Good people transact
their jobs righteously
not living in the world of dreams
away from the realities
and when reality dawns
they retreat their foot-steps
and do course correction.
Good people follow
spiritual oriented life
doing with duties assigned
with right attitude
and life with positive orientation
and securing a balance
in both failure or success.
Good people believe in
the law of Karma
you get what you give others
Good Karmic deeds
leads to good outcomes
bad ones lead us astray.
WHY GOOD PEOPLE FACE HARD
TIMES IN THEIR LIFE TIME?
Empirically speaking, it has been observed that the good people transact everything including their daily routines remaining within the ambit of natural laws and the laws of the land. They do not want to do anything which may tarnish their image in the eyes of society of which they are part. When they do everything according to the norms set by the society it goes to show that they will not take any short-cut path to earn their daily living. While doing so, they may have to face difficulties or failures many a times but they will not adopt corrupt practices in getting their work fructified.
Good people may also face jealousies from within their workplaces and even within the society besides their own people sometimes. Occasionally, it becomes difficult to get the legitimate things done due to opposition and pinpricks from many fronts. At times, the going becomes unbearably tough for a normal human being – such person becomes fed up even to get his normal things done but he has two things and most precious ones with him which give him the will to go on despite hardship. These two positive factors are self-belief and belief on Providence. These two important factors help him steer clear of any situations or in any adverse environment in which such a person is placed.
It is also a truthful that impure gold got from gold mines gets purified after going through many stages from the time it is extracted from the gold mines. Similar is the case with the individual plane. A good person gets his job done after undergoing different situations, conditions and experiences – some are good ones while others are not so good. Good people undergo different trials and tests during his sojourns in life. Their path may be littered with thorns but they weather the storms and come out unscathed ultimately.
The following are the reasons why good people face hard times and at times extremely difficult situations during their lifetime:-
1, Good persons transact their jobs remaining within the purview of laid down rules and conventions. 2. Such people should do not follow corrupt practices in order to get their things done so it takes time and sincere efforts in order to get things done. 3. They follow righteous course and practices in order to transact anything in life. 4, Such persons follow ethical and moral standpoints in their daily routines. 5. If such people fail in their efforts, they try again after getting adequate experiences from their failures. 6. Such people keep a healthy balance – both in failure and success. 7. Good people transact their Karmic deeds taking into consideration that good Karma leads to enhancement of their Karmic Credit and bad deeds Karmic Debt. 8. Good people always follow positive ways of thinking and acting. 9. The hall-mark of good people is their traits of remaining positive despite hurdles in their path. 10. Good people believe in the philosophy of living a spiritual oriented life with empathy, compassion and wellness etc. for meeting the needs of needy. 11. Good people know when to do a course correction in their daily routines.Advertisements
Our children are our most precious gifts
which we leave here on this earth
to represent us after we’ve departed
these are the credits
of the parents’ Karmic deeds
good ones give us good returns
bad ones discredit us
even after we’re not there on this earth
we show them sound path
because any wrong step taken on the wrong path
depletes the credit points so earned
of our offspring
and comes in the path of smooth journey
and lessen the chances to live a life with dignity.
Teaching our children to follow
good thoughts and Karmic deeds thereto
with sincerity of purpose
observing all the natural laws
along with norms of society
which need to be followed
as a true human being
profusely smiles dividing
besides fragrance spreading
wherever they set their feet.
Care not to spread frowns
the unwelcome ones
which tend to divide people
thus tarnishing the image of our children
and by doing so ours left out respect too
after even we’ve left this earth so beautiful
with very fickle impressions
with selfishness galore
how best to get things done
for meeting their own needs
without caring two hoots
what others expect from them.
I fathom thus
if our offspring behave waywardly
fault lies not with our children really
but on us as parents
since we paid no heed
while our children required us the most
for attending to their upbringing needs
We remained busy
in our own activities
leaving our offspring to the mercies
of hostile elements.
Now blaming others is futile
since our offspring
are brought to this earth by us
and brought up by us
thus we’re responsible
what they are at the moment
and what they should not be after all
if only we had paid attention
when it was woefully needed!
EARLY CHILDHOOD AND PARENTS
In essence, it is axiomatic that every parent would like their offspring to behave appropriately, follow correct mode of behaviour, cultivate good manners, have positive attitude while interacting with others since when our love ones behave improperly with others, they bring bad name for the family as a whole. It also becomes a slur on our upbringing since we as parents or elderly members have not given quality time to our offspring. Obviously, the parents are responsible for; what our offspring do or do not do, should never be forgotten. We must have observed people appreciating and commending the behaviour of good-mannered children while denigrating the ones who are not well behaved. Here the role of the parents or elders in the family is considered paramount. Need is to take care of the children from childhood itself – from infancy itself as the child at that stage is like a wet-earth from which the parents can make anything a very beautiful toy to play or a a hard-ball to break somebody’s head.
