. Nobody has ever escaped from the karma of his/her action.
Yoga: The word yoga has been originated from the root word ‘yuj’ meaning joining or putting together in order to get something accomplished. Some may also say Yoga as a breath control in order to adopt body postures for discipling our body system as have been enunciated by Patanjali. In Bhagwad Gita Yoga has been used for getting some attainment or skill or to get some expertise for a cause et al. A Yogi is one who is a performer or does something with expert knowledge or skill.
“Yogah Karmasu Kausalam” (Gita 2.50). Kausalam means a special talent, expertise or skill in doing something. So doing things with expertise is Yoga with righteous mindset.
Thus a Karma Yoga is the task in hand which is to be accomplished with singleness of purpose/concentration with a special skill or experise taking into consideration the righteousness and religious finesse with no attachment to the fruits of the action.
In Bhagavad Gita Sri Krishna advises Arjuna to do his duty most sincerely and with expertise and skill he has attained but without expectation of any returns for that activity.
While performing our karma it is necessary that we remain positive in our approach. As karma is based on action and reaction we have to have compassion and should follow the philosophy of forget and forgive. Then there is the need of forgiveness if somebody has done something bad to us.
“Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma phaleshou kada chana. Ma Karma Phala Hetur Bhurmatey Sangostva Akarmani.”
In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said: You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of actions. This principle should always be remembered by us.
It means: We should keep on performing our duties without expecting for any reward in return by leading a selfless life.
In Bhagwad Gita Lord Krishan exhorts us to perform our duties sincerely putting our efforts to the best of ability. It is generally accepted now that the main purpose of Bhagavad Gita is to induce people to action without caring for the result of our action. The emphasis is on Karma Yoga as the suitable path for advancement of mankind.
It is necessary that we should know what is Karma Yoga?
Karma has been driven from the root word ‘kru’ meaning to do a deed or to perform or to accomplish an action or perform a task at hand etc. There are two types of karmas viz:
” Nishkama Karma (Action without expectation of results). The first way is called nishkãm karma, when actions are performed without any expectation of material gain, ego, or material desires. Nishkam karmas are performed to fulfill our duties and please. An action to be done singleness of purpose without recourse to any negative trait in order to get that task fructified. Here two things are very relevant. Firstly the action should be performed without consideration to result of that action and also that action should be performed without any recourse to negative trait.
• Sakama Karma (Work done with expectation of results). All the tasks done with an intention for an end result(s). When actions are performed with an expectation of material desire or purpose. According to this proponents the action without a result is no action at all. It may be the work in the office or at home or any religious or irreligious task that has to be done. Even the service to society is for getting some ends/results.
• Karma Yogi. One who performs action without being attached to the fruits of action with pure mindset is a Karam Yogi. Without renouncing the desire for sense gratification or without renouncing the fruits of action one cannot be termed as a Karam Yogi.
Types of Karmas
• Kriyaman Karmas. Karmas which are being done by us every moment presently. The fruits of these karmas can be attained in this life, the next, or after many births.
• Sanchit karma. An accumulation of karmas from one or more past lives. We are either reaping the rewards of the past karmas of our past.
• Prarabdha Karma. It is the past karma that is being experienced by us in this birth. What we are in the form of our physical or mental attributes or what is being experienced now is due to our own past karmas.
Good action produce happiness and bad actions lead to suffering and misery in the present or next life. A person’s past actions determine our present, and our present actions have an effect on our future. It goes to show that everyone is responsible for his/her karma and the reaction thereof. In other words we are the maker of our own destiny.
A person is free to act according to his/her free will and if results too are in consonance with the karma then nobody is held responsible for it all – except the person concerned. It is also a fact that every action of ours is being assiduously screened by our Creator and hence one is responsible for good or bad karmas.
