In weal and woe of our lives Whence we perform our karmic deeds We experience umpteen experiences Through ongoing practices And persistence in our varied experiences Some polluted and some holiest ones Adding up unpolluted experiences We develop a feeling of difference Which experience we have to surrender And which one to be absorbed for and till our existence Through dedicated practice Sometimes with trial and error With it all, our understanding gets fillip And we become self-aware To perform the journey of our life With more confidence Which helps us to perform our multifarious tasks Tasks and responsibilities without any obscurity Bereft of any inside and outside pressures Thus enable us to navigate our pathways With ease and with peace After having acquired skills Gained over a period of time By so doing Develop reservoir of expertise To handle more challenges Which come in our lives
Based on principles of Yoga Practicing of which Helps break the bonds of Karma Which makes us Yogi of Karmic deeds By so doing We can gain ocean of information Thence a little of our sincere effort Can help us gain our coveted goal By surmounting pitfalls That may come in the way Of our life’s journey And the experiences gained Over a period of time Will create situation and condition Created through repeated practices And uncontaminated experiences And rich and deep knowledge And enlightenment gained Through these fine-tuned experiences Bereft of any negative feelings Key for success in any venture Is to keep our effort going Principles being keep trying Keep on going Never retreating Till the final goal is attained Or till the added up familiarity With the variety of actions Under variety of situations and conditions Till the final goal is accomplished With know-how attained With untainted experiences of lifetime Successful surely we shall be because of confidence gained With tons of experiences we gain over a period of time.
Similar is the case of establishing full connectivity With GOD ALMIGHTY We have to undergo severest tests With utter precision With endurance Perseverance Patience Tolerance Till acceptance is attained For the result of our persistence We have to experience plenty of our experiences Emulate the good experiences And get rid of the awful ones Like sieving the chaff With trials and pains Continually And eventually Our sincerest prayers Are answered, for sure By our benevolent God Thence afterwards Our path to our most beloved Lord Is narrowed and eventually connectivity established Thence He attends to our calls Anytime and anywhere When we sincerely call Him Depending on the deepest desire we nurture For His presence Wherein our sincerity And honesty Of our prayers does not fritter away Meaning in both our usual actions And spiritual realization For seeking our Creator Key to attainment in both is purity in our actions And when we have attained all these things There is supreme joy and ecstasy in our existence A state of Seventh Heaven indeed.
Love is a crazy marvelous concoction which could cure the demon of enmity from within us in the form of ill-will and bitterness. But this to be reality, realization should dawn from within our soul besides there should be sincerity and purity in our thoughts and actions.
Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. BIBLE
LOVE NEVER DIMINISHES BUT MAY UNDERGO SOME CHANGES SUITING OUR TIME AND CIRCUMSTANCE
Love never diminishes, but may undergo some changes in sync with changed time and circumstances. To find true love, we have to begin with ourselves, and start seeing beyond ego driven behavior pattern into the hearts of others. But for that to be reality, our own heart needs to flower and open-up as love never happens when we are living in close compartment. As love is two sided, we have to see a positive response from other person, to open his/her heart – that too bereft of any ego. This heart-to-heart meet-up helps us understand each other and also produces warmth in our feelings thus sprouting our love for each other.
SIGNIFICANCE OF LOVE IN OUR LIVES
Significantly, there is inherent truth in the maxim: Love begets love. If we love others, we create positive vibe wherever we go. It means, through the medium of love, we can create broader outlook in our life. We feel the necessity of fulfilling others needs when we love others as we love ourselves.
TRUE LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL
True unconditional love is of permanent value. But we probably have no idea what that true love is since this type of love has to be created with the participation of our mind, heart and soul. We have all felt it after our birth as a child, but as we have grown older, we are seeing less and less of it. In our entire life span, we remain seeking true love till our last breath.
TRUE LOVE ORIGINATEs FROM OUR SOUL & EGO IS ENEMY NUMBER ONE OF LOVE
True love originates from our mind, heart and from our soul. God has created us as loveable ones; all hearts and all spirits are totally lovable. But the problem arises after we develop egocentric tendencies. Our ego is a collection of thoughts based on exaggeration of self importance, beliefs, conditionings, attitudes, values, our identity besides our fears, pride, sorrows, grief, greed, anger etc. It becomes our identity in this world. As the ego develops and makes a permanent residency in our psyche, we start detaching ourselves from others because of our self-created identities. Be that as it may, love is detached attachment without any expectation from others rather than on the premise of ‘tit-for-tat’.
LOVE WITH ANY EXPECTATION TATTERS UNDER ITS OWN WEIGHT
While in pure love, we do not expect anything in return. It is free of any expectations. A love with any modicum of expectation is of momentary value and impermanent. It gives way with even a little stress and strain.
NEGATIVE MINDSET IS THE ENEMY OF LOVE
Negativity like greed, ego, lust, and envy are negative emotions, it leads to arousal of dismay from people thus adversary of love. These negative emotions generate hate. An individual with emotion considers himself superior with close mind mindset. It is not receptive to brilliant strategies or ideas of coworkers and restricts warm social bond. In Mahabharata, Lord Krishna says, “Do everything you have to do, but not with greed, not with ego, not with lust, not with envy but with Love, compassion, humility, and devotion”.
COMPASSION BRINGS ABOUT WARMTH IN RELATIONS
While compassion brings you close to people, helps you listen to others soul. Lust and envy arouse strong emotions leading to loss of senses. Instead, a person should carry humility and be humble to coworkers, friends, and family and bring about inner peace and wellness. Devotion is required in any activity because one needs to be devoted wholeheartedly to succeed and love is a potion which empowers people to have emotional link.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity. BIBLE
TRUE LOVE IS ETERNAL
Lord Krishna is the lord of compassion, love, and tenderness. Krishna is admired for his playful acts and love towards Radha. Radha is his one true love and the love they share is immortal and eternal. Even though Krishna never married Radha, yet they are worshipped as the divine couple. The two names of Radha-Krishna can never be separated from one another. Similar is the love of Meera towards Lord Krishna. Then the love of Gopis towards Krishna and other Gopas is eternal and inspire us even today.
TYPES OF LOVE
It has been observed that love originates and blooms variously but one thing common is that each type of love affects us in one way or other.
We must have observed how some people have huge love for material possessions and for realizing it, they adopt any means to satisfy their hunger for more. So much so is their love and hunger for power and pelf that they can even go against and physically harm their own kith and kin to get material possessions! They do not realize that when we were born, we did not bring anything, what we got has been acquired here only and when we leave this earth we shall not take anything. Then question arises, why we should adopt ulterior methods to satisfy their love for material possessions?
Affectionate love, in essence, is the one which is originated from heart and runs deep and synergizes true friendships. The medium for this mind. For this type of love to be fructified, it is mandatory that each of the persons in love shares his/her weaknesses and potentials too to each other. In other words, nothing should be hidden from the friend for its longevity/continuity and closeness. This should also include the belief and faiths of the concerned persons for uniting affect of the love.
The friends who create the positive wavelength in the mind are the ones who are trustful to each other points of view. Trust is the cementing factor for the friendship to be more durable and enduring. For this to be of value, nothing should be hidden from a true friend, be steadfast in good or not to good days. Then important thing in having lasting love is to support each other in thick and thin. Last but not the least, some modicum of showcasing our amity in the form of celebrations on various occasions like birthdays and other well-known days for love and affection between the love ones.
LONG LASTING LOVE
It is a mature love which consolidates as time passes on. The driving force for this is our subconscious mind. We know that at the first instance, we may not be able to understand each other but in order to consolidate the bonds of love it is important that it is established on the found foundation of trust, faith, friendship, camaraderie, cooperation and finally time-tested on which it could stand. In other words, this love is matures with time and each one has to invest his/herr time and energy to consolidate its bond because it is based on give and take i.e. on reciprocity. The lovers need to express this till it matures.
