In essence, spoken words are impressionable in varieties of ways. Pleasant words spoken after due deliberation and with utmost care and caution, speak volumes about a personality. These are indicative of our unassuming nature, humbleness which mirrors the value system we’ve imbibed during our upbringing. Soft spoken and persuasive words can change the course of our life or good. Then the modulation or moderate accent emitting positivity makes huge difference.

According to scriptural truth, there are five organs of action – tongue for conveying our thoughts in the form of speech or spoken words, hand and legs for motor actions, organ of excretion and primary sex organs or genitals. The first one, tongue is used for conveying through speech what we want to say. What we say through the medium of tongue; which if not controlled or reined in can put us in trouble. Uncontrolled tongue could be for rumour mongering and character assassination. Most of the troubles could be attributed to uncontrolled use of tongue.

In Bhagwad Gita it has been said: Although one may conquer all of the other senses, as long as the tongue is not conquered it cannot be said that one has controlled his senses. However, if one is able to control the tongue, then one is understood to be in full control of all the senses.

Many a families could be saved from being split with proper use of language and its style of speaking. Words spoken by Spiritual Leader in the form of lectures on scriptures and other life impacting experiences could transform our life not only spiritually and change our way of thinking – for better results.  What we eat reflects on our thoughts and actions. The consumption of intoxicants creates attributes of violent feelings or Tamsic traits therefore in order to imbibe good attributes it is necessary to take pure vegetarian diet for creation of Sattvic traits.

During election times, politicians of various parties deliver speeches and promise people various things if voted to power. But after getting power, speeches made and promises made to the people are woefully forgotten. These speeches could be termed as the sins of tongue. The speeches made by the use of harsh words, hurting abuses, tall talk, spinning out falsehood by way of promises.

Humans are endowed with power of discrimination. What to be spoken, what not to be spoken, what to be eaten and what not to be depends on our own sweet will. Meaning, our effort should be to speak with objectivity. Every time we speak something which has direct bearing on our life should be introspected thoroughly otherwise concerned person would be embroiled into controversies; words spoken cannot be retrieved. It is just like a fired bullet which after it is fired cannot be taken back.

Words spoken, having double meaning, work like double edged sword, prove counterproductive and could worsen our relationship for which these are intended. Many married couples separate, seemingly because of prickly words between the couples; proving many a families could escape severance of relationship if proper use of language is done. Tongue control, is therefore, an important element in adjustment in life.

Then when relations are on the verge of breaking, there is still a flicker of hope for rapprochement but this could be done mainly by following  the principles of forgiving and forgetting thereby following correct perspective. By adopting this attitude, a way out could be found for patch up  and stitch back the tattered relationships.  For this, words spoken with complete watchfulness, makes a huge difference in life.

There was a case of bombing in Delhi, wherein due to

  1. Backbiting. Some people subject others to backbiting impacting adversely their place in the society with pure lies sometimes.

In Holy  Quran it has been said:  Do not backbite each other, would any of you wish to eat the flesh of your dead brother, no rather you hate it!

  1. Unnecessary criticism. We subject others to vocal unethical and moral criticism for fulfilling our own self-seeking rationale.
  1. False witness. In many of the cases pending in the court of law, we must have observed that there are the false witnesses on the basis of lies and falsehood on oath. Many a times people who has not committed any crime get embroiled in cases which they have not done at all.
  1. Abuse somebody. Many a times we must have observed people abusing others, who cannot pay the person concerned, in the same coin because of his/her weakness financially or muscle power.
  2. Tall Talking. There are the people, who for strengthening their own agenda, will go to any limits in talking tall purportly thereby to browbeat others and silence their sane voices. 
  3. Sweet Words spoken to hide facts. It is like sugar coated bitter pills which when taken tastes sweets better for a while but afterwards its impact is felt when sugar gets exhausted.

In Holy Bible it has been mentioned: If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.”

  1. Sound speech or good words are not exaggerated words. Sound speech is to remove confusion and not to create still more of it.
  1. Spiritualism and control of tongue. We can exercise control over of our speech if we learn to live according to the principles enshrined in scriptures.

