LOVE MAKES HUGE DIFFERENCE IN OUR LIVES


LOVE MAKES HUGE DIFFERENCE IN OUR LIVES

 

LOVE

 

 Love is a pure transferable agent

It is an angelic sentiment

That engulfs us whole-hog

As we proceed on in our lives

Transforming our baser instincts 

Into feeling so pure and transcendent  

Thus impacting all our relations

At our household

And knits them all so close

That even the blizzards

Of time cannot obliterate

Its Godly effects.

 

The most essential things for sustaining our body are air, water, sun and food. Apart from these,  what is most essential for our emotions? Indeed LOVE! This passionate feeling of love springs from the inner recesses of our being/heart. When we see happiness on the faces of love ones (spouse, children, parents, elderly people, friends) a fervent feeling of love emanates from our heart.

If this love feeling is experienced in the morning hours itself, it keeps our whole day holistically lively. During this exquisite love filled moments, we too want to transfer this love to others, may it be to our colleagues, subordinates or our superiors. In other words, love becomes contagious – an agent which brings in positive change in us. 

Mother’s love for her child is second to none – if at all comparison of her love is made. Then, we ought not forget the love which the Mother Nature showers on us. She gifts us life sustaining bounties without discrimination whatsoever. What we give her back for this eternal love? Next, our God’s never ending Love for us during this birth or previous ones is all encompassing and that too without any expectations from us? But humans have to at least express our sincere ‘THANK YOU’ for everything that He bestows on us, nothing more!  For this expression of thanks, we need not wait for an opportune moment, but express here and now with utmost love. However, sorry to say, some have skepticism about His existence even! The fundamental truth, beyond doubt, is He is ever ready to reciprocate our love if we are ready to express that with sincerity. But the deep-seated problem with us humans is that we seek His love and attention when we’re encircled with unsolved problems. And, some are even skeptical about His existence!

Our identification with possessions, our status, our supremacy in the society, our educational standard, our knowledge (but very poor in wisdom) etc are sores which require attending fast. In that our body, our mind, our soul (which is indestructible – no elements of nature can harm it) have to work in sync.  How we can  remain happy despite adversity depends on us only and that is by loving our Creator. We’re the captains of our ship (our life) and we’re responsible for its functioning. Rest all are the fellow travelers. These fellow travelers will reciprocate our love if we look inside and start loving ourselves first and then spread the fragrance of love to others.

Everything around us will act in tandem if we stop identifying ourselves with the transitory things and embrace the eternal truth – realizing our inner potentials. Having done that then we shall not impose our opinions on others but love Creator and His creations. Each time we pray and express our love for our God, each time we imbibe and leave a positive energy of love and affection in the environs we are praying/doing Namaz/meditating (puja)/reciting Jaap on His Naam or adopting any method to express our love for Him.

The feeling of compassion / empathy come with abundant love residing in the hearts of people.  It comes when we’re pained at the pain of others. There are messengers of God like Prophet Mohammad, Lord Jesus Christ, Guru Nanak Dev and Gautam Budha, who, with their magnetic teachings spread the message of universal love. In the not so distant past, Mother Terasa’s love for humanity became an example to emulate.  Her compassion and care, cured hapless people and helped them regain their health.  That is the humane touch which is required for the suffering humanity. Acting with utmost love helps us establish our connectivity with our Creator. 

Our love for others makes difference but His eternal love makes huge difference in all of us.

Now, let us for a moment ponder what the opposite of love creates? It is not unusual to know that hate creates chasm between our friends, relatives and well wishers. It takes away the peace of our mind. Here self whims overtakes true love. It leads to despondency and when it reaches to its zenith it takes the form of violence which has the potential of decimating the very values we espouse. The end of hate from our system and adopting eternal love is an honorable exit finally.

Love has such a magnetism that if there is love between the members of family, there is peace and serenity in the family. Every problem is attended together and shared. Then the fruits of action are shared by all the members of the household. This shared love too helps in understanding each other and thus there will not be any differences in the couples. The light of love removes the darkness of hatred between the loved ones. Here in this household, God’s bounties prevail.

Similarly, if  there is love between neighbours, there is fellow feeling and goodwill for all. Such neighborhood is a sanctuary of happiness. Further, there is abode of God in the hearts of those people in that neighborhood. ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’  Bible

History of mankind is a perceptible spectator to show that those who were shabbily treated by their own loved ones initially or did not get parental love turned aggressive and hostile and caused grievous hostility to others – being of imbalanced mental setup. Or, if such people did not get love in their childhood and adolescence periods became power hungry and turned ruthless power seeking dictators thereafter.

It could thus be concluded, if we want a happy and balanced life, it is essential that we shower love and affection at others by unmasking and throwing out puerile mindset and imbibe pure  love – in our dealings with others just pure of heart. It would then be reciprocated in equally measure. This fine-tuned principle could be extended universally. This will obviate the chances of immense loss of life and property caused due to violence. LOVE IS THUS A CEMENTING AGENT.

 

 

Do you believe about rebirth?


Do you believe about rebirth?

i believe..if nt y?