Be that as it may, since parents are responsible for the behaviour of their children, therefore, they have to make concerted efforts so that their wards follow righteous path from the early childhood itself. At childhood stage, value system should be imparted/transferred to the children so that the traditional values are used in their lives at every stage of their lives. The stage has to be set in the childhood stage itself. If our children behave properly in the society, it generates good impression on the family as a whole and in the long it will herald a good life in their lives while they grow up.
Here comes the play of our knowledge, intelligence and wisdom to act in a manner that we exert the influence or impression we want to make on our children. It goes to show that before having any tangible effect on our children, we have to change ourselves. It cannot be attained with ease. In such a situation, what is the option left? It is the medical expert advice which is the next alternative.
PARENTS HAVE TO BE PATIENT IN EXERTING THEIR POSITIVE INFLUENCE
Now delving on the question; if the sincerest efforts of the parents to rectify the behaviour of the parents fail to give tangible results then what? It is natural that the parents will feel exasperated and a feeling of despondency may set in.
WHAT IF OUR CHILDREN HAVE CROSSED CERTAIN LIMIT, THEN WHAT?
For instance, if a child has developed the bad habits of smoking, drinking or worse still the habit of taking drug along with gambling, then what? It is also a considered fact that all these bad habits have not set in in short span of time. These have developed over a period of time only. Seemingly, proper care on the child in question was not paid and was left to the mercy of elements. Now, at this late stage, what is the option left? We cannot leave our children high and dry to the beggaries of the ‘time’ – since time too will not be able to unknot the Gordon Puzzlei n such cases. We as the parents and the elders in the family have to come forward and do something in order to undo what untold harm has been done willy-nilly. We cannot wash our hands and tell that as parents and elders in the family are not responsible for the predicament your children are presently.
REMEDIAL ACTION FOR BREAKIG A HABIT WHICH HAS GONE BERSERK
The parents and the elders in the family should leave all compunction or hesitation in taking medical help to bring in positive transmission in the child in question. Any hesitation shown may prove counterproductive since no time should be lost in seeking remedial measures for recovery as loss in time may accentuate or heighten the symptoms to a stage of ‘no recovery’.
At the stage when the habits have been developed, how best the parents and the elders in the family can chip in order to refine the behaviour pattern of their children?
if all the persuasions to rid one of these habits or combination of bad habits have failed; then what? The parents of the elder in the family will have to fend for themselves. The family as a whole will be shattered.
If the malady is to remove the negativity in the behaviour of the children then persuasion and imparting sound advice as and when required is a must but it should not be left at that, proper monitoring too is called for to ensure that our advice have brought tangible results. Here the play of reward and punishment, whenever needed will have positive ramifications.
For this, we make our best efforts to advise the children so that they do course correction/mend their ways. we naturally get irritated when despite our best efforts, they do not listen to our advice or do not pay heed to our advice. More the nearness to our relations, the more incensed we feel when our best efforts yield no results.
But if the habits have gone beyond that and graduated into habits of drinking, smoking, drugs etc. Then what? In such a scenario, we have to seek the medical intervention to come to our rescue. It has crossed the limit of parenting. It has reached to the level of medical-intervention. Therefore, the help of the expert advice is called for. It may be time consuming but things can fall into place when proper care and caution is exercised as a matter of routine. Here too the part played by the parents and the elders in the family is of paramount importance.
The following procedure should be adopted for keeping our balance or equanimity:-
• Keep cool, when the question of our own near relatives is taken into account. The children are our own, therefore, it is our responsibility to ensure that they follow the correct path.
• It is important that as parents, we should control our anger and irritability since it will do any benefit to our children but will spoil our chances of rectifying our own behaviour. It is also necessary to note that if the anger is self-directed, it will do more harm to us as a parent and thus we lose to rectify the behaviour of our children. A child in need of our assistance is just like a parched flower plant which needs water periodically.
• Besides parents, elders in the family, the informal institutions like temples, churches, mosques, play grounds and libraries can play a stellar role in mold or shaping the opinion of the young minds and keep their mind focused on positive things, away from negative influences if the impressionable minds are left free. For instance I personally witnessed how the separate section of a library in Eastleigh attracts small children venting their curiosities; drawing, creating new things with the blocks, read children books etc. which help in productively utilize their time thus enhance their intelligence.
• Experiencing anger is our personal and internal experience whereas acting out anger means when we direct this anger on somebody else due to some reason. Although both are harmful and need controlling. Children whose parents are habituated to verbal abuses, beating, bashing, punching, etc. such children grow to be violent with all the negative traits which they learn from their parents in homes.
