How to increase literacy rate of a country with special emphasis on rural areas including girl child and minority communities?

Answer

 Best Answer:  We in India have more than 70% population living in rural areas. These people have to be educated about the need of education for their cohesion and adjustment with the educated people living in the urban and metropolitan cities in this highly surcharged atmosphere of competition. In order to teach more people, we have to reach more people; especially in rural areas. Although Government aided and  run educational schools and colleges are fulfilling the needs of the populace, yet, there is a urgent need to enhance the educational pursuit through people oriented programmes. The following are some of the aspects which are to be taken into account for spreading literacy amongst the people.

a/ Making the people aware about the need of education  through print and electronics medias. 

b/ Opening more schools and colleges in the less accessible areas. 

c/ Provide reading and other educational aids’ including books to the needy. 

d/ Providing uniforms to the needy. 

e/ Provision of scholarship to the needy. 

f/ Picking up the meritorious students for higher studies from the rural areas. 

g/ Give specialized type of education to the physically challenged children/children with special needs. 

h/ Periodically monitor the educational standard of the people areawise and devise measures for its improvement. 

i/ Provide grant-in-aid for needy for meeting needs arising out of educational pursuit. 

j/ Provide computers and other modern electronic aids for the schools. 

k/ Proper training and education for the teachers for making the educational pursuit a successful venture. 

l/ Make the people aware about teaching women folks with a view that if we teach a girl you teach a family as a whole.

m/ As far as possible make educational pursuit possible for adults also so that they could also assimilate in the society and get benefits that are accrued.

n/ Those amongst us who could not educate themselves due to some reason or the other, starting special classes for them so that they adjust with the society as a whole. NGOs should chip in for this.*

*Literacy rate of any country depends  on the facilities available in the forms of schools/educational institutions, needful infrastructure for these (study rooms, proper and clean toilet facilities – separate for boys and girls,  adequate number of trained teachers proportional to the students  so that individual necessary playing equipment/toys for specially needed children (for varieties of disabilities) with physiotherapist and specially trained teachers who could meet the needs of these gifted  children etc.

 

In rural India, there is a need of girls’ education because there is wide disparity in the literacy rate of boys and girls. It is well known fact that when we educate a girl, we educate the entire family as such because the child in the initial stage of growth and development, first lesson is imparted by the mother and if she is educated she can amply do so. Illiteracy of the females negatively impacts the entire family to which she goes after marriage. If she is literate and well educated besides cultured one; well versed in value system including traditional modes of behaviour then she can conveniently transfer/impart that value system to her children which doubtlessly will help afterwards in life when a child grows up and faces life. The sluggishness in females’ education could better be removed through the joint and sincere efforts of Government and parents. Efforts should also be made to convince the parents to send the girl child for necessary schooling.  An idea should be spread that both boys and girls need education for adjusting in the life. More so for girls for they have to assimilate themselves in different sort of environments after their marriage. Though in urban and metropolitan cities the literacy rate of girls has improved manifold yet in rural areas there are glitches like non-availability of more schools, teaching staff and other requisites like sanitation etc for girl students which need to be attended urgently.  More funds should be provisioned by the Government for infrastructural and other provisions in the rural areas.  If rural area with more population is awaken through literacy then the country as a whole will have inclusive progress.

Apart from giving fillip to education to girls, there is an urgent need of enhancing literacy rate amongst minorities along with attending to the caste related problems impacting their education. It has been experienced that children from these communities although enroll in the school in first standard but their dropout rate is too high because of factors like financial stringency due to poverty of parents, school available at far off places and available schools do not have trained and efficient staff including non-willingness on the parts of parents to send their children to school etc. Rather they would like their children, in many cases, to follow the parents’ traditional profession to meet the family financial needs. Actually absolute poverty too deters the pursuit of educational pursuits in the rural areas. Though Government is making efforts in educating the rural masses the need of education through publicity campaign and by opening new schools and bridging the gap yet still more needs to be done.

 

 

 

 

CERTAINTY OF DEATH

 CERTAINTY OF DEATH

A BUBBLE LIKE EXISTENCE

I was standing on balcony of my home, enjoying the pearl like tiny drop-lets of rain which were quenching the thirst of the parched earth and also putting life in the plants, birds and animals alike. Then after sometimes, small drop-lets, together transformed into running water, after filling the small pits and uneven portions of earth. It was a real sight to see. How rain water, even in small drops could amass and could change into a flowing water, a stream – in fact a genuine natural wonder!

Rain drops were falling on the running water, taking course of water for a while and then dying after coming into contact with an obstruction. Some bubbles survived and moved ahead but their end was sure to be there – somewhere after sometimes. It ignited my reverie. Is not man also like a bubble created by our Creator – a bubble like existence? The life force of a bubble is the air inside but the outer part is still delicate. It could smash while it is impacted against any sold object. Our life too is like a water bubble. It can survive till life-force remains. Life force within our body which gives the body form, life and meaning. Without it, we are just a deadwood. Our body too is not apart from its Creator. On the larger canvas, water could be considered as the means and rain drop the cause and end is the end result of all including the life force of our body as well as that of other creatures on this planet.

In essence, from the above, it could be construed that as the bubble could burst at any time or may be due to dissipation of life force or due to loss of enduring energy, some bubbles could sustain for sometimes, more than other bubbles, yet all bubbles have their end sooner than later. But for sometimes it has its journey within the confines of its source – the water. It has its turns and twists during its sojourn when it is in existence. Similar is the case with other creations of our Creator.

IN HOLY QURAN DEATH HAS BEEN DESCRIBED: So whoever desires to meet his Lord, he should do good deeds and not associate anyone in the worship of his Lord

Man too is created by our Creator and it too lives within the confines of its source but with a distinction that man has propensity to think and discriminate. Due to this potential, man ought to be more self conscious about his existence – that it is there till life force flowing in him is there in his system. He cannot survive even for a moment without this life force. Willpower, endurance and survival of the fittest keep a man afloat and kicking but these too dissolve after some time due to ageing.. This could be due to some accident or any other reason but all have to die  on ageing.

LORD SHIVA PREFERRED TO SIT IN THE CREMATION GROUND

Lord Shiva preferred to sit in the cremation ground because He understood entirely about birth, evolution and finally death. But those who live in self defence instinct do not want to think about death. They are of the view that life is merely living and enjoying. Deah does not come in their scheme of things. For such people, human life is just like working of a machine. A machine’s life ends after fair, wear and tear and similar is the life of some humans.

Lord Shiva thought that man could survive and live with minimum needs. He lived on fruits and herbs that are available in forests. He feels elated when Bel Patta and berries are offered at His Lingum. Creations could survive with minimum needs. Humans have a special trait of discrimination – distinguishing between what is right and what is wrong should also delve on the birth and death. Lord Shiva’s assistance is sought whenever a man is in dire need.

