Which ye’ll never
forget in thy life which remains
So better
still is to reinvent thyself
And not fear
to change
As per the
hard facts of life
With the
realisation
Not age which
thou have already lived counts
But what thy
mind conceives at the present movement
Counts even
more above all the things put together.
I experienced
life today
Whilst seeing small babies
Playing in a
garden
Not
understanding any specific language
But know only the
language of smiles
Which they
transfer with each other
If we older
people could also learn
The language
of ‘smile’
Thence there
would not be any pulls and pressures
But only the
pleasure of living a life of joyful abandon
Like the
babies playing in the garden.
HARD REALITIES OF OUR LIVES
In life, we face different problems. Who does not have problems, everybody do have these but difference is the intensity of these problems. There are the ones who run from these problems but there are the ones who face these and come out unscathed. Those who do not want to face the hard realities just give different excuses for not facing the realities. One of these excuses is the age factor without forgetting the fact that ‘you are as old as you think yourself to be’. And this resides in your mind. Even a middle-aged person could construe himself to be old but a old-man who has seen life enough could certainly would consider himself old enough to be considered as deadwood and to be consigned to nothingness.
It has rightly been said that as we
think so we become. If we think that we are strong to meet any emergent
contingencies, we can, by summoning up internal potentials. It has been seen
that what we think and act accordingly happens in real sense of terms.
It is relevant to relate an experience
which I had day before yesterday. While my grandson aged four years was
enjoying his swings in a park at about 7:15 PM, he picked up a conversation
with a girlchild aged about 8-9 years. I was very curious as to what sort of
conversation goes between the children of that age I have mentioned. The conversation,
with all the innocence in their tone and tenor went on like this; which to say
the least baffled me since it could only be believed when yourself hear in
person, I was the fortunate listener!
The girlchild:
is he your dad (pointing her finger towards me).
My grandson: No, he is my grand-pa.
My grandson asks: Why did you not
bring your mom and dad with you?
She replied: As my dad is old, so he
does not accompany us since my mom has to look after him at our home.
My grandson asks: What is the age of
your dad?
She replies: He is about 65 years old.
Hearing this conversation, I started
thinking, if a person with 65 years of age is thinking himself as ‘old’ so as
to not to move from his home then there is some problem with his thinking. His
mind must have accepted that he was old enough not to move out of his home as
he had gotten aged!
I could not hold back when I listened
all this conversation. I approached the child and interjected in their
conversation. If 65 years of age is ‘old’ then what will you call a person with
68+ years of age? I told her clearly
about my age and she was very surprised.
Thereafter, she told us to wait while
she goes to her home to bring her dad and mom believing that 65 years is not
the age to be termed as ‘old’ to confine oneself to home only.
There is a lesson in this innocent
conversation which I wanted to share with my friends.
There are inherent fears in many which
are responsible for more worries about our tomorrow rather than taking care of
our today, now. By doing so, we cut short not only our joys but also our will
to face life as it comes.
For enjoy present moment, following
should be kept in purview:-
Live and enjoy the present moment as
though it is the only one which is the gift of our Creator for us as the past
has passed why lament and the future is highly unpredictable.
In Song of Gita has rightly said that
whatever has happened has happened for the best and what will happen will also be
for the best. By so doing, we shall be living life without much worries while
enjoying the present time to the best of our abilities and belief.
When anything adverse happens, try to
find the reasons for it and try to mend our path but if nothing is found just
forget it as a dream which need to be forgotten.
Always keep in mind that our worries prove
to be a slow poison which tends to slowly corrodes our resolve thus weakens us
immeasurably. By so doing, we are becoming our own enemy. Some of us worry
about petty even thus losing the gift of ‘this moment’ others fear death which
certainly will visit one day to everyone who is born. All are heading toward
that now or some other day as destined. Then why worry?
Stay calm and composed while facing an
emergency taking into cognisance that worries have never solved any problem for
us rather than it has compounded the same. Still or calm water runs deep should
be kept in mind and noisy ones are shallow.
To an extent possible, challenges
should be faced as these visit us but these should not distract us from the
chosen path of following a spiritual orientation in our life or for realization
of higher purpose of life.
Always remain a student; learning new
things thus adding to the knowledge that already possess but utilizing the same
wherever needed and not showcasing the same which exhibit our egocentric tendencies.
THE MEETING OF MEMBERS OF ASIAN WELFARE & CULTURAL ASSOCIATION (AWCA)
Together we
succeed – the wisdom behind Association of Asians.
