OUR CHILDREN & THEIR UPBRINGING


OUR CHILDREN & THEIR UPBRINGING

CHILD BRINGING UP

The other day, I was hugely surprised when I heard the abusive language being hurled by a five year child while he was talking to his sister aged seven years. This put me in enormous quandary as to where our small kids are heading as far as use of refined and polished language is concerned. We may ignore it, thinking that such a use of language is merely by small kids who does not even understand the meaning of foul language he is uttering. But, doubtlessly, if this stance just continues and we may remain thinking that these are the actions of a small kids then one day these actions of theirs may go too far. As they grow up their use of language will also grow uglier, if not nipped in the bud. It is due to the fact that these kids will grow up to be spoiler of relationship by pitting one person against another by the use of soiled language and unethical and unsavory behavior. In Bible it has rightly been said: ‘Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not  turn from it.’ I am of the view that this sagacious advice should be followed by all parents.

RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENTS

The parents are squarely responsible for the above lapse. They must be using foul language while quarreling or arguing with each other and the kid must be around and picked up this language. Or there is a possibility of boy  must have picked up this language from his fellow class mates or any other sources. Sources of picking up the foul language may be any but it is a matter of grave concern that our kids are being fed with wrong words and phrases. If indeed there is a problem of the most impressionable small kids picking up the foul language, then, solution is not far to seek, the parents should desist from using dirty language in their heated arguments while their children are around.

FOUNDATION OF CHILDREN’S RIGHT ATTITUDE & BEHAVIOR PATTERN STARTS AT EARLY CHILDHOOD

In essence, we should always keep in mind the empirical truth that the foundation of a person (ethical and moral standpoints) starts from the early childhood. It is relevant to mention  a case in point experienced by me. While picking up my four year old grandson from his school, he wanted to go to toilet for easing himself, but so much pressure he was having that he peed on the playing ground itself despite my insistence of not doing so. I did not scold him then and there since other students of his class were also there. But when I was bringing him back home, I made him realize his mistake in most gentle way. He promised me that he will go for nature’s call whenever he felt the need of it.  This advice had a desired effect and he did not act like this thereafter. Also, whenever he feels pressure, he himself goes to the toilet for easing himself. Similar is the case with use of language and other etiquette. Whenever he behaves abnormally, we are always there to mend his ways and guide him for adopting the right course of action without much fuss. One thing I have learned while dealing with him is the need to say ‘SORRY’ whenever required.

It is our duty, as parents, as grandparents etc to raise our children in a way considered appropriate taking into consideration our situations and conditions in which we are placed. If we do not act whenever it is optimally required that means we are in for trouble later on if we do not ‘nip the evil in the bud’. We may have to repent and we would realize that we have already missed the bus as far as rectifying the behavior of our children is concerned since inappropriate habits, attitudes and modes of behavior have made a permanent residency in their psyche. This may become a cause of grave concern and worry, giving birth to various social anxieties, apprehensions of worst order for our grown up children since whenever somebody brings forth  or tells us about demeaning demeanor of our grown up children we, naturally  repent our folly of not intervening when it was hugely required. In Guru Granth Sahib it has been said: He alone is a householder, who restrains his passions.  The parents, therefore, should be tolerant and patients while transforming the behavior pattern of their offspring.

It is also relevant to mention here the case in point of a 10th standard girl student. She used to devote less time in studies and more time in surfing the internet and chatting with her friends due to which she could not pass her Pre-Board Examination. The head of the institution called the parents for such a dismal result of their ward. The following inappropriate behavior pattern was found:-

TIME SHOULD BE USED JUDICIOUSLY

The student used to waste her time in gossiping with her friends on her mobile phone for hours together. The time she wasted in chatting with her friend could have been utilized productively by studying at home – the lessons which were taught to her in the class room.

INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR PATTERN AND ATTITUDE & FAULT OF PARENTS NOT TO HAVE GIVEN HER QUALITY TIME

Her parents informed that she ignores any guidance given to her and have become quite stubborn and no amount of suggestion or advice could help her. Her parents were advised to take the help of a competent psychologist so that there is modicum of improvement in her behavior. She was also counseled by the institution’s counselor.

We could understand the predicament of the parents whose only child is experiencing extreme upheavals in her life. When asked why they did not take care of their daughter after her early childhood. Their answer was that both of them were busy in their respective jobs and that is why they could not give quality time to her when it was most needed.

GIVING  ALL THE COMFORTS OF LIFE

The parents were overwhelmed with so much emotional upsurge that they voluntarily reeled out their side of the story. They provided her with every comforts, everything which she asked even after limiting their own needs as parents. They had provided her laptop, costly mobile, motor bike and fulfilled all the needs which she insisted. It was evident that in their zeal to fulfill her unfettered desires, they had provided her with everything in order to showcase her position to her friends.

I am sanguine, this was the fault of the parents. We should not fulfill all the desires of our children (rational or irrational). They should be told how hard it is work and earn an honest living – getting up early in the morning, reach the workplace after commuting several miles, sometimes getting wet in the rain and sometimes in the hot sun. in other words, the children should be told to inculcate the spirit of working hard from early childhood itself. Whenever any demand of theirs is to be fulfilled, they should be given a task or a goal to be fructified. By so doing, they will know the importance of not only how best to utilize their ‘time’ but also learn how much of difficulty it entails to earn a something!

TIMELY ACTION ACTS AS A PANACEA

There upon I was reminded of the saying: ‘A stitch in time saves nine’, ‘Time waits for no man. It also reminded me of an analogy;  if the sapling of a plant is not watered and cared properly, is kept without sunlight and fresh air, it does not grow to be a healthy tree which may give you sweet fruits! Similar is the case with our children. If they are not brought up properly, then, they will grow up to be people with flawed dispositions.

MAINTAINING  DISCIPLINE – FORMATION OF GOOD HABITS AND ATTITUDES

In our schools, the students should be taught how to form such habits and attitudes which are in tune with good ethical and moral traits. I realized this significance when the head of our institution wanted the list of the habitual offenders; those who are in the habit of using fou and abusive/intemperate language, not observing and sticking to norms of behavior set by the institute for the students,  etc.

After identifying the problem students, it is the responsibility of the schools and the parents to devise ways and means to work out a plan of action for rectifying the behavior pattern of such students. With this scenario in mind, the parents of such students were called for a meeting and the purpose behind such a meeting was discussed so as to understand the psyche of such students, infuse positive habits, behavior and attitude. The purpose is to refine such students so as to make them disciplined ones so that their habits, behavior and attitude get transformed positively which will help them sail through the boat of their lives without much trouble even in troubled waters.

Following were the lessons learned:-

1.     Never ignore the unreasonable behavior and attitude of the students. The parents should see it as an obligatory duty to refine their children from the childhood itself. In Bhagwad Gita it has been very effectively stressed: Perform your obligatory duty, because action is indeed better than inaction.

