OUR CRITICISM OF OTHERS
When I am criticized
I take it with a pinch of salt
Take it seriously
What lacks in me
For such a disapproval
For an improvement
Wherever it is required
So that my views get accepted
Even by a vocal critics
So that it carries more weight
As far as the productivity
In any venture
The hand is put on.
So criticize me
But do not ignore me
As ignoring me
Means a slow death for me.
The other day while I was busy on my computer, I got a practical experience on why people criticize others. A lady entered my room and started criticizing and lambasting me left and right. So much so she was incensed with her reaction that she started weeping loudly as though I had wronged her immensely. All this happened so suddenly that I could not react initially. When I regained my composure, I ventured to entreat her about the real reason of her outbursts on me which I considered out of place and unreasonable. First of all she was non-committal but when repeatedly requested. She told me that I had criticized her untoward demeanour in front of the organizational head. I informed that I had given my perspective of the case in point as I observed since I was told to do so. If telling the truth is bad enough then I had done that mistake! I knew that she was mistaken about her role in the episode and knew fully well that she was at fault, All the pointers and evidences in that direction even then she wanted to feign her innocence. It shows that there are people who are irrationally/without rhyme or reason come under the butt of criticism unnecessarily.
Interestingly, I have observed only those people are criticized who have something to offer to othero. It is may in the form of sound advice, modicum of assistance in any form suiting them, a person who commands respect from others but people want to pull that person down because of their competence, performance and make them lose their respect in front of fellow employees etc. Everybody wants to lower those who have raised themselves due to their hard work, persistence, perseverance, tolerance, forgetting and forgiving attitude and all the positive traits put together.
I have observed that those who are criticized just on every matter under the sun is unhealthy and should never be resorted to rather healthy criticism spurs us to action thereby enhancing our knowledge. Here criticism keeps us on toe and we tend to complete our task at our hand for logical conclusion. Therefore, healthy criticism is good for us since we can enhance our awareness; our weakness and potentials and use the same for getting something done for fructification of a project.
Besides the above the following could also be there for leveling of criticism against others.
We are criticized simply because we excel in our skill and efficiency and there are individuals who cannot tolerate or accept somebody else to be compatible, therefore, criticism.
LOWERING OTHERS’ MODESTY
At times, when others exceed us in their efficacies in the performance of the tasks in hand, we must have seen many who would like to pull us down with or without any reason. Their intention is just to lower the modesty of others come what may.
NOT ETHICALLY OR MORALLY CORRECT
In criticizing others, some of us do not have ethical or moral standpoint. Such people can go to any limits in lowering others.
WHEN YOU OUT-SHOW YOUR SKILLS AND ABILITIES
There are occasions when we want to showcase our efficiency, proficiency and intelligence and stand in the ways of others in any way suiting them. Their purpose is not to outshine in performance but to outshine in criticism to the persons concerned in whatever ways it is possible for them.
FEELING OF INSECURITY
At times, when our competitor excels in his efficiency in performance or is in good books of the organizational head, we would like to explore ways and means so that such a person is lowered in his esteem. This insecurity could impact our own wellbeing too sometimes.
DEFENDING OTHERS CRITICISING YOU
Whenever we are arranged against somebody who is our strongest competitor and critic then we tend to defend ourselves with the strongest of our defence. This defence could be in any form whatsoever.
COUNTER ATTACK MANIA
When we are criticized occasionally by somebody we devise a sort of counter attack mania just a defence mechanism.
GETTING FAVOUR FROM THE HEAD OF ORGANISATION
There are the staff members who want to remain in good books of the head of organization along with those who count in the department concerned. For getting this in their favour such people could go to any limit BY lambasting others, devaluate others, present a critique clichés, work out plans and counter-plans to lower others in the eyes of others with or without any substance.
CRITICIZING OTHERS WAY OF SPEAKING
Sometimes our pronunciation or slang in the language pronounced becomes the butt of our criticism of others putting us in the corner.
DIFFEREENCE IN APPROACH, VALUE SYSTEMS AND METHODS OF PERFORMANCE
There are people whose method of doing anything is different than others, it may be simpler, more complex, just outlandish or any other approach for performance of the same task. This becomes a cause of criticism. Then there are our value systems which do not allow us to adopt some shortcuts or a line of action which are not within the ambit of their value systems we are brought up. This way too, we come under criticism.
Those who criticize others without rhyme or reason just to showcase their so called superiority are actually with escapist mentality. Criticism for criticism sake is alright but criticism on anything and everything which is not a healthy sign in any discourse.