In my life – for daily routines

The wheel of fortune

Takes me up the ladder

And other times down the ladder

Sometime in the middle of it

When one of the steps of the ladder

Gives way abruptly

Then I struggle to catch the upper step of ladder starts

Fortunately get hold of it in time

Otherwise must have fallen to the ground

Breaking parts of my body

Life goes on unabated even then subsequently.

Other times I’m  not so lucky

I  fail to catch the upper step

I fell down

Fracturing my left hand disappointingly

Thus causing difficulty

In getting things done with ease

Causing immense pain parts of body

Plastering had to be done in the hospital

Recovery took many months altogether

Tolerated pain with all the willpower at my command

At every step to move ahead

Struggle goes on unabated even then subsequently.

Still moved ahead in my life with cool-head

Offering new situations and opportunities

Getting practical experience from all these

Struggle goes on unabated even then subsequently.

When one step is surmounted

The other step may give way

Sometimes it is a smooth climb

Other times it may be my failing

It is difficult to fathom what would happen on the next step

Life just goes on unabated even then

On the move ahead

From one step to other

I get experiences so essential

For moving ahead in life.

Practical experiences strengthen our resolve

Bestow us self-belief

With immense belief in Almighty God

Thus life goes on with huge confidence

Garnered through the experiences gained

Turning our negative attitude

Into positive one with the grace of our Lord

Who enlightens us with Love and Light

Thus making our struggle in our life

A purpose one ultimately

Till the end of life’s journey

Proving that life is a sacred book of lessons and experiences

Provided we are self-realized of the purpose of our life

Got through continuous struggles till our last day of our life.



It’s difficult to be anything tangible without desire

Firstly thoroughly going through

The nut-bolts for making the same realized

But with calm and joyous mentality

Because to be so we’ve to leave many things

Which all consider essential for our living

To be bereft of desires

We’ve to have detached attachment

Love your work but without setting limit

To be boundless, fearless and carefree atmospheric

Creating our own sphere of influence full of joy

For a positive outcome, which has to come anyhow

But without losing humility

With annihilation of ego

God glow increases

Even after stellar attainment

Thinking self as an instrument of change

But God being the architect of this change.

Attachment with the results of our action

Brings about distraction

Prevents focused attention

Because control button

Just gets lost some place unknown

When we focus more on our desires fulfillment than action.

When we do not get

What we actually want

The side-effects that we get

In the process is anger

Because getting our desire fulfilled

We consider life & death

Just leaving the idea

To try again to get something we desire

Or better still having clear cut plan

To try again

But our desire so fervent

Prevents us from focused attention

On the nut-bolts of job at hand

Rather than result of our desire

When we fail to fulfill the desire

We lose inner strength to try again

Thus our power to do notable tasks gets misplaced

Which thereafter may take us to our downfall

If we’ve control over our mind

Then if our desires are not met

Then we shall not feel bad

We become bereft of any desire

A state of becoming detached

We shall earn something very incredible

Connectivity with our Creator

Thus a concrete windfall.

Then the repression of our desires

Will prove disastrous

Can create disturbance

Thus losing our balance of mind

Thus increasing the passion of our anger.

When we are desire free

We may success or fail

Will not make any difference

Then our negativity will evaporate

And there would a return of positive mentality

With generation of unlimited energy

With love, light and feeling of empathy.


The word desire means what we want or what we wish or what we crave or craze or  long for. But when this crave or craze becomes  obsession then it is too much or too bad for us.

Importantly, it is not that we should not have any desire, we should have and we should work sincerely in achieving the same. But when this desire takes the form of obsession then it is too bad. Excessive desires and excessive expectations puts extra burden on our shoulders. This burden may be, sometimes, more than what our shoulders could handle.

It is also important to iterate that when we have excessive desires and expectations not only from others but also from our own self, when our expectations are not met then result is not a rocket science to understand. In pursuit of their fulfillment of such desires, we go all out in fructifying these desires. When these desires do not meet our expectations then we get reactive, get angry at the person concerned from whom you expect those desires to be fulfilled and some of this angry reaction is also recoiled at us individually.

