May 2020 – INNER THOUGHTS

ANNIVERSARY WITH WORDPRESS

A WORD OF THANKS

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WITH WARM REGARDS

HARBANS KHAJURIA

Implications of remaining-at-home in lockdown situation

Implications of remaining-at-home in lockdown situation

Presently, all of us are experiencing hard times in the environment of Novel Coronavirus Pandemic. It may be remaining confined to our homes (home quarantine) or observing Lockdown or observance of social distance while going outside our homes to meet our requirements; we are in constant fear of infecting ourselves. This lockdown or self-imposed isolation is due to fear of contracting Coronavirus infection which has not got any vaccine to cure. The only option left is to remain confined at home in lockdown condition.

Remaining at home has positive and negative implications which are mentioned below:-

POSITIVE ASPECTS OF HOME QUARANTINE

Living together, the members of family can render assistance to other members of the family and enhance cooperative endeavour for overall good of the family.
After having acquired cooperation with the members of the family, it will facilitate consolidation of love and affection between the members of our family.
Both the spouses can work together in taking care of their offspring along with taking care of their education and other aspects for their growth and development.
The parents will get opportunity in transferring value system to their children for spiritual growth too for holistic growth – body, mind and soul.
The family members can learn to live with the dictum: Union is strength thus fulfill the purpose of life.
All the members of the family can contribute in every way to run the affairs of the family in the best possible way possible – economically and otherwise.

NEGATIVE IMPACTS OF LOCKDOWN CONDITIONS

As the lockdown conditions have impacted the economic health of all the economies globally, therefore, fear of job losses and lay-offs remain haunting us all. The businesses are down due to because the work-force has to confine at home because of fear psychosis of infection.
If we lose all avenues of earning of livelihood due to job losses, the future of ours and that of our family members would be threatened.
Downward spiral economically due to job losses means depletion in standard of living thus impacting adversely the life of vast majority of people.
Confining at home means limiting our sphere of activities – both in thoughts and deeds thus retarding our holistic growth and development thus losing our moorings in real terms.
It is axiomatic, Inactivity leads to boredom and boredom brings about monotony bringing in its wake physiological and psychological problems.
Both physiological and psychological problems leads to mental health related ailments such as depression, attitude and behavioral disorders, enhancement of obsessive and compulsive tendencies, paranoia and getting suspicious and doubtful. Putting all these together leads to multiple psychological disorders which enhance negative tendencies in us.
Enhancement of negative tendencies leads to loss of self-confidence to face the world at large which impedes our growth and development.

MARTYRDOM DAY OF GURU ARJAN DEV Ji

MARTYRDOM DAY OF GURU ARJAN DEV JI

Guru Arjan Dev Ji
Was the embodiment of Godly devotion
Who rendered selfless service (Seva) of society
A saintly trait
Along with it all
He was an apostle of peace
Who stood firm and rock-solid on his principles
For which he made supreme sacrifice
And attained martyrdom – a painless one
‘Thine doings seem sweet unto me’
While remaining firm in his convictions/beliefs he held dear

Guru Arjan Dev Ji
Has immortalized himself
For his thoughts and noble deeds
He held dear
Which would be remembered
By all those who matter the most.
A Guru Ji who collated the Hymns
Of Sikh Gurus Jis’
As the cornerstone of present day Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji
Known with immense reverence as the Tenth Guru
Himself contributed a total of 2218 hymns
Of Guru Granth Sahib Ji
Along with Sukhmani Sahib Bani
Which bestows us joy and eternal peace
Which emphasizes meditation
As a pillar of strength
For removing worries and anguish from our being
While we remember our Creator
We dispel the fear of death
And our enemies are defeated
Remembering God,
We remain awake day and night
Remembering God we do not suffer with sorrow
Thence remembering God
In the company of saints so Sacred
We are graced
With all invaluable treasures – O Guru Nanak Dev Ji.
His major achievements are far too many
Became instrument in installation of Sikh Holy Book
Adi Granth,
Became main instrument in the construction of Golden Temple
Then developed Amritsar as a Centre of excellence
Enhanced the role of Sikh Society
By Introduction of Masand System
His motto was to be compassionate
He advised all Sikhs
To donate a tenth
Of their earnings in charity
A noble cause
For which Sikhs are known
The world over

HEARTIEST CONGRATULATIONS ON THE MOST AUSPICIOUS DAY OF EID-UL-FITR (THE FEAST OF FAST BREAKING).