• If we start imparting good value system in the early childhood itself then we can expect sound results when the child grows up pricing the saying: a stitch in time saves nine.
• Build bridges of communication, soothe their emotions after observing these very minutely, relate with their problems and make concerted efforts in solving those problems.
• While refining the habits of the children, it is paramount that we as parents should not humiliate them and not at all in front of others.
• It is always necessary to know the requirement of our children; their wants, needs, the traumas which they face during their schooling, the comparison they make with their group, low esteem they face when they cultivate low self-esteem while comparing with the peer group. Any adjustment related problems should be sorted out sooner these are observed lest these problems take an uncontrollable proportion. Then there is also the final standing in the class vis-à-vis other students. If we as parents have given quality time to them and met their requirement then our children will come out of the educational institutions as a confident and the ones who can walk talk both in the peer group and others with whom they interact.
• Repeat advising till such time tangible results are attained but monitoring them periodically should never be ignored.
It should always be kept in mind that nothing is acquired with ease and when it is the question of imparting positive transformation of our own love ones it is all the more important. The solutions are not easy but these are not unattained if we adopt right methods. If required, we can take the assistance of some NGOs or other groups which have the good reputation of helping such cases.
Try, try again option should never be ignored since the matter is related to our own loved ones. If now we cannot help, then when?
If one option fails, adopt the alternative one or another but do not stop trying.
Remember right approach leads to right results. Hasty shortcuts may not produce right results but may make the matters still more complex.
If sometimes our leniency fails, then adopt some mild-hard methods too to streamline the behaviour of your loved ones but in all these, care ought to be exercised that we ourselves should not be exercised or feel irritated or even show irritation. Doing so, would be counterproductive.
For bringing positive results, positive orientations have to be adopted as the question is not of some stranger but your own ones with whom you have to interact on daily basis besides on whom your own future too hinges on while they grow up and you become old!
After having acquired a modicum of success in changing the habit and attitude of your love ones, just monitor their behaviour pattern till you are sure that what you want is acquired.
A small positive change in behaviour and attitude should be appreciated till final outcome is reached.
While following the correct course of action, it is in fitness of things to remain positive, persuasive without forcing your advice, pay minutest attention to the transformation at every step and above all remain pragmatic that things will improve with the grace of Almighty God.
HOW BEST TO ADJUST WITH THE PEOPLE WITH WHOM WE HAVE ADJUSTMENT PROBLEMS INITIALLY IN AN ORGANISATION?
should always be remembered, in life, we do not get everything we actually
want. Everything is not tailor made according to suitability. Sometimes we have to traverse a territory we
do not want travelling. We are constrained to change our attitude. Then what?
Do we retreat our steps as per the need of the hour, adjust according to the
need? I think those who adapt themselves as occasion demands can adjust in any
situation or condition. We have to face the facts by facing those with whom we
have adjustment problems initially taking into account others will not change
for us, we have to, in any situation.
best we can adjust according to the demand of the situation could be put into
practice by the following ways:-
Pay respect to the people
with whom you want to adjust. Do not be isolationist because such people will
not attract others and render you any help. It should always be remembered, the
horse has to go to the water body, the water body will not come to the horse to
satisfy its thirst.
Get awareness about
the background checking but discretely, of
the group of people – their educational qualifications, their experiences,
their impulses, their strong and weak points etc. This information could be
gleaned, if we make sincere efforts.
Make efforts to cultivate
one of the fellow-employee with whom you emote well. This should be on the
basis of give and take.
It is not that you will get
adjustment just in day or two. It takes time. It may take months but it is
possible that if we make sincere effort, nothing is impossible in this context.
Never ever feel low if
things are not working in your favour for sometimes. May a times, you may have
to face insults but have patient, things will ultimately turn out to be fine
and in your favour. Everything fructifies, if we remain trying.
When you have got adequate
experience with the group you are working, with passage of time everything will
fall into place.
enhancement of our Karmic credit account
and realise the
purpose of our life
of connectivity with
and ensure merger
of soul with Super
The word YOGA has
originated from the Sanskrit word ‘yuja’ meaning to integrate or bind or to align
to unite to act or to discipline oneself to act in a natural way to seek
complete self-realization or self-awareness. It means the unity or
integration of an individual’s
consciousness with that of Universal Consciousness.
The origin of Yoga is
mystic. by 5th Century BC, Yoga was very popular. It is also
believed that Sant Patanjali was the father of modern Yoga. It also finds its place
in Vedic Scriptures. But it cannot be disputed that Lord Shiva was the father
of ancient Yoga; as His posture shows Him in Yogic mode.
