HAPPY NEW YEAR NEW – MAY 2018 DAWNS BRINING ABOUT POSITIVE CHANGE IN ALL. EXPERIENCES OF YEAR JUST PASSED AND RESOLUTIONS FOR NEW YEAR

HAPPY NEW YEAR NEW – MAY 2018 DAWNS BRINING ABOUT POSITIVE CHANGE IN ALL.

 EXPERIENCES OF YEAR JUST PASSED AND RESOLUTIONS FOR NEW YEAR

HAPPY NEW YEAR

The year that passed

Was the year which gave

Us enough of shreds of evidence

For the things

Which will take place

In the New Year – 2018

In the year that has just passed

There were good tidings that happened

And there were not so good things

Which impacted us as humans

Our soul-mates were killed

By the groups with inhuman belief

That they are superior

To others

In one facet or another

Though in the process

Such thoughtless beings will surely get punishment

Either by assigned to law enforcement

If caught in the net laid down

If not, then by the Omnipotent and Omniscient.

My sincerest prayer for our Creator

For the New Year 2018

Is that we ought to become conscious

Of each others’ conditions

And do not trade threats

And counter-threats

Which come in the way of happy and blissful living

As the creations of our common Creator

Wishing that we live in the spirit of amity

Under the care of our Almighty

Wishing you all 2018 as a grand year

Full of happiness and prosperity.

The year that passed was very promising in many ways than one. It started on a positive note, as anticipated, ended on a positive note – giving credence to the assertion, expect good and get good. The fact remains and always that it is not always that we shall get positive results but need is to have optimism to turn negative results into positive ones simply with self-effort with sincerity along with belief on our God. It is our common experience that when times are apposite, we consider ourselves on the seventh-heaven and when we opposite, we just plunge abysmally into the abbess of our own making.  

The following are some of the lessons which I got partly through my interactions with others and partly through knowledge garnered from others.

SMALL THINGS TAKEN TOGETHER CAN MAKE HUGE DIFFERENCE

Whenever we take into account little but reasonably significant things seriously then, sure enough, we can make a huge difference in life. Some of these are mentioned below:-

• THANKSGIVING. Whatever we are and whatever we have got is due to the blessings of our God. By doing so, we are opening a window of opportunity for new vistas in life which are owing to the grace of God. Our physical, mental and relationship with others too are subject to all-around wellbeing. These too are possible due to His blessings. Every moment given us to breathe and live in appropriate atmospherics is also due to HIS BOUNTIES. Therefore, we have to thank Him for everything.
• FORGIVING AND FORGETTING. Our relationship with others is important for us since we cannot transact all our functions in isolation. Therefore, whenever we experience any difference, it should not be allowed to deteriorate any further in the spirit of forgiving and forgetting. In this way, many of relations could be saved.
• GIVING MAKES US HAPPY. If we meet somebody’s need, it gives us satiety thereby makes us happy. We cannot compensate for anything under the sun.
• SMILE AND THE WORLD WILL SMILE AT YOU. This should never be forgotten; if you smile, everybody will smile with you and if you weep, you weep alone.
• LEARN TO SAY SORRY. We, as humans, tend to do commit some mistake unintentionally, thereby creating a misunderstanding between others. This results in animosity between even the fast friends. If we take recourse to say four-letter word SORRY, matters could lead to unpredictable consequences.
• WHEN NOTHING WORKS ACCEPTANCE IS THE BEST COURSE. There are occasions when all our sincere and best efforts are not enough to acquire the intended results, in that case, the only option left with us is acceptance. Otherwise, we may fall into the web of our own creation leading to more unacceptable contradictions.
• PROCRASTINATION IS BAD HABIT. There are the people who are in the habit of putting off things thereby reaching a stage where retrieval is not possible. Therefore, the best course is to solve the contentious issue then and there.
• SEEK GOD WHEN ALONE. When in solitude, we can seek our God with sincerity. As we two are alone, our connectivity would surely be there.
• WHEN NOTHING WORKS, SILENCE WORKS BETTER. It should never be forgotten that nobody has ever won an argument or talking without mincing any words. Many of our differences in the families and friends could be solved when we tend to be silent when our point of view in words is not understood despite repeated try.
• IGNORANCE SHOULD BE REMOVED. We should always be the student throughout of life. We can learn anything from anybody and anywhere. It should always be remembered that ignorance is synonymous with darkness and may pull us down anytime anywhere.

