Whence we lose our way

In the labyrinth of own creation

Become errant

Due to one reason or other

May be intentional

Or due to odd situation

In which we are placed

At the moment presently.

This directionless deviation

Could be rectified

If we come to know about the ifs and buts of it all

Within time limit with our personal efforts

By self-analysis and self-introspection

Then thru needful personal action.

Or otherwise this directionless waywardness will become

A  pestering sore

By becoming a part of our being

And will have permanent

Impact on our psyche

And will not remain

An aberration

But will develop the symptoms

Of immense eccentricity

With an imprint of an oddity

And peculiarity

An odd behaviour

A condition

Which is in complete

At odd to our own true being

A condition

We seem strange to live with

Abnormal to our own selves

An unexpected negative turn of event

Which may tarnish our image

And affect our standing in the society

In which we are living

Thus losing ourselves in the bargain.

Need is to seek the way out

To come out from this strangeness

Of behaviour pattern

By course correction

Which takes us away from our own selves

And rediscover our own selves

On which we can lay our claim to be ours

For our own benefit.

Our aberrations are akin to a vehicle

Which has lost control of its brakes

And may take us to our doom.

We’ve to get the brakes operative

And make these fully functional.

In our lives too

We’ve to ensure

That the pinpricks of these oddities are eliminated

By our own sincere efforts

Like Saint Valmiki did a huge course correction

With his own sincere self-efforts

Thereafter transforming himself

From a plunderer of great disrepute

To a Saint of a great repute

Who penned down the great Epic Ramayana  

Which is the source of inspiration

For all those who want to refine their aberrations.



Life is what thee want it to be

With all the pulls and pressures

Which it gives thee

During the period

Thou live on this beautiful earth

Some wilt under even by a slightest pressure

Whereas others withstand huge pulls and pressures

And see these as the steppingstone

And convert the pressure felt

At the present moment

Into positive force to reckon   

To be used in unforeseeable future

Irrespective of age-group

That an individual comes.

Life has to be experienced

As per the Laws of Nature

With complete sync with the Mother Nature

As the positive ingredients

Without dissociation even a bit

With the hard facts of life

Be flexible without losing self-esteem

When flexibility is woefully needed

And acquiring a balance in opposing forces

 So as to live a life purposefully

While earning a living with sincerity

And facing the realities of life truthfully

With the idea that whatever will’ve to happen

Will happen anyhow

Whether thee want it or not

Which hardly matters the most.

If thee do not want to submit

To the hard realities of time which it brings

Then this time will teach thee a lesson

Which ye’ll never forget in thy life which remains

So better still is to reinvent thyself

And not fear to change

As per the hard facts of life

With the realisation

Not age which thou have already lived counts

But what thy mind conceives at the present movement

Counts even more above all the things put  together.

I experienced life today

 Whilst seeing small babies

Playing in a garden

Not understanding any specific language  

But know only the language of smiles

Which they transfer with each other

If we older people could also learn

The language of ‘smile’

Thence there would not be any pulls and pressures

But only the pleasure of living a life of joyful abandon

Like the babies playing in the garden.


In life, we face different problems. Who does not have problems, everybody do have these but difference is the intensity of these problems. There are the ones who run from these problems but there are the ones who face these and come out unscathed. Those who do not want to face the hard realities just give different excuses for not facing the realities. One of these excuses is the age factor without forgetting the fact that ‘you are as old as you think yourself to be’. And this resides in your mind. Even a middle-aged person could construe himself to be old but a old-man who has seen life enough could certainly would consider himself old enough to be considered as deadwood and to be consigned to nothingness.

It has rightly been said that as we think so we become. If we think that we are strong to meet any emergent contingencies, we can, by summoning up internal potentials. It has been seen that what we think and act accordingly happens in real sense of terms.

It is relevant to relate an experience which I had day before yesterday. While my grandson aged four years was enjoying his swings in a park at about 7:15 PM, he picked up a conversation with a girlchild aged about 8-9 years. I was very curious as to what sort of conversation goes between the children of that age I have mentioned. The conversation, with all the innocence in their tone and tenor went on like this; which to say the least baffled me since it could only be believed when yourself hear in person, I was the fortunate listener!

The girlchild: is he your dad (pointing her finger towards me).                                                                                                            

My grandson: No, he is my grand-pa.

My grandson asks: Why did you not bring your  mom and dad with you?

She replied: As my dad is old, so he does not accompany us since my mom has to look after him at our home.

My grandson asks: What is the age of your dad?

She replies: He is about  65 years old.

Hearing this conversation, I started thinking, if a person with 65 years of age is thinking himself as ‘old’ so as to not to move from his home then there is some problem with his thinking. His mind must have accepted that he was old enough not to move out of his home as he had gotten aged!

I could not hold back when I listened all this conversation. I approached the child and interjected in their conversation. If 65 years of age is ‘old’ then what will you call a person with 68+ years of age?  I told her clearly about my age and she was very surprised.