LOVE BETWEEN TRUE FRIENDS
One of the significant features of this type of love is based on selfless bond between individuals. The friendship could be between spouses, between opposite sexes, between the countrymen or with men and women abroad. This love is without any expectations. Only one thing which is of paramount importance is the reciprocity in LOVE. Eternal love between Krishna and Radhey is the best example of this sort of a friendship.
It should never be forgotten that our Creator loves us immensely. If we take one step in loving Him, He reciprocates us with ten steps and bestow His blessings. This love is all encompassing and eternal in its manifestation makes our body, mind and soul pure. This also happens when we lead a spiritual oriented lifestyle along with following positive orientation in our loves. Our Soul is the link with Super Soul and a pure mind has connectivity with Him, then we become hugely detached from worldly possessions.
Good souls have been preaching for ages, “love is key to all doors”. Even Krishna has adhered to this belief in Bhagavad Gita; he quotes, “The only way you can conquer me is through Love and there I am gladly conquered”.
LOVE AT OUR HOUSEHOLDS
This love is generated at our homes between our love ones; parental love, brotherly love, sisterly love including our friend circles. The catalyst for love is our memories which we develop while living with our kith and kin in our households. This is a natural love and we are ready to do anything required for our relatives and friends. It is a necessary that we not only show our love but also practice the same in real terms and space.
This love originates from our attraction, based purely on infatuation and body attraction. Although this sort of love is generated by mutual trust, belief, respect for each other views on reciprocal basis, standing by the love ones in good and not so good days. This sort of love matures with time and catalyst of love is our body magnetism.
LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
We must have heard the sentence; Love at first sight. This sort of love may or may not be true love but if it succeeds. This sort of a love is quite enduring and long lasting since it is based on heart-to-heart connect without much credence to caste, creed, religion, region or any other narrow considerations.
Love at first love is primal love that comes as a natural instinct for most people. It’s a passionate love displayed through physical affection. These romantic behaviors include, but are not limited to, kissing, hugging and holding hands and appreciating each other. This love is a desire for another person’s physical body.
This love originates with welling of our emotions especially in the at the ab-initio stage of relationship. This is based on playful behavior, just childlike, for a joyful living with each other and for each other. All this is with an intention of eliciting response and thereby love for each other.
LOVE BASED ON OBSESSION OR INFATUATION
I felt immensely dismayed when I viewed a news item on the television that one person tried to kidnap a girl in one of our states. When she resisted, she was shot dead. Afterwards, I came to know that this ill-tempered, ill-mannered and immoral person was having one sided love for the girl. Her resistance resulted in killing of the hapless girl. This is the case of obsessive or love based on infatuation. More often than not, this sort of love is one sided. So much so is the infatuation or possessiveness as though the other person is a material to be possessed anyhow. Also, if his wishes are not met the concerned person does not get then that person in madness tries to harm the person; kills, maims, throws acid with a motive to harm or do anything and everything with whom he/she is obsessive with. Ulterior motive is the intent for this sort of a compulsive love. It shows that the individual concerned have exaggerated sense of importance and in order to satiate his desire, stoops too low, even adopt unethical and immoral course.
First of all, the one who loves himself/herself loves others too. And this self-love originates from soul and affectionate love is catalyzed by our mind. A love which is catalyzed and originated or provoked from our soul and heart is sacrosanct and such a love could be our love for our Creator – the Omnipotent and Omniscient One who loves us immensely without any expectation from us. This also is our love for our parents, grand-parents, spouses, fast friends, brotherly love or sisterly love etc. It encompasses all other loves since a person who loves himself/herself will certainly be able to assess and respect others needs and by extension love others. Since this sort of love originates from mind, heart and soul, therefore, iy is more significant for everybody.
LOVE YOURSELF AND THEN YOU WILL LOVE OTHERS TOO
The key to inner peace is self-awareness. It starts in a person after he compassionately loves himself and everyone around him. The purest form of love is without strings attached. it helps one liberate from materialistic and emotional needs while respecting his/her partner’s needs and expectations. Krishna desired to make people around himself conscious, he called upon people to love him with the aim of making them self-aware, and void of emotional as well as materialistic need. Various epics and teachings also claim that unhappiness stems from worldly, emotional and materialistic orientation. In epic Mahabharata, Krishna with his divine love said, “What ineffable joy does one find through Love of me (Krishna), the blissful Atman. Once that joy is realized, all earthly pleasures fade into nothingness.”.
MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER OFFSPRING
We all are aware that when a mother carries her child in her womb, the mother and the child are one. The child breath the same air, eats the same food and have all the metabolic processes together, There is no ego between a mother and the child as they are having the same identity. The mother loves the child unconditionally while bringing the child up. Nothing comes in the way of love between mother and child since the child is having pure heart, pure soul/spirit and also bereft of any ego. In other words, there is a seamless bond between the child and the mother. But as the child grows up, the child develops its own identity, own ego, attitude, habits, etc. The child is influenced by peer group, formal and informal institutions and environment in which he/she is living. Also, we cannot dispute the impact of value system which a child gets from the parental love and affection but dilution in the love takes place as a child grows up and passes from one stage to other.
PRAYER TO SYNERGIZE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN BROTHER AND SISTER ON 16TH NOVEMBER 2020
A festival to strengthen the relationship Between the brother and sister Wherein a Tilak (Mark) which is put on the forehead of brother By sister with utmost love and affection With prayers to the God, so sincerest To bestow abundant graces to both With prayers on her lips for the long life of his brother In return, the brother promises to be at her beck and call, when needed In all her good and not so good days in her life Though parental blessings remain for both always. This being an important annual festival of repute Which bestows strength to the relationship between the brother and sister Besides being a reminder to both That there exists somebody who could be banked At all times when needed Hence our prayers too are there to God To provide synergy to the brotherly and sisterly love So that there exists a solid bond of relationship Between brother and sister And also peace and harmony for the entire family The sister may be together with the family while not married Or married and living a a distant place After having left the household after marriage. This brotherly and sisterly bond Could be with biological or blood relation It could also be with not real brothers and sisters Where cementing factor is God ordained love and affection Generated from inner recesses of heart.
A FESTIVAL FOR CONSOLIDATING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SISTERS AND BROTHERS
Every society has a particular day which is commemorated as a reminder that there is somebody to care for us and provide synergy to the relationship. It is may Father’s Day, Mother’s Day and also for other relations but the moot point is to provide strength to the relationship and by extension the family too. But BHAI DOOJ is the consolidation of relationship between brothers and sisters. This day serves as a reminder to both brother and sister that there exists somebody to bestow needed protection to sister while living in the community in which we are living, it is also essential that we consolidate our bonds/relationships within the family and outside the family fabric. For cementing the relationship and solidifying the same we have Rakhi Festival and also Bhai Dooj.
On 16th NOVEMBER 2020 is the brother and sister when we have Bhai Dooj wherein the sisters apply Tilak (a mark of vermilion) , consisting of a mix of flowers and sandoor (vermilion) on the foreheads of their brothers suffusing with love and affection after sincere prayers to Almighty God for His bountiful graces to both.
This festival is celebrated in the entire North India and falls on the second day of Vikrami Samvat New Year – the first day is celebrated as Goverdhan Puja wherein the people worship the Goverdhan Parvat (Mountain), situated South of Virandavan and Gokul (U.P) where Lord Krishana had created his Maya during his childhood period. Govardhan Parvat had saved the people of Gokal and the surrounding areas from the severe floods created by Rain God, Lord Indira. The complete area was inundated with flood water. Lord Krishana had saved the entire populace by taking them inside the Goverdhan Parvat after Lord Krishna picked had picked up part of Govardhan Parvat on his single little finger. In West Bengal, this Bhai Dooj is celebrated one day after Kali Pooja. In Maharashtra, it is termed as Bhai Beej.
