Trust is not a product

Which could be picked up

From the shelf of a shop

Or could be purchased

After a bid so high

Or lofty ideals and ideas

That one posses in abundance

Nor it could be cultivated

Through a wishful thought.

We’ve to invest in time and energy

To develop solid trust or confidence

Which can withstand in stoic silence

Any stormy blizzards or tsunamis

Of unpredictable ‘time’  

Once fully matured

This trust should be fructified

And sanctified by the grace of Almighty God.

Trust developed have to be maintained

By fulfilling the vows made

At the Altar

Or while taking rounds

Around the fire so sacred

Sincerely fulfilling the commitments publically made

Like sharing responsibilities sincerely

By showering loving care for each other so generously

Sharing joyous and unpleasant occasions

With unflinching love and affection

Including a feeling of compassion for known and unknown

With heart full of courage and strength

Thus earning name for righteous deeds

Which may help smooth sailing in life indeed

Thus establishing mutual confidence and trust for lifelong.

Similar is the case with business partnership

For the agreement agreed upon during making business deed

Have to have the stamp of respect of all concerned

For the ongoing business to succeed

If trust is breached by an unscrupulous party

The question of business success is doubtful, surely.

In the workplace, most certainly

Maintenance of trust is of utmost necessity

Have to preserve sanctity of privacy

Above every other considerations

But if somebody breaches the confidence

That person is the black sheep for us all to see.


Trust is a huge phenomenon in our lives. I believe, trust comes with a huge amount of investment in time and energy. It is just not developed in a jiffy or through wishful thinking. There a huge amount of emotions involved in this emotional thinking. But it should be kept in mind that too much of attachment for anything or anybody brings with it huge amount of accountability to maintain it.  In our life one should never develop too much of attachment with material possession or relation.

In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said: The worker who is free from all material attachments and false ego, who is enthusiastic and resolute and who is indifferent to success or failure, is a worker in the mode of goodness.

But that worker who is attached to the fruits of his labor and who passionately wants to enjoy them, who is greedy, envious and impure and moved by happiness and distress, is a worker in the mode of passion.

Trust is strength of mind based entirely on firm belief. Determination is related to time. Time is not fixed, it is in flow – duration. In duration, subject to change or can vary as time passes. When displeasure causes break down of self confidence, it is caused by deep attachment. Attachment results in expectation and expectation, ignoring the change, results in making the smooth sailing in relationship hard. We expect others to keep remembering their responsibilities towards us but without least doing in return. When we expect good conduct from others, we have to reciprocate in the similar manner. It should always be remembered that nothing works in isolation. Life  is not a one way traffic. Trust once developed has to be assiduously maintained and should be kept above every other consideration.

When somebody breaches our trust then, sure enough, there would be unpredictable tremors in our lives because our emotions are involved in this. We, in our lives. with pulls and pressures of our own, get swayed – may be due to our own weaknesses or may be due to our own compulsions or contradictions. We feel cheated whenever somebody breaks our confidence or breaches our trust. Some may say, they do not feel any pain or they do not feel anything when somebody breaks our confidence but, I think, that is too much of an expectation from humans. We are having emotions which, if taken to its limits, will explode and impact our lives.

Breach of trust by a known person is simply unbearable, we lose the bond of friendship instantly. When our relationship is superficial then if somebody breaks our trust there is not much emotional upsets. But emotional investments and then breach of trust bring with it agony which may last for life span itself.

Similarly, while we reach to some understanding about a business partnership between the partners, it is made explicitly clear to stick to the charter of our agreement before starting any enterprise jointly. For the success of this enterprise, it is a must that the parties concerned remain working within the framework of the agreement reached. On the other hand, if one of the partners breaks this agreement and works unethically for taking control of the business by deceit. This is a breach of contract or agreement thus amounts to breach of trust.

In our married life too, on the eve of marriage ceremony, the priest reads out the vows the bride and the grooms have to make commitment before actual ceremony. Like sharing of responsibilities,  loving each other, filling heart with courage and strength, showering single minded pure love and devotion and looking after the children to the best of their capabilities, participation in all the sacred rituals including vows for righteous behavior, prayer to the Almighty for prosperity including sharing of good and bad times together, to fill each others heart with joy and finally to offer unflinching love and friendship including a wish that their marriage may last forever.

