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WISH YOU ALL HAPPY & PROSPEROUS 2014


 

WISH YOU ALL HAPPY & PROSPEROUS 2014

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It is my profoundest pray to our Creator that 2014 may bring in its wake fructification of hopes and aspirations of humanity. It may also eliminate trust deficit that persists amongst us all. 

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Our grateful thanks to our Lord

Who has gifted us

One more year to live for

And added to our kitty of years

That we’ve enjoyed with His blessings

And endowed with it thoughts so virtuous

To introspect as to what

We have done in the year

Gone by and what He wants

Us humans to achieve in the year coming

With His active partnership

Upholding the principles of righteousness.

 

 

Let’s live this year

With our body brimming with

Love and let this immeasurable love

Ooze out of us all

Spreading far and wide

Like wild but soothing flood

Which removes dirt and filth

From the earth around

Mesmerizing and overpowering everybody

And everything that comes

In its sway by its mighty waves.

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Let’s spread the message of benevolence

It cements the relations amongst humans.

 

Compassion for all without prejudice

It makes even the swine sublime.

 

Pity for those hapless

Who’re just down but not out

Giving something from your own to the needy.

 

Spread the message of truthfulness

Amongst those who are not blessed

With this Dharma.

 

 

Let 2014 year be bereft of hate

Hate brings more hate in its wake.

 

 

Let this year be an year free of greed

For greed is the enemy of self-restraint

And a breeding ground for dishonesty.

 

Let this year be without malice towards none

It spreads disquiet in the societies.

 

Let this year be free of jealousy towards none

Because jealousy brings hatred amongst our own.

Let this year be without anger towards none

For anger is the enemy of peace and harmony amongst every one.

 

Let this year be without hostility towards none

For it is the mother of gloom.

Let this year be minus distrust amongst us

It is the enemy of trust amongst humans.

 

That is the wish list of mine

For the year 2014 & beyond even.

 

O Creator of ours

Pray make this year more fruitful than ever

So that all rightful hopes get fructify

And new mindset dawns

Shedding off the old-narrow ones.

 

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA

 

 

 

 

ON FORGETTING ROOTS!!


ON FORGETTING ROOTS!!

Tree with roots

Roots support tree’s body
Provide necessary foods
That its body needs
For sustaining
Strength for standing
Dead body tissues replacing
Themselves deep earth entrenching
Its tentacles still deeper spreading
Even rocky beds piercing
Sometimes getting
Severe down under beating
Sometimes small stones curling
As mother cuddling
Her most dearest sibling
Season after season supporting
Helping in flower sprouting flowering
And even for giving fruits so mouth watering!
But roots beneath never wavering
Never forget if any parts gets pounding
The roots gives emotional feeling.

What happens when branches
With leaves
Flowers and fruits
Just forget roots!
Leave poor ones
Which have exhausted
After giving her everything
So that other parts may live
And stand erect and breathe freely
Look upward in prayer mode
Feel currents of air around.

Just like a mother tends its sibling
As teacher teaches his pupil
As living things are created by Creator
As representatives are chosen by voters
As oceans are sustained by river flows
As earth inhabitants are looked after by Mother Earth

Should we ever forget these roots?

HARBANS KHAJURIA

My boss hates me and treats me like ****?


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My new boss (a woman in her late forties) treats me horribly. She wants me to be stick to my office chair all day long. If I want to get coffee or something.She keeps checking on me in the kitchen. I caught her a couple of time checking if I was in my office. It’s crazy!

I’m a hard working employee. I finish my tasks on time (if not before). I only leave my office when I need to. She does not treat other employees the same way though they don’t work as hard as me.

Once she called to her office asking me why did my backup didn’t take my tasks during my vacation!! shouldn’t she ask my backup?

I feel like she just want a find a reason not to give me a good evaluation to get the annual bonus.

What should I do?

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One thing positive about you is that you are very hard working and devoted to your task – the felicity with which you finish your job is really praiseworthy.