LEGEND BEHIND BHAI DOOJ
There is a popular belief that after killing the evil Demon Narkasura the festival of Bhai Dooj had started. There is a legend that Lord Krishna had killed many demons who killed innocent people and spoiled the sacredness of Yajnas rites of the saints/hermits. In that one Demon named Narkasura was also known for his evil Karmic deeds was killed by Lord Krishna. After killing him, Lord Krishna visited his sister named Subhadra. She received him with warmth since he had exterminated a demon that used to create mayhem and spared none – men and women alike. She applied Tilak on his brother Lord Krishna. From that day onward this day is being celebrated as a remembrance of closeness of relationship between brothers and sisters.
RELATIONSHIP OF LORD OF DEATH LORD YAMA & YAMI
This day is also to remember the relationship which Lord Yama (The God of Death) and his sister Yami (The Yamuna river). This day is also termed as Yamadvitiya owing to this. Such is the importance of this day.
SIGNIFICANCE OF BHAI DOOJ
The festival of Bhai Dooj is considered important since it consolidates the relationship between brother and sister. The parents too participate in giving their blessings for the long life and prosperity of their offspring. Even in South India, this day is celebrated by different names.
On this festival, the brothers visit their sisters houses (if they are married) and the sister applies Tilak on the fore head of her brothers The sisters also offer them sweets and make tasty meals for them. Unmarried sisters too applies Tilaks on their brother after worshipping their family deities and other deities in presence of the entire family members,
THE PURPOSE OF CELEBRATING BHAI DOOJ
The main purpose of celebrating the festival is to strengthen the bond of relationship between the brothers and the sisters. The brother promises his sister to protect her from any misfortune and the sister prays to Almighty God for peace, prosperity, security and long life of their brother. All the members of the family await this day with enthusiasm; especially brothers and sisters as this is also construed as the family reunion for some of them.
The following is the purpose of this festival:-
Brothers makes a solemn promise to their sisters to bestow safety and security of the sisters against any misfortune that may befall them in life.
The sisters prays to God with all the sincerity for gracing his brothers with long life, peace and prosperity.
The parents wish the both the sisters and the brother all the best in life. Their blessings are always there for both.The brothers give their sisters gifts as per their capabilities.
This being the annual festival after Diwali, it has special significance to cement the relationship in the families.
Those brothers and sisters who are far away and are not able to come to their homes, the sisters pray to moon for its blessings for granting long life, prosperity and peace to their brothers.
During this festival too, there is no religion tag. The girls from Hindu religion put Tikka on their brethren of other religions just to consolidate the feeling of togetherness and brotherhood. It is similar to Rakhi festival.
May sincere prayer is that this like festival may be repeated many a times to create a feeling of warmth, harmony and peace between different religion.
THOUGHTS ON DIWALI DIWALI – THE FESTIVAL OF LIGHTS IN COVID-10 PANDEMIC SITUATION(ON 14TH NOVEMBER 2020)
While we do not aspire for worldly possessions But live with satisfaction Which could be due to inner potency Comes out just involuntarily Graced by God Almighty Without any shred of doubt, which generates a feeling of joy Because whence we have inner tranquility We become immune to outer adverse influences This moment of glory dawns due to Almighty God’s blessings These graces and bounties do spur us to take on any life’s challenges Which fate throws at us un-askance But one thing is however certain We learn resilience, tolerance and persistence From the adverse experiences faced by our incarnations –Lords Ram, Krishna, Jesus Christ, Prophet Mohammad, Guru Nanak Dev & all others And how best they withstood everything just silently without a demur Presenting us humans examples how best to face the challenges by us humans.
As always, Diwali is celebrated with thoughts so pious From this day we can learn so many lessons if we care to learn Firstly a leaf from the life of Lord Rama Who obeyed the orders of his father King Dhashratha To go on exile for fourteen long years To spend these many years in the jungles And withstand all the sufferings posed by the elements in the forests Infested with demons so ferocious Away from the life’s comforts of palace Do the offspring of today have the same sort of spirit? To obey the orders of the parents with the same strength of mind
Thence, so our children have the toughness to face the challenges of our existence? Which Lord Rama along with Lakshmana and Maa Sita faced with mental toughness Our youth just wilt under pressure while facing challenges thrown in life!
Then the way Lord Rama treated his subjects while he took was crowned as a King of Ayodhya There is a clear message He commanded respect from his subjects For his justice and evenhandedness He treated his subjects and his kith and kin equality which administrating justice That is why his rule was termed as RAM RAJYA Where everybody enjoyed respect and freedom to air his/her view without fear of anybody Here there was one instance wherein he proved his impartiality On coming to know that there was a whispering campaign About the purity of his consort Sita staying in Lanka of demon king Ravana While he came to know of this, he ordered to leave Sita in the forest Though he suffered much pain for doing so.
Then one of the finest lessons which we get from his life Is about fulfilling promises made while living our life He believed in the dicum: RAGUKUL REET SADHA CHALI AAYI PRAN JAYE PAR BACHAN NA JAYE Meaning, he preferred death if the promises are not fulfilled with fullest sincerity.
The Diwali day begins with fond prayers To Lord Rama for his bounties and graces in the form of peace and prosperity.
Shri Ram, Maa Sita with brother Lakshmana Had come back to Ayodhya To their own subjects and relatives so close After 14 years of exile After finishing the evils In the form of Demon King Ravana. Because this is the day of Diwali A day when Shri Ram had come back from his 14 years exile.
A lesson for us who with everything Graced by our Creator With all the comforts of our own homes to live With all the security and everything else graced Due to His blessings indeed Even then we nurture fear so hidden On variety of dilemmas Which are eating us from within And robbing us of the peace of mind Thereby earning for us in the process The depression and stress related ailments And robbing us of happy and joyful moments Instead of ‘peace and prosperity.
If we try to live a life of satiety With whatever we are graced with by our Bhagwan Ji We shall have peace and prosperity, surely This happens when we enjoy celebrating Every small or big happenings Which come and go in our lives And remain enriching our mind and soul Thus enlightening us in the process And giving us peace and prosperity By living a life GITA’S SONG directed existence ‘What we brought when we were born her on this earth And will not be taking anything when we leave this earth What we have is given here ONLY What did you lost that you cry for? What did you bring that you have lost?……
Then if we lose something why we should nurture fear psychosis With everything graced by the God’s grace We’re living a life of unfounded fears Which cannot be expressed in simple words But are gnawing us every moment without any solace A life lived without fear of unknown Robs us of mental peace and satiety Which we wish others on the auspicious day My prayer to our Almighty God Bestow us with peace of mind An eternal one So that we can bring a smile On our fellow-beings faces Like all are having and wishing others ‘PEACE & PROSPERITY’ The one who wishes us well is a richest living human on this earth Since he has got everything to give with a smile Oozing with happiness and joy aplenty Without much expectations from any This dawns when we wish other well On not merely on Diwali Day But also on all the days which dawn. DIWALI – A SACRED FESTIVAL OF LIGHT AND SOUND
Literally, the word DEEPVALI contain two syllables meaning; deep – Wick light and vali a row and together it means a row of lights (earthen) wicks. After the end of Lord Ram’s 14 long years of exile, winning over the ‘Sone Ki Lanka – GOLDEN LANKA’ and killing the demon King Ravana; with it all his evil Karmic deeds; Lord Rama, accompanied with his brother Lashmana and consort Sita and all his followers including Hanumanji (A reservoir of strength, knowledge and intelligence, courageous but without even a touch of pride, an epitome of Bhakti and Shakti – despite all these qualities he considered himself to be the humble servant of Lord Rama).