Dharma; The righteous course of action we follow for pursuing our destined goal. This goal may be religious or otherwise. If we perform that Karm by taking into consideration the code of conduct with all inclusive principles of ethical; moralistic; religious; empathy; besides keeping ourselves disciplined in following the commandments. Also; while being karma yogi work as per the natural rules because without following these we cannot be termed as karma yogis. et al lay; compassion; religious discipline; ethical and moral and all the positivities Principles we hold dear for reaching our destined goal. Dharma means ‘that which holds’ without which it is difficult to pull on in life. In other words the methods which we hold dear while doing our duties
Karma which is done with non-violence and without any selfish motive is a real dharma. It is also seen all action done with righteousness and without any shred of ego leads to good results ultimately. This dharma also is a source of eternal bliss and equanimity in our life. Karma which is done like a dharma graces us with worldly joys and eternal bliss. Performing our karma is akin to dharma bestows us eternal happiness, strength, and tranquility for us and converts our Karmic debit into Karmic credit.
CULTURAL FESTIVAL – BAISAKHI
(On 14 April 2014)
India is a land of festivals. All the festivals in India are celebrated either to pay tribute to certain historical figure, change of season, cultural and religious events, traditional based regional fairs, sowing of crops, harvesting of crops or to remember some historical day like Independent Day or Republic Day etc. The well-known amongst several ones are Dussehra, Diwali, Eid, Good Friday, Gurpurbh, Lohri, Holi and others having regional leanings. In all these festivals, people of all hues participate with gaiety and religious fervor besides with immense gusto and enthusiasm.
Baisakhi is generally celebrated in Northern India on 13th or 14th April every year. It is also a starting of New Year of Vikrami Samvat Calendar. This is a cultural harvest festival which takes place annually and all people celebrate this day with full zeal and enthusiasm.
People start from their houses in groups singing group songs and dancing to the tunes of drums in colourful / holiday finery. A designated holy place of some Peer or temple or Gurdwara is well chosen for this occasion. This year, Baisakhi celebration will be on 14th April 2014. While the farmers are free after harvesting their crops they have load of time to celebrate with gusto and enthusiasm.
Competitions of Gidha by women folks and Bhangra by the menfolks are the main attractions besides wrestling bouts (dangal) by the prominent wrestlers of the area are also organized. Prizes are distributed to the winners of these events. People get together and meet their friends and also this fair affords an opportunity to expand their friends circle.
New meaning to this festival was given in 1699 when Khalsa Path was established by Guru Gobind Singh – the 10th Guru of Sikhs at Anandpur Sahib – a place most venerated by one and all. Khalsa means PURE without any negativity and leading a perfect life besides having courage to lay down their lives for a cause.
The festival holds special significance to Sikhs. Many Sikhs choose to be baptized during this holy day of Baisakhi. People also come out from their houses in the form of congregations called Nagar Kirtans singing hymns from Shri Guru Granth Sahib. What a day to remember!
BAISAKHI – CULTURAL FESTIVAL
Baisakhi marks ushering in the New Year,
Of Vikrami Samvat Calendar,
A lunar calendar based on ancient Hindu tradition of yore,
Falling, surprising on 13th or 14th April every year!
When new resolutions are made by all
And old ones introspected for renewal.
A festival known variously in countless parts of our land.
Whilst the farmers toil in the fields on months on ends,
Tilling lands from morn till end of the day,
Occasionally forgetting even siesta and meals without a say,
Sow seeds and water the crop that grows,
Bestowing care for the crops,
Observes its growth with precision,
So that the crop’s yield may surge,
Like he observes the growth of his offspring at his dwelling place.
On auspicious day of Baisakhi,
The farmers having collected crops harvested,
Join together in singing, merrymaking with full gusto,
Celebrate Baisakhi with Bhangra and gidha at full throttle,
In their colourful mesmeric folk attires,
Distributing sweets and good wishes in delight,
At the holy monuments of ‘peers’ and ‘fakirs’,
Known for their piousness and ocean of wisdom,
Offer prayers for the prosperity for everybody,
And also for their crop yield to grow, years after years.
The nature too is at its colorful best,
With flowers emitting fragrance,
The blanket of greenery spreading,
Everywhere your eyes could see,
Making the environs invigorating and heady indeed,
Surprisingly without even an intoxicating agent!
This day too has a history of its own,
Guru Gobind Singh established Khalsa Panth,
At Anandpur Sahib – a place revered by one and all,
To bestow security to the hapless,
People too gather in various Gurudwaras,
While some are baptized in traditional modes,
Shri Golden Temple emits its splendour as ever and more,
Devout take a dip in the holy sarovar,
And pray for wellbeing of nears and dears.
