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How to increase literacy rate of a country with special emphasis on rural areas including girl child and minority communities?

How to increase literacy rate of a country with special emphasis on rural areas including  girl child and minority communities?

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 Best Answer:  We in India have more than 70% population living in rural areas. These people have to be educated about the need of education for their cohesion and adjustment with the educated people living in the urban and metropolitan cities in this highly surcharged atmosphere of competition. In order to teach more people, we have to reach more people; especially in rural areas. Although Government aided and  run educational schools and colleges are fulfilling the needs of the populace, yet, there is a urgent need to enhance the educational pursuit through people oriented programmes. The following are some of the aspects which are to be taken into account for spreading literacy amongst the people.

a/ Making the people aware about the need of education  through print and electronics medias. 


b/ Opening more schools and colleges in the less accessible areas. 


c/ Provide reading and other educational aids’ including books to the needy. 


d/ Providing uniforms to the needy. 


e/ Provision of scholarship to the needy. 


f/ Picking up the meritorious students for higher studies from the rural areas. 


g/ Give specialized type of education to the physically challenged children/children with special needs. 


h/ Periodically monitor the educational standard of the people areawise and devise measures for its improvement. 


i/ Provide grant-in-aid for needy for meeting needs arising out of educational pursuit. 


j/ Provide computers and other modern electronic aids for the schools. 


k/ Proper training and education for the teachers for making the educational pursuit a successful venture. 


l/ Make the people aware about teaching women folks with a view that if we teach a girl you teach a family as a whole.


m/ As far as possible make educational pursuit possible for adults also so that they could also assimilate in the society and get benefits that are accrued.

n/ Those amongst us who could not educate themselves due to some reason or the other, starting special classes for them so that they adjust with the society as a whole. NGOs should chip in for this.*

*Literacy rate of any country depends  on the facilities available in the forms of schools/educational institutions, needful infrastructure for these (study rooms, proper and clean toilet facilities – separate for boys and girls,  adequate number of trained teachers proportional to the students  so that individual necessary playing equipment/toys for specially needed children (for varieties of disabilities) with physiotherapist and specially trained teachers who could meet the needs of these gifted  children etc.

 

In rural India, there is a need of girls’ education because there is wide disparity in the literacy rate of boys and girls. It is well known fact that when we educate a girl, we educate the entire family as such because the child in the initial stage of growth and development, first lesson is imparted by the mother and if she is educated she can amply do so. Illiteracy of the females negatively impacts the entire family to which she goes after marriage. If she is literate and well educated besides cultured one; well versed in value system including traditional modes of behaviour then she can conveniently transfer/impart that value system to her children which doubtlessly will help afterwards in life when a child grows up and faces life. The sluggishness in females’ education could better be removed through the joint and sincere efforts of Government and parents. Efforts should also be made to convince the parents to send the girl child for necessary schooling.  An idea should be spread that both boys and girls need education for adjusting in the life. More so for girls for they have to assimilate themselves in different sort of environments after their marriage. Though in urban and metropolitan cities the literacy rate of girls has improved manifold yet in rural areas there are glitches like non-availability of more schools, teaching staff and other requisites like sanitation etc for girl students which need to be attended urgently.  More funds should be provisioned by the Government for infrastructural and other provisions in the rural areas.  If rural area with more population is awaken through literacy then the country as a whole will have inclusive progress.

Apart from giving fillip to education to girls, there is an urgent need of enhancing literacy rate amongst minorities along with attending to the caste related problems impacting their education. It has been experienced that children from these communities although enroll in the school in first standard but their dropout rate is too high because of factors like financial stringency due to poverty of parents, school available at far off places and available schools do not have trained and efficient staff including non-willingness on the parts of parents to send their children to school etc. Rather they would like their children, in many cases, to follow the parents’ traditional profession to meet the family financial needs. Actually absolute poverty too deters the pursuit of educational pursuits in the rural areas. Though Government is making efforts in educating the rural masses the need of education through publicity campaign and by opening new schools and bridging the gap yet still more needs to be done.

 

 

 

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Posted by on October 24, 2015 in Inner Thoughts

 

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ON OUR ASPIRATIONS

 

ON OUR ASPIRATIONS

OUR ASPIRATIONS

 

What we search out obviously

In our life depends partly

On our self-directed efforts

And partly due to factors

Not entirely in our control

Whence our sincere endeavors

Fail to click, as aspired

We get hugely disillusioned

Thus telling upon our health and well-being.

 

Then mode of comparison

Along with huge dose of competition

Between individuals makes us over-ambitious  

Thereby making our effort becoming meaningless.

 

We tend to measure our degree of success

With adequacy of material possession

Which really an exhibition

For others and influence them immensely

Suffusing us in negativity

Wisdom is to maintain a modicum of equanimity

And not get influenced by the allure of what is temporary.

If nothing works in our favor despite our best efforts

Then we can bank on our Omnipotent and Omniscient

Who will certainly come to our assistance.  


In life, the pendulum of happiness and sadness go from one side to another. When our efforts get fructified, we feel on the seventh heaven but when failure knocks our doors, we are knocked to the ground. This see-saw situation keeps on varying. A person may have the sufficiency of one thing but may lack behind in some other aspect.

For example, I had a sudden surprise meeting with a friend of mine with whom I met after about 25 long years. We had the almost similar background and were classmates. During our interaction, we shared our lives and stories including our careers etc. He told his part of the story and wanted to know mine too!. He mentioned that he worked really hard and now he had the sufficiency of everything that a person aspires for in life, but his body-system does not allow to take everything due to his health-related issues. He cannot take salt because of high blood pressure; he cannot take sugar because of his high blood sugar besides other ailments.

I just imagined, what was the use of material prosperity, if a person was not able to enjoy all those things for which he aspired and worked so hard? He too wanted to know about my present condition. I told him that I had, with the grace of Almighty God, sound health, can eat and digest anything, continue walking both in the mornings and evenings and am satisfied with what I earned. I pray to God and thank him for His mercies. In other words, I am not over-ambitious but what I have or do not have, possess satiety.


Disappointments and displeasures are real issues when we are not able to fulfill what we aspire for despite efforts. Intelligence and wisdom support the strength required to take away the non-fulfillment feelings and emotions and focus on continued efforts for achieving fulfillment.

Wisdom is in eliminating the modes of comparison and competition but the enjoyment of the activism in whatever capacity we can without much caring for the results of our action. In Bhagwad Gita it has been rightly been said that you have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction.


Disappointment will certainly be there with every non-fulfillment. It may result in despair and other stress-related ailments. But a genuine fighter will only focus on the efforts but ultimately accept the result in all humility.