Lord Budha too wanted that humans should remember about death. Life follow different stages of death and finally death. That is taking birth, growing, developing and ultimately death. The people who believe in this theory do not believe in the idea of self-preservation. They do not fear death. Shiva also advised his disciples to focus on whatever to be done including contemplation.

NOBODY CAN ESCAPE DEATH

Even the incarnations of Prabhu Ji’s did not remain immune to this final destination – death. There is a story in Bhagwat Puran, Parikshit was the son of Abhimanyu and Uttara – only successor of Pandavas. He was saved by Lord Krishna from the Brahmaastra of Ashthathama. He is said to be a great ruler maintained the Dharma. One day he was very tired after hunting the wild beasts in the forest. He reached the Ashram of great seer Semeeka Maharshi while the Rishi was in deep meditation. Parikshit too felt bad and puts a dead-snake around the neck of the sage when under the ill-influence of Kaliyuga. When, Shrungi Rishi (the son of Semeeka Maharishi) saw this, he, in fit of rage, gave the king a curse. That in seven days Parikshit will die of Takshaka bite. Subsequently, when the sage comes back from his meditative trance and feels sorry for the curse. But what had happened cannot be retrieved. Now that Parishit was given seven days for living but are we given these many days for an assured life? No, fact is, we are not! But we conveniently forget this and do not want to even remember the imminence of death.

HOLY BIBLE PROCLAIMS: Set thine house in order; for thou shalt die, and not live.

OUR EGO PUTS A BLANKET COVER

A person under the influence of ego, which fogs our intellect, due to which we forget about the purpose of his life and we forget that he is corporeal – have to leave this planet whenever his time comes. After acquiring power and pelf, he is intoxicated with his possessions so much so that he forgets even his roots and origin and his final destination. Fact remains, our ego is a blanket cover which hides our real self.

SELF AWARENESS REMOVES IGNORANCE

Need is to be totally aware of existence and how we ought to live purposefully, respecting the laws and nature and also respecting the norms set by the society. When this awareness dawns, then the ignorance vanishes under its influence.

REINING IN OUR MIND

We do not want to remember our final destination simply because our mind is trained to ward off of turn away from this thought. Our mind, in fact is trained, to life and living and the intricacies which are experienced in our life. The water bubble like existence is conveniently forgotten.

It is a fact that the one who is born has to die one day. Time and place is not known to us. We want to avoid even talking about the idea of death because we are in perennial fear of death. We’ve to be fully conscious of death. Overcoming fear of death by contemplating it makes it possible to be devoid of any fear thus our attitude towards death and life will change.

Contemplation of death has the following benefits:-

(a) We become bereft of any fear and live a life full of care.

(b) We change our outlook on life and we live a positive oriented life.

(c) Knowing about death means, we know our final destination thus remain away from the lure of material possessions than what is required for our sustenance.

(d) Knowing about death means we have no attachment with the fruits of our actions.

(e) Contemplating about death means we shall endeavour to earn our living honestly and not adopt corrupt practices.

(f) Having awareness of death, we shall live a life full of peace and live all the stages of life with equanimity without fear.

(g) Knowing about death also means we imbibe positive traits in life. These may include love, compassion, empathy etc.

(h) We also would face difficulties of life with a sense of balance. No heightened feelings whenever adversity visits us.

(i) By following a life full of compassion for others, we shall feel ourselves as a living being with a feeling for others who are in pain and not a living body who feels for himself only.

(j) When we have the traits of following life with full intensity, then we adopt intensity for self awareness and for expanding our knowledge.

(k) By following a life which understands life and death eliminates or limits the influence of conditioned mentality about it all.

(l) When we know imminence of death, we also know about the other creations and also about our common Creator.
(m) Following life and its stages, we tend to follow a spiritually inclined life in our life and by doing so we remain connected with our Bhagwan Ji.

(n) And while we reach our final destination, we hardly feel any remorse or unhappiness since we know man is a mortal.

In Bhagwad Gits it has been mentioned : As a person gives up old and worn out garments and accepts new apparel, similarly the embodied soul giving up old and worn out bodies verily accepts new bodies.

ETERNAL SLEEP

After our earthy sojourn,

We mortals traverse to a world unknown,

Where to – guesswork abounds,

Some think, few are welcomed to enchanting Heaven,

And the others to burning ‘ghats’ of hell are thrown,

Depending solely on earthy deeds or misdeeds,

Ledger of which are assiduously maintained and screened.

Death is inevitable, then why gets afraid?

Death  is a stark-reality, then why get sad?

When parting with our kins so dear, finally,

During life too, we experience death in small ways routinely,

The one who has seen the dawn of the day,

Will surely see the dusk of the day.

A mistaken sense of pride,

Egged on by mistaken sense of permanence of life,

Spurs us to cling to this life so tight,

That sometimes, we forget the imminence of our end.

Which is so near but seemingly so far away from sight.

Earthy inning is quite alluring,

Parting with worldly possessions so paining,

Yet, in life, we ought to adopt righteous course,

Why fear, accept the change of garb with courage and without remorse,

A life filled with inner freedom is helpful,

Engrave this idea, eternal sleep is sacred and peaceful

Welcome the eternal sleep when it comes naturally with

open hands,

For this end is not the end of cycle of life and earth,

But a continuity of a play played by earthlings,

And supervised from His Heavenly abode by Supremebeing;

the one and the only one by whatever name you mention him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ON TRANSPARENCY IN OUR THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS

 

TRANSPARENCY IN OUR LIFE

 

Whence our thoughts and actions

Are in sync with our intentions

Bereft of any lingering doubts

Whatsoever we do

We do in the glare of general public

With no hostility or dislike

For anyone under the sun

There is no corrupt practice followed

Purity in ideas and Karma thereof

Making the outcome most tasteful

For the proponent to cherish his deeds

For others too to observe indeed

The transparency of his accomplishments

Not merely monitored

By all and sundry but also by the Mysterious Authority

That adores us all.

Thence there are the individuals  

Who with their ill-intentioned actions – ku-karma

Lead a life with dual leanings

Feign transparency in their dealings

But in actual practice

It seemingly is bereft of any significance

Either to the person concerned

Or the people around

Who’ll anyhow will come know

Concerned person’s real intent.

 

TRANSPARENCY OF OBJECT AND TRANSPARENCY IN ACTION OF AN INDIVIDUAL

Transparency of an object is the property of that object to transmit light through it, so that bodies situated beyond or behind can be distinctly seen. In other words, transparent means to see through easily. Similar is the case with the transparency traits of an individual. In terms of transparent behavior is the one which could be easily understood or detected without much difficulty.

A person with transparent attributes is like a mirror – he does not hide anything.  His sincerity of purpose, essentially, could be observed by us with ease.

