In real life, moot point stands out, we tend to measure ourselves not because of own standing, understanding besides level of achievement but what others think about ourselves. I attribute this perceptive factually fallacious in real sense of terms but it happens in real sense of terms.
there are different types of people. There are ones who are introvert and there
are extroverts then there are people who are excessively self-conscious.
Self-conscious ones are very touchy or
temperamental. Anything or everything which happens in their lives, they’ll
react and will not just keep silent. They are compulsive reactive people and with
reactive tendency they cannot tolerate any criticism of anybody. Even a normal
healthy criticism spoils their day or just a laugh or smirk will adversely
affect their demeanor. It should be kept in mind that we do not get
appreciations always. Sometimes, somewhere, we’ve to face adverse situation.
disputes the fact that we’ve to be self-conscious but it too has certain limit.
With self-awareness, we shall be able to know our self-potential but of course
our weaknesses too. Just eliminate those weaknesses to the limit possible. While
we have confidence, we conduct ourselves appropriately in any situation. Always
bear in mind that nobody has time and resources to waste on others. Just perform your duties, as assigned, and
forget what others think about you.
Never ever take any sort of criticism
seriously. May be the person who is laughing at you wants to distract you from
the project you are undertaking and does not want you to focus on the project
at hand. Also, if somebody browbeats you, laughs at you, it means that
particular person does not like your growth in life. Or worst still, may be
that person is mentally sick and requires psychiatric’s help.
why to blame others for your drawbacks? You think others are laughing at you
means there is something lacking in you itself and it is about time that you
make amends in your attitude and behavior pattern and be confident about yourself.
we should always keep in mind that in whatever way we are created by our
Creator, we should love ourselves; have the self-esteem to the best of our ability.
In that self-belief, have self-affirmation.
you are conscious about your looks, then we should always read about the lives
of great men who changed the very idea that it does not merely the looks which
count but their performance which makes huge impression. We should always
realize that all those who created something different were not that handsome
or beautiful. We have the fine example: like Mick Jagger (the Rolling Stone),
Susan Boyle (The International Singing Sensation), Sir Winston Churchill ,
Napoleon Bonaparte (French Emperor), Hellen Keller and many more examples who
made a name and fame for themselves despite their one drawback or other. These
people were not self-conscious but were fully confident about their inner
potential and made a huge difference.
so, if you think that you are not having adequate education to impress others
and that brings you lack of confidence. In that case, you should read about the
life of Thomas Alva Edison. He had limited formal education – had to leave his
education pursuits to work. But before his death, he had 1093 patents on his
name for light and power, phonography, telegraphy, storage batteries etc. Such
is the power of inner potential. Those who realize it, do not care about the
extraneous things. They do not care about anything – somebody may laugh at them
or not they care damn and go on in their lives.
The following aspects should be taken
into account for making us confident and self-assertive:-
self-confident to face any situation at all times.
we may come across different people, some may be of your liking while others
may not be of your liking but you will have to adjust with everybody.
anybody criticizes us, introspect the point on which you are criticized and try
improving that aspect. And if the criticism is far-fetched and with ulterior
agenda driven then just ignore it and do not lose your sleep over this.
think that nobody approbation at all times. There are occasions when we shall
be laughed at or down-graded but we should not take this criticism very
seriously. Let go is the only alternative.
cool and confident at any situation and never be reactive. When somebody is
making your reactive or angry, it means the person concerned is controlling
thinking that you are being laughed at may be wrong impression so it should be
taken as a bad dream and forgotten as such. Let that person laugh or weep, it
is not your business to stop him/her not to do so. If and what on this, may
create problem rather than solving it.
are mere laughed at should not spoil your composure since in life there are
occasions when you’ll meet such
contingencies but you should not be overly conscious about it all. Just take it
coolly. Life does not stop here. It just continues. Laughing or weeping hardly
duly constituted drafting committee with impeccable track record and integrity
presented the first draft of Constitution of India on 4th November
1947 and subsequently signed the prepared Constitution of the union on 24th
January 1950 by the National Assembly while it came into effect with effect
from 26th January 1950. This day was chosen because of its own
importance – being the anniversary of Purna Swaraj Day (26th
Jan 1930). This empowered the general masses to choose their own Government of
their choice besides conferring the rights and duties and other important
aspects of governance.
REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS
Whilst India won its independence
From the bondage – the most repressive one
On 15th August 1947
This we got through violent and non-violent
In which countless people made supreme
Free India was not having constitution of
A drafting committee was constituted
Which gave its first draft report 4th
Consisting men of impeccable record
The National Assembly put their indelible
On the constitution so diligently prepared
On 24 January, 1950
And came into force on 26 January 1950
Merging with the spirit of the anniversary
of Purna Swaraj Day
26th January 1930, a historic day – we doubtlessly
Representing the true spirit of independence
Conferring power to its people to elect
own Government of choice
And many more rights but also their duties
And indirectly govern themselves!