Dealing with a boss who does not trust you; one has to conduct one self with tact and diplomacy rather than feeling let down whenever she / he distrust you. The following should be kept in mind:-

1. Have Confidence on your Faculties. You should have confidence on your capabilities but please do not fall into the pitfalls of showing it to the public that are the one. They should know through your work culture and not through your tall talk. But have confidence and not over-confidence!

2. Never put off things. Procrastination just spoils every thing.

3. Speak out when required. If clarifications are to be given give them in the best manner required. Never over-speak. And while speaking please do not forget that you are speaking to your superior who can influence your promotion prospects.

4. Try Adjusting. Adapting in the adverse environment is the quality which you should adopt.

5. Challenge the challenges. Do not feel despondent when you are thrown a challenge. Fact it head on.

6. The one who dislikes you is disliked by someone else. It is axiomatic that one who detests you is detested by somebody at her / his home. And she/he want to take cudgels against others while they are burning from inside themselves! Do not curse them but take pity on them. Really. Just ask about the life of that LADY BOSS of yours she must be suffering some psy problems.

If you want to change change yourself rather than changing others then you’ll adjust in any environs you are put in. Understand it and find the difference.

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AM I DEPRESSED? WHAT SHOULD I DO?


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My personality has changed completely.last time when i laughed was 6 months back.these days i only smile to show others that i m happy.there s no use of telling my family bcoz they think i m just actingn i want to hurt them.i wanted to commit suicide bcoz i hv no hope for future.

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First of all the way you have asked question shows that you yourself are skeptical whether you are depressed or not – this shows that really you are not but the situation in which you are placed is not allowing you to come out of this ‘depressed’ rut. This also gives the solution in your question itself!

Secondly smile is good. But this smile should emanate from your inner being not a showy one which we see almost everywhere. For this to happen we should take into account the following points.

1. Know yourself. First and foremost thing is to know our ‘self’. To know self we have to know our positive characteristics like compassion; pity; piety; kindness towards others et al. Also we ought to know our negative traits like anger; greed; vanity; jealousy et al. These negative traits are to be changed to positive ones by auto suggestion to our mind. It’ll not be a easy task initially but what you repeat a number of times it becomes a habit. Having transformed your negativity to positivity we can just know our ‘self’ fully.

2. Everything Starts with you & ends with you. This should never be forgotten. You are the centre of gravity. Your own self esteem is a must. For this to happen; it is a must that you should respect others. It is based on give and take. If you give respect; you will get in the same manner. It is based on the theory of ‘action and reaction equal and opposite’.

3. Love Yourself. One who loves himself/herself loves others in the same manner. Loving just comes back to you it is reciprocated.

4. Just control your Satiety Level. You should not be swayed by the demonstrative effect of others. Just be satisfied with what you have. Never compare yourself with others at all. Compete with yourself not with others. Others have many things which they have got with other means other than the honest ways. Whatever you have be satisfied.

5. Remember your Creator. Be ever thankful to your Creator. Whatever religion you follow just remember that religion is a pathway to connect with our Lord. If confronted with problem; just discuss with your LORD and you’ll get the answer. But that question to HIM should be based on sincerity. Just leave your problems with your CREATOR and see how they get solved.

6. Just think of People who are not having bounties less than your own. At least you can express yourself think of people who cannot do so still are pulling with their lives. They are not the weak kneed people. They are sturdy willed persons.

Be thankful to our LORD and live just the moment and not the past or future. Nobody has seen tomorrow ever since and nobody will live the past which is dead. This moment is yours for asking. Enjoy it and see the difference.
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LORD JESUS CHRIST – A MESSENGER OF LOVE & PEACE


MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL

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LORD JESUS CHRIST – A MESSENGER OF  LOVE & PEACE

 

Born to virgin Mary

The loveliest Son of Holiest Spirits of our Lord,

At Bethlehem, the city of David,

A saviour of humanity,

And to spread the fragrance,

Of His message of peace.

