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ON LOVING OUR NEIGHBOURS

20 Sep

LOVING OUR NEIGHBOURS

 

Love is the eternal cohesive agent

Which binds us together

With each other in a eternal knot

Creating a feeling of oneness

In weals and woes

When each shares everything

That the other have in abundance

This feeling is loved by our Creator immensely

Creating in us still more gratefulness

And still more loving-kindness

Overflowing with His bounties

Thus cementing our relations

With our fellow beings.

ON LOVING OUR NEIGHBOUR

All the holy scriptures of prominent religions enjoin us to love our neighbour as we love ourselves.  This is time tested truth and must be imbibed and followed by all peace loving humans irrespective of their social standing in the society. It should never be forgotten that man cannot live in peace while in isolation or having intransigent attitude amongst themselves.  We, ourselves, have to bridge the gap by our own self effort – approaching our neighbours and participating in their social functions or sharing their burdens.

The Old Testament enunciates : “thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself”(Lev. 19:18).

The Bhagavad-Gita (12:13) says: “A man should not hate any living creature. Let him be friendly and compassionate to all.”

LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR

If we want to have a cordial relationship with our neighbour, it is incumbent on us to adjust with them. This could only be ensured when we share their happy and sad moments as true members of the society. When we are compassionate towards them besides when we meet their needs. We ought to have faith in our Lord who has created us and where there is unflinching faith there is no scope for disturbance at all.

It has been well said, ‘love thy neighbor as thy self’. We have to understand that we can change anything but it is not in our hands to change our neighbor or neighbourhood.

“love your enemies, bless them that curse you” as uttered by Jesus (Matthew 5:44).

We all say that we love God but without realising that God too wants that we ought to love His creations first and especially those who are very near ua. How can we love God turely when we do not love his creations?

“Do you love your creator? Love your fellow-beings first,” reads a well-known Islamic tradition.

It has also been said that we can change everything around us if it is not in agreement with our likings but we cannot change our neighbour. We can win our neighbour only with love being the binding factor. We have no alternative but to adjust with our neighbours and environment in which we are placed. But we cannot expect others to change according to our own convenience.

It has also been felt that our reelations may be residing far away from our homes and when an unexpected contigency just suddenly what then? The nearest person to bank on is our neighbour but that can happen only when we cooperate with each other and sync with each other. It is not only within our day to day activities but also on our final journey, some people are required to accompany our casket of our body. Fortunates are the ones who have their own relations but what about the ones who do not have their own near relations?  

We ave to set an example for this. There may be difference of opinion but we have to come to term with the reality – a stark reality. We have to be tolerant, understanding, cooperative, compassionate, always have positive attitude, divorced from selfish and selfcentred mindset besides adjusting with the environment.

Compassion, loving-kindness, sympathetic joy, and equanimity are said by Buddhist.

This principle is also true for neighbouring countries. Those who do not realise this truth come to grief. If countries cooperate with each in pursuing good neighbourly relations by respecting each others’ sovereignty and come to each others succour whenever there is any natural tragedies or any other contingencies then our Creator too graces those countries. It is also a fact that now a days, we are living in globalized village where interaction between different countries, more so neighbours, makes a huge difference by enhancing mutual trade, besides increasing warmth by people to people social interactions. Everything could then follow on the basis of give and take.

If a neighbour is more powerful than others then there is a huge requirement of cooperation between the two. Hedgemonistic policies which were prevalent earlier on cannot be pursued now as all are equipped with weapons of mass destruction like atom bombs, missiles etc. So, better course is to follow the policy of cooperation and peaceful co-existence.

Our children should be taught :-

  • Language of Love. (Pyar ki vasha). The children from the beginning should be taught the language of love.
  • Cooperative. A feeling of cooperation should be taught to our children so that they know its true value.
  • Compassionate. Compassion begets friendship this attitude should be imbibed.
  • Understanding. Understanding the needs of others and come to rescue at opportune time is the need of the hour. Here understanding the psyche of others too is needed.
  • Partaking weals and woes. It is essential that we share the good and bad things together. This gives a huge boost in our friendship.
  • Come out of the Rut of one-upmanship.
  • Feel pride to have a neighbour.
  • Relatives and neighbours.  Our neighbour should command the same respect as we give to our relatives.

If we keep the above cited things in mind, then sure enough, we shall have good neighbourly relations and this would be in line with our CREATOR’S WILL.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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10 Comments

Posted by on September 20, 2014 in Inner Thoughts

 

10 responses to “ON LOVING OUR NEIGHBOURS

  1. IdealisticRebel

    September 20, 2014 at 10:55 am

    A wonderful post that promotes all the aspects of peace. Well done. Hugs, Barbara

     
    • Harbans

      September 20, 2014 at 3:16 pm

      Thanks for appraising.