LIVING ON THE EDGE

We all want to have our intended job transacted immediately but in this sort of a hurry, we just forget our own security or anticipate impending danger(s) that may come anytime. Hence our approach should be to scrutinize all angles or parameters and take corrective steps or course correction. While traveling in a bus, I observed that people were hurriedly climbing and alighting the bus without caring for their security. I saw a person hastily climbing down from the bus while it slowed a bit before the bus stop was run over by a vehicle which was coming from the same direction at a speed. He had to be taken to the hospital.

CREATING EMERGENCIES FOR OURSELVES AND THEIR ADVERSE IMPLICATIONS

In our lives, many times, we remain to postpone things. May it be getting our body checked for any disease on experiencing `some clues or symptom. Or not sticking to the time schedule for catching a flight or rail journey and hurrying for these without thinking that there may be several hindrances on the way – traffic jams due to one reason or another. Similar is the case with not stick to the time schedule on fructification of any project in hand. The proper time-planning should have made difference. Think of a predicament when one is not able to reach one’s destination because he/she had not made concerted efforts taking into account the element of time which moves on thereby creating emergencies for ourselves and unnecessary stress and strain.

FOR CLEANLINESS TO BE EFFECTIVE, WE’VE TO REMOVE THE POLLUTION (PRADOOSHAN) FROM OUR MIND

Arguably, it could be rightly said that the polluted mind is dangerous not only for the person concerned but also for the people around him. We always keep our body, mind, and soul untainted/unstained. A small black spot can sully our character. It should never be forgotten that what we earn with our sincere effort will just be lost if we lose our character. It is earned with a lot of difficulties but lost just in a second. I know one of my best friends who has earned name and fame for himself including a happy family. Once he could not keep control over the unreasonable temptation thus losing his everything in the bargain.

NATURE (PRAKRITI) IS A GREAT TEACHER IF WE CARE TO LEARN FROM IT

Nature is anything or everything that is not man-made/ inartificial. Essentially, if we understand nature and its working then we shall understand more than from any formal or informal teachings. Here everything is natural – may be created by the intervention of Super Natural Power.  Natural environment includes all living and non-living elements and their utilization in the day to day lives. The three elements of nature Sun (which gives energy), Air (which we breathe without which we cannot survive) and Water (used variously by humans besides drinking).

Besides, the entire ecology works as a natural system which includes all the flora and fauna, rocks, soil and what is contained in it. It also includes environment and all the natural phenomenon and material/physical phenomenon. Natural environment includes all living and non-living elements and their utilization in the day to day lives.

Then there are universal natural resources which do not have clear demarcation such as air, water, energy, climate, light, electric charge, giving out of radiation, magnetic field etc.

The meaning of Prakriti refers to everything that is included in nature which gives shape and form as pure energy. When we spoil the Nature or Prakriti, it is termed as vikriti. When we spoil the natural balances by our acts of omissions and commissions then it does not pardon and retaliates in its own way.

Prakriti is associated with female power and Purusha represents masculinity is associated with Lord Shiva. When both work in tandem there is a balance which is essential for all. 

We can learn much from each of the elements of nature:-

• The Sun (Aditya). The Sun is a vast source of energy. We are exploiting its energy variously in the day to day lives without which our survival is not possible. It teaches us a huge lesson. Despite giving life force, it does not browbeat the other natural elements such as cloud which has got its own function. When the cloud comes in the way of sun, it does not force its way but provides a thin ray of light to the black-cloud making the cloud presentable.

There is a wonderful lesson from this for us humans. Rather than showcasing our ego at every given opportunity, we should be accommodative and supportive of others’ efforts. We worship the Sun through Surya Namushakar (Paying respect) to thank it for the services it renders to the living and non-living beings with OM ADITYA AYE NAMON.

• The Moon (Shashi/Chand). While we compare somebody’s beauty, especially female’s, we compare her with charm and beauty of the moon. Its various forms, full moon, half moon, semi-circular forms are really tempting to say the least. Poets and thinkers have written treasures of literature on the beauty and its cool nature despite all the disturbance that happened in the areas around it. Who does not enjoy the moonlit night? It too exerts influences on the oceanic tides and further tidal force of the Moon is more than that of the Sun.

This should also serve as a lesson to us humans that remaining cool like the Moon hardly means that it cannot have its influence when needed. We should just be like the Moon – remain cool but when the crunch comes just display your power without being too much showy.

• The Ocean (Samundar). The oceans are the huge source of livelihood for the humans and sea life in its bosom. There is more than 71% of water on the surface of the earth in the forms of lakes, rivers, ponds and other water bodies but oceans contain a huge chunk in it. It influences the climates, causes rain, provides us sea-foods, helps in navigation etc. The sea water when dried becomes the source of salt for us.