HEARTIEST CONGRATULATIONS ON THE MOST AUSPICIOUS DAY OF EID-UL-FITR (THE FEAST OF FAST BREAKING).

FASTING FOR PURIFICATION OF OUR BODY AND MIND

Fasting is a willful restraint
From intake of food material
Giving a needed break
To our digestive system
Regulating the body metabolism
In sync with our body’s requirements
Which helps us do our body functions
Thus ensuring sound health & wellbeing
And live life in association with Super Being.
Fact remains foodstuff taken
More than our body needs
Results in our digestive system
To function more than its ability
Leading it to go awry
Producing fatty contents in excess
Than our body actually requires
And bereft of any body exercise
We become obese
Leading to laziness
and related illnesses.

EID MUBARAKH TO ALL

Eid-ul-fitr – after the month long observance of strict fast,
Based entirely on article of faith,
Purifies our body, mind and soul with fasting,
During the holy month of Ramzan / Ramadhan,
While offering prayers without break
To remain close to the benevolent One,
It is the anniversary on which Holy Quran,
Was revealed by most revered Prophet Mohammed,
Chaste in fasting while doing our duties,
For ourselves and for others around,
Dear to us – leaving none,
Or the ones who are forlorn,
Due to days so unfortunate,
We ought to meet their needs with utmost compassion,
Especially during the days of Coronavirus pandemic,
When many unfortunates,
Have lost the continuous flow of income,
Needed for body sustenance,
We ought to be filled with belief while performing donation,
And our heart feeling pain at others’ pain,
Thus bridging the gap that exists,
Between people of different hues in the society,
Awash with fervor thoroughly,
Overflowing with empathy,
Thus generating hope for the hopeless brethren,
Which will, in turn give us inner satiety,
Sufficient piety,
Of fond trust,
That there will dawn as a result,
Of being compassion towards our fellow beings,
A day which binds all humanity with a holy thread,
Of oneness, and brotherhood,
Prevailing in all humans.

EID-UL-FITR (THE FEAST OF FAST BREAKING).

Allah may bestow us wisdom and resilience, in ample measure, for bringing dawn of peace, cooperation, goodwill, compassion and brotherhood among peoples of world. As we all are the creations of a single CREATOR, we should cement our love with each other and help each other meet our needs and never have ill-will for our fellow brethren. It is more important now than ever since these are difficult times due to Covid-19 pandemic which has brought untold miseries due to loss of work and stoppage of continuous flow of money for our sustenance of our family.

During these trying days of Coronavirus pandemic, we should offer prayers to God observing all the Lockdown conditions, keeping distance, putting on face mask etc. It should be our endeavour to be careful lest we get infection and spread the same to our our dear ones.

After regular observance of fast with devotion and piety for a period of one month during Ramadhan, devotees celebrate – Eid Day means a day of joy, a day of spreading love and affection, a day to spread fellow feeling besides a feeling of being pure after the observance of fast for one month.

Let this EID and coming EIDS be the torchbearer of our prosperity with Allaha’s Grace. Lets pray that the fervor and enthusiasm of EID remain etched in our hearts for ever and let this festival lasts for eternity with all its benefits.

The Muslims observe fasts in the month of Ramadan or Ramzan. It is a sacred month since Holy Quran was revealed in this month. The word Ramadan has been driven from the Arabic word ramaida meaning intense heat accompanied with dryness of ground. It is called so since it amounts to driving out sins with our good deeds like offering charity and keeping away or desisting from all body enjoyments etc along with intense penance by following the practice of fasting.