Such question arises only when we focus more on result than to means to achieve what we aspiring for sufficient effort is your own conclusion, maybe way/ strategies need a re-look or efforts are in the wrong direction. 10 student studied for 10 hours doesn’t mean they have got the same result as it depends on level of concentration, observations, and analysis etc. Ask: are you getting any progress? if Yes increase and improve the effort, otherwise change the strategy. best of luck.


Although expectations or aspiration is a must for any success or failure. Of course, we can work on the project to actualize our plans, but let us also be ready for success or failure of our efforts but not remaining attached to the fruits of our actions.


Man’s aspirations are endless and all can never be fulfilled despite our best efforts. We should be contented with whatever is the outcome of our best efforts.

Conclusively, it could be said that aspiration is the first step and how best to put that aspiration into practice is the next step. Merely having aspirations and doing nothing to fructify those aspirations will not take us anywhere. The best part of it all is to put two to two together so that our efforts are streamlined and systematized.

If still, nothing works despite our best efforts and total commitment, then there is ONE who can come to our assistance as given in Holy Bible: Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.

 

 

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2017 in Inner Thoughts

 

DIWALI – A SACRED FESTIVAL OF LIGHT AND SOUND : HAPPY DIWALI ON 19TH OCTOBER 2017

DIWALI – A SACRED FESTIVAL OF LIGHT AND SOUND: HAPPY DIWALI ON 19TH OCTOBER  2017

Literally, the word DEEPAVALI OR DEEPVALI means (deep – light and vali a row and together it means a row of lights) – a light which enlightens spirits and broadens our strength of mind.

PRECURSOR TO DIWALI

Apart from blessed thoughts which emanate from the inner recesses of our heart, the enthusiasts besides lighting their homes and hearths also make sure that their houses are spruced up for inviting the blessings of Maa Lakshmi, the  Lordess of wealth and wellbeing. For this purpose, we can say with fair amount of certainty that Swachchta (cleanliness) has its own reward. Not only our houses, we clean up our surroundings too and for this purpose, Swachch Bharat Abhiyan has done much. Need is to keep not merely ourselves but also clean up our environment. For this, use of crackers which produce huge amounts of pollutants should not be used. It would be in the fitness of things to confine ourselves to lighting our houses to the best way possible. Deepavali is more of the festival of light than of the sounds generated by exploding of crackers.

SWACHCHTA OF BODY & MIND THERE SHOULD BE CHABAACHCHTA OF HOMES

It is not merely Swachchta of our homes and surrounds, the DIWALI LIGHTS, by the grace of LORD RAMA should bring the purity of our body, mind, and soul so that we live a spiritually oriented life for a better living. Lord Rama’s philosophy of compassion for all; RAMA RAJYA (based on the righteous rule) should be the exhortation for all of us. One man’s celebration should not be the lamentation for others.

A STERLING EXAMPLE OF OBEDIENCE

The king of Ayodhya Dhashratha had extracted a solemn pledge to his wife Kakeyi that she could ask for redemption of two boons or promises, at a time of her likings. She had saved the life of king Dasaratha while on a hunting trip in the jungle. She was given promise that she could realize those boons whenever she wanted. While there was news that the king wanted Ramji to be crowned as the of Ayodhya, Manthra the maidservant of KaIkeyi poisoned the ears of the queen Kaikeyi and exhorted her to ask for the realization of two promises given to her by the king.

TWO PROMISES WERE EXTRACTED BY QUEEN KAIKEYI

First making Bharata (Kaikeyi’s son) the king of Ayodhya and second, 14 years’ exile for Rama (the son of Kaushilya). As there was the dictum in the family since ages together: – Raghukul Reet Sada Chali Aayi Puran Jaaye Par Bachan Na Jaye (There is a tradition in Raghukul that they will prefer death to break a promise), so Ayodhya king had to concede the demands of Kaikeyi though with heavy heart/ grudgingly.

After hearing about the turn of events (Crowning of Bharata and 14 years exile for Rama). Rama did not say even a single word. On the other hand, in order to comply with the directive of his father, he put on his the simplest dress to depart for exile, thus obeying the directive of his father without demur or reservation. Sitaji (consort of Ramji and Lakshmana the son of Sumitra) too wanted to accompany Rama. This is a fine example of obedience to the orders of elders in the family. Our youth should imbibe this exceptional trait of Lord Rama and thus follow a righteous path in our life.

WELCOMING LORD RAMA WITH IMMENSE ENTHUSIASM

After the expiry of Lord Ram’s 14 long years of exile, winning over the ‘Sone Ki Lanka – GOLDEN LANKA’  and killing of demon king Ravana with it all his evil Karmic deeds; Lord Rama, accompanied by his brother Lakshmana and Sita and all his followers including Hanumanji (a reservoir of strength, knowledge and intelligence,  courageous but without even a touch of pride, an epitome of Bhakti and Shakti –  despite all these qualities he considered himself to be the humble servant of Lord Rama).

When Lord Rama reached Ayodhya, he was accorded a rousing reception/welcome by the happy populace there. They welcomed all by lighting their homes and streets of Ayodhya with earthen wicks. The righteous emperor Bharata, the virtuous one coroneted his elder brother Rama to the throne of Ayodhya.

DHANTERAS

It falls two days prior to Diwali. Dhan means wealth and teras mean the thirteenth day as per Hindu Calendar. On this day, devout purchase gold, silver ornaments/coins or any other precious metal or utensils as per the propensity of the person concerned. Maa Lakshmi – the Goddess of Wealth and wellbeing is worshiped on this day. Also Kuber, the treasurer of gold and silver is also worshipped. On this day, houses and business established are spruced up for the ongoing Diwali. It is also accompanied with Yama pooja (worship – the God of death) for ensuring sound health and wellbeing with his blessings.

THOUGHTS ON DIWALI

The love between the brothers. As Bharata came to know about the 14 years’ exile to Rama and crowning for himself, he felt very disappointed. He flatly refused to be crowned as a king of Ayodhya in the absence of elder brother Rama and Lakshmana. No arguments of any sort could placate him. He thought this act of being the ruler as adharam (irreligiosity). He even went to the jungles in order to persuade Rama and Lakshmana to come back to Ayodhya but Rama did not agree to this because of the promise was given to his father. This is also termed as Bharata Milap (meeting of Rama and Bharata).

Finally, he extracted a promise from Ramji that on his return back after 14 years’ exile, he will take the reigns as a ruler. Such was the love between the brothers – an unparallel one. Rama’s love for Bharta was also an example that ought to be followed by brothers now for ensuring goodwill in our families. Wealth or any other consideration should not be an impediment to good relations in our families.

