Break Up, Bad relationship, Anger, unhappy, concept. Silhouette of anger of couples love who are quarreling (argument) and standing back to back with sunset background in Thailand



Whence your perceptions go awry
Doubt persists for every doubtless thing aplenty,
Your mathematics goes Topsy-turvy,
You add two plus two three,
Your rationality takes the backseat,
Your mind receptors get huge beating,
In a fit of anger sugar tastes vinegar like,
Vinegar itself loses its flavor,
Your taste-buds turn insipid,
When you lose everything dear to you,
You smell rat in every deal,
The bountiful fragrance gives,
Repulsive odour in rage.
Thy touch becomes even more repulsive,
Meda’s touch in you impedes,
Flawed emotions have a field day,
Soft feelings for others
Turn barbed and spiky.
Hearing becomes frigid,
Fascinating music loses its charm,
You think it will do more harm,
Factually, anger takes away the music of life,
From our midst, whilst in anger.
If they aspire to live a balanced life,
Shun the anger that robs you
From yourself indeed,
And puts you in somebody else’s clothing.



Anger in fact is a common negative emotion on which we experience on day to day basis. All of us must have gotten angry on one thing or other but realise about its adverse effects when it starts hurting our body and mind. It is also seen that anger is merely a transient human emotion. It is not a permanent malaise. Now we are angry but could be happy the other minute. Then it could be individualistic in nature. We may feel angry on a particular person or a group of people with regard to their negative thoughts and actions which we do not like. Its reason may be any but its negative emotions still persists.

What is the consequences of anger could be realised fully when we go through the example of the first consorot of Lord Shiva? Sati (the daughter of Daksha), as a child had the insatiable curisity for knowing about Lord Shiva. Her enquiries were assuated by Sage Narada due to which she became one of the best devotees of Shiva. When she grew up, Lord Brahma wanted her to be married to Lord Shiva. But her father Daksha did not like the idea of marrying her to him but ultimately had to relent. One day, a Yajna (Fire sacrifice)  was held wherein all other dieties were invited except Lord Shiva and daughter Sati (Shakti). But she anyhow came to attend the grand Yajna (Fire sacrifice). On reaching Daksha’s place, she was humilated by King Daksha in a fit of anger. She could not tolerate the insulting remarks/taunts of Daksha for her doting husband thus in a fit of rage and frustration resorted to self-immolution in the Yajna pit. On learning this, Lord Shiva got hugely disappointed and sent Virbhadra who decapitated Daksha’s head besides causing death and destruction in the venue of Yajana. This proves that anger can wreck mayhem and destruction. Though, Lord Shiva forgave Daksha and restored his decapitated head with the head of a goat besides restoring his kingdom etc. You can well imagine the tangentially different traits of Lord Shiva and King Daksha (The son of Lord Brahma – the Creator). Daksha a person full of anger and distrust and Lord Shiva a picture of serenity with forgiving and forgiving traits. The above occurrence and experience serves a great lesson for us humans that in s fit of fury, we are not in our emotional best and tend to do something worst which has ruinous repercussions. 

It is also a fact that we may get angry on small pretext and our anger subsides after our misgiving gets addressed but rage or fury is worst sort of outbursts of our emotions. These outbursts do not subside fast. It takes sometimes to go down. The huge outbursts of highest intensity could result in harming us physically and mentally. When in rage, we lose control of our senses, our understanding gets drubbing, our rationality takes backseat, etc. Worst of all, in excessive anger we may resort to be insulting, abusive, belligerent and finally turning violent thus hurting person concerned and others.

Even a small incident or episode could trigger anger and anger turning into huge rage thus losing control over our accepted insights. Thus our rage potential, in essence, could make or break our being. It could hugely impact our inner peace, composure and prosperity.

The over reactive response to our stimulus could go out of control if and when it is not alleviated within shortest timeframe. It should always be remembered that anger is individualistic in nature. A person could handle any situation and condition if he prevents himself from getting angry. Contrarily, a person who remains angry remains so for a considerably long period of time if he does not make an effort to control his temper on the spur.