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Best Answer:  If you see and analyse the Nature and its accompanying phenomenon, it is evidently clear that everything that is made including our bodies are made in right mold and to function in sync with its construction. If something unnatural is done it (our body) has got it impact. Why is it so? Our mind, body and soul work in tandem. Why it is so? There are the cases when people have recollected their happenings in their past birth and the same have been corroborated. The reincarnation is based on empirical truth. It can just not be proved 100 percent as we humans who act as per the principles of science. There is a hidden truth, a truth which the Creator only knows. We humans cannot say for sure yes or no. But as we believe in God, we also believe in our karma (daily action we do. The good and bad deeds we do are imprinted in our super-conscious mind and are retained which determines our next birth. If you do not believe in the theory of reincarnation then you may not believe in supernatural happenings which are taking place in our daily lives. Can anybody, for sure, decipher how and why a small thing as ‘dream’ takes place while we are sleeping. People may cite different theories of dream but remain mainly based on conjectures and nobody is wholly convinced about its occurrence. Re-birth has also been mentioned in almost all the religious texts.

If one does not believe in the theory of reincarnation then it goes to the domain of ourselves living a mechanical life, like any other machine. It functions like a machine and dies when its power to function goes. But there is difference between animate and inanimate things. Their functions, their constitution and their daily behaviour patters are different. They exhibit different characteristics when put to scientific tests. And when put to empirical tests humans take birth and our karma or past deeds influence our as to what form we have to take after reincarnation. I am of the firm belief that those who believe in God and its creations surely believe in the theory of rebirth.And everything under the sun cannot be put the factual test. Something ought to be left to our Creator and His unique prowess’s to let humans to ponder over his creations. let Him also think how and why He has created humans who suspect even His existence and the existential plays He plays for us all. *

There are some instances of persons telling everything about the happenings in their previous birth(s) and also corroborate the same after going to the places of their earlier birth – a place where they had not visited before! That is also a mystery.

There are many cases where ‘death like situations’ were experienced by some and if their testimony could be believed that we’ve to believe in such theories.

Thus, I believe in the theory of reincarnation. It is not due to my knowledge about this but because there are so many mysteries which are to be unraveled. This is, in any case, not in disagreement of those who believe otherwise.

 

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What is difference between conscious and conscience?


What is difference between conscious and conscience?

 

Generally, conscious is used for thought or perception about a particular subject or action thereof. This is used to indicate the quantity of our awareness or knowledge about the act we do. One who is dress conscious, dresses nicely as occasion demands. We can also say that person is speech conscious; that person first of all weighs what he wants to convey – meaning person concerned does not give any chance to criticize him as far as his/her speech is concerned. One who spends money according to chartered plan could be termed as budget conscious. Finally, a person who is self conscious means that that person takes care or is cautious that all his actions and reactions thereof are in sync with self respect. Meaning that person takes every step with awareness lest his/her action is misjudged for some other motive rather that what he / she actually intends. It means awareness  and not insensitive. It goes to show that whenever we are fully aware what we are doing and are also aware the consequence of our action that state is termed as consciously transacted action.  


We do speak about raising our consciousness meaning; raising the quantity of our awareness or range of our awareness. Higher consciousness means increasing the quantity of state of mental awareness. Then we talk about self-conscious which also means awareness of ‘self’. Mental awareness, meaning acting within the confines of discipline and probity lest our actions do not prove counter to others’ viewpoints. It can also be considered, how others think of us or in other words how others perceive us as a member of society.

It should also be remembered that when we talk of conscious mind, its mysteriousness should never be forgotten. It never ages. It remains ever youthful. I used to have the same mental outlook of things around me or about me as I am having presently. It is really limitless. Through our mental imagination, we can take us to our childhood or any other part of the world. It is thus boundless. We become ‘self conscious’ when we understand the nature of our mind and act accordingly.

Then when one resorts to some unethical or criminal act consciously or knowing fully well its consequences. It is also what is wrong or right. It is conscious act done with ulterior motive and is, therefore, reprehensible and a person doing so could be hauled under the laws of land. This act too becomes Karmic debit for that person. Conscience is also termed as ‘inner voice’.

One who is self-aware or self conscious will act very cautiously or carefully lest that person is not misjudged in the eyes of others besides he is not lowered in his own esteem.

Bhagwad Gita professes that self consciousness could be attained through Yoga of meditation whereby we can unravel the true nature of our ‘self’ by uplifting ourselves from narrowness i.e. from human consciousness to our soul consciousness. When the elevation in Yoga is attained, tranquility of mind is ensured through ‘God Consciousness’.
Conscience is used for indicating qualitative parameters. When a Yogi does his Karma he keeps abreast of moral or ethical, rational, pragmatism aspects so that he does not deviate from the path but without being self righteous in any manner. It is because when self righteousness takes front seat, ego, is not far off then.

When we do a task conscientiously, it means we hardly leave aside any aspect impinging on that task.

This line could be religious thoughts, norm of behavior with our fellow beings or any other course of action which we want to take. In these actions moral, ethical or rational aspects too are inclusive. Giving no chance to others to object the line of his/her thought and action. All Karmic deeds or misdeeds are judiciously introspected before taking any tangible action.

 

 

 

VIOLENCE BREEDS STILL MORE DISCORD : NON-VIOLENCE BREEDS MORE CONCORD


 

NON-VIOLENCE BREEDS MORE CONCORD


Non-violence emits fragrance, so refreshing
Whilst humans are in its spell, so enchanting
Wellness and brotherhood prevail
Dark clouds of hate
Loses its evil black cloud
And, at last environs around
Becomes sparkling clean
In its pious presence
Anger dare not show its ugly face
Fearing shameful exposé
In its very presence
Bitterness takes a hasty retreat
Fearing its influence so angelic.