If anyone breaks the vows committed, then that is the breach of vows of trust made in presence of kith and kin and sacred fire. Trust is developed and firmed up after passage of time, it is not developed overnight. But when it is developed, then we have to be very careful lest a small flame may ignite and destroy the edifice constructed over a period of time. A little breach even will undo what we have aspired for and attachment just shattered. We’ve to be careful lest we go haywire and spoil what is created. If one spouse does something which is detrimental to the smooth conduct then sure enough that relationship is sure to doom. Then it is but natural that the person who is duped will feel pain.

It should never be forgotten that when have invested huge reserve of our emotions, we develop attachment and such an insincere act leaves us shattered and makes us look at everyone with suspicion. Whilst the act of betrayal is a fait accompli, one needs to take this as a learning lesson. Forgive and forget is what is recommended, but for a human being it is easier said than done. These are the bitter lessons that life teaches and one can only treat it as a bad experience, learn ones lesson and get on with life!

The Trust is breached when the time is bad. It is said that it is not the fault of others because we never take our own account in the assessment. We only blame other. The point arises why should one breach the trust. We can also say that breach of trust could be resorted to by a person who is egoistic and does not keep promises.

Though many times we felt that we are deceived or lost our trust, then also we must try to forgive people. Forgiveness is the quality inside a human being, which tends himself / herself near to God. So we must learn to forgive others, who did any mistake or breaches our trust. But if again and again the same happens, then that is done knowingly, so better to be apart from that fellow. Nothing more to elaborate, I believe all could understand my point of view. Thanks.

Yes this is akin to treachery, utter violation of faith which might lead to the sad demise of mutual trust, reciprocity, freindliness and ultimate break-up of a long relationship and parting of the ways. In a reality, this is perfidy, disloyalty and faithlessness towards the confidant.

he very first thing , though hard in such circumstances, is to analyse the reason why he or she has done it. Then one could be more careful and right in determining the next step, which should be to forget what happened and move on !

What others do or will do, we have no control on that BUT we have all the control on what we do and will do. Let anyone breach the trust in me but I should not breach the trust in myself. Trust Self






















God Almighty is the most benevolent
He sends His messengers to this planet
Who make a huge difference by their acts so filled with wisdom
And care for the general masses without caring about their own.

This messenger of God was born on 23 July 1656
To Sri Guru Har Rai & mother Sulakni ji
He was Eighth of Ten Sikh Gurus Jis’
Succeeding his illustrious father Sri Guru Rai Ji
Surprisingly being only of five years!

The youngest amongst all the Guru Sahibans
Being most gracious and softest at heart
Leaving his elder brother
Due to his collision with Mughal empire

There was an incredible incident in Gurudwara
Near Ambala at Panjokhra
A Sanskrit learnt person challenged the Guruji
To explicitly explain the Sanstrit verses from Bhagwad Gita
Lo & behold, Guruji just pointed a stick at Gangu Jheevar
An illiterate with no literacy to bank on – a total blank
Surprised everyone present
By speaking out sermons of Bhagwad Gita to the perfection.

Thence Guruji came to Delhi at Gurudwara Balaji
Where large populace came to have dharshan of Guruji
But as ill luck would have it
There was, in and around Delhi, smallpox epidemics
Guruji with his soft emotional feelings
Brimming with love for hapless populace
Took upon himself their ailment happily!

In the process became too weak to move
Refused taking any treatment for cure!
Called for five coins and a coconut for a purpose
Waved his hand three times in the air
And told that his successor be found in Bakala in Punjab
Thence he left his body at the age of seven!

He lived for others and left his mortal body for others
He advised his disciples/sangat
To respect the will of Almighty God
And praise Him and do not feel disappointed
At his untimely demise which was for hapless masses
Examples of which we find rare in the annals of history.

Gurudwara Bangla Sahib is built
Place of which was gifted by Raja of Rajesthan
After Sri Guruji, with his mystic power
Fulfilled Raja’s litmus test of recognizing
His queen amongst several ladies lining
Surprise of surprises, Guruji did this without even a moment losing

Where Guruji provided succor to epidemic stricken
And left for his ultimate journey
Though less in age as year count
Yet mature in sagacity which are reckoned
Bestowed by our Creator
May Guruji’s legacy continue inspiring us humans
Generations after generations.