The ancient rishis
believed that our body, mind and the soul have to join together or integrate
with the environment in which a person is living. For this to happen
meaningfully, it is essential that an individual’s emotions, thinking, actions
and intelligence have to be work cohesively in order to realize the purpose of
our life. For integration of the three (body, mind and soul) with environment
in which a Yogi is living, various well-coordinated exercises with regular breathing,
experienced over a period of time for their applicability; besides meditation
are undertaken ultimately for deriving maximum benefits. For deriving
optimum benefit from the Yogic exercises, discipline in the conduct of various
exercises, coordination with the various parts of the body especially control
of mind and mind cohesiveness is of optimum importance. The Yogis who are
disciplines in conduct of Yogic postures with focused attention will get
maximum benefits. Yoga exercises also help a Yogi in focused meditation and other
daily functions as a disciplined Yogi and lead a spiritual oriented lifestyle
to realize the purpose of life – to establish connectivity with Almighty God.
SOUND BODY. It is understood that
our body works as a entire unit, integrating the task of various organs, for carrying out different functions and if it
is hale and hearty and possessing energy and synergy, we can transact more
functions with our body. For this to happen, we’ve to have balanced diet besides
proper exercises or Yoga exercises to keep it hale and hearty. It is also in
sync with the saying: sound mind dwells in sound body.
SOUND MIND. We have to control
our mind so that the senses (sense of sight, sense of touch, sense of smell,
sense of taste and sense of hearing) which it possess coordinate all the
functions of our body eloquently and works in sync with the requirement of a
Yogi. Wavering of senses from one object to another just makes our task of
focusing more difficult. That is why we have to mind our mind if we want to
have complete benefit from Yoga exercises. This is easier said than done since we have to take the assistance of all
the organs of our body including internal resolve along with making the
environment conducive, so as to make the Yogic exercise a fruitful exercise.
SOUL/SPIRIT. The soul is
self which lives in the body and does its functions through it. When there is
no soul in our body our body becomes lifeless and becomes a purposeless for any
functions. It is just like a rudderless boat floating aimlessly in the vast ocean
without destination. Or it is like a bulb without electricity to give energy to
give light to us. Hence, we are living, having emotions and perceiving things
intelligently or our mind is functional because we’ve got a soul which gives
our body life. A soulless body is a lifeless body. When body and mind are in
fine fettle then our soul too functions accordingly. It is also well said that
our soul or spirit is not apart from the Super Soul (Parm Atama) who is the
creator, evolution/preserver and destroyer for reproduction.
Breathing in O2 (Oxygen) and breathing out CO2 (Carbon
Dioxide) is one of the most important requirements of our body and if it is
closely regimented and systematically done then it proves to be divinely
provided sustenance to our body and Yoga bestows us opportunity to enhance
breathing methodically which could be proved scientifically. When breathing
control is ensured meticulously then we proceed with the next step focused
meditation or prayer. While doing so, our mind’s quietness or stillness state
is termed as passive activism.
EXERCISES & ITS BENEFITS
Chapter two of Bhagwad Gita, it has been very emphatically mentioned that our
responsibility is only to perform our prescribed duty, but we never are
entitled to its fruits. It is because our results would be in our favour if
there is sincerity in our actions. We should not be motivated by results of our
thoughts and actions but we should not be overly attached to the results of our
actions. For performing our duty, we should remain balanced minded both in
success and failure – no heightened emotions at all. Such a calm temperament
and our expertness in performing our task is called YOGA.
Only detached actions (selfless actions) and performing that action with best of our capability will make our pursuit purposeful and meaningful in the long run. We can choose the various duties but it is not in our hands to choose results as we desire. But practically, it has been found that if our pursuit of action is sincere and done with cool temperament then result cannot be disappointing. In this state of mind, even if the results are not good, we shall not be disappointed.The Yogic exercises or Asnas done persistently makes it possible to regulate our breathing thus making it possible to improve the entire metabolic system of our body; in that blood circulation, abdominal organs function perfectly besides keeping all the organs of the body function wonderfully well because every limb of body is benefited with the regulated exercises. When our body is functionally healthy then we can perform various tasks cohesively.
KARMA YOGA – THE YOGA OF
Karma Yoga is relation to our action that we transact. Before any action
is undertaken, it has to be based on some sound thought. The thoughts for
action ought to be positive in nature besides being selfless and detachment
from the fruits of that action. Karma Yoga has been amply mentioned in Bhagwad
Gita stresses that we should transact our actions and detach from the fruits of
those actions. Meaning when our actions are based on sound and rational
thoughts then their results will have to be good. Also by detaching
ourselves from the fruits, we’re able to concentrate/focus on out actions
besides offering those actions to God rather than frittering our energies by
attaching ourselves with result of our action.