Non-violence, works two ways
It unites relations separated
Due to narrow lanes
Of hatred prevalent since long
Spewing out uncalled for malice
At each other at any chance
Now they shower praise
After being hypnotized by the influence
Of sweet-sweet non-violence.

Also provides food for thought
To go on in life fearlessly
Spreading the message of peace with sanity
A God ordained quality
A undeniable fact – doubtlessly.

 

VIOLENCE BREEDS STILL MORE DISCORD

NON-VIOLENCE BREEDS MORE CONCORD

 

Since stone-age man has evolved and modernized in myriad of ways but has not left his violent behavior even a bit. Violence and its methods too have evolved – become more violent / gone sea change due to modern weaponry and other methods of retributions. Sanity is the victim in this sort of situation. Anything and everything become the butt of controversy leading to flash-point and result in mayhem. It has come to such a pass that people take violence in the spirit of resignation.

 

The Sanskrit word for non-violence is AHIMSA – meaning non-use of force or not to harm others. This ahimsa may be in our attitude and karma – in writing and ensuring its fructification in a most peaceful manner discernible. This ahimsa could be for all living beings or following a way of thinking based entirely on calmness or peaceful or without harming others while performing any task or following a spiritual path, or ethical or moral path.

 

The history of nonviolence in India is very old. Mahavira (24th Tirthankara of Jainism) professed AHIMSA PHILOSOPHY (599 BCE-527 BCE). Non-violence brings into its wake peace, calmness and tranquility besides bringing in its wake onward march in civilization and progressive mentality.

 

Gandhian Philosophy of nonviolence proved very effective and helped immensely in India’s freedom movement. Here the Dandi March which he led is praise worthy. His philosophy of satygraha (holding unto truth) through non-violence non-use of force, non-violent protests just peacefully. Even he brought the formula of non-violence and civil disobedience for social change with a difference. This philosophy of non-violence is synonymous with peaceful resolution of disputes. His philosophy of non-violence was used by Martin Luther King for getting civil rights for his people and Nelson Mandela too was influenced by this philosophy of non-violence and adopted this in South Africa.  

 

Non-violence is a powerful and just weapon. Indeed, it is a weapon unique in history, which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it.

Martin Luther King, Jr

Even the social, economic, political and political and all sundry differences could be sorted out with cooperation, amity, fellow feeling and on the basis of give and take. No persecution or coercion prosecution but through persuasion / mutual understanding with an idea of give and take for getting things done.

 

VIOLENCE HAS SEVERAL FACES / FACTORS LIKE:-

Regionalism and Religious differences. People living in different areas have different aspirations for the progress of their areas. Then there are problems of like mindedness in religions. When religion is taken as a way of life and a means to reach our Lord/Ishwar/Allaha then it is fine But when the people of one religion consider themselves more equal than the people of other then problem arises.

Casteism. In the olden times, castes were due to the role of people following different professions. It is really disgraceful that although a person with high literacy and knowledge (even more than Brahmin) but born in a low caste still is construed as low caste! This is a tragedy and a strange legacy of Manu based caste system. There are so much bad blood between different castes due to this and a reason for violence. Then there are people who, for garnering votes, solidify their caste base for votes when need of the hour is to consolidate the developmental plank for inclusive progress of the people in general. Politicians, without thinking about result, array one community against another for getting their bread buttered.

 

Communalism. Communalism is the belief in which one community wants to have ascendancy over other communities. The hatred of one community against other unleashes communal violence. It could be termed as majoritism against minoritism

 

Religion and Caste related Differences. Rise of narrow-mindedness due to caste and religious intolerance too are responsible for bad blood and communal flare-ups. Here the blood of innocent people is shed. I believe violence in the name of religion tantamount to not to understand the true meaning of religion. It should never be forgotten that religions unite us with our Lord.  Thinking otherwise means we do not know the basic tenets of a religion. 

 

In all the communities there are violent people (hotheads) who are always ready to find time for differences or if differences are not there then create situations prejudicial to the unity and integrity of a country. Increasing cases of religious intolerance have to be arrested. Then sometimes there are the instances where the artists want to project their viewpoints on social realities. I am of the firm view that if a perceived thought is publicized on social media is judgmental of the essential tenets and beliefs of a particular religion then that perceived thought should not be highlighted.

Religious beliefs should always be left untouched by those who do not profess the particular beliefs. Then there are violence when inter-caste and inter religion relations do take place without the permission of elders. We should thus be sensible while dealing those subjects which involve caste and religious sensitivities. It should be remembered, where rationality does not work beliefs works, where sensitivities rule reason pragmatism just fades into oblivion.   

 

Increased Materialism. It has been experienced that man wants to have as much material prosperity as he could garner – by any means, lawful or through corrupt practices. There is little place for sensitivity to others’ needs, emotions, compassion, love or affection. These are secondary things. Here amassing wealth without giving two hoots for others has become an order of the day. In this rat race, exploitation of worst order has been resorted humane and human emotions hardly count.