Dr. Rajendra Prasad took oath
The first President of free India/Bharat
Unfurled the National Flag at Irwin Stadium.
Military might of the land is showcased at
Here our para-military forces too show their
Through their smartly dressed parade.
Gallantry awards conferred to the bravest of
Some fortunate get the same by themselves
While others get these posthumous,
From the President of India,
Their Supreme Commander.
The cultural diversity of different regions
Too are the other attractions
A rainbow of diversity indeed!
The other States of the Union too are not
This is the beauty of our republic.
My wish-list for the next Republics is listed below:-
Every Indian should Respect Constitution
First and foremost wish is that all Indians should respect the Constitution and the contents contained in it as a sacred document especially so the rights, besides this, the duties of the citizenry have to be followed / obeyed threadbare by all without bias. In other word, the Constitution of a country is sacrosanct document, containing all the parameters of good governance and should command respect and respect from all its citizens.
A Corruption Free Society
It is my fond hope that
there should a dawn of corruption free society and those assigned the task of
governance and general masses, in whatever tasks they are working (lower or
higher) perform their job assigned/chosen with impeccable commitment and
sagacity besides upholding the integrity of the country. There should also be zero
tolerance of corruption and also corrupts get quick justice for their nefarious
designs. No status or material possessions should come in the way of corruption
free society. Here Lok Pal Bill/Lok Ayukta’s dictum should be the guiding
dictate for dealing with corrupts who are eating into the vitals of our
Respect for Women
Unless until we give due respect to women as mother/sister/daughter/wife
or friend, we cannot call ourselves as civilized society. It should be without
consideration to nationality (I want my country respect women without
consideration to any bias as we have seen in many instances. My wish is that my
country respect all women without any discrimination whatsoever.
Economic Growth / Strength
In the international arena, those
societies which have got economic clout are held in high esteem and their say
is always respected even in renowned world forums. This economic growth does
not just come about without concerted efforts on the part of the Government and
the general masses. I wish that the next Republic comes when the Government
fulfills its vision and mission to upgrade our economy globally. Growth and
development should be all inclusive one. All the sectors of economy i.e.
industrial; agricultural; infra etc should grow side by side for an overall
pump-priming effect on the people in general.
We are proud of our Republic
since 65% of the people are below 35 years of age. This human resource should
be exploited to the hilt and should not be left to be frittered away by a few
corrupt individuals. For this to happen, it is a must that this huge segment of
our society gets opportunity for better training/skill and help lift the country
from the present stature to the stature of high growth. This is possible with
growth in Research & Development for better results in all sphere
especially technological development and IT Sector which could go north-ward
which merit and talent are given more credence.
People’s Representatives and Governance
This is my fondest hope and aspiration that the members chosen
by my countrymen fulfill their assigned tasks with aplomb without resort to
populist rhetoric’s as has been resorted to recently – a few days
back by the personages holding responsible chairs. This over jealous vigilante
attitude is highly regrettable. People at high places should know the rules of
governance and stick to the fructify policies on war footings rather than half
hearted approach. The people’s representatives should, in other words, act
responsibly besides performing their political dharma.
Defence of the Land is of Prime Importanc
While we see the current preparedness in military; it is important that
we remain updated in defence preparedness i.e. all the wings of armed forces;
Army, Air Force & Navy should get equitable and technologically updated
weaponry, hardware and software. We have to keep our borders and coastal area
secure and for this to happen it is a important
that India becomes self-sufficient in defence
related equipment and do not remain dependent on others. For this our Research
and Development (DRDO, ISRO & other important units) will have to
chip in to help in this direction. For this self-reliance is a must in
Spiritual Onward March
Over and above the above cited
subjects, I am sanguine that our development cannot be so incisive without our
spiritual growth and development. Whatever course we adopt, of whatever
religion we follow, we should try to seek Him for our liberation (Moksha)
besides performing our daily day to day routines.
which living beings cannot have any existence
for a limited period of time.
body is a powerhouse of energy
can utilize this one for creating things of beauty
to the reserve of our knowledge base
obeying the Laws of Mother Nature
the laws of society we are part
to leakage in our energy cycle
cutting trees or by polluting air and water
impact our energy severely .
not obeying the norms set by society
following ways so steeped in negativity
drain/sap our life’s inner sap.
positively oriented life
provide ad-on to our already existing energy
could be used for life’s variety of activities
others to appreciate
for us to be proud of our own creation
course, with the grace of own Creator.
THE ENERGY IN OUR BODY & ITS USE.
