ON BEING WITH LESS DESIRES DETACHED ATTACHMENT
It’s difficult to be anything tangible without desire
Firstly thoroughly going through
The nut-bolts for making the same realized
But with calm and joyous mentality
Because to be so we’ve to leave many things
Which all consider essential for our living
To be bereft of desires
We’ve to have detached attachment
Love your work but without setting limit
To be boundless, fearless and carefree atmospheric
Creating our own sphere of influence full of joy
For a positive outcome, which has to come anyhow
But without losing humility
With annihilation of ego
God glow increases
Even after stellar attainment
Thinking self as an instrument of change
But God being the architect of this change.
Attachment with the results of our action
Brings about distraction
Prevents focused attention
Because control button
Just gets lost some place unknown
When we focus more on our desires fulfillment than action.
When we do not get
What we actually want
The side-effects that we get
In the process is anger
Because getting our desire fulfilled
We consider life & death
Just leaving the idea
To try again to get something we desire
Or better still having clear cut plan
To try again
But our desire so fervent
Prevents us from focused attention
On the nut-bolts of job at hand
Rather than result of our desire
When we fail to fulfill the desire
We lose inner strength to try again
Thus our power to do notable tasks gets misplaced
Which thereafter may take us to our downfall
If we’ve control over our mind
Then if our desires are not met
Then we shall not feel bad
We become bereft of any desire
A state of becoming detached
We shall earn something very incredible
Connectivity with our Creator
Thus a concrete windfall.
Then the repression of our desires
Will prove disastrous
Can create disturbance
Thus losing our balance of mind
Thus increasing the passion of our anger.
When we are desire free
We may success or fail
Will not make any difference
Then our negativity will evaporate
And there would a return of positive mentality
With generation of unlimited energy
With love, light and feeling of empathy.
ON BEING WITH LESS DESIRE : DETACHED ATTACHMENT
The word desire means what we want or what we wish or what we crave or craze or long for. But when this crave or craze becomes obsession then it is too much or too bad for us.
Importantly, it is not that we should not have any desire, we should have and we should work sincerely in achieving the same. But when this desire takes the form of obsession then it is too bad. Excessive desires and excessive expectations puts extra burden on our shoulders. This burden may be, sometimes, more than what our shoulders could handle.
It is also important to iterate that when we have excessive desires and expectations not only from others but also from our own self, when our expectations are not met then result is not a rocket science to understand. In pursuit of their fulfillment of such desires, we go all out in fructifying these desires. When these desires do not meet our expectations then we get reactive, get angry at the person concerned from whom you expect those desires to be fulfilled and some of this angry reaction is also recoiled at us individually.
This ‘too much’ expectation or anticipation creates confusion in us to get the intended desire fulfilled creating reaction in the form of anger impacting us physically and psychologically. Here need is to keep a complete sheath on our desires and move ahead desire free to work in free atmosphere and fearless environment.
When we desire more than what is needed for and from our offspring, then, sure enough, unforeseen problem arise. We feel let down or slighted when our expectations are not met. It is axiomatic that we should let our children grow bereft of any fear then our children will have all round development. A case in point is a student in our neighbourhood, she is studying in 8th standard. The mother wants her to score 100% for which she adopts all sorts of stratagems. Instead of having focus on the study, her focus is more on 100% marks. All this highhandedness has robbed the peace of mind along with free flow of knowledge. All these irrational methodology brings about physical and mental adverse affects on the child.
We are slave to our wishes and desires though irrational and uncalled for. This does not ensure free flow of knowledge and information thus all round development of the child is impeded.
For example, we expect too much from our offspring and they do not come to our expectations then this too much becomes too bad. Similar is the case with expectations from our friends and well-wishers.
When we meet all the wishes of our children – more than what they actually need. This act of giving too much becomes too bad when we do not have much to give them. Then these very children curse us for not meeting their demands – unreasonable ones because by meeting their irrational demands, we’ve set a bad precedence and now we’ve to face the music the hard way.
When we give a long rope to our children and spoil their habits, this, in the long run proves counterproductive.
In life we need to have concrete desire in order to get our desires fulfilled. But this desire should not be boundless/limitless. There are set limits under which we’ve to work. Excessive desires or desires which are only to placate our egocentric tendencies are dangerous in nature and their end result are negative effects on our physical and mental state in the form of anger and other negative repercussions.
We’ve to set our limits but not lose sight of love and joy while sincerely fructifying our desires; just boundless, just desireless, just without showcasing our prowess, free of fear, free of any coercion, free of any distraction for the fructification of task in hand. Working in this way, we shall work in an atmosphere of love and joy in the partnership of God. Anything done with the partnership with God brings about compassion for others, love for others, understanding for others thus an immense inner energy is generated which in fact is incredible for us ultimately.