Most of our relationships get a sound drubbing
If we don’t sort out points of difference within shortest span of time
Reason may be any – big or small, turns out to be most divisive
Creating a gaping hole in our relationship
Which festering sore later on becomes malignant
In fact difficult to heal if not attended within shortest timeframe
Without establishing meaningful contact
And not sorting things out right away
By sitting across the table
Or establishing connectivity
By throwing reluctance to the winds
In an atmosphere of give and take
Rather than breaking the connect altogether
Having our heart at the right place
Often-time thinking that the other party should take initiative anyhow..
We firmly reckon, fault lies on somebody other’s shoulders
Alas! Not yours
Since you’re nurturing oft held notion
Holier than thou stance
You stand on high moral ground than the other party
Thus clinging on to a feeling of superiority
A complex sentiment so egocentric
Which is the crux
Of breaking connection held dear thus for
So important thing is to create congenial condition
Volunteering for interaction from both sides will assuage state.
ESTABLISHING CONNECTIVITY IS ESSENTIAL
Paradoxically, it is strange but true that we break our long held ties with our dear ones simply owing to some innocuous reason. A cause, which could have been brushed under the carpet instantly but we want to latch onto it unreasonably. If this seemingly simplistic cause is not attended to then and there, it will turn out be a relation breaker after sometimes. This has happened in many a cases, therefore, need is to attend to the matter at the incipient stage itself. This is like not attending to a spark of the short-circuit, if not attended timely, can burn down the entire building and also building around too. Similar is the case with non-attendance of innocent looking issue which could be relation breaker.
Even Lord Vishnu incarnated in different Avtars in order to remove the evil prevailing in the society and ensure order. To protect the righteous, to annihilate the wicked, and to reestablish the principles of dharma I appear on this earth, age after age. Bhagwad Gita. Without real and sincere connect, nothing tangible results.
Some of us stand on ceremony and don’t take initiative in sorting things out things instantly. The other side too maintains a stoic silence and ultimately this silence becomes reason for break in relationships, Opening the discussion and keeping the door open for mutual interaction opens vista of positive change which has stalled due to non-connect between the two parties.
Then question arises: why of all people ‘me; should take the first step and why not ‘he/she’ should take initiative? This back and forth attitude vacillation goes on in the minds of the parties concerned. All these contentious questions keep popping up in the minds of the persons concerned but alas! None of the two sides take first step and come forward and establish connectivity so as to alleviate the current differences. That said, we should always keep in mind that differences could be sorted out only through establishment of connectivity. SILENCE on this stance could be dangerous.
Many of our relationships just vanish in thin air if stoic silence is maintained for a long time. Sitting side by side across the table can only solve the pestering problem. Silence, I am repeating would prove to be counterproductive – small difference could snowball into breach of trust and trustworthiness thus creating a long chasm in the relationship which cannot be breached after a period of time. A stitch in time saves nine should never be forgotten.
Therefore, parties concerned should be sensitive enough to maintain a modicum of connectivity to sort things out as soon as possible rather than let it fester with a disastrous results which cannot be condoned when relationships go haywire.
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER
To establish our connectivity with each other just to convey our point of views just to understand each other. While we understand each other fully, all our differences get settled with goodwill and wellness prevailing all around.
TO IRON OUT DIFFERENCES
There are people who try to come in our way by creating ill-feelings due to jealousy or rivalries. When we hve one to one tet-a-tet then differences are sorted out on the basis of give and take thus removing all misunderstanding in the process.
MOST OF OUR RELATIONSHIP BEAK DUE TO MISUNDERSTANDING
It has been experienced that most of our relations just break because of misunderstanding due to one reason or other. This reason may be very minute which could be removed by connecting with each other.
CREATION OF COSINESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP BY INTERACTION
In essence, we can solidify the foundations of our relations and take to next ultimate level thru positive inter-connectivity and positive mindset.
SOMETIMES NOT CONNECTING WITH OUR WELL ESTABLISHE RELATION GO AWRY DUE TO NON-CONNECT
If we do not have positive connect with our friends or closest relation for a considerable periods of time then it may be construed as a sign of disinterest so can break relationship. Establishing connect can cement the bond. It is so in case of couples who break their relationship simply because they fail to connect for a considerable period of time creating a big chasm which cannot be filled easily.
- If we do not pray or meditate sincerely with a focused mindset, we cannot establish our connection with God. For this to be reality, we have to follow a spiritual oriented lifestyle.
- If a wound is not attended initially and left unattended, then, this wound may turn out to festering wound which may turn cancerous, difficult to heal even with the best medicare.
- Families do break due to non-connect of one earning member who left the family fabric due to a petty difference of opinion which could have been removed though interaction.
- Communities lose their unity stance when a slightest difference is not attended within shortest timeframe.
- Two countries remain at daggers drawn and may lead to war if initiative is not taken to sort out small things within short time.