 

Men of wisdom came from places afar,

Mesmerized by this Shining Star,

To witness a holiest event,

Which only sometimes happen,

Angels sing songs so melodious,

Shepherds pay their utmost reverence.

 

Old in years the two,

 Simeon & Anna saw their ambition fructified,

As they too had a glimpse of the Glorious One,

Brought up in rural town of Nazareth,

His adaptive father Joseph,

Taught Him the art of using,

Tools of a carpenter,

A labour so arduous by any standard,

Resulting in sweating,

By the rays of sun so searing.

 

The revered God’s Son,

Worked tirelessly in the hot Sun!

Thence as he cometh,

From the waters of Jordan,

A voice so invigorating,

Cometh from Heaven,

‘This is my beloved Son

In whom I am very pleased’. 

Thereafter Jesus went to the backwoods,

Surprise of surprises of all!

To allow Satan to temp Him

To break the back of Satan.

 

He fasted for days forty,

And vanquished the Satan thence forth,

With eternal will of God in the heaven,

Then brimming with the Holy Sprit,

He lived with the commons,

For three long years.

 

John recorded Jesus as the Son of God,

Who raised the dead to live again,

Made the blinds to see again,

Lames to walk again,

Demons not to appear again,

Came to the succour of hapless,

During mighty storms. 

With a few loaves and fish,

Made food sufficient for five thousands!

Believe – we have to!

Since He is sent by Him,

As a Saviour,

As His Incarnate,

The All Knowing,

The All Powerful Being.

 

Then on a Thursday Night,

He meets his followers,

In the city of Jerusalem,

On an occasion so solemn,

He announced,

It is ordained that He may die,

For those He loved so dearly,

And told them to remember,

His association with them,

And also promised,

To come back,

For their sake!

 

He spent time in the garden of Gethsemane,

Prayed to the Divine Providence.

 

No case was found against Jesus,

By those who tried Him,

Yet was crucified on Friday,

He departed this life,

For He loved us all,

After when He was dead,

His power was proclaimed,

By happening most unexplained,

On the morn of Sunday,

He rose from the dead,

Appeared to Mary,

And apostles and a huge gathering,

And gave the message of love

Goes to prove

He remains invincible in both the states.

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA

      

LEARNING EXPERIENCES AND ITS SOURCES


LEARNING EXPERIENCES AND ITS SOURCES

 

The benevolence of our creator is such that, unlike other living things,  He has created humans in His own mould. We are spirits and He is Supreme Spirit. It goes to show that each individual has got some special characteristics,  particular to that individual and best thing about this all is that this characteristic can be learnt / imbibed by us if we wish / care to do so. May be the characteristic absorbed could stand us in good stead in our lives and have a lasting impression on us.

Manu – the Law Giver has rightly said: ‘Receive some good knowledge even from the low-born, and even from the man of lowest birth learn by service the road to heaven.” We can learn a lesson or two even from a pavement sleeper who spends his time through out winters and summers in the cold and hot seasons respectively notwithstanding climatic extremes below the sky. His life can teach us to thank our Lord for the bounties we enjoy which that hapless does not – the destitution in which that fellow lives and then we can make comparison. The people, who are on the verge of committing suicides, due to some loss in the business or loss of face owing to compatibility at home or at work place, can learn one or two lessons from these people who are miserable or physically challenged yet are raring to go. And we, despite being able bodied act worse than disabled bodied!

A person who just whiles away his / her time in useless pursuits does a disservice to himself / herself. In fact we can remove the darkness of ignorance with the light of knowledge. Knowledge gained should be put to use. Through practice we gain experience and experience thus gained makes the foundation of knowledge more solid and enduring. Learning is similar to the drawing of water from a newly dug well. If we do not draw water from it at regular intervals, water will get polluted first and subsequently the well will dry up. Our knowhow base will also dry up if we do not use it well and continue replenishing it. 

Our Creator has bestowed humans with one rarest qualities and that is the trait of differentiation by which we have the free will of choosing / selection. This power makes it possible for us to choose what is right for us and discord what is wrong. A person who still makes mess of this choice and is lured by ‘greenery on the other side of the fence’ comes to grief. 