Essentially, while we transact any job, we require adequate force or power which makes us to get-up-and go in anything we do. For crystallizing that power, and to add to that power, we need to have inner resolve and will to face inner and outer pressures. In other words, the energy or liveliness to face any pressure in life comes from within us. A determined mind makes huge difference here since we deplete our latent energy in negative Karma such as anger, fear, jealousy, rancor, hate, arrogance etc. All these negative actions of ours willy-nilly sap our energy and make us powerless to face any challenge that comes in our life; thus making us helpless when it is needed the most. We must have observed the expressions on a person with anger, it adversely affects not only that person’s energy but also his power to think rationally. We can term this anger as a big-hole from which our energy leaks. While we are seething in anger, we just deplete the precious energy we are possessing in us. It is not mere anger there are also other negative agents which deplete our positive energy.
LEAKAGE OF OUR PRECIOUS ENERGY
The vast amount of energy which
we possess could be utilized productively if we do not waste the same in useful
creative pursuits. The first crack, if plugged in the initial stages itself,
will make huge difference in having sufficient energy in us to deal with any
contingency,. And if a small crack when remain unattended, it will grow to be a
big outlet which cannot be plugged easily, it goes uncontrolled. We must have
seen how a small leak in a water dam, if not plugged in time, could become
uncontrolled big hold, emptying the dam and causing irreparable damage
thereafter giving credence to the saying: a stitch in time saves nine. It
requires a lot of energy and willpower to control that wide open hole.
Fact remains, when
gaping-hole is plugged with personal determination or with the help of some
well-wishers, then, we can conserve the energy and this energy could be
meaningfully used for creative jobs. The antidote for removing these leaks is
by adopting positive thoughts in our daily life activities. These positively
oriented thoughts include; compassion, empathy, kindness, tolerance, patience,
humility, etc. These can work as curing balm and help plug the leaks rampant in
the form of any negative thoughts. These leaks are in the form of anger,
jealousy, envy, resentment, animosity, etc.
POSITIVE THOUGHTS HELP CONSERVE OUR ENERGY
It has been experienced that when somebody with a
positive frame of mind enters our space, our inner energy gets boost due to
that person’s presence. On the other hand, a person with gloom and doom write
large on his/her face will spread painful emotion and lackluster energy in the
HUMAN RESOURCE – THE BEST FORM OF COLLECTIVE ENERGY
Human resource is one of the best
forms of energy which, if utilized meaningfully, could have multiplying affect
on the growth and development of a country. Meaning when talented people, based
solely on merit, are made to head the vital sectors of the economy including
Human Resources and Education, then, we
can have multiple growth and development in any society. Brain drain of the
talented people could sap that energy from the country concerned.
In politics too, positive energy
helps a lot. When politicians are in positive frame of mind, they spread
good-will and frame policies which are inclusive in nature for the welfare of
all without discrimination.
SPIRITUAL LIFE AND CONSERVATION OF ENERGY
It has been experienced that if we lead a spiritual
oriented life, we shall endeavour to maintain balance in our life in any
contingency. By this, we cultivate the
habit of appreciating beauty, love-,
more love springs up in our midst, there is blossoming of sensitive
energy in us, there also is existence of compassion/empathy and pain for
others’ suffering and above all creativity too dawns. This also changes the
anger, fear, greed and hate into sensitive feelings without being judgmental
about it all.
All these changes help in conserving the energy in
It has been observed that law of conservation of
energy says: Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, rather, it could be
transformed from one form to another. Meaning potential energy could be
transformed to kinetic energy etc. It can also be said that our positive energy
could also be changed to negative energy and vice versa. In what degree we want
to change our negative energy into positive depends on us only.
Our body is powerhouse of energy but need is to use this energy in positive pursuits; for creative purpose. We can enhance our inner energy by our positive thoughts and actions. On the other hand negative orientation sap our latent energy. The following should be kept in mind for adding to our energy:-
Forgive and forget. It has been experienced that we fritter our energy by keeping some incident in our mind which keeps us tied down on something unproductive. Then fears of things which may or may not happen, on anger, jealousy on others’ good fortune and other negative pursuits resulting in sapping of our energy. This energy could be conserved and utilized on some productive and creative pursuit
Remain happy. We all are aware, in life, we face ups and downs. When hay tidings are there, we feel elated whereas when something negative, we feel very low in spirits. This weakens the existing energy in us besides becomes a roadblock in our further progress in our life.
No moodiness. When we do not have control over our mind and senses, we become very sensitive even on a slightest pretext. I have observed that even the people who call themselves educated fall prey to this moodiness. This adversely tells upon our health and wellness.
Thanks Giving. Whenever somebody does something for us, we should express our thanks to the person concerned. We should also thank God for giving us everything including all the natural bounties without which our survival is not possible. Just a thank will lift our spirits.
Exercise your mind. We have to exercise control on our mind and the senses so that whatever we transact is within the natural laws, laws of the land including the norms set by the society. Working this manner, we shall have positive orientation in our feelings and thereby our pos6tive energy too would be lifted upwards.