 

Corruption at High Places/Political Parties.  Different scams which resulted due to corrupt practices followed at high places tarnished the image of that political party. It brought into its wake misery to many at the cost of handful of people. It has well been said, excess of everything is bad. When this corruption reaches to its zenith, people exercise their right to vote out that corrupt Government. In democratic sort of Governments, it is through votes. This has been experienced in India.

Violence is against the laws of natural justice / or Clouding our thoughts with Ego. Whenever we consider ourselves more than the law and transgress the same with impunity and when it goes crossing the line once too often then matter becomes rife for aggression or simmering discontent surfaces engulfing not only the affected person but also those who are near. Contrarily, if we remain within the lines of acceptability then things will not go to that far. Violence could be averted if we all remain within the confines of our rights and duties.

The result of violence is still more violence. Result of violence is still more violence. If I resort to violence on others, others too will pay me in the same coin.   Violence bad since it has its origin from our retributive mindset. When one section of society pursues its agenda which the other one considers contrary to their aspirations/unwholesome then differences arise and take violent turn if differences are not sorted out with time and space. The teachings of Bhudhism  and also Jainism  exhort us to adopt non-violence as our way of life.

 

Gandhian Philosophy is based on non-violence. His SATYGRAHA (truth based resistance) was based entirely on non-violence and see how much benefit it brought out / resulted in our freedom struggle. He was of the opinion that this weapon should not be used indiscriminately.  If used without any thinking about its consequences, it will do more harm than good.

 

Anger, rancour, greed, lowering others’ prestige/ insulting others, including all the negative traits are the result of VIOLENCE and should be eliminated from our system for good.

 

Finally, for us humans to have peaceful co-existence, it is a must that we firstly understand and respect others’ sentiments. Human behavior have to be based on tolerance, co-existence and fellow feelings.

 

The feeling of oneness could be cemented when regionalism, favoritism and narrow thinking could be given good bye for an overall good of all the communities.

Conclusively, it could be said:

 VIOLENCE BREEDS STILL MORE DISCORD

NON-VIOLENCE BREEDS MORE CONCORD

 

 

ON RESPECTING OTHERS AND GETTING RESPECT IN RETURN !!!!


ON RESPECTING OTHERS AND GETTING RESPECT IN RETURN!!!

See the expression on the face of a person we’re ridiculing. That person’s emotions get heightened to such an extent that he may not act rationally while in that spell. Can this sort of showing disrespect prevented? We’ve to invariably introspect as to why we should treat others with respect. This could be a part of ‘art of living’.

 

We may have our own opinion on this questions but instinctively we all know that if I love others, I shall get it otherwise not. Sometimes, I may say, what I did to antagonize an individual was right at the time and space. Others may think just differently. This misplaced reasoning may have made us worldly-wise in our own thoughts but actually has put brakes to our forward march as far as care and cooperation is concerned.

Reasons may be exhaustive but some of the prominent causes are summarized as under:-

We disrespect others simply because of our EGO!!. The origin of disrespecting others is partly due to giving more importance to ‘I, ‘me’ in place of ‘we, us’ and ‘you, your’. This is for appeasement of self. Selfishness, status, pride of his possessions etc have made us myopic in measuring everything according to our yardstick. In fact a man drunk with excessive dose of ego remains obsessed and lives in the world of his making. Can this sort of person, who does not respect others’ sentiments remain in peace, certainly not? A person who gives respect to others remains in peace: In Bhagwad Gita it has been said: One who gives up false desires and gives up false ego attains the state of peace and calm.

 

Respect is based on Give & Take. If you want respect, you’ve to give it to receive it in equal measure. A respect which you demand or force somebody for the same, in my view, wouldn’t be a respect but a compulsion bordering entirely on coercion because one is in a position to demand it! Respect which springs from our heart voluntarily is value added and beneficial both to the recipient and the giver. In Bible it has emphatically been mentioned: Pay everyone what is owed: taxes to whom taxes are due, revenue to whom revenue is due, respect to whom respect is due, honor to whom honor is due.

 

Respecting each others’ religious beliefs. Now-a-day, it is a sad commentary that some just forget or may not know the scriptural enunciation of a religious text of others. All religions have the central premise; how best we can establish our connectivity with our Creator. Then there is no dearth of the people who will take extreme steps in countering others’ belief and go to any extremes in castigating it. Here the victim is respect for each others’ beliefs and by extension respect for each other.

 

Good bye to Moral & Spiritual Values. We’ve become slave to material possessions. Excessive reliance of these has kept us away from spiritual and moral values. To have peace and tranquility through materialistic thing is really asking for moon on the earth. Selfishness remains the guiding factor. This rat race just continues. Profit motive at any cost – not even remotely connected with moral or spiritual values. Parents give no quality time to the children because of their preoccupation, leaving the children bereft of moral values. A child has an impressionable mind, if brought up in such environs also becomes warped after sometimes, falls prey to various social evils like drug addiction, violence, juvenile delinquency etc. A child brought up in this sort of environment will hardly know the etiquette of respecting others leave aside anything good. We’ve to create a moral character in our children. In Holy Quran it has very clearly been enunciates : “Create the moral characteristics of Allah within yourself.”