2.     It has been observed that when the latent energies of the students are not taped properly then they will utilize the same in following some negative pursuits. This could be done partly  through appreciation and partly through slight criticism: In Bible it has been opined : Through praise of children and infants you have established a stronghold against your enemies, to silence foe and the avenger.

3.     It has been seen that partly the parents are responsible for the unethical behavior of their progenies rather than giving them the quality time their  devious actions are glossed over then problem creeps in.

4.     The children should be given quality time by the parents so that they are given not only the value system but also the traditional mores besides how best to adjust in the environment in which they are living.

5.     When the parents show helplessness then it is in the fitness of things to apprise the school counselors to set things right for their offspring.

7. The parents have to be Karma Yogis but without any expectations from their progenies then and only then they can refine the behaviour of their wards for attainments of their goals in life. This would be in line with Bhagwad Gitas wisdom: A Karma-yogi performs action by body, mind, intellect, and senses, without attachment (or ego).

6.     The parents and the teachers can streamline the behavior pattern of their students in a meaningful way by giving them appreciation and punishment when felt necessary.

7.     It has been observed that those children who are obstinate  and hard nut to crack, they could be made the real doers if their latent energies are channeled in right spirit by assigning/entrusting them the responsibilities and trusting them. If they fail to perform, it is OK, they had tried and failed, we can give them the second chance. If they have succeeded, it is the success of our trust reposed on them. In this Bhagwad Gita’s truth prevails: Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is.

BASANT PANCHAMI (WISH YOU ALL HAPPY BASANT PANCHMI) – ASSOCIATED WITH GODDESS SARASVATI (THE BESTOWER OF KNOWLEDGE & WISDOM FOR OUR SELF REALIZATION (JNANI)


GODDESS SARASWATI : BASANT PANCHMI CELEBRATIONS

BASANT PANCHAMI (WISH YOU ALL HAPPY BASANT PANCHMI) – ASSOCIATED WITH GODDESS SARASVATI (THE BESTOWER OF KNOWLEDGE & WISDOM FOR OUR SELF REALIZATION (JNANI)

BASANT PANCHAMI

Fairs and festivals are the real indicators
That a society is on the move together in their celebrations
Some festivals are seasonal in nature
Others are related to beliefs so prevalent
Since ages together
But one thing stands out in all
People participate in each of these festivals
With joy abandon whenever these festivals fall.
Basant Panchami has religio-seasonal connotations
After suffering the onslaught of chilling cold of winter season
With cold air
There has begun much awaited dawn of a season
So very pleasant
In all its signs
With Mother Nature at its best appearance
Wherein a carpet of yellow mustard plants is one of the best attractions
People put on their yellow attire, so gorgeous
And imbue themselves in natural yellow colour
Which is the sign of energy
To take on any activity.
There is a legend attached to this festival
Lord Brahma who is the Creator-in-Chief
Is one of the Trinities
The other being Lord Shiva & Lord Vishnu
Happened to see earthwards
He felt very sad on seeing without any leaves
Barren land bereft of any greenery
He scattered some water from His enchanting jar
To the huge surprise of us all
There appeared Goddess Sarswati
The giver of wisdom and scholarship
Music, art and craft and knowledge to imbibe
She too is termed as the Goddess of Basant Panchmi!
Lord Barahma too gifted greenery to the plants in abundance
Bringing in its wake brightness in natural spectacle
Which made a huge difference
and enthused everybody to be more active
Brimming with energy
So refreshing indeed.
Yellow flowers are offered to God
Even our food items exhibit yellow hue
With saffron strands giving yellow colour
Emitting sweet fragrance everywhere.
People worship the musical instruments
Art, craft and all the learning mediums
For these are the gifts of Goddess Saraswati
Processions in the honour of the Goddess are taken
To implore Her to bestow all humans Budhi – wisdom
And power(Shakti) to find the difference between truth and falsehood
Her four hands symbolize ego, intellect, alertness and the mind
Her white dress is the symbol of purity
And she loves truth in all forms
And manifestations
Her postures of sitting with a Sitar too has vast meaning.
Our humble prayers to Thee O Goddess Sarasvati
The embodiment of learning, craft, knowledge and wisdom
We implore Thee to remove illiteracy & ignorance from our midst
And bring forth the dawn of enlightenment
Remove ego as You are the giver of wisdom
And do imbue us all in THY INDELIBLE COLOURS.

ASSOCIATED WITH GODDESS SARASWATI – THE BESTOWER OF GYAN (KNOWLEDGE) AND WISDOM/SAGACITY (BUDHI)

First of all, it is essential to know the meaning of BASANT PANCHAMI: The word Basant has been taken from Sanskrit word VASANT’ which means Spring. Basant Panchami (5TH TITHI) is celebrated in the honour of Goddess Saraswati in different parts of India. She is the divinity of knowledge (music, arts, science including all the creativity etc). We worship the Her so that she bestows us necessary knowledge and removes the ignorance from our midst. Our responsibility is to utilize the knowledge gained for day to day activities. On this day, people also initiate the education of their small children in their homes and in schools besides it is considered auspicious to start new ventures businesses because the graces of Goddess Saraswati is there with the work started on this auspicious day.

In schools and colleges and in other formal and informal institutions, in the morning assemblies, prayers to Goddess Saraswati are made in order to get her graces and blessings for enlightenment and GYAN (knowledge) and removal of AGYAN (ignorance). Although whole of the day is considered auspicious for prayers yet most promising time is from sunrise to the midday (which is also termed as the Purvahna Kala) and it is considered as the propitious time to conduct Saraswati Pujan with great reverence and piety for seeking her bounties.

FESTIVAL ASSOCIATED WITH DIFFERENT ASPECTS

In some parts of India, farmers conduct earth worship (Boomi Pujan) for more agricultural output from their fields before tilling their fields. People eat sweet rice made yellow with saffron strands. People put on yellow clothes as yellow colour is associated with Basant Panchami. Yellow colour is associated with good traits such as gentleness, wisdom/sagacity, harmony, humour, cleverness. Practically, the yellow colour is prepared by mixing equal quantity of red and green. It too is associated with autumn leave such as tamarind flowers, corn, lemon, bananas and other health giving fruits. In addition it is also associated with light energy of the Sun which gives this festival all the more pleasant scene.


People in the yellow and other colourful attires perform Dandya Dance on this day in Gujarat State. This festival is also associated with harvesting, sowing and reaping the crops. All the implements used to plough the fields are washed and worshipped on this day. In other words, it is relevant to say that this day is considered most propitious for initiating our children to educational pursuits, tilling the fields for sowing the seeds, starting a new venture including getting know-how from any source with the bountiful graces of Goddess Saraswati the bestower of Knowledge (Gyan) and wisdom (Budhi) and thus a remover of ignorance.

