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THE ANGER AND ITS ADVERSE IMPLICATIONS
Whence your perceptions go awry
Doubt persists for every doubtless thing aplenty,
Your mathematics goes Topsy-turvy,
You add two plus two three,
Your rationality takes the backseat,
Your mind receptors get huge beating,
In a fit of anger sugar tastes vinegar like,
Vinegar itself loses its flavor,
Your taste-buds turn insipid,
When you lose everything dear to you,
You smell rat in every deal,
The bountiful fragrance gives,
Repulsive odour in rage.
Thy touch becomes even more repulsive,
Meda’s touch in you impedes,
Flawed emotions have a field day,
Soft feelings for others
Turn barbed and spiky.
Hearing becomes frigid,
Fascinating music loses its charm,
You think it will do more harm,
Factually, anger takes away the music of life,
From our midst, whilst in anger.
If they aspire to live a balanced life,
Shun the anger that robs you
From yourself indeed,
And puts you in somebody else’s clothing.
ANGER AND ITS ADVERSE IMPLICATIONS
Anger in fact is a common negative emotion on which we experience on day to day basis. All of us must have gotten angry on one thing or other but realise about its adverse effects when it starts hurting our body and mind. It is also seen that anger is merely a transient human emotion. It is not a permanent malaise. Now we are angry but could be happy the other minute. Then it could be individualistic in nature. We may feel angry on a particular person or a group of people with regard to their negative thoughts and actions which we do not like. Its reason may be any but its negative emotions still persists.
What is the consequences of anger could be realised fully when we go through the example of the first consorot of Lord Shiva? Sati (the daughter of Daksha), as a child had the insatiable curisity for knowing about Lord Shiva. Her enquiries were assuated by Sage Narada due to which she became one of the best devotees of Shiva. When she grew up, Lord Brahma wanted her to be married to Lord Shiva. But her father Daksha did not like the idea of marrying her to him but ultimately had to relent. One day, a Yajna (Fire sacrifice) was held wherein all other dieties were invited except Lord Shiva and daughter Sati (Shakti). But she anyhow came to attend the grand Yajna (Fire sacrifice). On reaching Daksha’s place, she was humilated by King Daksha in a fit of anger. She could not tolerate the insulting remarks/taunts of Daksha for her doting husband thus in a fit of rage and frustration resorted to self-immolution in the Yajna pit. On learning this, Lord Shiva got hugely disappointed and sent Virbhadra who decapitated Daksha’s head besides causing death and destruction in the venue of Yajana. This proves that anger can wreck mayhem and destruction. Though, Lord Shiva forgave Daksha and restored his decapitated head with the head of a goat besides restoring his kingdom etc. You can well imagine the tangentially different traits of Lord Shiva and King Daksha (The son of Lord Brahma – the Creator). Daksha a person full of anger and distrust and Lord Shiva a picture of serenity with forgiving and forgiving traits. The above occurrence and experience serves a great lesson for us humans that in s fit of fury, we are not in our emotional best and tend to do something worst which has ruinous repercussions.
It is also a fact that we may get angry on small pretext and our anger subsides after our misgiving gets addressed but rage or fury is worst sort of outbursts of our emotions. These outbursts do not subside fast. It takes sometimes to go down. The huge outbursts of highest intensity could result in harming us physically and mentally. When in rage, we lose control of our senses, our understanding gets drubbing, our rationality takes backseat, etc. Worst of all, in excessive anger we may resort to be insulting, abusive, belligerent and finally turning violent thus hurting person concerned and others.
Even a small incident or episode could trigger anger and anger turning into huge rage thus losing control over our accepted insights. Thus our rage potential, in essence, could make or break our being. It could hugely impact our inner peace, composure and prosperity.
The over reactive response to our stimulus could go out of control if and when it is not alleviated within shortest timeframe. It should always be remembered that anger is individualistic in nature. A person could handle any situation and condition if he prevents himself from getting angry. Contrarily, a person who remains angry remains so for a considerably long period of time if he does not make an effort to control his temper on the spur.
Then the anger which remains smoldering in our being or the anger which is not expressed within shortest time causes physical and mental afflictions including stress related diseases.
We must have observed that those parents who remain bickering with each other on small alleged reason, their offspring too imbibe those traits. In other words, rage or anger could be genetic in nature. In other words, we can refine the behavior of our children, if parents themselves exhibit restraint when it is hugely required. It should also be kept in mind that suppressing angry response may also impact our inner being.
If anger remains in our system then it could result in build-up of anger in our system impacting us hugely. For example, if the pot of our anger gets filled to the brim without being emptied from time to time then it will burst one day. This condition will certainly have negative effect on the person concerned. It means, the more we tackle our response to an anger situation or express our anger meaningfully the more we remain balanced in our behavior pattern.