It too remains cool when not disturbed but could be vengeful if its natural balance is disturbed. In recent times, due to the phenomenon of rising in temperature, due to human omissions and commissions, the sea level is rising due to the melting of snow in Antarctica. Alas, if this continues, a day is not far when it could have disastrous consequences.

• The Mountains (Parbats). The snow-clad mountains present a beauty of its own. All the big and small rivers are formed due to the water from melting of snow and become the source of water to the habitations on their banks including the animals and plants.

Lessons from the mountains. The mountains withstand blizzards and another natural phenomenon including the burden of huge snow which falls on these but remain erect despite all these. We as humans too should remain undeterred by the challenges in our lives. 

• Forests (Jangals). The forests provide natural sanctuaries to the animals and birds. The forest cover keeps a balance in nature. The humans due to its greed are cutting forests partly for habitation and partly for meeting various needs thus spoiling the healthy balance in nature.

The forests give everything to all the living beings but only want that its forest cover should be protected and new plants should be planted if and when some are cut for use. Otherwise, all will have to feel its heat if the forests are cut in large numbers.

In fact all the constituents of nature follow its own laws and anybody flouting is punished by it.

THOSE WHO ASPIRE TO become PERFECTIONIST END UP BECOMING STRESSFUL

I have met people who aspire to be perfectionists in their work. There may be some who are perfect but I did not have the chance of meeting such people and therefore, I am nursing with the notion that only our God is perfect. We all try and reach our goal through our since hard work and perseverance. Sometimes, we are unsuccessful but try again and reach the milestone we set to achieve. 

I had the privilege of meeting an old friend of mine who wanted to be perfect in whatever he wanted to do – over-ambitious indeed. He had everything that he wanted through his hard work; established his business, money, the position he wanted and everything that a most successful person would like to acquire. But during this effort to reach the pinnacle of success, he had got stress-related diseases.

Lessons from the above:-

• Perfection is good enough, no doubt in that, but it should not be at the cost of our health.
• If health is lost for the fructification of our ambition then we shall not be able to enjoy the fruits of that success.
• Learning from the mistakes and making these mistakes as stepping stone for success, of course without carrying the baggage of mistakes along, makes huge difference. 

WHEN OUR INTENTION (MANSHA) IS SINCERE EVERYTHING FALLS IN PLACE

It has been experienced that when our intention is pure and simple, God will certainly come to our succor and our efforts will bear bountiful fruits. It should never be forgotten that honesty, sincerity, belief on self and indomitable belief on our God/Bhagwan Ji/Creator/Lord/Allah or Super Soul will pull us out in whatever we intend to do.

SINCERE INTROSPECTION MAKES HUGE DIFFERENCE

We must have observed that whatever we want to tell others, we must sincerely analyze the contentious issues threadbare, taking into account the pros and cons and subsequently reach to a conclusive end result.  This way, we shall not face any impediments on the way, no heart burns, no ill-will, no disharmony and finally regrets whatsoever.

In the year 2018, I shall try to sincerely follow the following besides the things which come on my way:-

• Remaining calm in emergencies.
• Leading a spiritually oriented life.
• Unlearning some bad habit and not to start any bad habit afresh.
• I shall experience and face life squarely rather than quitting.
• Self-belief and belief in God to be paramount.
• Evolving through practice.
• Becoming more self-aware and self-conscious.
• Become a witness to a change.
• Always remember that nobody has seen tomorrow.
• Try for self-actuation and self-realization.
• Giving more credence to truth, love, and enlightenment.

 SURE ENOUGH OUR GOD WOULD ALWAYS BE THERE TO ASSIST.

MERRY CHRISTMAS : LORD JESUS CHRIST – A MESSENGER OF LOVE & COMPASSION

 MERRY CHRISTMAS

LORD JESUS CHRIST – A MESSENGER OF  LOVE & COMPASSION

Whence there is a huge presence of evil doer

Who misuse their power and high stature

To browbeat the general populace

Then our Super Soul (Paramatma) sends

His Messengers for spreading His message

To save the simple souls (Atmas) from these sinners.

 

Born to venerable Parents Marry & Joseph

The blessed Son of Spirit of our Lord, the Holiest

In Nazareth, Gaillee, the city of David

That is the reason, he is also referred

As Jesus of Nazaewrh

A saviour of humanity

And to spread the fragrance and purity

Of His message of peace to all humanity.