It has been mentioned in Sri Guru Granth Sahib  He, who utters the True (Naam), is pure of tongue : He attains to the True Door……………


Karma is the action done or an act performed which starts with the intention of doing an act. This action or deed is having some intended purpose behind it. A good intention in speech and the action thereof (actually spoken words) lead to sound action. Contrarily,  ill-intention leads to bad action (unethical). In both the cases, we are the actors who play our parts in variety of manners. It should also be remembered that when our objective is sincere and honourable, then, sure enough, the result thereof will also be good (ethical).  Both of these mannerisms (good or bad) have consequences on our present and future lives. In other words, our present life has direct bearing  from the past karma we have done but one thing is certain these karmic affects are independent of any outside influences. The law of karma operates nonetheless; we want it or not. All this is true for the spoken words and the action thereof.


We are good or bad according to the use of our tongue and for this our thoughts and actions count. If we try to desist from intending or executing any act, then we can escape from its consequences. Otherwise, we’ve to put up with the results of our action. It should never be forgotten that pure thinking leads to pure actions or karma. It should also not be forgotten that our desire to speak, choosing the occasion to speak and right speech, in essence, play an important role in our life and karma thereof. If we exert control over our senses by reining in our mind, then we can be our own masters.

But it should never be forgotten that between the two (good and bad speech) karma intended and untended – we have unintentional karmic actions, an action which we just execute just compelled by the circumstances or situation. What is the consequence thereof? Here the intervention of providence or God comes.

From the above, it could be concluded that we should try to control our tongue in order to escape from the consequences of our spoken words. It could be construed as karma of spoken words. As we speak so we get. If we speak gently, we get the gentle response. Sound intentioned speech can change the outlook of our life and ill-conceived, even unintentional words can bring us misery.





Maha Shivratri is celebrated on Krishna Paksha Chaturdashi in the month of Phalguna as per Hindu calendar which is in the month of February. This is an annual feature which is celebrated with great enthusiasm and reverence. This is the holiest day since this day is associated with the sacred marriage of Lord Shiva and Lordess Parvati (the daughter of Himalaya) – in fact coming together of Shiva & Shakti.

It is pertinent to mention the background as to how Shiva and Parvati had their first meeting. Parvati had seen Shiva while she was only eight years old. She formed an opinion that she will marry him only when she grows up while he was in a meditative trance. When she grew up, she told her father (Himavan) that she wanted to marry Shiva but he always remained in meditative consciousness. She was also fully determined to make him realize her love for him. She used to take leaves only and after a while, she left eating anything and thereafter even drinking water. Then finding the suitable opportunity, her father made mention about the state of health of his daughter to Shiva.

Mysticism of it all is that Shiva wanted to test her love for him still more. He went to her in the form of a handsome young man and asked her why she wanted to marry Shiva who, more often than not, remains in a meditative trance and always remains in the cremation grounds amongst ghosts etc with ash smeared on his body. He offered himself to marry her. Parvati straight away refused to marry him and was adamant that she will marry Shiva only and no one else. This way, he came back to his old form and asked Parvati for a boon. She asked Shiva to marry her.

Shivaratri means the night of Shiva. On this day devotees observe the strict fast and keep themselves awake during the night time, immersed in Lord’s prayers for deriving maximum benefits out of these sacred rituals.

Shivratari Lord Shiva’s most favorite day/night. When the earth was created, Shakti (Lordess Parvati) asked Shiva which day was the dearest and favorite one for Him. Shiva replied that 14th night of the new moon in the month of Phalguna was most pleasing to Him. Parvati thus repeated these words amidst the company of friends and others and thus the word spread far and wide to the multitudes and since then this day is being celebrated with great adoration.

Maha Shivratri is associated with the marriage of Shiva and Shakti. The devotees (Bhakta) know the significance of this day since it is very dear to Lord SHIVA. On this day, the devotees in different age groups (young & old) take the early bath in some sacred rivers like Ganga, Yamuna etc and offer prayer (pooja) in temples and also make offerings of bel patra and other leaves including berries also pour water on the Shiva Linga. Before washing the Lingum (the symbol of Lord Shiva) with utmost reverence with milk, ghee, honey, rose water etc people chant mantras. As Lord Shiva is known for His austere living he likes simple things and simple offerings in the form of herbs and leaves for pleasing Him. Devout perform prayers with immense pleasure and devotion.