This  ‘too much’ expectation or anticipation creates confusion in us to get the intended desire fulfilled creating reaction in the form of anger impacting us physically and psychologically.  Here need is to keep a complete sheath on our desires and move ahead desire free to work in free atmosphere and fearless environment.

When we desire more than what is needed for and from our offspring, then, sure enough, unforeseen problem arise. We feel let down or slighted when our expectations are not met. It is axiomatic that we should let our children grow bereft of any fear then our children will have all round development. A case in point is a student in our neighbourhood, she is studying in 8th standard. The mother wants her to score 100% for which she adopts all sorts of stratagems. Instead of having focus on the study, her focus is more on 100% marks. All this highhandedness has robbed the peace of mind along with free flow of knowledge. All these irrational methodology brings about physical and mental adverse affects on the child.

We are slave to our wishes and desires though irrational and uncalled for. This does not ensure free flow of knowledge and information thus all round development of the child is impeded.   

For example, we expect too much from our offspring and they do not come to our expectations then this too much becomes too bad. Similar is the case with expectations from our friends and well-wishers.

When we meet all the wishes of our children – more than what they actually need. This act of giving too much becomes too bad when we do not have much to give them. Then these very children curse us for not meeting their demands – unreasonable ones because by meeting their irrational demands, we’ve set a bad precedence and now we’ve to face the music the hard way.

When we give a long rope to our children and spoil their habits, this, in the long run proves counterproductive.

In life we need to have concrete desire in order to get our desires fulfilled. But this desire should not be boundless/limitless. There are  set limits under which we’ve to work. Excessive desires or desires which are only to placate our egocentric tendencies are dangerous in nature and their end result are negative effects on our physical and mental state in the form of anger and other negative repercussions.

We’ve to set our limits but not lose sight of love and joy while sincerely fructifying our desires; just boundless, just desireless, just without showcasing our prowess, free of fear, free of any coercion, free of any distraction for the fructification of task in hand. Working in this way, we shall work in an atmosphere of love and joy in the partnership of God. Anything done with the partnership with God brings about compassion for others, love for others, understanding for others thus an immense inner energy is generated which in fact is incredible for us ultimately.

What course of action I should take when my boyfriend has left me saying I am not good enough now? (As asked).

What course of action I should take when my boyfriend has left me saying I am not good enough now? (As asked).


From the question, it is evident that you made a grave mistake in choosing a friend who tells you that you are not ‘good enough’ now. Why did he cultivate friendship with you in the first instance? A good and reliable boyfriend is the one who stands by you always. Not the one who just leaves you whenever he fancies or chooses to do so at his sweet will without taking into cognizance the emotional pain, one sided snapping ties gives. And when the boyfriend, just point blankly, tells  his girlfriend that he does not like to continue the relationship since he finds her ‘not good enough’ which is obviously very unfortunate.

The so called friend of yours does not want to continue friendship with you may be due to the following reasons:-

He being a selfish and deceptive to the core, must have developed friendship with some other girl, just to dupe her too in the later stage as such people cannot be trusted at all.

Or he must have some ulterior motive or maybe you must not have submitted to his whims and that is why he does not see you ‘good enough’.

The words spoken by this unprincipled fellow are reprehensible and therefore saying good bye to such fellow is only alternative. Seemingly he has lost his mental balance.

Or reason may be any, which you certainly be knowing but how to come out of this is the moot Difference do arise in any relation but these relationships should not spin out of control but sorted out within time and space.

The so called friend of yours does not want to continue friendship with you may be due to the following reasons:-He being a selfish to the core, must have developed friendship with some other girl, just to dupe her too in the later stage as such people cannot be trusted at all.

Now remember only the bitter moments with this unscrupulous fellow since remembering these moments will enable you to recollect the selfishness exhibited by this fellow.

I am of the view that a person who can tell you on your face that ‘you are not good enough’ can think of anything or transact anything good or worse.

Just try forgetting all the memories of this spineless fellow who does not know the importance of a friendship therefore does not deserve your friendship.

Ignore this inconsiderate fellow as though he does not exist for you now.

Do not have any connectivity with this fellow. If you are working in the same organization then maintain only working relationship and nothing else.

