OUR TRIGGERSS

OUR TRIGGERS



Sometimes we are over-whelmed
By the odd behavior of others around
Other times, we are distressed
By the negativity in abundance
Which may generate repulsive feelings
Thereby we get huge upsurge in our emotions
Which impact our body
Mind and even soul hugely!

There are unethical people
Whose business is to generate negative feelings
Wherever they put their feet on.


Whereas there are the ones
Who weave a feeling
Of positivity thus create sound ambiance
Wherever they put their feet on
Such people are like spice in the curry
Which makes the curry tasty.

The parental triggers are known to all and sundry
While their offspring do well in studies
And then when their career graph goes northwards
They reflect a feeling of satiety with abundance of joy
On their facial appearances.


But when their children are ineffective in their studies
And the career graph goes just southwards
Their parents too feel anxious
About their unworthy wards!

Triggers will surely be there for us in our lives
But we’ve to make sincere efforts
Thru self-composure
That these triggers
Ought not affect us, in any way
And flow out
Like water flows on the even surface
Serene bereft of any noise!
As these pay us a visit oftentime.

When we’ve total control over our mind and senses
And are not overly impacted by our emotions
Which anyhow will remain paying a visit to us
But ward off anything
And everything
Which dares visit us at regular intervals, no frills anyway.


ON OUR TRIGGERS


In essence, there are some triggers which make us reactive whenever we take offence or become optimally emotional about an event or incident such as; go into shell of our own making or become too much stressed or react with anger or distress, or sarcasm etc. In other words, we get survival mode or adaptive response of a person to avoid danger.

REASONS FOR OUR TRIGGERS

Emotional trigger may be due to any reason, it results in change in our attitude and behavior resulting in emotional reaction will follow. This may be in the form of anger, distress, panic reaction or any other form. Trigger is thus an automatic reaction in response to stimulus. This trigger may lead to frustration, aggressiveness, anxiety, etc. Then there is specific trigger for specific stimulus created by a particular place or a thing. It may produce a feeling of joy or disappointment or excitement etc. It proves that different situations and conditions produce different triggers if we do not be adaptive to change. It also proves that our trigger depends on the strength of our mind resulting in either surrender or flight.

PARENTAL TRIGGERS

It has been observed that due to lockdown conditions owing to Covid-19 pandemic, there were business losses and job losses. During to this, the formal studies of the students suffered immeasurably. Presently, while the formal schooling has started yet the hangover of the trauma created by the infection still persists. It will take some time more to be adaptive to change.

PEOPLE WHO MAKE US HAPPY WHILE SOME TOXIC PERSON’S PRESENCE TRIGGERS OUR ANGER

I happened to meet one School Principal Mr. Jay Prakash. We waited for him for more than 30 minutes while he was teaching his students. We were feeling quite anxious since we had other commitments too. When he reached his office, his aura and presence was enough to create a positive ambiance for us all. Subsequently, his interactions impressed us optimally. We totally forgot that we waited for him at all!  A joyful feeling indeed. This is first case scenario.

Contrarily, there are toxic people who spread negativism where so ever they go. It is reflected from their exaggerated sense of importance and demeanor. It is sufficient to create negative triggers in the people around. This is the second case scenario.


SOME UNWANTED MEMORIES REMAIN PESTERING US

The unwanted or inappropriate memories of deaths and other episodes such as uncomfortable incidents of being rejected for employment or found unsuitable for marriage, or any irrational behavior of others remain haunting us whenever we remember them or are reminded by somebody else. Bad experiences in our life too when reminded generate dreadful reaction from us, of course, in consonance with the intensity of our experiences. Even unjust treatment of being ignored or feeling unwanted by those to whom we love meted out to us remain on the disc of our memory these and other sordid incidents remain with us became the cause of trigger.


IN OFFICES THE SUBORDINATES DO FEEL ANGUISHED AT THE BEHAVIOUR OF THEIR BOSSES

There are occasions when we make others feel small by our utterance. Sometimes unsolicited or uncalled for comments make us reactive. We may not reflect such affects outwardly but inwardly we feel disgraced. It so happened that while a staff member wanted to give presentation to the Manager about an urgent discussion impinging on an important contract, at that the Manager was busy discussing something which could have been postponed after sometime. Without knowing about the reason of his presence in the office, the Manager in a fit of rage told him to go out and wait till he is free from the current discussions. The concerned person got totally flummoxed, got stressed bordering on anxiety that if the matter was not discussed urgently, the organization will lose an important project. Such things do happen in our day to day routines and the concerned persons have to bear the brunt of the consequence. Therefore, dejection is the natural corollary.

IRRATIONAL AND UNHEALTHY CRITICISM

I was pained when I saw a conceived boss irrationally criticizing his subordinate in front of other employees knowing full well that his criticism was irrational. I saw the feeling of insult/slight writ large on his face. Such incidents are de-motivating to


WHEN WE ARE REMINDED OF OUR FOLLY, WE FEEL NON-PLUSSED AND ASHAMED

The taste of this emotional upsurge was observed when a well known leader was reminded of his folly of not solving their problems when he was a minister and now he was visiting their homes for seeking votes.