There is also another legend attached to this day. At the time of the churning of the sea by the Godheads and the Demons (Rakshas) there surfaced a vessel full of poison amongst other enchanting objects like Kamdhenu (Wish-fulfilling cow, white horse, white elephant, Kalpavriksha (Wish-fulfilling tree), Lakshmi (Goddess of wealth), Dhanvantri (Divine Physician) and finally the vessel of Amrita (nectar). To save the world from the devastating effects of poison, Lord Shiva consumed the pot of poison and kept the same in his throat with his Yogic Powers and that is why

He is also called NEELKANTHA or Blue Throated with immense reverence. By doing so, LORD SHIVA saved the world from being annihilated.


SHIVA OR SIVA means ‘that what is not’ or which is beyond anything or everything. It is comparable to the nothingness of vast cosmos/nothingness of space with galaxies, planets, etc. That which is propitious, pure, simple, gracious, benevolent and full of beauty. In Vedic scriptures/literature, Shiva also connotes liberation or emancipation. He is the auspicious deity who is creator, reproducer, and destroyer of the forces of negativism and darkness. Shaivism also represents beliefs and practices of Hinduism. Shiva is not affected by three Gunas (Sattva, Rajas, and Tamas). He is called Supreme Lord. He is a great Yogi. One who is beyond any limit of appreciation – nothingness which can absorb anything and everything.


A great Yogi who gave us Yoga and method of living – living as mystic  Yogi but not oblivious of the family bondings. His contribution as a recluse and the householder is the phenomenon and cannot simply be ignored. The complexity of His traits as a deity cannot be comprehended if we do not delve deep into his life. In the earlier years, he used to wander in the Himalayan region and subsequently an ascetic who is always absorbed in Yogic meditation. This was proved right when the barat (marriage party) was received. Strange as it looked: Shiva as a groom, rode a bull, with matted hair, ash smeared all over the body, was a part of koupina or loincloth., a garland of bones and skulls, as usual, a trident in one hand and damru (drum) in the other hand.. There was the beating of drums and the mixed sound of trumpets – a terrific sound indeed. Amongst the baratis Marriage party) were Gods and Demi-Gods Not to speak of this, his marriage barati’s consisted of the ganas, ghosts and other strange and fearful witches, vampires etc. The marriage receiving party



We always say him in meditative posture – completely immersed in contemplation. He is Yogi with a difference who could be termed as the deity who could be pleased with bel patra and fruits. Simple sincere prayer can earn His bounties – that is why He is called as Bhole Shankar.


When Shiva is provoked beyond a limit, when He was in trance, as was done by Cupid or Kamadeva,  He opened His third eye and reduced him to ashes in a fit of anger.

There are 12 Jyotirlingas (Lingas of Light) which are held sacred by the devotees. They offer prayers at these holy places.

Devout chant Mantra OM NAMON SHIVAYE and also Maha Mrityunjaya Mantra to get special benefits since this day falls in the most appropriate planetary positions in the Northern hemisphere; helps devotee raise his / her spiritual energy vigorously. The prayers are answered if these are done with sincerity. This day is also celebrated because on this night Shiva performed His cosmic dance (Tandava). This dance was enjoyed even by other Godheads.

Lord Shiva’s abode is mount Kailasha. He bearer of sacred river Ganga on his head besides a serpent named Vasuki. His devotee Nandi is the carrier of Lord Shiva.

In Shiv Purana, it has been mentioned that Shiva prayers should be done in the following manner to get maximum benefit:-

  1. SHIV LINGA. Shiva means auspiciousness and lingam means a symbol and when put together it means: ‘a symbol of the great God of the universe who is all-auspicious’. It also means ‘the One in whom the whole of creation sleeps after dissolution. The worship of Shiva in the form of Longa is most prominent. It represents as a symbol God Himself. Shiva lingam is to be bathed in water, milk, and honey. For purification of these, bel patra should also be added. Vermilion paste represents virtue, after bathing the Shiva Linga with water, honey, curd etc with utmost devotion vermilion paste is applied on it.
  2. Natural fruits like berries are very dear to the Lord, hence these are offered. Fruits are also the sign of fulfillment of our desires and hence should be offered.
  3. Forgetting His grace and bounties offerings when dhoop (incense) is ritualistically burnt give maximum benefits.
  4. The lamp is lighted. The lamp symbolizes knowledge and wisdom and keeps away our ignorance. If this is lighted with devotion and offered to the Lord, we can derive maximum benefits.
  5. Finally, betel leaves are offered which symbioses the satiation of our worldly desires besides keeping our spiritual onward march intact.


