Month: July 2013

OUR MEMORIES


OUR  MEMORIES

 

All of us, without exception, experience different phases in our lives from childhood onwards. Some experiences / incidents / events are very lively, engendering happiness and others are very heartrending/ touching. The lively ones we want to cherish and the poignant ones we want to forget instantly. But in both the cases, how we react / accept the challenges that are posed counts. More the challenges in life, more the inner resolve to counter these challenges should emerge.

 

If we just fluster in the face of problems, then sure enough, we cannot go afar in our lives. In this sort of a scenario there is disappointment writ large. Balanced living means, keeping balance in different spheres of activities in life, we should never tarry by the way. When problems are there, our Creator creates solutions for those problems for us. Only thing is, we ought to have indomitable faith / belief in Him.

 

In my life too, as every other fellow may also have,  had some good and bad experiences. Good experiences taught me how not to go overboard with exhilaration and with bad ones I have learnt how not to be supremely disappointed. These characteristics of keeping equanimity have been the GIFTS OF MY CREATOR only.

 

With this intention in mind, I have penned down a poem titled MY MEMORIES. Do comment. I love your invaluable comments the most.

 

MY MEMORIES

 

Whilst establishing link with my own past,

Reminisced events gone by –  varied and vast,

Some sweet, some sour and some bitter in taste,

Some occurred due to my personal designs and aims,

Others forced by the unpredictable ‘time’ supreme, 

Inking of which I had not in the least imaginable,

Imprints of both are indeed indelible,

Are ever fresh in the memory card of my head,

Some moments were simply handled,

Others were precariously placed,

Moments were when problems came in hordes,

Like losing somebody very near for good,

Or going blank due to episode unforeseen,

How I came out plainly unscathed?

Transcripts of which are hard to decipher,

Even after putting into use all the faculties in my grasp,

One sweet lesson that I have learned the most,

Is that faith in our Creator makes difference the most.

 

HARBANS KAHJURIA

 

 

 

 

 

SPEECH & SILENCE


SPEECH & SILENCE

Speech is like a dud bullet which seems good on surface view / exterior but when fired has little or no impact. Whereas silence is a fully blooded bullet which impacts straight on the intended target with full result.

            Man is a social animal. He is constraint to interact with the people with whom he has to meet his daily needs. The way in which we present our case counts. If we show egocentric tendencies while interacting, it will have negative effect whereas the speech which is sprinkled with flowery expressions; effusing goodwill, counts much in the long run.

 

Silence, means absence of noise / din or words spoken with mellowed voice. In spirituality it means inner peace / stillness, absence of thoughts. Silence is important in spiritual awakening. A person who keeps inner silence adopts equanimity both in good and bad times. Stillness in mind brings about integrated spiritual growth. Both in Hinduism and Buddism stress is laid on stilling the mind for spiritual enlightenment. Stilling the mind, in other words control over the senses, we can delve into the deep recesses of inner self and exploit huge potentiality in our latent energies. Mauna or inner stillness can enhance our internal awareness / inner growth. Yoga teachers stress the importance of SILENCE spiritual awakening for Self Realization.

    On the other hand, speech with pinching words and punching phrases may have seemingly transitorily but ultimately may become worrisome. The tone and tenor / accent in speech will also be of much importance. A loud mouthed speech will do more harm than good. If we want to get our problems resolved amicably, it is necessary that we exercise total control what we speak and how we speak.

For example, a verbal duel / onslaught in the household between the parents or in case of any interactions in the society will hardly solve any matter but may embroil us in still more intractable complexities.   

While importance of speech cannot be wished away, it  is important that whenever one is making clear his / her viewpoint following should never be forgotten:-

v Lucidness in language;

v spoken in the language known to the person we are addressing;

v  Mellowness in style in speech;

v Words spoken ought to be inclusive and dealing with the subject matter and not dealing with periphery issues;

v   Show off to be avoided while making speech;

v Care ought to be exercised that there is no deviation from the topic on which discussion / speech is being made.

v Unintentional deviation from intended topic / contentious issue should be set at right and made clear with a big ‘SORRY’ for the unintentional mistake.

 

          Then there are some professions in which speech / arguments are part and parcel. But here too, efforts ought to be made that professional ethics and purpose for which the intended speech is being made should never be lost sight of.

With this intention in mind, I have penned down a poem on SILENCE. Kindly go though it and give your invaluable comments. I love your comments, really.

SILENCE

Words spoken bereft of any cautious thought,

Just passes over the head of the recipient,

Gives the speaker no time even for repentance,

Of folly of being foul-mouthed.

 

Better let the words remain,

In the limits / confines of mind,

Rather than break others heart,

And prick their emotions,

Words spoken more than desired,

Carry with them less force,

Than you carry in silence.

Without us knowing it all,

A silent revolution is going on,

Bringing with it hope on top.

 

Silent prayers in essence bring us inner peace,

Inner peace brings forth implicit serenity,

Serenity brings a state calmly,

Peacefulness engenders self awareness,

Thus expands heart of awareness limitless,

We become self observing,

And dynamic life crafting,

A safety fence for self realization,

Making us free like air around,

And distance to our Lord is shortened,

A Nothingness is engendered,

From this Nothingness, Everything is engineered.

 

Harbans Khajuria

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

INDIFFERENCE / COLD BEHAVIOUR


INDIFFERENCE / COLD BEHAVIOUR

           Accept it or not, it is a travesty of fact that we in our lives are shown short shrift many a times. More so, in case of senior citizens, when they are constrained to take somebody else succor even for attending to their minutest needs. Their opinion is not counted in any important matter of the household; notwithstanding the fact that may be everything that is there in the house is due to their hard labour during their life time!

