Which ye’ll never
forget in thy life which remains
still is to reinvent thyself
And not fear
As per the
hard facts of life
Not age which
thou have already lived counts
But what thy
mind conceives at the present movement
more above all the things put together.
Whilst seeing small babies
Playing in a
understanding any specific language
But know only the
language of smiles
transfer with each other
If we older
people could also learn
would not be any pulls and pressures
But only the
pleasure of living a life of joyful abandon
babies playing in the garden.
HARD REALITIES OF OUR LIVES
In life, we face different problems. Who does not have problems, everybody do have these but difference is the intensity of these problems. There are the ones who run from these problems but there are the ones who face these and come out unscathed. Those who do not want to face the hard realities just give different excuses for not facing the realities. One of these excuses is the age factor without forgetting the fact that ‘you are as old as you think yourself to be’. And this resides in your mind. Even a middle-aged person could construe himself to be old but a old-man who has seen life enough could certainly would consider himself old enough to be considered as deadwood and to be consigned to nothingness.
It has rightly been said that as we
think so we become. If we think that we are strong to meet any emergent
contingencies, we can, by summoning up internal potentials. It has been seen
that what we think and act accordingly happens in real sense of terms.
It is relevant to relate an experience
which I had day before yesterday. While my grandson aged four years was
enjoying his swings in a park at about 7:15 PM, he picked up a conversation
with a girlchild aged about 8-9 years. I was very curious as to what sort of
conversation goes between the children of that age I have mentioned. The conversation,
with all the innocence in their tone and tenor went on like this; which to say
the least baffled me since it could only be believed when yourself hear in
person, I was the fortunate listener!
is he your dad (pointing her finger towards me).
My grandson: No, he is my grand-pa.
My grandson asks: Why did you not
bring your mom and dad with you?
She replied: As my dad is old, so he
does not accompany us since my mom has to look after him at our home.
My grandson asks: What is the age of
She replies: He is about 65 years old.
Hearing this conversation, I started
thinking, if a person with 65 years of age is thinking himself as ‘old’ so as
to not to move from his home then there is some problem with his thinking. His
mind must have accepted that he was old enough not to move out of his home as
he had gotten aged!
I could not hold back when I listened
all this conversation. I approached the child and interjected in their
conversation. If 65 years of age is ‘old’ then what will you call a person with
68+ years of age? I told her clearly
about my age and she was very surprised.
Thereafter, she told us to wait while
she goes to her home to bring her dad and mom believing that 65 years is not
the age to be termed as ‘old’ to confine oneself to home only.
There is a lesson in this innocent
conversation which I wanted to share with my friends.
There are inherent fears in many which
are responsible for more worries about our tomorrow rather than taking care of
our today, now. By doing so, we cut short not only our joys but also our will
to face life as it comes.
For enjoy present moment, following
should be kept in purview:-
Live and enjoy the present moment as
though it is the only one which is the gift of our Creator for us as the past
has passed why lament and the future is highly unpredictable.
In Song of Gita has rightly said that
whatever has happened has happened for the best and what will happen will also be
for the best. By so doing, we shall be living life without much worries while
enjoying the present time to the best of our abilities and belief.
When anything adverse happens, try to
find the reasons for it and try to mend our path but if nothing is found just
forget it as a dream which need to be forgotten.
Always keep in mind that our worries prove
to be a slow poison which tends to slowly corrodes our resolve thus weakens us
immeasurably. By so doing, we are becoming our own enemy. Some of us worry
about petty even thus losing the gift of ‘this moment’ others fear death which
certainly will visit one day to everyone who is born. All are heading toward
that now or some other day as destined. Then why worry?
Stay calm and composed while facing an
emergency taking into cognisance that worries have never solved any problem for
us rather than it has compounded the same. Still or calm water runs deep should
be kept in mind and noisy ones are shallow.
To an extent possible, challenges
should be faced as these visit us but these should not distract us from the
chosen path of following a spiritual orientation in our life or for realization
of higher purpose of life.
Always remain a student; learning new
things thus adding to the knowledge that already possess but utilizing the same
wherever needed and not showcasing the same which exhibit our egocentric tendencies.
THE MEETING OF MEMBERS OF ASIAN WELFARE & CULTURAL ASSOCIATION (AWCA)
succeed – the wisdom behind Association of Asians.
Obviously, I felt hugely fortunate and on the Seventh Heaven while I attended the meeting of ASSOCIATION OF ASIANS CLUB in Eastleigh (UK) today from 12:30 PM onward. It is an association providing platform for airing the views of members on a variety of subjects. I had not ever attended such an association before whose main purpose is to know each other’s perspective on a number of subjects hinging on Asian region and their implications on their overall lifestyle.This association also organizes fairs (Melas) on different occasions with an espoused aim of rendering service to the needy.