BEING KNOWLEDGEABLE DOES NOT MEAN HAVING WISDOM. Ravana the Demon King was most Learned Demon King. Ravana, the son of Vishwashrava (A Brahman Rishi) and his mother Kaikasi (from a demon family) was a scholarly person who had the knowledge of Vedas and other scriptures at his fingertips but he is taken in the negative light because he did not make use of this knowledge for the benefit of demon clan. But Ravana was intoxicated with his prowess and knowledge. So much so he was swayed by ego that he stooped to abducting Sita Mata the consort of Lord Rama – an evil act. It goes to prove that if we do not use the knowledge with sagacity, we sure will fall prey to unethical karma leading to our sure downfall.

KUBER PUJA. Kuber is the step-brother of Ravana and is considered as the treasurer of wealth. It is believed amongst the devout that worship of Lord Kubera, especially on the auspicious day of Diwali, brings affluence and progress in business. Just as we can have fresh water from the fresh water reservoir, we can have Lord Kubera’s blessings if we pray sincerely and work hard for that. Meaning, he bequeaths wealth if we sincerely do our karma as per the natural laws. His graces those who resort to right karma and possess right attitude in life. Kubera Pooja is done on Diwali Day so that there is the sufficiency of everything for meeting the needs of our family.

LORDESS LAKSHMI & LORD GANESHA POOJA. Diwali is considered complete without first inviting Lord Ganesha because He is an embodiment of good beginning and removes obstacles besides being the Lord of Wisdom. Lordess Lakshmi represents wealth and well being. On the auspicious day of Diwali, both of the deities share a single altar thus ensuring blessings of the both. The former is taken as Lordess of wealth and the latter as the bestower of prosperity.

GAMBLING ON THE DAY O DIWALI. A legend has it that on Diwali Day Goddess Parvati played dice with Lord Shiva and He ordained that anyone who gambled on this day, prosperity will smile on that person. This tradition continues even today. But some unscrupulous/unethical people just gamble away their homes and hearts on this day and have to fend for themselves. This is bad. Tradition is OK, but the excess of everything is bad  – should never be forgotten.

It should never be forgotten that when tradition marries with modernity, may it be the celebration of festivals or any other day, we consider this as a pious and worth celebrating, it gives us feeling of wellness amongst our fellow beings. But one thing we ought not to forget that celebration should never be individualistic in nature. When all are happy then celebration gives more satisfaction. May it be the celebration of Diwali, Christmas Day, EID or any other religious day – when all accompany us, celebration becomes more meaningful and eventful in the true sense of terms.

Message: Care to be taken that the crackers used (if at all) should be of low intensity and should produce less no or less noise or air pollution. The Apex Court has rightly imposed the ban on cracker sales in Delhi-NCR.

 

DIWALI – A FESTIVAL OF LIGHT

A festival celebrated by the devout

They tastefully illuminate their homes

Which look so dazzling

In the darkest Amavasya night

Amidst the crackers bursting

That too, having cleaned our homes and surroundings

And also providing us opportunity for introspection

And finding out our negative aspects

Like greed, anger, lust, and jealousy

Then do everything possible for cleansing our mind and body

Off obsolete detestable thoughts

Which have made residency in our mindset

Preceding Diwali days

Provide us ample time for cleaning everything’s

So that Diwali bestows our opportunity to live aesthetically

And fill the people with unending love and huge satiety

With the bountiful graces of the Lordess Devi Lakshmi

Who fulfills the needs of all

Without even an iota o bias.

In the end memories of return of Lord Rama

To the kingdom of Ayodhya

Ater 14 years’ of exile

As per the wishes of his father

The king Dasaratha of Ayodhya.

Whilst away from his kingdom and dear subjects

And bereft of lavishness and comforts of palace

He withstood toil and retribution

In the forests with no inhibition

Subsisted merely on wild herbs
Obtained from the woods

Filled with wild animals and demons
With his consort Sitaji and brother Lakshmanji along
He neutralized many demons
Demons who desecrated and defiled the religious places
Of worship of hermits, who worshipped God

 These demons respected no natural laws
Of humanity and only obeyed the dictates

Of demon king Ravana of Lanka

Who abducted, with utter deceit, Sita  Mata

Lord Rama invaded Lanka, the fiefdom of Ravana
There ensued a battle, so violent
In which Lord Rama decimated Ravana’s arrogance
And with it his wickedness, for good
From the Mother Earth
The purpose of which Lord Vishu
Had taken Ram’s Avtar.
People decorate their houses tastefully
To welcome the Lordess of Wealth and Wellbeing,
The Mother Lakshmi, the most benevolent one.

Fire-works and lighted earthen wicks

Are lined up, so stylishly and systematically
The houses are lighted nicely
There is  atmosphere of happiness all around
Business people worship their books of accounts
And pray for peace and prosperity for the days to come

 People celebrate Diwali happily
With traditional fervor and gaiety
By praying at the religious places
With a sincere prayer for their happiness
And those of their nears and dears

It is the festival whence air of goodwill prevails all around,
Good wishes and greetings along with sweets are exchanged
For each others’ well-being and prosperity

People light the wicks in rows tastefully

Burst crackers to celebrate joyfully

Yet, we ought to realize the importance of pollution free atmosphere

To rid the world off gases most poisonous

And celebrate every day with the feeling of Diwali – so joyous.

O my dearest Lord
And Mother Divine
Be gracious in Showering Thy bounties
So that all ills and intolerances are neutralized,
Like the demons done to death by Lord Rama,
So that every day may be like a Diwali Day,
For the celebration with enthusiasm and gaiety.

 

 

 
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Posted by on October 16, 2017 in FESTIVALS, Inner Thoughts

 

OUR REMEMBRANCE – TEARS ARE SHED & MISSING OF A HEARTBEAT  

 

 

 OUR REMEMBRANCE – TEARS SHED & MISSING OF A HEARTBEAT 

A feeling so germane, we forget not surely

What’s unusually happened in the days gone by

Whilst we wind-back the reel of those memories

A flood of happenings come to our mind

That remains to cling vehemently

With the episodes that have happened eventually

And come to be known as to what transpired finally

Not to let those events revisit our lives, so unpredictable

On which we’ve got no power in our hands

To prevent for these happen so quite suddenly.

Our parents give precious time and energy

Meeting our physical and other needs

Under their shadow so intense and endearing

Whatever lessons we’ve learned

From the lap of our mother so full of warmth

Were learned by trial and error method

By pulling us up sometimes

Warm touch on other times

Trying to raise their offspring to the highest pedestal

When they leave this earth

For their heavenly abode

Thus leaving us only with their fondest memories

When we bring to mind some incidents

Our eyes get filled with tears

Along with our heart misses one or two heartbeats. 