CELEBRATING DIWALI DAY IN COVID-19 PANDEMIC
In essence, while I wish all PEACE & PROSPERITY on the occasion of DIWALI, it is my fond hope, expectation and fervent appeal that all of us should celebrate this auspicious DIWALI DAY by spreading smiles rather than become instrument of spreader of COVID-19 pandemic infection by observing all the norms like social distancing, putting on face masks etc. Also, we should not burst crackers since the pollution level in Delhi NCR is all time high which becomes a cause of lung related diseases. We should always keep in mind the most compassionate and most benevolent life of Lord Rama while he ruled Ayodhya or while he was constrained to spent his 14 years (on the bidding of his father King Dhashratha) in exile with simple and austere lifestyle, just living on forest fruits and herbs; bereft of any palace comforts. Following Lord Ram’s life, we can also make of life humble, compassionate and above all humane besides his adaptive lifestyle along with Hanuman Ji and his monkey forces who fought the demons of King Ravana and his forces and thus became an instrument in eliminating the evil by killing the evil demons.
When Lord Rama reached Ayodhya, he was accorded a rousing reception/ welcome by the happy populace there. They welcomed all who accompanied Lord Ram by lighting their homes and streets of Ayodhya with earthen wicks. The righteous emperor Bharata, the virtuous one coronated his elder brother Rama to the throne of Ayodhya.
A STERLING EXAMPLE OF OBEDIENCE
The king of Ayodhaya Dhashratha, had made a solemn vow to his wife Kalkkeyi to ask for two boons or promises whenever she felt a need of the same when she had saved him from a certain critical situation. While there was a confirmed news that the king wanted Ramji to be coroneted as the king, Manthra the maid servant of KaIkeyi poisoned the ears of the queen Kaikeyi and exhorted her to ask for realization of two promises given to her by the king.
First the coronation for Bharata (Kaikeyi’s son) and second, 14 years’ exile for Rama (the son of Kaushilya). As there was the motto in the family since ages together: – Raghukul Reet Sada Chali Aayi Puran Jaaye Par Bachan Na Jaye (There is a tradition in Raghukul that their members will prefer death rather than to break a promise), so Ayodhya king had to concede the demands of Kaikeyi though with heavy heart/resentfully.
After hearing about the turn of events (Coronation for Bharata and exile for him), Rama did not say even a single word. Contrarily, he put on the simplest dress to depart for exile, thus obeying the directive of his father without demur or reservation. Sitaji (consort of Ramji and Lakshamana (his brother – the son of Sumitra) too accompanied Ram Ji. This is a fine example of obedience of the orders of elders in the family. We ought to imbibe this fine trait of Lord Rama and thus follow a righteous path in our lives too.
FINE EXAMPLE OF COHESION IN THE FAMILY
As Bharata came to know about the 14 years’ exile to Rama and coronation for himself, he felt very disappointed. He flatly refused to be crowed as a king of Ayodhya in the absence of elder brother Rama and Lakshmana. No arguments of any sort could consol him. He thought this act of being emperor as adharam (irreligiosity). He even went to the jungles in order to persuade Rama and Lakshmana to come back to Ayodhaya but Rama did not agree to this because of the promise of his father. The meeting between Lord Rama and Bharata is termed as Bharat Milap. He could not convince Lord Rama to come back to Ayodhya and rule.
LOVE BETWEEN BROTHERS
Finally, Bharata extracted a promise from Ramji that on his return back from 14 years’ exile, he will take the reigns as an emperor. Such was the love between the brothers – an unparallel one. Rama’s love for Bharta was also an example that ought to be followed by brothers now for ensuring goodwill in our families. Wealth or any other consideration should not be an impediment for a good relations in our families.
IF KNOWLEDGE IS NOT USED WITH WISDOM IT WILL NOT SERVE ANY PURPOSE
Ravana, the Demon King, was most Learned Demon King. Ravana, the son of Vishwashrava (A Brahman Rishi) and his mother Kaikasi (from a demon family) was a scholarly person who had the knowledge of Vedas and other scriptures at his finger tips but he is taken in negative light because he did not make use of this knowledge for the benefit of demon clan. But Ravana was intoxicated with his prowess and knowledge. So much so he was influenced by ego that he stooped to the sordid act of abducting Sita Mata the consort of Lord Rama – by deceit, an evil act by any reckoning. It goes to prove that if we do not use the knowledge with sagacity, we sure will fall prey to unethical karma leading to our sure downfall.
Kuber is the step brother of Ravana and is considered as the treasurer of wealth. It is believed amongst the devout that worship of Lord Kubera, especially on the auspicious day of Diwali, brings affluence and progress in business. Just as we can have fresh water from the fresh water reservoir, we can have Lord Kubera’s blessings for wealth and prosperity. If we pray with sincereity and work hard for that we can get Kuber’s bounties. Meaning, he bequeaths wealth if we sincerely do our karma as per the natural laws. He graces those who resort to righteous karma and possess right attitude in life. Kubera pooja is done on Diwali Day so that there is sufficiency of everything for meeting the needs of our family.
LORDESS LAKSHMI & LORD GANESHA POOJA
Diwali is considered incomplete without first inviting the Lord Ganesha because He is an embodiment of good beginning and removes obstacles besides being the Lord of Wisdom. Goddess Lakshmi represents wealth and well being. On the auspicious day of Diwali, both the deities share a single altar thus ensuring blessings of the both. The former is taken as Lordess of wealth and the latter as the giver of prosperity.
GAMBLING ON DIWALI DAY
A legend has it that on Diwali Day Goddess Parvati played dice with Lord Shiva and He ordained that anyone who gambled on this day, prosperity will smile on such a person. This tradition continues even today. But some unscrupulous / unethical people just gamble away their homes and hearths on this day and have to fend for themselves. This is bad. Tradition is alright, but excess of everything is bad should be kept in mind.
TRADITION MARRYING WITH MODERNITY
It should never be forgotten that when tradition marries with modernity, the celebration is double whammy. It may be the celebration of festivals or any other day important individually, it gives us feeling of wellness for our fellow beings. But this celebration should never be individualistic in nature. There is more credence to celebration when all feel happy and satiated. May it be celebration of Diwali, Christmas Day, EID or any other religious day – when all accompany us, celebration becomes more meaningful and eventful in true sense of terms.
NO CRACKERS PLEASE THIS YEAR TOO
Due to the extreme pollution caused due to heavy smog cause due to burning of rice stubble and its waste. This pollution in the atmosphere becomes the cause of lung related diseases. Furthermore, the Covid19 pandemic infection will also increase due to this pollution. It has been seen that as on today the Covid-19 infection in our capital Delhi is spreading like wildfire. therefore, we have to do everything to control pollution. Factually, the bursting of crackers produce too much pollution in the atmosphere, hence the only remedy is to prevent bursting of crackers.
There are umpteen ways of celebrating Diwali. It is lighting our home with candles, earthen wicks etc. But cracker bursting and spoiling the atmosphere is too bad. Therefore, care ought to be taken that we should not all use crackers since these results in pollution which becomes cause for lung related diseases.
DHANTERAS ON 13TH NOVEMBER 2020 – A FESTIVAL OF PEACE & PROSPERITY
The beauty of all the festivals is that each of these festivals have special message for us humans. It may be Eid, Christmas Day, Diwali or any other festival. Dhanteras too has a message that if we earn our living by adopting sincere and honest methods, wealth, prosperity and wellness will flow in abundance.
The word Dhanteras is derived from Dhan meaning wealth and Teras means thirteenth. In other words, the people on this day, people purchase gold, silver ornaments or any other precious metal wares as per the purchasing power of an individual concerned.
Dhanteras marks the beginning of the festival of Diwali Festival. It coincides with Trayodashi Tithi (Thirteenth) of the Krishna Paksha of the Hindu lunar month of Kartik. Goddess Lakshmi, Lord Dhanvantari the Lord Kubera (God of wealth), and Yamraj (God of Death) are worshipped.