Then the anger which remains smoldering in our being or the anger which is not expressed within shortest time causes physical and mental afflictions including stress related diseases.

We  must have observed that those parents who remain bickering with each other on small alleged reason, their offspring too imbibe those traits. In other words, rage or anger could be genetic in nature. In other words, we can refine the behavior of our children, if parents themselves exhibit restraint when it is hugely required. It should also be kept in mind that suppressing angry response may also impact our inner being.

If anger remains in our system then it could result in build-up of anger in our system impacting us hugely. For example, if the pot of our anger gets filled to the brim without being emptied from time to time then it will burst one day. This condition will certainly have negative effect on the person concerned. It means, the more we tackle our response to an anger situation or express our anger meaningfully the more we remain balanced in our behavior pattern.

Adding to our anger without expressing the same will undo whatever positive trait we try to imbibe. Our effort should be to keep on emptying the anger from our system as and when required then we shall not have much effect on our body system. Care ought to be exercised that a pot remaining full for a considerable period of time may produce negative reactive feeling, resulting in bursting suddenly in an uncontrolled way impacting us mentally and physically. It is similar to a overflowing dam whose inflows and outflows are not checked when it is hugely needed. It will burst anytime due to huge pressure of water inside the dam thus causing untold deaths and destruction.

From the above it is evident that we should make conscious effort and keep an iron curtain guard as to when to empty ourselves off our anger through self-expression or reprocessing and put a lid on the pot of our anger so that there is no build-up or accumulation of anger. The pressures of add-on anger or rage will rip-open our thinking resulting in enormous adverse implication on us.

Now coming to the question  as to how best to channel our positive energies in positive pursuits rather than to be taken in by any unpleasant events and losing ourselves in the bargain. This positive change has to spring from our life-force, it this has to be more enduring and lasting one. This aspect could be meaningfully done by imbibing positive traits, positive attitude, calmness despite provocation of any sort, nothing should come in our way which could breach our calm bearing etc. This should be done till such time we do not require any impregnable iron curtain to breach to stay cool despite pulls and pressures. This happens when we have inner-peace which could be possible when we adopt spiritually oriented life-style. With calmness inside our system, no adverse provocation or inapt frustrating moment can push us to go-off-the-handle.

Adverse affects of anger:-

  • We should never forget that the main reason of breaking of our families fabrics is anger, therefore, in anger we lose our mental moorings and self-awareness along with self-confidence. Losing mental balance results in cultivating good relationship.
  • When our own anger results in breach of relationship, then, a guilt-feeling comes in our mind which affects us physically and mentally. We consider ourselves responsible for any adverse consequence of not controlling our anger when it was hugely needed.
  • If we want to live a guilt-free feeling, it happens when we weather all storms and remaining calm and tackle anger on our own terms rather than somebody dictating terms and conditions.
  • When in anger, we are not able to put in our best at our workplace, thereby, losing respect amongst our colleagues and superiors besides it adversely impacts our further growth in our career progression.
  • It should never be forgotten that subjecting ourselves to anger or rage becomes a habit and a part of our behavior after we repeatedly go off the tangent then it is difficult to get rid of this bad habit since this extreme habit has made residency in our system.
  • We should never forget that for every bout of anger we give out to others freely never forgetting that we have to pay a heavy price for such indiscretion. The best course of action is to understand the ‘price paid’ and reason for it all and not to repeat. For this to happen, we have to learn how to forget and forgive the doer to stop the breakage of relationship and also the consequent price to be paid.
  • It should always be kept in mind that while in angry mood, we shall not be able to use either our brain or heart since anger kills our rational thoughts.
  • Staying cool and patient despite provocations at any situation and condition will open-up new vistas and we shall be able to be adaptive wherever we make any sincere effort.
  • It is our common experience that a person who lives a spiritually oriented existence adopts the traits of positivism despite any adverse situation since such a person has belief in himself/herself and belief on his/her Creator. Anger for such a person has no place.  

Conclusively, we should always be aware that anything which makes us angry, avoidance or to keep-on-hold rather than being reactive is the way out. This act of ours will save us of many a future blushes

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