The world is wide and have several choices and opportunities and alternatives for everybody who is born here somebody is there for him/her. With this intention just develop friendship with somebody else but be careful; explain at the time convenient everything. If that fellow wants to develop friendship on the basis of equal footings then go ahead.

If  you can, you can forgive this fellow and forget the whole incidence of friendship as a bad dream. Though initially, it is a bit difficult yet a new start is called for otherwise you would not be able to transact anything tangible in your life.

There should be dynamism in life inactivity stops the forward march in life therefore whatever bad has happened cannot be revisited therefore putting a strong stopper to the bottle containing the gin is the only option.

For developing good friendship it is essential to understand each other, hence start again and that too with positive attitude. Bear in mind that end of road hardly means end of journey. It should just continue for destination you want for yourself. Establishing spiritual orientation may also help.



In our life we’ve several choices

Some are easier to be chosen

While others are steeped in quagmire of difficulty

The choice remains with us solely

The choice depends on the our wisdom entirely

We’ve garnered for ourselves

Over a period of time indeed

Sometimes we’ve the choice of silence

Other times we’ve to walk the talk

Sometimes there is no choice of pick and choose,

Selection of our choice

Also depends on situation

In which we’re placed willy-nilly

In emergency like situations

We’ve limited options

Or when alternatives have dried out immeasurably

We are constrained to follow the available ones

With compelling reasons open

And with us available .

Thence sometimes we get distraction

Due to our wavering mind

Which hovers from one thought to other one

Here choices become blurred and confusing

Here choice proper and most appropriate

Becomes all the more difficult.

Then there are workaholics

Their very little choice is not anything but work

They’re sticklers for rules

To be perfectionist at all costs

In order to earning for themselves

In the long run stresses and strains.

Then we’ve situations

Where we’ve no choices at all left

Everything we take gets boomeranged

With the situation like this

There is no alternative

But to bank on our Creator

And we sincerely pray to Him

For granting us sagacity

With immense inner strength

To face the challenges

In which we’re placed

This inner strength

Strengthens our resolve

And give us multiple choices

Amongst these we can choose the best ones

For making the life peaceful

With humbleness in abundance blissfully

With broadening of choices ultimately

Making us the master of our destiny.


There are so many choices in our lives which we can individually choose. In life we have various alternatives or options but what we choose for ourselves counts, taking into consideration the time and space we are placed. The following are the parameters which are important for us in order to choose the right course of action depending on the situation in which we are placed and the inner resolve we have garnered for ourselves:-


 When we have different choices from which we have to choose one, the choice depends on us individually. For example, the students can choose their choice of course or skill they can choose from amongst the multiple ones depending upon our own aspirations and ambition  we’ve nurtured over a period of time, availability of finance and other relevant factors. But ultimately, the choice solely is of the individual student concerned.


It should always be kept in mind that merely making choice is not a solution, we have to work for realizing or fructification of the choice chosen. Here sincerity for successful completion of our choice too counts a lot.


We have the choice of choosing our spouse with whom we want to spend our life, with whom we want to share the happiness and sadness besides fulfilling all the demands that family commitment demands from us. A good choice in this context goes a long way in living a purposeful life.


We all are aware that we cannot make friendship with everybody; those who come across us in life. We have to be doubly sure that the one we choose as a friend, stands with us in thick and thin and we also do the same for our friend.


There are occasions, when our choices are limited. We have to live with those limited choices with us. In this sort of contingency, we have to be careful in choosing from the limited choices. This choice should be exploited to the hilt for getting optimum benefit. For example, if we’ve only one business opening for us, we’ve to lap it up.


There are times and occasions when we do not have any choice left; in that case there are two scenarios. Firstly, we may lose ourselves in the bargain or get frustrated and earn for ourselves stress related diseases. Secondly, the person concerned could turn to God and pray for inner strength and resilience. True prayers are always answered by our Creator.


At times, our choice is suspect then what? Then our inner potential  bestowed by our God comes to our rescue and we are delivered of the piquant situation in which we are places.