GURU is a Sanskrit word meaning teacher or master or a preacher. One who is knower of religious gyan or the one who transmits wisdom to the disciples. Guru has two syllables: GU means shadows & RU who disperses. Taken together GURU is the one who removes darkness (shadow) by the light of knowledge. The Spiritual Guru or self realized master,  who is powerhouse of spiritual knowledge and enlighten the people in general and make their lives sublime, meaningful besides connecting us to our Creator. In other words,the Guru is a saintly person who enlightens the disciples with knowledge absolute and changes our lives with the enlightenment.


In Sikhism, GURU is the source of knowledge – the Temporal Lord. Sikh Gurus are very important for the Sikh religion. Here there is a strong relationship between Shishya (disciple) or student and master. The central belief of Sikhism is ONE GOD besides TEN GURUS which have been given in GURU GRANTH SAHIB (Sikh Holy Book) .

The following are the Ten Gurus of Sikhs:-

Guru Nanak Devji (1469-1539).

Guru Angadji (1504-52).

Guru Amardasji (1552-74).

Guru Ramdasji ( 1574-81).

Guru Arjan Devji (1581-1606).

Guru Har Gobindji (1606-45)

Guru Har Raiji (1630-61).

Guru Har Krishanji (1661-64).

Guru Teg Bahadurji (1675-1708).

Guru Gobind Singhji (1675-1708).


Guru Har Krishan Ji was born on 23 July 1656 at Kiratpur Sahib. He was the second son of Guru Har Rai and mother Krishan Rai. The name of the first son being Ram Rai who was disinherited due to his anti-Guru Ghar activities. He was the Eighth Guru of ten Gurus of Sikhism. He was made eighth Sikh Guru on 20th October 1664 by his father Guru Har Raiji before his death. Harkrishan ji following the principles dear to his father Guru Har Raiji.

Pandit Lal Chand challenged Guruji for Gita’s philosophy. With Guruji’s blessings an illiterate person named Chhaju Ram expounded the philosophy of G ita with ease. Due to this miracle, Pandit Lal Chand got influenced and became a true sikh.

Guru Harkrishan was of tender age of only FIVE years when he attained Guruship which is obviously an achievement in spirituality which very few attained taking into consideration the human history.

The decision of Guru Har Rai made his elder son infuriated so much so that he complained to Emperior Aurangzeb about this decision. A message was consequently conveyed to the young Guru to meet him. In the first instant, Guruji was reluctant to meet the emperor but finally decided to meet him at Delhi. Emperor wanted to test the acumen and wisdom of Guruji. He had two large trays; in one some precious ornaments, clothes and toys were kept and in other holy man’s cloak and other things were kept. These two trays were presented to Guru Harkrishan for choosing one of these. He chose the latter thus proving his holiness.

While Guru Harkrishanji was staying at Delhi, (a Gurdwara named Bangla Sahib was built where he stayed serving common masses without bias) at that time there spread an epidemic of smallpox and cholera consequent to which there were many deaths. Guruji attended these epidemic stricken people thus exposing himself to these dreaded diseases. In this way, he served the mankind without any discrimination of caste and creed and without caring for his own life – that is rarest of rare selfless service found in the annals of history.

Guru Har Rai ji passed away on 20th October 1661 thereupon despondency engulfed amongst the disciples. But Guru Harkrishan consoled his disciples and advised them to abide by the wishes of the Almighty God. He also told his disciples to sigh the praises of God and not to weep or feel despair.

Guru Harkrishan exhorted his disciples to keep have virtue of patience. He had an extraordinary ability to explain from the passages of Granth Sahib. In this way, Guru Harkrishan kept the legacy of Gurus intact. So much so he was immersed in humanitarian task that he himself was seized with high fever which turned into an attack of smallpox which resulted him to be confined to bed for many days.