The word “fasting” (sawm) literally means ‘to refrain’ – means desisting from not only from food and drinks but also from unethical thoughts and actions which sully our thoughts and actions besides following all the guidance in letter and spirit enunciated in the Holy Quran. In other words, it is not merely restraint from food and drink but also our resolve as to how to control the urge of hunger and thirst besides devote ones energies on prayers thus gain spiritually. This way, the devout learn the traits of self discipline through self restraints too. The fast is broken at sunset before recitation from Holy Quran and thus being in connectivity with Allaha. The fast is broken with a sip of water and some dates.

Fasting is done as an exercise of keeping oneself away from certain activities which prevent devout from being spiritually aesthetical both physically and emotionally. Thus desisting from taking anything and keep oneself away from worldly pleasures i.e. humdrum of eating drinking or even being away from thinking about anything like lust etc and divert all the energies to prayers – five times. Having abstinence means devoting much of time and resources on charities besides prayers infuses self discipline and ushers in all round development in the individual.

Everybody may be aware about IFTAR party – a social event where fast is broken. Here meal is shared with friends and others. Free meals are also served for the general public too at this get-together.

Fasting or not eating food for a fixed or for a pre-determined period of time with for giving our digestive system some break or rest consequently keeping the body free of extra fats and toxins so as to focus on the job at hand without bodily interruptions besides offering prayers to our Lord with ease and peace.

In other words, fasting is intentional skipping of intake of food material, drinks or sometimes both for a fixed or sometimes for a prolonged period of time. It may be for a complete day (24 hours) from early morning to evening (dawn to dusk) or early morning on a particular day to the morning of next day. Then the fasting could be continuously or intermittent; depending on the body requirement or for the intended purpose of observance of fast as a religious tradition being followed in some religions.

While in intermittent fasting, we remain without food, for a fixed time-span and then eat at a set time but in continuous fasting we remain without food for a long period of time – say from morning to the following morning of the day or still more for more days at a stretch.

Fasting is both for regulating and energizing the body metabolism by pepping up / streamlining the digestive system so as to keep the body free of the extra fats and toxins besides keeping the body’s carbohydrates (sugar) synchronized with the need of our body. With slower and regulated metabolism, means our body organs can work for a longer period of time thus prolonging our age.

Then fasting too is undertaken as a religious observance.

Hindu fast on religious and sacred days or on the religious festivals like: Navratris, Puranmashi (Puranmashi is the full moon day in traditional Indian calendar), Ekadshi (Ekadashi is the eleventh day of both the dark and light fortnight of each month), Maha Shivratri (auspicious time for Maha Shivaratri puja activities like Fasting and prayers are performed), Ramnavmi (Fasting observed on the birthday of the Lord Ram) , Krishna Janamashthmi (fasting on the birthday of Lord Krishna) besides many other festivals connected with Demi Gods and fasts relevant to local populace of a particular locality.

The Christians skip their desire for food and instead devote time in seeking God. Meaning, the time spent on preparation of food etc could meaningfully be utilized for prayers and meditation on the Word. This fasting time could be per-determined and hunger for food could be compensated with hunger for the Lord. Jesus fasted from all food and drink. The Bible also describes some extreme times when people fasted.

Ramadan is more than fasting. The entire month is devoted to prayers, internal cleansing, charity etc.

The devout devote all his/her energies to focus on God.
No compromise on the practice self restraint – physical or mental.
Re-evaluate lives in the light of Islamic guidance.
Forget and forgive those who wronged.
Purify our lives physically and emotionally besides our thoughts and actions. A devotee thus adopts the qualities of head and heart.

Fasting helps self awareness / self enlightenment.

Saves a devout from distractions and create the traits associated with sincerity and simplicity.
Restraint helps us discipline ourselves besides a person turns inward with regular prayers.

