Are people happy or sad by nature ?
If a happy person gets isolated due to some reason… And then repeatedly subjects himself to melancholy… Like depressive thoughts… Sad memories, incidents… For a length of time… Would he become sad ??
If a sad person gets into the company of awesome happy people, is too busy to be sad, too occupied with them… Forcefully enjoying… Letting go.. Getting wasted… Learning to laugh at things… Would he become happy ??
Or is it in a person’s nature to be sad or happy no matter what the circumstances ??
I ask this because i am a melancholic pessimist… Have always been this way.. I take things people say way too seriously and would find drama or offence in the least significant things…. But ive tried to change… Its difficult but maybe not impossible…
I wanted to know… About other people… Are you all happy or sad by nature or just responsive to situations ??
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- Harbans answered 3 years ago
A person is sad or happy in sync with the mindset of that person concerned. It is on the spur. There are people who have made it their habit to exhibit sadness without any perceptible reason whatsoever. But happiness is a positive frame of mind / state of mind. To be happy, that happiness has to spring from inside of self. In other words, It is innate. It is not merely showing on the surface of your face but comes from within. A person with a control over his senses does not allow the sadness invade his privacy. The outer influences do not influence his/her inner thought percepts. It is just like hot outside and cool inwards. Whatever hotness occurs outside the body just is alleviated by inner coolness. Whenever something adverse invades us, there are sufficient inner defences to ward off the sense of negative feeling and dilute it and eliminate it altogether. This quality to remain happy internally comes with experience and perseverance and with God’s grace. Meditative concentration is also the answer for equanimity both in happy and sad moment.
Yes, our company of friends influences us. If we are in the company of happy people who despite their adversities remain calm and self possessed. They never are swayed by untoward situations. If we care to read their behavior and mindset, we shall learn much from such people and question us. Why these people are happy and why I cannot be like them? With this sort of a positive thought, we can alleviate our sad disposition and live with equanimity thus ‘melancholic pessimist’ state of mind could be transformed into contented optimistic state of mind.
Man is not happy or sad by nature, though a person’s nature sometimes is influenced. One makes it a habit to imbibe the characteristic by his own free will. Nobody can force any sort of habit on us. If we are determined to be happy by all means, sure enough, nothing can stop us from doing so. And if we are in the habit of comparing ourselves with others irrationally, we are sure to face the music for it all.
Thus, happiness and sadness depends on the individual’s capacity to take as he/she likes and react.
Thus nobody is happy or sad by nature but if we want to be happy nobody in this world can make us sad.
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