While serving the suffering people from the epidemic day and night,  suddenly one day Guru Har Krishan, due to incessant assistance of the people suffering from epidemics of smallpox and cholera, he was taken ill with a fever. The fever turned out to be the beginning of an attack of smallpox symptoms, due to which he was perforce confined to bed for several days. The Guru’s tender body was deteriorated by the disease and thereafter Akalpurakh called him for fulfilling some other mission.



History of our existence
Bears strange but mystical testimony and sometimes coincidence
Which unravels to us that wisdom
Of an individual does not come
With number of years that we’ve spent
On this beautiful planet
Which provides us
Umpteenth of  bounties so indispensable
Which make our lives sustainable
For our survival
But difference between us humans
Is based on finely tuned acumen
Far sightedness and clear sightedness
With exceptionally observant properties

And with huge reservoir of humbleness
Despite impeccable personal insightfulness
Which is obtained after experiencing good and bad instances
We undergo during different life’s stages.

Or having acute mental sharpness of the exceptional order
Due to the good Karma of our past lives combined together
Indeed a spiritual tale – not easier to understand.

The miraculous narrative of Guru Har Krishan Ji
Who became 8th Sikh Guru when he was merely of five years
Is outstanding in every way
On 23 July 1656 he was born
The youngest amongst all the Gurus, so pious
But was possessing the traits
Of soft and kind heartedness
By even taking upon himself
The dreaded disease of small pox.

When challenged by a Sanskrit knowing Pandit JI
To translate and explain the verses from Bhagwat Gita
Guruji just pointed a stick to Gangu’s head
Who in turn started
Reciting verses from Bhagwad Gita, so eloquently
Making all present there abundantly
Young in years but all brimming with insights
He lived only upto the age of eight years!

The example of Vivekananda
The well-known Swami of repute
Who carved a niche for himself
And made himself eternal
With his ideas and ideals
Within a span of only 39 years
Which many of us do not do
Even after spending plus hundred years
On this beautiful earth.

Humans through their involvement gain experience, experience becomes the knowledge. Gained knowledge need not be wisdom. It is truly rare of the rarest humans who attain total wisdom through daily life experiences because in one aspect they may excel and in other one they may lack. Extraordinary humans attain knowledge without pride or losing themselves in the bargain. Their sphere of activity – oral and written get acceptance and acclaim from the masses. Besides, there is positivity in his/her words and deeds. But the uncommon knowledge and sagacity of high order does not make much difference to the person concerned. Pride does not touch that person. He/she is always humane, humble and compassionate and remains always thanks God for everything for which he/she is bestowed with.   in acceptance and endorsement get the identity of wisdom for truly uncommon knowledge. Narendranath, Swami Vivekananda, is no exception.

Evolution is a natural law. Humans face challenges, successes and failures give us experiences, in case of failure, we try again till we succeed till our goal is attained. All these cumulative struggle gives us knowledge. Gained knowledge does not mean gaining wisdom. They do not tarry by the way but even challenge the challenges that come in their paths. It is not that attaining knowledge is equivalent to attaining wisdom. There are many people who reached to the pinnacles of their glory with knowledge in different disciplines but all of them did not attain the coveted place what could be construed as wisdom. It is because there are so many instances where some attained huge reserve of know-how but could not reach the level where we could call the person concerned as sagacious. For example demon king Ravana attained erudite knowledge of Veda, Puranas, composed the Shiva Tandava Stotram and many other firsts besides being one of the best devotees of Lord Shiva from whom he got many boons. But his karma of abducting Maan Sitaji made him a villain in the eyes of the people – thus a king though having unlimited knowledge but lacking in wisdom. For him, Divine Knowledge is rather connectivity with God by enforcing his will even for getting His boons.

Extraordinary people get unconditional knowledge (with no bondage attached) through their belief in God, belief that what they attain is due to their sincere effort,  compassionate to the core, feel pain when others around him/her are afflicted in pain. Wisdom filled people love humanity besides all the creations of our Creator. Also, for a man of wisdom, Brahm Gyan or Divine Knowledge is through persistent and sincere prayers and subsequently attain connectivity and oneness with God and realize Him.




