LORD HANUMAN JI’S BIRTH ANNIVERSARY (JANAM UTSAV) HAPPY HANUMAN JAYANTI TO ALL – MAY HE GRACE US WITH PEACE AND PROSPERITY)

LORD HANUMAN JI’S BIRTH ANNIVERSARY (JANAM UTSAV) HAPPY HANUMAN JAYANTI TO ALL – MAY HE GRACE US WITH PEACE AND PROSPERITY)

Hanuman Ji’s Janam Utsav is being celebrated on 31^st March 2018 (in the Chaitra). His birthday is not only celebrated in Northern India but also in Kerala and Tamil Nadu besides other states. He is hugely respected for his prowess.

The devotees celebrate this day, worship Lord Hanuman Ji and also keep fast on this day and seek his blessings besides offer offerings of Ladoos to Him. They receive Parsad in the form of sweets, flowers, Tilak etc. The Param Bhakta of Lord Hanuman Ji also recite devotional songs praising Lord Hanuman Ji for his Shakti and Bhakti and also seek his blessings besides sing HANUMAN CHALISA in his praise for receiving his graces

Hanuman Jayanti is an important festival of the Hindus. Lord Hanuman is a passionate devotee of Lord Rama Ji. He is widely known for his undaunted loyalty to Lord Rama. Hanuman is the symbol of strength and energy besides known for devotion to Lord Rama. He is said to be able to assume any form at will, brandish the gada (including many other celestial weapons), and even move mountains which he exhibited when needed for bringing a medicinal plant to save the life of Lakshmana the brother of Rama.

PRAYER BY THE DEVOTEES

On this auspicious day, devotees of Lord Hanuman pray him and seek his protection and blessings. They flock to temples to worship him and present religious offerings. In return, The devotees receive parsada from the temple priests in the form of sweets, flowers, coconut etc. People also celebrate him on this day by reciting various devotional songs (especially Hanuman Chalisa). The devotees also recite Beej Mantra – OM EH REEM HANUMANTE SRI RAM DOOTE NAMON. In this Hanuman Ji is prayed for being a devout messenger of Lord Rama who is a symbol of strength and energy.

HANUMAN JI’S BIRTH

Lord Hanuman Ji is the son of mother Anjana (An Apsara who was cursed by a Rishi to take birth on earth in Vanara family) and father Kesari the King of Sumeru. The Wind God Vayu had also a role in his birth besides being the Guru of Hanuman Ji. Lord Hanuman Ji is a well-known devotee of Lord Rama who is one of the pivotal characters epic Ramayana. His name has been mentioned in Vedas, Puranas, besides in Jain, Buddhist and Sikh scriptures. He is also known as an incarnation of Lord Shiva. He is not only worshipped in India but also in Nepal, Myanmar, Cambodia, Malaysia and Indonesia.

It has also been mentioned in Valmiki Ramayana that Hanuman’s father Kesari, the king of Sumeru was the son of Brihaspati. Due to the intense prayers of Anjana and Kesari to Lord Maheshwara, a son was born to them named Hanuman an incarnation of Lord Shiva. Vayu (The deity of Wind). He too had a role in the birth of Hanuman Ji and that is why we term him as the son of Vayu.

In Vishnu Purana, there is also a mention of the birth of Hanuman Ji. Narda Muni wanted to marry a beautiful princess for which he wanted to have Lord Vishnu like face. Instead, Lord Vishnu gave him the face of a monkey, thereupon Narda cursed Lord Vishnu that this ape-like face (Vanara) will assist him when he would be in dire need. This was also the reason of Hanuman Ji’s birth because, without his help, the task of defeating Demon King Ravana would have been very difficult.

A DEVOUT BHAKTA OF LORD SRI RAMA

Lord Hanuman Ji is known for his Bhakti and for Lord Rama besides his heroic initiatives and power are well known to us all. He is known for his martial arts – amongst which use of gadha, wrestling, acrobatics and also meditation. He is an epitome of celibacy/chaste and inner control including devotion to his duty. He performed the special role in helping Lord Rama in retrieving Sita Maa after Demon King Ravana abducted her from Panchbati in the disguise of a Sadhu by deception.  Hanumanji was sent to Lanka for getting information on Sita Maa. He surmounted several hurdles while crossing the ocean. When he reached in Lanka, Sita Maa felt very pleased but at the first instance, she was skeptical about him since she thought that he could be one of the deceptive stances of King Ravana. But on showing the golden ring of Lord Rama, she was convinced that he was actually the doot or Messenger sent by Lord Rama for locating her.

LORD HANUMAN JI’S VISIT TO LANKA IN SEARCH OF SRI SITA MAA

Subsequently, Hanuman Ji expressed his desire and asked for permission to allow him to have some fruits from the Vatika (garden) of Ravana as he felt very hungry due to his long and tiring sojourn. She allowed him but with reservation since she did not want that any harm should happen to the Ram’s doot. When allowed to have fruits, Hanuman Ji started not only taking fruits but also uprooting the trees. When the demon guards intervened, he killed them all. This news went to King Ravana, he sent his son Meghnath who with deception brought him in front of Ravana – that was the opportunity Hanuman Ji was waiting for; firstly to convince the king to return Sita Maa to Lord Rama with respect besides asking for his forgiveness for kidnapping her. This was vehemently opposed by the king Ravana who was filled with the ego of his prowess along with he being one of the fondest Bhaktas (worshippers) of Lord Shiva. He flatly refused to do so. Instead, on the advice of his advisors,  he ordered that the tail of Hanuman Ji be burnt. Having lit the tail, Hanuman Ji showed to the Lankan what he could do. He burnt the entire Lanka by hopping from home to home. All this sent a shock wave to the entire Lankans – an indication of things to come for Ravana for his misdemeanor. During this, Hanuman Ji met Ravan’s brother Vabhishana who was Lord Rama’s Bhakta. During this period, Hanuman Ji liberated Lord Shani Dev Ji, the dispenser of Justice from the confinement of Ravana.

WHY SINDOOR IS IMMERSED IN LORD HANUMAN’S STATUE

We immerse sindoor on the idol of Hanuman Ji which is liked by Hanuman Ji. We also apply some of the sindoor on our forehead from the foot of the idol of Hanuman Ji. There is a legend for this too. While Sita Maa was applying sindoor as a tika on her forehead, Hanuman Ji asked why she was putting vermilion on her forehead. She replied that it was t ensure the long life for her husband – Lord Rama. Hanuman Ji for ensuring the long life of Lord Rama applied sindoor to his entire body and that is why we smear his entire idol with it.