This year, there is a confusion about the date of Dhantares. Some are of the opinion that this festival is on 12th November or 13th November As per the calculations, the festival is on 13th November. On this day, Hindu worship Dhanvantari, who is considered as the God of wealth as well as Ayurveda so as to rid the humanity of diseases. This day too would be celebrated as the National Ayurveda Day.
WORSHIP OF GODDESS OF WEALTH – MAA LAKSHMI
On this day The Goddess of Wealth, Maa Lakshmi is worshiped – with a sincere prayer to Maa to shower her graces on the entire family so that all the members of the family remain blessed with health and wellness. As she is the Goddess of opulence and wellness, those who worship her with utmost sincerity are graced by her optimally. With his point in view, the devout worship her for earning her graces.
LORD KUBERA WORSHIPED FOR MATERIAL PROSPERITY AND WELLNESS OF THE FAMILY
Besides, Lord Kuber, the step-brother of Demon King Ravana and the true owner of Golden Lanka is the treasurer of the precious metals.. He was driven out of Lanka by Demon King Ravana, his half brother. Kubera got the status of God in Puranas. He is the Lord of wealth and wellness. He is also considered as the protector or Lokapala. On this auspicious day, houses and business establishments are spruced for earning his blessings. It is not only Hindus who worship him, Jains and Buddhistis too worship him for prosperity and wellness of their families.
WORSHIP OF LORD YAMA (THE LORD OF DEATH) FOR FOLLOWING THE PATH OF DHARMA
Lord Yama or Yamraj is worshiped on this day for our longevity, good health while following the path of Dharma.
Lord Yama is assigned the responsibilities of maintenance of moral duty or upkeeping Dharma. In this, he looks after how best the mortal beings adopt self-restraint and follow the path of Dharma. He is one of the protectors (Lokpala). He is shown to carry a stick (Danda) to enforce the rules of Dharma. His vahan *vehicle) is shown as a buffalo. He is the Lord of Death who keeps a tab of births and deaths along with the way we perform Karmic deeds or misdeeds etc. In this, he is assisted by Chitragupta to record all the Karma performed by all of us.
WHY WE REQUIRE HEALTH, WEALTH AND WELLNESS?
In life everybody requires wealth according to ones needs and aspirations. For possession of wealth we need for subsistence. This possession of wealth depends on the propensity to earn according to our capability and job we perform. Then there is question of how much of material possessions we need for meeting our needs; for meeting expenditure on our family, the expenditure on our children’s education, for construction of our house etc. All these are necessary for everybody for living a honourable life. In this Goddess Lakshmi bestows us bountiful graces if we offer her prayers with utmost sincerity.
For earning wealth we require to meet our daily expenditure, it is important that we remain hale and hearty so as to put in long hours of work. For being healthy, we require health giving diet and have to perform exercises for keeping the body fit. All this could happen if we devote some of time in prayers and especially on this day Maa Lakshmi is the prime-mover – for giving us health, wealth and wellness.
WHY WE PURCHASE PRECIOUS METALS ON THIS DAY?
For earning our living and having good health, we have to put in our best efforts and then destiny too plays its part. For this, we have to have spiritual oriented life. DHANTERAS is a festival of purchasing something precious such as gold coin, silver coin, house utensils based on our need and our capacity to spend. The price of precious metals appreciates and could act as a security. Security in the sense that we can sell the precious metal and have our emergent needs fulfilled.
A class apart from others, Whose reflection in the life’s mirror, Exhibit vividly classy image so clear, Without any spot or blur, With ease, we can grasp their selflessness, Deeply ingrained in them is greatness, They mix with the surrounding so easily, That even the powerfully poised bestow them the coveted place so respectfully, Will jump to action when others need – without demur, Ever full of verve and dynamism, To lead the battle of life from front, Selflessness is the service they render for others, Without exception bereft of expectation at all, Not by exertion of pressure at command, But by gentle persuasion, Service with a smile with nothing in return, They are responsible for facing any challenge of the day, Together with his men they accomplish the job at hand, Use heart and soul to lead their mind, Selfless feel the people’s pulse fully, What they actually need the most, They take credit or discredit, What their men do or not do, They are where the action exist, Not at a place where rewards are disbursed, Listen to what your men want from them, Not what you require from them, Those who work for us honestly deserve our praise without pre-condition, Heart and soul put together helps to lead from the front, Being selfless is hardest task, tough call indeed, Never say die for anything under the sun O God, the Creator of all things I beseech Thee to increase the tribes with self-less mindset.
Because the selfish are weaklings and cannot stand any heats, Of challenges thrown by life’s challenges, Since they fear them and spurn challenges, Such people want reward for doing even little things, Deception is their hallmark, To take credits for others laurels, Without accepting any blame for wrong doings Done willfully but not accepting for having done so.
SELFISHNESS VERSUS SELFLESSNESS
In life we come across people who know how change in the changed environs annd how and where their bread could better be buttered. They may even steal / borrow / forcibly take the butter from somebody else to put on their bread thus leaving the hapless owner hungry! This though is a selfish trait – a negative one at that.
There are people who are bedeviled with excessive lust, greed and anger. These three negative traits come in the way of imbibing divine qualities like LOVE, TRUTH, GOODNESS et al. Nearness to these negative qualities takes us farthest from ULTIMATE TRUTH: GOD.
Whenever man is tempted to take something which legitimately is not his, it is called covetousness due to his selfish nature. He is carried away by his own impulses without caring for others. By doing so, he injures the society for his own wellbeing. In his views, his self-existence is more than the existence of others. A person with selfish motives always considers his interests uppermost and for getting those interests satisfied he would go all out, taking others’ lives even! Is this not happening every day? He transgresses codes of human behaviour, which regulates the behaviour of humans.
No power of reason can transform his self-centered approach for satisfaction/aggrandizement of his desires. He is carried away by his own impulses and temptations without carrying for the society at large. In other words, it could be said that for getting his selfish ends fulfilled, that persons adopts all sorts of means / stratagems in his command.
In our daily lives, we are witness to selfishness in our lives:-
• Family Members working at cross purposes to garner cheap points bordering on selfish motives browbeating others in the bargain.
• SOCIAL MEDIA working with the sole aim of enhancing TRP at any cost without thinking about the consequences of the scoops on the hapless victim if the story is incorrect.
• SOME PRESENT DAY CRICKETERS spoiling the gentlemen’s game by their greed not just bordering on selfishness but immorality too; by indulging in cricket spot–fixing – scandals which has tarnished the image of the cricket and the cricketers irretrievably!
• Some religious priests and present day Gurus following baser selfish methods to earn name and fame for themselves, sometimes going against the teachings of religious philosophy while teaching others to follow ethical and moral ways of life.
Need of the hour is to quaff the nectar of selflessness from Divine cup. Selflessness qualities which are good for self and for the society at large are to be adopted in our daily lives. Efforts should also be made to shun demon like, baser selfish qualities. It is the conscience which should be made responsible to be on the guard for maintaining and imbibing selfless attitudes for our personal gain spiritually.
While experiencing lives ups and downs and enjoying every moments, we should always remember that this life of ours is the most precious gift of Almighty God and we should always live a life of selflessness since it will earn us KARMIC CREDIT for us which will ultimately cleanse our SOUL thus would live a balanced life enjoying every moment of life.