ASSOCIATED WITH KAMADEVA AND RATI (God and Goddess of Love)

Season-wise, chilling cold season is on the wane, more pleasant and enjoyable season Sbasant Ritu starts. Traditionally in Basant Ritu, there is air of love and affection which is associated with kamadeva and his wife named Rati. When we associate this day with Kamadeva, it means there used to be dance based on love in the royal palaces in which the women folks of the royal leanings and other girls in their best attires used to dance in the midst of singing the most suitable for the occasion – basically on love between Krishna and Radha. People put on yellow attire on this occasion in consonance with the flowering of yellow tamarind crops. It seems as though the Mother Nature has spread a yellow coloured cloth with seasonal flowers. There is also fragrance of flowers all around.

Basant Panchami is also called as Shree Panchami and celebrated in Sufi shrines. This festival is also celebrated in different parts of India though slightly differently. People enjoy kite flying, – Punjab, Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, etc, Eastern India including Bengal wherein Saraswathi idol is immersed in Ganga.

PRAYER TO LORD SHIVA, LORD VISHNU AND SUN GOD

People of different regions worship Lord Shiva and Godess Parvati including Lord Vishnu and Lakshmi and offer flowers.
Offerings to Sun God is made for getting His for the wellbeing of self and the members of our family as we are aware that Sun is a huge source of energy without the energy of Sun God, we cannot survive on this Mother Earth. The Following Manatras are chanted to please Sun God among others:-

SUN GOD AS TAKEN FROM GANGA GHAT AT HARIDWAR


Om Adrkaaye Namaha (Meaning the one worthy of praise and glory).
Om Savitre Namaha (Meaning one who is giver of life).
Om Bhaavave Namaha (The one who illuminates)
Om Mitraaya Namaha (One who is friendly to all)
Om Ravaye Namaha (The one who is radiant one)
Om Suryaya Namaha (One who is dispeller of darkness and brings about activity)

It is not merely Hindus who celebrate BASANT PANCHAMI.

Saint Nizamuddin Aulia was famous for his generosity, compassion and simplicity coupled with humane heart. There used to be Langar at his dargah where food was served to all. When his nephew died, he felt so sad that he stopped all the activities. Amir Khusrau wanted to bring him to his normal state. While seeing the women putting on their yellow attire, with colourful flowers, he also put on yellow clothes and flowers and went in front of the Saint. Upon seeing Khuarau in that dress, the Saint smiled. Hence Basant Panchami too is celebrated in Dargah of Saint Nizamuddin Aulia from that time onwards.

The Sikhs celebrate Basant Panchami. Basant Raga or Spring Raga (composition) forms one of the well-known Ragas in Sri Granth Sahib Sahib Ji and sung with great reverence. The marriage of Guru Gobind Singh was solemnized on the auspicious occasion of Basant Panchami.

HAPPY 71ST REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS ON 26TH JANUARY 2020


HAPPY 71ST REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS ON 26TH JANUARY 2020

HAPPY 71ST REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS


First and foremost our fond wish is that all Indians should respect the Constitution and the contents contained, especially so, the rights, besides the duties of the citizenry have to be followed,/ obeyed threadbare by all without bias. In other words, the Constitution of a country is sacrosanct document, containing all the parameters of good governance and should command respect from all the citizens. This is more pronounced since there are some people who interpret the constitutional provisions as per their convenience.


The Preamble of the Constitution gives the guidelines and principles to be followed by all the citizens. It also tells us the source from which our constitution derives its authority besides the hopes and aspirations of the people are mentioned in it. Preamble could also be termed as the preface which contains the whole gamut of information contained in the constitution in its entreaty.
Historical perspective.


The duly constituted drafting committee with impeccable track record and integrity presented the first draft of Constitution of India on 4th November 1947 and subsequently signed the prepared Constitution of the union on 24th January 1950 by the National Assembly while it came into effect from 26th January 1950. This day was chosen because of its own importance – being the anniversary of Purna Swaraj Day (26th Jan 1930). This empowered the general masses to choose their own Government of their choice besides conferring the rights and duties and other important aspects of governance.


REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS


Whilst India got its independence
From the bondage – the most repressive one
On 15th August 1947
This sovereignty of ours is not got easily
Since for it, countless people made their supreme sacrifices
Besides some suffered in the dark recesses of prison cells.
Whence India got freedom
She was not having Constitution of its own
A drafting committee was constituted
Which gave its first draft report 4th November1947
Consisting men of impeccable integrity and track-record
The National Assembly put their indelible stamp
On the constitution so diligently prepared
On 24 January, 1950
Which came into force on 26 January 1950.
Merging with the spirit of the anniversary of Purna Swaraj Day
26th January 1930, is considered a historic day
We doubtlessly say
Representing the true spirit of independence
Conferring power to its people to elect own Government of choice
And many more rights were conferred on its citizenry
Along with their duties
Thus indirectly govern themselves!
Dr. Rajendra Prasad took oath
As the first President of free India/Bharat
Unfurled the National Flag at Irwin Stadium.
This year – 2020
We shall be celebrating our 71st Republic Day
In the spirit of 20-20 match
With full gusto and enthusiasm.
Military might of the land is showcased at Rajpath
Here our Para-military forces too show their contribution
Through their smartly dressed parade.
Gallantry awards are conferred on the bravest of braves
For their acts of bravery
For defending their mother-land
Some fortunate get the same by themselves
While others get these posthumous
For their Supreme Sacrifice
From the President of India
Their Supreme Commander.
The cultural diversity of different regions
Are showcased by different states
And Union territories
Too are the other attractions
A rainbow of diversity indeed!
The other States of the Union too are not left behind
This is the real beauty of our republic.

My wish-list for the next Republics is listed below:-

Respecting the spirit of the constitution

Every Indian should Respect Constitution without any reservation. Not understanding the spirit of constitution and interpret the various provisions given in the construction as per their sweet will, will not serve any purpose.


A Corruption Free Society


It is my fond hope that there should a dawn of corruption free society and those assigned the task of governance, in whatever capacity they are working should perform their job assigned/chosen with impeccable commitment and with sagacity while upholding the integrity of the country. There should also be zero tolerance to corruption and also corrupts get quick justice for their nefarious designs. No status or material possessions should come in the way of corruption free society. Here Lok Pal Bill/Lok Ayukta’s dictum should be the guiding dictate for dealing with corrupts who are eating into the vitals of our society.


Respect for Women


Unless until we give due respect to women as mother/sister/daughter/wife or friend, we cannot call ourselves as civilized society. It should be without consideration to nationality (I want my country respect women without consideration to any bias as we have seen in many instances. My wish is that my country respect all women without any discrimination whatsoever;

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Economic Growth / Strength


In the international arena, those societies which have got economic clout are held in high esteem and their say is always respected even in renowned world forums. This economic growth does not just come about without concerted efforts on the part of the Government and the general masses. I wish that the next Republic comes when the Government fulfills its vision and mission to upgrade our economy globally. Growth and development should be all inclusive one. All the sectors of economy i.e. industrial; agricultural; infra etc should grow side by side for an overall pump-priming effect on the people in general.