CHALLENGES OF LIFE
There are multifarious challenges which our life throws at us. A true Yogi works towards meeting these challenges which life throws head on, with a spirit of fortitude besides adopting policies based on accommodation, sympathy and cooperation. While meeting challenges, we have to break free from the pre-conceived worn-out ideas which have not stood the test of time. Care should also be exercised that while facing challenges negative traits in the form of anger, jealousy, greed etc should be given burial. For this, the example set by Lord Hanumanji has to be emulated by a Karma Yogi. He was the embodiment of huge strength, courage, and self control besides being wonderfully sagacious. He accepted the challenges of finding Sita Maan while He was told to do so by Lord Rama. He had no inhibition whatsoever in sacrificing his own life for the cause at hand. This he made it abundantly clear while interacting with Demon King Ravana when Lord Hanumanji was brought to his palace. Such wholehearted devotion is expected of us all to break the jinx which life challenges throw on us. If we solve our problems with selfless zeal and enthusiasm most of challenges will vanish in the thin air and make our life peaceful at all times.
While we are overcoming challenges, analyzing the cause of challenges is a natural corollary, it should never be forgotten that there is a elusive hand of Omniscient rendering us His assistance.
When Arjuna was faced with daunting challenges of his lifetime of fighting his own near and dears besides fighting the stalwart warriors superior to him in prowess. The teachings of the Gita helped him win both the internal integrity while facing external challenges and thus achieve complete contentment.
Gunas are the important attributes of all the individuals dealing with person’s physical and spiritual life. These attributes are always at work whether we recognize these or not.
• Sattvic Attributes. Under the Sattvic influence the mind is free of any inertia or agitation. It is in consonance with the Creator. Equanimity prevails in both happy and bad times. There is a better understanding of all the challenges that life throws while working in any situation. A person with Sattvic disposition is in total harmony with himself and his environment. It is like some smokescreen on the mirror which when removed just is a revelation by itself. Bhagavad Gita rightly professes, “He does not avoid light, activity, or illusion…he remains disinterested or unmoved by the qualities of nature.
• Rajasvic Attributes. A person with rajasvic influence aspires for material possessions and is having immense attachment for material possessions including relatives. Equilibrium of this person is disturbed hugely when his particular desire meets with failure. Challenges of life makes this person more restive.
• Attribute of Tamsic Guna. The nature of Tamasic Gunas is lack of cohesive thought; lack of intelligence; hateful conduct and even resort to violence to get things done.
VARIOUS CHALLENGES FACED BY US INDIVIDUALS
Challenges of our life start on fertilization of the egg In the womb of a mother. Its survival depends on so many factors than one. This ‘survival of the fittest’ is unique in many ways. It goes to show that life itself is a challenge – a challenge of highest order.
• Challenges faced by the Voters. In democratic set up there is a big challenge for the voters as to which party or candidate to be elected to ensure stability and good governance. The voters should vote for the one who has ability and conviction besides huge reserve of integrity to serve the country and not just serving his/her own interest. They should vote for those who deliver and not for those who create artificial policy paralysis.
• Challenge of soft emotions. All have emotional attachment for their love ones and the status quotient but when these soft emotional upsurges go over board/cross the limit then challenges dawn. Wisdom is to keep a healthy balance so that these challenges are dealt with judiciously. This is applicable both in family life and attachment with our possessiveness. It should never be forgotten that our soft emotions are very precious to us all.
• Physical challenges. Notwithstanding big strides made by humans in medical sciences there are innumerable physical challenges encountered by the living beings. Which disease or disability will befall at what time is known only to our Creator. Some are due to us humans and others are just natural. For example the disturbance caused by humans by disturbing ecological balance is cause of many a diseases. Research and development in new medicines for cure of even previously considered incurable diseases like cancer etc have been made possible. But then new crop of diseases are befalling with ferocity due to ecological imbalance.
• Self control. A man can be as he thinks to be. Many a times it has been observed that man is its own enemy. He loses control over his own conscious mind and does something which is against the norms set by the society or acting against the natural laws. Self control is a biggest challenge that we ought to exercise for a ethical and moralistic based living. Self control can also be ensured by first removing all the dross from the human nature. Just surrender ourselves to our Creator is the answer for a total self control. By so doing we can have total and lasting control over all our faculties. This way we can face all the challenges which ‘time’ hurl at us.
