A love where we prefer losing
A love which is not demanding
A love which knows only sacrificing

A love which gives joy in giving
A love which teaches us ethical and moral values of living
A love which is beyond any suspicion

A love which paints everyone with humane touch
A love which gives a sublime attitude a gentle push
A love which has Divine grace for its success under all conditions.
A love which dies not at all
A love which broadens its base without bias
A love which gives lasting synergy even in bad state.

A love which cares not for caste, color or creed
A love which excels in every way we feel
A love which kindles trust amongst soul-mates.

A love which is eternal and supremely magical
A love which is not theatrical
A love which is God sent and not mechanical.

A love which asks nothing in return
A love which burns all suspicions in turn
A love where differences get resolved on the basis of trust.

A love which cares not, even if the ultimate result is supreme sacrifice
A love which showers only fragrance

A love which emanates from our inner self.

A love which remains unaffected as time passes doubtlessly
A love wherein even slippery time puts its indelible stamp of its immortality
A love we would like to quote for its sacredness oftenly.

Loving  others is synonymous with cementing relationship

But loving one’s own self is easily said than done

As love is a very sensitive and unconditional

It has to be pure and sincerity attached

The person concerned should also be pure in all manifestations

Purity in thoughts, habits and actions

Person concerned has to rid dross and impurities

Cleansing all the negativities from the system

By imbibing spirituality as the way of living

Thus associating our Creator with everything done or undone

As self love has sacredness attached with it

It can make residency in the heart

Of a person who is sacred in nature.

“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Gautama Buddha

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.” – Mother Teresa

“What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things, instead of using people and loving things.” – author unknown


Loving our own self is hard since it is easily said than done since we do no know about own self including our mistakes, weaknesses, negative outlooks, besides we are not self aware . Loving ourselves becomes reality only when we cleanse the dross that is there in our system. We can insinuate and criticise others for their faults or flaws along with give them pience of advice for overhaulting their way of thinking. Behaving and attitude but it is much difficult to do so in ones personal life.

For self loving the following steps could be assiduously followed so as to insulate ourselves from the outer influences which tarnish ourselves. If these steps are taken sincerely, we can keep ourselves away from flaws and cleanse our system.


We have to ourselves close the gaping holes in our personality in order to improve ourselves. Others may know us only through our interactions with them. The gaping holes could be plugged by our self analysis about the plus and minces that lies in us. These minces could be converted by us by following right path. We have seen how a rocket follows its assigned course if all its internal systems are functional in its enterity. A slight malfunctioning of minutest part (even nuts and bolts) means rocket deviates from its assigned trajectory and complete mission fails. On the similar lines, our body constitution functions. All systems should work in tendem and for that we’ve to make sincere effort to cure the fault and go with the life’s pulls and pressures. Self worth could only be known if all the parameters are functional to the perfection. Knowing our self worth also includes how much we can change the lives of others around us – in coming to their rescue whenever required. It hardly means one is able to influence things in our favour only.


Second step is to be sure about what we can do both for ourselves and for others despite impediments which come in our path for a forward movement. A person who is self conscious does not want to do anything which may harm others’ interests. In that if that person will have to withstand any diverse situation he/she will go to any length. A self aware person is also very spiritually awakened individual with a most compassionate outlook on life.


We should have firm belief that when nothing works, spiritual ity works wonders for us. Being spiritual signifies living a life bereft of attachment towards material possessions therebygiving more credence to religious values. Spiritual life means living in higher levels of consciousness with the usuage of meditation and other related tools like yogic practices. Spiritually inclined person connects with god, is more near to nature besides being self aware becomes double whamy. This way the person concerned establishes a balance in mind, body and soul. Spirituality leads to eternal vitality and graces us with peace, tolerance besides patience in all situations in which we are placed.  A person who leads a spiritual related life may experience hardship in the initial stages of life, but ultimately with the passage of time hardships just evaporate in the thin air and gives place to eternal peace – despite ups and downs that life brings forth.

Bhagwat Gita states: The person who remains alike in pain and pleasure and remains unaffected and does not get disturbed by sense objects becomes eligible for emancipation.

It goes to show those who are spiritual are peaceful, very quiet, gentle and have equanimity in both happiness and sadness. There may be hard times but in that situation even they will celebrate their religious functions with enthusiasm and zest. Those who live according to spiritual  ordained life will have resilience in day to day actions. Doubtlessly those who have suffered eternal misery do possess eternal  vitality.

Systematic and proactive following the spiritually rich knowledge given in different religious texts help cleanse the grey areas of inherent knowhow  and help remove the misconceptions we nurture during interaction with our fellow beings. Thus the treasure of spiritual knowledge from different sources assists us in focusing and utilizing our energies for getting eternal benefits while performing our day-to-day routine duties.   All these give fillip to our inner potentials besides giving us self belief.