It is important to know the attributes of Lord Shiva which are depicted variously as: benevolent, pious with huge reserves of compassion, easy to be pleased, honourable, delightful with brilliance, innocent, easy to be pleased, invincible, having huge prowess, fearful or ferocious when hugely provoked, Wrathful, violent and dangerous, destructive, autistic (Yogi Raj).


Shiv-shakti Shiv is called Kala (the eternal time) and Parvati the consort of Shiv is also called Kali meaning ‘Time’ or ‘death’ (two mixed together means the ‘time has come’). Various people worship Shakti or Kali represents the feminine force whereas Shiva is the masculine force along with the power of peace.


Lord Shiva has two aspects. Firstly as an ascetic (Yogi) shown meditating and also as a householder – having family performing the dual functions wonderfully well. He has a consort named Parvati (the daughter of King Himalaya). The family consisted of the following:-

(a) Parvati. She is the Consort of Shiva, variously described as, Shakti (Divine Energy), Devi, Divine Mother along with Goddess Tripura Sundari, Durga, Minakshi, Kamakshi etc. She is also identified with Nature, creative energy, Ardhanarishvara (dynamic extension of Shiva without whom Shiva is incomplete.

(b) Ganesha.  Ganesha is the deity in a human form but with the head of an elephant which represents the power of the Supreme Being that removes obstacles. .He was created out of  the remains of smut from the body of Parvati and further infused life into it. He is worshipped with great devotion, before starting any prayer or starting any business or new job His name is taken. He is said to the remover of Lord of removal of obstacles (vegan Karta), Lord of beginning. No Yagna or any ritual is incomplete without beginning with prayers to Lord Ganesha.

(c) Kartikeya. He was assigned with the responsibility of protecting the Gods and Demi-Gods. He is worshipped in South India by various names such as Murugan, Subramanya, Shanmugan and in North India as Skanda and Kartikeya.

(d) Ashok Sundari. While Parvati felt very lonely, she created Ashok Sundari from a tree to remove her monotony and loneliness because Shiva remained in meditation most of the time.

(e) Manasa Devi. She is considered kind to the devotees who worship her. Due to her bad temper and unhappy disposition, Mansa was rejected by Lord Shiva. She is termed as the goddess of snakes and worshipped in North India. She is also described as the destroyer of poison.

(f) Ayyappan. In the incarnation of Lord Vishnu as a woman named Mohini, Lord Shiva was charmed by her beauty and through the union of the two Ayyappan was born. He is specially worshipped in South India.

(g) Then there are other children of Lord Shiva named Andaka and Jalandhar and Mangala.


Names of Lord Shiva. According to Shiva Purana, there are 1008 names of Lord Shiva. Some of these are given below:-


There is a description in the Puranic period that Lord Shiva is also termed as the Lord of Dance or Eternal Dancer. The two most renowned dances are Tandava (which is the powerful and masculine dance) and is associated with the destruction while Lasya which is very graceful and exhibits delicacy of emotions and is attributed to Parvati and associated with creation. Both destruction and creation are the important factors in the universe and the world at large.


Represents the form of Shiva Murti facing South. This represents aspects as a teacher of yoga, music, and wisdom.


It represents the combination of two; Shiva and Shakti (Parvati) depicting half male (Shiva) and half female (Parvati). It is due to the fact that Lord Shiva was hugely pleased by the austere traits of Parvati and granted her the boon of becoming part of his body.

Tripurantaka. In this Lord Shiva is depicted with four arms having bow and arrow in the at of destroying Demon named Tripura.

AVATARS OF SHIVA. In the description, in Linga Purana there are 28 forms of Shiva. Hanuman is known as Rudra Avtar (Rudra is a name of Shiva) as eleventh Avatar.

Ashutosh – One who fulfills wills.
Akshayaguna – With limitless attributes.
Anantadrishti – With an unrivalled vision.
Bholenath – One who is benevolent.
Bhooteshwara – one who is Lord of ghosts.
Bhudeva – One who is Lord of Earth
Mahadeva – Greatest God
Devadeva – Lord of the Lords
Gurudeva – Lord of all
Ingaraja – Lord of Lingas
Vishveshwara – One who is the Lord of Universe.


