ON GIVING & ACTING ON ADVICE
It is ingrained in human nature
To give advice to others
On topical subjects variously
To be followed sincerely
But question pops us in our fertile mind
Whether advice giver
Follows the same advice himself
So clearly given by such individual
Because giving a piece of advice
Is the easiest one indeed
But to follow it up till its conclusive end
Is patently hard
Thence the receiver’s mood
To follow advice too counts
His mind may be made up
To act as per his freewill!
In other words
We follow advice of others
As per our own convenience
And as per our own conscience
And also according to our own pleasure!
As advice has got no binding
To be followed or to be spurned if we are not willing
To follow it up to its fruition.
Thence there are the advices
Which are based on hard facts
And experiences of personage with wisdom aplenty
Gained over a period of time of working constantly
These advices are the lucky charms of our lives
Which can bring about positivity
With the change in our attitude
And make huge difference in our lives.
Then principles enshrined in the religious texts
Are the ocean of knowledge
Which if followed in letter and spirit
Can have indelible impression on our spirit
Besides inculcating in us the positive thoughts for our Karmic deeds
Along with connectivity with the Almighty God indeed.
ON GIVING ADVICE AND ACTING ON THE SAME
WE TEND TO CONSIDER OTHERS BAD
French Philosopher and thinker Sartre has rightly said: ‘Evil is the other.’ It is human nature to brand others culprit rather than introspecting that there lies the evil in the mind of the doer. In other words, the evil doer will preach or counsel others to follow goodness in the day and commit heinous crimes at night time thinking that others may not be knowing about his actions of omissions and commissions. Even the cruelest of all will not consider . Hitler did not care who suffered the most as long as he could push his agenda what he wanted. There are such similar cases too.
WE ACCEPT ADVICE ACCORDING TO OUR CONVENIENCE
We must have come across some individuals who do not want to follow others advice even if the same is beneficial to them. Reasons for this may be any. It may be due to our ego coming our way with a question; how such and such individual can advice me. Secondly, we may not have willpower to accept the advice of others. Thirdly, we may be in our comfort zone and we do not want to change regardless of how it affects others. Besides, we fail to see our faults and it is easier to preach than to follow.
DUALITY IN OUR LIVING
We must have observed that lives of some of the known Gurus or preachers who give lofty sermons on simple living and high think to be followed by the masses but they themselves lead a lavish lifestyle, without much care for others wellness. Such people lead a dual lives.
OUR EGOCENTRIC TENDENCY PREVENTS US FROM FOLLOWING OTHERS ADVICE
Sometimes our excessive self-importance becomes a hindrance in our path to follow truth – a question may pop-up in our mind as to why we should listen others advice. Or may be an attitude of ‘holier than thou’ a thought characterized by an air of superior piety or morality than others. There may arise some questions in our mind; Who is he to give us sermons and why we should follow his advise etc?
GIVING ADVICE IS EASIER THAN FOLLOWING IT
It is because speaking is easier than listening and subsequently taking action on that advice.. For a thought process to be made applicable in our lives, it is necessary that we analyze the thought; whether the particular thought is good for us or just a outmoded account and not applicable in the presently.
FOR AN ADVICE TO BE EFFECTIVE WE HAVE TO CHANGE FROM WITHIN
It has been experienced that one of the easiest thing in our life is to lecture others but when the question of making the same lecture applicable in our life, it is a bit hard since we have to have change from within our own self.
WHEN DO WE FOLLOW AN ADVICE HONESTLY
Once our mind has held on the view of others’ advise then we act on the same. Therefore, listening others with engrossed attention will pay huge dividends while listening half-heartedly will bring about half results on following advice. While Arjuna was filled with doubts he turned to Lord Krishna for advice to come out of the all pervading confusion. Advice given to Arjuna by Lord Krishna is the subject of entire Bhagvad Gita.
One of the most well-known advice given by Lord Krishna was: You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty. Lord Krishna said that whenever there is predominance of irreligious and decline in virtue, He comes to eliminate the evil.