KEEPING HAPPY DESPITE DIFFICULT TIMES

REMAINING BALANCED IN DIFFICULT TIMES

***REMAINING HAPPY DESPITE DIFFICULT TIMES***

Presently, all of us are experiencing hard times in the environment of Novel Coronavirus Pandemic. May it be remaining confined to our homes observing Lockdown or observance of social distance while going outside our homes to meet our requirements; we are in constant fear of infecting ourselves. We should try to remain balanced in happiness and sadness – never getting overly concerned thus impacting our growth and development.

It should always be remembered that our unlimited desires are responsible for our sadness and disappointments. If we control our desires and remain satisfied with what we have then we shall be happy at all times.

The following points should be kept in mind for keeping a healthy balance in our life for keeping ourselves happy despite hardships:As the waters (of different rivers) enters the Great Ocean, which though full on all sides remains undisturbed, like wise a person who is not disturbed by the incessant flow of desires – can alone achieve peace, and not the man who runs after these desires & strives to satisfy such desires – BHAGWARD GITA.

**BELIEF THAT GOD WOULD BE THERE FOR US IN ALL SITUATION WILL MAKE DIFFERENCE**

In our lives we cannot have good times always. There would be difficulties and persecutions as we cannot keep all the people happy at all times. Whenever we face difficulties, our resolve to be happy is tested by our self-belief and unflinching belief in our Lord.

That is why for Christ sake, delight in weaknesses in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties,. for when I am weak, then I am strong – BIBLE

We should always believe in God that He will come to our rescue whenever there is any difficulty. Only our belief in God would always come to our succor.

The day it comes, no soul shall speak except by His permission. Some of them will be wretched, and some happy.

And as for those who are happy, they will be in Paradise, abiding there so long as the heavens and the earth endure, unless your Lord wills, as uninterrupted giving. HOLY QURAN

We should endeavor to act in such a way which bestows us happiness (Sukh) and inner satiety besides finally gives us freedom from any unhappiness (Dukh), In other words, we should perform all actions which give us joy – joy of giving and should not do anything which give us sorrow.

Apparently, as all human resources are aimed at seeking out happiness, it becomes imperative to convince ourselves as to exactly where this happiness is located. Is it located in the worldly objects, or, is it located somewhere else? SRI GRANTH SAHIB JI.

By leading a spiritual oriented life. To be aware of your own self – knowing your potentials and weaknesses then remove the weaknesses to live a humble and sublime life.

Be satisfied with what you have.
Take right decision at right time.
Giving gives us happiness. Be compassionate to the needs of others.
Happiness and sadness are the two sides of the same coin. Introspect why you are unhappy and try to solve the cause of that unhappiness rather than recycling the thought of unhappiness.
Understand your own self – WHO I AM?’ rather than comparing yourself with others.
Be your own master by reigning in the mind rather than being becoming its slave.
Never take anything negative to your sleep. If some conflicting incident(s) happens with anybody including the members of the family, these should be sorted out before going to sleep otherwise these incidents will remain haunting you since these will go to the sub-conscious mind thus impacting our life.
Multiply your happiness by dividing smiles.
Right thought and right Karmic deeds give happiness.
Forgive and forget somebody’s mistakes.
Always be positive in what you think and act.

A SELFLESS PERSON

A SELFLESS PERSON STANDS OUT IN CROWD

A SELFLESS PERSON

A person with humbleness to the core
With all the traits goodness and much more
In his thinking
There is positivity prevailing
His Karmic deeds too are praiseworthy
Thoughts and actions are in sync literally
He lives for others
Toils tirelessly for the good of others
Bereft of even an iota of expectations from anybody
Since he is conscious fully
About the purpose of his life on this beautiful planet
To do good and forget to a maximum extent
A spiritually oriented one
Who seeks connectivity with the One
An all powerful – Omnipotent
And present everywhere – Omniscient
An all knowing Super-Soul – Parmatma
One who is compassionate of all
An egoless to the core
And stands out in the society due to his work culture
This is always for the wellness of others
While such a person lives on this planet
He gets immense satisfaction
When his fellow-beings get what they want.
And finally when he is no more
People remember him for the excellent work
He did for others while he lived.