TRANSPARENCY FACTORS COMES INTO FORCE  WHEN THERE IS NOTHING TO HIDE

Transparency also means whatever is done is done within the glare of general public. It is a fact that whenever we hide something, it goes to show that we have something to hide. Or we do not want to share the information with others may be fearing reprisal from the parties concerned. Keeping information secret means there may be a hidden design. 

We find that in life, we see through a person’s intentions without doubt, when that person’s credentials are above board based  entirely on past practical experiences. Then we say that we have belief in his/her general behavior. Fundamentally when somebody’s intentions are pre-judged it could be construed as transparent intentions. It is partly due to the fact that there is no hideous design or plot or there is air of earnestness in a person’s stance. When an individual follows transparency principles, that has unquestionable integrity and follows aboveboard behavioural patterns in life.

TRANSPARENCY AND NORMS OF BEHAVIOUR

For a person with transparency traits, actions are to be performed anyhow and that too within the ambit of norms.
The transparency is the perceived trait of an individual to pass information voluntary without pressure and with clear vision. Transparency could be in working place, home within communities/societies and within the countries concerned for a common use. On the other hand when left hand does not know what right hand is doing, it is termed as bad practice. This is true in business too. In schools and colleges including the professional institutions, there are hidden charges or capitation fee being charged by these institutions’ This is not a healthy or not based on the percept of transparency.

GENERAL TRAITS OF A PERSON WHO FOLLOWS PRANSPARENT LIFE

(a) That individual walks with his/her head held high.

(b) Such person is above suspicion since his life is an open book and could be read by anybody at any time and place.

(c) Such person carries with him a positive aura.

(d) No pecuniary considerations can lure such person.

(e) A person with transparent attitude is never in doubt about his thoughts and actions.

(f) Such person never harms others because he is humane to the core and also compassionate in his dealings.

(g) Such persons never shirk from the responsibilities assigned.

(h) Persons with transparent trait fulfill the promises made.

(i) Their life is like a transparent plot which could be predicted without much difficulty.

(j) Life for a transparent individual is like a game; where winning and losing hardly matters, what matters is to play the game in the spirit of a game.

(k) As such person persons are clear in their viewpoints and opinionated , fair and frank /candid, people would like to take their assistance whenever there is a need.

(l) People with transparency carry with them an aura which outshines wherever they go.

(m) As transparency connotes openness in communication, people with transparent attitude are always accountable for their actions.

LACK OF TRANSPARENCY FACTOR IN OUR LIFE.

Importantly, it is worthwhile to mention that what lack of transparency could lead can be gauged from when all the tenets of transparency were flouted by Vijay Mallaya while taking loans from the consortium of banks, to the tune of Rs. 9,000. Though he was a Rajya Sabha MP yet rules and regulations have to be kept in mind while loaning out money; which unfortunately were thrown to wind. Charges of money laundering by him is a case in point. He had a loan from the consortium of banks to the tune of rs. 9,000/- but did not use the money for the purpose he had taken. Instead he siphoned off the money to his banks outside the country thereby proving to be a willful defaulter. Not to speak of this, he has flown out to England and a case has been going on against him for fraud and cheating and Government of India is trying for his extradition to India so that he faces the law of the land for his corrupt practices. He had shell companies which helped him to siphoned off the money he had taken on loan from various banks. Now that the money trail is crystal clear and transparent, he will have to face music.

The above instance, among others too, goes to demonstrate how come such an exorbitant amount was loaned out to him with lack of transparency, actually with tacit support of power that be including heads of banks. This case also shows how hideously the bank loans were granted uncaring for all the transparency factors and application of rules and regulations governing granting loans to the customers. In this case rules were bent to suit his requirements. Although Enforcement Directorate has filed charges on 14^th June 2017 against the defaulter but the culprit is sitting in the cozily residence in UK,  caring two hoots for the Indian law enforcement agencies.

Transparency principles calls for observing some norms of behavior to be taken into consideration:-

• Transparency in Governments. Politicians should show transparency in their actions.
• Transparency at Homes – between family members for ensuring harmony in the family.
• Transparency at Work Places. For cooperation and coordination for good results for the organization.
• Transparency in words and deeds in day to day life. This has to be done in order that people with whom we come into contact believe us.
• Karma is positive when there is transparent and above board. Our action speak for itself. When we are transparent, there is always positivity in our thoughts and actions.
• There is an air of optimism in our attitude and action thereof when our actions are open for scrutiny.

 

TRANSPARENCY CAUSED DUE TO ADVENT OF INTERNET & MOBILE ETC

We are living in the age of mobile phones, computers and in that internet with its multifarious functions. Private electronic communication through wiretapping or interpreting of email, whats app and phone calls have made it easier and possible to get required information as and when needed for ensuring transparency.  Ultra sensitive nano cameras has made eves-dropping possible with pinpoint accuracy which has made it possible to bring forth the secrecy of others by the law enforcing agencies working against the interests of a country. GPS has made it possible to locate a person’s location when required and when it is locating a criminal on run this system has proved its worth for the law enforcing agencies. Facebook and twitter accounts etc could also be handy tools for information collection as and when required. The advent of these gizmos have obviously benefited the Governments in keeping a tab on the terrorists and law breakers for their nefarious deeds.

LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE

Of course there are people who live double life. Outwardly some people feign to be transparent, sincere in their attitude but when you actually observe them minutely / closely, doubtlessly they are following dual lives. For example the lifestyle of some of our Dharma Gurus is revelation in itself. While in their discourses in the huge congregations they dish out the importance of moral standpoint but do not follow this in actual practice themselves.  This is obviously unrealistic and unethical life.   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SIGNIFICANCE OF EKADASHI DAY FASTING TO PURIFY BODY, MIND AND SOUL

SIGNIFICANCE OF EKADASHI DAY FASTING TO PURIFY BODY, MIND AND SOUL

Ekadashi occurs on the eleventh day of the lunar cycle (both full and new moon)  It happens twice in a month according to Hindu Calendar – the waxing phase or Shukla Paksha and fading moon called Krishna Paksha. There are 24 Ekadashis in a Calendar year and there are two more Ekdashis that take place in a lunar leap year. Ekdashi Day is considered as the most spiritual event when strict fasting is observed from early morning to the next day morning.

Ekadashi is one of the prominent occasions which if observed with detachment and as per prescribed rituals helps in cleansing our sins as well as the sins of our nears and dears. Ekadashi Moksha (Moksha means liberation) is a most special and most auspicious occasion. On this day Lord Krishna (Vishu’s  Incarnation – Avtara) delivered His Bhagwad Gita recital to Dhanushdhari Arjuna when both the armies of Pandvas and Kauravas were facing each others in Kurukeshtra battle field. Every specific activities performed on this day has its own significance and benefits accrued to us provided the fasting is observed strictly in accordance with scriptural norms.