SPIRITUAL FORWARD MOVEMENT WILL UNIT US WITH OUR LORD
When we perform our duty with determined efforts and with utmost sincerity then this duty is termed as the Yoga of Karma and bestows us inner peace and stillness. This will also open path for our unity with God.
FORGIVING AND FORGETTING ARE DIFFICULT BUT HAVE ULTIMATE VALUE
It has been experienced that when somebody treats us shabbily, it is natural we feel slighted. Rather than giving somebody in the same coin, if we adopt the attitude of forgiving and forgetting, this attitude will make huge difference to our inner peace and tranquility.
NATURAL AND UNNATURAL WORK
It has been observed that we perform our natural work with utmost sincerity with our free will and havind done that natural work, we get utmost satisfaction. But when we perform a job which is at variance with our character or our nature it is bad in laws of the land and is not in sync with the natural laws. The unnatural work carries stigma of unethical work culture. Therefore, it should be our sincere endeavor to perform our natural work only, and if possible, remaining away from doers of unnatural work.
NOT TO BE OVER-AMBITIOUS
Essentially, ambition is the basic tenet of human nature, and rightly so, everybody should be ambitious. But ambition too has got its limit. We should not be over-ambitious. When we cross the threshold then problem arises. This situation results when we want to excel others by adopting ethical or unethical means. We also know that man is constantly at war with his adversaries at work place. It is relevant for individuals as well as countries who get excited and create untanable situation even on filmiest pretex. The war between Armenia and Azerbaijan for occupation of Nagorno-Karabakh has resulted in deaths and destructions on both sides. Then there are the countries with hegemonic attitude with the use of force knowing full well that it goes against the spirit of good neighbourly relationship. We should never forget the two World Wars which brought about untold miseries to the countries concerned.
STRONGER THE CHALLENGE THE STRONGER WE EMERGE
Life is not always a bed of roses. Sometimes we face stronger challenges. Those who break down under the stresses and strains of challenges just perish but the ones who are determined to face and experience challenges head on succeed and come out unscathed. I do have faced difficult situations and conditions. The more the difficult situation, the more determinedly I faced the situation with total belief on self and Almighty God. Therefore, my advice is to be steadfast and face the situation rather than running away from it.
ADVICE TO SHUN THINGS WHICH ARE OF IMPERMANENT VALUE
Then, whenever we aspire For lust for sense objects, the inclination for sense objects gives rise to anger, greed and lust for worldly possessions. All these result in confused memory, which results in ruin of reason and when there is no reason man finally perishes.
REMAINING CALM AND QUITE WITH UTMOST FOCUSSED ATTENTION EVEN IN WORST SITUATION AND CONDITION
When we get agitated on any given situation, we cannot have focus on the project in hand. No focus means performing our job in a lack luster manner. The result of this action would not be as sound as done while with peace of mind and with utter calmness – putting undivided attention to the job in hand. In Bhagwad Gita it has been rightly said: He, by whom the world is not agitated and whom the world cannot agitate, he who remains calm in times of joy, anger, fear and anxiety is most dear to the Lord. It can be said that such a person will put full concentration on the project in hand.
PERFORMING OUR JOB WITHOUT MUCH GIVING CREDENCE TO THE FRUITS OF OUR ACTION
It has been observed that whenever we put in our efforts in doing something, our main focus on the destination or result of our action. By so doing, we tend to ignore the nets and bolts or small details which are essential for fructification of our efforts. Sound advice on this is that we should put more stress on how best we put our focus on the journey and the pin-pricks which may arise during our efforts rather than on the result. By performing actions without attachment, one attains the highest: Bhagwad Gita.
DOING OUR DUTY WITH THE ACTIVE PARTICIPATION OF OUR GOD
When we put in our best with self-belief and with utmost self-belief, we tend to have smooth sailing in any project we are undertaking even at present Covid-19 pandemic lockdown situation. No situation is as insurmountable if we have belief on God for our deliverance at any given situation and condition.