It is ingrained in human nature To give advice to others On topical subjects variously To be followed sincerely But question pops us in our fertile mind Whether advice giver Follows the same advice himself So clearly given by such individual Because giving a piece of advice Is the easiest one indeed But to follow it up till its conclusive end Is patently hard Thence the receiver’s mood To follow advice too counts His mind may be made up To act as per his freewill! In other words We follow advice of others As per our own convenience
And as per our own conscience And also according to our own pleasure! As advice has got no binding To be followed or to be spurned if we are not willing To follow it up to its fruition. Thence there are the advices Which are based on hard facts And experiences of personage with wisdom aplenty Gained over a period of time of working constantly These advices are the lucky charms of our lives Which can bring about positivity With the change in our attitude And make huge difference in our lives. Then principles enshrined in the religious texts Are the ocean of knowledge Which if followed in letter and spirit Can have indelible impression on our spirit Besides inculcating in us the positive thoughts for our Karmic deeds Along with connectivity with the Almighty God indeed.
ON GIVING ADVICE AND ACTING ON THE SAME
WE TEND TO CONSIDER OTHERS BAD
French Philosopher and thinker Sartre has rightly said: ‘Evil is the other.’ It is human nature to brand others culprit rather than introspecting that there lies the evil in the mind of the doer. In other words, the evil doer will preach or counsel others to follow goodness in the day and commit heinous crimes at night time thinking that others may not be knowing about his actions of omissions and commissions. Even the cruelest of all will not consider . Hitler did not care who suffered the most as long as he could push his agenda what he wanted. There are such similar cases too.
WE ACCEPT ADVICE ACCORDING TO OUR CONVENIENCE
We must have come across some individuals who do not want to follow others advice even if the same is beneficial to them. Reasons for this may be any. It may be due to our ego coming our way with a question; how such and such individual can advice me. Secondly, we may not have willpower to accept the advice of others. Thirdly, we may be in our comfort zone and we do not want to change regardless of how it affects others. Besides, we fail to see our faults and it is easier to preach than to follow.
DUALITY IN OUR LIVING
We must have observed that lives of some of the known Gurus or preachers who give lofty sermons on simple living and high think to be followed by the masses but they themselves lead a lavish lifestyle, without much care for others wellness. Such people lead a dual lives.
OUR EGOCENTRIC TENDENCY PREVENTS US FROM FOLLOWING OTHERS ADVICE
Sometimes our excessive self-importance becomes a hindrance in our path to follow truth – a question may pop-up in our mind as to why we should listen others advice. Or may be an attitude of ‘holier than thou’ a thought characterized by an air of superior piety or morality than others. There may arise some questions in our mind; Who is he to give us sermons and why we should follow his advise etc?
GIVING ADVICE IS EASIER THAN FOLLOWING IT
It is because speaking is easier than listening and subsequently taking action on that advice.. For a thought process to be made applicable in our lives, it is necessary that we analyze the thought; whether the particular thought is good for us or just a outmoded account and not applicable in the presently.
FOR AN ADVICE TO BE EFFECTIVE WE HAVE TO CHANGE FROM WITHIN
It has been experienced that one of the easiest thing in our life is to lecture others but when the question of making the same lecture applicable in our life, it is a bit hard since we have to have change from within our own self.
WHEN DO WE FOLLOW AN ADVICE HONESTLY
Once our mind has held on the view of others’ advise then we act on the same. Therefore, listening others with engrossed attention will pay huge dividends while listening half-heartedly will bring about half results on following advice. While Arjuna was filled with doubts he turned to Lord Krishna for advice to come out of the all pervading confusion. Advice given to Arjuna by Lord Krishna is the subject of entire Bhagvad Gita.
One of the most well-known advice given by Lord Krishna was: You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty. Lord Krishna said that whenever there is predominance of irreligious and decline in virtue, He comes to eliminate the evil.
SPIRITUAL FORWARD MOVEMENT WILL UNIT US WITH OUR LORD
When we perform our duty with determined efforts and with utmost sincerity then this duty is termed as the Yoga of Karma and bestows us inner peace and stillness. This will also open path for our unity with God.
FORGIVING AND FORGETTING ARE DIFFICULT BUT HAVE ULTIMATE VALUE
It has been experienced that when somebody treats us shabbily, it is natural we feel slighted. Rather than giving somebody in the same coin, if we adopt the attitude of forgiving and forgetting, this attitude will make huge difference to our inner peace and tranquility.
NATURAL AND UNNATURAL WORK
It has been observed that we perform our natural work with utmost sincerity with our free will and havind done that natural work, we get utmost satisfaction. But when we perform a job which is at variance with our character or our nature it is bad in laws of the land and is not in sync with the natural laws. The unnatural work carries stigma of unethical work culture. Therefore, it should be our sincere endeavor to perform our natural work only, and if possible, remaining away from doers of unnatural work.
NOT TO BE OVER-AMBITIOUS
Essentially, ambition is the basic tenet of human nature, and rightly so, everybody should be ambitious. But ambition too has got its limit. We should not be over-ambitious. When we cross the threshold then problem arises. This situation results when we want to excel others by adopting ethical or unethical means. We also know that man is constantly at war with his adversaries at work place. It is relevant for individuals as well as countries who get excited and create untanable situation even on filmiest pretex. The war between Armenia and Azerbaijan for occupation of Nagorno-Karabakh has resulted in deaths and destructions on both sides. Then there are the countries with hegemonic attitude with the use of force knowing full well that it goes against the spirit of good neighbourly relationship. We should never forget the two World Wars which brought about untold miseries to the countries concerned.
STRONGER THE CHALLENGE THE STRONGER WE EMERGE
Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes we face stronger challenges. Those who break down under the stresses and strains of challenges just perish but the ones who are determined to face and experience challenges head on succeed and come out unscathed. I do have faced difficult situations and conditions. The more the difficult situation, the more determinedly I faced the situation with total belief on self and Almighty God. Therefore, my advice is to be steadfast and face the situation rather than running away from it.
ADVICE TO SHUN THINGS WHICH ARE OF IMPERMANENT VALUE
Then, whenever we aspire For lust for sense objects, the inclination for sense objects gives rise to anger, greed and lust for worldly possessions. All these result in confused memory, which results in ruin of reason and when there is no reason man finally perishes.
REMAINING CALM AND QUITE WITH UTMOST FOCUSSED ATTENTION EVEN IN WORST SITUATION AND CONDITION
When we get agitated on any given situation, we cannot have focus on the project in hand. No focus means performing our job in a lack luster manner. The result of this action would not be as sound as done while with peace of mind and with utter calmness – putting undivided attention to the job in hand. In Bhagwad Gita it has been rightly said: He, by whom the world is not agitated and whom the world cannot agitate, he who remains calm in times of joy, anger, fear and anxiety is most dear to the Lord. It can be said that such a person will put full concentration on the project in hand.
PERFORMING OUR JOB WITHOUT MUCH GIVING CREDENCE TO THE FRUITS OF OUR ACTION
It has been observed that whenever we put in our efforts in doing something, our main focus on the destination or result of our action. By so doing, we tend to ignore the nets and bolts or small details which are essential for fructification of our efforts. Sound advice on this is that we should put more stress on how best we put our focus on the journey and the pin-pricks which may arise during our efforts rather than on the result. By performing actions without attachment, one attains the highest: Bhagwad Gita.
DOING OUR DUTY WITH THE ACTIVE PARTICIPATION OF OUR GOD
When we put in our best with self-belief and with utmost self-belief, we tend to have smooth sailing in any project we are undertaking even at present Covid-19 pandemic lockdown situation. No situation is as insurmountable if we have belief on God for our deliverance at any given situation and condition.
SELF-AWARENESS OR SELF-REALIZATION IS MUST FOR OUR HOLISTIC GROWTH
Those who know themselves known others too should never be forgotten. In that, we should know our potentials and weak areas, while continuing making efforts to improve ourselves. There would be ups and downs in our lives but we should have belief that those who put in their best only succeed. Our most effort should be to remain exploring new vistas of knowledge and put the know-how into practice.