Thereafter, she told us to wait while she goes to her home to bring her dad and mom believing that 65 years is not the age to be termed as ‘old’ to confine oneself to home only.

There is a lesson in this innocent conversation which I wanted to share with my friends.

There are inherent fears in many which are responsible for more worries about our tomorrow rather than taking care of our today, now. By doing so, we cut short not only our joys but also our will to face life as it comes.

For enjoy present moment, following should be kept in purview:-

  • Live and enjoy the present moment as though it is the only one which is the gift of our Creator for us as the past has passed why lament and the future is highly unpredictable.
  • In Song of Gita has rightly said that whatever has happened has happened for the best and what will happen will also be for the best. By so doing, we shall be living life without much worries while enjoying the present time to the best of our abilities and belief.
  • When anything adverse happens, try to find the reasons for it and try to mend our path but if nothing is found just forget it as a dream which need to be forgotten.
  • Always keep in mind that our worries prove to be a slow poison which tends to slowly corrodes our resolve thus weakens us immeasurably. By so doing, we are becoming our own enemy. Some of us worry about petty even thus losing the gift of ‘this moment’ others fear death which certainly will visit one day to everyone who is born. All are heading toward that now or some other day as destined. Then why worry?
  • Stay calm and composed while facing an emergency taking into cognisance that worries have never solved any problem for us rather than it has compounded the same. Still or calm water runs deep should be kept in mind and noisy ones are shallow.
  • To an extent possible, challenges should be faced as these visit us but these should not distract us from the chosen path of following a spiritual orientation in our life or for realization of higher purpose of life.
  • Always remain a student; learning new things thus adding to the knowledge that already possess but utilizing the same wherever needed and not showcasing the same which exhibit our egocentric tendencies.



Together we succeed – the wisdom behind Association of Asians.

Obviously, I felt hugely fortunate and on the Seventh Heaven while I  attended the meeting of ASSOCIATION OF ASIANS CLUB in Eastleigh (UK) today from 12:30 PM onward.  It is an association providing platform for airing the views of members on a variety of subjects. I had not ever attended such an association before whose main purpose is to know each other’s perspective on a number of subjects hinging on Asian region and their implications on their overall lifestyle. This association also organizes fairs (Melas) on different occasions with an espoused aim of rendering service to the needy.

It has rightly been said that when we honour humanity, we tend to respect each of the Creator’s creations with a thought that what is made by our Almighty God has His blessings for their overall well-being. If we do not accept this truth then we are undoing what our Akalpurakh, Allah, Lord, Creator Bhagwan Ji or whatsoever we call Him hardly makes difference. Intention of this venerable association is to unite peoples of different Asian countries – from India, Pakistan, Bangla Desh. Nepal and other countries and from India they were from Punjab, Jammu & Kashmir, West Bengal, from down Southern States etc. While meeting some of the members, I found them very affable, sociable, jovial and very warm in their general behaviour. There was smile on the faces of all including the ladies who actively associated themselves. My warm salute to the organisers of this coveted club of different Asian countries.

The topics discussed in groups were about formation of Government in India after counting ends on 23rd May 2019 and  other topics of immense interest like knowing about each other’s wellbeing. It goes to show how much they were interested about what transpired in the country of their birth. I found each one of them with different nationalities aware of what was happening in their respective countries.

There was positive attitude and smiles writ large on their faces. The warmth in their handshake and smile they effused showcased everything which was there in their hearts. The heart to heart meeting produced positive ambience in the participants. Besides, the topics discussed were of intellectual significance which added our know-how about the countries in Asia. From the warmth and bonhomie which was exhibited in the association was evidently profuse and generated goodwill amongst the participants.

We not only shared our viewpoints but also shared and partook Langar together. While interacting with others, I did not find any difference at all in the participants. Though the language spoken may be different yet the conclusive gist of it all was associative, cooperative, supportive, compliant and above all two-way. The participants were united in their appreciation of unity in diversity. I pray and hope that association like this should flourish and send positive  messages to the countries of their origin. Such association helps cementing the relationship between the countries besides solidifying the bonds of brotherhood between different peoples of different countries. AMEN



Essentially,  it is in the fitness of things to look within and see what are the weaknesses you are having and try to remove those weaknesses. It is not merely you who has weaknesses, everybody in one form or other are having. No problem. How best you can remove the shortcomings that is the moot point. I too had those adjustment problems in the initial stages of my employment and I think everybody faces these in one form or other in the inception stage and then it gets adjusted.