Those who make supreme sacrifices

For the land of their origin

This way the mortals become immortals

And make a place in the annals of history

For the compatriots to remember till posterity

Inspiring the youths to take a leaf from the days gone by

And following their footprints for their nation’s safety.

After seeing some old ruins

Even the tell-tale remains of old palaces

Or graves of some prominent personages etc

We imagine of the entire monuments

Which these, now,  reduced to rubble contained

Having tell-tale story of their existence

Of those creative architectures

And their art and artifacts

Surely our memories tend

To reach to the artists

Thence we think of their architectural excellence

Who, with their artistic

Talents molded every bit of their creations

Combined their love and creative fervor

To erect a monument of repute

Masterpiece of great eminence

Which the ever-changing ‘time’

Changed it from thence state of great elegance

To present state of crumble

As evidenced in the history of that time

Our heart goes to those

Who created these masterpieces

With their masterstroke

When we reminisce of those artists

Who are no more on this earth

Our eyes get filled with tears

Along with our heart misses one or two heartbeats.

When we appraise the written works of authors

Which optimally enriches us

Which has, in fact, made them eternal

Through their pearls of writing, so immortal

We learn about the lives of these writers, so eminent

It may be epics like Mahabharata

By the greatest sage Ved Vyasa

Or another epic like Ramayana

By Valmiki – great sagacious one

Although these great men of wisdom

Or the works of literature littérateur

Created by Wordsworth, Shelley, Shakespeare etc

Time has unfortunately snatched these great ones

From our midst, alas!

Yet their works of great significance

Keeps them alive through their works of great eminence

Our eyes get filled with tears

Along with our heart misses one or two heartbeats.

IMPRESSIONS OF OUR PARENTS

Many a time, whilst we remember our relationship with our dear ones, with whom we’ve spent our valuable time thereby got influenced immensely; while they are no longer in our midst; we naturally feel forlorn.

This emotional perturbation is severe when it comes to our own parents or any other closest relations, who’ve presently left for their heavenly abode; we are filled with supremely dejected. Their association with us, from our birth onwards, makes the journey of our lifeless cumbersome. In our childhood, they transfer the value system, culture, and tradition including modes of behavior.

It is the parents only from whom we learn the first lesson of our life; especially that of the mother who showers all the love and affection on us; pampers us when it is required and also reprimands us whenever it is hugely needed. For a offspring, parents remain a binding force till death. Their reproof and appreciation still remain embedded in our memories.

Finally, when they depart from us for their heavenly abode, we feel very sad. Even ‘time’ does not lessen their reminiscences. Whenever our imagination goes to their leaving us forever, we miss one or two heartbeats and our eyes get moistened.

REMINISCENCES OF OUR MARTYRS

It is natural that we work hard for earning a living for our family besides doing everything possible for its security, honor, and wellbeing. It is well said: East or west home is the best. We may travel anywhere, but we would like to be in our home and hearth and with the members of our family, the sooner it is possible for us. That is the attraction we cultivate for our family.

After our family, we have the combination of families, which make up a society or community in which all the families live. Then different societies combine to make a country which has the border of its own and its citizen have sovereign rights to act and live according to the constitution which is enacted suiting the country. The borders of the country are protected by the armed forces. They protect their borders against intrusions from outside the country.

The personnel deployed for the protection of the borders, many times, go beyond the call of their duties and make the even supreme sacrifice for its protection. These martyrs are remembered for their highest gallantry. Whenever we remember these martyrs our hearts are filled with deep respect not only for the martyrs but also for the entire families to which those brave individual belong.  

WORKS OF HISTORICAL STRUCTURE

Anybody who visits a historical place and sees the historical structures/monuments is wonderstruck / spellbound with their architectural magnificence and elegance. Our imagination goes back to the artists and craftsmen who put their creative talents to make these historical buildings. Even after seeing the remains of some of the dilapidated structures which could not withstand the onslaughts of ‘time’ our mind is filled with sadness. Remembering these creative craftsmen while seeing their immortalized works of art and craft, we cultivate a sense of respect for them along with a tinge of sadness.

REMEMBERING THE PHILOSOPHERS, WRITERS AND GREAT THINKERS OF THE PAST

Who is not impressed by the written works of writers and philosophers who with their outstanding writing talents and philosophical inclination have made them immortalized in the annals of history. Their philosophies in their respective fields have enriched the world at large and have contributed much for the reformation of the civilization with their philosophies. Whenever we go through their rich treasure of legendary works of literature and philosophy, we are really enthralled by their works. These philosophers amongst others like Rishi Ved Vyas, Rishi Valmiki, Aristotle, Plato, Galileo, Voltaire, Pythagoras, Chankaya, Confucius, Adi Shankraya, William Shakespeare, Charles Dickens, Helen Keller, Mark Twain, Rabindranath Tagore and hosts of other authors and poets. They have immortalized themselves through their respective works of literature.

Whenever we go through their words, we remember these great philosophers, great thinkers, and writers of repute, our imagination goes to these great personages and our heart is filled with respect and our eyes are moistened.

Not only the above, there are some others persons who are not there on this planet but remain in our memories who leave a far-reaching impression on us. It is difficult for us to wipe out their memories from our midst. In other words, it remains etched indelibly in our mind until our end.

It is also in the fitness of things to reminisce, God,  even at the time of our death. It has been mentioned in Bhagwad Gita that one who, at the time of death, fixes his life air between the eyebrows and in full devotion engages himself in remembering the Supreme Lord, will certainly attain to the Supreme Personality of Godhead.

 

 

 
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Posted by on October 12, 2017 in Inner Thoughts

 

Is my husband refusing to take responsibility or am I just being insensitive? (As asked by somebody)

Is my husband refusing to take responsibility or am I just being insensitive? (As asked by somebody)

 

Every time something goes wrong in my husband’s day, he tends to blame his circumstances on a traumatic job experience from his past. He will sit and talk for hours about the same situation, how he was victimized, and how others should have helped him; he sounds as if others owe him loyalty. However, I see the situation as being partly his fault. While I am trying to be sensitive to his needs, I think he’s obsessing and needs to move on. For example, he keeps up with who is hired and fired at his former job and he constantly reads negative former employee reviews. When he sleeps, he has nightmares about the situation or talks about them in his sleep. He’ll sometimes stay up for hours writing about what others should have done differently. It’s like he’s living in the past, and is trying to alter the past situation in his favor. He has developed a negative attitude towards trusting people, even me; he says that the only person he can trust is himself and it’s just a matter of time before I betray him. He no longer wants to go in public in our town because he says that he might run into former coworkers; he drives to the next town to shop. Is this reasonable?