MY REAL LIFE HERO – A SELFLESS PERSON

In life, we come across different people with different temperaments, with different mindset, with different set of views but there are the ones who influence us immensely. These people are actually the cream of our society. Words of praise just come out for them. I shall call them as the gifts of our Creator.

A selfless person is the one who is compassionate in nature, empathetic and always fulfills others’ needs even putting his life in peril. I know a person who worked with us as an engineer. He left his service at a time when he could have made a grade for himself as an upright professional. As an individual, he would always come forward in rendering any sort of assistance to others without anything in return with no expectations whatsoever. Whenever anybody appreciated his work and conduct, he used to skip the subject and talk something else – more productive Karmic deeds than the former one. To say the least, he was a Karma Yogi, humble and humane to the core besides all the positive traits which are dear to our Creator.

In the evening, as usual, he used to teach the students from the weaker strata of society. Not to speak of this, whatever salary he used to get, half of it, he used to spend on the needy children, for their books, stationery, etc.

After leaving the service, he opened a school, with the money from his voluntary retirement from service, even employed some teachers besides some volunteer teachers too came forward in assisting him. This way, he not only changed the destinies of the hapless fellows but also made his own life a shining example for others to emulate.

He is no more now but his contributions to the society in changing the destinies of many youngmen in our locality still remain. I salute to him. May his soul rest in peace, and sure enough, it will be, because of his stellar role to the society. Many would like to emulate his positive traits and contributions for the society. Such people leave an indelible impression in the society and become a shining example. Such people attain Moksha or Liberation from births and deaths ultimately.

My son had seen me making out with my wife’s sister while in inebriated state but he has not told to my wife about this yet although it has been two month since this happened. Why could he not be telling?

***FAMILY AS A UNIT GIVES US WARMTH AND PROTECTION***

My son had seen me making out with my wife’s sister while in inebriated state but he has not told to my wife about this yet although it has been two month since this. Why could he not be telling?

In essence, family unites all the members work with a common thread of love. Here all the members take care each member respecting their privacy; the youngsters in the family learn the traditional modes of behavior, value system. Besides the elders and the infirm get protection, medical and otherwise. It is the unit where the offspring learn the first lesson in habit formation, attitude and behavior. In other words, in the families where the parents and other members of the family get right know-how and awareness face the society at large with self-confidence and poise. On the other hand, families where the elders in the family lead a carefree life, resort to misdemeanor, do not give quality time to their children which may facilitate holistic growth, their children grow to be spoilt ones and cannot face the world at large with confidence.

It is significant to mention that you should have been very cautious and should not have resorted to ‘making out’ with your wife’s sister in an inebriated state and that too in your own home where your family members were also there. This could have been avoided in presence of your family members. You should have anticipated somebody seeing your unethical action. You have mentioned that your son had seen your act but not told your wife since she did not react after the incident. This is your impression and I respect your viewpoint.

Your son being of an impressionable age, take care that he should not keep it hidden in his young mind – otherwise he will not have adequate love and respect for you in his entire life. This incident will play like a film in his mind whenever he will see you.

Alternatively, may be, he has already told your wife and she has kept quite simply to keep harmony in the entire family since the women do not want to spoil the fabric of their family. It is my suggestion to you that you should clear the air in the family and promise all concerned that you will not repeat such unprincipled act again. By so doing, you will earn goodwill from all concerned. This way, you will also earn respect/goodwill from your son and he will learn to accept mistakes and make amends whenever there is a need. since we follow the foot-steps of our parents and elders in the family – they are our role–models.

FEAR IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN ANY INFECTION

***DARK CLOUDS OF FEARS WILL EVAPORATE IN THIN AIR WITH DETERMINED MINND***

FEAR IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN ANY INFECTION

When encircled by fears and confusions
We’ve to seek way out to come out of these confusions
And find solutions
Otherwise specter of fear will continuously remain haunting
And we’ll remain surrounded with fears threatening
Keep in mind, when we are filled with apprehension
On anticipation of any uncertain situation
We continue doubting our effectiveness
To handle every ominous circumstances
Because of existing concerns
Bedeviling our own forward movement
Then bizarre questions arise in our mind
Filling us with still more disappointments
And fail taking any step forward
Thus retarding our further growth
Thus we are bereft of any self-assurance
Or modicum of self-confidence
Fear is enemy number one of humanity
It may be the fear of infection or any worry
Created by Novel Coronavirus
Bear in mind having fear is more dangerous
Than fighting the fears with a sense of direction
In this way we’ll be able to be successful in fighting anything including Covid-19 pandemic infection.