At times, we are under the dilemma of choosing from the multiple choices, here we’ve to be careful in choosing the right choice amongst all the choices. But here we’ve to introspect; analyze all angles and then reach to a conclusive decision. Here the maxim, haste makes waste’ should never be lost sight of even for a moment.  While choosing our profession, our life partner or coming under the spell of lust for ‘another’ woman etc are some of the choices. Here we’ve to be very careful, especially for ‘another’ woman or man wherein we shall be transgressing our moral lakshamrekha (limits). Here if we sway, we shall be losing ourselves in the bargain. This choice too is ours own, nobody other than us can choose this.




When we consider ourselves

More than others

In one way or other

Truly, could be construed as a disease

Which has no medicine at all

For curing this self-inflicted disease

Who considers others as just inferior creature

And himself as superior one

In the process earning for himself

Diseases of ‘I, me and my’

Which cannot be eliminated ordinarily

In the process creating disharmony

Between the people of all hues

Man with pride is humble

Never claims to be above others

Does not impose his ideas on others

But spreads the ideas

Of compassion and non-violence

One who takes pride in his ethical actions

A person feeling pride is humble to the core

In what he does or otherwise

Even standing at the end of a queue yet

Reflects love and light for others around

Does not consider himself superior to others

With the noble ideas

Nobody is higher

Or nobody is lower

And everyone is unique in his own right

Everybody feels pride

In what one does to earn that tag

With an idea that whatever is created

By our Creator

Blades of grass

Or the superior creation

Including humans

Have distinctive importance of their own

No completion to hog lime-light

Bereft of any ill-will or conceit

Not to be-little others

With each other for keeping a balance in the Nature.

But to play a role to harmonize





A love which is all inclusive

Love does not recognize any particular day for celebrating

A love we would not like losing

A love which is all pervading

A love all sweeping

A love all-embracing

A love which is broadest in content

A love from which we get contentment

A love which is fully bloomed

A love which is full-blown

A love which is sweeping

A love where there is not even an iota of doubt

A love where losing makes no difference

A love for which any sacrifice could be given

A love where we do not demand but would like giving

A love where we get extreme joy in giving

A love which teaches us values of living

A love where suspicion has no place while giving

A love rooted in sublime and  humane delicate touch

A love which broadens its base without an iota of bias

A love which is synergy giving while sharing

A love which increases by every day passing

A love which kindles trust among all creatures living

A love where we do not care for caste, creed, colour or race

A love which is magical in nature

A love which is not theatrical in its character

A love which enlightens us and is not mechanical in nature

A love where we do not care for results

A love where every skepticism melts

A love which gives is eternal peace

A love which takes us to love heights

A love which erases all lingering reservations

A love which spreads its fragrance

A love which gives happiness in taking pain of other

Like the love of Saint Valentine,

A Catholic Bishop of Terni

In Roman Empire
Who for love’s sake attained martyrdom,
For solemnizing marriage secretly,
Of condemned soldiers,
For whom marriage was a bar
Under the Roman Empire’s law
And marrying those forbidden once to marry,
Attracted the Saint’s imprisonment,
And ultimately martyrdom.

While in the condemned cell of a prison,
With his miraculous touch, he cured the daughter of the jail warden,
Saint Valentine sent out a farewell letter,
With words so eternal in nature,

“From your Valentine”,These words have become a grand brand,
Presently for us all to express to our loved one,
With a huge sprinkle of pride,
Mixed with a huge smile,
Lasting for good in our imagination,
And in real life too, we live with complete affirmation
That love binds us & bestows us God’s eternal co




When circumstances put us down

We hope good to happen

But something bad results

Despite our best efforts

Putting two to two together hardly works

But these attempts give us more hurts

Making our life still more difficult

In the process robbing the peace of mind

Creating distresses and disappoints

With depletion of self-esteem

And respect from others we hold dear

Hell & heaven are the compensation

For our earth sojourn

Virtuous men

Get heaven

As a reward for the righteous deeds

Bad ones get punishment for their deeds so bad

Such as unethical and immoral acts

Which could be construed as Divine justice

But there is also a balance

Those who commit incredibly bad

And lament for that and not to repeat

Could be forgiven for adopting life so naïveté

By adopting all the positive traits

After having asked for sincere pardon for their bad acts

And understand that reaction of bad action

Cannot be good at all by any reckoning

Thus change the destiny

By changing the mental attitude positively

God too forgives our acts

If we determine not to pass through

The path beset with thorns

And make ourselves candidate

For heaven above with the grace of God.