There are 12 Jyotirlingas (Lingas of Light) which are held sacred by the devotee. They offer prayers at these holy places. These are mentioned below:

  1. Somnath ( Lord of the Nectar of Knowledge)
    2. Nageshwar or Nagnath (Lord of 5 headed snake):
    3. Kedarnath ( Lord of Kedar):
    4.Vishwanath ( Lord of the Universe), Banaras-UP:
    5.Mahakaleswar ( The Lord of Death) Ujjain, MP:
    6. Amaleshwar (Lord of Purity) : Lord Shiva the purifier of all sins.
    7. Trayambkeshwar ( Lord of Third Eye ), Maharashtra:
    8. Ghrishneshwar (Lord of Positive Energy obtained from Churning of divine Knowledge), Maharashtra:
    9. Vaidyanathan (Lord of Vaidya/Ayurveda), Maharashtra:
    10. Bheemashankar (Mighty & Powerful Lord), Maharashtra:
    11. Mallikarjun ( Lord ), Andhra Pradesh:
    12. Rameshwaram (Ram worshiping Lord Shiva), Tamilnadu:

It has been observed that this earth and what it contains, the universe and all that it possesses (the sun, the moon, countless stars, etc) are the wonders which have been created by our Creator. These are created only by some SUPREME BEING to whom we can feel if we have the right attitude and all the other fine-tuned attributes like love, trust, etc. He has fathered us for a purpose and it is our duty to fulfill the assigned tasks in whatever way we can – by helping those who are not able to help themselves, doing good to others, forgiving others’ follies etc.

I consider religion as a pathway to reach to our Creator, it may be any religion to that matter. One thing that binds us together is that our requirement(s) are the same. He has given His precious bounties like air, water and other the gifts of nature without any bias. Let us thank Him in our own way suiting us for connectivity with the Source and living a life full of peace and happiness.





MAHA SHIVRATRI is the Pious Night
The Great Night of Shiva – our most loved Godhead
When Shiva & Parvati got united in sacred marriage
Exchanged solemn promises to uphold the principles of togetherness
Recollecting this, we pray the Bhole Shankar & Mother Divine,
And seek oneness of self with that of Divine

Thenceforth Divine Couple appeared in the form Ardhanarishwa

Thus complementing each other

As Shiva and Shakti to bless us all

Lord Shiva is one of the Godheads amongst the Trinity,
Lord Brahma – the Creator,
Remains absorbed in His domain of Creation,
Lord Vishnu – the Preserver,
Keeps His Lotus hands-on Preservation.
And the venerable Lord of all Lords,
With healthy mix of potencies & benevolence,
Enjoys esteemed place in realm of Godheads,
With the power to cause destruction,
Dissolving or destroying for fresh creation,
On the premise, if end is not there then there is no fresh beginning
A golden chance of our soul’s cleansing

Shiva is known variously by 1008 names according to Shiv Purana
Mahadeva, Maheshwara, Ardnarishwara,
Devadeva, Gurudeva, Lingaraja, Natraja, et al.
In fact Vishveshwara – One who is the Lord of Universe.

During churning of ocean by Gods & Demons together,
He swallows a pot full of poison which came out with their joint effort,
Thus saved the living beings & universe from its destructive effect,
And kept this high potency poison in his throat (kantha),
And Shiva is thus called Neelkantha
He is also known for His benevolence
Can be pleased with utmost ease
Thus bestowing soothing balm to troubled souls.

The Lord is too found in Phallic Symbol of Linga.
In this form, He is the Centrifugal Force of the Universe,
And is mix of the simplest
And most complex amongst all the deities.
Mass of curly hair, crescent tucked into it,
The Mighty Ganges flowing out from His piled hair.
With trident representing true virtues,
Coiled serpent named Vasuki signifying Kundalini,
The immense spiritual energy within,
Two sided drum (Damroo) drumming rhythmically,
Enchants everyone including other Deities magically
Simplest in His manifestation
Immersed in His Yogic mystic meditation.

