PROMISES MADE AND FULFILLED
It is a proven reality
As stark as a day
Nothing works in isolation indeed
Since with cooperation, we succeed
For that we take others assistance
Sometimes from our nears and dears ones
And other times from rank outsiders
To carry us through
In thick and thin
By fulfilling sincere promises made with others
This way we pay back the way we take from others in sincerity
And make good the promises made earnestly
In the fixed period of time, as undertaken
Thus fructifying the promises made
Thus putting an indelible stamp of our honesty
Which carries us through in whatever venture we put our hands on.
If promises are broken
Then the sacredness of our pledge goes bust
Then main casualty is the trust
Between the parties concerned
And fact remains,trust once broken is never retrieved
Like glass-ware into piece broken
Cannot be united again.
ON PROMISES MADE TO BE KEPT
First of all, when we pledge somebody for something, it means we give our genuine word for fructification of that promise with all the sincerity at our command. The promise given maybe for meeting somebody’s urgent need, here timeline for fulfilling that promise may also be kept in mind. Promise is not only with others but also with individual himself/herself too. It may be for maintaining sound health and well-being by observing cogent and well-meaning health rules as diet control; need for regular exercise to keep our body healthy on daily basis and need for spiritual forward march and principles to be followed on daily basis. For all these to be fructified, we extract a promise from ourselves for all round development; physical, mental and spiritual. In other words, promises could be used in general sense as well.
The need of writing this write up arose when one of my known friends could not pay the money on time as promised resulted in verbal duet firstly, then a permanent friction between the two families finally court case thereafter.
Sometimes I feel dismayed by the behavior of some of known or even rank strangers when it comes to carrying out promises. It may be innocently made promises to friends and well wishers but also well meaning promises impinging / impacting on our lives of many besides affecting emotions on the long run.
BIBLE STRESSES US TO FULFILL PROMISE: If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth.
PROMISES TO BE MADE WITH OTHERS
We can make promises to be fulfilled so that others trust us and the business of this world as a whole functions. For instance, we take loan from banks or other individuals to meet our emergent needs and for that we promise to repay that loan within a fixed time-frame. If we are unable to comply with these promises, it results in various upshots according to the terms and conditions of the loan formalities. When promises are not made good to pay back, as promised, then we’ve to face the music. This happened in case of business tycoon Vijay Mallya, who duped the Banks and did not pay back the loan to the tune of Rs. 9000 Crores and fled the country.
The need for writing this write up also necessitated when I came to know the truth about reneged promise which can doom the life of a family.
There is a couple in our locality had three sons already besides one daughter but with the birth of fifth issue, it was becoming difficult for the couple to make both ends meet besides meeting expenditure on schooling etc. Also, with no source of income other than income from a small tea stall.
This couple, out of necessity, approached a renowned and venerated priest to help them find a suitable couple who could adopt their son as their own so that somebody from a good family background could bring up their fifth progeny as their own. At the same time, the couple solemnly promised in front of the priest and congregation that they will not have any right on their son after they have lawfully handed over their son to the suitable couple.
Afterwards, a suitable couple was shortlisted by the priest. This couple is honest, very religious, compassionate and known for their broad mindedness besides were not having any issue of their own since their marriage.
It so happened that I had some commitment in one of the sections in our organization, both the employees there, otherwise very good-mannered, dedicated and committed ones, were reluctant to talk to me; leave aside welcoming me to their office. When I insisted about the cause of their predicament, they were reluctant to come out with their elucidation. I imagined that something serious has transpired.
On my persistence about the real reason about their dilemma, one of them informed me that the baby which was legally adopted by other employee has been taken away from him. This has come like a bolt from blue for him and his wife has not recovered from the shock till now. This couple had developed a very good rapport with the small baby with daily routines– feeding, cleaning the baby and other related jobs of a toddler.
Seemed clearly as though all the worries and disappointments had descended on the doorsteps on this couple lock stock and barrel. It is simply because the other couple had reneged from the promise made amongst the people of the community but also in front of God’s Altar besides legal formalities undertaken. This very cultured and thoughtful couple did not bat even an eye when they were informed that the mother of the baby had not slept for many days since the time legal adoption formalities were completed and may have unpredictable consequences if the child is not handed over to them. The child was returned back!
The above incident proves that we should either not make any promise or if a promise is made it should be kept come what may.
IN BHAGWAD LORD KRISHANA PROMISES TO HELP SUCH PERSONS WHO: Always think of Me and become My devotee. Worship Me and offer your homage unto Me. Thus you will come to Me without fail. I promise you this because you are My very dear friend.
PROMISES AMONGST THE MEMBERS OF HOUSEHOLD
While performing our day to day affairs in our home and hearth, although, we do not have written formal statement of intent yet only informal or unwritten understanding, purely on mutual trust and sound passion work naturally between the members of the families. Fulfillment of the unwritten promises is on the top of agenda and is considered as a sacred duty of each of the family member of traditional family life and if it is not done then anybody can hazard a guess the fate of that family! Muck and stink, if any ought to be settled in the family court of family under the supervision of elder in the family to get promises satisfactorily fulfilled.
Guru Gobind Singh gave the instructions: He should not break his vows or any other promise he makes nor commit perjury or treachery.
DETENTES OR PROMISES BETWEEN NATIONS
The affairs of the world can only be possible with promises to be made good. Starting from our home turf where we make promises, try fulfilling taking into cognizance the concern they have for their blood wellbeing between relations. When promises are made not due to one reason or another they try out different strategies in order that the rapport and relationship flourish. For instance, yesterday, I extracted a promise from my grand-daughter to follow some norms of good behavior like; respect your elders/older members, observe all the principles to be a good citizen, to study regularly not only the books prescribed to pass an examination but also which enhances general awareness. I extracted a firm promise from her that she will fulfill all the promises to the book. If and when some difficulties she will come back to me, she mentioned with a smile.
Country’s affairs with other country; promises are made and fulfilled. The lowest point in two countries’ happen when promises made in the form of détente between countries are not acted upon. A country which breaks international understanding and laws are ostracized by the countries in the formal institution and nobody trusts that country which does not act as per laid down norms of international behaviour. Even United Nation Organisation too works on the principles of its Charter which all the peoples of the United Nations have to agree viz; to save the generations from the scourge of war and to reaffirm faith in fundamental human rights, dignity and worth of the humans etc.
In Holy Quran it has been emphasized: Yea, whoever fulfills his promise and guards (against evil) – then surely Allah loves those who guard (against evil).
UNDERSTANDING BETWEEN COMPANIES
It has been said that a promise is an declaration of an individual’s firm intention – doubtlessly simple, a pure and sincere effort. In this sincere effort with full knowledge that a promise is being made to be fructified come what may. If It were no so, then the very idea giving our word defeated. But when intent of fulfilling promises is merely a show then I think that promise is partly due to our ego masquerading as false nobility, I reckon, may not see the light of the day since it is made on flimsy footings.
Then we can promise somebody, sanctified by God’s presence as a vow for fulfillment.
The following points should be kept in mind:-
- Promises once made should be made good.
- Breached promises leads to breach in trust. Trust once lost is difficult to be regained.
- We could be isolated and nobody believes us if we break our promises.
- In our family lives too there is unwritten agreements or understandings between the members of family and ought to be complied for overall health and welfare of the family.
- The business atmosphere is enhanced if we fulfill our promises by paying the dues, as undertaken.
- Vows once made should be obeyed. It is our sacred duty.