Truth is, those who have determined mindset win ultimately
Since winning and losing originate from our mind only.

What I should do to maintain our relationship when I found my wife cheating on me in my absence but now she has realized her folly and wants to remain sincere and honest?

What I should do to maintain our relationship when I found my wife cheating on me in my absence but now she has realized her folly and wants to remain sincere and honest?

It should never be forgotten, man is a social animal and could commit mistakes anytime anywhere. These mistakes may be simple or the gravest one. But one common thing amongst these all is that we all commit mistakes in our life – these may be in mere thoughts or application of these thoughts into action. These thoughts could be good or not so good and actions may be ethical or unethical and immoral.

iN ESSENCE, one thing is sure NOBODY yes NOBODY in this world is PERFECT including myself – just i should confess though i have not touched any other females (except, of course my wife) with any ill-intention, except while performing my profession as a Homeopath, who came across me. But i cannot say that i did not have any unethical thoughts. Being human means we have to live with our imperfections and there occasions when all have their weaker moments or situations when our mind and five sense over-power us and we commit something which others thing to be immoral and unethical. It should also be kept in mind that even an unethical or immoral thought too is taboo in real sense of term.

I had the privilege of discussing the similar case with one of the male colleague who asked my opinion. He related to me two incidents about his wife going astray. First as told by his confidante and the other one seen by himself. He could forget the former one as a false one but cannot ignore the latter one as he had seen that in person. I asked my friend whether he saw his wife going astray more than two occasions to which he told that except the two occasions, he did not think his wife had done anything wrong except for two occasions. There may be cases like this in the lives of others too; some incidents were known to the husbands or wives and others just not known and could be termed as slippages which could be forgotten by the doers after some time.

In your case too your wife must have some flings or weaker moments wherein she submitted herself but after realization dawned or when her escapades came to your attention, sure enough, you must have been shattered. Anybody naturally will feel so. But if your wife has repented her fault and promised to mend her ways then you should forgot the incident(s) as a bad dream and lead a normal life – take care of your family as seriously as you can. Certainly your wife would prove to be your best spouse for the entire life-span if you forget and forgive her NOW for the sake of your bright future and concentrate on your profession and bringing peace and harmony in your FAMILY with the dictum GOOD MIND GOOD FIND.

As your wife has promised you that she would be honest and trustworthy besides remaining remaining dedicated to you, therefore, you should believe her and FORGET AND FORGIVE your wife for her faulty path and lead a life sufficing with LOVE AND AFFECTION.

HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY TODAY MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED (MOTHER’S DAY ON 10th MAY 2020 – MY RESPECTS TO ALL THE MOTHERS

**MOTHER THE MOST REVERED OF ALL THE** RELATIONSHIPS

HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY TODAY
MOTHER – A RELATIONSHIP MOST REVERED
(MOTHER’S DAY ON 10th MAY 2020 – MY RESPECTS TO ALL THE MOTHERS)

A most revered of all the relationships
Which complements all other relations
Endures all sorts of sufferings
Without even a slightest of demur or objections.
How the Mother Nature takes care of her creations
A finely blended analogy is the MOTHER EARTH
On whose surface life of living beings synergy
To grow, enjoying all the bounties of MOTHER NATURE
Air, water and sun’s energy without any bias to all
Providing succor to all birds and animals aplenty
From her bosom springs the life-giving crops
Which feed us and give us energy
Which sustains life on MOTHER EARTH
Then the mothers of all the mammals – animals, birds, ants etc
Are exceptional examples of motherhood
If you care to observe their way of living
Feeding their young ones and defending them from the predators
I was obviously inspired by the unique life of a queen ant
Which although does not have more life-span on this earth
But the Mother Nature has graced her with fine blend of motherhood
After her nuptial flight and mating get completed
The queen ant finds a nesting place
Seals the entrance for laying the eggs
Lays eggs for food of growing larvae also
These healthy eggs grow to be active workers
And bring food from outside for the queen (mother) ant
Wherein the mother ant is in total control
For taking care of everything that goes inside the nest
That should also inspire us humans
As to how a MOTHER of any creations
Takes care of its broods.