A WELL KNOWN LEGEND ABOUT HANUMAN JI’S TEST FOR HIS LOVE AND DEVOTION 

Hanuman Ji was the chief devotee of Lord Rama. This was proved by a legend. While Maa Sita Ji wanted to award Hanuman with gems’ garland, Hanuman simply broke the pieces of garland. Sita Maa felt very surprised and wanted to know about the reason for breaking the garland pieces. In reply to this, Hanuman Ji told that the image of Ram Ji resides in His heart and therefore he needed no gift of any kind. Then, Hanuman tore the part of his chest, and lo and behold, the image of Lord Rama and Maa Siya Ji was there etched. All this proved that in every atom of Hanuman Ji, Lord Rama remained stamped.

SRI HANUMAN CHALISA

In Hanuman Chalisa, Hanuman has been described to be a reservoir of knowledge who ensures for the awakening of general people. He is the messenger of Lord Rama, the son of Anjana and Kesari. He helps in removal of ignorance and helps in enlightenment. He is the worshipper of Lord Ram and Maa Sita. The magnificence of his attire has been mentioned. He was sent was dispatched to Lanka as the messenger to know about the whereabouts of Maa Sita where he killed many demons. Even Vibhishan the brother of Lankesh knew everything about Lord Hanuman Ji. Despite his knowledge, energy (Shakti), empowered by boons by different God-heads in various aspects, his prayer, and love to Lord Rama excelled everything else. Those who pray Him are bestowed with all sorts of bounties and his graces remain with them.  He is the ultimate remover of bad luck from our midst if we sincerely pray Him.

The Valmiki Ramayana and Ramayana written by Goswami Tulsidas very compressively tell us the details of Ayodhya King Dashratha and all the description till the end. These amongst others are very popular amongst the people.  

Hanuman Ramayana. There is the description of Hanumat Ramayana in old Hindu scriptures – Vedas and Sikandpurana etc. This was the description of Ramayana codified by Lord Hanuman Ji. This was codified by Hanumanji with his nails on the rocks. After reading this descriptive Ramayana, Maharishi Valmiki got very disappointed as his own written Ramayana was not as good as he had seen the one written by Hanuman Ji. Lord Hanuman Ji got moved by the concern of Valmiki Ji, therefore, he threw that portion of the rock into the sea so that nobody could read the Ramayana written by Him. Thereupon, Maharishi Valmiki promised to take birth in next Yuga as Goswami Tulsidas and write comprehensive Ramayana which is read by all of us now.

 

GOOD FRIDAY – A SOLEMN DAY (THE CRUCIFICATION) FOLLOWED BY EASTER (THE RESURRECTION)

GOOD FRIDAY – A SOLEMN DAY (CRUCIFICATION)

FOLLOWED BY EASTER – THE RESURRECTION

Amongst all Fridays’, the holiest of all days

We term it a Good Friday

A day of reckoning for the humanity

Whence our heart aches to its limits

With grief writ large on the faces of gentry

Who knowth about this Friday.

This solemn day is observed as the anniversary

Whence our most revered one ‘ Jesus Christ

Left his physical body from this planet

To meet the Supreme Spirit

Solemn prayers with fasting is observed on this day

In His memory who left this earth for us all

Purity of this day remains etched in the hearts

Of all those who know about the sacrifice of the son of God.

A Day which we reminisce every year

When our beloved one offered himself on the cross

Without even a slightest emotional upsurge.

In His lifetime this Messenger of Holy Spirit

Was most saintly and benevolent to all

And overly serene whilst meeting his own end in flesh and blood

At the hands of those who did not know what they were up to

Underwent crucification and final surrender to the Lord

On this day – a solemn one.

Even then sought forgiveness for his perpetrators, the heartless ones

And the sinful ones at the helm responsible for his end!

With final and eternal utterance, he forgave them for their ignorance

‘Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do’

Such words surcharged with compassion are rarest of rare

Which could only be from the heart of one who is the dearest son  

Of the Omnipotent and Omniscient

A lesson to us humans, a most credible one

So merciful he was even to the irreligious ungodly lots

Drunk they were with power and standings

A temporary phenomenon for us earthlings

Such empathy is a key to Christ Consciousness

Suffering for us – relentless pain with a lot of humiliation

A death so holy – indeed for our redemption

Such supreme sacrifice is an instrument of compensation

Strikes at the tender chords of our heart, so palpable realization

That the Messengers of God cannot remain in void for so long

Therefore end followed resurrection

Thus stunning the general masses at large by his revivification

Methods may different in observation

Yet the sacredness of Good Friday for ever remains

The devout kneel with utmost reference

Before the Wooden Cross kept in Churches, so holy on this day.

Thence  last words of Lord Christ are also repeated.

‘Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do’

So that those solemn words may remain imprinted in our recollection

Thence a symbolic burial of the Lord is undertaken

For which difference could be in method

But the inner most emotions are obviously very touching.

For our beloved Jesus Christ

Who for Truth sake gave His own life form

So that we humans are absolved of our sins.

Which a true son of God can only make it happen.

Factually dark spot on the anal of history is the crucification

Thence Easter is the bright spot in the form of resurrection

Whence the Star shined with a greater vigor and manifestation

Opening new pathways for our association

WITH LORD JESUS CHRIST IN HIS RESURRECTION…

GOOD FRIDAY

History is replete with examples and  witness to the fact that various incarnations of our Creator had to endure trials and tribulations in their real life time while living on this earth. People who opposed their ideas and ideals always opposed them tooth and nail because these God’s Incarnations were the messengers of peace and their mission was to spread the ETERNAL TRUTH and remove the spectre of ignorance from our midst. The Messengers of our God also helped in removal of evil that prevailed in the society. They preached ‘Bless them that curse you.’ They presented a living example for us humans to see how best they withstood onslaughts of those who opposed the very ideals which has divergent viewpoints – departure from their pseudo and outdated beliefs.

While reforming the masses and showing them the true path, the messenger of our God Jesus Christ faced several hurdles  from those who opposed his idea. The other incarnations like  Lord Krishna, Lord Rama, Prophet Mohammad faced many hurdles at every step but with their foresight and fortitude these Apostles of Peace challenged the old and hackneyed mores of behaviour and came out unscathed ultimately. Surprisingly, after their earthy sojourns they were accepted as the Messengers of God by the very people who opposed them in the first instance and remain giving their respectful place even now. This is the tragedy of humans that we do not recognize our God’s Messengers/Incarnations while they were on this planet but when they are no longer with us then we take them as their revered ones and worship them for their preaching! This is a travesty of fact with our humans.

Lord Jesus Christ is one such example amongst others like Prophet Mohammad, Lord Krishna, Lord Rama who gave new meaning and content to the philosophy of living. These Messengers of Peace fought for the common people and were able to rid the society of the evil doers and challenged the very philosophies of people at the helm of affairs during the periods on this earth. In that process these Sons of God had to face opposition. People who mattered suspected these God’s messengers because their ideals were counter to their (powerful opponents) own and in upholding these they (Sons of God) had to face trials and tribulations. During the life time Jesus Christ did everything to rid the then society of the evils prevalent and wanted to change the outlook of the people.