Men of wisdom came from places afar

Mesmerized by this Shining Star

To witness a holiest event

Which only happens, rarest of rare in time and space

Angels sing songs so melodious

Shepherds paid their huge reverence

Filled with immense exuberance.

Even old in years though

 Simeon & Anna saw their ambition fructified

As they too had a glimpse of the Glorious One

Brought up in rural town of Nazareth

His adaptive & adoring father Joseph

Taught Him the art of using

Tools of a carpenter

A labour so arduous, that anybody can reckon

Resulting in so much perspiration

By the rays of sun so blistering.

The revered God’s son

Worked tirelessly in the hot Sun!

Thence as he cometh

From the waters of Jordan

A voice so refreshing

Cometh from Heaven

‘This is my beloved Son

In whom I am very pleased’. 

Thereafter, Jesus went to the backwoods

Surprise of surprises of all, which could not be fathomed!

To allow Satan to temp Him

To break the back of Satan.

He fasted for days forty,

And vanquished the Satan thence forth

With eternal will of God in the heaven

Then brimming with the Holy Sprit

He lived with the commons

For three long years.

John recorded Jesus as the son of God,

Who raised the dead to live again with his grace

Made the blinds to get their eyesight back again

Lames to walk again

Demons dare not appear again

Came to the succour of hapless, aplenty

During storms, with so much ferocity.

With a few loaves and fish

Made food sufficient for five thousands!

Believe – no alternative, we have to!

Since He is sent by our Creator

As a Saviour

As His Incarnate

The All Knowing

And the All Powerful Being.

Then on a Thursday Night

Followers he met

In the city of Jerusalem

On an occasion so solemn,

He announced, unexpectedly

It is ordained that He may die

For those He loved so Him so dearly

And told them to remember

His association with them

And also promised, as destined

To come back, again

For their own sake!

He spent time in the garden of Gethsemane

Prayed to the Divine Providence.

No case was found against Jesus

By those who tried Him

Because He was flawless whence he interacted with gentry

Yet was crucified on Friday even then!

He departed this life

For He loved us all

After when He was dead

His power was proclaimed

By happening most unexplained

On the morn of Sunday

He rose from the dead

Appeared to Mary

And apostles and a huge gathering

And gave the message of love

Goes to prove

He remains invincible in both the states.

O Lord, bestow us Thy Invaluable CHRISTMAS DAY GIFT

The precious of all Thy Gifts

That Thee could only grant

The coveted gift of peaceful coexistence

In the whole world by Thy Grace

So that this world could be a better place to live,

A place where there is a prevalence of Eternal Love. 

LORD JESUS CHRIST – A MESSENGER OF  LOVE & COMPASSION

Humans are the special creations which our Creator has created because they are bestowed with the faculty of thinking along with power of discrimination. If we acutely introspect as to how everything created is being taken care of by an unseen power, we would reach to a conclusion that Omnipotent and Omniscient One who controls everything around us and beyond. Although He remains an ‘unseen hand’ yet nobody disputes His existence though some may agree grudgingly but ultimately Prabhu’s imprint will remain indelible.

God deputes His chosen few, as His representatives, to spread the fragrance of His message. Such messengers are the embodiments of piety, purity and compassion. If we introspect deep into the lives of such messengers of God, one thing undoubtedly comes to the fore; such special messengers are apostle of peace in real sense of terms. Besides, in their lives they took upon themselves to cure various afflictions of humans –  physical and mental. Such God’s ambassadors of peace withstood hardships during their life time, suffered for others and remained disciplined from their childhood onwards. Such special ones continued spreading the message of LOVE and also helped the general masses for self-realization by communing with God, notwithstanding the fact that it was not to the likings of people at the helm of affairs at that time.

These Sons of God did not care for their mundane pleasures but did everything to ameliorate the conditions of the hapless and destitute with their mystical prowess. Their message to the humanity was to be compassionate towards the needs of others besides urging the general masses to uphold their religious duties. One amongst the Messengers of God is the Jesus Christ.   

In other words, it could be construed that God incarnates as great souls for spreading Divine Message on His behalf. It is a prime requirement of disillusioned minds who are immersed in the world of their own making and never realize that their mission in this world is to spread the message of humanity thereby understand the true purpose of our life on this planet.

The real purpose is to spread the fragrance of love to the fellow beings including all the creations created by our Lord with a consciousness that even intractable challenges of ours could be overcome if we have firm belief in His existence and associate Him in our day to day happenings. Sure enough, we would be surprised about the results of such actions.

