FATHER’S DAY ON 19TH JUNE 2022
A GLOWING TRIBUTE TO A FATHER
FATHER & MOTHER ARE IMPORTANT VEHICLE OF TRANSFORMATION IN THEIR CHILDREN
Father and mother are two important pillars of a family and children need both of them while they grow up. They are considered to be the best medium for bringing about needful transformation in their progenies. That is why it is important that both the spouses create sound ecosystem to change their destinies. In this scheme of things father has special responsibility.
MOTHER PLAYS A STELLAR ROLE
It is a undisputed fact that the relation of parents with their progenies is really very unique. Mother is considered to be the homemaker (Garhini) and her place in running the household in an ordinary manner. This includes taking care of the children, old and infirm including ensuring that the relationship with the close relatives along with distant relatives remains intact. No household can running efficiently and effectively without her deft and elegant handling. Not merely taking care of household chores, now she works for supplementing the income of the family.
RESPONSIBILITIES OF A FATHER FOR ENSURING EFFECTIE TRANSFORMATION IN CHILDREN
Following are the significant role played by a father in ensuring holistic growth and development in their children:
BESTOWING PROTECTIVE COVER TO THE ENTIRE FAMILY
It is a fact that when the family is internally and externally secure, it can perform its functions as a wellnit unit. The family feels secure and all the members of the household feel protected from any threats emanating from any quarter. With the presence of father, all the members works as a cohesive unit performing different responsibilities without let or hindrance.
ENSURING PROVISION OF FINANCIAL SECURITY FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILTY
Along with security and protection from outside aggressions, it is also the responsibility of a father to provide financial security for the entire family. He has to eke out a sincere living for the entire to his progenies grow to be self-reliant or till the progenies attain financial-independency.
FATHER HELPS IN FAMILARIZATION THEIR CHILDREN THE OUTSIDE WORLD
In the eyes of children, their father presents a clear window of opportunity to showcase them the panorama of world around them. He commands a huge respect in their eyes. He is their protector and security provider, their conscious keeper, their destiny and future depends on him since he never forsakes them in any event. I am of the view that father should also make sincere efforts that faith reposed by the children is not belied in any event.
BESTOWING LOVE AND AFFECTION WITHOUT ANY STRINGS ATTACHED
The father functions as a binding force in a family. He bestows his absolute love and affection to his family including the dependent members while ensuring that nobody is found wanting and neglected in any way.
RESPONSIBILITY OF FATHER TO EXHIBIT LOVE AND RESPECT TO HIS SPOUSE
A responsible father respects his spouse since the children too learn the value system from the family only, therefore, it is the duty of the father to have high opinion of his wife without any reservation. A father who does not bestow due respect to his wife sets a bad precedence for his progenies.
TEACHING THE IMPORTANCE OF DISCIPLINE
It is in the family itself that a child learns how best to remain in discipline meaning getting up early in the morning, perform all the natural functions in the morning hours, regulating all the functions with punctuality and systematically. In this, father’s plays a key role.
GIVING QUALITY TIME
Although father has to take care of financial security of the family yet it is his duty how best to spare quality time for his children for their holistic growth and development. This is done on a regular basis.
TEACHING THE TRAITS OF TAKING RESPONSIBILITY AND FIX ACCOUNTABILITY
Since the first lesson is taking any responsibility is learned in the family only, it is the responsibility of the father to assign different functions to hid progenies and teach them how best to be accountable for their respective functions. Any deviation should be handled by the father with tact and deftly. This accountability will teach them to remain disciplined not merely in the family but also in life which follows.
INVOLVEMENT IN STUDIES
It is the responsibility of the father that the children study according to the time schedule while checking their performance at every step. As and when a need is felt, father should take corrective steps to remedy or bestow course correction but all this should be done with love without fear or coercion. In this, his wife can also contribute for showing correct path for inculcation study habits in the children.
TEACHING THE CHILDREN TO BE A RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN
It is the responsibility of father to create an appropriate ecosystem in the family to teach their children to take responsibility in variety of functions in various stages of the life of their progenies. It should be kept in mind that a offspring remains a child for a father even if he/she grows to be young and aspiring professional. For a father, there is always a scope for improvement in a child at any stage of life and the offspring should also have the same sort of feeling. He should not outgrow his boots ever. A child has to grow to be a responsible citizen and not an irresponsible stone thrower and in this father has a special role.
FATHER AND MOTHER ARE THE IMPORTANT PILLARS OF THE FAMILY
It is significant to mention that both father and mother are the important pillars of a family and both of them ensure a conducive environment is created in the family so that the children imbibe sound value system, learn the art of adaptability in any environment, have trait to learn new things along with imbibing all the traits of good attitude and habit while shunning bad company. In this, both spouses play their stellar role in a most suitable ecosystem.
FATHER: A SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP
A relationship most reverential
Who comes to the succor of his offspring every time it is needed!
Even surmounting all constraints
Which may come on the path to tide over the situations
In whatever ethical way he can provide support to his children.
With abundance in parental love and affection
A male biological contributor of the infant’s creation
Possessing with it, all legal and social relationships
Besides, male parent carries certain rights and with it huge obligations
Even the step-father or adoptive father too has definite compulsions
To bestow upon the children the right kind of upbringing and value system
Under any circumstances
Care the child as his own continually till the children attain their goal
It is a pious duty of a father to render a helping hand to his children
Give the the right dose of upbringing which is hugely required
Including all support system which is needed
For upbringing the offspring in the best possible way wanted
For which paternal and maternal love is paramount
For overall evolution, growth and development of the child
Thus taking care of physical and mental health
So that the child adjusts well in the society in which the child is living
Thus helping the children steering clear
Off the difficult situations which may arise without much warning.
A LOT OF LOVE TO MY FATHER
It is a known fact that fatherly pat quenches
The logical thirst of their children
And the children come to know about the world around
Father’s guidance brings our journey back on track
And save children from going off course
And save them from sure off-the-track passage
Father’s soft touch is as good as the hard one
Since these help the children’s wellbeing in the long run.
I had all the attention from my parents
Those years were really very impressionable indeed
When both of them were there with us.
My father, a World War 1st Veteran
Who donned his army uniform
In his lifetime had seen many ups and downs
During his active service tenure in armed forces
He gave credence to the idea of ‘duty first’ above everything else
With utmost dedication and devotion which were the hallmark
The traits of which were transferred onto me in plenty.
My father too faced many a tragedies
Three of his brothers had accidental deaths
But faced every difficulty with resilience and courage
Determined that such tragedies should not distract us
He taught us that fear should not make us weak
But faced with courage and with strong will
He practiced Ayurveda to cure his rural patients as a social service
So that cure could be bestowed to the ones who needed it the most.
He actively participated in many a social causes
In whatever manner it was possible for him
With the limited resources he had that time
He nurtured us with the best diet he could afford
Inculcated positive outlook on life
And taught us how best to adjust with the time and space
As to how to face challenges
Which may visit without much warning
Infuse positive outlook on life in us
Even at the discouraging irritants
Which may visit us without any prior inklings
He taught us how to face up to any situation
Which he himself followed assiduously till his last day
While on his death bed at the ripe of age of Ninety SEVEN
When I was studying only in class SEVEN
Whilst he anticipated that his end was so near
He called all of us near him with a smile
Gave four gems of advices which we still follow most conscientiously
Never interfere in others’ affairs unreasonably
Never be afraid of life’s challenges which may visit suddenly
Never be reactive to anything that may happen with much warning.
And finally always follow the dictum
The winner is the one who follows the Absolute Truth.
Subsequently, he breathed his last
With two tears flowing from his eyes
And God’s names on his tongue
Which I vividly remember even now
That is the true tribute to my father
And may be to every father.