Human Resources Development


We are proud of our Republic since 65% of the people are below 35 years of age. This work force/human resource should be exploited to the hilt and should not be left to be frittered away by a few corrupt individuals. For this to happen, it is a must that this huge segment of our society gets opportunity for better training/skill and help lift the country from the present stature to the stature of high growth. This is possible with growth in Research & Development for better results in all sphere especially technological development and Information Technological Sector which could go north-ward wherein merit and talent are given more credence.


People’s Representatives and Governance


This is my fondest hope and aspiration that the members chosen by my countrymen fulfill their assigned tasks with aplomb without resort to populist rhetoric’s as has been resorted to recently – a few days back by the personages holding responsible chairs. This over jealous vigilante attitude is highly regrettable. People at high places should know the rules of governance and stick to the fructify policies on war footings rather than half hearted approach. The people’s representatives should, in other words, act responsibly besides performing their political dharma.


Defence of the Land is of Prime Importance


While we see the current preparedness in military; it is important that we remain updated in defence preparedness i.e. all the wings of armed forces; Army, Air Force & Navy should get equitable and technologically updated weaponry, hardware and software. We have to keep our borders and coastal area secure and for this to happen it is a important that India becomes self-sufficient in defence related equipment and do not remain dependent on others. For this our Research and Development (DRDO, ISRO & other important units) will have to chip in to help in this direction. For this self-reliance is a must in this sector.


Spiritual Onward March


Over and above the above cited subjects, I am sanguine that our development cannot be so incisive without our spiritual growth and development. Whatever course we adopt, of whatever religion we follow, we should try to seek Him for our liberation (Moksha) besides performing our daily day to day routines.


Peace and prosperity with on the basis of inclusive development


I wish to see my mother land to have all inclusive development without any bias whatsoever. Religion, caste, region or any other ulterior consideration should not come in the way of holistic development of the country. If any difference creeps up, the same should be sorted on the basis constitutional provisions and laws of land. It should also be kept in mind that violence does not solve any problem rather violence creates more violence in the long run which hinder development. I wish that all should live with peace and prosperity with the grace of Almighty God.

REMAINING YOUTHFUL EVEN AT ANY STATE/STAGE IN LIFE


REMAINING YOUTHFUL EVEN AT ANY STATE/STAGE IN LIFE

Keeping stride along with synergy
In any stage of our life
With code ‘never say die’
Will fetch us rich dividends
Not only in terms of productivity
But in turn reward of sound health in a sound body
Consciously aware about everything that happens around
With output aplenty with abundance of activities
Which will make us independent financially
And not be burden on somebody else
Since we can look after our own needs even at any stage in life
With youthful dynamism
Bereft of any weariness
With spirits and emotions soaring high
Earning for self good appearance as a bonus
Enhancing zest for living more with passing time
Thus remain in comfort zone ever
With a balanced mindset
Thus carve a niche for self
Without age-related worries
Of being tagged as worthless
Even at any stage of life.
Whilst the disheartened lots
Even with lesser age though
Just wilt under the weight of years of age!
Live their lives of worries for tomorrow
So unpredictable without a doubt
When they cannot do anything tangible
With disappointment writ large
They just live the days left
And wait for their end
Just die without leaving even a trace of their existence
Which others could reminisce.
Fully conscious that while we are spirited
Overflowing with zeal and enthusiasm
We grow and remain green
With the fond awareness
That all the stages of our existence
Have special significance
And with age
We should make our life
Worth living, richer and more purposeful
Thus generating positivity
Which make our lives happy and worth living
But without losing our connect
With Almighty God.

REMAINING AGILE EVEN AT OLD-AGE

It has been observed that there are some people who feel energetic while handling their responsibilities even at old age. For such persons with age they mature to handle any job assigned. Their courage and determination remain intact/undiminished even at old-age while there are the ones who feel very low, disheartened /dispirited and are disinterested in any activity in life. Such people do not show courage to take on new responsibilities or are in the habit of procrastinating thereby losing even their self-esteem at the lower biological age. The reason for wearing down feeling may be hereditary or due to unsound health partly due to circumstance and partly due to their own negative mindset. Factually, those who remain active in any stage of their lives are the people who remain happy in any situation and condition.

MEANING OF YOUTHFULNESS

In essence, it is relevant to understand what is youthfulness meaning having characteristics of vitality, vigor which is fountainhead of strength and courage, possessing greenness in thought and action, remaining fresh even after strenuous work schedule etc. Basically, such an individual have vitality or vigor for work at any given time hand without slackening in the effort. They are the people with positive mindset have vitality for performing any task at hand at any stage of life.

AGEING IS A NATURAL PROCESS


There is no disputing the fact that the one who is born here on this earth ages, passes from early childhood, adolescence, youth, middle-age and oldage. Those who follow proper norms of living; take proper diet, take regular exercise to keep healthy and fit, are positively oriented and balanced even at the height of provocation remain in good health and live with the dictum ‘sound mind dwells in sound body’.

ADOPTING ACTIVE ORIENTATION IN LIFE

From my personal experience of remaining active and agile at 69+, I can say with certainty that those who remain busy/active in one pursuit or other make them active physically and mentally are the happiest people. It is because they utilize their physical and mental faculties thereby do not get bore or bogged down by any challenge because of lethargic/sedentary and unproductive lifestyle.

EFFECTS OF REMAINING INACTIVE

 It is important to note that while we are inactive, we are unproductive meaning we remain dependent on others for meeting our needs and when our needs are not met, we feel disheartened and the consequences of this inactivity adversely affects our health and well-being.

RELATION OF BRAIN AND BODY


I have the experience of persons who feel very young even at an advanced stage of their lives. It is because their brain is ageing comparatively slowly. It is not galloping fast as it happens in many cases. Those who live a sedentary lifestyle feel very tired even after performing small amount of job. Not only their body but their mind too becomes indecisive/inactive thereby person concerned resorts to procrastination.

WHEN AN OLD PERSON REMAINS BUSY IT IS NEW NORM


When a youth performs his/her job energetically without getting tired physically or mentally, it is taken as norm but when an old man remains unwavering even after performing his/her responsibility it comes under the category of new norm. When a person feels tired even at a younger biological age, such a person feels disoriented in his thoughts, feels tired at the slightest pretext then such a person feels so because his brain ages faster than his actual age therefore this characteristic of both body and mind.