Detached mentality. We should always bear in mind that whatever happens, happens for good. In this BHAGWAD GITA SONG should always be kept in mind:
Whatever has happened has
happened for the good
Whatever is happening is also for
Whatever shall happen, shall also
What have you lost that you cry
What did you bring that you have
What did you create that was
What you have taken, has been
What has been given has been
What belong to you today,
belonged to someone else yesterday
And will be someone else tomorrow
Change is the law of Universe.
Remain in present moment. Most of us just remain glued to the past or worry about the future. The past will not be revisited again and the future nobody can predict. Therefore, we should not lose our present moment in reverie about the past or future though some of the past experiences could be of value to us.
Love and smile. Love and be loved besides spreading dividing smile make a huge difference in our own spirits.
Do not dwell in negativism. Many a times we are engulfed with unfounded fears. If anything has to happen, we cannot do anything about it rather we can protect ourselves from a happening if we are having impression of facing those spetre of fear when it actually comes. To disorient ourselves before an actual happening just takes away our energy. Negatively oriented thoughts puts us in dire straits and weakens our resolve to face the situation as it comes.
Live a spiritual oriented life. While we lead spiritual oriented life, we do our duties with sincerity, deal honestly with others, lead a compassionate life, feel pain while others feel so and above all we love, pray & meditate to our Creator and thank Him for everything that He has graced us.. It has also been seen that living in spiritual oriented lifestyle add zeal and zest in our life and we lead a purposeful life full of care for the needy.
If experience is any guide, then we can vouch say the importance of freedom in the following aspects:-
Freedom of thoughts and actions thereof does not mean to have freedom to trample the hapless people or impinge on their fundamental rights enshrined in the constitution.
Real freedom comes into being when we enjoy the fruits of action in the atmosphere of freedom bereft of any coercion or pressure from outside.
Real freedom in thoughts and actions comes when we remain within the confines of our limits; my freedom of action ends where somebody spheres of influence starts.
In our homes, in our formal and informal institutions, we’re constrained to remain within some norms set by these institutions. Here total freedom means prevalence of chaos and confusion in the society.
If at all we’ve to seek freedom, it is from ego-centric tendencies from our within us for living a balanced life.
Freedom, for all intends and purposes should be given right direction, unfettered freedom leads to anarchy and lawlessness.
Too much of freedom can be disastrous for overall growth and development. Checks and balances serve the purpose of establishing the rule of law.
Freedom to make difference hugely dawns when we enjoy our freedom while respecting the freedom of others.
It is in SPIRITUALITY wherein a complete surrender is essential in order to establish connectivity with God. In other words, we’ve to orient our thoughts according to the scriptural knowledge contained in different religious texts; it may be be religious texts of Christianity, Muslim, Hinduism, Sikhism etc.
I take freedom as a necessity in our life but limitless freedom blocks of balanced growth and development because it could create authoritative tendencies in us.
OF THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS
When we think in free atmosphere
And act on that thought without let or hindrance
surely put add-on
our creative power
erected on our sincere efforts surely
bogged down severely.
born without any fetters
after our birth on this earth
remain dependent on others for our survival
food and several needs
by our learning
school, college, university or other Institutions
we get the employment
to our aptitude
too we are not free to act
we like or detest
to work under some rules and regulations
organization we are engaged.
society too we have to remain within norms
by the society in general
we shall face the outcome so dismal
in life, we’ve layers of obstructions.
only in spiritual plane
necessarily is considered as the highest traits
liberty of thought and action is curtailed
has to work in sync with truth given in the scriptures
are based on the practical experiences
have to surrender our worldly wishes
eternal peace and bliss.
to dissolve ourselves
liberation from births and deaths
the grace of Almighty God.
FREEDOM & KNOWLEDGE
what we want to achieve – a state wherein we’re
free to get knowledge at the conscious level. The freedom to act based
on the particular free thought to get knowledge is always considered good. If
we surrender to somebody, it means we are not free to act. To be free one has
to act just independent of anything or everything. If we are dependent on
something, it means, we are not having freedom.
If we have
to be forced to act in a particular manner according to others’ whims and
caprice which in fact is not acceptable to as then our freedom would be
curtailed proving that freedom cannot be gained simply by surrender.
IN SPIRITUAL PLANE
plane, surrender is considered one of the highest traits to get optimum
results. For example, we have to follow the religious scriptures which are also
based on experiences over a period of time and stand the test of time. Here the
freedom of thought and action would be open to discussion. We have to surrender
some worldly wishes (Sansarik bhabhnian) in order to get inner peace and
spiritual awakening. We have to dissolve ourselves for getting benefits
belongs only to the consciousness and awareness. So one requires surrendering
one’s ego and the mind only, otherwise one’s consciousness and awareness is
already free. And those who do not have the ego, do not require surrender of
any kind, as per my opinion.
it is the freedom from ego-sense and selfishness which is the bedrock for
surrender to the Divine.