With differentiation, we are also endowed the power to assimilate / cull the knowledge base from  innumerable sources. There is no age bar for acquiring knowhow. It can be acquired from womb to tomb. My God! This is not a tall talk but a matter of fact which can be tested and attested scientifically. It is not merely from the time-honored formal institutions that we can acquire knowledge but also from any informal gatherings; religious, social or just civic based lessons from anyone who cares to educate us.

One pitfall that we often fall is when we come across a teaching not in consonance with our line of thought. This could be a religious discourse contrary to what we profess or a thought which already has made inroads in our psyche. We find it difficult to change. I am of the view that we can learn from any source and enhance our knowledge base, polish the knowhow we are having in the light of new insights and take advantage of knowledge revolution in the open media.  But how to select that is our free will. One who thinks he / she  ‘all knowing being’ is a person who is just like a proverbial ‘frog in the well’ – I shall call that person a conceited one bordering on egocentric tendencies.

 

The spirit of activity (Rajas) could be learnt through bringing out from our inner self the knowledge dormant. Everything is latent in us. It is to be drawn by our unstinted determination because that ETERNAL POWER or gigantic will comes from our Creator. But care ought to be exercised that this ‘unstinted determination’ is not bordering on our unstinted haughtiness. Tamas or inactivity will make us just like non-living things – exist and then fall apart. Sattavic  or transcendent activities like truthfulness, faithfulness, kindheartedness, mercifulness, compassion will keep us abreast with positive orientation in our life. By following this line of thought we remain grounded in our thoughts and actions and thus will be more near to our Creator. We have to be pure in thoughts and actions and then only true and positive awareness will make residency in our system. But this trait can be learned / imbibed only when we have our inner conscious awakened through concentration on our Creator.

We should learn the lessons of life by experiencing different aspects in life individually. Just remembering a lesson learnt easily is washed away from the disc of our memory easily. This self-regulated / self experimental learning is meta-cognition.  It is based on our own experiences, chosen by us according to the need of the hour and learnt at our own will and speed. Self regulation and self evaluation could be done in spiritual learning in a meaningful way. In ancient times, our Rishes used to learn through self disciples, self regulation and control at the isolated places / away from the hub of activities. When one aspect is not in consonance with our thinking it could be remolded or abandoned midway or some others’ experiences absorbed from other seekers and regulated in our lives. Even there is a choice of environs from where knowhow has to be collated and assimilated. I have found it very useful. This could be done in trial and error method too. 

Finally learning through prayer.  Praying is not mere taking the name of our Creator. It is an earnest and honest / sincere effort to connect with Him. By sincerity, it means with right attitude. It is not a show off to anybody. Anyhow not least to our Lord because he knows what goes on in our mind – Him or something else! First of all, we have to cleanse ourselves of all the dirt that is dormant in the form of negative traits. Having cleansed ourselves, we can concentrate on Him with oneness of purpose. This single purpose concentration not only cements our relationship with Him but also enhances our assimilation power in other fields of learning we ultimately.pursue because whatever we pursue we pursue with oneness of purpose like we do in prayer. Thus prayer should be made a steppingstone for not only to establish our relationship with Him but also enhance our Gyan in real sense of terms.

HOW CAN I CONTROL THIS FEELING?


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please help me. i had sex with my boyfriend before. the problem is i always keep remembering and thinking about past thing with him. i think this is a desire. but why only to him? i now this thing is blocking my future, but its really hard to stop. i confuse what is happening to me. i thinks it getting worst because i’m being like this for 3 years now. what if it will be 4 and 6 and forever?? I don’t know this is wrong or no. what am i gonna do?

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It is better for you to forget everything which transpired. This is a past happening and should be taken as such. It should not affect your today. We incidentally do so many things but do you think we should remain sticking to these. Whatever happened, it should be forgotten as a bad dream. If we remain stuck to that bad dream, it will adversely affect your today. And that would be a miserable thing. And by the same token is your bf remembering that incident. I doubt he is. Then why you. Just leave it and live a peaceful life, non-challantly.