CONNECTION BETWEEN HEALTH AND MENTAL STATE


In essence, health and mental state have correlation, healthier the body, sound is the mental health. When mental health is appropriate, then, all the vital organs of the body work in tandem. The empirical truth proves that as we old, our body and with it our mind undergoes change too. But how much the change takes place is individualistic in nature. Some experience severe negative change whereas others who are positively oriented their brain age slowly.

MAKKAR SANKRANTI (ON 14TH – 15TH JANUARY 2020) MAKKAR SANKRANTI


MAKKAR SANKRANTI (ON 14TH – 15TH JANUARY 2020)
MAKKAR SANKRANTI

Lohri too is linked with Makar Sakranti
Which too is another winter festival very famous
Celebrated one day after Lohri celebrations
A day so fixed
14th- 15th January – indeed very sacred
It marks the beginning of solar maagha masa
Makar Sankranti is start of harvest festival
And beginning of pleasant Spring Season
Celebrated in all parts of country.
It has its origin to the movement of the earth
Sun movement begins from (Sankranti) one zodiac sign
Into another – Capricorn zodiac (Makar) sign
Two movements are termed as Makar Sakranti.
This day marks the beginning of warmer days
As the sacred months start from this day onwards
Makar Sankranti is celebrated with great fervor
In western and northern India
There is a mention of this day in Mahabharata
As, it is the festival of Sun God
Who gives us light and heat
To living beings without bias
And bestows us divinity and wisdom,
Thus holding an eternal meaning.
Then there is festival called Pongal
Which is dedicated to Sun God
A huge source of energy indeed
Which is life giving
To living beings.


SUN GOD


Makkar Sankranti is celebrated in the month of Paus (January) Makar Sankranti is the day when the Sun God enters the Northern Hemisphere. Hindus like Greeks worship Sun God – the reservoir of huge energy. Sun God is termed as the manifest God, having all the glorious divinity. It is worthwhile to mention here that mantra OM ADITYA AYE NAMON and many other mantras are recited in order to get the blessings of the Sun God and also a thanksgiving for providing us energy without which our existence on this earth will not be there at all.


The devout also chant Gyatri Mantra, taken from Rig Veda while making final offering to God. which is from Rig-Veda, as Makkar Sankranti is associated with cosmic event which affects the life of humans immensely.


Om Bhur Bhuvaḥ Swaḥ
Tat-savitur Vareñyaṃ
Bhargo Devasya Dhīmahi
Dhiyo Yonaḥ Prachodayāt.


Which means: We meditate and adore thee the Supreme Lord, the Creator of everything, who’s Divine Light illuminates all spheres of activity (physical, mental and spiritual). We pray that this Divine Light may light-up our intellect forever.


This festival is celebrated with gaiety and enthusiasm in all parts of India with different names at different places but the optimum enthusiasm remains the same. Devout get up early in the morning, take bath in holy rivers first take the blessings of their elders and then take the blessings of family deity subsequently offer prayers in the temples. After having offered prayers, people give alms to the needy according to their capacity. In the afternoon people share a special Khichri (Hotchpotch – a mix of dall-urdh and dal).


PONGAL FESTIVAL


IMAGE OF PONGAL


The Pongal festival is celebrated in South India (Especially in Tamil Nadu, Puducherry and even in foreign lands such as Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Singapore etc.). This festival is celebrated continuously for four days (14th to 17th January).


This is also a harvest festival dedicated to the SUN GOD. The Sun is a huge source of energy which helps in growing the crops from sowing to the harvesting. It also includes boiling of the rice of season sanctified to the Sun which is termed as Surya Mangalyam. Not only this, the natural energy in the form of solar energy is being utilized enormously presently.

SANKAT CHAUTH – A STRICT FAST BY WOMEN FOLKS FOR THE WELLNESS OF THEIR OFFSPRING – TODAY


SANKAT CHAUTH


The woman folks are the epitome of tolerance
With  reservoir of patience  
Face all the odds
With utmost courage and inner strength they possess
Which her offspring are subjected for their wellness
In their lives.
She observes strictest of fasts
Like Sankat Chauth
Wherein she does not take anything morsel of solid food
Not even water
But her determination
To face any hurdle
Wins in the long run
Finally her prayers
To Lord Ganesha
The embodiment of benevolence
And pain deliverance
Along with Goddess Sakat
Comes to the succor
And graces the offspring
With bountiful blessings
Of prosperity and happiness.

LORD GANESHA

Sankat means Problem and Chauth tithi.Various names: it is also called as Til-Kuta Chauth, Vakratundi Chaurthi and Maghi Chautharathi.

Observance of this Holy Day. Sankat Chauth is observed on Krishna Paksha Chauturthi during the month of Magh month of Hindu Calendar, prominently in Northern India.

Method of observance and Purpose. Women folks strict fast from early morning to the sighting of moon for the safety, security, prosperity and for their joyful existence to fulfill the purpose of our existence on this beautiful Earth with all the graces of Nature. They do not take even water during the observance of fast. This indicates how much a mother could love their offspring and it is the duty of the offspring too should show their sense of responsibility to look after them in oldage while they need the support of their grown up children. 

Sankat Chauth is dedicated to: This fast is dedicated to:-

Maa Sakat (the temple of which is located at Village Sakat in Alwat (Rajasthan). Maa Sakat is the most benevolent and graces longevity, prosperity and happiness in the lives of those who worship her and observe this day strictly.

Lord Ganesha or Began Harta and Began Karta among other names. It may be starting any meditation or starting a business, Lord Ganesha is  offered obeisance for seeking his blessings and He is so compassionate that He graces the true devout with all the bounties that is why along with Maa Sakat Lord Ganesha too is worshipped on this auspicious day.

Legend behind observance of this day.

There is a legend when both Lord Ganesha and Kartikeya (Both the sons of Shivas and Goddess Parvati) were doing their best to provide safety to Devatas against the ferocious demons. Both wanted to showcase their love, respect for their revered parents.  Lord Shiva wanted to test their intensity of respect for them. The challenge was thrown to Ganesha and Kartikeya; they were asked to perform one revolution around the Earth and whosoever performs the revolution around the earth would be considered as the winner. They were allowed to use their respective mode of transportation: Lord Ganesha his mouse (Chuha) and Lord Kartikeya mor (Peacock).

The race started. All the Gods and Demi-Gods witnessed the race with highest excitement because the winner was to be construed as having more reverence for their parents and also the saver.

While Lord Karrikeya on the back of peacock was fast enough and was away from the sight instantly whereas the mouse was very slow and covered very less distance.

Suddenly Lord Ganesha veered his vahan around and started taking a round around Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati while they were watching the race. He completed the revolution in a very short span of time and paid his respects to both Lord Shiva and Maa Parvati.

It took quite a bit of time for Lord Kartikeya to have a complete revolution around the earth.

After this, the winner was to be declared. Lord Ganesha had taken one revolution around his parents while Lord Kartikeya took revolution around the entire earth.