Now about searching for new job is good idea but if the same problem of adjusting with colleagues arose then what? Humans in all form and manifestations are the same. The best thing is the improve our own self – just bettering your performance is the only course of action which surely can bring about positive results:-

  • Never ever stand on ceremony. If you want to befriend your colleagues then you have to come forward and be very open with them. Tell them your weak areas which require improvement. Certainly, they will assist you.
  • Pay respect to others to earn in return. Everybody expects respect from others. There is nothing wrong in it. Pay respect and you will get in equal measure.
  • Leave your ego at home. It should always be kept in mind that we should never show off to influence others. Anyhow, truth will come out one day and then you will have to pay back in the form of displeasure from your colleagues and even your superiors.
  • Be persuasive without being offensive. While making yourself heard, it is in the fitness of things to be very suave, persuasive with positive outlook, look forward but need be just backtrack whenever it is needed, read the faces of others for their reaction of your statement, if need be say sorry whenever required and whenever needed say ‘YES’ to their point of views.
  • Argument spoils the show. Do not ever be argumentative with your colleagues – remembering that nobody ever has won an argument. It goes on and on without any tangible results. You cannot attract others with arguments. Argument repel others from us and furthermore we are tagged as argumentative person by our colleagues which works as counterproductive in the long run.
  • Stay calm when somebody criticizes you. If the criticism is healthy, accept it as a good piece of advice and if it is unhealthy just discord it then and there without letting others know that you have done so. But one should keep in mind that nobody has ever learnt anything more from praise but everything tangible is learnt from criticism


  • Never pay lip service to others. It means you should always be true to what you think and act. It should never be for a show off in any way.
  • Be compassionate without showing off. To have empathy is always helpful towards others but it should not be bragged about to bring it to public glare. It may distract others from us.
  • Positive approach is the best bet to win the confidence of our colleagues. Winning confidence means to respect privacy of others.
  • Hide secret of others and the others will also do for you. It has been seen in the offices that people  lose confidence with each other because they do not hide secrets of each other. This acts as retarding agent in cooperation,
  • Do not participate in unnecessary gossips against your colleagues. Most of goodwill created gets lost when we resort to this unhealthy practice to win some brownie points which spoils the relationship when it is known.  
  • Suave/gentle in speech. Loudmouth people are not liked by others.
  • Do good turn to others. If you want that your colleagues should help you, it it in the fitness of things to understand how much help you render to them as this world of ours is run on the principle of give and take.


  • You have to take the initiative to get something. For getting something productive and useful, you have to go to your colleagues and not other way around. The horse has to go to the waterbody to quench its thirst and not the other way around.
  • Positive attitude pays. You have to have positive attitude in order to get some assistance from your colleagues and friends. You  cannot be rude to anyone from whom you have to get something in return. Suppose, due to some emergent conditions, you had not gone to the office and the office head has assigned different jobs while you were absent then you will have to ask your colleagues for the same. If your disposition is positive and pliable, everybody will like to assist you. Otherwise, who cares for a spoilt-brat.
  •  Cooperation and coordination is two way traffic. If you cooperate with others, others will also cooperate with you should never be forgotten.
  • Take the cues from your experienced colleagues. Aloofness or isolationist attitude does not pay in the offices. You cooperate with others and others will cooperate with you. It is a joint venture.
  • Grey areas. It should always be kept in mind that nobody is ‘perfect’ everybody commit mistakes but we should always learn from our mistakes and should not repeat mistakes. Therefore our grey areas should never be made black or bleak areas.
  • Stay positive always. There are times when we are down and out but staying positive despite our leaner period pays. Better times will always knock our doors if we have positive attitude.

Taking the above cited things in view, I am sanguine, if you are positive, reasonable, pragmatic and above all cooperative without being egocentric, you can weather any storm in the office. Soft-walking always helps while hard one may take us one step forward and two steps backwards. If I mention the experience that I gleaned from my 44 years of public life; in different capacities, I can say that those who adjust with the situations and conditions in various environs, succeed in life.

To command respect one has to pay respect first. It does not come by asking but should come through our persistence in working hard, earning friends, positive style in working, smiling disposition when meeting emergent situation and above all learning from our experiences.

We should always avoid lowering others’ reputation which may boomrang on us ultimately and spoil our relationship with our colleagues.




Life should be taken as a battlefield

As life’s ups and downs just continues

A struggle which for existence persists

In every person’s life till he lives

For the entire life put together

Up the wheel of fortune goes

Depending on the Dharma

Wherein everybody does his Karma

Righteous karma gives right fruits

whereas wrong Karma brings doom

there are people who consider life as a drama

and every individual plays their part

in various forms and manifestations

Some click

While others fail to click

But life goes on and on

Till death snatches

Our life from us

Nobody knows for sure

Where do we go

Take fresh birth

Or may go to oblivion

A life lived with sincerity of purpose

Discipline, with compassion and honesty

With a sense of integrity

Adopting fearlessly and selflessly

Thus living authentically

While traversing the pathway of life

We can cast aside doubts

While using the vast wisdom in our lives

Gleaned from the numerous scriptures

And from so many thinks and philosophers

Who contributed much for enlightenment of the civilization


Many a times, our best efforts notwithstanding, failure stares large in our face. During such contingencies, we have some alternatives. Firstly; we can put our best efforts, using the available resources, secondly; to take somebody’s help in tiding over the situation we are In and then make sincere effort after some assistance from somebody who is proficient with the task we have taken for ourselves; thirdly; to plunge deep into the task at hand without caring for the results, fourthly, to flee from the situation at hand and accept defeat without even a slight effort.  The last one is most agonizing and height of lethargy for any individual.