VARIOUS TYPES OF
HATHA YOGA (YOGA OF
In this branch of
Yoga, the Yogis use physical pose or asana with proper breathing exercises or
pranayama and subsequent meditation in a focused manner for ensuring good
health besides ensuring our spiritual forward march.
BHAKTI YOGA (YOGA OF
Bhakti word originated from Sanskrit word Bhaja meaning to contemplate, pray, love, worship etc. Here a Yoga meditate persistently thus integrates heart and body functions wherein body, mind and soul just combine for integrating with Super Soul. Yoga of Bhakti makes us aware of ONE DIVINE by undivided concentration and thus helps us see ONE DIVINE in everyone and everything. While Karma-yoga becomes Bhakti-yoga, it is done with God consciousness. RAJA YOGA (YOGA OF SELF-CONTROL)
associated with royalty. In other words, it is KING OF YOGA. It is based on
teachings of the EIGHT LIMBS OF Yoga which is based on YOGA SUTRAS. In this, A
Yogi considers self as a central to all and thus considers animate and
inanimate the same – no difference in living and non-living things. If
you wish to learn discipline, then Raja Yoga would perfectly suit that need.
JNANA YOGA (YOGA OF
Jnana Yoga is
related with the mind and therefore its focus is on intelligence of a person.
Here Yogis lay more emphasis on wisdom and intellect and try integrate the two
so that it works for the self optimally. Also Jnana Yogis are after knowledge,
they acquire the knowledge from any source or religions because they work on
the principle that knowledge could be gleaned from any sources – religions and
philosophies. It is universal in nature. Jnana Yoga proponents are rational in
their approach for getting knowledge and thus believe that in order to get
connectivity with a SINGLE ONE any path or any religion could be followed.
Religion or caste or creed is not limiting factor in acquiring knowledge.
OR YOGA OF RITUALS
Tantra yoga deals with head and heart.
While pursuing tantra yoga one has to have the quality of purity of mind,
devotion, humility, love etc. Here some rituals are observed for obtaining
benefit for the body, mind and spirit.
There are still a lot of misconceptions about yoga, for instance, yoga being a religion. Yoga is not a religion. It is more of a set of techniques for us to find spirituality. In fact, yoga is being practiced by a lot of people from different religions and benefiting from doing this.
Another misconception is that yoga is merely an exercise, a way for us to keep fit. It is partly true, but if you think that yoga is just that then you are greatly mistaken. Yoga develops the body since a weak one is a hindrance to spiritual growth. It does not simply focus on the physical but on the mental and spiritual aspects as well
BENEFITS OF YOGA
Ban Ki-moon has
“Yoga does not
discriminate…all people can practise, regardless of their relative strength,
age or ability.”
Yoga instills discipline in the Yogi.
Yoga is a scientific method which unites soul with
the Super Soul (God) – we rise above delusion and reunite with our Creator.
It enhances our concentration through focus on the
omniscient spiritual eye (between the two eyebrows) thereby memory.
It controls our stress and strain thus we can
function perfectly since we learn how to keep our mind under control besides
controlling our emotions which keep us adversely affected.
As in Yoga, we give more credence to ‘self’, we can
thereby can attain self realization first and subsequently God-realization.
Breathing control ensures sound metabolic process
of our body thus we have proper circulation of blood besides all the internal
organs like heart, liver, lungs including all abdominal organs of our body
function in fine fettle because of this regulated breathing and exercises.
Meditation in rigorous and with focused manner
ensures that we move forward spiritually with a view to connect with our
Lord/Creator in a disciplined way. It should always be remembered that
systematic meditation makes a true Yogi.
Yoga helps us in facing challenges of life boldly
and with equanimity.
Yoga helps us to imbibe the trait of love and
acceptance for everything and everybody.
Yogic exercises through various postures enhances
our self control thus self confidence because of opening the door of intuitive
consciousness – sixth sense which makes it possible to anticipate the coming
While stress is on self (as is done in Raja Yoga),
it enhances the Yogi’s self esteem and self control besides enhancing self
reliance in everything a Yogi ventures.
HOW DO I KNOW WHETHER I AM REACTING
BECAUSE OF MY SELF RESPECT OR EGO AND HOW BEST TO AVOID BEING REACTIVE?
It should always be remembered that
there is very thin line between self-respect/self-esteem and ego. Ego comes to
fore, when we consider ourselves above reproach or above criticism. When you become
touchy on even slightest pretext and would like to pay back in the same coin.