FREEDOM AND KNOWLEDGE ATTAINED
Importantly, knowledge is a power, when got in an atmosphere of
freedom. It empowers people. In the ancient Indian traditions, the
knowledge was imparted to the pupils (Shishya) by the Gurus (Teachers) in
Gurukulas (Guru means teacher and Kula means family like atmosphere). These
Gurukulas used to impart educational instruction in the open sky with clean
ambiance and with free flow of information. It was based purely on Guru and
Shishya (Teacher and pupil) based on wide ranging subjects. The pupils were
free to ask questions and get their concepts cleared. Here the disciples
(Shisha) were given ample opportunities to quench their thirst of getting
knowledge without let or hindrance and thereby remove the ignorance prevailing.
FREEDOM FOR HOLISTIC DEVELOPMENT
Essentially, an individual’s holistic
growth could be made possible when one has got freedom of thought and to act on
the basis of that thought. Here too, free flow of information from other
sources is a must. Seemingly, a society wherein citizens enjoy autonomy
of thought and to perform, there is more initiative and creativity due to
self-motivation; thereby more productivity in free atmosphere. The
freedom of thought and action are the two essential ingredients for success in
any field of activity. Apprehension of any sort creates confusion and
deceleration in growth.
FREEDOM WHILE EXPERIENCING LIFE
is a state wherein we have autonomy of thought and action with a view to
acquire knowledge at the conscious level. This freedom of action is based on
the free flow of thoughts to get knowledge. To be free one has to act just
independent of anything. If we are dependent on something, it means, we are not
having freedom. If we have to be forced to act in a particular manner according
to others’ whims and caprice which in fact is not acceptable as
then our freedom would be curtailed proving that freedom cannot be gained
simply by surrender. Surrender should be of our pride, ego,
etc. Therefore, we can enjoy getting experiences in life in an
atmosphere of freedom while observing some norms.
BELONGS TO OUR CONSCIOUSNESS/AWAEWNESS
belongs only to the consciousness and the awareness. So what we require is
surrender our ego and exercise mind control/self-control. Our consciousness and
awareness is already free and those who do not have the ego, do not require
surrender of any kind, as per my opinion.
AND SURRENDER OF EGO
spiritual plane, surrender is considered one of the best traits to get optimum
results. For example, we h**ave to follow the religious scriptures which are
also based on experiences got over a long period of time and have stood the
test of time. Here freedom is to go within and obtain satiety. While we are
having inner peace, then we can have optimum contribution since we know how to
utilize our inner potential. For this to be reality, it is necessary to
surrender our egocentric tendencies along with greed, anger and animosity for
others and imbibe empathy, helpfulness and goodwill for our fellow beings.
REMAINING WITHIN THE NORMS SET BY THE SOCIETY
The maxim, ‘Man is born free but everywhere he is in chains’
stands good with all of us. When we are born, we do not know what the meaning
of being free but thereafter, we remain dependent on others; such as, on mother
and others for meeting his/her needs after birth. When child is admitted in
school, he/she is not free as in studentship he/she has to remain within the
norms set by the school. After schooling, college, university and in
professional life, he/she has to work under rules and regulations of the
organisation he/she is working. Subsequently when he/she marries, have
children, have to maintain relationship with other members of his/her family.
Here too, nobody can say, in such a scenario, the particular person is
free to act whatever he/she wants because of different pulls and pressures. It
could conveniently be said that breaking free means, breaking from the family
fabric we cannot do so since we cannot work in vacuum.
While working under the framework of country’s constitution and
norms set by the society, we can enjoy various freedoms and ensure our holistic
growth and development.
TO THE DIVINE WILL
should be from ego-sense and selfishness which is the bedrock for surrender to
the Divine. On spiritual plane freedom is very difficult to follow. Here we
have to surrender to God’s will with total detachment in order to obtain Divine
bliss. We have to have particular conditional behavior. Bhagwad Gita says that
we cannot be Karma Yogi without total surrender. We have to renounce the
desires for self aggrandizement. abandoning the fruits of our actions then only
a person could be termed as a true Yogi.
FREEDOM OF MIND ESSENTIAL FOR PEACEFUL MIND.
For freedom to be of any substance, it
is essential that we have freedom of mind; bereft of ego and selfishness while
we express our thoughts, emotions/feelings and action we perform on the basis
of these thoughts. The expressions of thoughts should be within the boundaries
of moral and ethical standpoints. Factually we cannot unravel the human essence
and excellence which enables us to unravel our inner potentials; without
freedom of mind.
Freedom of mind also ensures peace of mind
without any disturbance which may cause inner tremors. Here we also have to be
consciously aware to know when and how our mind gets disturbed and remain
detached from those causes which disturbs our inner balance.
ELECTION OF GOVERNMENTS OF CHOICE IN
In democratic form of Government, the
people have the freedom to choose their OWN representatives who frame laws for
their wellbeing. If such representatives are performing their duties well, they
are chosen again otherwise they are voted out of power and another party comes
to power. One negative thing in democratic form of Government is when some
corrupt people command majority by dint of its muscle power or financial
WHERE THERE IS FREEDOM THERE IS LOVE
We are aware that love is a binding
force. With love even a brute could be tamed. For love to flourish without any
hindrances, it is essential to have freedom to love for our parents, relatives,
neighbours, our friends, even to a stranger when he/she feels disturbed.