Jesus Christ was the one who had won victory against material consciousness. He exists in the hearts and minds of multitudes. He said, ‘I do nothing of myself, but as my Father hath taught me.’ Christians including numberless others who have indomitable belief in His preaching shun delusions and follow His ideals. His presence is felt through his teachings. Those who have self realization know that in every speck of cosmos Christ Consciousness exists but only those who have vision can experience this. Christ Consciousness is a part of Cosmic Consciousness should never be lost sight of by us humans.

Jesus was born in 7 – 2 BC and was crucified in 30-33 AD in Jerusalem. He was born in Nazareth, Galilee to Parents Marry & Joseph.

His teachings are universal in nature; if we care to follow. If follow these in our day to day lives, we can make our life sublime.

Jesus Christ preached the importance of having compassion for our fellow beings. He taught that kindhearted feeling should always be there even for all including our enemies:-

Mark 6:34 When he went ashore he saw a great crowd, and  he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd. And he began to teach them many things.

Colossians 3:12-13  Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved,  compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and,  if one has a complaint against another,  forgiving each other;  as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

• He is held to be the Son of God, a Messiah or Messenger of God, a charismatic healer:

Matthew 14:14 When he went ashore he saw a great crowd, and he had compassion on them and healed the sick.

• Christ preached forgiveness and mercy. He even forgave those who harmed him immensely. No ill-feelings for anyone absolutely that is the message given:

Matthew 6:14-15  For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 18:21-22 Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?  As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Daniel 9:9  To the Lord our God belong mercy and forgiveness, for we have rebelled against him

• Christ spread the message to judge others correctly it is fine if we judge others negatively then we will also be judged by our Creator on the Judgment Day then we have to face the music for every creature’s action is recorded in the consciousness of God.

Matthew 7:1-2  Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and  with the measure you use it will be measured to you.

Jesus Christ being a social reformer He had the unique quality of helping those who are suffering  – it may be any kind of suffering.

Corinthians 1:3-4  Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

Even for healthy and prosperous family life He had a message (for young women who have to take responsibility to run a family’s affairs):

Titus 2:4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,

 

 

SIGNIFICANCE OF CHARACTER IN OUR LIVES

SIGNIFICANCE OF CHARACTER IN OUR LIVES

The character is the evaluation/assessment of personality of an individual. Here personality signifies the traits/qualities, individuality and general behavior of an individual which distinguishes that person from others. It determines his attitude and staying power despite adverse situations. The term character and its significance have been discussed by different educationalists, philosophers, and thinkers.  Some say it is status and position, power and pelf etc. Others say, it is the moral principles which one possesses.

It is a fact that the index of the state of mind or the index of the personality of a person and the impression which it makes on the society in which he lives counts a lot. Men of true character always play the stellar role in influencing others and mold them according to the need of the ‘time’.

REPUTATION AND CHARACTER ARE TWO DISTINCT THINGS

In this context, Abraham Lincoln opines:- Reputation is the shadow, the character is the tree. Wheel of reputation could be favourable only for a limited period of time, just as the shadow of a tree which shifts from one direction to  another according to the shifting of the sunlight but a tree has staying power and gives shade, shelter to birds, purifies the environment, its green leafs help in photosynthesis in presence of sunlight besides providing timber and fuel and also used for cremation of dead bodies etc. Thus character is treelike which gives immense benefits to us.

CHARACTER CHANGES WITH TIME AND SPACE

Different individuals possess different sort of character i.e. it is individualistic in nature. Its description depends on the thinking capacity and capability of the person concerned. Its definition changes with the change in time and space. What was held important in the past may have no relevance at all presently.

MORAL, IMMORAL, ETHICAL AND UNETHICAL ARE IMPORTANT FACTORS IN CHARACTER

While discussing the character of an individual, the distinction is made on the basis of moral and ethical standpoints. The one who follows immoral turpitude/negative mannerism and violates moral principles and does not conform to the norms set by the society is a bad character. Such a person would like to attain his accomplishment of his/her work in hand does not command respect from his own people. It is a black-spot on the person concerned. It is a bad Karma which ultimately leads to addition in Karmic debt. I shall term such a person as a person with lose-character since he gets swayed by all sorts of temptations

In Bhagwad Gita it has been enunciated: They believe that to gratify the senses is the prime necessity of human civilization. Thus until the end of life, their anxiety is immeasurable. Bound by a network of hundreds of thousands of desires and absorbed in lust and anger, they secure money by illegal means for sense gratification.