OUR LIFE IS BASED ON GIVE AND TAKE
It should always be kept in mind that we cannot have peace of mind if we remain in isolation. It takes two to tango and clapping happens when we strike our two hands. Therefore, best course of action for us would be to have mutual understanding – give sound advice and take sound advice and follow the same for mutual benefit
SHOWCASING OUR POWER AND STATUS
We should never showcase our power and status to the people. This would be construed as having egocentric tendencies and we are aware that this tendency is one of the prime negative traits that a person could possess.
HAVE THE TRAIT OF PATIENCE, TOLERANCE AND PERSISTENCE
When failure knocks our door, some of us just break under the pressure of failure. It should always be kept in mind that in life ups and downs are part of our existence. The wheels of fortune are sometime on the upswing and sometimes downswing. We should always keep in mind that patience and persistence in our honest and sincere efforts should never be lost sight of. Then sometimes, a time may come when we may face opposition, may be from the unexpected quarters, then our tolerance trait will come to our succor.
WE HAVE LIMITLESS CAPABILITIES TO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING IN OUR LIVES
It should always be kept in mind that we have the limitless power at our disposal provided we exploit the limitless inherent potentials by delving deep into ourselves, then and then only the reservoir of knowledge could be drawn. Here spiritual orientation, meditation and prayer could also play their part.
WHEN PERFORMING SINCERILY WE SHOULD NOT TAKE UNHEALTHY CRITICISM VERY SERIOUSLY
There are people who get finicky when somebody sometime criticizes his/her style of function at the workplace.. I think we should take healthy advice with a pinch of salt and if the criticism is not healthy or untenable then we should just forget and forgive the person who criticizes us. Becoming overly concerned solves no problem but may divert our focus on the job in hand.
NEVER TO BE JUDGEMENTAL
We are judgmental when we are critical in our thinking, behaving or while speaking in a tone which is critical in nature. In other words, we find fault in anything and everything even though the point of contention may not be critical. Also, a person who has this trait is reactive in general and picks holes where none exists. The other day one of our employees was very critical of me and even called me ‘unworthy’ because I did not toe his line of thought. But he was explained about the nuts and bolts of the problem in hand, he came round and appreciated the same point. This shows that a judgmental person gives more credence to his own thought percepts and thinks himself ‘more than equals’ and lambasts others left and right, sometimes, without thinking about the outcome of such reactive onslaught.
It is not that a person with judgmental mindset always is reactive. Sometimes, such a person goes deep into a problem and after a thorough introspection and analysis comes out with balanced solution of a knotty problem.
Being judgmental means to be distrustful on everything which happens, suspicious, intolerant, pessimist to the core, do not want to see good things in others, always sees the flaws in others while giving more importance to his own self, along with the tendency not to believe others. In other words, it is our way of resistance which compels us to behave in a particular way and the person concerned does not change that thought process.
NOTHING WORKS WITHOUT HARDWORK
It has rightly been said, ‘Hard work is a key to success’. The fruits of success are sweeter if it is attained through the sweat of our brow. We should, therefore, work hard in whatever useful work we do with concentration and with focused attention. In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said: Some perceive God in the heart by the intellect through meditation, others by the yoga of knowledge and still others by the yoga of work’.
LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES
It should never be forgotten that we being humans commit mistakes but we should always learn from the mistakes we commit. Our effort should be to not to repeat the mistakes committed. Then there are mistakes we commit unintentionally while at times people commit mistakes which has ethical and moral connotations for which we have to be responsible for the same and for which we have to bear the brunt of our mistakes. Repetition of these would both be criminal offence and sin too.
In the Bible it has rightly been said: For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.
O OMNIPOTENT & OMNISCIENT GOD WE PRAY FOR THY GRACES
OUR MARRIAGE ANNIVERSARY
With grace of God We tied our nuptial knot In the on 5th November 1977 At Samba in Jammu & Kashmir I reminisce still so vividly Whence, with the grace of God Almighty I and my beloved wife Kamal Tied the nuptial knot On this date My God! It is more than 43 years ago But seems as though it was only a few years ago! As per Hindu rites While the whole ceremony Took place With lighting of fire (Dhuni) With scented Havan Samagri Put in the sacred fire With sacred verses or hymns From Vedas are chanted I vividly remember The marriage vows To be fulfilled with utmost sincerity And honesty. First being prayer to God Almighty To bestow both of us enough provision for our nourishment So that we’re able to sustain ourselves and perform our duty With good health and holistic progress.
Second vow is to prayer to our revered God To bestow us twosome Needed strength And live our good or bad times together While performing our daily duties.
Third vow by way of prayer to Omniscient God To bestow us the blessings and graces For our peace and prosperity So that we live a life with harmony With Mother Divine.
Fourth vow and prayer to the Omnipotent God For standing by and supporting All the members of family In good and not so good times.
Fifth prayer to our beloved Almighty God To grace us with children With all the good traits And shall together Bring-up our children While giving them right value system Which are good for all the societies universally.
The sixth vow a sincere prayer to most venerated God To bestow them good health And keep them away from sickness So that the twosome Should be able to perform Their noble and divine deeds With the blessings of Almighty God.
Seventh one is also a sincere prayer to our Lord Is for bestowing them the grace For a longevity in the relationship With love and affection galore While standing by with each other In good and not so good times.
All the Seven Promises Echo in my ears Even today And both of us Have tried our utmost To live upto the vows We had taken Till date And will try Doing so Till our last breath Of course Together With the umpteen Graces of God Almighty.
AN INTRINSIC LOVE FESTIVAL CALLED KARVA CHAUTH ON 4TH NOVEMBER
Festival in any societies are numerous Some are to commemorate coming season While others are of National importance But there are the ones Which are of immense significance And prove to be a cementing factor for consolidation of relationships Between the partners in the household – the spouses Thus assist in uniting the hearts and souls Karva Chauth, in essence, is one such festival. Marriage is the most sacred institution With common rights and obligations Which differ based on religions and cultures Wherein the spouses Unite to fulfill a common purpose With interpersonal relationships With sanctified and sanctioned biological relations As per the cultural modes and traditions Unite to fulfill a common purpose Of procreation And then under their care steady evolution Of their progenies Different cultures follow different customs And cultural traditions To provide legal, social, financial Spiritual and support to each other effusing with emotions. There are varieties of traditional And cultural modes which are followed But each has the common purpose To enhance the emotional bonds Between the two spouses. As a reminder each year That they have common goal in hand To offer sincere prayer to Almighty God For longevity of life-span Of her husband The women folks observe strict fast on Karva Chauth Karva means an earthen pot It is tastefully painted While Chauth means day fourth A festival falling on fourth day of Krishna Paksh While a strict fast for the entire day is observed The women folks do not take anything Not even a drop of water to quench their thirst For this is the holiest day When the women folks pray to God To grant longevity to their husbands & entire family Along with peace and prosperity Besides good health and wellness aplenty So that all live a life full of care for each other While fulfilling the purpose of their lives This day too is considered as the sacred one To renew the promises made While solemnizing their marriages And thus establish a relationship Which could withstand any hardship Which may come in the way While the couples perform their multifarious functions as husbands & Wives For taking care of their family effectively With a common objective of transferring traditional modes Of behavior with rock-solid conviction That while good relationship between spouses is significant But when this happens with the blessings of our Lord, a tireless giver of gifts Our home becomes in reality a heaven on the earth Which cannot be compensated by anything tangible for us earthlings.
KARVA CHAUTH – A FESTICAL OF CONSOLIDATION OF RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SPOUSES
Karva means earthen pot (mainly a spherical earthen pot and paint the same with different colours so as to beautify it) and Chauth means fourth day – a festival which falls on the fourth day of fortnight or Krisha Paksh of the fourth day of Kartik (Full Moon – Poornima) according to Hindu Calendar. In some parts in India, wheat is kept in the Karva (pot) because of wheat sowing season (Rabi crop cycle). On this day women folks observe strict fast for the long life of their husbands along with pray for the peace and prosperity of their entire family.