Lord Shiva asked the reason for his decision to take one revolution around them. Lord Ganesha being the mast of intellect and reasoning mentioned that he considered that all the universe lies in LORD SHIVA AND Goddess Parvati therefore, according to him, taking one revolution around them is sufficient and more than equivalent to the revolution of Earth. All agreed on this and Lord Ganesha was declared as the winner.

This proves that whosoever worships with sincerity will be blessed by Lord Ganesha and other Devatas, therefore, on this day too LORD GANESHA is worshipped with immense reverence for getting his bounties and graces.

MAY LORD GANESHA AND MAA SAKAT’S GRACES REMAIN ON ALL OF US FOR PEACE, PROSPERITYAND HAPPINESS.

HEARTIEST FELICITATIONS ON THE OCCASION OF THE LOHRI – ON 13TH JANUARY 2020 MAY THESE FESTIVALS BRING PEACE, PROSPERITY & HARMONY AMONGST ALL


DEVOUT WALKING AROUND THE FIRE

HEARTIEST FELICITATIONS ON THE OCCASION OF
THE LOHRI – ON 13TH JANUARY 2020
MAY THESE FESTIVALS BRING PEACE, PROSPERITY & HARMONY AMONGST ALL LOHRI

Every festival is linked with some seasons
Or certain well known occasions.
Lohri a winter festivals of repute
Falls in the month of ( 13th Jan) Paush
Marks the end of winter season
And beginning of longer – a little hotter days ahead soon
For farmers, it is one of the happiest occasions
They start harvesting rabi crops
Start of spring season is a Natural bounty
Adds additional spice to festivities.
(Rabi Crop: Wheat, Gram, Pea, Mustard, Linseed, Barley, Peas)
Traditionally, on lohri day a bonfire is lit
People congregate around it
And reverently offer, Jaggery (gur), sesame seeds (til)
Sesame coated sugar candy and popcorn into leaping bonfire
The skyward leaping fire
Which purifies the atmosphere
It also shows that it (fire) too is enjoying all acts of hers
Gathering partake the sacred offering themselves too as (parsad) offering
Satiety writ large in everybody’s faces.
Offerings too is made to ‘panj tatavas’ five elements of nature
Fire, wind, water, ether and earth
Going around the bonfire with great reverence
And singing traditional songs with dance makes huge difference.
And that too in tune with beating of drums!
Tradition has it that there was a very brave person of repute
Named Dulla Bhatti from lineage of warrior race of the Rajputs
In the reign of Mughal king Akbar
He used to rescue poor girls from the clutches of robbers
And got them married to suitable boys of choice
People sing Lohri songs with gust in his praise.
Thence other legend of the origin of Lohri
From the wife of Saint Kabir named ‘Loi’
Herself a lady so pious.

The essence of India lies in multicultural, multilingual, multicultural and multi-religious diverse society. We can pride ourselves in having different festivals too. These festivals are based on seasonal, conventional, cultural, religion based or for that matter any other sacred considerations based on local customs and traditions. Here every caste, religion and regions have contributed its mite for enriching the cultural traditions. One thing, for sure is common, the fervor, warmth, zeal and enthusiasm remains intrinsic as the case may be.


We Indians enjoy all the religious festivals – be it Eid or Prakash Divas/Gurpurab or as a Muslim enjoy Diwali or all of them enjoy Christmas Day together. That is the beauty of India. I do not dispute that hotheads are there in any stratum of society- those who do not know the importance of religious festivals or of others within the society. One thing which pleases us is the perceptible shine on the faces of every one of us while celebrating any festival! That is the beauty of it all remains intact despite some differences notwithstanding.


LOHRI FESTIVAL


Lohri festival is celebrated in Northern Indian states. It is celebrated on 13th January – in the month of Pauch or Magha, one day before Makkar Sankranti. We term this festival as a community based festival where Bhangra (dance by men folks) and Gidha (dance by women folks) to the beats of drums which bring vitality and jollity to the celebrations. Youngsters, among others, take pleasure in kite flying and enjoy the occasion to their fullest.


On this festival, seasonal dry fruits like peanuts, grounded coconut are mixed with jaggery (Gur) and sesame seeds (til) to make the eatables. Besides, milk cakes are specially made and distributed amongst relatives and friends. These eatables have nutritional value and are very suitable for in winter season.


Following are some of the reasons for the celebration of Lohri festival:-


SEASON RELATED


It marks the end of winter season and beginning of sowing of some crops and harvesting the others. It infuses vitality and special enthusiasm in the lives of people – especially the farmers. The Lohri festival symbolizes prayer to the fire (Agni Puja) in the evening. The devout take parikarma (rounds) around the bonfire and shower offerings to fire. Fire ritual or Agnihotra (Specially lit fire – Havan) is the process of purifying the environment and people also consign to fire a mix of rice, peanuts, walnuts, almonds besides sesame seeds (til) and jaggery before distributing amongst the devotees and taking the same themselves.


FIRE RITUAL


It is believed that the fire ritual has a special significance and possesses healing power besides it helps in well-being of all along with its benefits in farming too. Special bounties are asked on this day for the well-being and prosperity of all besides peace in the entire households. Newly wedded couples and newly born babies receive special attention on this festival. People give alms to the needy on this holy festival.


Different Legends behind the Lohri festival:-


LEGENDS


The legend of Dulla Bhatti (Rai Abdullah Khan) is very popular. It is a legend of a Rajput warrior who saved a damsel in distress belonging to the Hindu religion from the clutches of lustful and greedy officials. The brave Rajput adopted her as his own daughter without let or hindrance and married her off to a young and suitable Hindu boy. He also gave her presents – nine mounds of sugar along with other gifts etc on her marriage. This shows that there was a community feeling during those days.


It is important to note that if during those compassionate feelings prevailed for each other then why not now! To appreciate this noble gesture, the people sing the following song describing the event and also mentioning about the beauty of the girl who was saved by the brave Muslim warrior.


We used to go to the houses in our neighbourhood and sing the following song and get sweets made for this particular day. This song is sung by the youngsters even now on this occasion. What a amazing feelings we had while singing the song.


Sunder mundriye ho!
Tera kaun vicaharaa ho!
Dullah bhatti walla ho!
Dullhe di dhee vyayae ho!
Ser shakkar payee ho!
Kudi da laal pathaka ho!
Kudi da saalu paatta ho!
Salu kaun samete!
Chache choori kutti! zamidara lutti!
Zamindaar sudhaye!
bade bhole aaye!
Ek bhola reh gaya!
Sipahee far ke lai gaya!
……………………


There is also a legend of Sant Kabir and his wife names Loi. He used to love his wife immensely. So much so intense was his passion for his wife that one day, he reached his home in the middle of dark night, travelling from a far off place. The door was closed from inside. His wife was sleeping on the first floor. Finding that there was no ladder, he took the help of a rope hanging from the first floor of his house. When his wife saw him, she was very surprised and asked him as to how he had entered the first storey. There upon, she along with Kabir they observed that in fact he had reached first storey with the help of hanging python!


