My son had seen me making out with my wife’s sister while in inebriated state but he has not told to my wife about this yet although it has been two month since this. Why could he not be telling?
In essence, family unites all the members work with a common thread of love. Here all the members take care each member respecting their privacy; the youngsters in the family learn the traditional modes of behavior, value system. Besides the elders and the infirm get protection, medical and otherwise. It is the unit where the offspring learn the first lesson in habit formation, attitude and behavior. In other words, in the families where the parents and other members of the family get right know-how and awareness face the society at large with self-confidence and poise. On the other hand, families where the elders in the family lead a carefree life, resort to misdemeanor, do not give quality time to their children which may facilitate holistic growth, their children grow to be spoilt ones and cannot face the world at large with confidence.
It is significant to mention that you should have been very cautious and should not have resorted to ‘making out’ with your wife’s sister in an inebriated state and that too in your own home where your family members were also there. This could have been avoided in presence of your family members. You should have anticipated somebody seeing your unethical action. You have mentioned that your son had seen your act but not told your wife since she did not react after the incident. This is your impression and I respect your viewpoint.
Your son being of an impressionable age, take care that he should not keep it hidden in his young mind – otherwise he will not have adequate love and respect for you in his entire life. This incident will play like a film in his mind whenever he will see you.
Alternatively, may be, he has already told your wife and she has kept quite simply to keep harmony in the entire family since the women do not want to spoil the fabric of their family. It is my suggestion to you that you should clear the air in the family and promise all concerned that you will not repeat such unprincipled act again. By so doing, you will earn goodwill from all concerned. This way, you will also earn respect/goodwill from your son and he will learn to accept mistakes and make amends whenever there is a need. since we follow the foot-steps of our parents and elders in the family – they are our role–models.