Hell means a state or condition in which we feel  ourselves extremely in agony/misery, the torments of which are being experienced. In the nightmarish condition, it is difficult to live a normal life. Even on this earth, there are some who consciously live a life of hell. I think, when we live a life filled with anger, jealousy for others, and bitterness for others without rhyme or reason including all the negative traits then that sort of life is more than hell.


In essence, facts stand out, we create our own hell and heaven with our thoughts and Karma (Action). There is a case in point in which a seemingly well-behaved, suave in her temperament and seemingly impeccable reputation dug out her own hell with her lust for worldly possessions. Mrs. Preeti (exact name changed) went on superannuation after serving an institution for more than 30 years. She was economically sound; her own pensionary benefits were adequate enough to take care of herself and family. Besides, her husband too was running a hotel business in a posh locality of Delhi. They had the responsibility of only son to look after – that is all.

A few days back, we came to know that her entire family had siphoned off more than Hundred  Crore Rupees from the gullible depositors (Her friends and well-wishers mainly colleagues and neighbours) which they had handed her over because she had promised them better returns – even better than Bank’s interest rates,

 for their earnest money deposited with her. The gullible could be swayed because of her past record was unblemished. She did not keep her word and flew out to a foreign country along with her entire family. Law enforcement agencies caught her and now she along with her entire family facing the music of law of the Land for her illegal acts. In the process, she has lost what she had earned for herself – trust, belief, faith and confidence which are important ingredients in the life of a person. She has made her life along with her family’s life a virtual hell by her greed for more material possessions.

This should serve a lesson for us people; our greed could make hell out of heaven due to our own KU-KARMA (Bad deed). 


Some say, the hell and heavens are the creations of our own mind, the state of our mind. When our mind and senses are calm and composed, we feel ourselves on the Seventh Heaven and while our mind gets disturbed, we feel in the hellish existence.  There are very many people who think their present state as destined by God. They are theists – believers in God and His mercies/bounties/graces.

There are the people who say that we get sow in this birth itself. If we work hard and succeed, it is fruits of our action and if despite hard work, we are disappointed thus feel a hellish life thereafter affecting us physically and mentally.  They take life as mechanical one without belief in God and His grace.  Just getting up in the morning, performing routinely anything which is being done like a machine. These people do not believe in the existence of God and his graces. They consider themselves as makers of their own destinies. Theists – non-believers in the existence of God and His graces. Hell or heaven are their own creations they think. 


There are people, who while living a life full of disappointments and disillusionments, many a times, would make the lives of others around them also the same with their bad behavior with them. This gives such people misplaced satisfaction which is in fact inhuman and unethical act. To make somebody else’s life hellish because we are not having normal life, is in fact unfair and merits condemnation. There are people who think that if they have material possessions, they’ve heaven on this earth itself but what about those who are having every comforts in their lives but have debilitating diseases like cancer and other life-threatening diseases. For them, this earth is like hell – just darkness, suffering, blackness, all around, with no light on the sight.

There is octogenarian couple in one of our relation, they spent their financial resources on their three sons who are professionally well-up; two are doctors and the third one an engineers. But unfortunately, all the three, with their families, have gone to USA, leaving the hapless, aged and ailing parents to the mercy of elements. Although both the spouses are financially sound yet there is nobody of their own relations to look after old and ailing parents. Life for them is virtual hell in real sense of terms.

The hellish life is when you cannot pull on in life with problems confronting from every side in relation to health, relationship between spouses, discords in the family, deaths in the family creating a situation with unending suffering and torments in which only one spouse is left creating hell on this earth.


Contrarily, we are having good health, although with less material resources,  but more satisfaction in our lives will create positive ambience. When we transact everything necessary including job we are doing without much attachment to the fruits of action. We should enjoy the bounties of nature, fresh air, water and sunlight and the sky above. We should enjoy the flaks of snow falling or the breeze blowing or enjoy the moonlit night , just appreciating and enjoying the heaven on earth bestowed on us by the Mother Nature. If this is not heaven on earth then what it is?