Contrarily, a person who follows correct norms of behavior, transacts his day to day routines and much more with total confidence and uses head and heart while performing any task. This sort of a person has an impeccable character with unquestionable integrity. This sort of a person does not transact anything which may hurt others’ feelings besides such a person is not secretive in anything he does or does not do. Such a person possesses magnetism to attract others. He creates positivity wherever he sets his foot.

TRAITS OF A PERSON WITH FLAWLESS CHARACTER

A person with flawless character is the one who puts one-and-one together and works on the principles of accommodation and cooperation. If there are differences, such person does not play with words or phrases but realizes the ground realities and adjusts to the genuine requirements. Traits of goodness and truthfulness, tolerant, patient are deep-rooted and inbuilt into the system of such person. Such a person is not swayed by different allurements.

EGOLESSNESS AND CHARACTER

I opine our character is the outcome of our inner strength which gives us sustenance or staying power in any venture we undertake – it may be putting our body and mind in the attainment of a goal or keeping balance both in happy and not so happy occasions besides not carried away by the challenges. Our character is tested when we possess the knack to accomplish our task without let or hindrance.

OUR CHARACTER IS TESTED WHEN WE FACE FAILURE

When failure knocks at the door of such a person, with immaculate character, tries again and again till such time success is achieved which is sweet since it is attained with sweat and perseverance.

A person with flawless character remains alert and whenever any emergency comes, he is ever ready to tackle an emergent situation with calm, composure, tact and with precision.

PARADOX OF PARENTING AND CHARACTER BUILDING

It is observed that appropriate parenting can make a huge difference in the life of a child. If we want our offspring to grow to be of sound character, it is imperative that we give quality time along with an appropriate environment to the child especially within the age group of 0-5 years of age since the brain of the child grows more during this period.

TO MUCH PAMPERING SPOILS THE CHILD

Then there is the question of bestowing adequate attention to a single child.  A few days back, I met a pampered-boy who was being given over-indulgence. This student did not want to go to the school for attending his classes – and became truant. The boy feigned pain in different parts of his body to attract attention as a pretext in order to avoid classes. He cried at the top of his voice while his parents brought him to school. The parents felt pity on their son and took him to their homes. This boy was taking his parents to ride with excuses.

This continued for some time till such time a notice was served on the parents for cancellation of his admission for bunking classes continuously. The parents had entrapped themselves in the web of their own creation. Here the parents felt defenseless. Undue and unreasonable adulation bordering spoiled this child. Then counseling session was undertaken under the care of a good psychologist to retrieve from the situation created by the parents. What character we expect our offspring would become if we resort to unduly pampering?

Doubtlessly, the parents have to play a significant role to shape the character of the child and this process starts from the early childhood itself.

Examples are many, but I shall quote a few where the parents played prominent role in molding the character:–

• Hanuman’s mother names Anjani (who was the apsara in the palace of Indra had played a stellar role to mold the character of Hanumanji in the early period of his life. His father Kesari taught him the use of mace in the fights. His Bhakti could make difference in our lives as it gives the strength of conviction to us.
• Jijabai, the mother of Shivaji played a prominent role in shaping the character of Shivaji from the early childhood itself which proved pivotal in future fights with the adversaries.
• Father of Lakshmibhai, the Rani of Jhansi traveled to Jhansi with her for her education. At that time itself, she enjoyed friendship with Nana Sahib and Tatya Tope, her seniors in age. She was married to Raja of Jhansi when she was only 14. Her only son died who unfortunately died and adopted a son who could legally rule Jhansi. But the rulers agree on this adoption and legal heir thereof. They wanted to annex Jhansi. But Lakshmi Bhai, the Rani of Jhansi was determined to fight. For this purpose, she assembled her volunteer force including women. Without consideration of religion or caste affiliations joined to defend Jhansi. Although, these volunteer force could not defeat the might of the rulers, yet, Rani of Jhansi showed her determination to fight till the end. That is the quality of a true character.

HEREDITARY AND OTHERS FACTORS IN CHARACTER FACTOR

There are some characteristics which are hereditary in nature and there are the ones which are imbibed from our parents, peer group, schoolmates and teachers besides from the environment in which we are living. Our character is not built on the single factor, it is made on the varieties of factors.

OUR CHARACTER IS THE GIFT OF OUR CREATOR

It has been observed that those individuals who are inclined towards spiritualism are not swayed by the negativity; allurements of lust, greed, jealousy etc. These people remain immune to the ill-effects of environment like the lotus flower in the smelly mud.