Mother Nature has graced all mammals
With the natural traits of motherhoods
A squirrel collecting its early morning feed
A crow collecting feed for its young one who cannot fly
A bitch feeding its pups even remaining without food itself
That is the strangest and most wonderful truth of Mother.

From the time of fertilization of an egg inside the womb
Paying uninterrupted attention that is required
For proper and continued feed inside the womb
With the observance of precautions in abundance
What to be taken and what to be avoided
Smoking and food & drinks having caffeine are taboo
For gestation inside her being
For a period of nine months,
That is the care she has to exercise inside her womb
Mother mothers the baby in every way most desirable
Mother uses her head and heart for taking care
More use of heart to listen to her growing child needs
Many times forgetting even her own life’s needs indeed!

I shall give my personal example of my mother
Who had a far reaching impact on my life
She, though has already left for her heavenly abode
But I reminisce clearly the days whilst she tended me as a small kid
Showering all the care that she could extend
Like all other mothers – who take pains in bringing up their offspring
What to feed and when not
With limited recourses at the disposal
She slept on the side
Where bed-spread was moist
But protected me from getting wet
So as to bestow interrupted care and protection as a kid!
Provided me her warmth of the heavenly lap
Cuddled me with her lovely hands
I grew up in her kindest heed
I used to call her ‘BOBO JI’ with love
Brimming with the everlasting love – so Godly indeed.
Gave her rock-solid protection on me day and night
With no complaints at any point in time.
A smile from me was a blissful gift for her
My cries used to fill her heart with the deepest agony
Calming of her heartaches came
When my sobbing came to an end finally
Childish prattle of mine amused her immensely
Whilst I crawled and learned to walk
Or talk first incoherently
She felt herself on the ‘seventh-heaven, factually.
Once I was down with the severest fever
I almost was in the coma for days on end
Medical help could hardly make any difference
Everyone in the family knew
Her sincere prayers came to my rescue.
Then came the time of my schooling
I was a reluctant customer, a foot-dragger for going to school
My mom knew how best to handle me in this too!
Cajoled me with eatables as the enticement or bait when required
Reprimanded me sternly whence its necessity was felt
As though she knew when a particular dose to be administered
For drawing out the ills & putting the best traits
School and then college went on smoothly under her supervision
Worth mentioning, she was not well-read, so to say
But knew all fine-points of life and how to live it with sincerity!
She exhorted me to face the facts of life squarely
Only weak-willed ones flee when confronted with difficulty.
I felt her omnipresence whenever some of my chums offered any allurement
Desisted from any of these fearing, in the bargain, matching punishment
From my mom who could read my face and mind with ease
Telling lies with her never succeeded
Telling truth and get pardoned was only way out.
Thence I got my employment
Far away from my loving mother and lovely home
A home (not house) which did not have mmany material comforts
But was brimming with love and care for everyone.
I used to visit my mom only once on weekends
Once on a visit to home – reached late at night
To my utter dismay and consequent pain
She was down with cold and fever
This had taken the toll on her health despite medicare
There were others in the home to care for her
In the morn the next day
While the Sun rose from the eastern horizon
She intended to take breakfast in the sun – outside on the cot
After light b’fast, she desired to keep her head in my lap!
How fortunate I had been I thanked my God
The one who had provided warmth to me in her heavenly lap
Wanted to keep her head in my lap
Having done thus she felt completely relaxed
As though bidding her final farewell
This peaceful act was not an ordinary one
It was an eternal peace – so solemn
A final adieu from her to us all.
My honest confession, all the traits in me are due to my loving mother
All negativism are earned by me from my own mistakes
Although she is mixed with (Five Gross physical elements) PANCH BHUTAS
Yet she resides in my heart for good with the grace of Almighty God.
And guides me when hugely required
Through her value system which she has imparted.