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Dear, Problem is that You Really love him, it happens that you cant forget anyone whom you love but life never stops for anyone, best way is to keep yourself busy, it will help you lot, me too facing this situation.. and I had find this best…
You can control your feelings by doing meditation everyday…you can involve in some extra curricular activities too…
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INDIA HAS CEMENTED ITS DEMOCRATIC CREDENTIALS


INDIA HAS CEMENTED ITS DEMOCRATIC CREDENTIALS

 

The recent concluded elections and its results are indicative of a good augury for further cementing democratic credentials of our country. It has also shown to the world at large that India’s institution of democracy is strengthening day by day. This has been established beyond doubt by following ground realities:-

  • Govern Well or Face Being Voted out.  The voters without exception have made it clear to the contesting parties to show good results in governance or face being voted out.

 

  • General Awareness of People about their Democratic Rights. People in general are now aware about how they can tilt the power indices from non-performers or those who do not deliver their promises made to the electorates.
  • Deliverance of the Goals by the Political Parties. Now the parties also have realized that if they do not realize the promises made to the electorates they are sure to be voted out of power by the awakened people.
  • Secular Credentials are Cemented. This is one of the best outcomes of current elections. Now the people without any consideration to caste etc have voted for the person who is eligible in every way rather than any other considerations – like muscle power / money power /caste factor etc.
  • Corrupts are voted out. People have shown their zero tolerance for corruption and now use their democratic rights in the best possible manner. Corrupts and unscrupulous are being voted out. Now the parties are giving tickets to the people with clean image. This is really a good achievement of our democratic institution.
  • Inflationary Pressure / Policy Paralysis & Voting Pattern .  The inflationary pressure on the people has also made people vote against the ruling parties and tilted the balance. Policy paralysis resulting in non-implementation of major decisions with regard to monetary control; keep a tab on imports / export; enhancement in agricultural and industrial sectors and other sectors of economy too has impacted voting pattern.
  • A Word of Praise for Election Commission of India.  Election Commission has transacted its task commendably well. This has given a further boost to our democratic institutions.

The result in three States of Madhya Pradesh; Chhatisgarh and Rajasthan is quite laudable. It is not which party has won or lost but how the people voted that matters. They were influenced more by ground realities and not merely by promises which the parties concerned made to the electorates.

 

Unfortunately the results for Delhi have thrown a real challenge to parties BJP; AAM ADMI and Congress. No party has won 36 seats to form Government. BJP has expressed its inability to form Government because they are 4 seats short.  The Congress has only 8 which cannot even think of forming a Government. The invitation to AAM ADMI with 28 members by Lt. Governor has also not been taken in right spirit by this party. Though Congress has given assurance that they will support them in forming Government and BJP has assured their constructive support yet of no consequence.

Now ball is in the court of AAM ADMI party. But instead of giving positive response its convener has written letters to BJP and Congress putting forth their 18 point agenda as a pre-condition for forming their Government. This is really baffling. If Congress with 8 members agrees to support AAM ADMI party with 28 members; it will have more than required number of members (36) to form the Government and if at any point of time Congress withdraws their support it will not be taken kindly by the people. Also AAM ADMI party has flatly refused to support BJP to form Government. BJP is not able to cobble home the required number.  Now onus remains on AAM ADMI party.

 

In the present scenario the re-election is the other possible option. In this sort of situation what about the financial burden on the tax payers? What about the promises made by the AAM ADMI party in its manifesto to the AAM LOGS? They should explore possibilities of forming Government otherwise they will lose the goodwill they have earned so assiduously. By running away from forming Government the party will lose chance of delivering goods when it was given a golden chance. And who knows what happens in the re-election if it were held! People cannot be hoodwinked now. They are now more awakened than before. Mere promises with no deliverables will earn them their wrath rather than goodwill.

 

God may bestow them sagacity to act now and govern when they are called to do so.

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