ORIGIN OF EKADASHI

In Satya Yuga, Lord Vishnu had a long-drawn-out battle with demon named Mura. Due to the protracted battle, Lond Vishnu got tired as a result of which He tired and went to sleep. Mura was waiting for this occasion. He pounced on Lord Vishnu for killing Him. Then a damsel appeared from the body of Lord Vishnu who fought a pitched battle with Mura and killed him. She was actually Mahashakti who appeared  on 11^th day of fading moon thus Lord Vishnu named ned Ekadashi.  He also bestowed her the boon that whosoever fasts on this day would be free off the sins and also will have moksha finally.

SIGNIFICANCE OF EKADASHI DAY FAST

The religious rituals, given in the sacred Pranas / Vedic scriptures, and also referred to as Hari’s Day. their strict observance thereof helps the devotees in many ways than body, one. 

• Observance of fast cleanses our body, mind and soul.

 

• It helps alleviating us in spiritual ladder.

 

• Its strict observance can help us attain Moksha or Liberation from pangs of birth and deaths.

 

• It can transform our Kukarma (Bad Karma) into good Karmas thus paving the way for an aspirant to attain the traits of detachment, the mention of which has been amply made in Bhagwad Gita. Action performed without consideration the fruits or results of that action could help us attain Liberation.

 

• Anybody observing the Ekadashi with all the focus at his/her command could remove that person’s sufferings.

 

• As this day is termed as the Lord Hari’s day, its observance could alleviate the sufferings of an individual.

 

• While the body and mind is cleansed, it is possible to ward off from the three sins: lust, greed and anger.

 

• Fasting on this auspicious day is bereft of any external pressures. This day passes both in peace and harmony including inculcation of good habits.

 

• As the people who fast keep away from solid grain foods and take light diet consisting of milk products, dry fruits and fruits, we feel light and our digestive system too works wonders as it provides due rest to our system thus keeps our health in fine fettle. Healthy eating even for a day fortnightly can repair our system.

 

• As we are aware, the gravitational pull of the moon influences the oceans in the form of high and low tide hence Intake of less food item and more of liquid Ekadashi Day helps in influencing us biologically too. It has been practically observed by the proponents who fast sincerely – the diseases like blood pressure, insomnia, depression, gastric problems etc could be cured with fasting. Observance of such fasts have obviously helped me in maintaining good health after even 66+ years of age.

 

• While we fast on this day, we also meditate thus not only helping us spiritually but also enhancing the chances of connectivity with God.

 

• It has also been felt that the benefits of Ekadashi fasting and all the purity and sincerity observed on this day to the individual concerned but also to his/her family members.

 

• Ekadashi fasting helps in self awareness simply because of individual observance of fast strictly in accordance with scriptures since self realization results from self-disciplinary efforts.

 

• Self awareness resulting from strict observing converts conviction into practical experience.

 

• We learn how to control our unethical desires and lead a life full of compassion.

 

• Canvas of our spirituality enhances with the observance of Ekadashi Fast.

EKADASHI RITUALS OBSERVED

Ekadashi has its special mention in Pranas Scriptures. Ekadashi Moksha  with after having kept Ekadashi Lord Vishnu fast which most falls twice in a month, for the last so many years, i chose to observe the fast and  on 5^th may 2017 (Nirjala Ekadashi –  meaning remaining even without water). Preparation for this Moksha and spiritual rituals started on one day before i.e. Dasami day.

HAVAN PERFORMED ON EKADASHI DAY

This time on 5^th June 2017, the most auspicious time for Havan Vidhi was necessarily to be performed between 6:00 AM to 11:00 AM in which proper Havan, Sheja Dhan (Cot, beddings, golden ring and ear-rings, , Gau Dhan (Donation of cow), etc were performed with utmost devotion in the midst of which chanting of pious Mantras,  calling upon well-known deities like Lord Ganesha, Lord Vishnu, Lord Brahma, Lord Mahesh, Sun (Surya) God, Moon (Chandra) God besides Navagrahas (nine planets which affect our life cycle). Seven of these deities are named after the planets in the solar system and are given the names of the seven days of the week of Hindu Calendar. The other two are Rahu and Ketu who are demons who got their prominence through trickstery. All these Nine Planets affect our life and provide protective shield when we call upon them ritualistically and systematically. Or, these planets could prove inauspicious as per our Karmic deeds or misdeeds.

 In Ekadashi, a devotee does not take food. Takes fruits and milk that too in a limited quantity. Food habits differ from one area to another. I and my wife endeavoured to keep purity in thoughts and deeds. The purpose is to keep purity  in thoughts,  body and soul. The next day on 6^th June 2017, there was a Preeti Bhoj or Lungar or community feast which was the culmination of Ekadashi Fast.

OBSERVANCE OF SCRIPTURAL INSTRUCTIONS

The preparation for the Ekadashi began on Dasami day – a day before Ekadashi. In order to observe Ekadashi in accordance with the scriptural articulation, we got up early in the morning, after proper daily routines and bath etc. In order to perform all the rituals as prescribed in the scriptures, we collected all the necessary materials (Havan Samagris) while sacred fire was ignited in the Havan Kund followed by chanting of appropriate Mantra Jap (recitation) different for different deities including family deities (Kul Devata – in our case Buaji, Kalivir, Maldevi Ji along with Nag Devta). All the Mantra recitations was performed by Pandit with as given by the Panditj named RAJAT KHAJURIA, who performed the all the rituals in connection with Ekadashi Moksh with professional finesse and ritualistic satisfying. After completion of Havan Vidi, Arati, calling upon Lord Vishuji with a entreaties to rid us off sins and save us from coming troubles, whosoever worships the Lord gets his/her reward and there is all pervading joy and will also be bestowed with wealth and well-being for that person… etc.

Om jaya Jagadīśha hare

Swami Jai Jagdish hare

Bhakta janoṅ ke saṅkat

Dās janoṅ ke saṅkat

Kṣaṇa meṅ dūr kare

Om jai Jagadīśh hare

Jo dhyāve phal  pāve

Dukh binase mana kā

Swāmī dukh binase man kā

Sukha samptī ghara āve

Sukha sampatī ghara āve

Kaṣṭa miṭe tana kā

Om jaya Jagadīśa hare……………….

 

Singing the Arati collectively alleviate the troubles of the devotees and uplifts  those participating in Arati spiritually.

 

On the Ekadashi day, total fasting is done from morning to morning of next day. Praying to Vishnu is the order of the day. Some people avoid sleep during Ekadashi night and they hear religious discourses and perform ‘Arati.’ But many people today will not be able to stay awake the entire night due to work pressure etc.

 

The next day on Dwadasi – that is the day after Ekadeshi – the same routine done on Dasami is followed. Overeating should be avoided on Dwadasi day. Puranas state that one should not take pride in observing Ekadashi or performing the rituals as enshrined in the scriptures.

 

It is good to go on fast once in a while as it recuperates the body. Ekadashi observance cleans our body and the digestive organs get much needed rest.