His wife got upset and in desperation remonstrated: The passion which he was having for her, if he had the same fervor for the God, he could excelled in anything including finding the God!
Subsequently, we know the life of Sant Kabir who was a mystical poet whose writings had a deep effect on Bhakti Movement and his verses find place in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji too.


It is relevant to mention about Sant Kabir Ji. He was brought up in a Muslim family but was deeply influenced by his teacher Ramananda but he criticized both in his verses because of his close proximity with both and knew ins and outs of these religions. In his writings, he has emphatically mentioned that the God is only with those who follow righteousness and also one who follows a detached mode of life. His followers are known as Kabir Panthis.
It was due to the timely advise of his wife named Loi that Kabir had a huge transformation in his life and became a well known Sant who influenced millions with his writings. Lodi or Lohri or Loi is also celebrated in his and his wife’s honour who was instrumental in molding him immensely and in turn he influenced innumerable people. His thoughts and philosophy of life are relevant even today.

LIVING RELIGIOUSLY


BEING RELIGIOUS

It pays huge dividends
Whilst we become religious
A life lived spiritually
With pious actions
Based on pious thoughts
With no linkages
Of legal bindings
But having touch with ethics
And moral standpoints
As religious codes emerge
From our consciousness
And anything and everything
Coming out of the envelop of our awareness
Through which we come to know
About our potentials
With weak areas too
Then removing the weakness
With our self-effort so genuinely
Thus realizing the reality
Of our earthy existence
Living religiously
Is most beneficial for us all
Since we use our will power
To seek God
For His connectivity
So as to be detached entirely
Bereft of any worries
Since, then our Omniscient One
Would take care of these.
Those who live irreligious
Live a robotic or mechanical existence
With all the bumps and roadblocks
In the journey of life
Which our life brings about
Such people see
But do not see reason
In anything which happens
They hear
But do not hear good things
Which they hear around
They feel
When it befall on them
But are oblivious of the feelings of others
They have sound touch
But has no touch of morality
They smell
But smell rat on all occasions
Meaning all the thoughts and actions are done
In complete unawareness
Where left hand
Does not know
What the right hand does!
With no control over senses
Where mind dictates terms at every step
Where problems would be plentiful
These dawn on such individuals
Without any warning even.
Thus an existence
Without religiosity
Without morality
Without ethics truly
Would be a life lived purposelessly.

TRAITS OF A BETTER PERSON


TRAITS OF A BETTER PERSON

A PERSON WITH GOOD TRAITS
A simple existence
Despite graced with every bounties by God
But brimming with humbleness
With absence of arrogance
Bereft of any type of violence
Trying with utmost diligence
For removing ignorance
And enlightenment from the knowledge gained
To unravel the Truth so hidden
Showing detachment towards the objects of senses
While finding eternal bliss in silence
With connectivity with the Divine
Overflowing with cleanliness
Of body and mind as an essence
While living a life of Karma Yogi
With traits of forgiving
And forgetting abounding
For the injustices done
Remaining even-minded
Even after highest provocation
With an inclination
Towards following a spiritual existence
With limitless
Devotion to God Almighty
While following a life of compassion
For the disadvantaged ones
Such a person gets consolation
While his companions
Are living with immense harmony
For a peace and prosperity with a lot of satiety

To be a better person, one has to understand who is a better person. I opine, a better person is the one who is having the following traits:-

WISDOM TO FIND DIFFERENCE

Such a person attains knowledge through self-efforts with utmost sincerity. After attaining know-how, he/she uses it with level-headedness with an intention that it is not knowledge attained which counts much but how best to use the same counts – wisdom to find difference.

Wisdom contained in Bhagvad Gita it has been rightly said: Whatever happened in the past, it happened for the good; whatever is happening, is happening for the good; whatever shall happen in the future, shall happen for the good only. Do not weep for the past; do not worry for the future, concentrate on your present life.

TRUSTWORHY IN THE BEHAVIOUR

Such a person is trusted by all those who come in contact with him/her as the person concerned knows that trust is earned over a period of time but could be lost in seconds. Dealing with a trustworthy person brings about good atmospheric and wholesome feeling.

It has been rightly said in Bhagwad Gita: Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways.

HUMBLE/HUMILITY AS THE TRAIT IN LIFE

Despite having everything that a person aspires for in life, such a person never shows off and is humble to the core. A person is truthful, egoless, non-violent besides such a person is not attached to the fruits of action etc.

In Bhagwad Gita it has been rightly said:  Humbleness; freedom from hypocrisy; non-violence; forgiveness; simplicity; service of the Guru; cleanliness of body and mind; steadfastness; and self-control; dispassion toward the objects of the senses; absence of egotism; keeping in mind the evils of birth, disease, old age, and death; non-attachment; absence of clinging to spouse, children, home, and so on; even-mindedness amidst desired and undesired events in life; constant and exclusive devotion toward Me; an inclination for solitary places and an aversion for mundane society; constancy in spiritual knowledge; and philosophical pursuit of the Absolute Truth—all these I declare to be knowledge, and what is contrary to it, I call ignorance.

GENUINENESS IN THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS

A better person’s bona fides are unwavering and cannot change his/her perspective in any circumstances or in any situation or event.  Such a person is courageous and need no fear at all in any event.

NON-ARGUMENTIVE

A person with good traits discusses his/her points of views coolly giving points of difference without being argumentive since nobody has ever won an argument. Argument leads us to nowhere because it leads to difference of opinions rather than cohesiveness and a feeling of unity in diversity.

HUMOUR A PART OF LIFE

A better person is not always serious but adopts humour as and when required as a diversion in order to assuage the stressed emotions. We should learn more from small children who laugh more than the adults. If we make humour a part of our life, we can work in any situation without any stress.

A PRINCIPLED STAND IN ANY MATTER BUT COULD BE FLEXIBLE

A person with good traits takes a principled stand on a contentious point but when other party gives more reasonable points he/she changes his/her standpoint but does not remain stuck on his viewpoint(s).

SELF-CONTROL IN ALL SITUATIONS

A better person never loses his/her calm in any situations and conditions; in other words, nothing can shatter his/her equanimity.

In Bhagwad Gita it has been said: What is night for all beings is the time of awakening for the self-controlled; and the time of awakening for all beings is night for the introspective sage.

BE APOLOGIC AND SORRY IF AND WHEN PROVED WRONG

When such a person is proved wrong in any situation, then, sure enough, such a person does not feel any compunction in saying sorry for the lapse or feel apologetic. Such a person does not think even a second in apologizing as and when required.