With ash smeared all over the body,
Wearing Rudraksha beads round his neck and arms,
He is the Lord whose grace could be had with ease,
Differentiates not at all between demons or sages,
While bestowing His graces,
Demon King Ravana was His most likable devotee,
Whosoever invoked Him with sincere love and piety,
Becomes a candidate for His bounty,
The Omniscient & Omnipotent Yogi’s abode is Mount Kailash,
Where He dwells with our Divine Mother Parvati,
And sons Ganesha & Kartikeya – the greatest in their own right,
Lord Ganesha for His troubleshooting,
And Lord Kartikeya for demon conquering,
His Cosmic Dance is second to none,
By this Cosmic Dance, all the Gods & Demi-Gods get enthralled.

Behold still, when immensely provoked by callous acts,
Opens His Third Eye – a ferocious one
And annihilates the evil doers
Kama Deva, the God of Love got reprisal when he provoked
Shiva when He was in deep meditation and met his end.

We rejoice this occasion and seek His Ultimate blessings
with immensity of reverence in our inner recesses of being
For our spiritual health and inner peace


Are girls attracted to weird guys or something?(As asked by a youth).

Are girls attracted to weird guys or something?


Now I’m not the best looking guy ever like I would probably count as ugly or whatever but anyways girls always seem to be attracted to me for reasons I have not the slightest idea.

I don’t get it I’m like super weird guy who does crazy stuff I’m now a college drop out with probably the worst hair,super pale, green eyes and my height is just stupid I’m 6’2′-6’4′ and still growing.


Best Answer:  First of all you have seemingly indicated all your negative traits which goes to show your positive characteristics which are given as under (which I think is the magnetism with which you attract the girls):-

(a) You know yourself fully and do not shy in expressing yourself; that is the reason that the opposite sex likes you.

(b) You are not a person who says something but acts just opposite – you are upright in what you are which is found rare in today’s youth.

(c) Some people are uglier from their inner self but feign to be pure from outside – they always reflect their true selves after sometimes after they come in contact with others.

(d) Your height in any way is not any impediment in your attraction.

All the above qualities are suiting and hence should not be construed as negative ones but you should be proud of all these bounties which Lord have bestowed with and thank Him for everything else too including and that is why girls ‘seem to be attracted towards you.


Attraction or repulsion by anybody is an individualistic phenomenon. There are the people who are people who get attracted towards the persons with following traits:-


  1. Look of the person is not the only consideration. There are the persons, though are not so good looking, yet, have personal magnetism due to their positive outlook. They create such a sphere of positive influence with which they attract both the sexes with aplomb by making good their outward look by their positive attitude.


  1. With rich family background. It has been seen that some people are lured by the showy demeanor or outer-ward  pump and show. This way they hoodwink people by hiding their real self under the veneer of falsehood; especially the girls get swayed by the false promises and outer show. My intention of writing this, in any way, is not to brand all rich people with dual personality but to show cautionary note. 


  1. With genteel outlook. It has been observed that we can hardly hide our true nature. It could be feigned for sometime but not all the time as truth cannot be hidden for long. It is revealed after sometimes. Then consequences would be disastrous. Here girls are no exception they too are attracted towards those with good manners.


  1. With strong inner strength. A person with inner strength is not subjugated by any defeatist tendencies. That person is faces failures and successes with equanimity; thus he has such a magnetism that pulls everybody towards him – girls no exception because humans as a whole gets attracted to truth in the end.


  1. With reasoning mentality. People with sensible mentality will always be fair in their attitude and could be amenable to the changing time and state of affairs. Those girls who are rational themselves in their attitude, in general, get attracted towards likeminded personalities.


From the above it could well be concluded that while we all want to have a good lifestyle, here, but we should not forget that generally speaking we should not get attracted by the ostentatious way of life. A life lived with undemanding  style of living or subsistence makes a huge difference to us. Simple living and high thinking is the best one which everybody should aspire for and live for a peaceful and joyful living.  



Saint Valentine gave  us a new meaning to LOVE. Following poem and description is for your appraisal.


A love from where we prefer losing everything
A true love which is not at demanding
A love which knows only sacrificing

A love which is universal in nature.

A love which gives joy while we are giving
A love which teaches us profusely ethical & moral methods of living
A love which is bereft of any sort of suspecting.

A love which paints everyone with humane touch
A love which gives a sublime love a gentle thrust
A love which has sufficient Divine grace for its sustenance.
A love which dies not at all,
A love which broadens its base without bias
A love which gives synergy for its prolonged existence.

A love which cares not for caste, color or creed
A love which excels in every way we feel
A love which kindles trust amongst soul-mates.