A relationship having depth of its own
An association of highest state and sincerest one
Developing deeper than self
Initially some personal hiccups
A friendship built putting brick by brick
Fixing each brick with other
With the glue of firm belief
Peppered with a lot of love for each other
Where the element of doubt is not there
When any misunderstanding creeps in without any sense

It is removed by the charming scrub of acceptance
In the form of mutual trust for each other
On the basis of give and take without any reservation
Where each other’s sentiments get appreciation

Without much fanfare and showoffs
In friendship personal desires has no place
Mutual respect for each other desires
Counts for a true and lasting likeness
Which is bereft of ill-feelings
Because friendship’s edifice stands on purity of heart

We humans are our Creators creations

Our Soul (Atma) is related with Super Soul (Parmatama)

So we can cement our eternal friendship with our Lord

Through purity in our heart

And huge amount of sincerity.

A true friend is:The person whose mind is always free from attachment, who has subdued the mind and senses, and who is free from desires, attains the supreme perfection of freedom from Karma through renunciation. BHAGWAD GITA

The Lord JESUS CHRIST gave us the definition of a true friend: “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my Jesus is the pure example of a true friend, for He laid down His life for His “friends.” What is more, anyone may become His friend by trusting in Him as his personal savior, being born again and receiving new life in Him.

In HOLY QURAN it has been mentioned: The friend who says: I am with you whether you are alive or dead’, and this is his deed.

  • The friend who says: I am with you unto the threshold of your grave and then I will leave you’, and this is his children.
  • The friend who says: I will be with you until when you die’, and this is his wealth which will belong to the inheritors when he dies.”


It is indisputable fact that friendship is a rare and exceptional relationship. Here the acquaintance is in highest rated in relationship. When we talk about just a fleeting acquaintance, we give it the definition of relationship as important relationship as friendship. A friendship is a deep relationship going deep beyond the self without reservation which is true in self and also is comfort free and there is no artificiality involved. A true friendship is pure in nature, offering support with purity in perceptions, there is no secrecy in friendship besides there is no secrecy between the two friends. Words and phrases which may harm each others  sentiments are avoided to the extent possible. There is no place for resentment or regret in true  friendship while they deal with each other. We cannot have a group of people to whom we can have true friendship but can have at least one person with whom we can have head and heart type of relationship. There is a commonality shared views and opinions.

If such was the  intensity of purity of relationship, then we can have reliability factor playing supreme in such friendship. It is also a fact that we have to share his/her likes and dislikes on the basis of give and take basis. Besides it is not a single track traffic. It is considered lasting when we trust each other fully.


During our lifetime, we come across friends with whom we develop emotional, intimate and personal relationship but are unable to open up and express our feelings when needed but may have to resent/regret throughout of entire life. Life affords us opportune moments when we accidently meet somebody with whom we develop intimate relationship which is all encompassing besides being a source of inspiration for us in bad times. In such a type of scenario, there are two ways open for us at the crunch time. Firstly to avoid opening up fearing that our opening up may not get appropriate response which we expect. Secondly, opening up at the right time may open new meaning in friendship. In the first scenario, we become wholly dejected and in the second scenario our confidence in the friendship gets thoroughly cemented. 

If the friendship is between a boy and a girl, then, if each one of them understands each other, it is in the fitness of things to confide in each other. But nothing should be done which may lead to breach of trust with each other. Rather, the friendship should be further cemented for opening up new partnership – even for affixing a permanent stamp of friendship and becoming life partners. On the other hand if we keep deep feelings in our bosom – just hesitating whether our opening up may lead to breakdown of modicum of friendship, then in that case, we may have missed the bus already and thus broken a developing and blooming kinsmanship. We may lament this thoughtlessness throughout our life.



































1. Why do some people feel pleasure seeing others in pain? 2. Why am I so depressed?

1. Why do some people feel pleasure seeing others in pain?


I don’t get it. How can you feel pleasure seeing another person suffer. Why are some people this way?