In our daily routines, we have our options, option of working for our advancement in life or follow a sedentary lifestyle and submit to the situation and conditions. The latter one just struggles on without proper goal/mission or final destination, without proper vision or mission, submitting to the condition without any perceptible fight. Therefore, choice is ours, which way we want to take our life, choice is ours because it is our life. Whether we want to work ourselves up or just struggle. Then during this efforts, we have the choice of listening to our higher self  or submit to our egocentric tendencies. Listening our inner self gives us leeway of knowing ourselves – our potential and our weaknesses.

Bhagwad Gita or Song of Gita  has more than 100,000 Shlokas/ over 200,000 verses is the longest poem. This sacred book could be considered as one of the most important one which could transform our life if we take lessons from its text. It is upto us what we should take in and what we should leave, choice remains with us. In other words, it could be construed as personal guide for advancement in life. It is in other words representational in nature.

it is also opined that we can exploit our inner potentials to the best possible way so as to get maximum from the effort we put in.

In Bhagwad Gits everything has got some substance: for example: Pandavas represent all the truth and virtues. Kauravas represent evil.The Chariot of Lord Krishna represent physical body.

The horses represent five senses which we should control and use them skillfully in order to get the purpose of our lives – to do what is the best to be done using our inner developed self for a greater purpose of our life for self-realization and subsequently for goal realization.

We can also learn how best to fulfill the purpose of our lives by finding and following their passions by pursing their dream fulfilment but through our inward journey to develop self by exploring and exploiting our inner potentials so as to take on outer challenges which come in our lives. To explore what is to be explored from within and then apply ourselves to it. With the use of inner potentials, we can fructify our coveted goals. It has also been said that what we want could be acquired by us through thorough application of mind. When it happens then all the elements of Nature come to our assistance to acquire goal fructification.

According to Bhagwad Gita, a Yogi performs his action (Karma) which is termed as Karma Yoga. A Karma Yoga is multi- dimentional. What is presently done counts, what happened in the past hardly should impact our present action, of course, taking into consideration the experiences we get out our work along with understanding of the topic in hand. This understanding is the details of the work in hand; what should be done, dividing the work into different parts, each part to be allotted time for fructification, focused attention to the work to be done, sincerity and staying power by conservation of our energy for doing the part of work with the best of efforts.



Everything will fall into place


On its own without doubt

When we give peace a chance

And let it do its magic work on its own

Of piecing of every act of ours together

Then effect changes into the system of ours

By eliminating negativity

In the form of ill-will

Violence, foul-play and anger

Which spoil our relationship

At our homes

With the members of our own people

Our own flesh and blood

And make our life at our homes

Congenial, worth-living, soulful

Peaceful and purposeful

With love and affection flowing

In abundance and to spare

To be shared with our friends

And well-wishers

That happens

When we give peace a chance at home

And with it we sincerely earn

Our God Almighty’s bounties.

Whence we give peace a chance

In the neighbourhood – a fair chance by any reckoning

With goodness and goodwill abounding

The inhabitants will live in peace and harmony

Sharing good and ill-omens equally

Thus generating in the process

The abundance of love for each other

A life worth living for everybody’s dream indeed.

Then give peace a chance

Between the countries

Wish that it happens

With God’s bountiful graces

Then we shall have no wars

No feeling of ill-will for each other

With brotherly feeling abounding

While living a life of spiritual inclusiveness

Thus respecting each other’s faiths and beliefs

Wish that this happens in my life-span in reality.




While living a life

Full of events

Some very interesting

And the others not so interesting

Some creating understanding

Some misunderstanding

Misunderstandings leads to nowhere

Revolving in circles

In its wake creating misgivings

A feeling of doubt or suspicion

On even the filmiest of thing

Which could otherwise be forgotten

As a silliest of thing

We would like to forget

Misgiving give fodder

Of suspicion in the relationship

Which we’ve cultivated very cautiously

Putting all our available resources and our energy.

Then a roaring deal

We ‘ve developed

Over a period of time

Gets life-time drubbing

In forward movement

Due to the roadblocks

We’ve created

By our thoughts and Karmic deeds

Playing spoil-sport to  the business deals

Leaving not even a shred of doubt

About the success of our mission

Since the moldy effect of misgiving

Has played  its part to the  maximum

Leaving no chances of recovery

As the dent created is maximum for its retrieval

Last nail to the coffin is put

When this misgiving is greased and oiled

By the vested interests

Who’re masters in the art of flattery

And who hide their real intentions

Whose real self cannot be comprehended

So easily

As they are the people

Who’ve done masters in the art of misgiving.

This misgiving could also be created

In our domestic lives

Breaking the fine-tuned

Family fabric.

While understanding is such a positive bond

Which provides us leeway to  proceed on In life

Cementing  the even the tottering  relationships

Taking care of every coma and full-stops

Which assist in firming-up the roots of family tree

Still further

Weathering all storms

Which may happen at any time

Without any warning.whatsoever

No controversy of any misunderstand

Can break the family fabric

Since the strands of the fabric

Are made of unbreakable thread.