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Best Answer:  From the quandary which you have given, it is evident that fault lies with your husband. Question is; who can help him now? You are the only one who is suffering being near to him and you can only help him come out of this predicament since one who is near the burning fire would be affected by its heat. You have some options which are given below:-


(a) As far as possible, divert his attention from his current state of mind to something productive in the household. If you’ve got your offspring tell him about his/her little little prattles, his/her performance in the school or something positive which has transpired in the household.


(b) Try to take him to temple/church or any other worshipping place which may help him change his outlook and he turns to spirituality. It is a fact that spirituality is a great binding and changing force. Nothing will happen in jiffy. Much water has flown down the drain and spoilt his mind but things could be soothed if you become a stabilizing force. With God’s grace everything could change. This should actually be made known to him by you only. Practical spirituality helps.


(c) He ought to be told in clear terms, whatsoever has happened cannot be retrieved – may it be his prestige or position. He should not delve more in the past which is dead and unpredictable future but try living in the present moment. This moment is right now.


(d) A lot of negativity has cluttered in the mindscale of your husband. Whatever he observes consciously, he pens that down, takes it to sub-conscious mind and subsequently it comes in his dream thus there is possibility of hallucinations’ and talking in the dreams. All of these events go to his non-conscious mind which lead to critical problems. Just be sure that he does not repeat what happens in the office. Official incidents should be left in the corridors of office only. If these are brought to ‘home’ then that home would become house and subsequently a ‘quarrelling house’ – dissensions and breaking point.


(e) If possible, take him for some counseling session, if things do not stabilize soon.


(f) If his parents could chip in for rectification of his state of mind then it may have sound affect on him.

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Family is an institution wherein both the couples should understand each other, have compatibility, possess  the traits of forget and forgive including, sometimes, follow the dictum: Silence is golden. It does not create animosity and differences.

Seemingly, in our quest for smooth relationship, sometimes, we become too much concerned, a concern bordering on inconsiderateness to our partner; which the other partner may think to be insincerity in continuing relationship. For example, if a person has a bad patch in home and office, he/she feels very low mentally. The other partner should listen to his/her problem very minutely, suggest probable solution(s) and if nothing changes through joint efforts then take the help of the elders in the home who would be more than willing to chip in for rendering help since compatibility between the spouses brings in peace and tranquility in the family. If even then solution is not found then professional help could be sought. Above all these, sincere and solid belief on our Creator  solves most of our problem.

Try to cobble home intractable solutions through consultation and persuasion rather than resorting to blame-game in order to score points which may create suspicion and knots which could make the matters worst for the family..


All the above cited should be pursued soon or otherwise it may have negative effective effect on the entire family. The sooner some solution is sought the better for you too.

In our life, we tend to face moments which are not of our liking but wisdom is to withstand and remain cool customer despite hurdles. It should be kept in mind that ‘time’ factor contributes much in our life. It removes much of our skepticism, confusions and misunderstandings.  Those who stick to old-rut and do not learn their lesson from the past experiences are doomed to get more gloom.

 

 
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Posted by on October 6, 2017 in Inner Thoughts

 

HAPPY VIJAYADASHAMI / DUSSEHRA (30TH SEPTEMBER 2017)

HAPPY VIJAYADASHAMI / DUSSEHRA (30TH SEPTEMBER 2017)

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Vijayadashami or Dushehra or Dushara or Dashara is one of the most prominent Hindu festivals and is celebrated at the end of Navratri. It is an annual feature – on the 10th day of the Hindu month of Ashvin which falls in the month of September – October. Vijayadashami personifies victory of goodness or righteousness over evil or wickedness. Vijay connotes victory and dashmi means falling on the tenth day.

Similarly, Dushara is derived from two syllables: Dus means evil or bad and hara means to destroy or to remove – by its combination, we deduce Dushara as a day which we observe as a sign of removal of evil from our midst. There is, in fact, a lesson for us all – the forces representing evil will ultimately.

Reasons for its celebration in the eastern and northern states of India:-

  • Marks the end of Durga Puja wherein the devout remember Goddess Durga Maa over Demon king Maheshasur thereby restoring the law of Dharma. Maheshasura wanted to establish the rule of demons; for this, he killed many sages/sadhus and even defiled their Yajna fires besides killing general populace.
  • It also marks the end of Navratri, represented by Nine Devis with different traits.
  • In many parts of India Ramlila is enacted wherein different artists play various roles (Lord Rama, Lakshman, Bharat, Shatrugun, Sita Maa, Demon King Ravana, brother Kumbhkarna and Babishna, son Meghnadh etc) from beginning i.e. births of Rama and his brothers, Sita Devi is described as the daughter of Prithvi (the Earth) because she was found in a pot by Mithla King Janaka while ploughing the fields and was brought up by the king.. All the situations are enacted as though it was happening in real life till, of course, on a ninth day on the death of demon king Ravana who is symbolized as the personification of evil.  On the tenth day, the effigies of Ravana, his brother Kumbhkarna and son Meghnadh are burnt to show to the masses at large that the evil ends ultimately.
  •  People also take out processions, carrying the statues of Durga, Lakshmi, Saraswati, Ganesha etc accompanied with the chants of songs and dances and immersed into the water. After immersion of statues, the devotees pray to Maa Durga for blessing them with her bounties for the entire year.
  • After Dusheshra people start preparation for Dipawali – another festival in connection with reception of Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana by the Ajodhya gentry. They illuminated their homes and street for welcoming their beloved Lord Rama.
  • In Northern India, Dashara (ten days) is celebrated to pay respects to Lord Rama. The plays based on the life of Lord Rama and his humble and benevolent rule too Is also depicted in the form of plays and dramas with light and sound accompanied by music and dance. Finally, the effigies of Ravana, Kumbkarna and Meghnatha are burnt for depicting the end of evil and supremacy of the goodness. In Kullu Valley, there is a big fair and people come to witness this fair with gaiety and enthusiasm to enjoy it.
  • In South India (Karnataka) also Dashehra is celebrated with the worship of Durga Maa. In the south, the festival is dedicated to Lordess of Knowledge Saraswati and worship the books and musical instruments. Children are initiated to studies, it is considered auspicious to start new business ventures and new houses, cars and other properties are purchased.
  • In western regions (In Maharashtra, Rajasthan, and Gujarat), people install their deities and immerse the same on Vijaydashmi. Lord Rama and Goddess Durga are worshipped. The famous dandia dance known as Garba in traditional dresses is one of the wonderful attractions in Gujarat.
  • In eastern regions, the Durga Maa statues are immersed in rivers. Vijayadashami has special significance in West Bengal. Besides worshipping Maa Durga they have singing and dance competitions besides competitions on other literary features.