 

IMPORTANCE OF LORD VISHNU

THE TRINITY

Ekadashi fast is associated with Lord Vishnu represents one of the Prime Gods responsible for preservation whatever has been created by by Brahma and subsequently destroyed by Lord Shiva. These are also termed as trinity or trimurtis. Besides their consorts i.e. Lordess Saraswati (Lordess of knowledge), Lordess Lakshmi (Worshipped as Lordess of Wealth and Wellbeing) and Parvati (Worshipped as Mother Divine). The Trinity or Trimurti along with their consorts are created by supreme ishwara.

Further, Lord Vishnu incarnated Hmself in 24 avtars (incarnations) with all the 16 supernatural powers. Amongst these Avtars these are the prominent ones: Rama Avtar, Krishna Avtar, Purush Avatar, Varaha Avatar, Narada Avtar, Nara Narayana Avatara, Kspila Avatara, Dattatraya Avatar, Yagya Avatar, Rishabh Avatar, Prithu, Matsya Avatar, Kachchap Avatar, Dhanvantari Avatar, Mohiavatar, Narsimha Avatar, Vamana Avatar, ) Parshuram Avatar, Vasaya Avtar, Balram Avatar, Budha Avatar Besides Kali Avatar Which Will Happen In Kali Yuga.

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ON KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM

ON KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM

MEANING OF WISDOM

The meaning of wisdom is to act in a right manner based on insight. Wisdom is also to judge what is right and wrong. It has been observed that the wisdom could also be attained from written work of philosophers and the teachings of sages. Wisdom could be enhanced through meditation/prayer, through experimenting truth in real life conditions including insights and enlightenment as enunciated  in the religious scriptures.

WISDOM HELPS TO DISCRIMINATE BETWEEN GOOD AND BAD

These pearls of wisdom are to be followed in order to discriminate what is wrong and what is right by following practically what is given in the scriptures. The evolution of civilization has been possible with experience gained over a period of time by understanding the right usage of five elements earth, air, water, ether  and fire through the application of knowhow, skill, insight and common sense. Evolution is possible by experimentation and application of mind to distinguish good and bad. After experimentation, the fertile result is made applicable for future and the useless or obsolete one just left out. It has also been observed that accommodated knowledge could stand us in good stead.

KNOWLEDGE WHEN USED RIGHTEOUSLY IS WISDOM

Wisdom is knowledge which a  person possesses about variety of subjects; about meaning, uses in variety of ways, their implications in variety of ways including how best to make use of these things practically in life. Wisdom is insightful knowledge and could be construed as cue from God who is the powerhouse of knowledge and excellence. He knows what has happened and what will be happening in the future too. In His realm, good or bad that happens in the life of a man happens for the good of a person. 

Bhagwad Gita is treasure house of knowledge of the cosmos and also how human behaviour could impact our lives.  Vedas too contain the words of wisdom, which if made applicable in real life can deliver us from problems and also help us in leading a spiritual life.  

WITHOUT WISDOM WE BECOME THE PRISONERS OF OUR HABITS

We have to train our habit to act wisely. This is partly through our family and our environments. These habits should not be superimposed on our real nature but should arise from our inner self. Mechanical habit formation or through temptation, means we are not taking into account the soul wisdom. Anything imposed on us becomes our habit and we become slave of those habits. We also become prisoners of our desires when we do not use our inner potentials to control the mind going berserk. Wisdom is to keep ourselves insulated from bad influences both in thought and action.

GETTING KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOM

It is a fact that knowledge cannot be acquired by focused attention on the subject matter. The acquired knowledge when utilized righteously leads to enhancement in wisdom paradigm of that person. Knowledge acquired when not utilized judiciously remains theory oriented and cannot come under the category of wisdom.

God knows everything has been mentioned in Holy Quran. He is the Knower of the Unseen, and does not divulge His Unseen to anyone–except a Messenger with whom He is well pleased, and then He posts sentinels before him and behind him, so that He may know that they have indeed transmitted the Messages of their Lord.

We can raise our mental faculty through  use of knowledge gained.

• Quality of understanding differs from person to person. Different persons behave differently in a given situation according to his/her. That person will turn even a negative situation into positive one. Those who are having higher state of levelheadedness help others are compassionate to the needs off others.
• Wisdom could be acquired through efforts. When we interact with somebody, we get experience out of that. Somebody we take somebody else assistance as time demands or other time we transact assigned task independent of others’ assistance. All these activities spur our intuitive prowess or vision.
• Wisdom could be utilized whenever required. In a situation where there is nobody comes to our rescue, our own willingness to excel delivers us from that situation.
• A man with wisdom cannot be exploited by others. Nobody can hoodwink us when we have wisdom to distinguish between right and wrong and be judgemental about it all.
• As wisdom is scholarly knowledge or learning, it could be transferred. As wisdom constitute abundance in productive ideas attained through learning through introspection and putting that thinking into practice, it is evident that the knowledge learnt over a period of time could make difference.
• A man with wisdom does not showcase his wisdom but it is reflected in his attitude/behavior. A person with wisdom hardly acts in a manner which is prejudicial or contrary to the norms of behavior beneficial for the overall good.
• A person of wisdom will be ethical, good moral character, A man of wisdom is ethical, moral and upright. That person will enthuse others to follow his/her footsteps. That person could leave his/her footprints / impression wherever that person goes.

BIBLE PROCLAIMS: Wisdom, when used of God and good men, always carries a strong moral connotation. It is conceived as being pure, loving, and good.… Wisdom, among other things, is the ability to devise perfect ends and to achieve those ends by the most perfect means.

• Education and knowledge is his/her forte. Attainment of knowledge is the pursuit  of a man of wisdom.
• Wisdom is also to execute an action plan according to the need. Wisdom also guides us how to devise a plan of action and how best to execute it including collation of varieties of inputs for its fructification.
• A man with wisdom remains calm even in dire emergency. A wise man maintains his/her composure despite provocation.
• Will when becomes dynamic, it takes the shape of wisdom at its best. It is a truth that acquired knowledge got through self effort and experimentation thereof which gives a person the power to discriminate between good and bad, when to act and when not to act in consonance with one’s sense of right and wrong.

 

GANGOTRI – CHAR DHAM

IMPORTANCE OF A PLACE

India is rightfully said to be the land with difference as it comes to diverse cultures and traditions, castes, religions etc as others may call to  their own country of thr origin. Liking a place or otherwise may differ from person to person; some may be enamored by the unspoiled natural beauties while others may derive pleasure  after knowing the historical perspective of the place. Although religion is a binding force yet there are examples to show that even religious considerations are not the limiting factors when it comes to visiting a place which offers much more than having religious connotations and that too away from the din and bustle of city life.

I visited Gangotri, located in the state of Uttarakhand in the Garwhal section, from 18^th  May 2017 onwards. During this visit, I met many foreign tourists with whom I had the opportunity to interact. They were equally fascinated not only by the natural and pristine beauties of the area besides the historical perspective attached to CHAR DHAM.