SELF-CONTROL has been very rightly enunciated in Bhagwad Gita as:
“He who acts because it is his duty, not thinking of the consequences, is really spiritual and a true ascetic; and not he who merely does rituals or who shuns all action.” O Arjuna! Renunciation is in fact what is called Right Action. No one can become spiritual who has not renounced all desire.
• Challenges of environment. Atmospheric /environmental degradation is causing ecological imbalances and becoming the cause of many a imbalances. Humanity as a whole have to accept the challenges of keeping the ecological balance for a healthy living. This challenge has to be accepted on a war footing otherwise our next generations will suffer the adverse affects in the form of natural furies like tsunami and earthquake and other natural calamities.
• Stress at work place. We encounter problems at work places when we are not able to meet the challenges /expectations of an organization or unable to meet goals. We have to put in sincere effort to accomplish our goals. Not fully meeting the challenges means becoming a cause of stress causing unspeakable consequences. A true Yogi works just faces all challenges with equanimity and remains unfazed in stress or no stress. Try devising various methods to alleviate stress by maintaining composure in stress and strain and work towards it not as a work but as a worship. Not as a stress giving tool but as a stress buster. For this to happen we have to draw out our innate potentials through spiritual forward march.
• Dealing with difficult people. There are challenges furled by people who are fastidious in nature. Do anything to serve their causes; they are not pleased. Just the people with Tamsic mentality (violent mindset) who are very possessive in all their endeavours. They are the people who would adopt even the corrupt or unethical practices for the fructification of their causes. They have no limit in anything.
• Thought of future challenges. More often than not present is the time which we have to live with. Past is the time which we have lived. But instead of living the present moment we remain thinking about the future and its challenges which are uncertain and also do not leave the old blanket of past. By doing so we neither are able to use the experiences gained in the past nor can live in harmony the present moment.
• Heartbroken situation. Life is a journey by twosomes – by male and female. If one is sincere in his/her love and the other one just acts counter to others’ interests. Some people do not get what life challenges throw at them in the form of love and understanding and as a consequence just lose in the bargain. Just heartbroken is the result ultimately.
• Death in the family. Death in a family presents a very demoralizing challenge especially so when deceased one is a sole earning member. Life throws so many challenges on us all. But when a tragedy dawns it will have far reaching affect on us. Coordination and cooperation in the family give fillip to family cohesion and goodwill leading to balanced upbringing of the children to face the challenges that the life throws.
• Challenges in decision making. At times we face challenges in decision making. It may be in our domestic life or workplace or other formal or informal institutions.
• Control over anger and fear. It has been experienced that more often than not we spoil our relationships with the people we come across by intemperate behavior. While in anger; nothing gets accomplished satisfactorily. On the other hand most of our differences are caused due to anger. Thus a challenge for every human is to control this negative trait otherwise it will take away our modesty and sagacity.
• Control over lust. Lust for more possessions and sex outside the recognized institution makes us immoral. This is a challenge we have to face / control otherwise we would not be called a civilized.
It has been illustrated in Bhagwad Gita as:
Thus knowing oneself to be transcendental to the material senses, mind and intelligence, O mighty-armed Arjuna, one should steady the mind by deliberate spiritual intelligence (Kṛṣṇa consciousness) and thus — by spiritual strength — conquer this insatiable enemy known as lust.
• Quest for happiness and challenges thereof. Every human beings have the moral authority to aspire for a happy and prosperous life and the challenges these throw while pursuing the same. It is also helpful in finding one’s self worth and face the challenges of life.
• Challenges to overcome jealousies. Jealousy is one of the negative traits which encourages division in all walks of life. The challenge is to overcome jealousy and enhance the self worth based entirely on love and trust.
Over and above the above referred challenges we have other challenges like:
• Challenges posed due to negative tendencies.
• Single parents.
• Infidelity and forgiving.
• Fear of solitude.
• Challenges in the decision making.
• Marriage and family.
These are a few challenges which are to be analysed threadbare and solved without any wastage of much time otherwise it will challenge our very existence.