 

Children respecting their teachers/Gurus. It is the responsibility of the parents to provide moral and ethical values to the children before schooling. When these are not transferred properly the result is these children hardly respect their teachers or gurus as well. The Guru-Sishya parampara (Teacher-pupil tradition) which used to be there in olden days has just evaporated with the time. Now sense appeasement is apparent and given more relevance, overlooking physical, emotional, intellectual, moral, spiritual and ethical aspects for ensuring a balanced life. In Sikhism, tradition (Parampara) of Guru has a pride of a place. They respect 10 Gurus and 11th One is in the form of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji: “All Sikhs are commanded to take the Granth as Guru” declared Guru Sri Gobind Singh Ji. It is a treasure house which consists of sermons messages from other communities too. It has in it Vanis of 6 Guru Sahibans, 15 Bhagats of different castes, numerous verses of Bhagat Kabir, 112 Sholoks & Shabads, Baba Farid’s important inputs, 11 by Bhatt amongst others. All these pay special tributes to the Gurus for living a life full of respect and sublimity.  

 

Respect between the peer group. Both parents and teachers have to chip in for teaching their children the need and importance of cooperation and fellow feeling so that these could be utilized whenever there is a need of the same.

Respect for our older members of the society. After traversing through various stages of life, when a person reaches old-age, he becomes dependent on others in almost everything. In other words, he acts like a small kid who has to be looked after for attending to his essential needs. In this sort of a scenario, the children who have grown up needs to look after their old parents. The responsibility to look after in oldage rests with grown ups in the family.

 

Keeping the respectful distance of others’ Privacy. If we want that others respect our privacy, it is important that we respect theirs. It is two way traffic and should be taken as such. The saying: Your freedom ends where my nose starts should never be forgotten while interfering in others’ affairs.

 

Respecting the Laws set by the Society and Natural Laws. Finally, One of the important needs is not to do or act in a manner which is against the spirit of laws set by the society. It is our country which is giving us sustenance and we have to obey and respect the laws which govern us. Apportioning profits through corrupt practices without thinking about its consequences are against the norms of society but also against the very spirit of Natural Laws. Respecting and obeying the Laws is our responsibility.

 

It is a human tragedy that we have surrendered ourselves to various kinds of temptations and shunned the gems of knowledge given in religious scriptures like Holy Bible, Holy Granth Sahib, Holy Quran, Bhagwad Gita. This is the reason that we neither respect others sentiments nor we get the same in return. That is why we have this dissension pervading. The humans should spread the fragrance of respect for others so that it generates an environment of goodwill, cooperation and smile on others’ faces and ultimately RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER based entirely on equal term.

Finally, it is very rightly said that a respect which springs from our heart makes a huge impact on us all.

World’s Earliest University Than Nalanda Telhara


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The world’s earliest  University was established in Takshila,India and it functioned between 500 and 1300 AD.(?)

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“Taxila also known as Takshashila, flourished from 600 BC to 500 AD, in the kingdom of Gandhar. 68 subjects were taught at this university and the minimum entry age, ancient texts show, was 16. At one stage, it had 10,500 students including those from Babylon, Greece, Syria, and China. Experienced masters taught the vedas, languages, grammar, philosophy, medicine, surgery, archery, politics, warfare, astronomy, accounts, commerce, documentation, music, dance and other performing arts, futurology, the occult and mystical sciences,complex mathematical calculations. The panel of masters at the university included legendary scholars like Kautilya, Panini, Jivak and Vishnu Sharma. Thus, the concept of a full-fledged university was developed in India.

Nalanda University

As early as 700 B.C., there existed a giant University at Takshashila, located in the northwest region of Bharat (India).

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CELEBRATION OF LOHRI & MAKKAR SANKRANTI


 

CELEBRATION OF LOHRI

(ON 13th JANUARY)

WISH YOU HAPPY LOHRI AND MAKKAR SANKRANTI

MAY THESE TWO FESTIVALS FOSTER BROTHERHOOD AND AMITY AMONGST ALL


 

Lohri festival is celebrated in Northern Indian states. It is being celebrated on 13th January – in the month of Pauch or Magha, one day before Makar Sankranti. We term this festival as a community based festival where Bhangra (dance by men folks) and gidha (dance by women folks) to the beats of drums bring verve and gaiety to the celebration. Seasonal dry fruits like peanuts, jaggery eatables besides milk cakes are specially made and distributed amongst relatives and friends.

Following are some of the reasons for its celebration:-

  1. Season related. It marks the end of winter and beginning of harvest season. It infuses vitality and zeal in the lives of people – especially the farmers. It symbolizes prayer to fire (Agni puja) in the evening. People take a few parikarma (rounds) around the bonfire and shower offerings to fire. Special bounties are asked for the wellbeing and prosperity besides peace in the entire households. Newly wedded couples and newly born receive special attention on this festival.

 

  1. Legend. The legend of Dulla Bhatti (Rai Abdullah Khan) is very popular. It is a legend of a Rajput warrior who saved a damsel in distress BELONGING TO HINDU RELIGION from the clutches of lustful officials. The valiant Rajput adopted her as his own daughter and married her off to a young and suitable Hindu body. He also gave her presents – nine mounds of sugar etc on her marriage. This shows the community feeling during those days. If during those feeling for each others was rampant then why not now! A song is sung:

                Dhulla Bhatiwala hoi etc

 

MAKKAR SANKRANTI

(ON 14TH JANUARY)

 

India being a home to multicultural, multilingual and multi-religious society can pride itself in having different festivals. These festivals may be season based, traditional based, culture based, religious based or for that matter any other considerations. But the fervour and enthusiasm that accompanies with these festivals is second to none. It is here that a Hindu or enjoys Eid or Gurpurab or as a Muslim enjoys Diwali or all of them enjoy Christmas Day. That is the beauty. I do not dispute that hotheads are there in any strata of life who do not know either about their own religious festivals nor of others.  One thing which pleases us is the shine on the faces of every one while celebrating any festival! That is more alluring than anything else.