      When we are at peace with our neighbours we can extend it to other parts too.

      Regards

       
  2. quirkyisthename

    September 23, 2014 at 2:03 am

    I love what you have written, your love and compassion for others shines through here on your blog! Blessings to you, thank you for writing this, it was lovely to read something by someone who feels the same way!😃

     
    • Harbans

      September 23, 2014 at 3:11 am

      Your remarks are obviously inspiring. It is our duty as humans to be humane and to come to the rescue of those who require our assistance and especially those who live in our neighbourhood. This is liked not only by the like minded people, as you have expressed, but also by our CREATOR too.

      :))

       
  3. Sharmishtha Basu

    September 25, 2014 at 7:05 am

    cant say i follow bhagwad gita totally, i dont follow anything totally i only pick up the things that are in harmony with my lifestyle 🙂

    but i believe in trying to love first then hate 🙂

     
    • Harbans

      September 25, 2014 at 3:29 pm

      Life gives us so many experiences and we act accordingly as per our personal experiences. Sometimes we do not agree with others due to – may be due to our faults but on other times may be due to theirs. But this goes on. I have learnt one thing, FORGIVING AND FORGETTING are two good things which should never be left. These will cement even the most extreme of our relationships.

      Yet, we are also bestowed with our our priorities. If you are too good for someone but he/she is not reciprocating, then, you have to act as per your own wisdom. Some relations may not stand while those which we consider tottering may seem good and pliable. LIFE IS LIKE THAT.

      Regards

       
      • Sharmishtha Basu

        October 1, 2014 at 8:15 am

        perfect words. i too believe in letting bygones be bygones till i feel like stupid 🙂

        forgiving is a really great virtue- my practical brain tells me most of those who talk about it are either lying, naive, wonderful persons or angels. The latter two are too rare so when one advocates forgiveness too much I start studying that person quite keenly to first decide which category he belongs to, and then finalize my relationship with him.

        Honestly i have been in that kindergarten of forgiving and forgetting for decades and stopped it only after realizing that i am the only student in my school who actually believes in forgiveness in its true sense!

        students differ from school to school ofcourse 🙂

         
      • Harbans

        October 1, 2014 at 8:41 am

        You see Sharmishtha madam, forgiving and forgetting are two characteristics which are imbibed with difficulty. Experiences is my guide, whenever, I have been duped by somebody or am told something which is not my ‘due’ then again I approach that fellow despite differences and just forget. And mind you, it has many positives. I, at my age of 63+ am bestowed with very good health, reflexes are nicely working with His grace and am blessed with everything good. Forgetting and forgiving also gives me nice sleep and I do it before falling sleep. Secondly, I do not take anything as a baggage from my office. Just finish anything then and there. JUST FORGETTING AND FORGIVING anything that transpires.

        In other walks of life too, to be this like ‘student’ is rarest of rare but its KARMIC CREDIT is more than what we expect. Madam, this life of ours is mere COMA, I believe in the KARMA and DHARMA. Following such life makes our CREDIT ACCOUNT hefty and negativate anything DEBIT.

        Thanks and regards.

        :))

         
  4. Semra Polat

    October 2, 2014 at 7:03 am

    Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.

    Surat An-Nisa’ [4:36] – The Noble Qur’an

    Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-‘As: Mujahid said that Abdullah ibn Amr slaughtered a sheep and said: Have you presented a gift from it to my neighbour, the Jew, for I heard the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Gabriel kept on commending the neighbour to me so that I thought he would make an heir? – Sunan Abu Dawood, 2446

    Yahya related to me from Malik from Said ibn Abi Said al-Maqburi from Abu Shurayh al-Kabi that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or be silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his neighbour. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should be generous to his guest. His welcome is for a day and a night, and his hospitality is for three days. Whatever is more than that is sadaqa. It is not halal for a guest to stay with a man until he becomes a burden.” – Malik Al-Muwatta, Volume 49, Number 22

    MaşaAllah dear Brother, very nice post !

     
    • Harbans

      October 2, 2014 at 9:10 am

      Sister Semra, kindly accept my sincere thanks for your sagacious input. The gems of gyan / knowledge you have quoted from the Holy Quran is really enlightening.

      For all our relationships, may it be our parents, our neighbours, our friends, our fellow with whom we come across ought to be taken as our fellow travelers in the journey of life. We all are Allaha’s creations and He loves us immensely. He wants us to be compassionate with our fellow beings, help needy when required besides having all the positive qualities.

      I am also of the view that we ought to remain grounded. Never deluding ourselves to have pride on worldly possessions, status or anything which has temporary value. For this to happen, we have to know our own ‘self’. One who know self know almost everything to be known.

      Regards

       
 
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