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 Best Answer:  Those who feel pleasure after seeing somebody in pain are themselves very unhappy people. They are negatively oriented, having very narrow world view, are unethical, illogical and are sadistic in nature. They earn wrath of everybody while they show negativity in all fields of activity. They earn discredit in their karma even. +

+  Pain and sufferings should not be inflicted on others intestinally or otherwise. Rather these should be shared with each other; if it is possible. We are emotionally disturbed when somebody subjects us to pain deliberately. This pain could be physical, mental or psychological. Physical pain and sufferings, experience (s) can not be shared in real sense of terms but these could be ameliorated to certain extent by lessening their effect. Sharing is in mitigation of the suffering of the sufferer(s) by word and action with a spirit of give and take. But, mental and psychological pains and sufferings of the sufferer (s) can be emotionally felt but not experienced. Experiencing and offering relief in action is sharing. Hence, if we are unable to render any help in alleviating the pains of others then at least we should not feel satisfaction and joy in inflicting pain on others or feel elated while others are suffering.  This in fact is unethical and against the principles of spiritualism.


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2. Why am I so depressed?

Hey my name is Jade i’m 14 years old (well almost) and I’ve been struggling with myself feeling down and I seem to have a loss of interest in a lot of things. I’ve been called a “deep thinker” and quiet but I don’t know what a deep thinker is. I try to keep my head up to hide that I’m feeling down, but it always seems to get me. Sometimes I cry randomly and my eyes look glassy all the time 24/7, I’ve seen the school counselor every month and he always said I look like I’m going to cry. What’s wrong with me?!

Update: And I can’t talk to my mother about it or she’ll just say “you’re not depressed” or “don’t put that dumb *** look on your face it makes you look retarded”

 Best Answer:  From the account you have mentioned, I can say  with certainty that you are a very sensitive person. But after knowing about your age, I can say with a lot of assurance that you’ve matured more than your actual age. It is rather good in a sense. Instead of worrying and being depressed, you should exploit this and devote your time and energy in positive pursuits so that you grow to be a well rounded personality. Just live the present. Do not think much about the past events nor what would transpire in the days to come. Just focus on present and do not waste your time by thinking about the negative things with regard to the future. Future would be good if the present would be good. Just outwit and outgrow your present emotions and in place of being depressed remain joyful internally. +

+It should be kept in mind that crying and feeling depressed is no solution to anything under the sun. as things stands out, it should always be remembered that nobody can make us disappoint us, till such time we allow us to do so. It is thus in the fitness of things that we introspect and resolve/determine not to be browbeaten by any event perpetrated on us by others and thus keep a balance in life. When pain or pleasure comes our way in our life, we should maintain equanimity despite downtrend in our lives.

It should never be forgotten that we are our own masters. Nobody should dictate terms to us which impinges on our lives. This is possible only when we rein in our senses and challenge the challenges which may visit in our lives. We should not allow others to control us and our thought processes in any event whatsoever.


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What is fasting and explain its benefits. Also what are religious fasts and Eid-Ul-Fitr.




Food sustains our life is an undisputed fact

Proves harmful when aimlessly taken

When taken more than our requirement of body

Forces our digestive system to work more ultimately

Producing fatty contents in excess

Than our body actually requires

Being obese is the result of excessive food consumption

Which impairs our body constitution.

Fasting is a willful restraint

From intake of food material

Giving a needed break to our digestive system

In the process regulating the body metabolism

In sync with our body’s requirements

Thus ensuring sound health & wellbeing

And live life in association with Super Being.

Fasting or not eating food for a fixed or for a per-determined period of time with a view to giving our digestive system some break or rest consequently keeping the body free of extra fats and toxins so as to focus on the job at hand without bodily interruptions besides offering prayers to our Lord with ease and peace.

In other words, fasting is intentional skipping of intake of food material, drinks or sometimes both for a fixed or sometimes for a prolonged period of time. It may be for a complete day (24 hours) from early morning to evening (dawn to dusk) or early morning on a particular day to the morning of next day. Then the fasting could be continuously or intermittent; depending on the body requirement or for the intended purpose of observance of fast as a religious tradition being followed in some religions.

While in intermittent fasting, we remain without food, for a fixed time-span and then eat at a set time but in continuous fasting we remain without food for a long period of time – say from morning to the following morning of the day or still more for more days at a stretch.

Fasting is both for regulating and energizing the body metabolism by pepping up / streamlining the digestive system so as to keep the body free of the extra fats and toxins besides keeping the body’s carbohydrates (sugar) synchronized with the need of our body. With slower and regulated metabolism, means our body organs can work for a longer period of time thus prolonging our age.