SELF-AWARENESS OR SELF-REALIZATION IS MUST FOR OUR HOLISTIC GROWTH
Those who know themselves known others too should never be forgotten. In that, we should know our potentials and weak areas, while continuing making efforts to improve ourselves. There would be ups and downs in our lives but we should have belief that those who put in their best only succeed. Our most effort should be to remain exploring new vistas of knowledge and put the know-how into practice.
OUR LIFE IS BASED ON GIVE AND TAKE
It should always be kept in mind that we cannot have peace of mind if we remain in isolation. It takes two to tango and clapping happens when we strike our two hands. Therefore, best course of action for us would be to have mutual understanding – give sound advice and take sound advice and follow the same for mutual benefit
SHOWCASING OUR POWER AND STATUS
We should never showcase our power and status to the people. This would be construed as having egocentric tendencies and we are aware that this tendency is one of the prime negative traits that a person could possess.
HAVE THE TRAIT OF PATIENCE, TOLERANCE AND PERSISTENCE
When failure knocks our door, some of us just break under the pressure of failure. It should always be kept in mind that in life ups and downs are part of our existence. The wheels of fortune are sometime on the upswing and sometimes downswing. We should always keep in mind that patience and persistence in our honest and sincere efforts should never be lost sight of. Then sometimes, a time may come when we may face opposition, may be from the unexpected quarters, then our tolerance trait will come to our succor.
WE HAVE LIMITLESS CAPABILITIES TO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING IN OUR LIVES
It should always be kept in mind that we have the limitless power at our disposal provided we exploit the limitless inherent potentials by delving deep into ourselves, then and then only the reservoir of knowledge could be drawn. Here spiritual orientation, meditation and prayer could also play their part.
WHEN PERFORMING SINCERILY WE SHOULD NOT TAKE UNHEALTHY CRITICISM VERY SERIOUSLY
There are people who get finicky when somebody sometime criticizes his/her style of function at the workplace.. I think we should take healthy advice with a pinch of salt and if the criticism is not healthy or untenable then we should just forget and forgive the person who criticizes us. Becoming overly concerned solves no problem but may divert our focus on the job in hand.
NEVER TO BE JUDGEMENTAL
We are judgmental when we are critical in our thinking, behaving or while speaking in a tone which is critical in nature. In other words, we find fault in anything and everything even though the point of contention may not be critical. Also, a person who has this trait is reactive in general and picks holes where none exists. The other day one of our employees was very critical of me and even called me ‘unworthy’ because I did not toe his line of thought. But he was explained about the nuts and bolts of the problem in hand, he came round and appreciated the same point. This shows that a judgmental person gives more credence to his own thought percepts and thinks himself ‘more than equals’ and lambasts others left and right, sometimes, without thinking about the outcome of such reactive onslaught.
It is not that a person with judgmental mindset always is reactive. Sometimes, such a person goes deep into a problem and after a thorough introspection and analysis comes out with balanced solution of a knotty problem.
Being judgmental means to be distrustful on everything which happens, suspicious, intolerant, pessimist to the core, do not want to see good things in others, always sees the flaws in others while giving more importance to his own self, along with the tendency not to believe others. In other words, it is our way of resistance which compels us to behave in a particular way and the person concerned does not change that thought process.
NOTHING WORKS WITHOUT HARDWORK
It has rightly been said, ‘Hard work is a key to success’. The fruits of success are sweeter if it is attained through the sweat of our brow. We should, therefore, work hard in whatever useful work we do with concentration and with focused attention. In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said: Some perceive God in the heart by the intellect through meditation, others by the yoga of knowledge and still others by the yoga of work’.
LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES
It should never be forgotten that we being humans commit mistakes but we should always learn from the mistakes we commit. Our effort should be to not to repeat the mistakes committed. Then there are mistakes we commit unintentionally while at times people commit mistakes which has ethical and moral connotations for which we have to be responsible for the same and for which we have to bear the brunt of our mistakes. Repetition of these would both be criminal offence and sin too.
In the Bible it has rightly been said: For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.