A most revered of all the relationship we have

Which complements all other relations to a great extent

Withstands all sorts of sufferings

Without even a slightest of the demur.

While taking an early morn stroll

I became a witness to the love of mother of other sorts

So peculiar but wonderful at that

A sparrow collecting the grains

With its beak to be fed to its young ones

A bitch feeding its pups

A squirrel collecting its early morning feed

For its young one, so dear

So that it does not remain without feed

whilst they all had their feed or not?

I really can fathom not!

That is the strangest and most wonderful

Instances of motherliness.

A finely blended analogy with the Mother Earth

On whose surface life of living beings

Are nested all the elements of Nature

Air, water and sun’s energy without any bias to all

Provides succor to all birds and animals aplenty

From its bosom springs the life-giving crops

Which feed us and bestow us energy

Which sustains our life on this planet.

From the time of fertilization of an egg inside the womb

Paying unrelenting attention that it entails

For proper and uninterrupted feed inside the womb

With the observance of precautions in abundance

What to be taken and not to

Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine are taboo

For gestation inside her being

For a period of nine months

Mother mothers it in every way most desirable

Using her head and heart for it all

More use of heart to listen to her growing child needs

Many times forgetting even her own life’s needs indeed!

My mother, the most venerated one

Who has already left for her heavenly abode

I reminisce the days whilst she tended me

Showering all the care that she could extend

Like all other mothers took charge of me head-on

What to feed and when not

With limited recourses at the disposal

She slept on the side

Where bed-spread was moist

But protected me from getting wet

So as to bestow interrupted care and protection as a kid!

Provided me her warmth of the heavenly lap

Cuddled me with her lovely hands

I grew up in her kindest heed

I used to call her ‘BOBO JI’ with love

Brimming with the everlasting love – so Godly indeed.

Gave her rock-solid protection on my day and night

Bereft of any complaint at any point in time.

A smile from me was a blissful gift for her

My cries used to fill her heart with the deepest agony

Calming of her heartaches came

When my sobbing came to an end finally

Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely

Whilst I crawled and learned to walk

Or talk first incoherently

She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven, factually.

Once I was down with the severest fever

I almost was in the coma for days

Medical help could hardly make any difference

Everyone in the family knew

Her sincere prayers came to my rescue.

Then came the time of my schooling

I was a reluctant customer, a shirker – for going to school

My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!

Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or bait when required

Reprimanded me sternly whence its necessity was felt

As though she knew when a particular dose to be administered

For drawing out the ills & putting the best traits

School and then college went on smoothly under her supervision

Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to say

But knew all fine-points of life and how to live it with sincerity!

She exhorted me to face the facts of life squarely

Only weak-willed ones flee when confronted with difficulty.

I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my chums offered any allurement

Desisted from any of these fearing, in the bargain, matching punishment

From my mom who could read my face and mind with ease

Telling lies with her never succeeded

Telling truth and get pardoned was only way out.

Thence I got my employment

Far away from my loving mother and lovely home

A home (not house) which did not have mmany material comforts

But was brimming with love and care for everyone.

I used to visit my mom only once on weekends

Once on a visit to home – reached late at night

To my utter dismay and consequent pain

She was down with cold and fever

This had taken the toll on her health despite medicare

There were others in the home to care for her

In the morn the next day

While the Sun rose from the eastern horizon

She intended to take breakfast in the sun – outside on the cot

After light b’fast, she desired to keep her head in my lap!

How fortunate I had been I thanked my God

The one who had provided warmth to me in her heavenly lap

Wanted to keep her head in my lap

Having done thus she felt completely relaxed

As though bidding her final farewell

This peaceful act was not an ordinary one

It was an eternal peace – so solemn

A final adieu from her to us all!

My honest confession, all the traits  in me are due to my loving mother

All negativisms are earned by me from my own mistakes

Although she is mixed with (Five Gross physical elements) PANCH BHUTAS

Yet she resides in my heart for good

And guides me when hugely required.


The Mother, truthfully, is one of the noblest relationships who understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far-reaching influence.

It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make the huge difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and tranquility in the household happen when emotions of the heart are respected by all in the family. All the important decisions which have far-reaching implications for the future of the children should be taken with an active participation of mother and father. By so doing, not only the natural say of the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the household. The training in value system imparted by the mother remains with us throughout our life.

HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built. Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with fault will do a lot of good to the child.

There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on the need of education by the mother can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. The purpose is to follow all norms which may help the child in acquiring knowledge besides character building.

SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: A mother does not keep note of the transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?

The mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s improvement:-

  • The company the child is following while schooling. It should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
  • The progress of the child to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all fields : Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like I did it, it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind, games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of elders including teachers etc.

Holy Quran enunciates: We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.

  • Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is sitting on the computer, the mother should monitor as to what the child is browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
  • How best to keep a healthy balance between the household chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
  • Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care and caution are required.
  • Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’ privacy in the child.
  • Appropriate appreciation and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.