 

DUSSEHRA/VIJAYADASHAMI   

 

A most sacred festival – an annual event,

Devout rejoice this day as win of goodness over evil,

And take enduring lesson that evil cannot have its sway forever,

It meets its end one day is certain, however, powerful may be the perpetrator.

Lord Shri Ram, the embodiment of righteousness

With most adorable traits with immense prowess

A reservoir of humility with simplicity in abundance

Tolerance, harmony and elderly reverence

That a offspring should  profusely be having

For the parents most adoring.

Lord Rama left for exile, leaving everything in Ayodhya,

When his father Shri Dashratha

Is constrained to act on the promises made in he past

To his wife Kakai – mother of Shri Bharata

And step-mother of Lord Shri Rama,

Who had saved Shri Dashratha’s life once,

By putting her own life in danger,

Consequently, extracting two promises for fulfilling  

At a time and occasion of her own choosing,

Manthra – the courtier of Kakai too showed her true color,

In making Queen Kakai realize the promises,

Crown for her son Shri Bharata

And 14 years in exile for Shri Rama.

Shri Ramji, as expected,  accepted exile for fourteen long years.

And that too without slightest demur,

He embraced the life simplest in the forest,

Subsisting on the fruits and herbs that existed there,

Truly speaking, that is the crux of a lesson for today’s younger generation,

Maa Sitaji the consort of Shri Rama

With brother Lakshmana too accompanied Shri Rama.

The Ravana, the king of Sri Lanka,

With evil intent

And with deception, abducted Sita Maa,

The loving consort of Shri Rama,

Kept her in his garden called Ashok Vatika,

Exhorting Sitaji to marry him,

Sita Mata, being an ideal wife,

Of an ideal husband,

Spurned his a proposal so unethical with disdain it deserved

Who despite his knowledge of Vedas and being the fondest Bhaktas of Lord Shiva

Ruined his name and fame along with the knowledge he had had thus attained

With his acts so highly wicked

An immorality of highest order – by any imaginable yardsticks

A battle between the two armies ensued,

Due to  which Ravana lost his everything dear to him,

His nears and dears and his forces perished

Including his brother Kumbkarna and dear son Methnada

And finally himself – the so called invincible Ravana!

By the sharp arrows of Lord Rama

There is eternal lesson for all of us from this epic,

Remove the evil from our midst,

Burn it out, the sooner it is done the better for us,

As we burn the effigies of Ravana along with Kumbkarna and Meghnada…

Being a religious and yearly ritual,

Vijaydashmi should establish a kingdom of love,

Overflowing with peace, full of tolerance, a feeling of goodwill for all,

A kingdom of love for everybody, leaving none

For it is a celebration for destruction of evil

And a win for TRUTH an ultimate ONE

 

 
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Posted by on September 27, 2017 in Inner Thoughts

 

  HAPPY NAVRATRI FESTIVAL TO ALL. MAY THIS NAVRATRI FESTIVAL BRING ABOUT PEACE AND PROSPERITY FOR ALL OF US.

 

HAPPY NAVRATRI FESTIVAL TO ALL. MAY THIS NAVRATRI FESTIVAL BRING ABOUT PEACE AND PROSPERITY FOR ALL OF US.

NAVRATRI FESTIVAL

Navratri is one of the most sacred festivals that the devout celebrate. It is not merely celebrated by observing some particular rituals but the devotees live a spiritually oriented life in all manifestations. The purpose is to follow the way of life which puts more stress on the subjective experience of sacred dimension. We undertake those karmic deeds during Navratri which transform some of the debit-karmic-deeds to credit-karmic-deeds which helps in personal growth and development individually and also collectively who celebrate it with religious fervor and enthusiasm. Moral and ethical values when followed sincerely could be imbibed as permanent habits to be followed in future too thus Navratri could prove to be a life-changer.

The word NAVRATRI is composed of two syllabuses; NAVwhich means NINE and RATRI mean NIGHTS. Meditation/prayers and fasting are observed by devout during these nine days. A lighter refreshment of milk made products besides fruits, if taken at all, to keep light and pure in body and mind thus helping an individual to keep the body and mind pure. This also provides the devotees’ freedom from adulteration and contamination both in body and mind besides purifying still more the eternal soul along with keeping it taint-free.

A lighter refreshment consisting of milk made product, fruits, and nuts, keeps the body light and the digestive system gets improved thus there is a spread of fragrance of Satoguna and alleviation of Tamoguna and Rajoguna traits. Freedom from contaminated thoughts purifies our mind. Thus observance of fast or vrat (also means resolve) continuously for nine days brings about the stability of our mind and helps in enhancement of our concentration. Besides these, we exercise maximum restraints in our thoughts and deeds and behave in a dignified manner by remaining within confines of decency. All these facilitate generation of the feeling of love and affection for others, enhances peace and tranquility, a feeling of compassion for others and above all a Godly feeling. 

The Navratri are the forerunners for Dushera festival wherein the effigies of demon king Ravana, his brother Kumbhkaran and Meghnath (Ravana’s son) are consigned to flames to showcase to the general public as a lesson that evil, in all its dimension comes to an end ultimately.

All these traits enhance the credibility of an individual devotee who observes the fasts and also offers sincere prayers during these nine days with utmost devotion. The fasts help us to purify our mind, provides lightness to our body provides us an opportunity to devotees for prayers to Goddess Durga Maa – an embodiment of SHAKTI or reservoir of energy.

Mention of Lordess Durga has been found in Vedas and Puranas. Durg was a ferocious demon and Durga, the invincible warrior who killed Durg with her immense prowess. She is the warrior Goddess since she fought evil and forces which spread death and destruction. She works for demolishing demonic forces who want to establish their writ and establish the reign of terror and mayhem amongst the society besides spreading prosperity and goodwill in general masses. She defeats mythical buffalo demon – Meheshasura who had obtained a boon of invincibility from Lord Maheshwara. She is Goddess Parvati, also termed as Durga Saptashati – the consort of Lord Shiva. With her prowess, she proved herself to be unbeatable with limitless mystical powers.

Besides observing fasts, devotees organize congregations in the form of fairs and also enact programs and cultural functions in the form of group dances and devotional songs in praise of Goddess Durga and beseech her blessings.and she being such a benevolent Mother comes to their succor.

Different states celebrate Navratri differently but the spirit of all the celebrations is similar in nature. For example, famous ‘garva dance’ is organized in the state of Gujarat and devotional songs and dance competitions are organized in West Bengal besides prayers in the specially erected and decorated pandals is a usual phone. People visit the famous temples of Vaishno Devi in Katra (in Jammu province) besides all the temples of Goddess Durga in its different forms/manifestations attract devotees in these nine days.