By maintaining good character, one can be the beloved servant of ALLAH.  The Prophet said:

TRAITS OF IMPECCABLE CHARACTER

• A man with good character transact his/her work with sincerity and keeps a healthy distance from the evil.

This is in line with the Biblical assertion: With good man will obtain favor from the LORD, But He will condemn a man who devises evil.

• He/she is not tempted by various allurements.
• Adapts in the circumstance he or she is placed.
• Never fears to take risks as he considers failure as a stepping stone for success.
• He is having a healthy balance – both in happy and not so happy situations.
• He/she is flexible in his attitude Tries to flow the current but when pushed against the wall, makes his/her own way to extricate himself/herself.
• Promises ones made are made good by a person with sound character.
• He/she leads a simple life – ego does not touch such a person.
• The flawless character becomes an example for others to follow. 
• The character is an essential pre-requisite for any individual. It has rightly been said by Billy Graham: When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost something is lost, when the character is everything is lost.
• A man of character is not judgemental.

Conclusively, it could rightly be said that a good character is not formed so easily, it is made brick by brick, slowly but surely, by observing the righteous principles and norms of behavior observed by the society as a whole. It should also be remembered that character ones tarnished cannot be easily salvaged..

WELLNESS CREATES HEALTHY BALANCE IN OUR LIVES WELLNESS WORKS

 

WELLNESS CREATES HEALTHY BALANCE IN OUR LIVES

WELLNESS WORKS

Wellness is a creative seed

Which gives birth to harmony and peace

More the wellness within us humans

The more we become humane

Wellness is the sweet well of good omens

The more we are in its possession

More the feeling of cohesion and cooperation

Wellness is also a source from where flows our dynamism

Which bestows us capability to negotiate life’s twists and turns

With elegance and with huge dose of confidence

Because this dynamic energy is due to God’s benevolence

To keep us happy and satisfied even when we’re financially stringent.

Wellness is there when we are bodily sound

Partly with appropriate diet

And partly with proper exercises

To keep us fit bodily

To face every unfavorable eventuality

That may visit us eventually

Wellness, so created, bestows emotional stability

By reining in our mind and its senses, literally

And help us not to get swept by the incoming unfavourable currents

Of unpredictable sentiments

Having exercised control over our senses

We can manage our day-to-day functions.

Thus ensure job-related security

And have economic satiety

Besides physical safety

Throughout our life’s voyage to make it smooth

And combine all the good attributes

To follow a spiritually inclined existence

Making our life sublime and resulant

Purity in what we think

And act based on our thinking.

Purity in what we intend

And proceed to translate this intent into sincere actions

Purity in our speech

It ought to create consent

And not dissent

Wellness brings about harmony of body,.mind and soul

A positive energy which gives birth to love

And a fervor to live in love-filled life.  

Literally, wellness means well-being; a feeling which brings about happiness, satiety, peace of mind, brings about balance and equanimity in our life etc. When we are getting our job transacted, we tend to experience multiple problems for its fructification and after we have succeeded in getting the intended tasks, we get a nice feeling that is wellness. Wellbeing. This is a state of mind wherein we feel safe and sound, when our interests are taken care of and there are no pinpricks left in getting our things done and if and when there are some, these could be faced and solutions sought. It is also a fact that sometimes we tend to make our life complex thus resulting in interference in our well-being. Simple lifestyle thus is a panacea for overall wellness, especially so in the old-age.

The necessity of writing on wellness came to my mind when I had the fortune of interacting with one of the  oldman, standing in a queue for renewal of his gun licence. His anxiety and need of getting his gun licence renewed arose because he had missed the last date for renewal; woefully by one year! He told me he is 78 years old. Now a thought came to my mind; was he really in need of a gun at that stage of his life when he could not even fix his eye-sight on the target to defend himself? Is not there anybody else in his family to assist him in filling up forms etc for getting his job done? What is our state of thinking when we lose strength due to oldage and when helplessness takes centre stage. Then a thought crept in my mind, why do we keep so many hobbies which may become a cause of hindrance in our lives.

When we feel all round feeling of goodness in relation to our body, mind, soul, the environs we live in, when we are secure financially, physically, social adaptability, spiritually inclined, we imbibe good values and we transact all our duties which uplift our spirits.

When we are suffused with wellness, we are possessing a magnetic attraction to pull everybody towards us because a person having wellness creates appropriate aura/conditions. In such a person, there is a sense of accountability, adaptability and finally fellow feelings and ultimately love for each other and wherever love prevails, there is prevalence of godliness and an abode of Omnipotent God.