Adding to our anger without expressing the same will undo whatever positive trait we try to imbibe. Our effort should be to keep on emptying the anger from our system as and when required then we shall not have much effect on our body system. Care ought to be exercised that a pot remaining full for a considerable period of time may produce negative reactive feeling, resulting in bursting suddenly in an uncontrolled way impacting us mentally and physically. It is similar to a overflowing dam whose inflows and outflows are not checked when it is hugely needed. It will burst anytime due to huge pressure of water inside the dam thus causing untold deaths and destruction.
From the above it is evident that we should make conscious effort and keep an iron curtain guard as to when to empty ourselves off our anger through self-expression or reprocessing and put a lid on the pot of our anger so that there is no build-up or accumulation of anger. The pressures of add-on anger or rage will rip-open our thinking resulting in enormous adverse implication on us.
Now coming to the question as to how best to channel our positive energies in positive pursuits rather than to be taken in by any unpleasant events and losing ourselves in the bargain. This positive change has to spring from our life-force, it this has to be more enduring and lasting one. This aspect could be meaningfully done by imbibing positive traits, positive attitude, calmness despite provocation of any sort, nothing should come in our way which could breach our calm bearing etc. This should be done till such time we do not require any impregnable iron curtain to breach to stay cool despite pulls and pressures. This happens when we have inner-peace which could be possible when we adopt spiritually oriented life-style. With calmness inside our system, no adverse provocation or inapt frustrating moment can push us to go-off-the-handle.
Adverse affects of anger:-
- We should never forget that the main reason of breaking of our families fabrics is anger, therefore, in anger we lose our mental moorings and self-awareness along with self-confidence. Losing mental balance results in cultivating good relationship.
- When our own anger results in breach of relationship, then, a guilt-feeling comes in our mind which affects us physically and mentally. We consider ourselves responsible for any adverse consequence of not controlling our anger when it was hugely needed.
- If we want to live a guilt-free feeling, it dawns when we weather all storms remaining calm and tackle anger on our own terms rather than somebody dictating terms and conditions.
- When in anger, we are not able to put in our best at our workplace, thereby, losing respect amongst our colleagues and superiors besides it adversely impacts our further growth in our career progression.
- It should never be forgotten that subjecting ourselves to anger or rage becomes a habit and a part of our behavior after we repeatedly go off the tangent then it is difficult to get rid of this bad habit since this rabid habit has made residency in our system.
- We should never forget that for every bout of anger we give out to others freely never forget that we have to pay a heavy price for such indiscretion. The best course of action is to understand the ‘price paid’ and reason for it all and not to repeat. For this to happen, we have to learn how to forget and forgive the doer to stop the breakage of relationship and also the consequent price to be paid.
Conclusively, we should be mindful that anything which spurs us to anger, avoidance or to keep-on-hold rather than to be reactive is the panacea. This act of ours will save us of many a future blushes and adverse repercussions.
THOUGHTS ON MY BIRTHDAY TODAY
THIS MOMENT MY LIFE IS MOST PRECIOUS
Every next moment demands from us all
That we become enlightened souls
With every passing moment
Come out of our false dilemmas
Till we reach to the still centre of our body
By traversing within our being
Since we’ve to change as time changes
Leaving some imprints
And some blemishes
Which do not part ways
Inevitably lasting ones
Despite our best efforts
To erase those indelible impressions
Which have seeped into our super-consciousness
These scars which time has given
Get erased only when we leave for good
This impermanent body and backdrop of our existence.
Experience teaches us that time is such a teacher
That it flies away turning moments into seconds
Seconds into minutes, minutes into hours
Hours into years together & century
And this process goes ceaselessly.
People who learn something good presently
Gain knowledge and familiarity
And when knowledge is used meaningfully
It turns into pearls of wisdom ultimately.
Those of us who lose this moment in daydreaming
Lose the most precious time
Without gaining anything substantial
That you can tell your own
Repent for the lost chances.
This awareness actually dawns
When we introspect and analyze our purpose of life
The pluses and minuses of our lives
This self-realization should dawn
Within shortest span of time
Otherwise it would be too late to mend.
Today on my birthday, I too realize
About the lost chances
Besides the frittered about opportunities deliberately
Based on suppressed evidence
Or false dilemmas or reaching false conclusions
Yet what I gained with the passage of time
Too remains indelibly into my psyche & mind
That, come what may
Change is a must – a positive change so to speak
Is to erase ignorance and imbibe knowledge-based lessons
And that change dawns on us
Only when we’re supra-mental awareness and God-consciousness
Away from mental traps and delusions but based on eternal truths.