Makkar Sankranti is celebrated in the month of Paus (January) Makar Sankranti is the day when the Sun God starts enters the Northern Hemisphere. Hindus like Greeks worship Sun God – the giver of immense energy. Sun God is termed as the manifest God, having all the glorious divinity. It is worthwhile to mention here that Gayatri mantra, which is from Rig-Veda, was specifically made with dexterity is for offering our respect to Sun God. He is the bestows us intelligence and sagacity. It goes to show that Makkar Sankranti is associated with cosmic event which affects the life of humans immensely.

This festival is celebrated with gaity and fervor in all the parts of India with different names but the enthusiasm remains the same. Devout get up early in the morning, take bath in holy rivers and offer prayers in the temples. After having offered prayers, people give alms to the needy according to their capability. In the afternoon people share a special Kichri (

Hotchpotch) made of rice and black dall uridh.

 

LOHRI 

Every festival is linked with some seasons

Or certain well known occasions.

 

Lohri a winter festivals of repute

Falls in the month of ( 13th Jan) Paush

Marks the end of winter season

And beginning of longer – a little hotter days ahead soon

For farmers it is one of the happiest occasions

They start harvesting rabi crops

Start of spring season is a Natural bounty

Adds additional spice to festivities.

(Rabi Crop: Wheat, Gram, Pea, Mustard, Linseed, Barley, Peas)

 

Traditionally on lohri day a bonfire is lit

People congregate around it

And reverently offer, Jaggery (gur), sesame seeds (til)

Sesame coated sugar candy and popcorn into leaping bonfire

The skyward leaping fire

Too shows that it is enjoying all acts of hers

Gathering partakes the sacred offering themselves too as (parsad) offering

Satiety writ large in everybody’s face.

Offerings too is made to ‘panj tatavas’ five elements

Fire, wind, water, ether and earth

Going around the bonfire with great reverence

And singing traditional songs with dance makes much difference.

And that too in tune with beating of drums!

   

Tradition has it that there was a very brave person of repute

Named Dulla Bhatti from lineage of warrior race the Rajputs

In the reign of Mughal king Akbar

He used to rescue poor girls from the clutches of robbers

And got them married to suitable boys

People sing Lohri songs with gust

And shower utmost whilst praising his bravery.

 

Thence other legend of the origin of Lohri

From the wife of Saint Kabir named ‘Loi’

Herself a lady so pious.

 MAKKAR SANKRANTI

 

Lohri too is linked with Makar Sanranti

Which too is another winter festival very famous

Celebrated one day after Lohri celebrations

A day so fixed

14th January –  indeed very sacred

It marks the beginning of solar maagha masa

Makar Sankranti is start of harvest festival

And beginning of pleasant Spring Season

Celebrated in all parts of country.

 

It has its origin to the movement of the earth

Sun movement begins from (Sankranti) one zodiac sign

Into another – Capricorn zodiac (Makar) sign

Two movements  are termed as Makar Sakranti.

 

This day marks the beginning of warmer days

As the sacred months start from this day onwards

Makar Sankranti  is celebrated with great fervor

In western and northern India

There is a mention of this day in Mahabharata

As, it is the festival of Sun God

Who gives us light and heat

To living beings without bias

And bestows us divinity and wisdom,

Thus holding an eternal meaning.

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA

 

WHY DO SOME SUFFER IN SILENCE?


WHY DO SOME SUFFER IN SILENCE?

When we do not have verbal or non-verbal communication with others and remain aloof / cut off from others. This silence may be forced due to circumstances or self imposed. When we remain within the confines of our own self, letting our inner pulls and pressures playing havoc with our self then its consequences would certainly be disastrous. This is a negative trait and the sooner it is eradicated from our system the better it is for us.

In the great epic Mahabharta, Kunti suffered silently when her sons were divested of all their possessions and exiled through deceit. In the similar manner, when the battle started tilting against Kauravas, King Dhritrashtra & Gandhari too suffered silently for the losses suffered in the battlefield.

Then we observe silence while praying. Contemplative silence brings within us peace and tranquility when it is done with sinerity and with total concentration. This could be termed as a positive trait and is beneficial for us.

Women are suffering in silence; it may be at home of at office places. Stress and undercurrent of sadness is more pronounced when some people do not get what they deserve actually. The simmering discontent inherent is responsible. This simmering discontent may be without any explainable reasons. Sometimes we make it a habit to feel sad without any perceptible reasons even. Or stress, sometimes, may be due to impending occurrences’, in the process exhibiting fatigue, anger, and irritability on silliest pretext. These may also result in less sleep, memory loss, less compatibility. The main despondency results when our own children and our own love ones start cribbing about our behaviour.