The main driving force of the Navratri is to purify our thoughts and deeds thereof. In these nine days devout observe strict fasts; remain chaste and desist from telling lies. Wish that people always behave like this all the days!

The first three days are celebrated on the name of Durga Mata – Goddess with immense power. For next three days she is worshipped as spiritual wealth – Mata Lakshmi.

Subsequently, for next three days, she is Goddess of wisdom – the Goddess Saraswati. It bestows spiritual enlightenment besides showering an individual with all-around success.

It is useful for our benefit to know the importance of each day.

  1. First Day. On the first day, Mata Durga is termed as Shailputri – the daughter of Himalaya and the consort of Lord Shiva.
  2. Second Day. Mata Durga on the second day is called as Brahmacharini which represents worship. She is the embodiment of huge reserve of power – Shakti.
  3. Third Day. On the third day, the Goddess is venerated as Chandraghanta. She is the embodiment of power and beauty.
  4. Fourth Day. On the fourth day, Maan Durga is worshipped in the form of Kushmanda – the creator of the whole universe by the power of her laughter.
  5. Fifth Day. Here on this day, Skandha – the main warrior of Gods’ army.
  6. Sixth Day. On the sixth day, Mataji takes the form of Katyayani with three eyes and four hands – all powerful and with immense grace.
  7. Seventh Day. On this day, Maan Durga takes the form of Kalratri – she is shown as black as dark night with four hands and makes the evil doers fearless.
  8. Eighth Day. On the eighth day, the Mata Durga takes the form of Maha Gauri – with beauty besides having calmness and exhibits immense wisdom.
  9. Ninth Day. On a ninth day, Maan Durga is worshipped as Siddidatri – with all the eight siddhis. In this form, she is worshiped by all.

Benefits of Navratri:-

  • Strict observance of fasts keep our digestive system in order and helps maintain our body healthy.
  • Fasts help in purifying our mind because we pray Goddess continuously for nine days/nights. It also enhances our focus on the subject we contemplate for completion.
  • Purification of body and mind means spiritually directed conscious mind thus a shift from negativity to positivity
  • Congregations in melas and group processions help the people to people contacts thus animosity, if any, gets obliterated and a feeling of fellow feeling and cooperation sprouts. Contact with each other enhances our outreach in the society.
  • Group dances and spiritual song competitions enhance competitive spirits in the youth and also help them direct their latent energies to productive use.
  • Devotees, in their zeal to show earnest desire to have total connectivity with Goddess Durgaji, offer singular devotion to Her during these auspicious days, reap the harvest of getting their problems solved and get ETERNAL PEACE  in their lives as a reward of this worship.

NAVRATRI FESTIVAL

Truly speaking, Nav means nine

Ratri stands for night

Navratri is the festival of repute

Wherein the devoted disciples

Of all shades celebrate this festival

Twice in a calendar year

First, it is in the March – April, as Chaitra Navratri

Thence October – November as the Shradha Navratri

This festival is related to  Durga Goddess

This ‘Shakti’  with her immense prowess

Overpowered  the ferocious 

Demons that maimed the hapless Sadhus

Even while performing their sacred Yajunas

And in the process defiled the sacredness of Yajna fires.

Goddess Durga in her red attires

Mounted on the lion so fierce

With all the weapons in her custody

Which could inflict havoc on the adversary

Legends abound about Navratri

Demon king Maheshasura worships Lord Shiva

The penance was so severest

That Lord Maheshwara had to grant him a boon of invincibility

That nobody, not even the Gods could kill him

Thence he starts killing innocents with impunity

Then he with forcefully

Conquered the Seven Lokas

Including the throne of Indra.

To eliminate demon Maheshasura

Then there was confabulation between the Trinity

Along with others God too in the company

To defeat and kill this demon turned killer and usurper 

Created Maa Shakti

The Mother with a boundless energy

Or Durga, the Warrior Goddess

The war between Maheshasur and Mother Divine

Which lasted for Nine Day

On day 9th  she killed this evil demon

Navratri symbolizes the victory of good over wickedness

On day ninth which is termed as Mahanavami

Nine young girls are worshipped

Personifying Nine Forms of Durga Goddess

                                   These venerated young girls’ feet are washed

With fresh water and given clothes and food

Navratri too is linked with fertility of land
Folks observe the fitness of earth
By testing seeds germination in pots earthen
Folks also observe fasting rigidly
And keep them chaste
In words and in deeds indeed.

Another legend has makes it known
King Daksha the King of Himalayan Kingdom
Was blessed with a daughter
He named her Uma – a most beautiful one
She worshipped Lord Shiva immeasurably
So that He may accept her in marriage easily
Having pleased Lord Shiva
Thus marries Uma
Against the wishes of King Dhaksha
One day King Dhaksha held a grand Yagna
All Gods except Shiva were invited
Uma wanted to attend Yagna
With Lord Shiva’s reservation
And against His wishes even
King Daksha reprimanded her for coming uninvited
In rage, she jumps into Agni Kund (Fire-grate) and perished
And was termed as Sati
Madev as Virbadhara took King Daksha to task for this
On rebirth (as Parvati) she marries Lord Shiva again
She comes to Her parents to stay for Nine Days
And thus we celebrate these Nine Days as Navratri.
Legend also has it that Lord Rama
Worshipped Goddess Durga’s
Nine Forms for nine days
On day tenth He was able to kill powerful demon king Ravana
Thus day tenth is celebrated as Vijayadashami or Dussehra
First three days are dedicated to Goddess Durga
In the form of child; young girl and mature woman
The three varied stages of womanhood
Symbolizing victory of evil over falsehood
Next three days are dedicated to Goddess of Wealth & Prosperity
Her name is Goddess Lakshmi
She symbolizes wealth; peace and prosperity
Last three days are commemorated in the name of Goddess Saraswati
The Goddess of knowledge
In snowy white dress
Mounted on a white swan
Thus Navratri is termed as the sign
Of purity and well-being

Let this Nine Days wonder 

Be the game-changer 

And engenders peace and prosperity

And enough Wellness for all and sundry 

This is my the most sincere prayer to thee, my Mother Divine

 
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Posted by on September 20, 2017 in Inner Thoughts

 

WHAT WHEN SOMEBODY BELIES OUR CONFIDENCE?

 

 

WHAT WHEN SOMEBODY BELIES OUR CONFIDENCE?

BREACH OF CONFIDENCE/TRUST

It is important to note that breach of trust is personal or subjective in nature. Some may feel when their confidence is broken others may partly feel while many others may not feel its pinch at all.  Expectations from anybody to a limit are tolerable but when it goes on the tangent then we have to change ourselves and try not to take everything seriously which comes our way otherwise this may impact us physiologically and psychologically.

