A relationship having depth of its own
An association of highest state and sincerest one
Developing deeper than self
Initially some personal hiccups
A friendship built putting brick by brick
Fixing each brick with other
With the glue of firm belief
Peppered with a lot of love for each other
Where the element of doubt is not there
When any misunderstanding creeps in without any sense
It is removed by the charming scrub of acceptance
In the form of mutual trust for each other
On the basis of give and take without any reservation
Where each other’s sentiments get appreciation
Without much fanfare and showoffs
In friendship personal desires has no place
Mutual respect for each other desires
Counts for a true and lasting likeness
Which is bereft of ill-feelings
Because friendship’s edifice stands on purity of heart
We humans are our Creators creations
Our Soul (Atma) is related with Super Soul (Parmatama)
So we can cement our eternal friendship with our Lord
Through purity in our heart
And huge amount of sincerity.
A true friend is:The person whose mind is always free from attachment, who has subdued the mind and senses, and who is free from desires, attains the supreme perfection of freedom from Karma through renunciation. BHAGWAD GITA
The Lord JESUS CHRIST gave us the definition of a true friend: “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my Jesus is the pure example of a true friend, for He laid down His life for His “friends.” What is more, anyone may become His friend by trusting in Him as his personal savior, being born again and receiving new life in Him.
In HOLY QURAN it has been mentioned: The friend who says: I am with you whether you are alive or dead’, and this is his deed.
- The friend who says: I am with you unto the threshold of your grave and then I will leave you’, and this is his children.
- The friend who says: I will be with you until when you die’, and this is his wealth which will belong to the inheritors when he dies.”
FRIENDSHIP & NEED TO EXPRESS OUR LIKING FOR OTHERS
It is indisputable fact that friendship is a rare and exceptional relationship. Here the acquaintance is in highest rated in relationship. When we talk about just a fleeting acquaintance, we give it the definition of relationship as important relationship as friendship. A friendship is a deep relationship going deep beyond the self without reservation which is true in self and also is comfort free and there is no artificiality involved. A true friendship is pure in nature, offering support with purity in perceptions, there is no secrecy in friendship besides there is no secrecy between the two friends. Words and phrases which may harm each other’s sentiments are avoided to the extent possible. There is no place for resentment or regret in true friendship while they deal with each other. We cannot have a group of people to whom we can have true friendship but can have at least one person with whom we can have ‘head and heart’ type of relationship. There is a commonality shared views and opinions.
If such was the intensity of purity of relationship, then we can have reliability factor playing supreme in such friendship. It is also a fact that we have to share his/her likes and dislikes on the basis of give and take basis. Besides it is not a single track traffic. It is considered lasting when we trust each other fully.
SHOULD NOT WE SAY TO OUR FRIENDS AND WELL WISHERS WHATEVER IS THERE IN OUR MIND?
During our lifetime, we come across friends with whom we develop emotional, intimate and personal relationship but are unable to open up and express our feelings when needed but may have to resent/regret throughout of entire life. Life affords us opportune moments when we accidently meet somebody with whom we develop intimate relationship which is all encompassing besides being a source of inspiration for us in bad times. In such a type of scenario, there are two ways open for us at the crunch time. Firstly to avoid opening up fearing that our opening up may not get appropriate response which we expect. Secondly, opening up at the right time may open new meaning in friendship. In the first scenario, we become wholly dejected and in the second scenario our confidence in the friendship gets thoroughly cemented.
If the friendship is between a boy and a girl, then, if each one of them understands each other, it is in the fitness of things to confide in each other. But nothing should be done which may lead to breach of trust with each other. Rather, the friendship should be further cemented for opening up new partnership – even for affixing a permanent stamp of friendship and becoming life partners. On the other hand if we keep deep feelings in our bosom – just hesitating whether our opening up may lead to breakdown of modicum of friendship, then in that case, we may have missed the bus already and thus broken a developing and blooming kinsmanship. We may lament this thoughtlessness throughout our life.