The lasting impressions totally bereft of false biases & false alarms
In the realm of limitless; all pervading in Soul & Param-Atma
Of self-awareness and God-consciousness which dawns
Away from the bondage & attachments of senses and mind
This happens whence i traverse journey suffusing with spiritualism
With full awareness that I should not forget
The significance and very purpose of life on this beautiful planet
To seek connectivity with Omnipotent and Omniscient One
Till I travel untrodden path of God & make it tried and tested one
Till I realize the perpetual sway of Supreme God
After removal of perpetual fears haunting me
And realize self-existing God within me – totally fixed in Thee
Till the last breathe of my existence
After having understood the vast panorama of life
With the idea death is real in the unrealistic of life
Based on truth, I am merely a speck in the creation of our Creator
And attain ultimate Moksha – liberation based on my Karma.
My ultimate prayer to Thee my Almighty God
Is to rid me off the any shred of ego
If at all there in my being
Also rid me off the Attachments
With the fruits of my thoughts & actions
I bestow me with supreme contentment
Along with simplest lifestyle
With what I have or do not have with Thy Grace
Besides opportunities to get experiences
From the pros and cons of my existence.
HAPPY FELICITATIONS ON LOHRI, MAKKAR SANKRANTI, PONGAL & BIHU FESTIVALS
(ON 13TH , 14TH & 15TH JANUARY 2021)
We’re aware that all the festivals are linked either with change in seasons
Or on certain National festivals well known
Or linked with religious faiths, beliefs and have regional overtones.
Lohri is a winter festivals of repute
Falls in the month of (13th Jan) Paush
Which brings about happiness on the faces of the populace.
This festival marks the end of winter season
With beginning of longer with a little hotter days ahead soon
For farmers, it is one of the happiest occasions.
The farmers start harvesting rabi crops
The crops harvested in winter season.
Rabi Crops include Wheat, Gram, Pea, Mustard, Linseed, Barley, Peas
Start of spring season is a Natural gift
Adds additional spice to our festivities
Besides bringing about smiles and festive moods on these occasions.
Customarily, on Lohri day a bonfire is elegantly lit
Devotees congregate brimming with huge reverence in their heart around it
And take rounds around the fire lit with absolute respect.
And with loving devotion offer, Jaggery (gur), sesame seeds (til)
Sesame coated sugar candy and popcorns into leaping bonfire
The fire lit too shows that it too is enjoying the sacred act more and more.
The skyward leaping fire flames purifies the atmosphere
It also showcases that the fire too is enjoying all acts of hers
In essence, there is hidden joy for devotees in this sacred bonfire.
Gathering partake the sacred parsadas offerings
With satiety writ large in faces of devotees
Offerings too is made to ‘panj tatavas’ five elements of mother nature
Fire, wind, water, ether and earth. Deference
Going around the bonfire with great a reverence
And singing traditional songs with dance with due deference makes a huge difference.
And that too in tune with beating of drums!
Tradition has it that there was a very brave person of repute
Named Dulla Bhatti, a muslim, from lineage of warrior race of the Rajputs
In the reign of Mughal king Akbar
He used to rescue poor girls from the clutches of robbers.
And then used to get them married to suitable boys of choice
People sing Lohri songs with gusto in his praise
To mark and commemorate and appreciate his good deeds. .
Thence other legend of the origin of Lohri
From the wife of Saint Kabir named ‘Loi’
Who was herself a lady so pious.
Lohri has a sacred link with Makar Sakranti
Being another winter fiesta so legendary
Celebrated one day after Lohri
It is celebrated on a day so fixed
The 14th January – indeed very sacred.
It marks the beginning of solar maagha masa
Makar Sankranti Day is beginning of start of harvest season
And ushering in of pleasant Spring Season
With pan India celebrations.
Makar Sankranti has its origin to the movement of the Earth
Around the Sun and begins from (Sankranti) one zodiac sign
Into another – Capricorn zodiac (Makar) sign
Two movements are termed as Makar Sakranti.
This day marks the beginning of warmer days
As the sacred months start from this day onwards
Makar Sankranti is celebrated with great fervor
In western and northern India.
There is a mention of this day in Mahabharata
As, it is the festival of Sun God
Who gives us light and heat
To all living beings without bias
And bestows us divinity and wisdom
Thus holding an eternal meaning.
For me, this day has a special significance indeed
Since I saw the first dawn of the day in 1951, a day so sacred
With the grace of my Supreme Lord
Ever since I have been graced with a life so contended
For which I am really thankful to my God, so very benevolent.
Then there is festival called Pongal
Which is dedicated to Sun God
A huge source of energy indeed
Which is life giving
To living beings.
One of the most significant festivals of Assam
Which is associate with harvesting season.
Its exclusivity also stems from the fact that it marks the start of Assamese New Year
Thus giving the entire community pride to celebrate this day with great yearning
Pride and a lot of pleasure from community feat.
Bihu dance is performed by the young men and women
With joyous abandon add-on with fast steps and hands with fast movement
With red colour attire signifying vigour and accompaniment with apt music.
Significantly, India is a home to multicultural, multilingual, multicultural and multi-religious society. We can pride ourselves in having different festivals too with relevance to religion, caste, culture and traditions. These festivals are seasonal, traditional, custom based, religion based or for that matter any other sacred considerations. Here every caste, religion and region has contributed its mite for enriching the cultural traditions of our land with variation in the cultural mores. Let the reason of the festival may be any but the common thread of all of these is the zest and enthusiasm with which these fairs and festivals are celebrated.
We Indians enjoy all the religious festivals. It may be it Eid or Prakash Divas/Gurpurab or as a Muslim enjoy Diwali or all of them enjoy Christmas Day together. That is the beauty of India. I do not dispute that hotheads are there in any strata of life, those who do not know about their own religious festivals or of others. One thing which pleases us is the perceptible shine on the faces of every one of us while celebrating any festival! That is the beauty of it all, despite some differences notwithstanding.
Lohri festival is celebrated in Northern Indian states. It is celebrated on 13th January – in the month of Pauch or Magha, one day before Makkar Sankranti. We term this festival as a community based one where Bhangra (dance by men folks) and Gidha (dance by women folks) to the beats of drums which brings vitality and jollity to this celebration. Youngsters, by and large, take pleasure in kite flying and enjoy the occasion.
On this festival, seasonal dry fruits peanuts, coconuts are mixed with jiggery (Gur) and sesame seeds (til) to make the eatables. Besides, milk cakes are specially made and distributed amongst relatives and friends.
Following are some of the reasons for the celebration of Lohri festival:-
It marks the end of winter season and beginning of sowing of some crops such as Wheat, Gram, Pea, Mustard, Linseed, Barley, Peas and others. It infuses vitality and special enthusiasm in the lives of people – especially the farmers. The Lohri festival symbolizes prayer to the fire (Agni puja) in the evening. The people take parikarma (rounds) around the bonfire and shower offerings to fire as a mark of respect. Fire ritual or Agnihotra (Specially lit fire – Havan) is the process of purifying the environment and people also consign to the fire a mix of rice, peanuts, walnuts, almonds besides sesame seeds (til) and jaggery to the fire before distributing and taking the same themselves.
It is believed that the fire ritual has a special significance and possesses healing power besides it helps in happiness of all along with its benefits to the farming community. Special prayers to the God Almighty God are done in order to get the graces of benevolent God for peace and prosperity of all.. Newly wedded couples and newly born babies receive special attention on this festival. People give charity/alms to the needy on this occasion.
Different Legends behind the Lohri festival:-
The legend of Dulla Bhatti (Rai Abdullah Khan) is very popular. It is a legend of a Rajput warrior who saved a damsel in distress belonging to the Hindu family from the clutches of lustful and greedy robbers. The brave Rajput adopted her as his own daughter without let or hindrance and married her off to a young and suitable Hindu boy. He also gave her presents – nine mounds of sugar along with other gifts etc on her marriage. This shows that there was a community feeling during those days.
Then question arise, if during those feeling for each others was rampant then why not now!? To appreciate his gesture, the people sing the following song describing the event and also mentioning about the beauty of the girl who was saved.
While I was young, I along with my friends used to go to the houses in our neighbourhood and used to sing and get sweets made for this particular day. This song is sung by the youngsters even now on thispious occasion :-
Sunder mundriye ho!
Tera kaun vicaharaa ho!
Dullah bhatti walla ho!
Dullhe di dhee vyayae ho!
Ser shakkar payee ho!
Kudi da laal pathaka ho!
Kudi da saalu paatta ho!
Salu kaun samete!
Chache choori kutti! zamidara lutti!
bade bhole aaye!
Ek bhola reh gaya!
Sipahee far ke lai gaya!
There is also a legend of Sant Kabir and his wife names Loi. He used to love his wife immensely. So much so intense was his passion for his wife that one day, he reached his home in the middle of dark night, travelling from a far off place. The door was closed from inside. His wife was sleeping on the first floor. Finding that there was no ladder, he took the help of a rope hanging from the first floor of his house. When his wife saw him, she was very surprised and asked him as to how he had entered the first storey. Thereupon, she along with Kabir saw that the help with which he had reached the first storey was with the help of a hanging python.
Sant Kabir’s wife got upset and in desperation uttered: The passion with which he was nursing for her, if he had the same fervour for the God, he could get anything from God as a reward?
Significantly, we know the life and the personage was Sant Kabir who was a mystical poet whose writings had a deep effect on Bhakti Movement and his verses find place in Sri Guru Granth Sahib too.
He was brought up in a Muslim family but was deeply influenced by his teacher Ramananda but he criticized both in his verses because of his close proximity with both and knew ins and outs of these religions. In his writings, he has emphatically mentioned that the God is only with those who follow righteous lifestyle and also one who follows a detached mode of life. His followers are known as Kabir Panthis.
It was due to the timely advise of his wife named Loi that Kabir had a huge transformation in his life and became a well known Sant who influenced millions with his writings. Lodi or Loi is also celebrated in his and his wife’s honour who was instrumental in molding him.
MAKKAR SANKRANTI (ON 14TH JANUARY)
Makkar Sankranti is celebrated in the month of Paus (January) Makar Sankranti is the day when the Sun God enters the Northern Hemisphere. Hindus like Greeks worship Sun God – the giver of immense energy. Sun God is termed as the manifest God, having all the glorious divinity. It is worthwhile to mention here that mantra OM ADITYA AYE NOMON and many other mantras are recited in order to get the blessings of the Sun God.
The devout also chant Gyatri Mantra, taken from Rig Veda while making final offering to God. which is from Rig-Veda, as Makkar Sankranti is associated with cosmic event which affects the life of humans immensely.
Om Bhur Bhuvaḥ Swaḥ
Bhargo Devasya Dhīmahi
Dhiyo Yonaḥ Prachodayāt.
Which means: We meditate and adore thee the Supreme Lord, the Creator of everything, who’s Divine Light illuminates all spheres of activity (physical, mental and spiritual). We pray that this Divine Light may light-up our intellect forever.
This festival is celebrated with immense gaiety and enthusiasm in all parts of India with different names at different places but the keenness remains the same. Devout get up early in the morning, take bath in holy rivers first take the blessings of their elders and then offer prayers in the temples. After having offered prayers, people give alms to the needy according to their capacity. In the afternoon people share a special Khichri (Hotchpotch – a mix of dall-urdh and channa dal).
The Pongal festival is celebrated in South India (Especially in Tamil Nadu, Puducherry and even in foreign lands such as Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Singapore etc.). This festival is celebrated for four days (14th to 17th January). This is a harvest festival dedicated to the SUN GOD. The Sun is a huge source of energy which helps in growing the crops from sowing to the harvesting season. It also includes boiling of the rice of season sanctified to the Sun which is termed as Surya Mangalyam. Not only this, the natural energy in the form of solar energy is being utilized enormously presently.
Magh Bihu or Rongali Biihu Festival is celebrated in Assam in the month of January. This year, it is being celebrated on 15th January 2021. It is the prominent harvest festival by the farmers. On this occasion, tasty community feast is organized and all people enjoy this feast on this occasion. This festival is unique to Assamese people since Assamese New Year starts from this day. I offer my felicitations from the core of my heart to the entire Assamese community on this momentous occasion. Like any other festivals like Lohri, Baisakhi, etc. Magh Bihu festival too is associated with agriculture; mainly harvesting.
The people enjoy feasts, play melodious music with dancing. Bihu dance is one of the most important part of Assamese culture. It is a group dance performed by the young men and women with brisk movement of hands and other body parts with beating of drums as enchanting music. The olour theme of the dancers is red which signifies joy and vitality.
There are also local traditional and cultural activities which are organized and conducted. The children wear flower garlands. In fact there are three Bihu festivals each of which have unique feature and significance but common feature in all these Bihu festivals is the participation and celebration by all the Assamese.
SEE LIGHT EVEN IN PITCH DARKNESS
HAPPINESS & SADNESS ARE THE STATE OF OUR MINDSET
Ironically speaking, we’ve the choice whether we want to remain happy or sad. Succeeding paragraphs will prove that despite hardships, we can be happy, provided we have willpower to be so.
HEAVEN OR HELL IS OF OUR OWN MAKING
We can make our life happy or sad, heaven or hell according to our Karmic deeds. Good Karma gives us good results and bad Karma disappointment. There is a most relevant example on this score. While Lord Yama, the Lord of death, was taking the Atman (Spirit) of an old-man to the Lotus feet of God due to his exemplary Karma during his life on the earth, he expressed his desire to see both the hell and heaven to get first hand experience of both the worlds. The Lord of death agreed with good grace. First of all, he was conducted through the hell. People there were crying with pain and hunger. There was hue and cry and the surrounding was full of dirt and filth with foul smell emanating around. The old lady saw some delicacies and other eatables kept high above the ground – difficult to be procured easily. Thereafter, she was taken to another world of heaven. People there were doing their Karmic deeds properly; the complete area was neat and clean by the joint efforts of people themselves through shramdaan – voluntary contribution. They were also chanting the name of God and thanking Him for everything. He also saw a ladder made by the people themselves to take the eatables as per their requirements. In other words, peace and prosperity including opulence were writ large everywhere. The old person saw that the natives in Heaven followed the philosophy of Karma Yoga to the book therefore there was sufficiency of everything. After witnessing the two places, the old-man reached to the conclusion that Hell and Heaven are of our own making – we have to work for any of these. This is true of life on this earth too, heaven or hell could be created through our righteous Karma. It all depends on us which life we want to pursue. We have the freedom of choice; righteous Karma takes us to heavenly life but Koo-karma (Bad deeds) brings us hell on this beautiful earth too.
MAKING COMPARISON MAKES US UNHAPPY
We tend to compare our possessions, power and status with those of others then we feel hugely disappointed when one finds even a small amount of difference in any of these parameters. This sad moment seeps into our system and generates sad tidings in our life.
NO KARMA CONTRARY TO OUR NYATI (NATURE)
WHEN WE WORK UNNATURALLY (AANITI)
We have to have a paradigm shift in our thoughts and action from Unnatural (Aaniti) bent of mind (Aniti) to Natural (Niti) and anything done in sync with Nature brings us wellness thus save ourselves from perpetual sway from Kukarma so that we possess the capacity to break through from the gridlock of negativity and follow positive course of karma within the confines of Niti which is self-existing Truth.
WHEN UNWIELDLY DESIRES BIND US IMMEASURELY
It has been observed that we have countless desires which we want acquiring through any means whatsoever through our bad karma even then we are in for worrying time ahead. There would be smut around. That smut we have to cleanse. We’ve to cleanse our mind as we clean our surroundings. Our ignorance (Agyan) is the chief reason responsible for downfall. This ignorance could be removed by light of life which is generated by virtuous deeds, simple living with insignificance in unwieldy stature and strength, compassionate traits, right conduct, right attitude, performance of duty sincerely besides and most importantly spiritually orientation in our lives. By living spiritually, we transact everything rationally, reasonably thus our mind is cleansed off the dirt. This overall cleansing by the broom of inner cleanser and lock ourselves inwards helps us create a feeling of balance. This balance at all situation, good or bad, through Atamic Shringar for super-mental consciousness, produces inner peace and tranquility thus a feeling of joy at any given time and space. By so doing, we can live with the truth whatever is without is within too. In essence, we are the prisoners of our mind and senses, we are worst than dirt because our senses take us to the highs and lows of our emotions.
NO DIFFERENCE IN HAPPY OR SAD OCCASIONS
When there is no balance in our mind, then, sure enough, we become sad. Every bad incident affects us immeasurably, we get disturbed and lose of moorings, we cannot think what is right or wrong for us. While we are not rational in our thoughts then our emotions get perturbed so much so that we get swallowed by its virulence limitlessness.
FREEDOM FROM DESIRE OR DETACHED MENTAL SETUP
It has been observed that when we do not have control over our mind and its working, then, we tend to or when we become slave to our mind without its adverse consequences. By so doing, we become attached to the fruits of our thoughts and actions. When a person becomes prisoner of his senses and desires then we tend to become emotional wreck rather than becoming a true Karma Yogi and take ups and downs of our lives with equanimity and calmly.
SADNESS VISITS US WHEN WE DO NOT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE PURPOSE OF OUR LIFE
The essence of life is to know the truth of life (Jeevan Satya). This truth of life is to know the purpose for which we are here on this beautiful earth.
Our purpose of life should be to spread smiles and love (which is basis for everything in life) on the faces of needy people, who due to their situations and conditions could not have what others could because of their Karma and environs in which they were placed. In addition, we’ve to thank God for what he has given us and seek Him above everything else in life.
The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever. Do not forsake the work of your hands. BIBLE
FREEDOM FROM FEAR MAKES US HAPPY
We should never forget that attachment to the fruits of action creates fear and with fear lurking inside and outside ourselves leads to a situation of uncertainty and skepticism. This confused mental conditioning leads us nowhere except disappointment and ultimately a failure staring large at the faces. Then freedom from anger too enables us to work in an environment of positivity which is conductive for onward journey.