Finally, from the above, it is evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.

An important note: excessive indulgence (mou Mamta) by the mother can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then, sure enough, the child will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when required and shower love, when called for, will do a lot of good for the all-round development of the child.

IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection; the reverse deprives one of all protection.

  • The mother’s love is all-encompassing.
  • The mother teaches us the first lesson in the value system.
  • The mother ‘s graces save us from all the ill-omens.
  • The mother is the embodiment of suffering.
  • The mother mothers us when we are not able to do anything on our own.
  • The mother gives us what other relations cannot.
  • We are part and parcel of our mother.
  • Those who forsake their mother at her old age are not forgiven by Creator.
  • May our mothers lead us and remain guiding us through their ideals even though they are not with us in flesh and blood.  



Good people are good
In everything they do
Or do not do
They are humble
Despite having aura so striking
Attracting all with their vibes so positive
They’ve not even a iota of egotism
Because they know
That it is trait so impious
Which have a propensity to fend off
Our own love ones from us
Leaving us in the lurch finally.
Such people are gentle in their verbal communication
Because they do not want to make others unhappy
With their conduct and behaviour.
Good people keep good company
Since following others blindly
Leads us to blind-alley
Makes us bad too without doubt
A good person is ever tolerant
Forgives others’ mistakes
For saving relationship.
Good person is having immense satiety
With what he earns with sincerity
He is not greedy
For worldly possessions
Status or alluring position.
Trusts others immensely with ease
Since it is ingrained in good person’s psyche
Which help good fellow live in peace
With himself and his environs that person is a part.
Good people are Karma Yogi
Their thoughts and actions
Have positive orientation
Follows the life of spiritualism
With purity of thoughts
And fearless in their actions
Because there is no feeling of negativity
In their notions and deeds
Which liberates the person concerned
And acquires him the Moksha ultimately
With the grace of God Almighty
A bad person is like a poisonous creeper
On a living banyan tree
Which spreads its tentacles
On this green leafy tree
Poisons the entire tree
Including its roots
And makes the entire tree poisonous
Similar is a bad company
Which affects us entirely
Spoiling our today in its entirety.

Just as the poisonous creeper

On a healthy green tree

Which gives shelter to the birds

In its leafy branches

Like a mother looks after her child

And protects them from sun

And natural upheavals

Besides bestowing shades

To the travelers

Gets venomous effect

From the creeper so poisonous

And even takes life out of  the trees

Which had bestowed motherly love and care to all.


We all are the prisoners of our own web of thoughts and karmic deeds or misdeeds as the case may be. When we are born, all of us are good but when we come across good or bad situations and conditions, we are influenced. If we are having internal resilience and strong resolve, we take up good traits but if we are lured by enticements, we fall into dark pit of demonic characteristics. In life, good and bad things do take place to all of us but the good ones weather all storms and come out safe and sound without any qualms.


In essence, we have to understand the traits of good people. These are the ones who are compassionate to the needs of others, adaptable to any situation, full of empathy, when they see somebody in pain they do everything to alleviate the same and finally they are humble to the core. In other words, good people have all the positive traits which make them humane, compassionate, spiritually oriented and above all unassuming. They are self-conscious/self-aware and would always be positive in their outlook in life. If they find anything odd happening due to them they would like to mend their ways and retreat their steps thus act their part and desist from acting smart.


Importantly, one thing which sets good people apart from others is their trait of kind-hearts. While facing life’s vicissitudes, a good human being does everything to use the acquired knowledge rationally, logically and reasonably to get new experiences thus gain wisdom. It is also observed that while we are good, we have to face some challenges and tests, wherein this fellow sometimes meets failures and sometimes successes. Good person does not feel any uneasiness while facing divergent situation(s). This individual faces the imminent dangers with equanimity without feeling shaky in any manner. It has always been seen that such people are Karma Yogis and steer clear of any controversies or the challenges without a demur.

Spiritually speaking too, God wants the good people to shine still further and become the best so as to transform others too; while facing the ups and downs of their lives with strong will. Such people are tested at every step and they are accountable for their action. Their life is not bed of roses. They use their inner potentials for spreading goodness. It is by passing through critical situations that their inner resolve is tested. It is synonymous with ensuring purity of gold; which passes through different stages of purification after it is found in baser form then only it has 24 carat purity.


Contrarily, bad people have nothing to showcase rather everything about them has negative orientation. Such people do not show inclination to improve and continue following negative path. They do not aspire to pass any test to be good; thus remain bad by sense appeasement.


Good people are the ones who are truthful, would like to follow a life of accountability, they follow scriptures as the bed-rock to live their lives and do not use them for their advantage. They resort to self-correction and repentance if and when they are following wrong path.


Evil people are expert in creating confusion by twisting facts and figures or by speaking lies, they do not consider themselves accountable for anything which they have wrongly done, deny reality. They are expert in making stories without any substance. They also are expert in flattering other with their smooth speech.


