Before venturing to know other’s failings
And passing judgment on their supposed shortcomings
It is in the fitness of things
To know yours first
For there is a possibility
You may find in you many.

We’ve to know our own self
With it our potentials and pitfalls
If we condemn others
Without filling our pitfalls
We’ll surely fall into self-created pits
Without even a trace of our existence.
Without self-knowledge
We are living mechanical existence
Whose control is with somebody else
We can undo the wrongs
Thus adopt new do’s based on situation.
Knowing self is to know others too
Observing everything around us
Including the Nature we’re living in
Observing a variety of its songs so melodious
In the form of sweet fragrance so enchanting
Hear the brook’s water so gracefully flowing
Listening the twitters of birds so heart-touching
Observe the rain drops falling
In the process quenching
The thirst of the earthlings
Observe the sprouting
Of the seed from the earth
And thence the growing
Of the plant with juicy fruits
So sweet to taste
Meaning we can learn much
From the plant and animal kingdom
If we care to observe them
Thus strengthening our mental power
To conceive new thoughts so creative
Thus enrich our mind and its working
As mind influences our thoughts
And to implement the same for our life’s journey ahead
With ease and in peace with the grace of God.

Compare With Yourself Only With The Person You Were Yesterday: Bhagwad Gita.


Knowing self means self-understanding fully. This means to understand who we actually are. In Bhagwad Gita, it has been made abundantly clear that our identity extends beyond our material body and we are having our existence due to our souls and can contribute our mite and attain satisfaction. We cannot be same as other person in the present form. Every individual is different and has independent identity. We have our good traits and not so good ones. We should never think ourselves perfect but our learning process should continue – learning curve should continue for self-improvement and thus for enrichment of our soul. Comparison-centric thinking can lead us astray in the long run because when we are not able to satisfy our desires, we fall are depressed thus forget the very purpose of our existence.

There are occasions when we feel pleased and other times when we feel let down. Uplifting thoughts arise when we get some good news and down when we receive some unpleasant one. All these things happen in our lives from time to time; how best of how worst we receive the news emanating from various sources depends on our own mental sturdiness or fickleness.
In the early childhood, we have pure innocence and simplicity and this purity of innocence and simplicity keep the children glued to the people who are with him without any influence of world beyond. This purity of innocence has its own significance which gets diluted when our children are exposed to outside world – with peer group, with friends on the playground, in the formal and informal institutions etc.
This divine songs which the Mother Nature graces us with could only be observed minutely by willing observers. It is the Song of God which the Nature as a medium graces us like falling drops of rain, falling of soft snow, soothing breeze of air and with it the fluttering of leaves of trees majestically, fragrance of flowers – the whiff of which makes the environs refreshing, running of rivulets and the sound created with it like song of nature, sight of flying of birds in a group and their twitters, observance of clouds in the sky and the shapes which makes when it moves from one place to other.
Those who observe nature in its various manifestations minutely are hugely influenced by it. They are the ones who love freedom of thoughts and expression like the Nature and its constituents. Are we listening to this song or are we lost in the demands of the age? Can the effort to listen to this divine song (rain) be our prayer? Prayer, not demanding but to cultivate the ability to receive the blessings of existence. All these bounties of the Mother Nature are there to be seen but requirement of a Pure Soul as a observer should also be there. The same things are being happening in our inner self too. Only those who know the self can know its significance and can get eternal joy out of all these.
The question as to ‘who I am’ could only be known if we delve deep into our own self. It is said what we think we become but in real life it is not so. There are so many aspects of our self. There is our body, mind, our thinking self, functioning self, and above all the one which controls our self or fundamental self. We have, therefore, to observe all these selves which are there in our own self. This includes how we conduct ourselves, how we interact, how we deal with others, how we feel or react in different sorts of situations and conditions. Without being judgmental about ourselves, we have to dispassionately observe all our behavior pattern, habits, talks with others etc.
Then there are the things which we have to observe:-

• Do we become angry when we react on something against us.
• When we see somebody’s good fortunate, do we feel jealousy or envious about it although it is of no use rather it would be bad for us.
• When we see somebody’s worldly possessions, do we start comparing ourselves with them. This too will not do us any good.
• How we reciprocate others; our own loved ones and rank strangers.
• When we see somebody in pain, observe, do we feel the same pain or do we try alleviating the pain of somebody by personal involvement without any expectation.
• Keep a keen eye that we do not get perturbed and keep a healthy balance both in good and not so good situations/conditions.
When equanimity or balance in life gets crystallized we do not react to any fear, anger, envy or jealousy, ill-will or rancor does not affect us, we do not compare ourselves with others, we develops the positive traits like compassion, kindness, empathy, sympathy, truthful, etc. Further, we do not get carried away by any sort of negative thoughts or we do not over-react when we get success in our endeavour nor failure disappoints us.

For this to be reality, we have to observe all the activities that we transact or see in our life – be it at home, workplace, formal and informal institutions. After having done this, we get insight of it all through our inner contradiction, we remove any smut or darkness which is left in us gets enlightened when we know our own self.

Subsequently, we will start observing everything and everybody; your own self, your relations, the general public who come to you for succor. You then feel joy in rendering whatever assistance you can provide without any expectation in return. When we are not judgmental or do not identify with anything but your own self then we have got inner freedom which will influence our outer life too.
Subsequently, when we increase the sharpness of our observation, then, sure enough, we have known our self fully. Here ends all the contradiction, ego, ‘I and me’ only a pure observation and nothing else without any attachment. This happens only when we dispel the darkness which prevails inside us and shed this darkness through self-observation minutely.
Having known out own self – when our body, mind and intellect are attuned properly so as to manage all the functions properly without feeling stressed/harassed and totally focused. That person can take tough decisions by taking all the pros and cons into consideration.

The following needs to be taken into consideration while we have known our own self:-

• Mind, body and intellect should work in sync so that there is no stress and strain felt even after performing an arduous job.
• Our body is one of the foremost functionaries which has to kept fit and fine. It could be through persistent exercises or through Yogic postures. It helps focus our mind.
• Mind to be in total control. It should not waver when meeting emergent situation. Focused meditation pays huge dividends.
• The idea that positive attitude always pays should never be forgotten.
• We are prone to compare ourselves with others in a variety of ways – in relation to our worldly possession, in relation to our knowledge etc. In this comparison we forget that we have to make concerted efforts for self-improvement. In Bhagwad Gita it has been made amply clear – Compare Yourself Only With The Person You Were Yesterday; then things will improve.

You can manage others better if you know how best to manage your own self.

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10 thoughts on “KNOW YOUR OWN SELF”

  1. Before criticizing others just introspect whether you are having any point on which you could also be criticized.

    Self knowing is the best exercise. If it is done, we can solve most of the problems of our existence.


  2. Knowing our own selves, how and why we react to others, was the cornerstone of my profession. I particularly like your sequence on the observation of nature

    1. Derrick sir, thanks a lot for your invaluable comments; as always.We always have recollections which we cherish through out our lives. Regards.

  3. ‘If we condemn others
    Without filling our pitfalls
    We’ll surely fall into self-created pits
    Without even a trace of our existence ‘. Fully Agree Sir. To Know Others First We Have To Know Ourselves.
    Beautifully written.

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