Obviously, I felt hugely fortunate and on the Seventh Heaven while I attended the meeting of ASSOCIATION OF ASIANS CLUB in Eastleigh (UK) today from 12:30 PM onward. It is an association providing platform for airing the views of members on a variety of subjects. I had not ever attended such an association before whose main purpose is to know each other’s perspective on a number of subjects hinging on Asian region and their implications on their overall lifestyle.This association also organizes fairs (Melas) on different occasions with an espoused aim of rendering service to the needy.
It has rightly been said that when we honour humanity, we tend to respect each of the Creator’s creations with a thought that what is made by our Almighty God has His blessings for their overall well-being. If we do not accept this truth then we are undoing what our Akalpurakh, Allah, Lord, Creator Bhagwan Ji or whatsoever we call Him hardly makes difference. Intention of this venerable association is to unite peoples of different Asian countries – from India, Pakistan, Bangla Desh. Nepal and other countries and from India they were from Punjab, Jammu & Kashmir, West Bengal, from down Southern States etc. While meeting some of the members, I found them very affable, sociable, jovial and very warm in their general behaviour. There was smile on the faces of all including the ladies who actively associated themselves. My warm salute to the organisers of this coveted club of different Asian countries.
The topics
discussed in groups were about formation of Government in India after counting
ends on 23rd May 2019 and other topics of immense interest like knowing
about each other’s wellbeing. It goes to show how much they were interested about
what transpired in the country of their birth. I found each one of them with
different nationalities aware of what was happening in their respective countries.
There was
positive attitude and smiles writ large on their faces. The warmth in their
handshake and smile they effused showcased everything which was there in their hearts.
The heart to heart meeting produced positive ambience in the participants. Besides,
the topics discussed were of intellectual significance which added our know-how
about the countries in Asia. From the warmth and bonhomie which was exhibited
in the association was evidently profuse and generated goodwill amongst the
participants.
We not only
shared our viewpoints but also shared and partook Langar together. While interacting
with others, I did not find any difference at all in the participants. Though the
language spoken may be different yet the conclusive gist of it all was
associative, cooperative, supportive, compliant and above all two-way. The
participants were united in their appreciation of unity in diversity. I pray
and hope that association like this should flourish and send positive messages to the countries of their origin.
Such association helps cementing the relationship between the countries besides
solidifying the bonds of brotherhood between different peoples of different
countries. AMEN
I
AM NOT ABLE TO ADJUST WITH THE COLLEAGUES IN THE ORGANISATION I AM SERVING.
SHOULD I QUIT THE JOB AND TRY SOME OTHER ONE? (As asked by someone).
Essentially,
it is in the fitness of things to look
within and see what are the weaknesses you are having and try to remove those
weaknesses. It is not merely you who has weaknesses, everybody in one form or
other are having. No problem. How best you can remove the shortcomings that is
the moot point. I too had those adjustment problems in the initial stages of my
employment and I think everybody faces these in one form or other in the
inception stage and then it gets adjusted.
Now
about searching for new job is good idea but if the same problem of adjusting
with colleagues arose then what? Humans in all form and manifestations are the
same. The best thing is the improve our own self – just bettering your
performance is the only course of action which surely can bring about positive
results:-
Never ever stand on ceremony. If you want to
befriend your colleagues then you have to come forward and be very open with
them. Tell them your weak areas which require improvement. Certainly, they will
assist you.
Pay respect to others to earn in return. Everybody
expects respect from others. There is nothing wrong in it. Pay respect and you
will get in equal measure.
Leave your ego at home. It should always be kept in
mind that we should never show off to influence others. Anyhow, truth will come
out one day and then you will have to pay back in the form of displeasure from
your colleagues and even your superiors.
Be persuasive without being offensive. While making
yourself heard, it is in the fitness of things to be very suave, persuasive
with positive outlook, look forward but need be just backtrack whenever it is
needed, read the faces of others for their reaction of your statement, if need
be say sorry whenever required and whenever needed say ‘YES’ to their point of
views.
Argument spoils the show. Do not ever be
argumentative with your colleagues – remembering that nobody ever has won an
argument. It goes on and on without any tangible results. You cannot attract
others with arguments. Argument repel others from us and furthermore we are
tagged as argumentative person by our colleagues which works as
counterproductive in the long run.
Stay calm when somebody criticizes you. If the
criticism is healthy, accept it as a good piece of advice and if it is
unhealthy just discord it then and there without letting others know that you
have done so. But one should keep in mind that nobody has ever learnt anything
more from praise but everything tangible is learnt from criticism
.
Never pay lip service to others. It means you
should always be true to what you think and act. It should never be for a show
off in any way.