FREEDOM IS NOT UNFETTERED FREEDOM
In democratic form of Governments, there
is freedom of expression, freedom to eke out a living for ourselves, freedom to
choose our profession along with freedom to follow our own faith.
MAY THESE THESE FESTIVALS BRING PROSPERITY AND KINSMANSHIP AMONGST ALL
We all are aware that
India is a home to multicultural, multilingual, multicultural and
multi-religious society. We can pride ourselves in having different festivals
too. These festivals are seasonal, traditional, culture based, religion based
or for that matter any other sacred considerations. Here every caste, religion
and region have contributed its mite for enriching the cultural traditions. One
thing is sure that the zeal and enthusiasm that accompanies with these
festivals is second to none.
We Indians enjoy all
the religious festivals – be it Eid or Prakash
Divas/Gurpurab or as a Muslim enjoy Diwali or all of them enjoy Christmas Day
together. That is the beauty of India. I do not dispute that hotheads are there
in any strata of life, those who do not know about their own religious
festivals or of others. One thing which pleases us is the perceptible shine
on the faces of every one of us while celebrating any festival! That is
the beauty of it all ewmains in tact despite some differences notwithstanding.
Lohri festival is
celebrated in Northern Indian states. It is celebrated on 13th January
– in the month of Pauch or Magha, one day before Makkar Sankranti. We term this
festival as a community based festival where Bhangra (dance by men folks) and
Gidha (dance by women folks) to the beats of drums which bring vitality and
jollity to the celebration. Youngsters, by and large, take pleasure in kite
flying and enjoy the occasion.
On this festival,
seasonal dry fruits peanuts, coconut are mixed with jaggery (Gur) and sesame
seeds (til) to make the eatables. Besides, milk cakes are specially made and
distributed amongst relatives and friends.
Following are some of
the reasons for the celebration of Lohri festival:-
It marks the end of winter season and beginning of sowing of some crops and harvesting the others. It infuses vitality and special enthusiasm in the lives of people – especially the farmers. The Lohri festival symbolizes prayer to the fire (Agni puja) in the evening. In the people take parikarma (rounds) around the bonfire and shower offerings to fire. Fire ritual or Agnihotra (Specially lit fire – Havan) is the process of purifying the environment and people also consign to fire a mix of rice, peanuts, walnuts, almonds besides sesame seeds (til) and jaggery to the fire before distributing and taking the same themselves.
It is believed that the
fire ritual has a special significance and possesses healing power besides it
helps in well-being of all along with its benefits in farming too. Special
bounties are asked on this day for the well-being and prosperity of all besides
peace in the entire households. Newly wedded couples and newly born babies receive
special attention on this festival. People give alms to the needy on this
behind the Lohri festival:-
The legend of Dulla
Bhatti (Rai Abdullah Khan) is very popular. It is a legend of a Rajput warrior
who saved a damsel in distress belonging to the Hindu religion from the
clutches of lustful and greedy officials. The brave Rajput adopted her as his
own daughter without let or hindrance and married her off to a young and
suitable Hindu boy. He also gave her presents – nine mounds of sugar along with
other gifts etc on her marriage. This shows that there was a community feeling
during those days. If during those feeling for each others was rampant then why
not now! To appreciate his gesture, the people sing the following song
describing the event and also mentioning about the beauty of the girl who was
saved. We used to go to the houses in our neighbourhood and used to sing and
used to get sweets made for this particular day. This song is sung by the
youngsters even now on this occasion. :-
Sunder mundriye ho! Tera
kaun vicaharaa ho! Dullah
bhatti walla ho! Dullhe
di dhee vyayae ho! Ser
shakkar payee ho! Kudi
da laal pathaka ho! Kudi
da saalu paatta ho! Salu
kaun samete! Chache
choori kutti! zamidara lutti! Zamindaar
bhole aaye! Ek
bhola reh gaya! Sipahee
far ke lai gaya! ……………………
There is also a legend
of Sant Kabir and his wife names Loi. He used to love his wife immensely. So
much so intense was his passion for his wife that one day, he reached his home
in the middle of dark night, travelling from a far off place. The door was
closed from inside. His wife was sleeping on the first floor. Finding that
there was no ladder, he took the help of a rope hanging from the first floor of
his house. When his wife saw him, she was very surprised and asked him as to
how he had entered the first storey. There upon, she along with Kabir saw that
the help with which he had reached the first storey was with the help of a
His wife got upset and
in desperation mentioned: The passion which he was having for her, if he had
the same fervor for the God, he could excelled in anything including
finding the God!