Whenever we’ve cool and peaceful existence with purposeful lifestyle with spiritual orientation then we have the dawn of heaven on this earth in our life. Glimpses of heaven are felt in our heart when we’ve our close connectivity with God and we transact everything in close partnership with God. Then when we’ve compassion for others, feel pain when somebody feels pain, have no attachment for material possessions (Wealth), alcohol (Wine) and lust for other women outside the institutionalized married life.


Based on Karma philosophy, we get everything that we give others. Nothing goes waste. Our good deeds or actions which we transact for others come back to us in one form or other. Good karmic deeds based on empathy and understanding towards others’ state of situation and providing them needful assistance give us good feeling, wellness, and a positive feeling – just out of this world which could be termed as heavenly. Similarly, bad karmic deeds give us bad results. It is in fact based on the action and reaction equal and opposite. If we make others’ life miserable, our life too becomes miserable and hellish in this life itself. We must have observed by us in real life here on this earth. We can term it as a hell on earth.

It is also said that the consequences of our karmic deeds (good or bad) are received by us in this birth only but if not yet received then these could be taken to the next birth. Also, our birth is as per deeds and misdeeds we have done in the present birth.

Then if we believe reincarnation based on our Karma then we have to believe the existence of hell and heaven beyond this earth.

According to Hindu philosophy hell and heaven are due to our own Karma. As per Hindi philosophy especially Puranas, there are 14 worlds in the universe. Thus, from the viewpoint of Hinduism, heaven and hell are merely different worlds, bound by time, space, and causality.

These are:-


  • Bhuh: The earth where we live.
  • Bhavah: Swah is the celestial world where we reap the reward of good karmic deeds that we have done while living on earth. Righteous actions elicit good rewards and vice versa. It is the region between the two.
  • Swah: Located between Brahmaloka and Bhuh (earth).
  • Mahah:              It is located between Brahmaloka and Bhuh (earth), Bhuvah       

  & Swah. 

  • Janah:              Constitute Brahmaloka which is highest heave where Souls
  • Tapah:              with most righteous deeds are located and many attain                     
  • Satyam:            Moksha but some get back to earth and take birth.

Patala, the lowest of the seven nether worlds, is the realm where wicked souls sojourn after death and reap the results of  their unrighteous actions on earth.

LOWER WORLS (Nether world)

  • Atala:  
  • Vitala:
  • Sutala:
  • Rasatala:
  • Talatala:
  • Mahatala:
  • Patala:

It is the realm where souls who have done Ku-Karma reside after death and reap the results of their bad karmic deeds, suffer for their misdeeds.

Our next birth is determined by:-

  • The righteous or unrighteous karma we have done during our lifetime on earth. It is also a fact that on earth the souls can transform themselves by their righteous or unrighteous Karma.
  • Some take births as animal, birds and other lower living beings according to karmic deeds done on earth.
  • Soul also assumes the body which is according to the unfulfilled desires during our lifetime on earth but karma, good and bad deeds are most potent reasons.

Liberation from births and deaths could only be attained when a person concerned has not desire i.e. not attached to the fruits of actions (Detached from the fruits of actions) with no further desires to be fulfilled – a  state of desirelessness. This has been amply clear in Katha Upanishad; which proclaims that when all our desires are fulfilled or disregarded then we get liberation from births and deaths.

The following could turn our heavenly life as a virtual hell:-

  • Paddling lies in order to hide  truth.
  • Greed for worldly possessions, power and pelf – may be sometimes using corrupt practices.
  • Committing crime or sin or acting immorally and ethically also makes us a candidate for hell because these add to our KARMIC DEBTS.

Heaven could be created by:-

  • Self-belief and indomitable belief on God take care of our problems.
  • We should always remember that death is a great leveler. The Gita Song is more relevant here.

Whatever has happened, happened for the good

Whatever is happening is also for good

Whatever shall happen, shall also be good

What have you lost that you cry for?

What did you bring that you have lost?………Change is the law of Universe.

  • Following a life feeling compassion for others; feeling pain when others are feeling so.
  • Feeling satisfied with what we have with the earnings following earnest means.
  • Forgetting and forgiving gives more satisfaction than keeping something in our heart.
  • Keep balance or equanimity both in good and bad days.