In other words, your tolerance level has taking a huge drubbing and have become
delicate to the core. In this sort of a scenario, it becomes all the more
difficult to work in any environment in which you are placed since you suspect
every individual under the sun. In such a situation, wherein you consider
yourself a centre of gravity where none other than you count, it become
difficult to be adaptable to a change,
Contrarily, a self-respecting person
is the one who respects others too and does not become reactive on slightest
provocation. Sometimes such person suffers without being too much reactive or
retributive. A person who is self-respecting does not get perturbed if he/she does
not get due respect even since in his/her heart of hearts this person knows
that the true state of affairs. This person knows how to pocket an insult,
being tolerant to the core and does not believe paying in the same coin since
this person knows paying back amounts to be reactive and to do so is injurious
to health and wellbeing.
We can weather any storm, without
being reactive, even on grave provocation when we are knowing our own self or
are self-conscious. Having known ourselves fully (both our potentials and
weaker areas) we can then have patience and tolerate anything, even assault on
our self-esteem and would be able to adjust any situation in which we are
placed, solve our own problems ourselves without being reactive on anything. In
this sort of a situation, there may come occasions when our point of view is
not understood by others, it hardly means that we tend to be reactive and lose
our individuality in the bargain. We can analyse the situation and clear our
side of the case scenario. If others understand our point of view, it is
welcome, if not then introspect and do requisite course correction.
In view of the foregoing, although our self-esteem or self-respect is important but we should not go off the tangent if on certain occasions, it gets punctured. It should not matter much since our self-esteem could be gained in life if we live a non-reactive existence – free from anger or annoyance and live peacefully.
because impressions created on falsehood
get sooner erased
by the erasing ink of time
on which impressions of truth
are codified by the indelible ink
which are inherent in nature
and create huge impression
amongst people of all hues
thereby stopping us to live in the midst
of self-deceptive world
of our own creation
which is away from realism.
follow corrupt practices
because the position
attained by such methods
loses its lustre with time
when reaction of Karma
comes into effect
and we go full circle
falling with a thud
lower the ladder.
allow thy offspring
to follow bad company after knowing
since thy offspring
what company thy offspring
take or do not take.
lower the self-esteem of others
with a bang
Thy self-esteem would be at huge risk
and finally go bust
leaving thee high and dry
thus tasting the ill-prepared meal of thy own
making for which thee can blame none.
which thee can never fulfil
because not fulfilling promises
would be a huge loss of face
and self-esteem for thee
retrieving of which would be
a gigantic task for thee
after having lost thus.
pay lip service
to others’ advice
may not act with sincerity
because doing so
will put thee
in the list of truants
a state which will put thee in disrepute.
Never others to express their viewpoints since doing so would be equivalent to supPressing others’ inner voice the voice which could be of use to all of us.
ever overlook the experiences
thee get in the past
since these could teach thee
what to be done
and what to be left out
thereby not repeating
over and over again
what has been done
but fasten the broken thread
and succeed then.
lose thy temper
because when thee lose temper
thee lose thyself
be in somebody’s else control
the one who makes the lose it
with it, thee lose thy own self
and try a life
whose key is with somebody else
since this life is very uncertain
so no hitch
under any situation.
Never let the misunderstanding in the family to
the cohesion and goodwill
for a peace and prosperity in the family
hurt others emotions
since upsurge in emotions
with its centre of gravity
at our very delicate heart
will stretch thee to a limit
may be of no return – sometimes
putting effected ones
in dire straits
with little chances
of return back
to original self.
on thy worldly possessions
name and fame
since these will not last long
‘I, me and my’ will hardly help
when thee are down and out – at last
and thy ego will be mixed with dust
from where it had originated.
to any situation
in which thy find thyself placed
brings in its wake counter-reaction
making our life
a bed of thorns.
have more expectations
since when these are belied
we tend to feel very distressed.
pick holes in others’ pockets
since there may be many more in thy pocket as well
so, exercise care
lest thee fall into the trap
of thy own making
for heaven sake.
Whence we’re on the driving
seat with our emotions
With no excitement
Or being reactive
The two negative elements
Working against in adverse
With our failings or successes
Which we get.
Control over our emotions
Means improvement in our skill
To control our feelings
Not being overly concerned
Over the result of thoughts
If we lack adjustment skills
We’ll fall into trap of catch
Making us excessively insecure
Creating hurdles so unpredictable
Immobilizing us in the bargain
In our path which we traverse
In this sort of predicament
Self-restraint and remaining
Along with remaining positive
Are the sure keys
Which will deliver us out
From our insecurities
We’re placed ourselves.
Our insecurities too visit us
When we fail to meet our
Means less insecurities
Working ourselves in our lives
Free from our fears
Sometimes working so hideously
Thus working our way up
Can secure us from our
Thence nurture the lust for
In this quest
We lose our individual
When we do not get want we
And fall into the trap of
Of our own making.