A love which is eternal and indeed magical
A love which is not even a bit theatrical
A love which is not at all mechanical.

A love which asks nothing in return
A love which burns all suspicions in turn
A love where differences get resolved on the basis of trust.

A love which cares not, even if the ultimate result is supreme sacrifice
A love which showers only fragrance

A love which emanates from our inner self.

A love which remains unaffected as time passes doubtlessly
A love wherein even slippery time puts its indelible stamp of its immortality
A love we would like to quote for its sacredness oftenly.

Thus cleansing the polluted air around,
Spreading goodwill for all without doubt

Suffering  pain for the love-mate without even a slightest moan.
Like the Love of Saint Valentine,

A Catholic Bishop of Terni

In Roman Empire
Who for love’s sake attained martyrdom,
For solemnizing marriage secretly,
Of condemned soldiers,
For whom marriage was a bar
Under the Roman Empire’s law
And marrying those forbidden once to marry,
Attracted the Saint’s imprisonment,
And ultimately martyrdom.

While in the condemned cell of a prison,
With his miraculous touch he cured the daughter of the jail warden,
Saint Valentine sent out a farewell letter,
With words so eternal in nature,

“From your Valentine”,

These words have become a grand brand,
Presently for us all to express to our love one,
With a huge sprinkle of pride,
Mixed with a huge smile,
Lasting for good in our imagination,
And in real life too, we live with complete affirmation
That love binds us & bestows us God’s eternal compassion.


Valentine’s Day is celebrated on 14th February every year. There is a very popular account that a Christian Saint was imprisoned and prosecuted under the Roman Law for solemnizing the marriage ceremony of soldiers who were not allowed to marry. Saint Valentinus performed the marriage of these soldiers and broke the Roman Law. There is also a legend that while being in the prison; he healed the daughter of the jailer named Asterius.

Legend has it that before he was to be beheaded he wrote a letter finally signing as: YOUR VALENTINE to bid final adieu.

For expression of love for our soul-mate, it is a important that we fulfill all the ingredients which are needed. such as; our intention and attention that we pay in expression of our sincere love, synergy in that love, willingness that may spring from our inner self, etc. It is also a must that we’ve full trust on our soul-mate.

For love to be effective, it is a must that we develop an initial belief or trust that we are ready to have a right friend, with traits in agreement with ours to shower love and affection. If one finds friend of his/her liking, it is equivalent to love of our Lord. This love of the Infinite Absolute Lord facilitates us humans to distribute this love to others with whom we come in contact with. His eternal love also solves many of our own problems concerning love.

A love of a soul-mate is unique in nature, the person with whom we want to develop friendship, we have to accept him/her wholly – with all weaknesses and strong points. True love transcends all boundaries, all differences based on colour, creed, caste etc. It is pure and simple love. No questions asked about anything else.

There are two ways of finding an appropriate life partner; firstly love at first sight and secondly somebody arranges the same and he/she could be termed as the our life-partner (this is termed as arrange marriage, where marriages happen according to Hindu religious beliefs; where Vedic Mantras/Hymns are chanted, by taking seven vows around the fire with seven promises made by both the partners). Or there may be other customs and traditions in other religions for marriage.

Anyway, we can have true and sacred love with our soul-mate with basic premise of  following parameters:-

(a) Trust each other without any strings attached.

(b) We should exhibit emotional maturity while ironing out differences.

(c) Take her/him to the inner recesses of your heart and feel that he/she remains in your imagination though he/she may not be physically present with you.

(d) Thinking about him/her may evoke a feeling of joy and sometimes you may skip a heartbeat for your partner.

(e) Creating a strong affinity with the soul-mate of yours even in his/her absence.

(f) Sharing joys or sorrows together, good and bad situations, etc.

(g) Not to hide anything from your partner so as to develop indelible impression of friendship.

(h) We should forget and forgive each others mistakes which may creep in sometimes.

Love has many manifestations. When one is immersed in it, he/she gets everything in losing everything even the most precious one for us. While we take love as a God’s gift, love gifts us many things in return too. This return gift is all encompassing – a saintly feeling for us all. We do not care for our life, if that is at stake for earning the gift of love. We want losing everything including making supreme sacrifice for gaining the ultimate LOVE.

May this day usher in indelible love to us all and removes doubts and differences from us all in fact without biases and live happily.






