Assertiveness, when taken in positive sense, it is a trait which is cultivated with a lot of experiences – some good and some not so good. Good experiences we can be incorporated whereas bad ones we could be discarded, of course, with a caveat, our endeavour should be not to repeat the same mistake.
ASSERTIVENESS WHEN TAKEN AS A POSITIVE TRAIT
Assertiveness could be described as self-assurance or self-confidence in taking on any challenge which may come in our life without any inkling. In such a scenario, assertiveness becomes a reality when we have experienced ups and downs of our lives and have learned the art of keeping balanced in all situations and conditions enabling us to face any contingency with self-belief and indomitable belief in God.
ASSERTIVENESS UNDER THE GUISE OF COMPLACENCY WILL LEAD US ASTRAY
It should also be borne in mind that complacency should not lead us astray and we become egoist – an exaggerated sense of importance. For self-belief, balance in all situations is a must otherwise we shall be losing what we have gained for ourselves. Therefore, humility with self-assurance will go a long way in winning many a battles in our life. This way, we shall not only be winning many a friends but also create optimistic environs around us. Our experiences teach us immensely and keeping healthy balance under all conditions will deliver us from all eventualities. In Bhagwad Gita it has rightly been said: Quickly they become virtuous, and attain lasting peace. O son of Kunti, declare it boldly that no devotee of Mine is ever lost.
ASSERTIVENESS ASSOCIATED WITH RAJASVIC ATTRIBUTES
Kashtriyas were endowed with Rajasvic attributes, with hard-heartedness, but with a mix of Sattva Guna (Trait), they could make difference in their attitude and behavior. They were endowed with passion or zeal for creative things with a lot of motivation in excelling in valour with assertiveness. They not merely defended their subjects with Rajasvic traits but sprinkle of Sattvic Gunas. They could render assistance to the hapless subjects living within his territory being the ruler. In other words, assertiveness or hardheartedness was Raja’s forte but along with this a good ruler is the one who shows compassion and soft-heartedness for his subjects when required. In Bible, it has been asserted: Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.
CROSSING LIMIT TAKE US TO THE DOMAIN OF SATAN
Apparently, when we cross the limit of decency and exhibit brazenness in our attitude, by so doing, we are treading on the path of self-destruction. It should never be forgotten that destructive trait is exhibited when we always show hardheartedness where softness is needed. This way, we do not solve problems but create many for us. Behaving thus is behaving with utter self-centeredness, profuse with egocentric tendencies. We all are aware that a man with ego is neither here nor there since such a person is selfish to the core and lives to satisfy his own wishes.
A SELF-REALIZED PERSON EXHIBITS A BALANCED MINDSET
It has been seen that a person with self-realization shows assertiveness while facing truth. He stands by truth and remains committed to the truth, come what may. But assertiveness with modicum of diplomacy and tactfulness in handling any developing situation can make a huge difference in adjusting in any environs. The agility in handling emerging situation should not tag us as a person who shows softness outwardly but is very hard-hearted when dealing with matters where bigheartedness is woefully needed.
Conclusively, it could be said that assertive attitude with healthy dose of tact and diplomacy could make a huge difference.