Then fasting too is undertaken as a religious observance.

Hindu fast on religious and sacred days or on the religious festivals like: Navratris, Puranmashi (Puranmashi is the full moon day in traditional Indian calendar), Ekadshi (Ekadashi is the eleventh day of both the dark and light fortnight of each month), Maha Shivratri (auspicious time for Maha Shivaratri puja activities like Fasting and prayers are performed), Ramnavmi (Fasting observed on the birthday of the Lord Ram) , Krishna Janamashthmi (fasting on the birthday of Lord Krishna) besides many other festivals connected with Demi Gods and fasts relevant to local populace of a particular locality.

The Christians skip their desire for food and instead devote time in seeking God. Meaning, the time spent on preparation of food etc could meaningfully be utilized for prayers and meditation on the Word. This fasting time could be per-determined and hunger for food could be compensated with hunger for the Lord. Jesus fasted from all food and drink. The Bible also describes some extreme times when people fasted.

The Muslims observe fasts in the month of Ramadan or Ramzan. It is a sacred month since Holy Quran was revealed in this month. The word Ramadan has been driven from the Arabic word ramaida meaning intense heat accompanied with dryness of ground. It is called so since it amounts to driving out sins with our good deeds like offering charity and keeping away or desisting from all body enjoyments etc along with intense penance by following the practice of fasting.

The word “fasting” (sawm) literally means ‘to refrain’ – means desisting from not only from food and drinks but also from unethical thoughts and actions which sully our thoughts and actions besides following all the guidance in letter and spirit enunciated in the Holy Quran. In other words, it is not merely restraint from food and drink but also our resolve as to how to control the urge of hunger and thirst besides devote ones energies on prayers thus gain spiritually. This way, the devout learn the traits of self discipline through self restraints too. The fast is broken at sunset before recitation from Holy Quran and thus being in connectivity with Allaha. The fast is broken with a sip of water and some dates.

Fasting is done as an exercise of keeping oneself away from certain activities which prevent devout from being spiritually aesthetical both physically and emotionally. Thus desisting from taking anything and keep oneself away from worldly pleasures i.e. humdrum of eating drinking or even being away from thinking about anything like lust etc and divert all the energies to prayers – five times. Having abstinence means devoting much of time and resources on charities besides prayers infuses self discipline and ushers in all round development in the individual.

Everybody may be aware about IFTAR party – a social event where fast is broken. Here meal is shared with friends and others. Free meals are also served for the general public too at this get-together.

Ramadan is more than fasting. The entire month is devoted to prayers, internal cleansing, charity etc.

  • The devout devote all his/her energies to focus on God.
  • No compromise on the practice self restraint – physical or mental.
  • Re-evaluate lives in the light of Islamic guidance.
  • Forget and forgive those who wronged.
  • Purify our lives physically and emotionally besides our thoughts and actions. A devotee thus adopts the qualities of head and heart.

Fasting helps self awareness / self enlightenment.

  • Saves a devout from distractions and create the traits associated with sincerity and simplicity.

  • Restraint helps us discipline ourselves besides a person turns inward with regular prayers.



God may bestow wisdom and resilience, in ample measure, for bringing dawn of peace, cooperation, goodwill, compassion and brotherhood among peoples of world. As we all are the creations of a single CREATOR, we should cement our love with each other and help each other meet our needs and never have ill-will for our fellow brethren.

After regular observance of fasst with devotion and piety for a period of one month during Ramadhan, devotees celebrate – Eid Day means a day of joy, a day of spreading love and affection, a day to spread fellow feeling besides a feeling of being pure after the observance of fast for one month.

Let this EID and coming EIDS be the torchbearer of our prosperity with Allaha’s Grace. Lets pray that the fervor and enthusiasm of EID remain etched in our hearts for ever and let this festival lasts for eternity with all its benefits.