SPIRITUAL ORIENTATION

A person with good traits follows spiritual orientation in life. Whatever he/she does or does not do, is spiritually directed. Such a person conducts himself/herself ethically and morally. It may be his/her duty, general behavior pattern or prayer etc. he/she adopts righteous attitude and behavior.

COURAGE TO ACCEPT MISTAKE COMMITTED

If and when such a person commits any mistake, he/she shows courage to accept the mistake committed and does not stand on ceremony for this. The hallmark of Sikhism is sense of sacrifice, courage, empathy or compassion besides sharing food in Langar with pious feeling.

In Bible it has been rightly said: Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

OPTIMISTICAL IN ANY SITUATION AND CONDITION

A better person remains positive or optimistic and never loses his moorings in good or not so good times. Such a person sees light at the end of the tunnel without even a thought of darkness in between.

NOT BEING JUDGMETAL AND NOT FOLLOWING NEGATIVE ORIENTED LIFE

He/she conducts himself/herself well within principled stand and is never judgmental in any situation.

Bhagwad Gita has rightly said: Anger leads to clouding of judgment, which results in bewilderment of the memory. When the memory is bewildered, the intellect gets destroyed; and when the intellect is destroyed, one is ruined.

OPEN-MINDEDNESS

Such a person is never hideous and conducts himself/herself with open mind because he/she has nothing to fear for his/her conduct  since it is like an open book.

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth – Bible.

DYNAMIC ENERGY

As such a person feels lively even after putting in long hours of work, he/she could handle any sustained work in emergencies for the fructification of his/her mission accomplishment.

SELF REALISED/SELF AWARENESS

A better person knows his/her potentials and weaknesses. He/she goes all out in decreasing the gap of his/her weaknesses. This comes with self-realization – which gives us the lesson as to how to live with self-awareness and self-realized mentality.

PURPOSEFULNESS

A better realized person knows the exact purpose of our existence here on this earth – live with spiritually orientation existence.

Our real, spiritual nature is to seek enjoyment – a joyous feeling. That’s what everybody does. The Vedas talk about the purpose of life in great detail: Krishna is the cause of all causes, the Supreme Enjoyer, and He expands Himself unlimitedly to make unlimited enjoyable relationships possible. That’s what He does.

INQUIRY/CURIOSITY

A better person is curious to know new things to attain knowledge and remove ignorance. He/she inquiries lead him/her into new horizons of knowledge in order to remove our ignorance.

Then shalt thou inquire, and make search, and ask diligently; and, behold, truth, the thing certain, [that] such abomination is wrought among you – Bible.

FAIRNESS IN WORDS AND DEEDS

A person with good traits always exercises care and caution while interacting or performing his/her duties towards others lest any indecision causes pain to others.

PERSPECTIVE ENHANCEMENT

A better person exerts to better his/her knowledge through personal efforts and also adding to what he/she has already attained thus removing the remnant of ignorance dormant.

SOCIAL AMENABILITY

A better person possesses magnetism which attracts others. With this, he/she exerts positive influence on the people with whom he/she interacts.

COMMUNICATION SKILLS

A person is better in his perspective when he/she communicates with others in the language others understand which has got positive influence on their wellness.

CREATIVE/IMAGINATIVE TO THE CORE

Such a person, knows what he/she imagines intensely he/she becomes hence such a person uses his imaginative power and creates the works of art and craft which may add lusture to his/her life besides help others too.

STRONG CHARACTER

Such a person has strong character or moral fibre which cannot be swayed by any inducements whatsoever. In Holy Quran it has been said: Nothing is placed on the Scale that is heavier than good character. Indeed the person with good character will have attained the rank of the person of fasting and prayer.

HONESTY/SINCERITY

Such a person remain sincere in his disposition and pursue the truthful way in any venture he/she   puts his/her hand on.

NEVER PUTS OFF THINGS

 The better person performs without putting off things to be done for tomorrow which never comes in real life.

EGOLESS

 A person who never the attitude of ‘I’ or ‘me’ for any job to have been performed. In other words he/she is team person.

Go-getter and a team person. Such a person never takes credit but opines that everything is performed by the team.

APPRECIATES OTHERS

 Such a person appreciates other’s job well-done and if some lacuna is found he/she takes corrective action without showcasing his/her ability to deliver.

PAYS ATTENTION TO DETAILS

 A person who never leaves anything half done but when he/she takes any responsibility performs that with high sense of duty fructification.

COMPASSIONATE TO THE CORE

 Such a person is compassionate, kind-hearted, sympathetic towards others.

FEELS FOR OTHERS’ PAIN

 Such a person is emotional – in a sense that he/she cannot leave others in lurch but tries to alleviate the pain of others.

Patient and tolerant. Such a person is patient and tolerant towards others.

STAYS COOL AT ALL EVENTS

 He/she never loses his/her cool while meeting emergencies or when an adverse situation dawns without much notice.

LEARNER

 Such a person never says that he/she has learnt everything but tries to enhance his/her know-how from all the sources.

STAYS GROUNDED

 Such a person does not compare his/her worldly possessions with others but tries to confine his needs to the barest minimum.

REMAINS BALANCED

 Such a person never loses his composure in the face of any problems – highs or lows do not produce any ripple in his/her demeanour.

SPIRITUAL TO THE CORE

 Such a person remains connected with God and does everything with His partnership knowing fully well that working thus would be better to be a better person in life.

CALLS SPADE A SPADE

 Such a person does not tell lies to prove himself/herself but is upright but here such a person does not brag about this trait.

Cool customer. Such a person is easily accessible.

INCORRUPTIBLE

 Such a person cannot be lured by anybody or anything.

Belief in God and himself/herself. Does not follow negative lifestyle – has no greed, lust for worldly possessions, works his/her way up in life.

 Conclusively, it could be said that a person who is humble to the core, follow a simple life besides exercising self-control with an egoless living while enjoying the bounties of our Creator is a person with better traits.

PAIN & PLEASURE


PAIN AND PLEASURE

PAIN & PLEASURE

Thanks for the image


Pain is both physiological and psychological
Each pain gives us living experiences
But awareness of root cause
Effecting our conscious self is very essential
For removing the pain
It is necessary to inquire and analyze
To determine the reason of pain so prevalent.
Physical pain could be cured with medi-care
Besides actions, both corrective and preventive.
Emotional disorder is related to mind
Is taken care of both with medical care
While internal conflicts and disorientation are eliminated
With stress management techniques
Under the care of a competent psychologist
Including removing the ignorance
Through enlightening effect of knowledge
From our system
By following a spiritual oriented existence
For engendering soothing effects
Thus corrective and preventive actions
Along with firm belief on the Omniscient and Omnipotent One
Can make us detached and a balanced persona
With full connectivity with our Creator
Who takes care of our pain in our system
In balanced mindset
We remain unaffected by pain and pleasure
With a full realization that both pain and pleasure
Play important role in our lives: PROVING NO PAIN NO GAIN.