Originally, CHAR DHAM was referred for PURI, RAMESHWARAM, DWARKA AND BADRINATH. This grouping was made by Adi Sankara – a great 8th century reformist but now CHAR DHAM are understood  as GANGOTRI, YAMNOTRI, BADRINATH and KEDARNATH because of magnetic beauty of the area and spiritual considerations. Yamunotri and Gangotri are identified with DEVI SITES whereas Kedarnath and Badrinath are identified or associated with Lord Shiva sites.

LIVING ENTITY THE GANGAJI – ITS SIGNIFICANCE FOR US ALL

While we discuss on CHAR DHAM, it is relevant to know about the significance of the most sacred rivers the Ganges and Yamuna. But first of all, I would like to discuss about river Gangaji along wit its origin and how it affects our lives. It is not merely a river but a living entity which bestows millions of people sustenance in various ways. Its river basin is 2150 Kms, provides supports in variety of ways for more than 50 million people, passes through four states of India i.e. Uttarakhand, UP, Bihar, West Bengal and also enters Bangla Desh. Its water irrigates fields of many states of the Indian Union.  

Considered one of the Char Dhams (the others being Yamunotri, Badrinath, and Kedarnath), Gangotri is said to be the mythological source of the Ganga river, and the spot, where Bhagiratha worshipped Lord Shiva and consequently mother Ganga descended on earth when Lord Shiva relieved the river from his matted locks at Gangotri.

It meets with the other mighty river Brahmputra and forms the largest delta of the world known as Sunderbans. If we can say that Gangaji supports our life from our birth to death, there will not be any exaggeration. Hindus traditionally immerse the asthis (last remnants of bones after cremation) into the Holy Ganges.

Ganga – Jamuni Tahjeeb has been born and thrived since ages on Ganga – Yamuna banks. Many civilizations, cultures and traditions have flourished on its banks and found sustenance besides Yamuna too have contributed in enhancing these.

Taking into consideration the contribution of Ganga Ji in variety of ways, this mighty and holiest river has been recognized as the living entity of India by Uttarakhan High Court in the very recent past. By this verdict, it goes to show that anybody who spoils the purity of river Ganga will get the same punishment as awarded to humans for any transgression. Concerted efforts are underway in order to keep the river clean. The first river to be recognized as the human entity is Whanganui River in New Zealand because it is considered as the most sacred for the people

HISTORICAL PERSPECTIVE – ORIGIN OF GANGAJI

There is a best known legend that a very famous King Sagara from SURYAVANSHI rajput warrior clawn, known for their valour and bravery and fulfillment of their promises for which they undergo any situation or circumstances.  He exterminated /rid the world off all the demons – known for their dehumanizing activities  and also wrong doings to spread their demonic fiefdom and dark-age.  

After having finished the last shade of demonic forces, King Sagara wanted to test his supremacy. For this end in view, he wanted to stage Ashwamedh Yajna he  directed 60,000 sons (born out of mother Sumati) along with one son, named Asamanja born to queen Kesani in order to let the Yajna horse  uninterrupted. It means anybody interrupting the horse could have to fight a battle with the sons of Sagara. Thence came the role of the king of Gods, Indra who while observing the Yajna horse being taken unchallenged saw in all this a challenge to his celestial throne if the Ashmetha Yagna horse could succeed in its task. He surreptiously tied the Yajna horse at the hermitage of Sage Kapil who was in deep meditation.

LOCATION OF ASHMETHA HORSE

A thorough search for the horse was launched by the sons of King Sagara. To their discomfiture, they found the horse tied in the hermitage of the said sage namedSage Kapila – a Vedic sage an known for original proponent of the Samkhya system philosophy. He is also described as incarnation of Lord Vishnu.  They rushed towards the asharam and in the process, disturbed the meditation of the sage. In utter rage, the sage cursed the sons of the king with severity of which all sixty thousand sons just were burnt alive leaving a mound of ash for each of them.  It was later learnt that if Goddess Ganga touched each of the mound of ashes, then all could get liberation or moksha  – by cleansing the ashes with its holy water.

SINCEREST WORSHIP BY BHAGIRATHA

Subsequently, , Bhagiratha,  the grandson of King Sagara worshipped Goddess Ganga in order to please her. So much so was the  sincerity and severity of his meditation that his wish was granted by Goddess Ganga. Lord Shiva or Nilkanth (a most benevolent one who even takes a pot full of poison in order to save the humanity from destruction), who had locked the Ganga river in His locks released the mighty river Gangaji.

BHAGARATHA SHILA LOCATED AT GANGOTRI TOWN

The place where Bhagiratha, which is still there in the form of Bhagiratha Shila where he worshipped can also be seen by us in Gangotri – a testimony and an example which we can see by ourselves.

It is well said that severest and focused meditation for several years could force even the Gods to take in hand the task of delivering goods for their worshippers. Goddess Gangaji appeared in the form of a river and delivered off the sins of the 60,000 sons of King Sagara and as a result all of them got Moksha or liberation.

GANGOTRI  TEMPLE

There is a majestic Gangotri Temple which is also a testimony to the historical perspective since ages together. The original Gangotri temple was built by General Amar Singh Thapa from Nepal. People of all hues withstanding severe cold and visit the temple as a mark of respect to the Goddess Gangaji. Besides the idol of Gangaji, there is also the idols of Kali Maan and other deities. Along with Gangotri temple there are temples of Bhola Baba Ji and Lord Ganesha.

BHAGIRATH SHILA

There is the image of Bhagiratha who worshipped the Lordess Ganga and beseeched Her to  pass through the hermitage of Sage Kapila where the ashes of 60,000 were there so that the dead could get liberated / moksha.

GAUMUKH {GAU – COW AND MUKH – MOUTH)}

Gangotri Glacier resembles with cow’s mouth, situated about 19 Kms from the Gangotri town. It is the exact source of Bhagiratha river which is tributary of Ganga. It is also a most sacred pilgrimage spot and taking a bath in it is considered most auspicious and ritualistic.

As vast number of pilgrims visit CHAR DHAM from mid-April to November, it is indeed a gigantic task for the state administration to handle the rush and exercise all care and caution to avoid any untoward incident. I with my wife amongst others were the witness to the seriousness of the administrative staff who start their Bio-metric Registration from 5:00 AM onwards (when normal people enjoy their sleep at home).

From Haridwar- Rishikesh to the final destination GANGOTRI, YAMNOTRI. BADRINATH and KEDARNATH, the ever vigilant police force could be seen helping the visitors in variety of ways.

Following aspects need to be considered essential for further success of the pilgrimage:-

 (a) Although security cover provided by the security personnel enroute for the entire Yatra is really exemplary, yet more watchfulness is need of the hour to check speed driving or careless driving to avoid accidents or minimize them.  