Eid-ul-fitr – after the month long observance of fast,

Based entirely on article of faith,

Having purified body, soul and mind with fasting,

For the complete holy month of Ramzan / Ramadhan,

Being close to our benevolent One,

It is the anniversary on which Holy Quran

Was revealed by most revered Prophet Mohammed

Chaste in fasting without forgetting our duties,

Towards all,

Dear to us – leaving none,

Or the ones who are forlorn,

Meet their needs with utmost compassion,

Brimming with belief while performing donation,

And our heart feeling pain at others’ pain,

Thus bridging the gap that exists,

Between people of different hues,

Awash with fervor thoroughly,

Also overflowing with of empathy,

Thus generating hope for the hopeless,

Thence engendering basket-ful of goodwill,

Of fond trust,

That there will dawn as a result,

A day which binds all humanity with a holy thread,

Of oneness, and brotherhood,

Sustained and in fact enhanced.










We make ourselves slaves of our own weaknesses
Weaknesses which may push us in their web of influences

Though knowing well that such weaknesses are self-destructive
Yet we tend to do nothing  constructive

To change tamoguna tendency into sattvicguna trait

Tamoguna is the quality of imbalance or inactive

The vicious circle of events goes on, one leads  to another
still more harmful than the earlier one

We’re bereft of even an iota of awareness

Of  ‘how much is too much’ belief 
pushing us down the drain still further
till such time we get submerged totally

From where it is hard to come ou unsullied.

There still is way out from this utter confusion

A jam of chaos of our own creation

Created knowingly, perchance or influenced by situation
best course is to disentangle from this web strand by strand

With undaunted will and firm stand 
till such time we become totally free of cobwebs of weak spots

We ought to bear in mind right away

It is never too late to mend our ways

But for this to be a reality

We shall have to be adopt sincerity

Replete with goodness and purity

As our true and enduring dharma

Both in thoughts and in karma

And imprint an sattvic idea forever in our mind

It is never too late to mend

Thus rid ourselves of the weaknesses which pervades in us

And walk with head held aloft

With sufficient graces of our lord.


 We can get these bad habits with ease but once these are imbibed, it is virtually difficult to eredicate from our system. For example, if we win a in gambling, our greed for wining more such games for winning ‘some more’  if only we had exercised control in the intial stages of our bad habit, we could have not developed such a bad habit. What transpired in case of Pandavas in Mahabharta epic is a relevant lesson for us all. For winning more, the pandavas wagered their everything including the consort Dropati . Or it may be lust for sex  beyond marriage which sometimes puts us in critical situation when the same is detected at the later stage. Many of the families have been broken by this bad habit. While it is easy to fall prey to these bad habits, but difficult to erase these habits. But their consequences are really tragic ultimately.


Humans have three qualities or traits. A tendency of having balance in which goodness, constructive holistic ideals prevail besides a person lives virtuously, is in peace with himself and others around him. This is termed as sattvic tendency. It is a positive oriented quality and a person possessing this quality is upright, righteous and adjusts in any situation he/she is placed. This also symbolizes white.

Secondly, a person who posses the quality of excessive passion, is egocentric, considers himself/herself as the centre of attraction. This person is rajasvic in nature. He considers himself as self made person and wants everybody to follow him. This symbolises red or passion.

Thirdly, a person who is who is having imbalance in life, dull and inactive, ignorant besides disorder and chaos prevail. This person is tamasic in nature. He is always negative in his/her words and deeds. This sort of a person is always negative in words and deeds. This symbolizes black.


 Our endeavour should be to change our habits – turn from black to white and living our life with positive orientation. This could be done through adoption of virtuous traits by shunning negative traits and replacing these with positive traits.

Whenever a sincere realization dawns on us, we mend our ways and thus make concerted but sincere efforts in order to make the journey of our life smoother without any cobwebs on our path. For real realization to come by, it is important to understand the habits and behaviour we have imbibed – both positive and negative in the light of situation we are placed. Be that as it may, we can make our life better by endeavouring to do better than before. If on the way, we get some bad habit, we ought to proacrively exert to pin point that one and attack that habit and do everything possible to rectify the same and make it positive, first by trial and error method and subsequenty it will become a positive one. For this to be reality it is a must that we erase the drab which exists there.

It is undisputable fact that we humans are the product of our own thoughts and actions. If our actions go counter to our perceived good intentions, then, sure enough, we have to change the course of action in the light of bad results of our actions.