Although Jesus  Christ suffered humiliation and immense pain at the hands of his  tormentors yet he felt sympathy even for his tormentors while he agonized on the cross for us all. We should never forget that He suffered so that we are redeemed of our sins that we as humans do commit. There were disturbances and upheavals after he gave up his spirit.

Crucification of Jesus Christ gave a new meaning of life to us humans to follow. His ideals and preaching are held dear by us all and will remain so till eternity. May this Day remain etched in our memory as the day of redemption of humanity and He remains a beacon of light for all of us on this earth.

It is well said, there is always a light after the darkness. Jesus used to heal the physical ills of masses, he wanted their highest good while he was in flesh and blood like us. But the insensitive people just crucified him! This is also a fact that he had the power to escape being crucified but he did not do so. And  even in agony he said: ‘Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.’ That is why He had to come back again for our happiness and for our purification. This purification is attained only when we’ve conquered our weaknesses in the form of our ego etc.

If crufication was a dark blot on those who crucified Jesus, the Easter is commemorated as a symbol of resurrection. Easter celebration has a historic perspective. It also symbolizes rebirth; a pious day that is why devotees decorate their houses, rejoice, mass prayers are conducted in Churches. It is a celebration in connection with the rising of Christ – the Son of God. Easter also opens door for a holy association with God through Jesus Christ.

 

AN IDEAL TEACHER – A GIFT OF GOD

AN IDEAL TEACHER – A GIFT OF GOD

An ideal teacher is a gift of Almighty God

A human being who is kind-hearted and humane to the core

With traits of tenderness galore

And a huge reservoir of patience

Along with attitude bereft of any discrimination

Towards the pupils, he/she teaches with concern

A sincere attribute with a firm belief system

In giving rather than taking

A modest one who disseminates knowledge

Gleaned over a period of time

In order to remove the ignorance of the learners

And infuses enlightenment with self-composure 

And transforms his/her raw pupils

Into fine-blend of acumen sufficing with information

Of necessity, should know the weaker aspects of the pupils

Adopts different methodologies to set right the weak spots

With an intention to make amends through innovations

With a lot of motivational appreciations

As and when needed most essentially.

He/she is firm like a rock

But soft like ice when needed hugely

With the gentle demeanor and pleasing personality

Impresses the students with the lessons imparted so expertly

Such a teacher is sought after by the students personally

To transmit the know-how gained diligently

By trial and error method, so skillfully

Or through subject interaction technique

Or Froebel method of freedom to act in a stimulating atmosphere

Then Montessori’s method tells us about atmosphere most peaceful

With stress on social justice and community justice and fair-play

Or through discussion and collaboration

With each other for knowledge distribution

Or through knowledge gained through experimentation

To clear any doubts that may arise from time to time

Teaching could be by a formal teacher in the formal institute

Or informally through any informal society institutions

Like temple, mosques, and churches

The purpose is to disseminate instructions

Either formally or informally

And make the pupils face people purposefully

After acquiring the needful schooling

And an ideal teacher is a resilient thread in all these teachings

Laying the foundation of a child on stronger footings.

ON OUR TEACHERS & STUDENTS

Importance of ideal teacher, as a national builder, although is acknowledged and appreciated, yet, one thing that needs to be remembered is that a teacher should be dispassionate or unbiased in attitude towards all the students. A good teacher should command respect from the students, exhibit the high sense of integrity, should be a unifying force and above all should be unbiased. For a teacher, all the students are equal and necessarily need attention equally while clarifying all the concept queries of all the students.

As a great teacher, Lord Krishna exhorts his disciple Arjuna to cut doubts that have developed in his heart, burn the ignorance with the sword of knowledge (Jnana) while taking shelter in Yoga of action.

TEACHER SHOULD BE WHOLLY IMPARTIAL IN THEIR ATTITUDE

I was obviously pained after observing the unethical and un-teacher-like attitude of an educator. A student who had secured excellent results (A⁺) up to the last term was targeted and ignored to be awarded class scholar and the next second best student was awarded in the morning assembly by the Principal of the school before the declaration of the class results. Anybody can imagine the predicament of the genuine ‘scholar’. After she came to know about the information that she was not considered for the award, which legitimately should have been given to her, based on her credentials/record of the score during the complete academic session! She was completely shattered, only our consistent persuasions could persuade her to remain positive and further, we exhorted her to make still more efforts. Besides, we gave her an advice that education was an ongoing process. Here ups and downs will certainly arise; sometimes due to the student’s lackadaisical attitude, for not making an effort to excel, and other times, unfortunately, teacher concerned would be responsible for ignoring the right student at the right time and picking a wrong student due to her whim and fancies.  In this sort of a scenario, who is responsible? This is a biased attitude which a teacher should never resort to.

ATTITUDE OF A TEACHER OR A GURU

The teacher or a Guru should be knowledgeable, unbiased, compassionate, and his/her only intention should be to teach the students and make them a true citizens so as to face the vicissitudes of life confidently i.e. learn to be adaptive to the changed circumstances or fortune or face the challenges in life with belief and confidence.

A GURU SHOULD NOT BE BIASED

In Mahabharata, we have the story of Guru Dronacharya, who wanted to make his pupil Arjuna a great Dhanushdhari (archer). His disciples were from princely families.. Eklavaya was from a Bhil family and his father was the leader of Nishadhas. Dronaacharaya refused to accept him as a disciple simply because he was from Bhil family. Eklavaya did not lose heart. He made a mud statue of Guru Drona and started worshipping and practicing archery through sheer determination and self-effort. So much so he developed his excellence in archery that he even excelled Arjuna.

Traversing through the forest with his Guru Dronacharraya, Arjuna observed a dog with arrows in its mouth due to which he could not bark. Though arrows were harmless to the dog, yet, the way in which the arrows stuck in the mouth was unique in itself. Further investigation leads them to Ekalavya and the mud statue of Drona. When asked how he developed the excellence in archery, Ekalavya explained without reservation that he got inspiration from the mud statue. Listening to this, Drona felt perturbed. He had promised that he will make Arjuna one of the best Danushdhari but Ekalavya excelled Arjuna.

There is a custom of Guru Dakshina  (teacher’s gift) which a disciple gives after he learns any skill. With this intention in mind, Ekalavya mentioned that Drona was his guru since he was hugely inspired by the mud statue. Ekalavaya offered Guru Dakshina in return for the inspiration he had got in archery. Drona wanted the right thumb of Ekalavya as a Guru Dakshina – knowing full well that without his thumb, Ekalavya will not be able to be excellent in archery and Arjuna will ever remain the master.- clearly showing his bias against Ekalavya.

In Holy Bible, it has been clearly enunciated that a teacher should be, in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us.