Be compassionate without showing off. To have
empathy is always helpful towards others but it should not be bragged about to
bring it to public glare. It may distract others from us.
Positive approach is the best bet to win the
confidence of our colleagues. Winning confidence means to respect privacy of
others.
Hide secret of others and the others will also do
for you. It has been seen in the offices that people lose confidence with each other because they
do not hide secrets of each other. This acts as retarding agent in cooperation,
Do not participate in unnecessary gossips against
your colleagues. Most of goodwill created gets lost when we resort to this unhealthy
practice to win some brownie points which spoils the relationship when it is
known.
Suave/gentle in speech. Loudmouth people are not
liked by others.
Do good turn to others. If you want that your
colleagues should help you, it it in the fitness of things to understand how
much help you render to them as this world of ours is run on the principle of
give and take.
.
You have to take the initiative to get something.
For getting something productive and useful, you have to go to your colleagues
and not other way around. The horse has to go to the waterbody to quench its
thirst and not the other way around.
Positive attitude pays. You have to have positive attitude in order to get some assistance from your colleagues and friends. You cannot be rude to anyone from whom you have to get something in return. Suppose, due to some emergent conditions, you had not gone to the office and the office head has assigned different jobs while you were absent then you will have to ask your colleagues for the same. If your disposition is positive and pliable, everybody will like to assist you. Otherwise, who cares for a spoilt-brat.
Cooperation
and coordination is two way traffic. If you cooperate with others, others will
also cooperate with you should never be forgotten.
Take the cues from
your experienced colleagues. Aloofness or isolationist attitude does not pay in
the offices. You cooperate with others and others will cooperate with you. It
is a joint venture.
Grey areas. It
should always be kept in mind that nobody is ‘perfect’ everybody commit
mistakes but we should always learn from our mistakes and should not repeat
mistakes. Therefore our grey areas should never be made black or bleak areas.
Stay positive
always. There are times when we are down and out but staying positive despite
our leaner period pays. Better times will always knock our doors if we have
positive attitude.
Taking the above cited things in view, I am sanguine, if you are positive, reasonable, pragmatic and above all cooperative without being egocentric, you can weather any storm in the office. Soft-walking always helps while hard one may take us one step forward and two steps backwards. If I mention the experience that I gleaned from my 44 years of public life; in different capacities, I can say that those who adjust with the situations and conditions in various environs, succeed in life.
To command respect one has to pay respect first. It does not come by asking but should come through our persistence in working hard, earning friends, positive style in working, smiling disposition when meeting emergent situation and above all learning from our experiences.
We should always avoid lowering others’
reputation which may boomrang on us ultimately and spoil our relationship with
our colleagues.
Who
contributed much for enlightenment of the civilization
STRUGGLES IN OUR LIVES
Many a times, our best efforts
notwithstanding, failure stares large in our face. During such contingencies, we
have some alternatives. Firstly; we can put our best efforts, using the
available resources, secondly; to take somebody’s help in tiding over the
situation we are In and then make sincere effort after some assistance from
somebody who is proficient with the task we have taken for ourselves; thirdly; to
plunge deep into the task at hand without caring for the results, fourthly, to
flee from the situation at hand and accept defeat without even a slight effort.
The last one is most agonizing and height
of lethargy for any individual.
In our daily routines, we have our
options, option of working for our advancement in life or follow a sedentary
lifestyle and submit to the situation and conditions. The latter one just
struggles on without proper goal/mission or final destination, without proper
vision or mission, submitting to the condition without any perceptible fight.
Therefore, choice is ours, which way we want to take our life, choice is ours
because it is our life. Whether we want to work ourselves up or just struggle.
Then during this efforts, we have the choice of listening to our higher
self or submit to our egocentric
tendencies. Listening our inner self gives us leeway of knowing ourselves – our
potential and our weaknesses.
Bhagwad Gita
or Song of Gita has more than 100,000
Shlokas/ over 200,000 verses is the longest poem. This sacred book could be
considered as one of the most important one which could transform our life if
we take lessons from its text. It is upto us what we should take in and what we
should leave, choice remains with us. In other words, it could be construed as
personal guide for advancement in life. It is in other words representational
in nature.
it is also opined that we
can exploit our inner potentials to the best possible way so as to get maximum
from the effort we put in.
In Bhagwad Gits everything has got some substance: for example: Pandavas represent all the truth and virtues. Kauravas represent evil.The Chariot of Lord Krishna represent physical body.