CONGREGATION TO RELATE THE OLD-TIMES STORIES CONCERNING THE IMPORTANCE OF THIS DAY
The married women sit in a circular form, exchange their metal dishes (thalis) which contain prayer material (Puja samagri) and make-up materials along with a lightened earthen wick etc which is exchanged with other women sitting in the group. The married women also exchange their views on the taboos which are strictly observed during observance of strict fast lest something bad happens to their husbands. Women also relate old-times stories concerning the importance of this festival in the form of songs. These stories highlight the importance of this festival. In other words, this festival signifies the importance of love between husbands and wives – a festival for fostering bond of love between spouses. The main purpose is to showcase with utmost sincerity the importance of a spouse (Husband) in their lives. The songs are sung in the praise of Lord Shiva-Parvati (Shiv-Shakti) and Ganesha with traditional fervor and devotion to earn their bountiful blessings for the well-being of their husbands and in turn their families.
FESTIVAL FOR CONSOLIDATION OF RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SPOUSES
This festival symbolizes the consolidation of relationship between husband and wife and also with others in the family. Not only in the family, the married women consolidate their bond of friendship with other women in the neighborhood by making the common friends (Sahelis) with whom they exchange their beautification materials such as bangles, bindis, sandoor pot, ribbons etc. This shows the bond of friendship of feminine with not only their husbands but also other members in the household including the neighborhood.
Now-a-days, even the fiancés are observing fasts for their would-be-husbands for the safety and progress.
Karva Chauth is one such occasion on which the ladies observe fast for their men-folks for their wellbeing, pray to God for their longevity besides keeping the tradition which has long been observed in our society. The ladies observe fast without taking anything – means without taking water or any eatable till the fast lasts. This fast is observed very strictly. On this pious day, the ladies put on their best attires with ornaments and pray for their husbands’ long life and good health and wellness. In some cases, the husbands too observe strict fast from morning till it lasts.
ORIGIN OF THE FESTIVAL
On this festival is observed in Northern Part of India. It is believed that the grown up men-folk used to go for military campaigns leaving their families at home. Their wives prayed for their husbands for their return safely.
LEGENDS CONNECTED WITH KARVA CHAUTH
There was a woman named Karva. This woman was loyal to her husband. During bath in a water-body, her husband was caught by crocodile. Karva bound the crocodile with a cotton yarn prayed the Lord of Death Yama to spare her husband and send the Yama to hell for his misdeed. She was so much so devoted to her husband that the Lord of Death had to agree to her entreaties. Such is the effect of fast with purity of mind and soul. Also, it gives credence to the fact that if we perform anything with sincerity and singleness of purpose then we can have mystical results; which we least expect in our lives. On the other hand, if we perform any ritual or keep fast just because others are keeping fast so do we; by so doing, the very purpose of fast gets defeated.
STORIES ABOUND ABOUT OBSERVANCE OF FAST
There was a queen named Veervati. She observed fast while she was at her parents’ house. Due to strict observance of fast, she felt it very hard to be without water. Her seven brothers felt for the life of their sister and created an artificial moon. She took water due to which her husband died. She offered prayers to Lord Shiva and Parvati for restoration of the life of her husband since he died because of the fault of her brothers. With their grace, her husband’s life was restored. Lord Shiva and Lordess Parvati appeared in person to her and advised her to observe fast very strictly.
LEGEND CONNECTED WITH ARJUNA
There is also a legend connected with Arjuna and Draupti of Epic Mahabharta. While Arjuna had gone to the forests for his strict penance, Draupti observed strict fast due to which Arjuna’s task was achieved without much difficulty.
STORY OF SATYAVAN SAVITRI
The story of Satyavan Savitri is well known. She was one of the daughters of a king. She was very pious lady. She remained absorbed in meditation. She was more devoted to God due to which her father thought that she did not love him. He wanted to teach her a lesson. He married other daughters to the most suited grooms and she was married to a poor leper named Satyavan by his king father. Being of poor health he could not survive for more days. When Lord Yama came to get Satyavan’s soul, Savitri requested him to spare his husband’s life. He refused doing so. On that day she had observed a strict fast. While Lord Yama was taking the soul of her husband, she followed him. Finally, Lord Yama, after seeing the steadfast attitude of Savitri, asked her for a boon. She asked for nothing but the life of her husband which was ultimately granted by the God of Death.
OBSERVANCE OF STRICT FAST
The married women observe strict fast from the early morning hours, without taking anything including water. They take fenis (Made of wheat flour) along with some eatable water in the early morning (before sun rise) and subsequently observe fast for the complete day. The sargi is prepared by the mother-in-law. They pray for the safety of their husbands. They wait for till seeing the moon. They see their husband first before seeing the moon through a sieve. Then the husbands help their wives to take some water. The wives pray to the Moon God for the safety of their husbands and pray for their lives and also that they may shine like the Moon.
MARRIAGE AS A SACRED INSTITUTION IS THE HIGHLIGHT OF THIS FESTIVAL
Marriage as an institution functions to its optimum when both the spouses have the intention and inclination for its success. In this, both the spouses are equal partners. If one partner considers other one lowly and inferior then this institution totters and collapses under the weight of its contradictions. Marriage succeeds on the basis of understanding, compatibility, accommodation, no skepticism of any sort, be sympathetic to the need of other partner, be considerate and sympathetic to the pain of other partner and devising ways and means to alleviate such pain. This pain may be individual one or created due to some other emotional upsurges while performing multifarious functions in the family fabric. This emotional upsurge may also be due to either of the two partners’ parents related or based on some incidence which happened prior to the marriage. In other words, understanding other partner’s viewpoints and being a partner in assuaging, addressing or solving the problem consolidates the foundation of marriage as an institution.
My wife has been observing this festival for the last 41 years and I know how much love and affection we have for each other along with my love ones are having while following all these rituals from morning till late evening. Beya or gift is also given to mother-in-law by the wife and both of them (husband and wife) pray for her (Mother-in-law’s) long life.
PRAYER FOR GOOD WHEAT CROP
The wheat is kept in the earthen pot which coincides with the prayer for good wheat crops.
EXCHANGE OF MAKE-UP MATERIALS BETWEEN MARRIED WOMEN
The women in the evening hours collect in the courtyard and sing the praises of the deity for the safety and prosperity of their husbands. They also exchange gifts mainly the beautification materials or make-up materials (shringar) and other home- made sweets. All the women observing this fast put on their best dresses specially made for this festivals.
While ladies of the household observe the Karva Chauth strict fast as a festival and an annual celebration for the well-being of their spouses, it is in the fitness of things to draw out some lessons from their endurance, conditioning, steadfastness etc.
The married women keep fast, observing all the strict rules of this festival, not only not taking even a grain of food, fruits or even water during the observance of fast, we should all introspect, how much these special creations of our Creator without whom there would not be any continuation of civilization.
Then, why should we not do something tangible so as to empower women and should not take them as a second class citizens as some of us take them to be? Then there are the cases of rapes, maiming, throwing acid on the faces and even killing for not succumbing to their untenable pressure tactics. Special laws should be made in order to aware exemplary punishment for those who take law in their hands and exploit the women folks.
As men and women work for the wellness of their families, it is essential that both enjoy freedom of expression and action without coercion from any quarter. Nothing should be done to browbeat the women folks and slide them in any way.
It has been said that those households who do not treat women honorably and do not pay due respect to them, such homes do not have holistic growth and development. They lack grace of Almighty God. Therefore, the women folks should have their due share of respect in different societies and should not be treated as the playthings to please men-folks.
My sincere prayer to the Almighty God is to bestow all peace and prosperity besides this Holy Day of Karva Chauth may consolidate the bond of relationship between husbands and wives till their entire lives. Lord Ganesha may prove to be a remover of obstacles (Vigan Harta) for all of us.