TRULY SPEAKING BASE OF CHILDREN IS FORMED IN THE CHILDHOOD ITSELF

In essence, it is essential to understand that the parents have transferred the family traditions in the childhood period, in that comes the understanding of our family deities, stories of our ancestors with special mention of those amongst our ancestors who not only contributed for enhancement of the reputation of the family but also helped in uplifting the society in general besides telling the offspring about the principles on which the family tradition stood since known history of the family. All this transference helps the child in firming his/her base for onward forays into the next step. Here too, there are some parents who discriminate between their offspring based on ‘gender bias’.  The gender bias prejudice is really very harmful to the growth of a child. All the parents should desist from following this discrimination since girl-child too require growth and development as boys. It should never be forgotten that if we teach a girl, we teach the next generation of a family where she would be married.

The next step is the admission into the formal system of education or Gurukuls which these formal institutions used to be termed. Here the important role of the teacher or Guru comes into play. The teachers as a Guru.

GURU SHISHYA PARAMPARA  (THE TRADITION OF TEACHER AND PUPIL)

The Guru (teacher) Shishya (pupil) tradition (parampara) is quite old in the Indian context. In Upanishads, the mentioned of Gurukulas have been made; here the progenies of the ruling classes and others used to get spiritual knowledge about scriptures such as Vedas, Puranas, Upanishads etc were taught. The age group for this purpose used to be from 8 to 12 years. Besides. religious or scriptural knowledge, the pupils (shishya) used to get weapon training too. leaning for instance there were Gurukula run by Drona to impart knowledge about scriptures and weapons – as imparted to Pandavas (of which Dhanushdhari Arjuna is the more pronounced one) then there were discourses on the Brahman In Guru Varuni’s Gurukula Indian tradition, Gurukula system of education was there in ancient India.

INCULCATION OF GOOD VALUE SYSTEM AT HOME ASSISTS US TO ADJUST IN WORKPLACE

A few days back, I had the opportunity of visiting ServerGuy located at Pitampura, for fixing up and updating my Website (HARBANS INNER THOUGHTS) where: Dilsheen Kaur, Prerna Singh and Tripti Saini (interns) but still college students assisted me in every way  needed and completed the needful task to the satisfaction of the  Management of the Company but also that of myself. I found their etiquettes, value systems gleaned from their parents and schools and colleges ecosystem par-excellent.

TRAITS OF A GOOD STUDENT

There are the cases wherein the pupils from the same Guru or teacher turn out to be the best both in their ultimate performance and others an utter failure. There could be the difference in assimilation in the class by the siblings. All the educational activities depend on seriousness in which the students take their studies. For example, in the great epic Mahabharata, we are aware that all the Pandavas and Kauravas were the disciples of the same Guru Dhronacharchya. The Pandavas turned out to be the best learners whereas the Kauravas the worst ones both in scriptural knowledge as well as their expertise in the use of different weapons (archery, mace, spear, ax etc).

A good student pays respects to his/her teachers, is regular and punctual, attends all the lectures, understands all the concepts of lessons so taught in the class besides repeating and understanding the lessons taught, never plays truants, does not resort to lame excuses for not performing well in the examinations or does not use unfair means to pass the examination.

While we talk about teachers or gurus, a feeling of respect and reverence springs in our mind. I shall not venture to say that there is any teacher who is bad but sometimes may exhibit the appalling state of mind due to personal reasons or extraneous reasoning’s.

TRAITS OF A GOOD TEACHER

A teacher is one who not only imparts everything including good manner which may assist us learning good manners.

‘Prophet Mohammad: Oh Allah! I seek refuge in You from reprehensible manners, deeds, and whims.

(a)Knowledgeable – Well versed in the subject, plans and explains lesson besides ensures that all the queries are explained to the satisfaction of the students.

(b)The concept in studies. When all the concepts of the subject in hand are clear to the teacher, he/she would be able to teach the students lucidly.

(c) Intelligent and high-minded. The teacher should be of sound mind and develop the same sort of mentality to the students as well.

(d)Whose teaching motivates the students.

(e) The students learn through reverence.

(f)The students should work hard to get knowledge.

(g)Eagerness for teaching.

(h)Encourages inquiry.

(i) Teachers should work for the enlightenment of the students.

(j) Free from envy and jealousy.

(h) The teacher is ethical and moral to the core.

(i) Leads a simple life and becomes an example in simplicity.

(j) Should be selfless, self-realized/ self-aware and is fully conscious what he/she wants to teach.

(k)  No desire for money or fame in the real sense of terms.

(l)Should be self-aware and knows what he/she can contribute to the improvement of the students.

(m) One who leads a virtuous life

(n) A person who teaches us as how to imbibe purity in character.

(o)Guides the student for holistic development of the students.

(p)Guides the students and debates besides he/she corrects the students as and when required.

(q)Should be a man of principles.

(r)Releases his authority from the experience he has got in teaching.

(s)One who discriminates on the basis of some extraneous reasons.

(t)One who ignores some and prefers others.

(u) One who does not plan or prepare his/her lesson properly.

(v)One who is not clear about the concepts involved in the study.

(w)One who lacks foresightedness in dealing with the delinquent student.

(x)One who is totally detached from students and their wellbeing.

(y)The dominant trait with complacency.

(z) An ideal teacher is tortuous, loveable and dispassionate.

An ideal teacher should possess all the traits which not only changes the mindset of the students but also teaches them how to follow the path of Dharma and desist from leading Adhamic path so that they be adaptive to the change and live their lives with confidence and in piety.

 

DISROBING THE MODESTY OF A WOMAN – SO CRUEL AN ACT

DISROBING THE MODESTY OF A WOMAN – SO CRUEL AN ACT

 

A sad commentary on some of  humans, so cruel 

Stooping so abysmally low

To disrobe the modesty of a woman

A God’s creation so caring by nature

And the one who is assigned the task of reproduction

And keep the civilization going

Is put to shame by the ruthless lots bereft of any thinking

Of consequences of their sordid acts

They should introspect hard

If she were one of their own blood relations then what?

Will they stoop so low for them too!

Alas! How low such people can stoop

 By following a path inhuman which the demons will not dare to tread

These inhuman are filths of this earth

This filth should be removed from this Mother Earth

Sooner it is done the better for us, humans.

So lowly are their immoral, criminal and wretched misdeed

That they consider a God created the body as a plaything for their lust

To be exploited  with their filthy hands without realization

• And becoming insensitive to the pleas and crying of the hapless victim

Through their actions with their filth-ridden hands – most immoral

And robbing the modesty of a soul so dearest

To be enjoyed and thrown to the elements, so unhelpful

Like a left out part of a mango after taking its juices

By their acts so degenerating

They’ve tarnished their own self beyond redemption

By carrying out their monstrous criminal act, the most heinous

None has the right to dishonor others’ modesty

Such rank immoral should get justice

Not merely from the Laws of the Land

But also on the Judgement Day,

With dark-dungeons and dragons awaiting in the hell.