The horses represent five senses which we should control and use them skillfully in order to get the purpose of our lives – to do what is the best to be done using our inner developed self for a greater purpose of our life for self-realization and subsequently for goal realization.
We can also learn how best to fulfill the purpose of our lives by finding and following their passions by pursing their dream fulfilment but through our inward journey to develop self by exploring and exploiting our inner potentials so as to take on outer challenges which come in our lives. To explore what is to be explored from within and then apply ourselves to it. With the use of inner potentials, we can fructify our coveted goals. It has also been said that what we want could be acquired by us through thorough application of mind. When it happens then all the elements of Nature come to our assistance to acquire goal fructification.
According to Bhagwad Gita, a Yogi performs his action (Karma) which is termed as Karma Yoga. A Karma Yoga is multi- dimentional. What is presently done counts, what happened in the past hardly should impact our present action, of course, taking into consideration the experiences we get out our work along with understanding of the topic in hand. This understanding is the details of the work in hand; what should be done, dividing the work into different parts, each part to be allotted time for fructification, focused attention to the work to be done, sincerity and staying power by conservation of our energy for doing the part of work with the best of efforts.
MAY THE TENDER LOVE OF OUR MOTHER REMAIN GUIDING US
MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED
(MOTHER’S DAY TODAY MY WARM SALUTE TO
ALL THE MOTHERS)
A most revered of all the relationship
we have
Which complements all other relations
to a great extent
Withstands all sorts of sufferings
Without even a slightest of the demur.
While taking an early morn stroll
I became a witness to the love of mother of other sorts
So peculiar but wonderful at that
A sparrow collecting the grains
With its beak to be fed to its young ones
A bitch feeding its pups
A squirrel collecting its early morning feed
For its young one, so dear
So that it does not remain without feed
whilst they all had their feed or not?
I really can fathom not!
That is the strangest and most wonderful
Instances of motherliness.
A finely blended analogy with the Mother Earth
On whose surface life of living beings
Are nested all the elements of Nature
Air, water and sun’s energy without any bias
to all
Provides succor to all birds and animals
aplenty
From its bosom springs the life-giving crops
Which feed us and bestow us energy
Which sustains our life on this planet.
From the time of fertilization of an egg
inside the womb
Paying unrelenting attention that it entails
For proper and uninterrupted feed inside the
womb
With the observance of precautions in abundance
What to be taken and not to
Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine
are taboo
For gestation inside her being
For a period of nine months
Mother mothers it in every way most desirable
Using her head and heart for it all
More use of heart to listen to her growing
child needs
Many times forgetting even her own life’s
needs indeed!
My mother, the most venerated one
Who has already left for her heavenly abode
I reminisce the days whilst she tended me
Showering all the care that she could extend
Like all other mothers took charge of me
head-on
What to feed and when not
With limited recourses at the disposal
She slept on the side
Where bed-spread was moist
But protected me from getting wet
So as to bestow interrupted care and
protection as a kid!
Provided me her warmth of the heavenly lap
Cuddled me with her lovely hands
I grew up in her kindest heed
I used to call her ‘BOBO JI’ with love
Brimming with the everlasting love – so Godly
indeed.
Gave her rock-solid protection on my day and
night
Bereft of any complaint at any point in time.
A smile from me was a blissful gift for her
My cries used to fill her heart with the
deepest agony
Calming of her heartaches came
When my sobbing came to an end finally
Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely
Whilst I crawled and learned to walk
Or talk first incoherently
She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven,
factually.
Once I was down with the severest fever
I almost was in the coma for days
Medical help could hardly make any difference
Everyone in the family knew
Her sincere prayers came to my rescue.
Then came the time of my schooling
I was a reluctant customer, a shirker – for
going to school
My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!
Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or
bait when required
Reprimanded me sternly whence its necessity
was felt
As though she knew when a particular dose to
be administered
For drawing out the ills & putting the
best traits
School and then college went on smoothly under
her supervision
Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to
say
But knew all fine-points of life and how to
live it with sincerity!
She exhorted me to face the facts of life
squarely
Only weak-willed ones flee when confronted
with difficulty.
I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my
chums offered any allurement
Desisted from any of these fearing, in the
bargain, matching punishment
From my mom who could read my face and mind
with ease
Telling lies with her never succeeded
Telling truth and get pardoned was only way
out.
Thence I got my employment
Far away from my loving mother and lovely home
A home (not house) which did not have mmany
material comforts
But was brimming with love and care for
everyone.