Sri Krishna said: O Arjuna, in this world there are two kinds of created beings. One is called the divine and the other demoniac. The good qualities are conducive to liberation, whereas the demoniac qualities make for bondage.

In Chapter 16th of Bhagwad Gita the qualities of good people are mentioned to be: Lord tells Arjuna: Good people are fearless, life a life of purity, have spiritual knowledge, they help needy, possess self-control, possess sense control, perform sacrifices, study Veda, spend their resources with care, they are simple, non-violent, they are truthful, nothing makes them angry, they are detached, they are cool and calm in any situation they are placed, do not find fault with others, are empathetic to others, are with possess gentle disposition, they are not greedy, they are humble, are determined to act, have vigor, they forget and forgive, possess courage of conviction, remain neat and clean, are from envy and honor. These qualities are morally and spiritually uplifting in true sense of terms. These are divine nature.

As per Lord Krishna, people of good nature are of transcendental qualities; belong to godly men & are endowed with divine nature. Below verses of “Bhagwat Gita” explain about the nature of good & bad people.
As the person who have the qualities of head and heart, feel pain when others feel pain, compassionate towards others’ needs, are non-violent and would like to forget and forgive others’ mistakes are always tested for these traits by those who are covetous nature, have envy towards such people. The people with bad nature are covetous, have no control over their senses, become violent on the silliest of pretext, these negative qualities lead us to our downfall.

On the other hand, bad people are those who are filled with pride, arrogance, conceit, anger, harshness and ignorance. These are the demoniac traits. Such people do not work sensibly; do not know what is to be done and what is not to be done. They are bereft of good behavior or clean image nor truthful. Such people are of the view that this world is unreal and do not believe in God. They lust for sex, power and status, worldly possession and all the negative things put together. Such people resort to unethical and immoral acts besides they resort to violence on small pretexts. They are not satisfied with anything under the sun. They are egocentric/false pride and always disillusioned besides are attracted towards impermanent things. Their firm belief is that the main thing in life is to gratify the senses. When their necessities are not met, they feel anger, anxiety and would resort to anything illegal, unethical or immoral to get what they actually want for sense gratification.

So above are defined the good & demoniacal qualities of good & bad people as defined in the “Bhagwat Gita”. So we should follow only the good qualities in this world & we should abstain from all such bad qualities as defined above.


In Holy Quran says that Allah does not like self-deluding, arrogant and boastful ones. Good people are those who show forgiveness to those who commit mistakes, such a person is gentle in speech with others, such people do not browbeat or ridicule others or insult others. Good people respect their parents. Good people also do not follow other just blindly. Good people always maintain company with good people.


Guru Nanak Dev Ji gave stress on to know the truth, never speak ill of anyone. Never quarrel with a fool. Speak so that your words wins respect of all. To speak ill is to be a fool.


In Sikhism, it is believed, we are born good but as we grow up we come across different thing, some are good and some not so good. If our spirit is strong we are able to stand up to life’s tough trials. The suffering which we undergo are not god inflicted, it is for testing our courage. God approves all such tests.

Sikhs believe in Karma and reincarnation. It means people are rewarded for good deeds and punished for bad deeds. Our eternal goal (final salvation) could be achieved by being good in words and deeds.


When we stray from path from goodness our journey to acquire that goal takes more time. Greed, selfishness and self-indulgence are considered bad. But these traits could be improved by bringing about improvement in our thoughts and actions. Five things which are considered sinful are: lust, anger, greed, ego and attachment. Those who are lured into the temptations are termed as evil spirits.

  • Good people are egocentric. Bad people stay grounded.
  • Good people have trust nature. Bad ones cannot be trusted.
  • Good people are never selfish. Bad ones are selfish to the core.
  • Good people can be banked on in any situation.
  • Good people are the cream of any society. Bad ones are the nuisance to any society.
  • Good people are like flowers which give out fragrance. Bad ones give out odour.
  • Good people feel pain  while others around them are in pain. Bad ones give pain to others.
  • Good people never tell lie. Bad people  are habitual liar.
  • Good people fulfill their promises. Bad ones are not true to their words.
  • Good people stay calm in any eventuality and perform their Karma. Bad ones are noisy and nosy in anything and everything.
  • Good people face any situations and challenges with equanimity. Bad ones just do not face the situation or challenges.
  • Good people show right paths to the people. Bad people just lead other astray.
  • Good people are believe in union is strength in any situation. Bad people are isolationists.   
  • Good people are not lured by any outer pump and show. Bad ones are lured by temptation.
  • Good people take right decision at the right moment and mostly live in the present moment. Bad ones are day dreamers and rely on others for their routines.

Why should we need to improve ourselves? When should need to prove ourselves to the world at large? What is the need for improvement?

Why should we need to improve ourselves? When should need to prove ourselves to the world at large? What is the need for improvement?