Great epic Mahabharata clearly gives us a wonderful insight into the fact as to how deception, deceit and belying of confidence of others could bring about deaths and destructions. The Pandavas, the sons of King Pandu, lost their every bit of possessions, jewelry, race horses, including everything which they possessed.

Shakuni had such a magical dices, by the playing of which every bit of wager went in his favor. After having won every bit of possessions, Shakuni promised to return back everything lost if they wagered their consort Draupadi. At this late stage, the Pandava brothers could not retrieve their steps as it was the custom of the Kshatriyas, they were constrained to continue till the end. All these acts were transacted by belying the confidence of Pandavas.

Having lost everything including their consort Duryodhana, the elder son of Kaurava King Dhritarashtra wanted to teach a lesson to Draupadi for insulting him once. He wanted her to be disrobed publically in front of elders of the family including Beeshma, Drona, and Kripa but Lord Krishna delivered her of this misfortunate but as a result had sown the seeds of war between the armies of Kauravas (who were known for their treachery and deception).

LOPSIDED VIEW OF OUR LIFE

There are the people who do not know the real purpose of their life on this planet. They placate their ego by amassing riches without realizing that this life of ours is an impermanent one thus they live in self-deceptive stance. In Bhagavad Gita it has amply been made clear by Lord Krishna as to what is impermanent and what is eternal. Those who know these realities attain knowledge of immense importance. Our body is destructible but the soul which dwells in this soul cannot be destroyed. Those who do not act on this reality live in the unreal and deceptive world. Harming others by design or to intent to harm others for personal gain is self-destructive.

NECESSITY OF HAVING CONFIDENCE

 

It is truthful that the affairs of any household, neighborhood, community or country cannot run smoothly without confidence or faith on others. We simply trust others that is why we feel confident to deal with others. Nothing could be transacted without mutual confidence and trust. Confidence in others is one of the important constituents of our dealings with others. It is a two-way traffic – based on quid pro quo. In other words, if we trust others, it is natural that others too will trust us.

It has been ordained in Bible: God seeks those that will stand in the gap and repair the breach between God and man as well as between men. These are men and women that continue to move forward no matter what. These are men and women that know how to rescue opportunities out of adversities. These are men and women that are committed to making each other whole. These are men and women that are like God.

We have the confidence on the driver of the bus we ride for a safe journey to our destination. If that driver breaches our trust and suddenly jumps out of the bus fearing loss of balance by the bus and let the passengers plunge into the deep gorge. He saves himself from death or otherwise but has surely breached the trust of the passengers and those people who witnessed that accident. Similar is the case with a drowning warship whose commander himself to drowns with everything that is in the ship including its crews.There are several examples where a warship, in active action, is hit and all its occupants took watery graves in the ocean. That is the saga of the true heroism.

BELIEF ON OUR TEACHER OR GURU

The Guru or teachers or preacher should have our confidence. One of the best known Gur Mantra is Guru Brahma, Guru Vishnu, Guru Devo Maheshwara. It is in the praise of Lord Brahma (Lord of Creation or procreation), Lord Vishnu (Lord responsible for evolution what has been created) and Lord Shiva (Lord responsible for destruction for further procreation). We trust our Guru, teachers or preachers simply because they mold our destinies by imparting knowledge thereby we take up various vocations or avocations or innovation apart from the inculcation of spiritual understanding. If the Guru or the teacher, to whom we send our children, breach our trust or confidence then what happens? When our expectations are belied, we feel let down. It goes to show that we should not blindly follow somebody until such time we know his/her background and conduct so that we may not have to be disappointed besides being painted when we find ourselves ditched. We should actually experience life by living ups and downs/vicissitudes of life. This way, we can be our own teacher.

PARENTS’ CONFIDENCE ON SCHOOLS THEY ARE SENDING THEIR WARDS

The life of seven years old named Praduman was cut short by a bus conductor in one of the schools in Gurugram recently. This is largely due to a breach of trust or confidence of enormous proportion which the parents had in the school as a whole. Nothing can assuage the emotional disturbance of the parents who had lost their loved one but it is the fitness of things if a thorough investigation by a reputed agency is done so that such grievous incidents do not recur and in each case guilty is held accountable and punished. A thorough audit of the security aspects of the school should also be conducted so as to avoid recurrence.

 Be that as it may, it is evident that we trust others simply because it is for our own benefit, but sometimes, we have not to seek or aspire for benefits in order to gain others’ confidence. If we have to suffer to win others trust, that is up to us after going through all imponderables under the prevailing circumstances.

In Holy Quran, the essence of life has been written: ‘and fulfill the promise, surely (every) promise shall be questioned about.’ O you who believe! Fulfill the obligations…..and the performers of their promise when they make a promise…

There are some conditions which are necessarily very important while we have faith on others. These conditions are:-

  • Why we should trust some. There are cases where we are constrained to have confidence on others otherwise this world of ours cannot be run smoothly.
  • Confidence on our Bhagwanji/Creator. It is well said that when nothing moves there is the mystic spirit which comes to our succor when every other person ditches us.
  • Why we should not trust some. Experience is the guide when we trust others but still, they belie our trust. This is applicable in our relationships in the family, in the neighborhood and between members of a community or even between countries or in the workplace too. When a country believes one country and that country stabs us in the back by breaching our trust.
  • Track record of the person concerned. It is paramount that we see the track record of the person concerned and then form an opinion whether to trust or otherwise. It is certainly not one-way trail.
  • Trust impinging on our life. We have to trust others when it comes to our personal relationship such as we’ve to believe our offspring, our parents, our blood relations etc.
  • Trust others whether one trusts us or not. There are times when we have to maintain our confidence even though others may or may not trust us. Others may give the lie to our confidence but we’ve to teach a lesson to the concerned person that truth always wins in the long run; deception does not.
  • Expectations on others. It is paramount that we should not have much expectation from others since if these are belied then we feel very suspicious on the human psyche.
  • The choice is on us whether we want to believe or trust others. It is also a truth that if we do not want to trust others, nobody can force us. But there is a caveat, we can hardly transact anything tangible by remaining detached from others?

Conclusively, it could be construed that when our faith or belief or confidence reposed on others is breached, it hurts us immensely physically and emotionally. Therefore, it is the fitness of things that we keep our mental balance despite provocations. This is a reality of life, we all have to experience and live with. If somebody trusts us, it is all right, if does not, it is also all right but we’ve to continue doing our right Karma with detachment. But if still somebody belies our trust then only way left is to leave everything in the hands of Creator who will certainly deliver us from everything negative.

 
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Posted by on September 15, 2017 in Inner Thoughts