I used to visit my mom only once on weekends
Once on a visit to home – reached late at night
To my utter dismay and consequent pain
She was down with cold and fever
This had taken the toll on her health despite
medicare
There were others in the home to care for her
In the morn the next day
While the Sun rose from the eastern horizon
She intended to take breakfast in the sun –
outside on the cot
After light b’fast, she desired to keep her
head in my lap!
How fortunate I had been I thanked my God
The one who had provided warmth to me in her
heavenly lap
Wanted to keep her head in my lap
Having done thus she felt completely relaxed
As though bidding her final farewell
This peaceful act was not an ordinary one
It was an eternal peace – so solemn
A final adieu from her to us all!
My honest confession, all the traits in
me are due to my loving mother
All negativisms are earned by me from my own
mistakes
Although she is mixed with (Five Gross
physical elements) PANCH BHUTAS
Yet she resides in my heart for good
And guides me when hugely required.
VENERATED MOTHERMY WARM SALUTE TO THEE
The Mother, truthfully, is one of the noblest relationships who
understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could
attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far-reaching
influence.
It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and
the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make the huge
difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and
tranquility in the household happen when emotions of the heart are respected by
all in the family. All the important decisions which have far-reaching
implications for the future of the children should be taken with an active
participation of mother and father. By so doing, not only the natural say of
the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the
household. The training in value system imparted by the mother remains with us
throughout our life.
HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he
should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson
to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the
foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built.
Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with
fault will do a lot of good to the child.
There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they
understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than
knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver
much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on the need of education by the mother
can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in
the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. The
purpose is to follow all norms which may help the child in acquiring knowledge
besides character building.
SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: A mother does not keep note of the
transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?
The mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order
to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s
improvement:-
The company the child is following while schooling. It
should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
The progress of the child
to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all
fields : Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect
for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like I did it,
it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse
situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind,
games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of
elders including teachers etc.
Holy Quran enunciates: We have
enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and
in pain did she give him birth.
Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is
sitting on the computer, the mother should monitor as to what the child is
browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
How best to keep a healthy balance between the household
chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care
and caution are required.
Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’
privacy in the child.
Appropriate appreciation
and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.
Finally, from the above, it is
evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not
given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a
healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.
An important note: excessive indulgence (mou Mamta) by the mother
can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother
sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then, sure enough, the child
will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when
required and shower love, when called for, will do a lot of good for the
all-round development of the child.
IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all
kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection;
the reverse deprives one of all protection.
The mother’s love is
all-encompassing.
The mother teaches us the
first lesson in the value system.
The mother ‘s graces save
us from all the ill-omens.
The mother is the
embodiment of suffering.
The mother mothers us when
we are not able to do anything on our own.
The mother gives us what
other relations cannot.
We are part and parcel of
our mother.
Those who forsake their
mother at her old age are not forgiven by Creator.
May our mothers lead us and
remain guiding us through their ideals even though they are not with us in
flesh and blood.
Good people are good In everything they do Or do not do They are humble Despite having aura so striking Attracting all with their vibes so positive They’ve not even a iota of egotism Because they know That it is trait so impious Which have a propensity to fend off Our own love ones from us Leaving us in the lurch finally. Such people are gentle in their verbal communication Because they do not want to make others unhappy With their conduct and behaviour. Good people keep good company Since following others blindly Leads us to blind-alley Makes us bad too without doubt A good person is ever tolerant Forgives others’ mistakes For saving relationship. Good person is having immense satiety With what he earns with sincerity He is not greedy For worldly possessions Status or alluring position. Trusts others immensely with ease Since it is ingrained in good person’s psyche Which help good fellow live in peace With himself and his environs that person is a part. Good people are Karma Yogi Their thoughts and actions Have positive orientation Follows the life of spiritualism With purity of thoughts And fearless in their actions Because there is no feeling of negativity In their notions and deeds Which liberates the person concerned And acquires him the Moksha ultimately With the grace of God Almighty A bad person is like a poisonous creeper On a living banyan tree Which spreads its tentacles On this green leafy tree Poisons the entire tree Including its roots And makes the entire tree poisonous Similar is a bad company Which affects us entirely Spoiling our today in its entirety.
Just as the poisonous creeper
On a healthy green tree
Which gives shelter to the birds
In its leafy branches
Like a mother looks after her child
And protects them from sun
And natural upheavals
Besides bestowing shades
To the travelers
Gets venomous effect
From the creeper so poisonous
And even takes life out of the trees
Which had bestowed motherly love and care to all.
ON GOOD AND EVIL SOULS.
