LIVING IN HARMONY
While we believe in joint ventures
With mutual consent
We tend to go afar in all our endeavors
Where understanding others’ point of view is essential
Creating in its wake brotherly feelings
Amongst each other
Influencing our daily odd jobs
We live with utter understanding
With each others’ view
Also, living in sync with the environs
Feeling safe and confident.
When we’ve to get something unique
It is not got with ease
We’ve to pay some price
For getting it fructified
Through our sincere efforts
Spreading the message of goodness
In the society we live in
Not forgetting at all
That with harmony
We harmonize ourselves
With our surroundings
And the people we live with
Solving problem which may come
Matching and combining an individual efforts
With the efforts of others around us
Proving the concept
Union is strength
Results in coming out of water-tight compartment
Ad aloofness will surely isolate us entirely
And become impediment
To put paid to our endeavor
Together we can succeed with ease
Because it provides harmony to our activities
On the principles of malice toward none
And love towards one and all.
Having more expectations
If stretched unrealistically
Are inflated limitlessly
Saps our inner energy
In its wake will create disharmony.
Human rights are essential for us
Which empower the common people
The freedom of expression
Freedom to earn a dignified living
Freedom of justice and fairness
Only freedom obsession
But nothing about duties of humans
Which are woefully forgotten.
Living according to Natural Laws
Removes bottle-necks and road-blocks
First of all, we’ve to have self-esteem
While respecting the esteem of others
Along with reasonable social etiquette
Ideal and rational social conduct
Which cement inter-personal relationship
Along with leading and living
A life of spiritual orientation.
Understanding others is most important
But better than this most important thing
Is first understanding our own self
Then it will make it easier
To understand others easily.
The single most enemy of harmony
Is when we consider our religion superior
To others which they follow
Without realizing that the goalpost
For all of us is One Almighty God
Paths may differ but destination is One.
Then one thing should never be forgotten
That is being judgmental
Being so, I think, is our weakness
Creating disharmony in the long run.
Living in harmony
Means living in sync of an individual
With those of people around us.
In Bhagwad Gita it has been amply made clear that when we have harmony in our thoughts, action and speech we can create good ambience. For fructification of our efforts, it is essential to have harmony in Karma Yoga, Bhakti Yoga and Gyan Yoga. This is essential not only in individual plane but also universally. Oneness, unity, equality along with equal mindedness besides resemblance in thoughts and actions could bring about understanding around the world and help solidify the bonds of brotherly feelings.
It has been empirically proven with practical experiences over a period of time that everything which happens comes with a price. We cannot get anything tangible without efforts or without burning up of our energy. Even spread of wellness or goodwill amongst our friends’ circle or in the society in which we are living. This includes spreading harmony and goodwill in the society. It means living with concord, agreeing with others when there is a crying need for it; even when we have to show some conciliatory connotation to defuse a untoward situation as stubbornness will create more problems than solve the existing ones. For establishing synchronization of our thoughts amongst the circle of friends and well-wishers, we have to first of all change ourselves and not to be a day-tight compartment – remembering that discord creates still more problems and with concord we can solve even the intractable ones attacking them head-on in our daily lives. With malice or ill-will towards none and love towards all we live with harmony in an atmosphere of give and take.
THE CURRENT PREVAILING SCENARIOS
If we see the current scenarios in various facets of our lives, we wonder what is happening around us. Everywhere we see or visit there is chaos/confusion. Everybody is in competition with other in one way or other and this includes being responsible for creating violence – a divergent situation when we resort to unrealistic and unreasonable methods to get things done in our favour. People’s expectations are inflated limitlessly. It has been observed that if their expectations are not met, then there are violence and protests galore.
MORE THE EXPECTATIONS, MORE THE PROBLEMS
Our expectations are relationship makers and relationship breakers. When we have more expectations from others, and if these expectations are belied then we have problems. We tend to lose ourselves in the bargain, want to either break relationship with the person concerned or pay that person back in the manner which we think harms that person more. This creates hurdles in furtherance of our smooth journey of life and becomes an instrument for disharmony. No expectation, no disharmony should be the buzz word.