WE FEEL DISPRESSED WHEN SOMEBODY PASSES INSULTING REMARKS EITHER OF OUR COMPLEXION OR COLOUR ETC

I saw the colour of her cheeks change when she was reminded of her black complexion; so much so was the effect on her that she started weeping. There are some persons who do not lose any opportunity in pointing fingers at others so that they feel small.

LOWERING THE MODESTY OF FEMALE IMMORAL ACT

When a person spoils the modesty of a female, we can see the change in her demeanor, and in many cases, the concerned girl go to any heightened emotions and my take ultimate step of committing suicide if she is not given proper counseling session.

WHAT A GRAVE SITUATION IS CREATED WHEN GROWN UP CHILDREN LEAVE THEIR OLD-PARENTS IN OLDAGE HOMES?

All of us must have heard of some grown up progenies sending their parents to old-age homes when their children are independent financially and otherwise and do not need their assistance at all.

REMINSCING PAST SORDDID EXPERIENCES MAY BE A TRIGGER

During and after Coronnvirus pandemic, there were so many people who There are the ones who have lost their dear ones too. Whenever somebody reminds them of their state of predicament, they get highly surcharged with emotion. Reminder about the past unfortunate events are also huge trigger for a change.

AVOIDANCE OF TRIGGER POINTS

It has been observed that there are some people who are hell bent on spoiling your day by their thoughts and actions. Such people are negative in their orientation, do not have value system, are not adaptive to change and cribbing at the slightest pretext is their pastime. Our effort should be to keep a healthy distance from them. If it is not possible to avoid them then we should not be provoked by their intimidation or coercive tactics.

SOME REMEDIES FOR KEEPING THE TRIGGERS AWAYS

First and foremost thing is to find out the cause of trigger. How and why it got sparked? Introspection as to why we should not remember such triggers which keep us bothering? Having found the cause or source of a trigger, we can conclusively ward off those trigger and reach to a zone of clarity. This could meaningfully be done through self-effort in concert with body, mind and soul.

WHEN A TRIGGER VISITS, WE HAVE TO ENGAGE IN ANY ACTIVITY

It should never be forgotten that even if we have forgotten the triggers which emanated in the past, it is not possible that we shall not be experience the triggers in the present moment or in coming future. These will remain visiting us and we’ve to ward them off with our mental strength and self-determination.

QUESTION THE TRIGGER

The best course of action would be to get inquisitive about the visiting triggers and even take a dig at them but this be done through mental exercise and not to showcase the same in public glare.

CAN ESCAPIST ROUTE HELP?

It is a fact that ‘TIME’ is a great healer. Many of our bounds are cured with the medicine of passing time as nothing remains permanent this trigger will also pass with the passage of time. But care ought to be exercised that every trigger cannot be swept under the carpet. These may haunt us sometimes afterward and that too with great ferocity, therefore, the best course is to deal with them as and when situation arises – postponing hardly solve any problem.

LET GO IS BETTER OPTION

When nothing works, ‘let go’ works better. Therefore, better option is to forget the incident as a bad dream and live your life peacefully without let or hindrance.

BEING SELF-CONSCIOUS OR SELF AWARE

We should be self aware in which our potentials and weaker areas should be made known to us and devise every strategy to bridge the gap between our potentials and weaker areas. Then having control over our mind and senses can make a huge difference to us. This way, we shall be our own masters and not get swayed by anything under the sun.

KEEPING AN RECEPTIVE TO CHANGE

If nothing works, then accept whatever comes. Think that you are your own master. Live your own life freely without outer influences or controversies.

MAKE FRIENDS WITH WELL MEANING PEOPLE

It is well said, a man is known by the company he takes. Therefore, have a company of good friends and well wishers. As far as possible, toxic relations should be kept at arm’s length. Be sincere in your behavior and create a happy environ wherever you go.

WE SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR OUR THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS

Importantly, while our dealings are above board with abundance of clarity in our thoughts and actions, there is nothing to fear. Specter of fear visits us when we have doubtful credentials. These doubtful credentials will remain haunting us till such time we attain clarity in our vision and mission. Therefore, we have to be responsible or  accountable for all our actions.

MEDITATION AND PRAYERS ALONG WITH YOGIC EXERCISES COULD MAKE HUGE DIFFERENCE

It has been seen that we can get rid of our triggers by strengthening our response system by toughening our body and mind through focused attention.  This could conveniently be done through Yogic exercises, meditation / prayers. In other words, leading a spiritually oriented way of living makes huge difference in  our life. By living thus, we can enhance our patience, tolerance, persistence, endurance along with all the positive traits put together.

MEDITATION AND PRAYERS ALONG WITH YOGIC EXERCISES COULD MAKE HUGE DIFFERENCE

It has been seen that we can get rid of our triggers by strengthening our response system by toughening our body and mind through focused attention.  This could conveniently be done through Yogic exercises, meditation / prayers. In other words, leading a spiritually oriented way of living makes huge difference in  our life. By living thus, we can enhance our patience, tolerance, persistence, endurance along with all the positive traits put together.

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