We all are the prisoners of our own web of thoughts and karmic deeds or misdeeds as the case may be. When we are born, all of us are good but when we come across good or bad situations and conditions, we are influenced. If we are having internal resilience and strong resolve, we take up good traits but if we are lured by enticements, we fall into dark pit of demonic characteristics. In life, good and bad things do take place to all of us but the good ones weather all storms and come out safe and sound without any qualms.
PEOPLE WITH GOOD NATURE
In essence, we have to understand the traits of good people. These are the ones who are compassionate to the needs of others, adaptable to any situation, full of empathy, when they see somebody in pain they do everything to alleviate the same and finally they are humble to the core. In other words, good people have all the positive traits which make them humane, compassionate, spiritually oriented and above all unassuming. They are self-conscious/self-aware and would always be positive in their outlook in life. If they find anything odd happening due to them they would like to mend their ways and retreat their steps thus act their part and desist from acting smart.
SUCH PEOPLE CANNOT BE LURED BY ANY TEMPTATIONS
Importantly, one thing which sets good people apart from others is their trait of kind-hearts. While facing life’s vicissitudes, a good human being does everything to use the acquired knowledge rationally, logically and reasonably to get new experiences thus gain wisdom. It is also observed that while we are good, we have to face some challenges and tests, wherein this fellow sometimes meets failures and sometimes successes. Good person does not feel any uneasiness while facing divergent situation(s). This individual faces the imminent dangers with equanimity without feeling shaky in any manner. It has always been seen that such people are Karma Yogis and steer clear of any controversies or the challenges without a demur.
Spiritually speaking too, God wants the good people to shine still further and become the best so as to transform others too; while facing the ups and downs of their lives with strong will. Such people are tested at every step and they are accountable for their action. Their life is not bed of roses. They use their inner potentials for spreading goodness. It is by passing through critical situations that their inner resolve is tested. It is synonymous with ensuring purity of gold; which passes through different stages of purification after it is found in baser form then only it has 24 carat purity.
PEOPLE WITH EVIL NATURE
Contrarily, bad people have nothing to showcase rather everything about them has negative orientation. Such people do not show inclination to improve and continue following negative path. They do not aspire to pass any test to be good; thus remain bad by sense appeasement.
GOOD AND BAD PEOPLE AS GIVEN IN BIBLE
Good people are the ones who are truthful, would like to follow a life of accountability, they follow scriptures as the bed-rock to live their lives and do not use them for their advantage. They resort to self-correction and repentance if and when they are following wrong path.
PEOPLE WITH BAD TRAITS
Evil people are expert in creating confusion by twisting facts and figures or by speaking lies, they do not consider themselves accountable for anything which they have wrongly done, deny reality. They are expert in making stories without any substance. They also are expert in flattering other with their smooth speech.
BHAGWAD GITA ABOUT GOOD AND EVIL PEOPLE
Sri Krishna said: O Arjuna, in this world there are two kinds of created beings. One is called the divine and the other demoniac. The good qualities are conducive to liberation, whereas the demoniac qualities make for bondage.
In Chapter 16th of Bhagwad Gita the qualities of good people are mentioned to be: Lord tells Arjuna: Good people are fearless, life a life of purity, have spiritual knowledge, they help needy, possess self-control, possess sense control, perform sacrifices, study Veda, spend their resources with care, they are simple, non-violent, they are truthful, nothing makes them angry, they are detached, they are cool and calm in any situation they are placed, do not find fault with others, are empathetic to others, are with possess gentle disposition, they are not greedy, they are humble, are determined to act, have vigor, they forget and forgive, possess courage of conviction, remain neat and clean, are from envy and honor. These qualities are morally and spiritually uplifting in true sense of terms. These are divine nature.
As per Lord Krishna, people of good nature are of transcendental qualities; belong to godly men & are endowed with divine nature. Below verses of “Bhagwat Gita” explain about the nature of good & bad people. As the person who have the qualities of head and heart, feel pain when others feel pain, compassionate towards others’ needs, are non-violent and would like to forget and forgive others’ mistakes are always tested for these traits by those who are covetous nature, have envy towards such people. The people with bad nature are covetous, have no control over their senses, become violent on the silliest of pretext, these negative qualities lead us to our downfall.
On the other hand, bad people are those who are filled with pride, arrogance, conceit, anger, harshness and ignorance. These are the demoniac traits. Such people do not work sensibly; do not know what is to be done and what is not to be done. They are bereft of good behavior or clean image nor truthful. Such people are of the view that this world is unreal and do not believe in God. They lust for sex, power and status, worldly possession and all the negative things put together. Such people resort to unethical and immoral acts besides they resort to violence on small pretexts. They are not satisfied with anything under the sun. They are egocentric/false pride and always disillusioned besides are attracted towards impermanent things. Their firm belief is that the main thing in life is to gratify the senses. When their necessities are not met, they feel anger, anxiety and would resort to anything illegal, unethical or immoral to get what they actually want for sense gratification.