It has been observed that whenever we attend religious discourses or congregations, our intention evidently is to get spiritual benefits thereof. Many a times, some of us feel seemingly very disappointed when we are not able to understand the intricate discourses / sermons which are being given by learned preachers. This to say the least is a sorry state of affairs.

The objective of writing on this topic dawned on me, a few days before, when I liberty to ask, just casually, to one of the  ladies co-passengers as to where they had gone. He replied that they had gone to a Satsang on Bhagwat Gita (A discourse on Bhagwat Gita). When I asked what he actually learned from the said discourse/lecture, he mentioned that it was sermon on Karma. Subsequently, I again queried him as to what does Karma stand for? He was felt confused and could not reply clearly. The others too could not explain exactly what Karma meant in real sense of terms. I introspected, what was the purpose of the visit to the discourses when they could not get what they intended! Why waste time in such discourses when nothing tangible is attained?

Then a question popped in my mind, what was the purpose of attending sermons when we are not clear about what the preacher intended to preach.The preachers have, it is worthwhile to mention, they’ll have to be more thoughtful and should not take the audiences for granted or consider them as erudite / knowledgeable. Their (preachers’) main responsibility is to think the audiences/ seekers as the greenhorns who are to be imparted proper lessons for better results. It should always be noted that they (audiences) should feel a difference after they come out of the place of religious discourses and not go out with more confusion. The task of the preacher is bit  complicated but if put to practice in right earnest could make difference to the audiences enlightenment / insight.

Under such scenario, it is evident that till such time we are clear about the information being imparted through different lectures, the real import or purpose of the same will not be realized by us. Then question arises, should not the discourses given at the congregations be meaningful, concise being being simple so that it could be understood by every devotee irrespective of qualifications or experiences gained over a period of time.

Axiomatically, attend the congregations simply to garner knowledge so as to get spiritual awakening and every sermon should make difference and clear our path for our deliverance. But if instead of clearing cobwebs / contradictions it tends to make us more confused, then, sure enough, we would be where we started after covering so long a distance and wasting our precious time by attending each congregations but with no fruitful results!

A person who intends to increase his/her know-how about spiritualism but fails to get what that person wants then whole  the exercise of discourses gets defeated. I think preachers should keep the following points into consideration while giving the same:-

(a)One subject at a time should be covered. There are preachers, who while delivering lecture on a particular subject, just skip to another subject without clearly explaining the subject matter being dealt with, start discourse on other one and then another; which certainly confuses the audiences. They are neither here nor there – in total puzzled state of mind hence a wastage of time and effort.

(b Language used should be simple to comprehend. If intricate language  is used, as given in the scriptures, then the same should be clarified by using simple language, sentences and phrases, if possible, in the language the audiences could understand fully.

(c) Clarifications to be offered if and when required. If clarification is asked by audience, then, surely it should be given  voluntarily even during ongoing discourse, without reservation or without standing on ceremony.  Or alternatively, the same could be individually clarified to the individual concerned after the end of programme.

Importantly, no formal qualification is required for a seeker / devotee for connecting with God. It is also a fact that those giving discourses must have gone through different training sessions, intense penance over a period of to make themselves able to deliver lectures. It is because learning the discourses from religious scriptures requires a lot of effort should be  accurate and to be point. Otherwise the purpose of lecture gets defeated. They should keep in mind that they are delivering lecture(s) to the mixed lots – educated, semi-educated and ignorant ones etc. They should give their lectures in such a way which could be understood by all irrespective of their education attainments including standing in society etc. The audiences or the seekers should also have eagerness to learn.

It should be kept in mind that our Creator is omnipotent and omniscient and He knows our inner feelings/emotions. Therefore, no formal qualification or experience is required to establish connectivity with Him. He requires our love only in simple form. Even entering into a religious and registering in the religious place is sufficient.  It goes to show that God accepts all the prayers which are done with pure heart and for that qualification or no qualification is a must.

Conclusively, it could be said that learning anything is interplay of keen audiences and compassionate preachers besides understanding between them as learner and expert lecturer is a must. Here formal qualifications of the learner though bestow some benefits yet is not everything in order to establish connectivity with our Creator. The relationship of preachers (Gurus) and the audiences (devotees) are akin to teachers and their pupils and have the stamp of devoutness.