My heart aches severely

When I hear such wretched incidents repeated

And pray to my Omnipotent and Omniscient

Do empower my mothers, sisters, and daughters the Power of Durga

To exterminate such inhuman lots from this planet for good.

I do get hugely perturbed when I come to know whenever somebody disrobes the modesty of a woman. This woman could be my close relative or somebody else’s one hardly makes any difference. The perpetrators of this heinous crime should be dealt severely under the law enforcement agencies. These people are the dirty burdens on the society in whichever part of the world they are living. Rules in vogue should not shelter them but expose them so that they get justice commensurate with the crime they have committed.

This apart, we know that those who disrobe the modesty of the women, earn for themselves KARMIC DEBT in their account because it falls in the category of the negative trait; lust, greed, jealousy, rancor, and anger. In Bhagwad Gita, these traits are negative oriented and lead to increase in KARMIC DEBT, the consequences of which we have to suffer in this birth and the births which we shall have.

The maxim, We reap what we sow should never be forgotten. The extreme negative Karmic deeds done by the criminals will remain haunting them till their end and even adversely affect their next births too. We are aware of the sordid episode when Dhrishtashtra’s elder son Duryodhana disrobed the modesty of Dhropati of Pandavas’ consort. Although Lord Krishna saved her from the ill-intentions of Duryodhana and his brothers. But all this vicious intent resulted in war between the two armies of Pandavas and Kauravas in which the Kauravas brothers and others who supported them died they reaped what they had sown.  The criminals masquerading as humans will have a violent for their ill-conceived actions.

THE NAVRATRI FESTIVAL – A NINE DAYS WONDER

NAVRATRI FESTIVAL (ON 18TH MARCH 2018)

Truly speaking, Nav means nine

Ratri stands for night

Navratri is the festival of repute

Wherein the devoted disciples

Of all shades celebrate this festival

Twice in a calendar year

First, it is in the March – April, as Chaitra Navratri

Thence October – November as the Shradha Navratri

This festival is related to  Durga Goddess

This ‘Shakti’  with her immense prowess

Overpowered  the ferocious

Demons that maimed the hapless Sadhus

Even while performing their sacred Yajunas

And in the process defiled the sacredness of Yajna fires.

Goddess Durga in her red attires

Mounted on the lion so fierce

With all the weapons in her custody

Which could inflict havoc on the adversary

Legends abound about Navratri

Demon king Maheshasura worships Lord Shiva

The penance was so severest

That Lord Maheshwara had to grant him a boon of invincibility

That nobody, not even the Gods could kill him

Thence he starts killing innocents with impunity

Then he with forcefully

Conquered the Seven Lokas

Including the throne of Indra.

To eliminate demon Maheshasura

Then there was confabulation between the Trinity

Along with others God too in the company

To defeat and kill this demon turned killer and usurper

Created Maa Shakti

The Mother with a boundless energy

Or Durga, the Warrior Goddess

The war between Maheshasur and Mother Divine

Which lasted for Nine Day

On day 9^th  she killed this evil demon

Navratri symbolizes the victory of good over wickedness

On day ninth which is termed as Mahanavami

Nine young girls are worshipped

Personifying Nine Forms of Durga Goddess

These venerated young girls’ feet are washed

With fresh water and given clothes and food

Navratri too is linked with fertility of land

On these days, the fold observe the fitness of the earth

By testing seed germination in the posts earthen

Devotees observe with rigidity

For keeping oneself chaste during these days most holy

Which keep their mind and body pure.

There is another legend

King Daksha – the kind of Himalayan Kingdom

He was blessed with a daughter named Uma

A most beautiful one

With all the traits of a princess she possessed

She worshipped Lord Shiva most reverently

So that He may accept her in marriage so willingly

Having pleased the Lord Shiva

She married Uma

But against the wishes of King Dhaksha

One day King Dhaksha held a grant Yagna

With no invitation to Lord Shiva

Uma wanted to join the Yagna and all accompanying celebrations

While Lord Shiva had his own reservations

She came to attend the Yagna

Being attended by Lord Vishnu and Lord Brahma

Besides all the deities

King Dhaksha did not like her daughter’s presence

She felt slighted at the treatment meted out to her in presence of all deities

In utter rage, she jumps into Agni Kund (Fire grate) and perished

The reason why we call her Sati also

Lord Mahadev (As Virbadhara) punished King Dhaksha for this injustice

ON REBIRTH (As Parvati) she marries Lord Shiva again

She comes to her parents house to stay for NINE DAYS

That is why we celebrate thse Nine Days as Navratri.

Legend also it that Lord Rama

Worshipped Goddess Durega’s Nine Forms

For Nine Days with deep reverence

On day 10^th Lord Rama could kill demon king Ravana

This way, 10^th day is celebrated as Vijaydashami,.

First three days are dedicated to Goddess Durga

In the form of child, young girl and mature woman

The three forms of womanhood

Symbolizing victory of evil over falsehood

Next three are dedicated to Goddess of Wealth and Prosperity

Her name is Lakshimi

Last three days are commemorated in the name of Goddess Saraswati

The Goddess of knowledge and wisdom

In snowy white dress

Mounted on a white swan

The Navratri is a sign of purity in all forms

Let these Nine Days be observed with great reference

For gaining blessings from Goddess Durga

Let this Nine Days wonder

Be the game-changer

And engenders peace and prosperity

And enough Wellness for all and sundry

This is my the most sincere prayer to thee, my Mother Divine

Different festivals provide the devout different lessons while the underlying message of all these festivals is to enlighten us humans to follow a path which helps us to have connectivity with Higher Self/Higher Intelligence, by following a spiritual oriented path through meditation, contemplation and prayers. The main purpose of celebration and observance of certain modes of behavior in such festivals is to keep ourselves chaste with our mind focused on God. The purpose is to focus on the special prayers and chants is to seek connectivity with God and dispel the thought of anxiety or disillusionment that pervades in our system. As there is purity of thoughts and actions during these festivals, there is every possibility for transformation and help in unfolding of spiritual life naturally.  

The main purpose of celebrating the religious festivals is to seek balance in our life at the altar of God while observing all immutable laws of nature and aspire for transformation and enlightenment – journeying from one festival to another one helps the devotees to learn social etiquettes, social adaptability and finally God’s connectivity.

The word NAVRATRI is composed of two syllabuses; NAVwhich means NINE and RATRI mean NIGHTS. Meditation/prayers and fasting are observed by devout during these nine days. A lighter refreshment of milk made products besides fruits, if taken at all, to keep light and pure in body and mind thus helping an individual to keep the body and mind pure. This also provides the devotees’ freedom from adulteration and contamination both in body and mind besides purifying still more the eternal soul along with keeping it taint-free.