So above are defined the good & demoniacal qualities of good & bad people as defined in the “Bhagwat Gita”. So we should follow only the good qualities in this world & we should abstain from all such bad qualities as defined above.
TRAITS OF GOOD PEOPLE AS ENUNCIATED IN HOLY QURAN
In Holy Quran says that Allah does not like self-deluding, arrogant and boastful ones. Good people are those who show forgiveness to those who commit mistakes, such a person is gentle in speech with others, such people do not browbeat or ridicule others or insult others. Good people respect their parents. Good people also do not follow other just blindly. Good people always maintain company with good people.
GOOD AND EVIL AS MENTIONED IN SIKHISM
Guru Nanak Dev Ji gave stress on to know the truth, never speak ill of anyone. Never quarrel with a fool. Speak so that your words wins respect of all. To speak ill is to be a fool.
GOOD PEOPLE
In Sikhism, it is believed, we are born good but as we grow up we come across different thing, some are good and some not so good. If our spirit is strong we are able to stand up to life’s tough trials. The suffering which we undergo are not god inflicted, it is for testing our courage. God approves all such tests.
Sikhs believe in Karma and reincarnation. It means people are rewarded for good deeds and punished for bad deeds. Our eternal goal (final salvation) could be achieved by being good in words and deeds.
PEOPLE WITH BAD NATURE
When we stray from path from goodness our journey to acquire that goal takes more time. Greed, selfishness and self-indulgence are considered bad. But these traits could be improved by bringing about improvement in our thoughts and actions. Five things which are considered sinful are: lust, anger, greed, ego and attachment. Those who are lured into the temptations are termed as evil spirits.
Good people are egocentric. Bad people stay grounded.
Good people have trust nature. Bad ones cannot be trusted.
Good people are never selfish. Bad ones are selfish to the core.
Good people can be banked on in any situation.
Good people are the cream of any society. Bad ones are the nuisance to any society.
Good people are like flowers which give out fragrance. Bad ones give out odour.
Good people feel pain while others around them are in pain. Bad ones give pain to others.
Good people never tell lie. Bad people are habitual liar.
Good people fulfill their promises. Bad ones are not true to their words.
Good people stay calm in any eventuality and perform their Karma. Bad ones are noisy and nosy in anything and everything.
Good people face any situations and challenges with equanimity. Bad ones just do not face the situation or challenges.
Good people show right paths to the people. Bad people just lead other astray.
Good people are believe in union is strength in any situation. Bad people are isolationists.
Good people are not lured by any outer pump and show. Bad ones are lured by temptation.
Good people take right decision at the right moment and mostly live in the present moment. Bad ones are day dreamers and rely on others for their routines.
Why should we
need to improve ourselves? When should need to prove ourselves to the world at
large? What is the need for improvement?
Essentially, first
of all, we have to understand what is the actual meaning of ‘improving
ourselves’. Our body undergoes growth from the day we are born. It has natural
growth but its development physically and mentally take place with our own
efforts. This effort is in the form of learning. Learning new arts and craft;
skills, gain new experience(s) by trial and error method even then sometimes failure
stares us in our face and other times when you least expect we are successful;
learning from our failings so as to wipe out those things which holdback our
path to succeed. But one thing should be introspected; am I doing enough. When we
receive answer to our query from our inner self then we can truly gear up
ourselves for something more tangible.
Plainly put, it
should always be kept in mind that nobody ever has learned without some
failings here and there while we put in our best despite some hiccups. Some may
say, they had no failings in their lives. Such people may have something to
hide in real sense of terms. Being a human being and no failing does not fit
the bill and is most certainly not the case has been empirically proven.
Therefore, improving is through experimentation, acquiring new
know-how/knowledge and thus the wisdom or sagacity in implementing the
knowledge gained over a period of time – thus utilizing the available resources
with us with utmost sincerity and judiciously. Therefore, need is to exert
ourselves to the maximum, using our inner potentials for a positive outcome.
The second part
of your question is really very interesting but it is open to discussion on two
counts. Do we need to improve in order to prove to the world at large?
Secondly, have we to improve so as to compete with our own selves? If we say
that we have to improve in order to showcase our successes then it has got
limited meaning. It is not broad-based. When we compete with ourselves then we
tend to improve upon what we were yesterday or the day before or the year
before etc. challenge your own self for more self-competition for deliverance. This
affords or gives us more satiety that we have improved over a period of time and
not decelerated even a bit. It will bestow us inner freedom and choice to
improve upon what we were in the past and what we are at the present moment.
