LIFE IS ADMIX OF POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
EVOLVING FROM NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE ORIENTATION
In essence, when transacting our multifarious functions, we come across people of different temperaments. There are the people who are very suave, well-behaved, balanced-demeanor, tolerant, empathetic, compassionate and all the positive traits put together. Contrarily, there are people who are possessing all the negative traits such as arrogance, ruddiness, haughtiness, fastidiousness, ill-conceived demeanor, intolerance, narrow-minded, egocentric tendencies, etc. All these are mistaken lines of thoughts and in sync with the phrase: barking up the wrong tree. You can neither convince them to toe your positive thoughts but also cannot convince them to desist from following false pride.
Importantly, for negative oriented thought percepts, nothing matters for them except their way of thinking and acting. False pride and exaggerated sense of importance is their forte. They may not realize initially but it is a wrong line of thought. Such people do not know that they are traversing to the five gates of hell such as anger, lust, ego, greed and jealousy. In Bhagwat Gita Lord Krishna instructs Arjuna: With the growth of the body, the living entity, in order to vanquish his soul, increases his false prestige and anger and thereby creates enmity towards similarly lusty people.
CAN WE AVOID ARRANGANT PERSONS ALWAYS? NO WAY, WE CANNOT.
Essentially, if you think that you can avoid such negative oriented people as a way out, then question arises how long we can avoid these them when they are part and parcel of your lives? Such people are in your homes, organizations in which you are working, living in the same society where you always meet and interact. No way, you cannot avoid them. Then what is the option for us? Is dodging possible if such a person meets you in the corridor of common office or his seat is near yours in the office, or he is in our own home? No way, such people cannot be avoided although they annoy you enormously. The best way is to face them, listen them what they want to say. Sure enough, their conversation will not be of your liking but you cannot do anything about it. to make them understand your point of view, the situation may get worsened just proving the phrase: to add insult to the injury.
The arrogant or conceited people are ego-centric to the core. They form an opinion and stick to that opinion come what may. They are not flexible in their approach. They opine that their will should run supreme, despite of any consequences.
NEGATIVELY ORIENTED LOTS ARE INDECISIVE
It has also been observed that such people are indecisive too – saying one thing and then refusing to toe the line or lying through their teeth. If I happen to be in company of such people,. I shall pay him due respect as a colleague or a boss, perform my functions to the best of my ability with a notion that ‘this will also pass’. We should endeavor to improve ourselves to change according to the situations and conditions. Adapting to change will always enhance our awareness. With my experience in public life, I have learnt more from the people who criticize me rather than the ones who appreciated my work-ethic. Therefore, criticism should be taken with a pinch of salt and try improving ourselves. Everyday should be a learning experience for us.
ADAPTIVE TO THE CHANGE
Try to agree to disagree sometimes on the contentious points when you do not see eye to eye with a person to whom you consider him arrogant or rude. Many blushes could be saved when we try to adopt an attitude of adaptability; yes even with a brute of a person!
PAYING IN THE SAME COIN IS NOT A BETTER OPTION
Ultimately! ff still the fellow concerned is behaving woefully negative then what option you have at the time and space with you, you are free to exercise the best option open under the circumstances. But one thing should always be kept in mind that you should not go off the tangent and showcase an arrogant and rudeness to an already arrogant person – a mentally sick person. Seemingly, you should be tolerant to such a person. He has to be pitied and not paid in the same coin. Paying in the same coin may give you some satisfaction but eventually what you have gained out of ‘paying in the same coin’. Nothing at all! We must have observed the impression on the face of a person with who you are talking rude. He too would like to behave in the similar manner. Meaning what you give others, you get the same in return. No goodwill, no friendliness, no camaraderie, no amity! Therefore, silence should be our prime trait in such a situation.
TOLERANCE IS THE BEST ALTERNATIVE
Tolerance is a great virtue, it is difficult to imbibe but when it is a made a habit, it will never fail us. In Bible it has been mentioned: I will share God’s gentleness and respect, it is linked with love.
While advising Arjuna for performing his duty as a Dhanushdhari, Lord Krishan says: The significance of tolerance is akin to happiness and distress. These appear and disappear like winter and summer seasons. These arise due to our sense of perception. All of us must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed. By so doing, we can be in total peace with ourselves. This feeling could be generated while working in any situation and condition – adverse or appropriate.
HOW BEST THE ARROGANCE OR CONCEITEDNESS COULD BE CURBED
A person with arrogance and conceitedness could rid these negative orientation by following spiritual way of living. It should be kept in mind that every individual has accumulated various reactions which are good and not so good. It goes to show that a man does not know his real nature. Surrendering completely to His will makes us possible to rid us of all the negative emotions and thus live a peaceful life thenceforth. In Bhagwad Gita it has been said: A man engaged in devotional service rids himself of both good and bad reactions even in this life. Therefore strive for Yoga which is the art of all work. It can deliver us of all the bad traits. As the fire can destroy the dry grass, in the similar manner chanting the holy name of God knowingly or unknowingly burns anger, greed, lust, jealousy and ego which help us relieve us off all the material bondages. When all these bondages are remove then we live a purposeful life, free from any arrogance. Living in such ecosystem will generate goodwill and joyous feelings for us.