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IMPORTANCE OF ADAGE: SELF HELP IS THE BEST SORT OF HELP

18 Nov
IMPORTANCE OF ADAGE: SELF HELP IS THE BEST SORT OF HELP

IMPORTANCE OF ADAGE: SELF HELP IS THE BEST SORT OF HELP

SELF HELP

The Karma or action we take in hand initially

Success of our efforts really

Depends on the focus attention

We put on the job taken for fructification

With a fond aspiration and expectation

That our efforts will pay dividends ultimately

When we pay undivided concentration we put sincerely

When our efforts are rewarded with success

We get inspiration to move ahead with more vigor

But when we aspirations do not meet our expectations

Failure does not deter us from trying again against all odds

Take on the task head on with still more energy

Till our objective is achieved finally

The practice that we attain

In our sincere attempts

We make give us experiences

To face life’s challenges

And also with it, a wholesome satisfaction

That we’ve succeeded with our own potential

And, of course, with the bountiful graces of our Creator

Wherein nobody can pull us down

And we can walk with our heads held high

For none but you are in charge of your action or inaction

None but you’ll bear the brunt for skewed actions

And feeling of immense ecstasy for successful action completion.

 

SELF HELP IS THE BEST SORT OF HELP

The importance of the adage: Self help is the best sort of help actually dawned on me when one of my friends who had rendered help to me reminded me of this, but while doing so, he broke the dictum; our left hand should not know what our right hand does. Even as he was saying so, he sounded very insulting and almost abusive about the assistance he had provided when I was in need of his help. Although, time permitting and with God’s grace, I should have accomplished that task myself without his assistance but that is a different ball game altogether. I least mean by this that we should not take somebody else’s assistance, but should be very selective while taking the same lest the person concerned breaches our trust and take  cudgels in front of others! This way a thin line of trust just evaporates in thin air.

It has been proven beyond any stretch of doubt that self help is the best sort of help. God has given us the faculities and inner potentials to tide over the situation in the best possible way we can, if we sincerely try. What and how much we can achieve with self help is evident from some examples in the history. Great men achieved great things firstly with their own grit and determination and subsequently associated all others provided there was a need.

Self help could be of use if we possess self determination, believe in our inner potentials besides practical experiences in variety of topics which we confront on daily basis. It is not that we can be specialist in all the areas, but the things we can do ourselves based on  our capabilities and sincere efforts could pull us out from the quagmire. Sometimes we may fail due to quirk of luck or sometimes due to our own mistakes.

SELF HELP AND HELP FROM OUR CLOSE CONFIDANTS

In the event of any work experience deficiency or imperfection in practice, if conventional wisdom is any guide, we can take the assistance of our close confidants / nears and dears including our spouse – who are likely to be impacted on fructification of a task and whose destinies are closely knit with our own.  Or better still, now a days, goods and services, including knowledge/know how of any sort could be procured online and other sources on payment basis, therefore, relying on relatively unfamiliar person or unreliable person of suspect nature / atitude is of no use. This is to avoid any future embarrassment which may impact our self esteem and that too for a task we can do on our own!            

SELF HELP BY THE BODY OF PERSONS/CITIZENS TO BUILD UP A COUNTRY

Essentially, self help is not merely limited or related to individual(s). Self help could be in relation to a country and its people. Their steadfast resolve and determination in the face of dire natural emergencies or other impediments pull them out of emergent situations. For instance, if a country is in need of hardware / software for improvement of its information technology or when a country is not self reliant in weaponry, that country could be blackmailed into submission by the countries having the same by not supplying the needed war materials when there is emergent need. If that country has become self sufficient to an extent, it could manage its affairs with aplomb. In this self help is of immense help.

In India, who can forget the Bengal famine of 1943 when four million people lost their lives due to hunger owing to shortage of food. The hoarders were also responsible for this disaster. Subsequently, during 1967 to 1978 concerted efforts were made to increase the farm area, double cropping practice gained currency, use of fertilizer besides use of seeds with high yield. Thus self help of Indians as a unit helped the country to gain self sufficiency in food. Now, besides meeting its requirements, India is exporting food grains to other countries!

Who does not know the shining example of Holland now Netherland. This is indicative of the fact that there is no limit to our achievement, if we have resolute will power and sense of purpose. The people of this country have shown what people unitedly could achieve provided they have willingness to achieve. Most of the area of this country has been claimed from the sea i.e. It is man-made. The self help story of Holland masses is based on the love/hate relationship that they had with the sea water –  being 7 metres at the lowest point. The people, with their self help attitude and expertise, protected themselves from the sea. This shining example shows us how self help could help not merely on individual basis but on country basis too. This also proves that with firm conviction, even hardest tasks could be accomplished!

SELF HELP COULD BRING ABOUT HUGE DIVIDENDS WITH POSITIVE COOPERATION FROM OTHERS

It is also a practical reality that living demands relationships. For fulfillment of our needs, we essentially require others contribution(s) in order to fulfill various goals of our life – may be on the basis of give and take or on the basis of payment for others’ services. Human nature is to seek information from variety of sources. This may be in the form of knowledge (it may be academic or spiritual, training in some skill development 0to improve our productivity and capability. In all these, our individual sincere efforts in gaining know-how counts much.

Looking after oneself is our prime responsibility, others assistance, if needed comes later on. We help others due to our personal understanding, out of love and empathy. But helping others to win brownie points is not logically correct.

FOR SELF HELP IS OF USE DUE TO FOLLOWING FACTORS:-

 

  • Self help could save us from future blushes.

 

  • It enhances self belief.

 

  • It enhances our self esteem.

 

  • It could provide us opportunity to undergo variety   of practical experiences – both failure and success.

 

  • WHEN STUCK, WE CAN AVAIL SOMEBODY ELSE’S EXPERTISE FOR THE FULFILLMENT OF OUR GOAL – OUR EGO SHOULD NOT COME IN THE WAY FOR THIS.

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5 Comments

Posted by on November 18, 2016 in Inner Thoughts

 

5 responses to “IMPORTANCE OF ADAGE: SELF HELP IS THE BEST SORT OF HELP

  1. Harbans

    November 18, 2016 at 5:48 am

    Doubtlessly, things can change for better if we are having self belief and belief on our Creator. By doing so, we can use the vast reservoir of inner potential that is present in all of us and this will infuse a spirit of self reliance and self confidence. Do go through the write up and comment. Regards

     
  2. derrickjknight

    November 18, 2016 at 7:17 am

    My career in the helping professions – Social Work and Therapeutic Counselling – was based on helping people to help themselves – not doing things for them or telling them what to do. All that is rather out of favour now

     
    • Harbans

      November 18, 2016 at 8:41 am

      Yes sir, now a day’s whatever is done is for personal gains – selfishness is attached with anything and everything now. A pitiable state of affairs. My sincere thanks for your, straight from the heart comments. Gracious of you. Regards

       
  3. maureenjenner

    November 21, 2016 at 11:10 am

    My grandmother always said, “When you need help most, look to the hands at the ends of your own arms.”

     
    • Harbans

      November 22, 2016 at 2:20 am

      Thanks for appraising the blog and adding the quote from your grandmother madam – a wisdom filled quote indeed. Our own arms will not betray us anywhere and anytime.

       
 
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