(b) As almost entire route is very hazardous through out the entire journey. There are the places where only a single vehicle could pass at a time but when a vehicle comes from the opposite direction or when there is an abrupt curve, it becomes all the more difficult for negotiate. One wrong move by any driver may put the lives of the passengers into jeopardy. Accidents do happen when drivers do not observe traffic rules with care and caution. This danger is more pronounced at the sharp curves and unexpected arrival of vehicle from the opposite side. I suggest, if the road could be broadened a bit at the curves, {although it is a bit farfetched but it is not beyond the realm of impossibility, it will facilitate negotiation of abrupt turn by the opposite direction coming vehicle(s). Safety first should be the buzz word, this slogan should find indelibly printed in the mindset of the drivers.

(c) It is also observed that the road bunds either cemented or iron railings / pillars duly fixed on the road protected with thick iron-plates but it has to be ensured that such iron pillars / railings withstand the sudden impact of a comparatively heavy vehicle if and when it happens accidently!

(d) It is our experience that the passengers are in the habit of pestering the driver(s) for driving the vehicle with more speed. This persistence sometimes plays in the minds of the drivers and becomes a cause of accident. SPEED AND SAFE DRIVING DO NOT GO TOGETHER. If average permissible speed is maintained, the distance between Rishikesh.to Gangotri town is covered almost within 12 hours and if by speeding up with all the chances of accidents  if half an hour is saved then what! Heaven will not fall down on the earth if the vehicle reaches half an hour late with safe driving. Therefore, the drivers should be given free hand and not forced to drive faster than hitherto required. SAFE DRIVING is therefore a must.

(e) There is urgent requirement of erecting changing enclosure(s) for ladies after they take bath in Gangaji as are available at Haridwar (Harkipodi.

(f) I was really impressed by the Medical cover provided by the state Government in Gangotri town. Due to strenuous uphill and downhill turns of the vehicle my wife had bout of vomiting. She was really in a critical condition, she was not able to take anything for the entire journey. The Medical Officer in Gangotri provided her medi-care and we had a safe return journey from Gangotri to Rishikesh and to our home at Delhi by the grace of Maan Gangaji. I suggest that more medical staff should be deployed during the duration of the pilgrimage for the meeting the medical requirements.

(g) Effort should always be made to ensure that the fragile ground at the curves or at other places of the road are identified and fixed instantaneously. It is because any comparatively heavy vehicle make the fragile road give way and may become a cause of sudden accident and consequent unfortunate but avoidable fatalities.

(h) There is a requirement of planting more trees firstly to solidify the ground and secondly for keeping the eco-system clean.

(i) The drivers of the buses and small vehicle operatives should be sensitized and given periodical lectures for the need of a safe driving. Though there are boards and hoardings at the vintage spots highlighting the need of safe driving yet much needs to be done to avoid accidents due to human mistake.

(j) Traffic rules should be followed by the drivers of the vehicles and anybody found transgressing the rules should be awarded exemplary punishment such as revocation of driving licence for life or jail term for the grievous transgression for deterrence. 

(k) At the Sanctum Sanctorum at Gangotri Temple, the Security staff deployed should present a decent etiquette/ mannerism and honesty of purpose. They are the representatives of the State of Uttarakhand and their behavior or attitude they display is taken as the general behavior of the state as a whole.

(l) In the God’s abode, all are equal. No VVIP or VIP treatment to any for dharshan. We all are His creations should never be forgotten.

(m) After offerings are presented, at least five second’s time should be afforded to each devotee. In our group, we were not given that much time even. We do not know how many deities’ idols were there besides Gangaji inside the temple! We were just frisked out without proper dharshan. One can imagine the state of a devotee, when he/she cannot have proper dharshan after traversing so many miles. This system should be streamlined.

 

 

 

ON OUR HAPPINESS

ON OUR HAPPINESS

PLEASURE AND PAIN TWO ESSENTIAL FACTORS IN WHICH WE LIFE

We, as humans, have to accept some realities of life. There are two identities within which we are constrained to sustain ourselves. We have to live in pleasure and in pain as a way of life. Pleasure is associated or identified with good and pain is associated or identified with something awful or painful or bad. We learn from the experiences by living in pain and pleasure. Painful experiences provide us avenues to fight bad situations and come out successfully. In this sort of a situation, there comes an acceptance of having equanimity both in pain and pleasure.

HAPPINESS IN RELATIONSHIP TO OUR MENTAL OR EMOTIONAL STATE OF BEING

First of all, we’ve to understand that happiness is basically a mental or an emotional state of our being. Here satiety with what we possess, positive attitude and pleasant disposition despite hurdle counts . Happiness is contagious – it spreads if we intend to do so with sincerity. Our happiness could be enhanced if public good is ensured by our own Karma. Happiness cannot be spread without positive mindset. As in our happiness, our mental and emotional state come into play, it is, therefore, essential that our inner self should be pure and free off smut.

ESSENTIALS FOR A HAPPY LIFE

Further, there are three vital factors which help us live a meaningful life. These are materialism, realism and idealism. Materialism is a must to a limit but if our requirements cross limit then it would ultimately become a burden and give pain. On the other hand idealism and realism should not only be attained in our life but also practiced to the letter and spirit for a purposeful life. Purposeful living brings forth some duties and responsibilities for a happy living.

There is no disputing the fact that among all things in life including happiness, self is to be held on higher pedestal. While extolling the role of self, it is important that we are also aware of the surroundings in which we liVe. It is because everything and everybody is relative to each other for a harmonious living.

THERE ARE THE CHALLENGES TO BE FACED IN OUR LIFE

 Challenges in in our life open new vistas in our life and make our life more dynamic, thereby giving us ample chance to grow and also give incentive to let others to grow likewise. These also make us determined not only to face life for our own good but also bestows us the traits of goodness and compassion for others around us. We feel pain for others and may try to alleviate that pain with the resources we have acquired. All this affords us the chances to be happy after a good deed is done.

IMPORTANCE OF SELF IN RELATION TO OUR SURROUNDINGS FOR COMPLETE HAPPINESS

Nobody can dispute the fact that among all things in life including happiness, knowing self is more important. Having known the self, then by extension, our relationship with our surroundings is taken into consideration. A person in segregation is not considered fit enough to influence anybody or an organization. Living in harmony and with cooperative mentality works and that is possible with others’ active participation.

EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY IS RELATIVE FOR A HAPPY LIVING

If every other thing is relative to each other so everybody has a responsibility to influence others and in this our happiness in relation to others’ happiness is important too. In essence, in order to live in harmony with our environment, it is essential that our environment is congenial. Here well-being of others which includes mental or emotional happiness or psychological happiness, physical happiness, economic happiness, political well-being etc. It would be a farfetched idea if a single person  could live peacefully because the concept of UNITY IN DIVERSITY is important for tangible results.