INSECURITIES IN OUR LIVES
while we see the world of ours persistently submerged in different
insecurities, there are insecurities in the society we are working with, in our
families, insecurities of children and people in old-age, insecurities at the
workplace and also on the individual planes too. The prompt for writing on this
topic was after personally witnessing two small kids aged between 10-12 (a boy and girl) and also after seeing two
old people dragging to heavy suitcases, huffing and puffing, the lady fell down
and was crying for help. Seemingly they wanted to take the train which was
standing at the railway station. The
male member just could not do anything but to prod her to get up – an
indication of their helplessness at this age and condition of their health.
Such insecurities could spell
IN THE WORLD OF OURS
While the world advances in different spheres, with some facing new challenges of man-made while others are created by Nature, there is air of insecurity in the minds of people. Some may say these insecurities are just farfetched and a figment of our imagination but we can hardly wish such insecurities away. Different countries have devised different ways to make their countries secure from other countries. It may be by production of weapons of mass destruction or having conventional weapons to work as a deterrence in order to securing the borders from outside attacks. All these are done in order to ensure our own securities. But ultimately the insecurities persist from inside and outside. In the world of ours, all the countries are facing insecurities; it may be due to natural calamities, food related insecurities due to drought and famine-like situations in some countries, etc. All these insecurities persist through out this world of ours.
ON INDIVIDUAL PLANE
are occasions when we feel helpless despite our best efforts; self-doubts due
to lack of confidence can take its toll by adversely affecting our performance.
Short of confidence could spell doom not only for the individual concerned but
also to the people who are dependent on that individual. There are personal
familial matters such as difference between spouses leading to even separation.
This separation could put the future of the offspring in jeopardy. Then there
are the following family insecurities related to the following aspects:-
arise in the community when the majority community subjugates minority community.
AND OUR ATTITUDE TO HANDLE THESE
We have three kinds of people,
satvic (those who are knowledgeable people who preach others to follow
non-violent methods to get something), rajasvic (those whose job was to rule
and defend others, their work is also to defend others against internal and
external aggressions) and tamsic (those who follow non-violent means to get
something). Tamsic people subjugate the other classes of people who remain
fearful for their lives and properties. Then there are people of high caste
subjugate the people with low caste or dalits.
insecurities due to some trauma in the families
has been seen those families in which there is discord between the spouses in
the families, the children experience emotional upsurge of highest order and
have adjustment problems with psychological and physiological implications.
When we feel insecure in transacting our job
in hand due to lack of confidence or feel vulnerable or has fear-psychosis to
face any situation or condition with confidence. Due to these instabilities, we
may feel our self-esteem being hit adversely. This way, whole of our
self-confidence is lost and with it our resilience in performing any job with
aplomb gets affected adversely. While our resilience to adjust gets affected,
it will not only impact the economic condition but also social standing too.
OF INNER STRENGTH AND INSECURITIES
has also been seen that a person with strong inner strength faces all the outer
adverse negative influences and challenges with confidence or has no fear in
traversing an adverse territory. This self-confidence could be generated with
self-awareness or self-actuation or self-realization. Such a person is not
shaken by any situation in which the person concerned is placed. On the other hand, a person who is
emotionally insecure, feels unhappy on a slightest adverse situation, is always
distrustful at every step, becomes
defensive on a slightest pretext, shows signs of mental instability, etc. Conflicts at every step, triggered by adverse
situation can undo the shreds of confidence a person may possess. Sometimes, these
tendencies make him egocentric thus may have adjustment problems with the
environs and the p. This person feels insecure in what he does or does not do.
OF CONFIDENCE AND INSECURITY
An insecure person lacks
confidence to face any situation. He always remains in doubt. With self-doubts
lingering, every step brings with it negative feeling impacting the person
mental stability. With such mental condition, fear stalks his every step. He
does not make any efforts in improving in any way since he fears of failure at
every step. He does not make any effort because of his fears of failure. These
fears can also make this person excessive introvert; which sometimes may be
construed as signs of humility but these are not the signs of humbleness but
signs of fear-psychosis to face facts.
SELF-DOUBT AND INSECURITIES
person who is skeptical, has doubts surrounding him, takes no step to
objectively self-evaluate himself and do something in doing some for course-correction
in order to find a way out of the adverse situation. Having little or no
self-awareness through introspection and self-analysis could impair our
internal mechanism to come to our rescue. Self-analysis could do a lot of good
to us by knowing the exact causes of insecurity triggers and their consequent
effect. After knowing the causes of our downtrend, we can take appropriate
steps to rectify the inconsistencies with our self-efforts. Factually, we are the ones who create these
inconsistencies, therefore, we are constrained to removes these if we want some
modicum of transformation for us. Since, if the positive transformation is not
done within short period of time, it will hugely psychologically – just taking
away whatever is left of our confidence and put us in irretrievable situation.