Navratri is one of the most sacred festivals that the devout celebrate. It is not merely celebrated by observing some particular rituals but the devotees live a spiritually oriented life in all manifestations. The purpose is to follow the way of life which puts more stress on the subjective experience of sacred dimension. We undertake those karmic deeds during Navratri which transform some of the debit-karmic-deeds to credit-karmic-deeds which helps in personal growth and development individually and also collectively who celebrate it with religious fervor and enthusiasm. Moral and ethical values when followed sincerely could be imbibed as permanent habits to be followed in future too thus Navratri could prove to be a life-changer.

A lighter refreshment consisting of milk made product, fruits, and nuts, keeps the body light and the digestive system gets improved thus there is a spread of fragrance of Satoguna and alleviation of Tamoguna and Rajoguna traits. Freedom from contaminated thoughts purifies our mind. Thus observance of fast or vrat (also means resolve) continuously for nine days brings about the stability of our mind and helps in enhancement of our concentration. Besides these, we exercise maximum restraints in our thoughts and deeds and behave in a dignified manner by remaining within confines of decency. All these facilitate generation of the feeling of love and affection for others, enhances peace and tranquility, a feeling of compassion for others and above all a Godly feeling.

The devotees observe fasts during the duration of Narratri. All these traits enhance the credibility of an individual devotee who observes the fasts and also offers sincere prayers during these  days with utmost devotion. The fasts help us to purify our mind, provides lightness to our body provides us an opportunity to devotees for prayers to Goddess Durga Maa – an embodiment of SHAKTI or reservoir of energy.

Mention of Goddess Durga has been found in Vedas and Puranas. Durg was a ferocious demon and Durga, the invincible warrior who killed Durg with her immense prowess. She is the warrior Goddess since she fought evil and forces which spread death and destruction. She works for demolishing demonic forces who want to establish their writ and establish the reign of terror and mayhem amongst the society besides spreading prosperity and goodwill in general masses. She defeats mythical buffalo demon – Meheshasura who had obtained a boon of invincibility from Lord Maheshwara. She is Goddess Parvati, also termed as Durga Saptashati – the consort of Lord Shiva. With her prowess, she proved herself to be unbeatable with limitless mystical powers.

Besides observing fasts, devotees organize congregations in the form of fairs and also enact programs and cultural functions in the form of group dances and devotional songs in praise of Goddess Durga and beseech her blessings.and she being such a benevolent Mother comes to their succor.

Different states celebrate Navratri differently but the spirit of all the celebrations is similar in nature. For example, famous ‘garva dance’ is organized in the state of Gujarat and devotional songs and dance competitions are organized in West Bengal besides prayers in the specially erected and decorated pandals is a usual phone. People visit the famous temples of Vaishno Devi in Katra (in Jammu province) besides all the temples of Goddess Durga in its different forms/manifestations attract devotees in these nine days.

The main driving force of the Navratri is to purify our thoughts and deeds thereof. In these nine days devout observe strict fasts; remain chaste and desist from telling lies. Wish that people always behave like this all the days!

The first three days are celebrated on the name of Durga Mata – Goddess with immense power. For next three days she is worshipped as spiritual wealth – Mata Lakshmi.

Subsequently, for next three days, she is Goddess of wisdom – the Goddess Saraswati. It bestows spiritual enlightenment besides showering an individual with all-around success.

It is useful for our benefit to know the importance of each day.

1. First Day. On the first day, Mata Durga is termed as Shailputri – the daughter of Himalaya and the consort of Lord Shiva.
2. Second Day. Mata Durga on the second day is called as Brahmacharini which represents worship. She is the embodiment of huge reserve of power – Shakti.
3. Third Day. On the third day, the Goddess is venerated as Chandraghanta. She is the embodiment of power and beauty.
4. Fourth Day. On the fourth day, Maan Durga is worshipped in the form of Kushmanda – the creator of the whole universe by the power of her laughter.
5. Fifth Day. Here on this day, Skandha – the main warrior of Gods’ army.
6. Sixth Day. On the sixth day, Mataji takes the form of Katyayani with three eyes and four hands – all powerful and with immense grace.
7. Seventh Day. On this day, Maan Durga takes the form of Kalratri – she is shown as black as dark night with four hands and makes the evil doers fearless.
8. Eighth Day. On the eighth day, the Mata Durga takes the form of Maha Gauri – with beauty besides having calmness and exhibits immense wisdom.
9. Ninth Day. On a ninth day, Maan Durga is worshipped as Siddidatri – with all the eight siddhis. In this form, she is worshiped by all.

Benefits of Navratri:-

• Strict observance of fasts keep our digestive system in order and helps maintain our body healthy.
• Fasts help in purifying our mind because we pray Goddess continuously for nine days/nights. It also enhances our focus on the subject we contemplate for completion.
• Purification of body and mind means spiritually directed conscious mind thus a shift from negativity to positivity
• Congregations in melas and group processions help the people to people contacts thus animosity, if any, gets obliterated and a feeling of fellow feeling and cooperation sprouts. Contact with each other enhances our outreach in the society.
• Group dances and spiritual song competitions enhance competitive spirits in the youth and also help them direct their latent energies to productive use.
• Devotees, in their zeal to show earnest desire to have total connectivity with Goddess Durgaji, offer singular devotion to Her during these auspicious days, reap the harvest of getting their problems solved and get ETERNAL PEACE  in their lives as a reward of this worship.

ON GOOD AND NOT SO GOOD TIMES

GOOD & NOT SO GOOD TIMES

 

A truth stares large at our face

A realism which could be experienced

Anytime and anywhere

That time is a great healer

It is neither our friend nor our enemy

Time gives us good returns when our Karma is the best

It is worst when Karma is the worst

Tough time passes awfully slowly

There are breaks and pauses at every step we take

Indeed very it passes very sluggishly

Every fraction of the tough moment is spent

Seems like hours pilled together

Bringing in its wake

Countless and unpredictable miseries

Adversely affecting the lives

Of the persons so affected.

Contrarily,  the good time passes

As quickly as it comes

It does not cling-on with us for long

As we may wish to prolong

Because of our wishes in reality

Remain wishy-washy cravings.

That which is destined to us humans

With the grace of the Omnipotent and Omniscient

Remains with us till eternity

We can just enjoy those bounties graciously

And be thankful to Him

For giving us good times

Or not so good times

Which may depress us.

But our sincerest prayers

To You O Lord

Do grant us wisdom

And with it confidence aplenty

To face that ‘not so good time’ with equanimity

In association with Thee

O Lord in the Heaven.

When feeling depressed

Provide us Thy eternal succor

So that every ill-omen

Affecting our psyche

In the thin air, it evaporates

With Thy presence near us all.