The underlying causes for our getting stressed on silly pretext and thus suffers silently due the following reasons:-

  • Dissatisfaction in life due to financial stringency. When we compare our financial status with others and give it the colour of our self respect then sure enough we are in for a trouble. We’ll not mix in our social circle thus keeping ourselves aloof resulting in having internal turmoil. Thus demonstration effect, adversely impacts our day to day behaviour.
  • Incompatibility in the Household. It has been seen that many a times there is flare-up between the couples and when the same is not attended to and settled there and then may cause differences. Sweeping differences under the carpet is too bad. Simmering discontent may impair the relationship between the couples and may become a cause of permanent discord. Living in the same house but not enjoying perfect rapport producing ill-will, disappointment and silent suffering. In this sort of a scenario the sufferers the children because they do not get the quality time in the surcharged atmosphere. Here the women suffer more than their men counterparts owing to some social stigma attached in some societies.
  • Personal Appearance or a Slightest disability. In the world of ours, all are not Helen Keller or John Milton who even exploited their disabilities to their advantage and showed to the world at large that disability could be fought with a iron will. Some may even take recourse to remaining in their self created shell due to slightest disproportionality in their appearance, may live with a poser from themselves: What others would say? Not to speak of disproportionate disability even a slightest facial mark is a trigger for them to feel slighted and consequent trauma of silent suffering.
  • Mental immaturity. It has been well said: as we think so we become. There are people who think too much of themselves and remain just aloof with a delusion of being born in a separate social strata. They think below their prestige to mix with a particular group of people since they are not at par with that of individual concerned. I think fastidious is the perfect word for them. Never pleasing, you may do anything for them. This, to my mind, is one of the main curse of our society. Here the discriminated unit of the society just suffers and may resort using force to get even creating disturbance in the society. That is what is happening presently. While one spouse has this quality the other one just suffer immensely just silently resulting in different kinds of diseases – mental as well as physical.
  • Social Behaviour/Etiquette could be imbibed from our families. While there is dissension in the family due to one thing of the other, all the members do not see eye to eye with each others. In this sort of a situation, the give and take which could have been there in the form of transformation of values, modes of behavior or etiquettes has diminishing returns. When a child is unfortunate to get proper modes of good behavior from the parents due to one reason of another then the child suffers silently. Or also does not get opportunity to imbibe from the formal or informal institution. Then this problem of being aloof comes. This sort of individual may turn to be a criminal.
  • Negative attitude/Distrust towards others due to some episode/incident which may have left a print. There are incidents or episodes for which an individual is not responsible but has been framed by the vested interests. That individual feels slighted in the first place and then would like to remain aloof besides being distrustful, disappointed and suffers silently for no perceptible fault of her/his own!
  • Low Self Esteem. Having low self esteem due to some one reason or other beyond the control of an individual may also be the cause of sadness or unhappiness or discontent and may set off silent suffering.
  • When one is Disillusioned. When despite of best focus and energy, unfortunately, if an individual is unable to satisfy others that person tends to become disillusioned. This may be without any modicum of reason but it happens. This failure to convince others who count despite his/her best effort results in disillusionment and ultimately a silent suffering.
  • Negative Mindset and our emotions. There are people who, due to some reason or other, have negative mindset and do not even try to change the same even knowing sufficiently well that it is bad. No amount of persuasion makes them to think it otherwise, are always swayed by emotions and get perturbed on smallest things. By doing so, we are actually giving more fodder to our stressful state and thus suffer in silence.

We can have a catalyst of change in us by:-

Having Positive Traits and ridding ourselves of negativity of any kind. Positive traits like compassion/ /empathy/kindness/benevolence should be cultivated and practiced sincerely. By so doing, we shall be making ourselves useful for those who need our help. By giving a smile on others’ faces, we shall be doing a good turn to ourselves only in the eyes of our ISHWAR /GOD /ALLAHA /CREATOR.

Those who are suffering from the malaise of suffering in silence should bank on our Creator as a REDEEMER-IN-CHIEF.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PAST SHOULD BE OUR BEST GUIDE FOR TODAY’S KARMA (ACTION)


PAST  SHOULD BE OUR BEST GUIDE FOR TODAY’S KARMA (ACTION)

 

The year gone by has sweet and sour memories. For sweet ones we should be thankful to our Lord  but the sour ones be delved upon/introspected threadbare and ask ourselves as to why those were sour and derive lessons out of those. Rose remains attractive simply because there are thorns too. Happiness in life becomes more alluring when it is followed with sadness. Light of the day and darkness of the night are the ones which we should enjoy equally.

 

 Following are my New Year’s Resolutions vis-à-vis past year(s):-

 

 Positive Traits imbibed offloading the negativity – Never Forgetting that we Humans (Souls) have Affinity with God (Super Soul). First of all, a true Yogi is the one who is compassionate, selfless to the core, must have scale of values and code of morality/ethics. Even ones religion or dharma ought to be followed with selflessness. Let others follow their dharma faithfully but imbibing all good points of other dharmas. Most of the dissentions in our societies have occurred due to absurd selfishness with which we follow the tenets of dharma, and the greatest dharma for us humans (being souls) is the Love for our Creator (being Super Soul). Dhama is our nature and behaviour should never be forgotten. We can change faith according to the need of the hour or whichever is in consonance with norms of the society vis-à-vis individual.

 

 Lead a God Oriented Existence. Over and above meeting our basic requirements of food and shelter, we require much more besides. As we are the small potencies of Supreme Potency, it is essential that we lead a life which is in sync with the commandments enshrined in the religious texts.