This indifference or cold shouldering is experienced in the office or may be at homes. It is also observed that when somebody at the helm shows indifference to us, we experience deep pain, more pronounced, treatment meted out to you is sudden or when you least expected the same.

 You can just imagine three case scenarios:-

  • Workplace. How would you feel when suddenly the person at the helm of affairs in the office starts showing indifference / cold shouldering you, that too suddenly? He does not confide in you for any important functions, instead prefers some other employee,  pitiably your junior? It goes to show that there is some problem in the adjustment with the official work or may be your general behavior has to undergo  perceptible improvement / change suiting the organization or the individual concerned. 

 

  • Household Responsibilities. When the elder in the family does not care for the needs and aspiration of a particular person in the family or maybe he / she not assigned responsibilities impinging on the affairs of the home. In the business also, that person’s opinion is just ignored. What is the predicament of that person vis-à-vis the family affairs? You can well imagine.

 

  • Self Realization. If somebody’s prayers to the deity are not answered by our Lord. What is the state of that individual? In this sort of scenario, the person may turn atheist or rationalist.

 

     Think of this, if a particular person at the helm is cold shouldering you it will impact you adversely. The solution lies in you only, either you have to be adaptable to the change,fight it out and earn your esteem in his / her eyes or flight from the situation if that is the best thing under the circumstances. WHAT YOU WILL DO? Kindly tell me?

 

With this intention in view, I have penned down a poem: COLD BEHAVIOUR. Kindly appraise and comment. I love your comments really.

 

COLD BEHAVIOUR

 

Lack of warmth in the relation,

A life without compassion,

Feelings rooted in repulsion,

Is a life with missing cooperation.

 

Deathly indifference all pervasive,

Uneasy calm extensive,

Bereft of concern – retrogressive, alas!

Aimless emptiness in attitude looming large,

Tense behaviour engulfing,

Making the environment searing,

Surprisingly, with the freezing coldness in feeling!

 

Stony-heartedness robbing the very peace of life,

Crumbling the edifice of existence,

And resulting in creation of hell out of Seventh Heaven.

 

What a life our would be,

With basketful of warmth in feelings,

Concerned when concern is immensely needed,

Loving-kindness when kindness is a crying need.

 

Harbans Khajruia

 

FALSEHOOD – A NEGATIVE TRAIT


 

FALSEHOOD –   A NEGATIVE TRAIT

 

In our lives, we have seen people who swear by truth on the surface but when confronted with facts and figures, they seem to be of the cult of organized hypocrisy.  Also, there are people who may be shedding crocodile tears for have not but in real their lives they may not be considerate  even to their closest relatives when need arises.

 

While we appreciate those who are truthful but do we truly appreciate a person who tells the truth. For example, many of us sided with Anna Hazare Sahib for his crusade against corruption. Apart from the initial euphoria, we may not even be knowing where Anna Sahib is now and how is he health-wise? That is the love we have for the truth and our views on it all.

 

Similar is the case with the people who pose to be  religiously awakened souls but when queried  how to be spiritually awakened, these so called ‘awakened souls’, weave their theologic theories which are neither here nor there and are bordering on perversion of truth in real sense of terms.  A person of religiosity, in true sense, does not follow dual life. He / she has the same yardstick for everybody including himself / herself when talking about spiritualism and other connected questions confronting the people. The main concern of truthful person is to tell a truth however bitter the same may be.

 

       It is better to be forthright in accepting honestly that a fact under discussion is not known rather than lacing the ‘insincerity’ with the sugar of truth so as to disguise and hoodwink people in the process.

       I am not saying I am a person who is lily white as far as whole truth is concerned. We, sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly put on the mask(s).  If somebody opens this mask for us, we ought to be thankful to that person and rectify our direction so that correct path is followed to earn Karmic Credit to our account. 

 

    Some of the falsehood we resort to, though may seem innocuous yet may have disastrous consequences on our daily lives later on. These innocent seeming untruths may adversely impinge on our personality traits in the long run. Like:-

 

  • Hiding exact name, gender and religion due to the reason best known to the individual concerned even while publishing something in print and electronic media!

 

  • Forgery on the certificates – thus suppression of exact information for identification purposes.

 

  •  Distort facts in front of the children, when children come to know about this, may have adverse impact on the children.

 

 

  • Distortion of facts in religious preaching/teaching to corner / earn easy praise.

 

With this intention in mind, I have penned down a poem titled: FALSEHOOD. Do go through and comment. Your comments are the fodder for me to continue further.

 

FALSEHOOD

 

In the beginning, lying is with a tender innocence,

When trapped in the act,  feigning ignorance,

Yet not following path correct,

Then repeating it till not caught,

Even whence caught concoct several untruths,

Of thick veil of lies in the beginning,

Not caught means watering thy lie for further breeding.

 

Now, the liar has  immersed wholesale,

Into a life full of falsehood without fail,

Without it he cannot stir even an inch,

Doubtlessly wants to have thorough cleanse,

By shunning falsehood practiced advertently,

But habits once taken-in habitually,

 And absorbed in the system die hard really,

For falsehood has taken roots deeply,

Into every cell of body,

And thyself has become a Master in Dishonesty.

 

O my CREATOR in the Heaven above,

Wash off stale traces of lie,

When its seeds are sown initially,

So that we may not be branded professional liars,

By one and all around us.

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA