PRAYER TO SYNERGIZE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN BROTHER AND SISTER ON 16TH NOVEMBER 2020
A festival to strengthen the relationship
Between the brother and sister
Wherein a Tilak (Mark) which is put on the forehead of brother
By sister with utmost love and affection
With prayers to the God, so sincerest
To bestow abundant graces to both
With prayers on her lips for the long life of his brother
In return, the brother promises to be at her beck and call, when needed
In all her good and not so good days in her life
Though parental blessings remain for both always.
This being an important annual festival of repute
Which bestows strength to the relationship between the brother and sister
Besides being a reminder to both
That there exists somebody who could be banked
At all times when needed
Hence our prayers too are there to God
To provide synergy to the brotherly and sisterly love
So that there exists a solid bond of relationship
Between brother and sister
And also peace and harmony for the entire family
The sister may be together with the family while not married
Or married and living a a distant place
After having left the household after marriage.
This brotherly and sisterly bond
Could be with biological or blood relation
It could also be with not real brothers and sisters
Where cementing factor is God ordained love and affection
Generated from inner recesses of heart.
A FESTIVAL FOR CONSOLIDATING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SISTERS AND BROTHERS
Every society has a particular day which is commemorated as a reminder that there is somebody to care for us and provide synergy to the relationship. It is may Father’s Day, Mother’s Day and also for other relations but the moot point is to provide strength to the relationship and by extension the family too. But BHAI DOOJ is the consolidation of relationship between brothers and sisters. This day serves as a reminder to both brother and sister that there exists somebody to bestow needed protection to sister while living in the community in which we are living, it is also essential that we consolidate our bonds/relationships within the family and outside the family fabric. For cementing the relationship and solidifying the same we have Rakhi Festival and also Bhai Dooj.
On 16th NOVEMBER 2020 is the brother and sister when we have Bhai Dooj wherein the sisters apply Tilak (a mark of vermilion) , consisting of a mix of flowers and sandoor (vermilion) on the foreheads of their brothers suffusing with love and affection after sincere prayers to Almighty God for His bountiful graces to both.
This festival is celebrated in the entire North India and falls on the second day of Vikrami Samvat New Year – the first day is celebrated as Goverdhan Puja wherein the people worship the Goverdhan Parvat (Mountain), situated South of Virandavan and Gokul (U.P) where Lord Krishana had created his Maya during his childhood period. Govardhan Parvat had saved the people of Gokal and the surrounding areas from the severe floods created by Rain God, Lord Indira. The complete area was inundated with flood water. Lord Krishana had saved the entire populace by taking them inside the Goverdhan Parvat after Lord Krishna picked had picked up part of Govardhan Parvat on his single little finger. In West Bengal, this Bhai Dooj is celebrated one day after Kali Pooja. In Maharashtra, it is termed as Bhai Beej.
LEGEND BEHIND BHAI DOOJ
There is a popular belief that after killing the evil Demon Narkasura the festival of Bhai Dooj had started. There is a legend that Lord Krishna had killed many demons who killed innocent people and spoiled the sacredness of Yajnas rites of the saints/hermits. In that one Demon named Narkasura was also known for his evil Karmic deeds was killed by Lord Krishna. After killing him, Lord Krishna visited his sister named Subhadra. She received him with warmth since he had exterminated a demon that used to create mayhem and spared none – men and women alike. She applied Tilak on his brother Lord Krishna. From that day onward this day is being celebrated as a remembrance of closeness of relationship between brothers and sisters.
RELATIONSHIP OF LORD OF DEATH LORD YAMA & YAMI
This day is also to remember the relationship which Lord Yama (The God of Death) and his sister Yami (The Yamuna river). This day is also termed as Yamadvitiya owing to this. Such is the importance of this day.
SIGNIFICANCE OF BHAI DOOJ
The festival of Bhai Dooj is considered important since it consolidates the relationship between brother and sister. The parents too participate in giving their blessings for the long life and prosperity of their offspring. Even in South India, this day is celebrated by different names.
On this festival, the brothers visit their sisters houses (if they are married) and the sister applies Tilak on the fore head of her brothers The sisters also offer them sweets and make tasty meals for them. Unmarried sisters too applies Tilaks on their brother after worshipping their family deities and other deities in presence of the entire family members,
THE PURPOSE OF CELEBRATING BHAI DOOJ
The main purpose of celebrating the festival is to strengthen the bond of relationship between the brothers and the sisters. The brother promises his sister to protect her from any misfortune and the sister prays to Almighty God for peace, prosperity, security and long life of their brother. All the members of the family await this day with enthusiasm; especially brothers and sisters as this is also construed as the family reunion for some of them.
The following is the purpose of this festival:-
Brothers makes a solemn promise to their sisters to bestow safety and security of the sisters against any misfortune that may befall them in life.
The sisters prays to God with all the sincerity for gracing his brothers with long life, peace and prosperity.
The parents wish the both the sisters and the brother all the best in life. Their blessings are always there for both.The brothers give their sisters gifts as per their capabilities.
This being the annual festival after Diwali, it has special significance to cement the relationship in the families.
Those brothers and sisters who are far away and are not able to come to their homes, the sisters pray to moon for its blessings for granting long life, prosperity and peace to their brothers.
During this festival too, there is no religion tag. The girls from Hindu religion put Tikka on their brethren of other religions just to consolidate the feeling of togetherness and brotherhood. It is similar to Rakhi festival.
May sincere prayer is that this like festival may be repeated many a times to create a feeling of warmth, harmony and peace between different religion.