Here we have the freedom to act on our own pleasure and leisure without any
pressure from any quarters.
Working to
improve ourselves with a sense of freedom and freewill will certainly unravel
our inner potentials; which are abundance in nature. This freedom gives us
positive vibes and inner satisfaction when our sincere efforts in acquiring
something gives tangible results. This concrete
outcome will not only affect our outer standing but also give us inner
satisfaction that we are competing with our own self. Now what is ‘self’ – in
broader sense, it is knowing what we are and what we are not; self-awareness.
All this works towards self-realization with self-analysis as the main plank of
our improvement – a life-changing perspective in. Constantly working thus, we
can learn to be religious about this self-improvement – spiritually following
those steps which culminates into self-improvement till the last day of our
life. This is done only when we remain student ever without even thinking that
we have improved to the hilt and there is nothing left to be improved. All this
is possible when we compete with our own selves.
NEED FOR
IMPROVEMENT
In essence, those
who are dynamic, remain mobile, getting different experiences during such immovability.
This forward movement gives sufficient chances to interact with different
personages getting knowledge thus assisting the individual concerned the
avenues to get improvement in a variety of fields. This forward movement
affords us opportunity to showcase our knowledge by sensibly using the same as
and when required. This also infuses confidence in us to pursue our goals in
our life.
it has been
observed that the water which remains stagnant over a period of time gives out foul
smell after some time but the flowing water besides giving utility in a variety
of ways, remains ever fresh.
In the second chapter
of the Bhagwad Gita, it has rightly been said that the Yoga of Knowledge gives
us the wakeup call from the despondency and sadness and gives us
self-confidence. This self-confidence keeps us away from despair and weakness
in a time of crisis and gives us self-determination to go ahead and prove
ourselves in our life while maintaining the Dharma of unity in diversity so as
to realize the purpose of life on this beautiful life. Therefore, need is to
improve ourselves physically and mentally following the spiritual path while
traversing the journey of life.
Following are the
essential elements of self-improvement:-
SELF-AWARNESS
For our
improvement, it is essential that we should know our potentials and weak areas
through self-analysis; then improve or remove the weak areas by adopting all
those traits by which we can do so. But care ought to be exercised that we need
not be perfectionist since being human, we cannot be totally perfect.
CHANGE WHEN
CHANGE IS REQUIRED
A person who
changes as and when there is a dire need for it, can adjust himself/herself in
any situation and condition he/she is placed. By so doing, we can make our life
easier and peaceful.
EMOTIONAL
STABILITY
For a person to
be self-confident, we have to face the situation in which we are placed. This happens
when we have emotional stability, do not feel let down whenever when faced with
piquant situation. For this, it is essential to rein in our mind and its
working for bestowing us emotional stability.
ATTAINMENTS WHILE
OBSERVING ETHICAL AND MORLISTIC STANDPOINTS
We have to
observe moral and ethical viewpoints while performing any job which we are
doing. Need is to have sincerity of purpose for any accomplishments.
ACCOMMODATE
OTHERS IN THE SCHEME OF THINGS
While performing
our day to day duties, it is essential that we respect others point of views. This
should be done by accommodating and respecting others while following our path
for a better tomorrow.
IMPROVEMENT FOR
ESTABLISHING BETTER RELATIONSHIP
To be more
productive in what we want to accomplish, it is essential that we work on the
basis of give and take and desist to be selfish for establishing good
relationship with others.
BE TOLERANT AND
ADOPT NON-VIOLENT WAYS IN OUR LIVES
While dealing
with others, we have to be more considerate, tolerant and follow our course of
action in non-violent way of life. This way we shall be befriending others with
diverse opinions and even our adversaries.
TO BE
COMPASSIONATE
While realizing
the aim in life it is essential to feel pain while our neighbor is feeling so. This
way we shall be fulfilling the needs of others in whatever way we are capable
of. This way, we can live a life of accommodation and most purposeful for a
sublime living.
TO LIVE A SIMPLE
LIFE
So as to live a
life of simplicity, it is essential that we live within our own resources and
desist from making our life complex. This could be done by living within our
own means and never live a parasitic life.
TO LIVE
SPIRITUALLY
To live spiritually
means to be Karma Yogi – doing our duty, religious and otherwise with purity in
our thoughts and actions without harming others while performing our duties.
INNER THOUGHTS 
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