In life we interact each other and during this process, we something antagonise others with our words and deeds. Other times, there is ego clash resulting in breakdown of relationship. A person of solid character does not lose himself/herself in the bargain thus does not desist even for saying sorry for the lapse. This way that person clears the air for proper relationship to flourish.


In our lives, we come across various types of people with different outlook in life. People who may focus more on the negative aspects or are recycling / immersed on their past events on which they hardly any control or may be unduly worried about the things to come in unforseeable future. In their quest for anticipation of future, they lose focus on the present moment which is within their reach and could be locked for action. Meaning they remain gropping in the past and future and hence are in quandary as to what to be done to restructure their state of mind and thereby their life. For this to become reality, we have to first of all be self critic – roadmap of what to be done and what to be avoided have to be devised and then followed very strictly will surely realize our dream.


We come across people who are filled with negativity. No amount of persuation or advice will change their mindset. They are hauty, stubborn, and above all pigheaded. Their single point agenda is to spread the spectre of negativity wheresoever they put their foot. We should maintain a healthy distance from them. Our company influences us a lot. In the company of gamblers, we cannot be called as noble souls.


It has been observed that sometimes we do something which we do not intend to do. By doing so, instead of creating goodwill, we give hadle to others to critize us on the matters on which we are not responsible at all. Care and caution have to be exereicse in such contingencies lest somebody is taking undue advantage at our cost. We shouold stand our ground when there is need for it and not get swayed by emotions and harm our reputation.

Our karma according to our capability and not to put ourselves in too much pressure. Life should be taken as a festival and should be lived as such.

If we bite more than what we can digest, then sure enough  we would be putting ourselves in difficult situation.


Evidently, we are the product of what we transact – good or not so good. We can feign to be good while it is otherwise in real sense of terms because that can be found out sooner than later. Therefore, we have to devise our character by exercising control on our mind and thereby form thoughts, habits and attitudes accordingly.


It has been seen that those who use their time judiciously and productively do not come to grief any time. In this respect, the adage ‘an empty brain is devil’s workshop’ sounds good. By remaining doing one thing or other keeps our mind pre-occupied and we do not get any time for negative diversions.  Iron is rusted when kept idle for sometime but a used one could last for any period of time is the another example similar is the case with us.


We should always thanks god for everything that he has blessed us with. By doing so, we establish our link with our creator and do everything in association with him. By doing so our path for self love would be established with the ultimate indelible stamp of god.


Know thyself first. The first and formost thing is to know yourself before you delve into spirituality.

Have belief. Self beiief is a must. If you just recite some prayer, have belief that it is being reeived by your creator. Mind you, our creator is very benevolent, if you put one step, he will put ten to reach you. Sure enough, do it practically and see the difference.

Make your prayer very simple. Do not utter high sounding or high profile mantras / prayers. What he appreciates is your sincerity in prayer and not the complexity which may confuse you and as well as your creator.

Never doubt. Kindly do not doubt whether your prayer is being heard or not. It will certainly be heard if you believe that you are honest in your prayer.

Time. It is not that you will get result very soon. It may take sometime. Our lord wants to test us that how long and how much you can seek him and see he always is there with you while you are seeking him.

When in peace. Remember whenever you are at peace with yourself, it means our lord is with you.

Love others as you love yourself. Never hate others.

Shun ego and proceed further in life.

 be compassionate towards others.



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5 thoughts on “ON SELF LOVE”

  1. Love to others is easy but loving one own self is difficult because it depends on various parameters to be covered before one is considered to be a candidate for the same. Kindly appraise the blog and comment I love your comments. Regards

  2. very systematically and beautifully have you laid down and described the importance and ways to self love. Some times I feel we can spend the whole life in inculcating the valuable thoughts, habits and trying to pursue these ideal ways yet not reach the desired goal but then a journey too is worth while. An enlightening post.

    1. Madam, thanks sincerely for your kind words. Inspiring comments indeed. Path to attain our desired goal is made easy by our sincere efforts only. Regards

  3. As profound and insightful as ever, Harbans. Self awareness takes a lifetime. An example of my own learning has been that I always find it easier to say Yes than No; this sometimes needs to be reversed.

    1. My sincere thanks for your inspirational comments. Self awareness is a bit tricky one but our simple and sincere way of thinking and action thereof can make it possible.

      This is also one of the traits of a person to agree to disagree gently in order to avoid any controversy. I think to say ‘yes’ when ‘no’ will cause problem is better option. A person with SELF AWARENESS will do that sir.

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