MEDITATIONS / PRAYER CAN MAKE
With focused meditation, we
can control the activities of our mind and can make it sync with our soul
bringing in its wake calmness, enhancement in our self confidence, self-belief
thereby self-confidence to face the world at large.
PROBLEMS DUE TO DEATH OF A SPOUSE
There are many insecurities in
childhood and in oldage. In both of these cases, they are dependent on others
physically and financially. In oldage they are not able to have much mobility
because of oldage related diseases and also financially because in oldage they
cannot put their efforts in earning their livelihood. Therefore, insecurities
at these two stages (early childhood and oldage) are more pronounced.
ANXIETIES DUE TO ADJUSTMENT IN THE NEW LOCATION
times, we are constrained to change the place of our residence due to transfer
on promotion to other location or on fresh appointment etc. In such a
situation, we have to adjust not merely with the new organization and the staff
but also the people where we have to live with or without our families. These
insecurities remain the matter of concern to us till such time we adjust with
everything by changing our work ethics and new procedures and methods that we
have to learn and then follow up for making our journey in the office and
outside smooth one.
we are financially secure, we feel hugely insecure. If we are having sufficient
money, we can at least meet our needs but without anything to fall back, we
become totally helpless and dependent on others; then our insecurities become
still more compounded when nobody of our own is there to provided us any
assistance to fulfill our needs. With financial security, we can have our own
home for habitation, can meet our family’s needs besides can render health
related problems by providing insurance cover to the whole family members. This
way the entire family is insulated from inner and outer insecurities.
PRESENT FAILURES AND REJECTIONS
overcome the negative feeling on being rejected in any venture it is advisable
to be aware about ourselves; know our potentials and weak areas. Then work hard
in order to lessen the weaker spots. Here perseverance and patience are
required. It is not possible acquired in short span of time. This is possible
when we turn inward to explore our inner potentials. Apart from this, we can
also take the help of some of our experienced friends to whom we trust the most
for a positive outcome. Those we transact their karmic deeds can overcome any
problem whatsoever. The present failures and rejections could only worsen our
present position if do not devise appropriate wherewithal or means
Below are some tools to
combat insecurity in social situations:
There are inherent
deficiencies which bedevil us- the inner contradictions which remain pestering
us and do not allow us to have familiarity with others around us or pick up
conversations with us for knowing each other. We should cultivate habits to
converse with others. Initially, we can start with one friend and subsequently
we can increase our social group. It is a fact that each interaction can give
us self-confidence. There may be the ones which prevent us from meeting people
around. \it should never be forgotten that we are recognised only by the
society of which we are a part.
INSECURITIES DUE TO
There are people who
put in their best to be perfect in their thinking and job perfection where
there is no place for mediocre or imperfect jobs. In everything they want
perfection. Such persons do not like
inefficacy of any sort. They put self-focus in order improve the performance to
perfection. They evaluate themselves under different set of conditions and make
endeavour to rectify their outcome.
OF EMOTIONAL INSECURITIES
Any guilt of youth causing
Fear in facing challenges
Turning excessive introvert or
Turning arrogant, bullying,
Vulnerable at every step
Have limited tolerance
Capacity to displease others
or hurt others
Isolationist to the core
Bitterness towards others
Pre-disposed to be less happy.
HOW BEST TO COPE UP OUR INSECURITIES
Monitor yourself and the
environs besides the people residing there so that we can adjust with both.
enhancing the emotional intelligence.
Control/manage your emotions
as undue excitement or reaction could mar your chances of success.
Emotional improvement just the
same way as we improve our skill in any field.
Remaining positive despite
hurdles which bedevil our steps for further movement.
Steer clear of all the
confusions which makes our path difficult to traverse.
We have to use the power of
restraints whenever needed to retrieve our steps ii we have taken any wrong
Divide smiles in order to
Always remember that you have
not to prove yourself to anybody but to yourself – compete with yourself.
Know your own self- potential
and weaker points – try removing the weaker points. Then know your true-self.
Self-doubts create depletion
of energy therefore remove doubts through sincere self-efforts.
A seeds of good thoughts we
sow can produce a yield of a huge dividends.
When we are weighed down by
our own expectations, we tend to feel insecure.
More the expectations more the
insecurities if the same are not realized, expecting nothing but act more could
solve our problem.
Never ever have the lust for
becoming perfectionist because it has the hidden element of contracting physical
and psychological problems.