 

 A Yogi should always Aspire for Gyan. We should keep our mind receptors open. We should also draw out our potential energy thus take the help of our intuition for furthering our goals in our life. Its requirement is more now because of information revolution which is prevailing presently. For this to happen in a meaningful manner, a Yogi should welcome all types of gyan which is knocking our door steps now.

 

  Eradication of Conflicts. It has been observed that we face conflicting situations from where it is difficult to extricate. These conflicts may be due to our mindset or due to some external factors like religious, cultural, or intolerance of any kind.  Factors of conflicts could be economic, social or born out of external pressures. These conflicts have to be eliminated for a peaceful co-existence between the diverse cultures and traditions. In the absence of any conflict, we can forge ahead. With conflicts confounding us inside and outside, we become escapist and resort to bad habits like drinking, drugs, lust, and smoking etc thus tarnishing the very image ultimately and leading a worthless existence.

 

The inward conflicts are more enduring and if cause of the same is not diagnosed soon may snowball into bigger conflicts thus making the life difficult. In essence, I shall try to minimize or eradicate conflicts arisen due to any cause whatsoever. Besides, there are conflict of interest; a bias towards a particular person at the cost of other. It may be for the selection for a particular appointment etc.

 

Then these conflicts could be resolved through:-

 

  • By compromising self interests,
  • By feeling compassionate / empathy towards others.
  • Avoiding conflicts by acting reasonably.
  • Just fight the conflicting reasons and clear the air.

 

 Appreciate the Beauties of Nature. Man has innate sense of beauty. He appreciates beauties in all its forms and Nature in its varied manifestations thrills us to no end. We value and love nature because it has aesthetic and curative values. But for this to happen, we’ve also to keep natural balance by limiting the spread of poisonous gases in the atmosphere. Whatever we can, we should, in small small ways that we are capable of doing.  It should also not be forgotten that beauty is skin deep and need of the hour is to maintain this ‘beauty’ in whatever manner we could.

 

 Love and its Value in Life. I shall spread the message of love for all. We all are endowed with innate quality of love. Everybody wants love and be loved. It is such a sacred thing which binds us together. This love may be for our parents, for our close relations, friends, love between love and beloved. Love is such an attraction that even ferocious animals could be tamed with true love. History is guide to tell us that much of the cruelties have been perpetrated by loveless persons thus we ought to imbibe all the traits which spread love and trust not hate and distrust. In whatsoever manner, I would be able to, I shall pursue this with the grace of God.

 

Enhance the Quality of Inquiry. The essence of our mind is to enquire about new things. A person could propel to zenith in knowledge and wisdom if that person has the trait of knowing new things through incisive sense of inquiry. I shall endeavour to imbibe this quality. There is no denying the fact that it is through inquiry that we not only add knowledge but also become creative leading to overall growth. 

Should I be scared, Death threat?!?


  • Harbans

Should I be scared, Death threat?!?

Well, I was about to go to a place when someone called me. It sounded like one of my friends, but she said it was Kaedi, a girl who hates me. she said “Hey! This is Kaedi.” And I said “Ohhh ok..” And she said “______ ______ (One of my friends) hates you” Then I said “why?” and she said “She thinks you’re gay” Then my mom said it was a time to leave, so I said into the phone “I got to go” and “Kaedi” said “DON’T BACK TALK ME!” and I said “I wasn’t.. I really have to go.” then she said “well go suck something” then I said “ummm… ok?!?!” then she said ” Go suck a magic marker so you can DIE! Go fall off a cliff and DIE!! I never want to see your face again. and if I see you next year, i’m going to kill you. ” At that point I just hung up. I didn’t really pay much attention about it, and I didn’t let it get to me. but should I be scared?

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  • Harbans answered 4 years ago
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Please always remember, develop friendship with wisdom cap on i.e. choose your friends with care and caution. If chosen already do not leave them in the lurch. Be wary of the ones who you think are threat to you at present or in future.

Now coming to your predicament, be rational and do not have intimacy with the person from whom you think threat for your life is emanating. Always think we are destined to die one day now or ever. Do not spoil your today for better tomorrow. Be detached from your present state of mind and live a carefree life. Do not ever be scared about anything in life when you are upright everything will be already with you. *

  • It should be remembered that death has to come one day, now or any other day.
  • Living in perpetual fear of death after death threat from somebody will hardly make matters better but we would be spoiling our certain present for uncertain tomorrow.
  • It should never be forgotten that whatever is destined to happen will happen, our worrying about it will hardly make much difference.
  • If somebody is threatening us, it goes to prove that that person is himself/herself threatened, that is, that person is internally very insecure and that person wants to transfer that insecurity to others and the ones to whom that person knows become the easy targets.
  • Insofaras the death threat is concerned, only those care those threats who are weaklings. A strong willed person never give two hoots about those threats.
  • It should never be forgotten that this very moment that we live peacefully is better than what we would be living in the near future that is unpredictable.
  • Be that as it may, we should have complete faith in our LORD and His creations and never threaten others, come what may be. Even though, we are threatened! It is because whenever death has to come, it’ll come – threat or no threat.
  • The person who threaten others should also introspect the futility of their threats. If they are unable to give life to others then they (ones threatening others) have no right to take others’ life and make others’ life miserable so that they live in perpetual fear.