The God is the creator of everybody and everything

He helps in the fruition of everything

Thee is the destroyer of everything

For creating everything afresh

Hence listen to our sincere prayer

Erase every speck of despair and delusion

Which remains in our constitution

And enlighten us with Thy Light

For eternal balance in our life

To be at peace and in ease

In good and in bad situations alike.

GOOD AND NOT SO GOOD MOMENTS

It should always be remembered that life is a mix of good and bad tidings. No person in this world is without problem in life. Some may have the physical problem, some may have psychological problems, others may be down with financial stringency etc. Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s wisdom suffusing words should always be remembered: NANAK DUKHIYA SAB SANSAR. Those who say that they do not have problems are, in fact, speaking the half-truth – having bound mindset. Let’s free ourselves from mental clutches.

In hard times, Bible stresses to be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

IF PROBLEMS ARE THERE, THE SOLUTIONS TOO ARE NEARBY

Now coming to our all-pervasive sorrow, listless conditions, broken promises, dissatisfaction in plenty, remaining stressed all the times etc. I am sanguine; if the problems are there the solutions may also be there in the problems itself. The tough times though passes with difficulty, yet this time could be changed with tenacious belief in our God and ourselves. Tough times always teaches us something, we should always keep a healthy balance in all situations.

In Bhagwad Gita, it has been emphasized that in the material world, one who is unaffected by whatever good or evil he may obtain, neither praising it nor despising it, is firmly fixed in perfect knowledge

HABIT FORMATION – BOTH POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ONES

Importantly, there are the people who make it a chronic habit to feel sad on any impulse or issue under the sun. In essence, a habit is formed by our free will, when we repeat a particular thought process or action thereto, a number of times. It may be being abusive (as a habit), any bad habit like smoking, drinking, initially started as a prank or a practical joke, becomes a habit if this prank continues for a number of times. While this habit becomes an acute and then chronic habit, it does not leave us so easily there afterward. This is true of the habit of remaining sad without rhyme or reason. Those who see darkness in any shred of opportunity, without even reflecting that the opportunity could lift our spirit and change our life meet frustration and disappointment in life.

BEING REACTIVE CAN CREATE UNPREDICTABLE SITUATIONS

On my way to the office, I happen to witness a nasty incident in which a car washer got bashing simply because he used abusive language while giving way to a fellow passerby to cross that narrow passage. When the passerby requested him for giving a little way so that he could pass, instead he retorted; ‘can’t you wait for a while, you son of a bitch’. The passerby reacted with a slap on the face of the car washer.

In the meanwhile, the car owner too joined the fracas. Fisticuffs were exchanged which resulted in an innocuous no-situation at all turning into a ferocious fight between the two parties. None of the two parties were listening each other. I also tried to intervene so as to quell the situation but to no avail. Finally, police intervention was sought. The police party called the two parties to the police station and the case was finally settled amicably; with a lot of unnecessary bad blood.

The inconsequential remark of the car washer resulted into violent reaction by the passerby, resulting in hot arguments between the car owner and the person concerned creating not wellness or pleasant situation between the two but an unpleasant one resulting wastage of time, energy, money besides creation of malice, resentment, and stressful situation. This proves that we are responsible for creating unnecessary stressful situations. A half-hearted approach to solving any problem could result in inappropriate and unpredictable consequences.

CREATION OF WELLNESS CAN SOLVE ANY PROBLEM

A professional who follows his/her profession with insightfulness, the right attitude, creating congenial situations even at hopeless situations, bringing to bear all the experiences as though that was the only case for that person to handle, focusing undivided attention to the task etc. can make the huge difference even in trying situations. All good traits put together could create the cool atmosphere even in tragic situations.

I came across this sort of positive situation in an Operation Theatre. On experiencing blurredness in the vision a few days back, I took my wife to the Ravi Eye Foundation, Janak Puri, New Delhi. The doctor (Dr. Ravi Thandani) recommended the operation. After all the test formalities were completed, he created positive atmospheric inside the OT and conducted an operation proving his proficiency and adroitness in his profession. He combined his professional ethics with humane touch which is a hallmark of any profession and especially so of a doctor.

COMPASSION MULTIPLIES OUR HAPPINESS

A person who cares for others creates situations and conditions with which he/she changes the lives of others with his thoughts and Karmic deeds.

Yesterday, three persons from came to our office from a Gurdwara, for seeking contributions. This fund collected is used for the welfare of downtrodden especially in the rural area.  One of our colleagues S. Arminder Singh, contributed Rs. 1,00000/- from his savings – all his savings! This way, he would have multiplied his happiness and divided smiles. Such people are rare humans, humane, compassionate along with all the wonderful traits mixed together. Those who are empathetic towards needy are really loved by our Bhagwan Ji.

Following should be kept in mind to decrease sadness and increase our wellness:-

Increase your Self Esteem

Cultivate good habits, like helping needy – materially or imparting education or in any way you can. The wellness you will create will help you enhance your self-esteem if you make this as a habit – but it should not be as a sign of showcase but selfless service for a cause.

Unlearning the old rut of sadness

In order to unlearn the bad habit it is a must to start how and under what conditions or situations you imbibed the trait of negative thinking about yourself. Then unlearn that part through trial and error method. You will be unsuccessful initially but just continue to act in a positive way.

Dissatisfaction as a habit

During my interactions and dealing with others, I have seen people having everything; material possessions, sound health, happy family, good career prospectus including everything that a person needs for a living yet they are not satisfied with life. They compare their everything with others and as a consequence is just like you; stressful, disappointed, sad etc.

Limit your needs. We should try to limit our needs lest our needs put us in distress in the long run.

Lead a simple life.  The simple life is a purposeful life. The simpler the lifestyle, lesser are our needs and hence lesser are our financial related problems.

Our ego is our enemy. Those who have egocentric tendencies cannot see anything beyond their sphere of activities. They are the prisoners of their own inconsistencies hence add-up their own problems.

Spiritualism makes difference. A balance results when we perform the task at hand adopting patience, perseverance, and equanimity as the basis to face life, its problems, and challenges. Spiritual oriented lifestyle makes the huge difference

In Holy Quran, it has been very clearly mentioned to seek Allah’s help with patient perseverance and prayer. It is indeed hard except for those who are humble. 

Never compare yourself with others. Compare yourself with those who are afflicted with physical and mental diseases and cannot have any incentive for growth and development in their lives.

Conclusively, it could conveniently not be forgotten that life is a mix of happiness and sadness. If happiness is there, sadness too will be there somewhere. We love the fragrance of a rose flower which refreshes us but rose plants too have thorns; should never be forgotten with a lesson that tough times provide us the opportunity to face life’s challenges with patience and perseverance.

 

What are a bullying, their thoughts, and actions? Can such a person be refined?

What are a bullying, their thoughts, and actions? Can such a person be refined?