Essentially, first of all, we have to understand what is the actual meaning of ‘improving ourselves’. Our body undergoes growth from the day we are born. It has natural growth but its development physically and mentally take place with our own efforts. This effort is in the form of learning. Learning new arts and craft; skills, gain new experience(s) by trial and error method even then sometimes failure stares us in our face and other times when you least expect we are successful; learning from our failings so as to wipe out those things which holdback our path to succeed. But one thing should be introspected; am I doing enough. When we receive answer to our query from our inner self then we can truly gear up ourselves for something more tangible.

Plainly put, it should always be kept in mind that nobody ever has learned without some failings here and there while we put in our best despite some hiccups. Some may say, they had no failings in their lives. Such people may have something to hide in real sense of terms. Being a human being and no failing does not fit the bill and is most certainly not the case has been empirically proven. Therefore, improving is through experimentation, acquiring new know-how/knowledge and thus the wisdom or sagacity in implementing the knowledge gained over a period of time – thus utilizing the available resources with us with utmost sincerity and judiciously. Therefore, need is to exert ourselves to the maximum, using our inner potentials for a positive outcome.  

The second part of your question is really very interesting but it is open to discussion on two counts. Do we need to improve in order to prove to the world at large? Secondly, have we to improve so as to compete with our own selves? If we say that we have to improve in order to showcase our successes then it has got limited meaning. It is not broad-based. When we compete with ourselves then we tend to improve upon what we were yesterday or the day before or the year before etc. challenge your own self for more self-competition for deliverance. This affords or gives us more satiety that we have improved over a period of time and not decelerated even a bit. It will bestow us inner freedom and choice to improve upon what we were in the past and what we are at the present moment. Here we have the freedom to act on our own pleasure and leisure without any pressure from any quarters.

Working to improve ourselves with a sense of freedom and freewill will certainly unravel our inner potentials; which are abundance in nature. This freedom gives us positive vibes and inner satisfaction when our sincere efforts in acquiring something gives  tangible results. This concrete outcome will not only affect our outer standing but also give us inner satisfaction that we are competing with our own self. Now what is ‘self’ – in broader sense, it is knowing what we are and what we are not; self-awareness. All this works towards self-realization with self-analysis as the main plank of our improvement – a life-changing perspective in. Constantly working thus, we can learn to be religious about this self-improvement – spiritually following those steps which culminates into self-improvement till the last day of our life. This is done only when we remain student ever without even thinking that we have improved to the hilt and there is nothing left to be improved. All this is possible when we compete with our own selves.


In essence, those who are dynamic, remain mobile, getting different experiences during such immovability. This forward movement gives sufficient chances to interact with different personages getting knowledge thus assisting the individual concerned the avenues to get improvement in a variety of fields. This forward movement affords us opportunity to showcase our knowledge by sensibly using the same as and when required. This also infuses confidence in us to pursue our goals in our life.

it has been observed that the water which remains stagnant over a period of time gives out foul smell after some time but the flowing water besides giving utility in a variety of ways, remains ever fresh.

In the second chapter of the Bhagwad Gita, it has rightly been said that the Yoga of Knowledge gives us the wakeup call from the despondency and sadness and gives us self-confidence. This self-confidence keeps us away from despair and weakness in a time of crisis and gives us self-determination to go ahead and prove ourselves in our life while maintaining the Dharma of unity in diversity so as to realize the purpose of life on this beautiful life. Therefore, need is to improve ourselves physically and mentally following the spiritual path while traversing the journey of life.

Following are the essential elements of self-improvement:-


For our improvement, it is essential that we should know our potentials and weak areas through self-analysis; then improve or remove the weak areas by adopting all those traits by which we can do so. But care ought to be exercised that we need not be perfectionist since being human, we cannot be totally perfect.


A person who changes as and when there is a dire need for it, can adjust himself/herself in any situation and condition he/she is placed. By so doing, we can make our life easier and peaceful.


For a person to be self-confident, we have to face the situation in which we are placed. This happens when we have emotional stability, do not feel let down whenever when faced with piquant situation. For this, it is essential to rein in our mind and its working for bestowing us emotional stability.


We have to observe moral and ethical viewpoints while performing any job which we are doing. Need is to have sincerity of purpose for any accomplishments.


While performing our day to day duties, it is essential that we respect others point of views. This should be done by accommodating and respecting others while following our path for a better tomorrow.


To be more productive in what we want to accomplish, it is essential that we work on the basis of give and take and desist to be selfish for establishing good relationship with others.


While dealing with others, we have to be more considerate, tolerant and follow our course of action in non-violent way of life. This way we shall be befriending others with diverse opinions and even our adversaries.


While realizing the aim in life it is essential to feel pain while our neighbor is feeling so. This way we shall be fulfilling the needs of others in whatever way we are capable of. This way, we can live a life of accommodation and most purposeful for a sublime living.


So as to live a life of simplicity, it is essential that we live within our own resources and desist from making our life complex. This could be done by living within our own means and never live a parasitic life.


To live spiritually means to be Karma Yogi – doing our duty, religious and otherwise with purity in our thoughts and actions without harming others while performing our duties.