It has rightly been said that when we honour humanity, we tend to respect each of the Creator’s creations with a thought that what is made by our Almighty God has His blessings for their overall well-being. If we do not accept this truth then we are undoing what our Akalpurakh, Allah, Lord, Creator Bhagwan Ji or whatsoever we call Him hardly makes difference. Intention of this venerable association is to unite peoples of different Asian countries – from India, Pakistan, Bangla Desh. Nepal and other countries and from India they were from Punjab, Jammu & Kashmir, West Bengal, from down Southern States etc. While meeting some of the members, I found them very affable, sociable, jovial and very warm in their general behaviour. There was smile on the faces of all including the ladies who actively associated themselves. My warm salute to the organisers of this coveted club of different Asian countries.
discussed in groups were about formation of Government in India after counting
ends on 23rd May 2019 and other topics of immense interest like knowing
about each other’s wellbeing. It goes to show how much they were interested about
what transpired in the country of their birth. I found each one of them with
different nationalities aware of what was happening in their respective countries.
positive attitude and smiles writ large on their faces. The warmth in their
handshake and smile they effused showcased everything which was there in their hearts.
The heart to heart meeting produced positive ambience in the participants. Besides,
the topics discussed were of intellectual significance which added our know-how
about the countries in Asia. From the warmth and bonhomie which was exhibited
in the association was evidently profuse and generated goodwill amongst the
We not only
shared our viewpoints but also shared and partook Langar together. While interacting
with others, I did not find any difference at all in the participants. Though the
language spoken may be different yet the conclusive gist of it all was
associative, cooperative, supportive, compliant and above all two-way. The
participants were united in their appreciation of unity in diversity. I pray
and hope that association like this should flourish and send positive messages to the countries of their origin.
Such association helps cementing the relationship between the countries besides
solidifying the bonds of brotherhood between different peoples of different
AM NOT ABLE TO ADJUST WITH THE COLLEAGUES IN THE ORGANISATION I AM SERVING.
SHOULD I QUIT THE JOB AND TRY SOME OTHER ONE? (As asked by someone).
it is in the fitness of things to look
within and see what are the weaknesses you are having and try to remove those
weaknesses. It is not merely you who has weaknesses, everybody in one form or
other are having. No problem. How best you can remove the shortcomings that is
the moot point. I too had those adjustment problems in the initial stages of my
employment and I think everybody faces these in one form or other in the
inception stage and then it gets adjusted.
about searching for new job is good idea but if the same problem of adjusting
with colleagues arose then what? Humans in all form and manifestations are the
same. The best thing is the improve our own self – just bettering your
performance is the only course of action which surely can bring about positive
Never ever stand on ceremony. If you want to
befriend your colleagues then you have to come forward and be very open with
them. Tell them your weak areas which require improvement. Certainly, they will
Pay respect to others to earn in return. Everybody
expects respect from others. There is nothing wrong in it. Pay respect and you
will get in equal measure.
Leave your ego at home. It should always be kept in
mind that we should never show off to influence others. Anyhow, truth will come
out one day and then you will have to pay back in the form of displeasure from
your colleagues and even your superiors.
Be persuasive without being offensive. While making
yourself heard, it is in the fitness of things to be very suave, persuasive
with positive outlook, look forward but need be just backtrack whenever it is
needed, read the faces of others for their reaction of your statement, if need
be say sorry whenever required and whenever needed say ‘YES’ to their point of
Argument spoils the show. Do not ever be
argumentative with your colleagues – remembering that nobody ever has won an
argument. It goes on and on without any tangible results. You cannot attract
others with arguments. Argument repel others from us and furthermore we are
tagged as argumentative person by our colleagues which works as
counterproductive in the long run.
Stay calm when somebody criticizes you. If the
criticism is healthy, accept it as a good piece of advice and if it is
unhealthy just discord it then and there without letting others know that you
have done so. But one should keep in mind that nobody has ever learnt anything
more from praise but everything tangible is learnt from criticism
Never pay lip service to others. It means you
should always be true to what you think and act. It should never be for a show
off in any way.
Be compassionate without showing off. To have
empathy is always helpful towards others but it should not be bragged about to
bring it to public glare. It may distract others from us.
Positive approach is the best bet to win the
confidence of our colleagues. Winning confidence means to respect privacy of
Hide secret of others and the others will also do
for you. It has been seen in the offices that people lose confidence with each other because they
do not hide secrets of each other. This acts as retarding agent in cooperation,
Do not participate in unnecessary gossips against
your colleagues. Most of goodwill created gets lost when we resort to this unhealthy
practice to win some brownie points which spoils the relationship when it is
Suave/gentle in speech. Loudmouth people are not
liked by others.