WELLNESS IS ANTIDOTE FOR EGOCENTRIC TENDENCIES

When we are bathed in positive feelings, no bitterness for anybody, no feeling of greed and lust then we will not be having any egocentric tendencies. There will be prevalence of satiety and goodwill, which helps us adjust anywhere.

WELLNESS IS CREATED WHEN WE DISTANGLE FROM BAD COMPANY

Sometimes, we are lured into some bad company for temporary or transitory pacification of our lust, here, our power of discrimination can only save us nothing else. This is the catch-22 situation which we create for ourselves. Wisdom is to remain cautious since such allurements may prove to be counterproductive for overall good for our body, mind and soul.

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH

If we keep our body healthy, we tend to create inner defences to face any situation. Our capacity and capability for fructification of targets will increase. Also, we shall be acting in tune with the saying: Sound mind dwells in sound body; as there is a close linkage of health and mind. Sufficiency of energy in our body assists us to have flexibility of our body which helps us to perform our tasks to the best of our ability.  We also are able to face adverse situations with emotional stability.  When our body and mind works in tandem, we could be the master of what we sincerely want. And when sincere intentions are fulfilled there is plenty of wellness created in us.

WELLNESS BRINGS ABOUT BALANCE IN OUR LIFE

The dawn of wellness could be created by following the following lifestyle:-

LIFE OF GOOD KARMA (OUR ACTION)

We are the product of our own Karmic deeds or misdeeds. What we are today is the result of our experiences gained over a period of time through our actions. Nothing is given to us on the platter. It is well said: As you sow so shall you reap. Good Karma (deeds) results in good results hence happiness and vice versa. The barometer of our happiness or wellness or wellbeing is measured by the amount of good karma we transact in our daily lives.

LIFE OF DHARMA (RELIGION) AND SPIRITUALITY

 Any religion we are following should be followed sincerely. Our religious thoughts should not impinge on the thoughts professed by others. Religion teaches us how best to keep ourselves pure through pure devotion to the ideals and teachings of religious scriptures. It has been observed that those who maintain purity in their thoughts and deeds are always filled with wellness and never come to grief. Such people not only make themselves good humans but also try to inculcate/transmit values to their offspring too.

WELLNESS IN FAMILY LIFE

in order to attain a balance in our life, it is of paramount important that we keep our family united where all the members have love each other, feel pain while other member is feeling pain, take along or assist a member who is unable to contribute meaningfully, each member follows value systems and traditions taught by the elders in the family and last but not the least each member respects the elders in the family. This creates enormous wellness in the family.

Too much of expression of authority by the elders in the family spoils the fabric of the family. In order to create a congenial atmosphere, the father should follow Chankya Niti; divide the life in three phases (each say 15-16 years). In the first phase, the father should educate him including giving him value system, then in the next stage when he gets employment, the offspring should be treated as a friend and in the third phase he should be treated as a partner. This will create a ground swell of wellness in the family.

LIFE OF DETACHED ATTACHMENT.

Whenever we are transacting any action we should always do that with 100% focus. If we fritter our energies thinking about the results then we shall not be able to perform our task in hand with single-point focus. Just detached attachment, therefore, will go a long way in giving us good results ultimately and earn for us wellness. This detached attachment should also be followed in our earning our living or business pursuits etc. and the results would be encouraging for us to see.

PURITY IN SPEECH

Whenever we speak something, we should first of all, introspect what we want to convey and think if somebody else speak the same to us, what would be our reaction. Our speech, therefore, should create consent and not dissent.

PURITY IN OUR INTENTIONS

What we intend counts because from our thoughts and  intentions only our actions will start. It is, therefore, kept in mind that if our intentions are pure and honest then we the end results will always be go

Wellness is generated in us by the following:-

• The satiety we are the cause of somebody else’s success – it is a selfless contribution of ours without any sort of expectations from the person concerned.
• Wellness is created when we help a needy, it may be by rendering financial help or helping a person get education. I met a teacher today and while asking what brings him wellness in his life, he very reluctantly mentioned that he feels happy when he educates a needy student without any expectations.
• Helping a person with blurred vision in crossing a busy road brings a feeling of wellness or provide succour to the hungry man.
• Devote your time and energy in transferring value system to the small kids not related to you without any expectations.

 From the above, it could be said that wellness in us is created by our own sincere efforts and when we are wellness, then we attain a balance in our life. Having achieved balance in our life means we are living God directed life, full of fervor and enthusiasm.