Having freed ourselves from attachment, fear, and anger, becoming fully absorbed in me, and taking refuge in me, many persons in the past became purified by knowledge of me, and thus they attained my divine love. Bhagwad Gita
FREEDOM FROM ANGER
Significantly, while in anger, all our creative and rational energy takes back-seat and we become emotional wreck under its spell. It should also be kept in mind that while we are in anger, we cannot concentrate on the mission in hand thereby meeting disappointment till we become serene and composed in our thoughts and action thereof. Whenever there is hope bereft of any anger or negative emotions, then, sure enough, we can be triumphant.
One is said to be a sage (Saint) in wisdom when one’s mind is neither perturbed by sorrow nor does one yearns for joy – when one is not the prisoner of his desires, senses, freedom from fear and all pervasive lack of enthusiasm in an endeavour we are transacting. In any situation (appropriate or inappropriate) choice is with us, either to be happy or adopt sadness. Either way, what we choose depends on our will and wish. Nobody else is responsible for our state of affairs.
Everything that is useful for us is acquired through hard work even after drawing out our inner potentials which will happen only if we are aware about own self. Try hard to remain happen despite hardship should be our motto. A rose flower which gives out sweet fragrance and changes our mood swings, its branches contain thorns too should never be forgotten.
From the above, it could be concluded that good and bad are intimated interrelated and coexist, if good time passes, bad time too will pass with time. In other words, nothing remains permanently. Perpetual fears, perpetual mood swings, perpetual negative emotions, nothing remain perpetually should never be forgotten. Verily, what remains perpetually is glory of God and bountiful graces which dawns when we have enduring trust, conviction and assurance. Everything else is secondary in the vast panorama of life.
SPREADING SMILES (MUSKAAN)
We shall be spreading smiles so very enduring
Amongst all those born with some challenges
Physical and psychological afflictions
These may be hereditary infirmity
Persisting Intellectual disability
The special child has to be trained and honed-up systematically
By the trained teachers methodically and diligently
With basket full of love and affection
Imparting personal attention
We should provide these special children the special assistance
Commensurate with their physical and mental needs
To provide these hapless and helpless special ones the health protection
To shore-up their physio-psycho health conditions
By providing needful medical assistance
Along with meeting his needs from time to time
Thus enhance his motor skills as per his needs and environs
The Speech Therapist trains him correct pronunciation.
Then on significant recovery
Bestow the trained teacher gives him the right education, so necessary
Besides training him in art or craft, so suited in each case
So that challenged ones could stand on their legs
Then lead a life of self-assurance and self-confidence
With a paradigm shift from living on crutches of doles from others
Rather than living a life of self-reliance
In an eco-system of self-help realizing his self-worth
To stand-up and face life squarely with confidence
With self-esteem writ large on their faces
Thence instead of living on charities
Would like to contribute to spreading smiles
To all those deserving ones’ so that they also contribute in spreading smiles.
Disabilities in the old-age
Too is very disconcerting to say the least
Factors may be due to socio-economic factor
Or persistence in lack of attention in medical-care
Coupled with susceptibility due to ‘fair, wear and tare’
Those who accept the challenges of the hapless challenged
Are the chosen gifts of our Omnipotent and Omniscient God
Smiling smile by us all should be our mission
So that no challenged person gets ignored and is bestowed due attention.
IT SHOULD BE KEPT IN MIND THAT EVERYDAY IS A SPECIAL DAY FOR TAKING CARE FOR THE SPECIAL CHILDREN AND OLD-AGED PERSONS WITH DISABILITIES
It is a sad commentary that a vast percentage of people with disabilities are not able to avail the school facilities and those who are admitted in t around the world especially in under developed and least developed countries. Due to non-availability of education, their quality of life is impacted. If such children get education, then they can get meaningful employment since there are countries such as India and others wherein there is reservation of seats for people with different levels of disabilities. Here there is not only the requirement of educational pursuits but also awareness of their rights.
Evidently, those who contribute for multiplying happiness and dividing smiles (Muskaan) especially amongst those who are physically and psychologically challenged are obviously performing Yeoman’s service to persons concerned particularly and to the community in general. Spreading happiness to physically and mentally sound people is easiest since it is known what it entails to make them happy but when question is related to physiologically and psychologically challenged group of individuals then it requires ocean of expertise to gauge the problem of the person, reserve of patience, tenacity to resolve problem, congenial environment, understanding the psyche of the persons concerned to make difference and then bestowing appropriate training as and when required, so that such individuals could also feel pride in living a normal individuals as you and me do without any stigma attached.
In essence, the best thing that any civilized society can do for children with special needs is to impart them appropriate education by the special trained teaching faculty. These teachers can help such children for their growth and development. If these children are tackled and handled with love and affection such children can do wonders. For example, in one of the renowned schools in Delhi, due to the best education, methodology and special handling many of the special children are presently studying with normal children and even excelling in educational pursuits. The need, therefore, is the publicity campaign for publicizing about the accessibility or availability of education for the disabled children.
The following are some of the bottlenecks which become handicap for the growth and development of the special children:-
PARENTS NEED TO HANDLE CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS WITH CARE
As the parents are the first ones who know the impairment(s) of their wards, therefore, they have to be careful for the requirements of their wards. The first and foremost is to seek the help of expert medical specialist for alleviating the situation. Timely help could make a world of difference.
NON-AVAILABILITY OF TRAINED TEACHERS
There is a requirement of trained teachers for imparting education for the special children since the individual needs of these children are different therefore they require different methodology, after psychologically understanding the need of different children for meaningful handling.
PHYSIOLOGICAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL NEEDS
The special developmental needs of special children are to be taken care according to the needs of the individual child. Of all the things, the first thing which they require is sufficient of loving care, then psychological needs and subsequently physical needs according to the situation and condition. It should always be kept in mind that children with physical impairment require different handling, the children with psychological impairments need entirely divergently different handling. The elders in the family should take special care. With positive attitude and infusing positive attitude in the child are the need of hour.
TOYS AND EQUIPMENT FOR CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS
Most productive toys and needful equipment could help the special children to not only keep themselves occupied in some productive venture along with drawing out their inner potentials slowly but surely. In this pursuit, the trained teachers functions not merely as a teacher or Guru but also a trainer who imparts love along with necessary dose of good advice on daily basis. Toys and equipment could help the special child physically but also help sharpening the mind and thinking processes.
Then Speech Therapist helps the special children not merely to imbibe proper speech and voice modulation but also how best to use gestures along with motor movement. This will have a telling positive effect on the special children, I have personally been witness to the change in lives of special children in one of the Special Children Centres. But one thing which has to be kept in mind while imparting such children education is the inflexible curriculum with freedom of thought and action but, of course, under the supervision of a competent trainer.
TAKING PART IN SOCIAL AND CULTURAL EVENTS
While giving formal education by a trained teacher, it should the endeavour of a teacher not only to impart formal education through trial and error but also train the child in singing, dancing besides participating in debates for sharpening his/her intellect. I have also witness the chorus songs and dances. This provides a golden chance for the special children to perform with the normal children infusing confidence in the children.
TRAINING IN COMPUTERS AND PAPER CUTTING, TAILORING ETC
It should be endeavour of the teachers to teach special children computers, cooking, paper cutting, cutting and tailoring, along with making different articles out of the papers along with paining.
DISABILITIES IN OLD-AGE
It has been observed in old-age, old people are vulnerable to disabilities due to physiological and psychological factors. It is also due to ‘fair, wear and tear’. In old-age people develop disabilities owing to restrictive movements of body parts, persisting ailments due to less medical attention due to socio-economic and environment factors. These infirmities may include prevalace of high Blood Pressure, muscular pains, indigestion problem, deterioration in internal organs like liver, heart, lungs, digestive system etc. Then there is also persistence of memory loss. The factors responsible for these may be social, economic, cultural and environments. There are also the old people who are not taken care by their grown up children. This factor is a key to not providing the old-aged people proper care and protection which they require.
SPREADING SMILES (MUSKAAN): FUNCTION OF OPTIMISM IN SPREADING HAPPINESS
What transformational influence consistent supervision, grooming, and training can do was realized by us during a visit to Centre for Differently Abled and Gifted children located at Vasant Kunj, New Delhi. This visit afforded us an opportunity of interacting with the Centre Head a person who contributes immensely along with the team of motivated trained teachers in changing the lives of those who are having various types of disabilities like autism spectrum disorder connected with neuro-development disorder – difficulty in communication and interaction, slow in learning processes or in other words persons with intellectual disabilities, problems related with seeing and hearing or other challenges of mind and body etc.
The elegance and finesse with which this Centre is running (with community-based contributions) speaks volumes. What a total involvement and commitment cannot do can be seen to be believed. Here visionary zeal and enthusiasm, empathy and graces of our Omnipotent and Omniscient comes into play. Spreading MUSKAAN or SMILE should be the purpose of our life to say the least. Our salute to their unwavering resolve, perseverance besides pushiness despite hurdles in tacking the challenges of those who are challenged. At Muskaan, compassionate souls are making the lives of challenged children purposeful and inspirational in a way an expert sculptor chisels the uneven granite into a wonderful piece of the statue which immortalizes his work leaving everybody to appreciate his workmanship. My prayer to God is that such Muskaan (Smile) spreading Centres multiply to divide the smiles amongst those who need the same, the most.