Do good turn to others. If you want that your
colleagues should help you, it it in the fitness of things to understand how
much help you render to them as this world of ours is run on the principle of
give and take.
You have to take the initiative to get something.
For getting something productive and useful, you have to go to your colleagues
and not other way around. The horse has to go to the waterbody to quench its
thirst and not the other way around.
Positive attitude pays. You have to have positive attitude in order to get some assistance from your colleagues and friends. You cannot be rude to anyone from whom you have to get something in return. Suppose, due to some emergent conditions, you had not gone to the office and the office head has assigned different jobs while you were absent then you will have to ask your colleagues for the same. If your disposition is positive and pliable, everybody will like to assist you. Otherwise, who cares for a spoilt-brat.
and coordination is two way traffic. If you cooperate with others, others will
also cooperate with you should never be forgotten.
Take the cues from
your experienced colleagues. Aloofness or isolationist attitude does not pay in
the offices. You cooperate with others and others will cooperate with you. It
is a joint venture.
Grey areas. It
should always be kept in mind that nobody is ‘perfect’ everybody commit
mistakes but we should always learn from our mistakes and should not repeat
mistakes. Therefore our grey areas should never be made black or bleak areas.
always. There are times when we are down and out but staying positive despite
our leaner period pays. Better times will always knock our doors if we have
Taking the above cited things in view, I am sanguine, if you are positive, reasonable, pragmatic and above all cooperative without being egocentric, you can weather any storm in the office. Soft-walking always helps while hard one may take us one step forward and two steps backwards. If I mention the experience that I gleaned from my 44 years of public life; in different capacities, I can say that those who adjust with the situations and conditions in various environs, succeed in life.
To command respect one has to pay respect first. It does not come by asking but should come through our persistence in working hard, earning friends, positive style in working, smiling disposition when meeting emergent situation and above all learning from our experiences.
We should always avoid lowering others’
reputation which may boomrang on us ultimately and spoil our relationship with
contributed much for enlightenment of the civilization
STRUGGLES IN OUR LIVES
Many a times, our best efforts
notwithstanding, failure stares large in our face. During such contingencies, we
have some alternatives. Firstly; we can put our best efforts, using the
available resources, secondly; to take somebody’s help in tiding over the
situation we are In and then make sincere effort after some assistance from
somebody who is proficient with the task we have taken for ourselves; thirdly; to
plunge deep into the task at hand without caring for the results, fourthly, to
flee from the situation at hand and accept defeat without even a slight effort.
The last one is most agonizing and height
of lethargy for any individual.
In our daily routines, we have our
options, option of working for our advancement in life or follow a sedentary
lifestyle and submit to the situation and conditions. The latter one just
struggles on without proper goal/mission or final destination, without proper
vision or mission, submitting to the condition without any perceptible fight.
Therefore, choice is ours, which way we want to take our life, choice is ours
because it is our life. Whether we want to work ourselves up or just struggle.
Then during this efforts, we have the choice of listening to our higher
self or submit to our egocentric
tendencies. Listening our inner self gives us leeway of knowing ourselves – our
potential and our weaknesses.
or Song of Gita has more than 100,000
Shlokas/ over 200,000 verses is the longest poem. This sacred book could be
considered as one of the most important one which could transform our life if
we take lessons from its text. It is upto us what we should take in and what we
should leave, choice remains with us. In other words, it could be construed as
personal guide for advancement in life. It is in other words representational
it is also opined that we
can exploit our inner potentials to the best possible way so as to get maximum
from the effort we put in.
In Bhagwad Gits everything has got some substance: for example: Pandavas represent all the truth and virtues. Kauravas represent evil.The Chariot of Lord Krishna represent physical body.
The horses represent five senses which we should control and use them skillfully in order to get the purpose of our lives – to do what is the best to be done using our inner developed self for a greater purpose of our life for self-realization and subsequently for goal realization.
We can also learn how best to fulfill the purpose of our lives by finding and following their passions by pursing their dream fulfilment but through our inward journey to develop self by exploring and exploiting our inner potentials so as to take on outer challenges which come in our lives. To explore what is to be explored from within and then apply ourselves to it. With the use of inner potentials, we can fructify our coveted goals. It has also been said that what we want could be acquired by us through thorough application of mind. When it happens then all the elements of Nature come to our assistance to acquire goal fructification.
According to Bhagwad Gita, a Yogi performs his action (Karma) which is termed as Karma Yoga. A Karma Yoga is multi- dimentional. What is presently done counts, what happened in the past hardly should impact our present action, of course, taking into consideration the experiences we get out our work along with understanding of the topic in hand. This understanding is the details of the work in hand; what should be done, dividing the work into different parts, each part to be allotted time for fructification, focused attention to the work to be done, sincerity and staying power by conservation of our energy for doing the part of work with the best of efforts.