CONCEPT OF HUMAN RIGHTS
No sane person disputes about the concept of human rights wherein stress has been for freedom of expression, freedom of earning our living without let and hindrance, freedom of movement, justice and fair-play etc. but lately, some people are obsessed with their freedom. If their rights are not met, they even resort to violence, mayhem and in many cases disturb the peace of the society by burning public properties, holding dharnas and protests etc. In our zeal to fulfill these, some of us do not think that we’ve got our HUMAN DUTIES also while pursuing our cause of HUMAN RIGHTS. If there is harmony between the two, then there would be harmony between the communities and interpersonal relationship will improve.
OBEYING NATURAL LAWS
Natural laws are gifted to us by nature and are logically and traditionally accepted universally by virtue of human reasoning. All are bound to accept these laws as these enhance universal brotherhood and cement relationship between communities. These include moral behavior, fair and reasonable social etiquette, rational and ideal social conduct, etc. In other words the natural laws and natural rights concepts could be used alternatively. While living our life, we should live with dignity, be satisfied with what we earn with our sincere efforts while making efforts to lead a spiritual oriented life. In order to have tranquility and harmony, it is considered necessary to respect the Natural Laws with the motto maintaining self-esteem while respecting others too on the basis of ‘give and take’.
UNDERSTADNING OUR OWN SELF BEFORE UNDERSTANDING OTHERS
It has been noted with concern, we want understanding others without peeing deep into ourselves and know ourselves before to know about the broader reality. While we have the first step, we can try consciously to understand others too as others are extension of ourselves only. This will help us to have harmony in our thoughts and actions.
WITHOUT BEING JUDGEMENTAL ABOUT OTHERS
A sane person will not be judgmental or overly critical about others; their behavior, their attitude, their way of thinking and acting etc. Having pre-conceived notion about others leads to dissonance and bad blood, and disagreement which become bone of contention between people thus creating disharmony.
CHANGE IS NATURAL
Those who do not change appropriately when situation demands they face difficulty in adapting themselves in the new settings. It should be remembered that we have to change according to situation we are placed and nobody will change for ourselves since we cannot blame others if and when we lag in this aspect. We should change according to state of affairs and condition thus harmonize ourselves with everything that exists.
We all make mistakes at one time or other. Those who think themselves infallible are deceiving themselves only. I am of the opinion that a Karma Yogi or dynamic in their thoughts and actions tends to commit mistakes sometimes and those who are inertia ridden do not commit any mistake. While we accept that we are not perfectionists, we shall then forgive the mistakes of others too. This will, in the long run, create harmony between the people working in the organization.
FOLLOWING NON-VIOLENCE ALWAYS HELPS
If we lead a life of non-violence, mutual respect, with self-esteem while respecting others’ self-esteem, loving others, sincerely contributing for others’ well-being while living with dignity, being compassionate with others needs, being truthful, living a life of adaptability with others, et al. These principles are recipes for mutual harmony and fair-play.
SPREADING SMILES AND HUMOUR
We should always try to divide smiles, make others happy by our actions. We should laugh together rather than laughing at others, care ought to be exercised that we live happily and also let others live their own lives the way they want. Harmony thus is important for a life of equanimity and impartiality without an iota of bitterness for others.
SIMPLE LIVING AND HARMONY
Those who prefer simple living with the means they have earned simply with their sincere efforts do try to live in harmony with the environs in which such a person lives. His life is an open book with no complexities involved. Such a person loves to follow natural laws, respects others’ privacy without interfering in others’ sphere of influence.
Essential for harmony:-
- Ego is the cause of disharmony. When I consider that everything is due to me and nobody else then it shows the egocentric tendency in me.
- For universal outlook, oneness and same-minded are important for world harmony.
- When we consider our religion superior to others, disharmony results. When we want to reach the top of the mountain (here the One God), we may take any path which hardly matters. What matters is reaching the top of the mountain. Call Him by any name in any language hardly makes any difference God, Lord, Allah, Bhagwan Ji, Akal Purakh, Creator or any other name. Therefore, all religions have the same purpose – to establish connectivity with God.
- Never be judgmental since it shows the seeds of disharmony.
- Excessive expectations lead to disharmony when those expectations are not met. It may be expectations from our progenies, friends or other relatives etc.
- We want various freedoms like freedom of expression, freedom to eke out a living, freedom to live our own life without any outer interference etc. While enjoying our freedoms, we should not intrude into others’ sphere of freedoms, if we do so, it will cause disharmony.