BULLYING

An individual whose attitude

Is negatively oriented

For nobody has given them

The right type of value system

From their childhood onwards

They grew up with a notion

That their manners were flawless

That to bully others is their birthright

To hoodwink others is their pastime

With their treachery is writ large on their faces

Wherever they put their foot

They show signs of negativity

For they get trigger happy

When others feel heat due to their unethical actions

Of omissions and commissions

Which gives bullies the permit to beat the laws with impunity

These laws could be natural laws or the laws of the land

Which are obeyed by the law abiding citizens devotedly

Gun running is their culture, a most vaunted one

Throwing to the winds the laid down conventions

Their so-called religion

Bullies are the burden on the society in which they live

For they thrive on others’ weaknesses

Their tribes need to be curbed

Either through law enforcement

Or through giving them right dose of enlightenment.

MEANING OF A BULL

It is in the fitness of things to understood what the word ‘bully’ denotes. The word bully has been derived from the word ‘bull’ which means the male of any of mammals such as whales, cows, elephants, seals etc. Strangely, the bull is kept free to mingle with its genre without let or hindrance – with little or no responsibility. That is in mammal world.

WHO IS A BULLY

Now coming to humans, there are people who are more than equals, who are not given quality time by their parents due to one reason or other and therefore do not get value system which is so important for us all during our early childhood till we are adults.

Those who are brought up bereft of proper value system and etiquette results in not getting their animal instinct proper honed. They have developed undomesticated animal-like instinct while they grow up. For such person to term them as ‘bully’ is not far-fetched term since they behave like the bull. Whereinsoever they put their foot, they exhibit their true color. It may be in social gatherings, in their interactions with their fellow beings, etc. Their attitude and habits reveal everything. They are compulsive argumentive, pick up fights at every given opportunity and above all fastidious.

REASONS FOR IMBIBING BULLY TRAITS

As for the question of why they behave such. Following are some of the reasons:-

1. Seemingly such people do not get proper value system that is required during their early childhood till adulthood, therefore, in the absence of good traits they imbibe animal instincts.
2. The fact being that such people do not get good upbringing and schooling they pick up all the negativity from the environment they live.
3. Such people have the trait of getting anything and everything without sincere efforts, such people force others to part with their hard-earned earnings as ‘hafta’ as we call it to legitimate their fiefdom or maintain their influence within their community they are living.
4. Through their unethical and immoral attitude and behavior, they put on fear psychosis on the targeted group that their life becomes difficult in a way,

Now coming to the ethical part of such bully’s lifestyle, they are not only the enemies of the society in which they live but also of their own selves because in their hearts of hearts they know their attitude is anti-social, irrational and immoral to say the least.

TYPES OF BULLYING

1. BODILY BULLYING. There are people who would resort to harming others by pushing or pulling somebody with a notion that the concerned fellow will not react because of his weak health or other consideration. This could be violence which has become a common feature in schools, colleges, universities and other formal institutions.
2. EMOTIONAL BULLYING. This sort of bullying is more pronounced in the families or when we know somebody’s weakness as an individual. We know, sometimes, this is resorted to by either of the spouses, between parents, or when the children do not look after their parents in oldage. It could also be done in workplaces when a boss resorts to bullying his subordinates to gain acceptability or for undue favors too. This sort of bullying leads to physiological and psychological results.
3. INDIVIDUAL BULLYING. This is the bullying done by a single person on other with an intention to harm other people. It may be bulling a girl by a boy in the class or outside the school in order to extract some undue favors. This sort of intimidation, corrosion, innuendo, tarnish the image or reputation of the person concerned etc is resorted to with a view to tarnishing the image of others.
4. GROUP OR COLLECTIVE OR MOP BULLYING. It has been seen that there are strong trade unions of employees in some organizations which enjoy unbridled rights in browbeating the organizational heads and many a time blackmail them by resorting to strikes and pen-down-strike etc. this way adversely impacts the working of the concerned organization in their day to day functioning.  Some students in schools, colleges and universities take resource to group bulling their administrative heads to get their irrational and unethical demands accepted.
5. BULLING IN POLITICS. In politics, bullying is more pronounced.  A regional party elected faces the bullying by the main-stream party ruling at the centre in their day to day functioning despite their best performance as far as governance is concerned. This bullying may be for providing less financial assistance to fulfil their expenditure obligations as per their budgetary requirements.  This bullying proves disastrous for smooth governance.
6. CYBER BULLYING. This is the latest form of bullying. Some individuals after getting information about their victims resort to blackmailing in order to extract confidential information. This may be forgetting defence related confidential information by honey-trapping a person concerned and subsequently subjecting that person to threats and counter threats for more. This could also be by firstly befriending an individual on facebook or word app and then subjecting that individual to bullying after securing some compromising information which is prejudicial to the overall good.
7. COUNTRIES BULLYING OTHER COUNTRIES. It has been observed that some countries with financial clout are resorting to intimidating their neighbours by intruding on their sovereignty by air or on land. This is to showcase their economic clout and weapon superiority.
8. BULLYING BASED ON RELIGION, CASTE, AND COLOUR OR CULTURAL OR LINGUISTIC IDENTITIES. There are people who bully those minorities having different religions, caste, language identities than those of theirs. This should stop and democratic lifestyle should be encouraged.   

HOW BEST TO GET RID OF BULLIES

In Bhagwat Gita, Lord Krishna exhorted the Dhanushdhari Arjuna to perform his duty and fight the evil in the form of Kauravas who were bullying the Pandavas. The Pandavas were the epitome of piousness but the Kauravas were the epitome of deceit and bullying.  Similar is the case with the bullies of this world who are making others unhappy, look small, taking cudgels, torments other unnecessarily or slights others.

HOW A BULLY COULD BE REFINED

As bullies are the unbridled brutes who neither have respect for the older members of the society nor the law of the land as they consider themselves as the laws onto themselves. They are the festering wounds of the society, which if not cured within timeframe can prove counterproductive for the society in which they live but also for themselves. Such psychos take laws into their own hands and harm the general public.

We should not forget that there are bullies in every society and we are constrained to live with this realism. May it be the exhibition of their trigger-happy attitude while gunning in schools and colleges in Western world or looting general people by their treacherous demeanor by looting the banks in India, they are the bad fish living in any societies. They are to be identified, given chance to refine their attitude and behavior pattern. Given the right opportunities, we can change their mindset as proper training could mold even a ferocious brute.

1. Change the mindset of the concerned person by putting in positive traits in that person.
2. Such people should be identified and proper counseling under the psychologists should be undertaken to avoid or stop recurrence of bullying.
3. By infusing good value system from their childhood itself by the parents by giving them valuable time.
4. Some example should be set by awarding the bullies the punishment

they deserve.

4. By putting such people in spiritually oriented life so that they change their way of thinking and acting

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