Subsequently, we know
the life Sant Kabir who was a mystical poet whose writings had a deep effect on
Bhakti Movement and his verses find place in Sri Guru Granth Sahib too.
He was brought up in a
Muslim family but was deeply influenced by his teacher Ramananda but he
criticized both in his verses because of his close proximity with both and knew
ins and outs of these religions. In his writings, he has emphatically mentioned
that the God is only with those who follow righteousness and also one who
follows a detached mode of life. His followers are known as Kabir Panthis.
It was due to the
timely advise of his wife named Loi that Kabir had a huge transformation in his
life and became a well known Sant who influenced millions with his writings.
Lodi or Loi is also celebrated in his and his wife’s honour who was
instrumental in molding him.
MAKKAR SANKRANTI (ON 14TH JANUARY)
Makkar Sankranti is
celebrated in the month of Paus (January) Makar Sankranti is the day when the
Sun God enters the Northern Hemisphere. Hindus like Greeks worship Sun God –
the giver of immense energy. Sun God is termed as the manifest God, having all
the glorious divinity. It is worthwhile to mention here that mantra OM ADITYA
AYE NOMON and many other mantras are recited in order to get the blessings of
the Sun God.
The devout also chant Gyatri
Mantra, taken from Rig Veda while making final offering to God. which is from
Rig-Veda, as Makkar Sankranti is associated with cosmic event which affects the
life of humans immensely.
Which means: We meditate
and adore thee the Supreme Lord, the Creator of everything, who’s Divine Light
illuminates all spheres of activity (physical, mental and spiritual). We pray
that this Divine Light may light-up our intellect forever.
This festival is celebrated
with gaiety and enthusiasm in all parts
of India with different names at different places but the keenness remains the
same. Devout get up early in the morning, take bath in holy rivers first take
the blessings of their elders and then offer prayers in the temples. After
having offered prayers, people give alms to the needy according to their
capacity. In the afternoon people share a special Khichri (Hotchpotch – a mix
of dall-urdh and dal).
The Pongal festival is
celebrated in South India (Especially in Tamil Nadu, Puducherry and even in
foreign lands such as Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Singapore etc.). This festival is
celebrated for four days (14th to 17th January). This is
a harvest festival dedicated to the SUN GOD. The Sun is a huge source energy
which helps in growing the crops from sowing to the harvesting. It also
includes boiling of the rice of season sanctified to the Sun which is termed as
Surya Mangalyam. Not only this, the
natural energy in the form of solar energy is being utilized enormously
festival is linked with some seasons
certain well known occasions.
a winter festivals of repute
in the month of ( 13th Jan) Paush
the end of winter season
beginning of longer – a little hotter days ahead soon
In essence, Mother Nature provides natural setting for the living beings to produce of their own kinds. But in case of humans, this production is done within the norms of the institution of marriage. This is done to let the civilization ticking. In this institutionalized marriage, the offspring born out of this nuptial, the following benefits are there:-
There is a stamp of the society in which the couples are living.
Both the couples aspire to fulfill their respective responsibilities for the overall benefit of their family.
The progenies are learn value systems from their parents.
The culture and tradition of the family could be transferred to their children when it is hugely needed.
The parents ensure the financial security of their offspring from child-birth onward.
The children are bestowed with congenial environment for their upbringing under the care and protection of their parents.
Here both the parents give their quality time to their children for refinement of their habits, attitudes and other mores of behavior.
In married life, when the parents grow old, they are looked after by their children Just as they have been cared when they were children.
In the institutionalized marriage, both the parents can make their lives compatible, make adequate adjustment whenever and wherever required.
Differences in the institutionalized marriages can arise but these could be ironed out with mutual consultation or if need be, with the intervention of the elders in the family.
In the institutionalized marriage, there is tacit understanding between the parents and both the parents and grandparents (if they are alive), therefore, if some differences arise the same could be solved with mutual consultations to save the situation from going to the court for separation. Even in the court, the stress is to give chance to the couple for sorting out differences.
When the lives of the offspring also is involved then the cumbersome procedure of custody will have to be followed. Wisdom is to make peace and not let these hapless children to become victims of quibbling between the parents.
relationship is recent phenomenon. The proponents of this type of relationship
say that this is necessitated for understanding each other; their temperaments,
behavior pattern, attitude etc. These people could be termed as rebellious one –
the conventional sort of relationship which has got society’s stamp on it
therefore has legal bindings too.
relationship is already till it works. It can break sooner differences could
arise because there is almost no legal obligation attached with such
relationship. Be that as it may, this relationship stays till the partners want
and breaks up when they want it to break. Then what about the children out of
this live-in relationship? These hapless ones are left to fend for themselves
for their growth and development.
so many loop-holes some of which are given below:-
live-in relationships, as there is no legal obligation, the two part their ways
when there is some difference of opinion.
this relationship breaks up, both the partners are adversely affected more so
of live-in relationship is to fully understand each other (male and female) –
attitudes, habits etc. but more often than not, if experience is a guide, the
rate of failure of relationship is more pronounced than success rate.
relationship as both the partners are rebellious of the institutionalized
marriage, both prefer freedom of thought and action and too much of freedom
becomes a cause of disruption in their relationship.
both live together both have their soft emotional upsurges – having sex and
sometimes safe and other times unsafe; the natural corollary of this is having
children from this live-in relationship.
& LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIPS
living things produce like their own kind
grows from one stage to other
then just give up the ghost
The young ones take their place
This just continues.
In humans it is through customary
institution called marriage
the opposite sex
is a game not so complex
keep ticking the cock of culture & tradition
thing we should not forget at all
& women are a little unlike on physical plane
in all other aspects both are in sync with each other
are empowered with oceanic emotions
than men-folks, if we hazard a comparison
marriage as a recognised institution
created for reproduction
that our offspring are looked after well
more congenial atmosphere
responsibility of both the spouses
upbringing of the progenies
love and affection
upbringing of offspring
the family fabric
value system and cultural mores
pain is reduced through sharing
our family members so caring.
now a days
people are substituting live-in relationships
the process just knocking down
institution of marriage
be there are some drawbacks in it
us the rebelling ones
matrimony as bondage
appeasing the ego
extra liabilities to boot
demolishing the very idea; so pious
are settled in heaven
solemnized on earth’
consider living together
provide them liberty
get what they actually want
satisfaction of their lust
free, they say
them that is what the marriage stands-for
initiators of live-in relationship
think that only in married lives
take place, as a routine
are miserably living in fool’s paradise
have the tendency to fight
each other on silly pretext
or recognized relation hardly makes much difference
relation is the result
immaturity and lack of understanding
of marriage so sacred
created for binding us together
sharing and caring for each other
or substitute for this holy marriage
with chanting of hymns from Vedas
at the Altar or any other method
has community’s indelible stamp
more productive and more enduring
love and affection for the couple
the progenies from that relationship
is a deep sense of commitment.
the live-in relationship
commitment is missing
turn creation of more miseries
the living partners
created in the process
about the children produced
are born out of this cohabitation??
hapless are left to fend for their own selves
the mercies of their own destinies.
should never be forgotten
human relations are formed
deep sense of emotions
deep emotions are missing
lust without trust remains
psychosis symptoms in the long run
for women and men.
living in relationship
are destroying established relationship
creating suitable substitute
the process killing both the tradition
cultural ethos in the process.
of mind and uncertainty are negated
is living on imagination in live-in relationship
their lusty today
worries of tomorrow
the consequence of their lust-based love
would look after the resultant children out of this live-in
means adore somebody without any expectation in return. When somebody likes
other, then there is no doubt about anything or everything connected with it. It
is self-sacrificing – based only on giving and nothing else. It is selfless love
as a love which is all encompassing. I love my Creator, my country, my parents,
my spouse, my children, my likes, my self-esteem besides all the friends I come
across in life. In all these, I have not get anything in return. All these are
very essential for me. For keeping this love, I shall go all out in up-keeping
when you love somebody, you do not have any suspicion on the person on whom you
have liking in true sense of term. It is
seamless and with whomsoever you are in love, you possess natural relationship or
association and would like to live with that person you are in love with.
of the best traits of love is; it produces flexibility, ease and peace. Where
love sprouts, there is no sign of hate. The love produces a ting in the heart.
In other words, love originates from heart – it is emotional upsurge.
self-less love is the love from which we have not to get anything return. A person
with selfless love will go an extra-mile to prove his/her love for the person
he/she is in love with.
we feel emotional upsurge for others then our soft feelings gets upper hand and
we transact everything with ease and peace.
where we prefer losing
A love which is not demanding
A love which knows only sacrificing
which gives joy in giving
A love which teaches us ethical and
moral values of living
A love which is beyond any suspicion
which paints everyone with humane touch
A love which gives a sublime attitude a
A love which has Divine grace for its
success under all conditions.
A love which dies not at all
A love which broadens its base without
A love which gives lasting synergy even
in bad state.
which cares not for caste, color or creed
A love which excels in every way we
A love which kindles trust amongst
which is eternal and supremely magical
A love which is not theatrical
A love which is God sent and not
which asks nothing in return
A love which burns all suspicions in
A love where differences get resolved
on the basis of trust.
which cares not, even if the ultimate result is supreme sacrifice
A love which showers only fragrance
which emanates from our inner self.
A love which remains unaffected as time passes doubtlessly A love wherein even slippery time puts its indelible stamp of its immortality A love we would like to quote for its sacredness always.
others is synonymous with cementing relationship
one’s own self is easily said than done
As love is
a very sensitive and unconditional
It has to
be pure and sincerity attached
concerned should also be pure in all manifestations
thoughts, habits and actions
concerned has to rid dross and impurities
all the negativities from the system
imbibing spirituality as the way of living
associating our Creator with everything done or undone