VENERATED MOTHER MY WARM SALUTE TO THEE

The Mother, truthfully, is one of the noblest relationships who understands her offspring because she is graced with soft emotions which could attract even the person with brute mentality thus could have far-reaching influence.

It is a gospel truth that in the household husband is the head and the mother the heart and when head and heart combine they make the huge difference both to the children and the home as a whole. Eternal peace and tranquility in the household happen when emotions of the heart are respected by all in the family. All the important decisions which have far-reaching implications for the future of the children should be taken with an active participation of mother and father. By so doing, not only the natural say of the mother will be respected but also there would be peace and harmony in the household. The training in value system imparted by the mother remains with us throughout our life.

HOLY BIBLE mentions about mothers: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

It should never be forgotten that mother provides the first lesson to her child – what to be done and what to be shunned. This first lesson is the foundation on which the edifice of future education of the child is built. Profuse praise of the child along with necessary punishment commensurate with fault will do a lot of good to the child.

There are many mothers who are not adequately educated but they understand their children better because they use their instinct rather than knowledge. Mere rebuking children will not do – a soft approach can deliver much. If nothing works then a pep-talk on the need of education by the mother can also do wonders. If this also does not work then the help of the experts in the field could be attained. This should be done after a thorough research. The purpose is to follow all norms which may help the child in acquiring knowledge besides character building.

SRI GURU GRANTH SAHIB says: A mother does not keep note of the transgressions of her son. O God, I am Your son. Why don’t You destroy my sins?

The mother should keep track of following aspects in mind in order to know and adopt remedial measures /take corrective steps for child’s improvement:-

• The company the child is following while schooling. It should be done with discretion without letting the child know.
• The progress of the child to be recorded. The mother should keep a tab of the child’s progress in all fields :

Progress on: health, education, mixing with other children, respect for all, curbing egoistic tendencies (words or sentences usage like I did it, it is due to me, my contribution made it possible etc), how to face diverse situation with courage, infusing feeling of commitment, spiritual bent of mind, games and sports, positive habit building, learning to obey the orders of elders including teachers etc.

Holy Quran enunciates: We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.

• Best use of internet facilities. Whenever a child is sitting on the computer, the mother should monitor as to what the child is browsing. Corrective steps to be initiated if the child is lead astray.
• How best to keep a healthy balance between the household chores and the monitoring child’s progress.
• Sometimes what is learned has to be unlearned. Here care and caution are required.
• Kindle a spirit of understanding and respecting others’ privacy in the child.
• Appropriate appreciation and punishment whenever required should be made for growth of the child.
Finally, from the above, it is evident that to look after a child is a whole-time job. If quality time is not given by the mother, the child may be lead astray and lose the moorings for a healthy and upward march in life and a MOTHER knows it all.

An important note: excessive indulgence (mou Mamta) by the mother can also spoil the balanced development in the child. Meaning, if a mother sweeps the mistakes of the child under the carpet then, sure enough, the child will grow up to be a spoilt one. So an objective approach is: admonishing when required and shower love, when called for, will do a lot of good for the all-round development of the child.

IN MAHABHARTA BHISHMA said: The mother is the panacea for all kinds of calamities. The existence of the mother invests one with protection; the reverse deprives one of all protection.

• The mother’s love is all-encompassing.
• The mother teaches us the first lesson in the value system.
• The mother ‘s graces save us from all the ill-omens.
• The mother is the embodiment of suffering.
• The mother mothers us when we are not able to do anything on our own.
• The mother gives us what other relations cannot.
• We are part and parcel of our mother.
• Those people who abandon their mothers at her old-age are not forgiven by Creator.