Happiness is a fuzzy and crazy concept which is different for different individuals. Some may feel happy on simple things in life and the others may not be happy with everything in possession. Subjective satiety or well-being or happiness is dependent on the following factors:-

Happy is the man who has overall mental satisfaction vis-a-vis:-

• Satiety in economic front. Everybody needs money for his/her sustenance. There are fortunate ones who could get opportunity to ache out a living and there are the ones could are not able to do so due to one reason or the other. If the person concerned could donate part of their money to the person in need, this makes the person concerned happy in a way.
• Satisfaction or contentment in mental well being/psychological and emotional state. For understanding an individual, it is not only essential to meet ones look after the barest essentials for life but also meet the emotional needs for a happy life/. For example, expression of inner feeling and understanding others feelings is a must
• PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE. The philosophy is our life counts for our happiness or otherwise. If our philosophy in life is to live a life according to laws of nature and in sync with norms of civic norms despite hurdles then happiness or sadness will not make any difference to us.
• Contentment in physical state. It is well nigh fact tha a good mind dwells in good body and for that to be a possibility body has to be kept in perfect fit state. In this direction, whatever possible we can do for others should be done.
• Happiness and Spiritual way of living. Spiritual way of living following a lifestyle which is in consonance with natural laws and following the norms of civil society. Here inner peace for following ethical and moral inclined life. Such person does everything in sync with healthy living. Thus spiritual oriented people are the happy people.

In conclusion, it could be comprehended that happiness is individualistic in nature. There are the people who are satisfied with barest minimum possessions but there are the ones who are not satisfied with affluence at their command thus become unhappy.

 

HAPPINESS IN OUR LIFE

True happiness in life is attained

Not by having all the comforts in life that we aspired
which though bestows us happiness for a so short

but, alas!  
Disappears like thin layer of snow on a sunny day
sooner than we actually anticipate in any way
leaving us high and dry
thus taking us to the spot we had started initially
with unhappiness writ large on our face eternally.
True happiness has to be earned – honestly

partly by leading a life full of care for others

by meeting others needs
whence our own bread and butter is earned
senergizing of our efforts

and using these for a healthy living
for a simple living and high thinking

for our efforts fructifying
Thus engendering a feeling of  satiety
without fear or favour eventually
resulting in profuse happiness to us in the process
producing positive emotional upsurge
making our heart ecstatic with pleasure

obliterating  the feeling of discomfort

by removing others discomforts

by the grace of Almighty God.

 

 

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Best Answer: There are times when our family members would agree with all that we are doing and at other times they may not agree what we do or do not do. If I am doing anything which goes against the very principles of our family culture and traditions, no family member would agree  with my viewpoints. Secondly, if we do anything which tarnishes the well established image of our family; for instance if we resort to any crime or commit any sin which put all other members in disrepute then our family member will not like us for the anti social activities resorted to by us. Thirdly, if we have sufficient finance as individuals and do not come to the succor of our family when it is immensely required then our family will not like it. Fourthly, when our family wants us to follow certain course of action and we do something contrary to the well established norms then also our family members will not like it.

Be that as it may, it is the family which provides us assistance when we are children and it is family which comes to our assistance when we want to come out of the emergent situation, therefore, we have to think and act to safeguard the honour of our family when crunch time comes. All will agree when we are doing everything as per the greater good of the family it is liked by every member of the family. Therefore, it is possible that our family may agree with us or sometimes disagree with us but we have to accept the reality and agree to explore a common meeting ground for overall well-being of the family.*

*It is a axiomatic  that our intention should be to keep everybody in the family happy. For that to happen, the following points should be kept in mind:-

1. Doing everything in accordance with the interests of the family as a unit. Family is a sacred institution in which different responsibilities are assigned and performed by different members of the family according to their capabilities or capacities. There is unwritten law which pervades that all members have to take look after the total well-being of the family to ensure that nothing is done which may go against the grain of family’s well-being or may tarnish the image of the family in general. In other words, it could be said that although there is no codified rule which governs the family way of living but whatever duty is assigned by the elder in the family is taken with a pinch of salt and obeyed partly as a mark of respect and partly for ensuring that job assigned is done without let or hindrance and nobody can brazen it out-. .

 

2. Differences, if any, are sorted out with mutual agreement. At times, when there arises some difference of opinion or an unseemly act, these should be sorted out with mutual consent but with a notion that the authority of the elder in the family is respected and maintained and not diluted so that their writ runs large in the family hierarchy. .Sometimes when matters go off the tangent then complete family sitting should take place and every members’ opinion is taken on the contentious issue and matter sorted out without wastage of time. If an issue remains simmering for quite sometimes then it may snowball into a huge controversy and may entail loss of face or prove counter-productive to the overall interests of the family in general.

 

3. Sometimes compromises are made for the sake of saving relationships. Experience tells us that at times members of the family have to compromise and cooperate on certain matters for saving the honour of the family. For this, even self esteem could be at stake but family honour has to be given priority. Here, I do iterate that I do not subscribe to the idea of honour killing  for settling scores – which is below civility.

 

4. At times, if one member of the family disagree with others matters come to the head. The elders in the family should see that the differences in the family do not cross the limit of decency. If still things fail to quell, then everybody’s opinion should be taken for sorting out differences so that contentious points could be sorted out once and for all.

 

5. When is the time to divide the family. At times, it has been found that differences spin out of control, when all out efforts make no difference to sort things out, then only option is to family division based purely on give and take basis as how long the quibbling could be allowed to take toll in the family and spoil the atmospheric in the family. In this sort of a contingency, it is better that elder member of the family may help division in the family by dividing the assets; ensuring that everybody in the family gets his/her share.

 

6. Safeguards to the members who are aged and infirm. There are the members who earn and those who are not meaningfully employed also including those who are aged and infirm are taken care under the umbrella of family.

 

6. Division of family assets / properties but not the elders in the family. If there arises a situation when the division of family is the only solution then in this sort of a scenario, the interests of olds and infirm including non-earning members in the family should not be ignored. Also, old parents, who see everybody in the family with love and affection should feel free to go to anybody in the divided family; i.e. no restriction should be imposed on them in their oldage.

Over and above what is mentioned above, the following should be taken care of:-

• All should have union of unclear families during some important days like annual gathering for respecting family deity.
• Celebrate all the birthdays/marriage anniversaries etc together to keep the unity and integrity intact.
• Differences, if any, should be sorted out within shortest timeframe to bridge the gap so that the gap may not widen to disproportionate proportions which is difficult to fill.
• As family is the institution from where our development starts, we should always respect all its norms when we grow up and become independent financially.
• We should never forget our roots. One who forgets its roots is a turncoat of highest order.
• Sometimes we have to compromise but it is not because of our weakness but we’ve to check our ego and move on. Also, many a times, we have to remain quite after we come to know about a controversial happenings, which if reignited may will create still more fissures in the family. Remaining silent in these is the most sagacious for overall health and well-being of the family.

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