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WE CAN CHANGE PROVIDED WE HAVE WILL TO CHANGE

 

WE CAN CHANGE PROVIDED WE HAVE WILL TO CHANGE

 

We make ourselves slaves of our own weaknesses
Weaknesses which may push us in their web of influences

Though knowing well that such weaknesses are self-destructive
Yet we tend to do nothing  constructive

To change tamoguna tendency into sattvicguna trait

Tamoguna is the quality of imbalance or inactive

The vicious circle of events goes on, one leads  to another
still more harmful than the earlier one

We’re bereft of even an iota of awareness

Of  ‘how much is too much’ belief 
pushing us down the drain still further
till such time we get submerged totally

From where it is hard to come ou unsullied.

There still is way out from this utter confusion

A jam of chaos of our own creation

Created knowingly, perchance or influenced by situation
best course is to disentangle from this web strand by strand

With undaunted will and firm stand 
till such time we become totally free of cobwebs of weak spots

We ought to bear in mind right away

It is never too late to mend our ways

But for this to be a reality

We shall have to be adopt sincerity

Replete with goodness and purity

As our true and enduring dharma

Both in thoughts and in karma

And imprint an sattvic idea forever in our mind

It is never too late to mend

Thus rid ourselves of the weaknesses which pervades in us

And walk with head held aloft

With sufficient graces of our lord.

THE LURE OF BAD HABIT IS VERY SEVERE

 We can get these bad habits with ease but once these are imbibed, it is virtually difficult to eredicate from our system. For example, if we win a in gambling, our greed for wining more such games for winning ‘some more’  if only we had exercised control in the intial stages of our bad habit, we could have not developed such a bad habit. What transpired in case of Pandavas in Mahabharta epic is a relevant lesson for us all. For winning more, the pandavas wagered their everything including the consort Dropati . Or it may be lust for sex  beyond marriage which sometimes puts us in critical situation when the same is detected at the later stage. Many of the families have been broken by this bad habit. While it is easy to fall prey to these bad habits, but difficult to erase these habits. But their consequences are really tragic ultimately.

THREE TENDENCIES OF HUMANS

Humans have three qualities or traits. A tendency of having balance in which goodness, constructive holistic ideals prevail besides a person lives virtuously, is in peace with himself and others around him. This is termed as sattvic tendency. It is a positive oriented quality and a person possessing this quality is upright, righteous and adjusts in any situation he/she is placed. This also symbolizes white.

Secondly, a person who posses the quality of excessive passion, is egocentric, considers himself/herself as the centre of attraction. This person is rajasvic in nature. He considers himself as self made person and wants everybody to follow him. This symbolises red or passion.

Thirdly, a person who is who is having imbalance in life, dull and inactive, ignorant besides disorder and chaos prevail. This person is tamasic in nature. He is always negative in his/her words and deeds. This sort of a person is always negative in words and deeds. This symbolizes black.

WE CAN CHANGE IF WE HAVE THE WILL TO CHANGE

 Our endeavour should be to change our habits – turn from black to white and living our life with positive orientation. This could be done through adoption of virtuous traits by shunning negative traits and replacing these with positive traits.

Whenever a sincere realization dawns on us, we mend our ways and thus make concerted but sincere efforts in order to make the journey of our life smoother without any cobwebs on our path. For real realization to come by, it is important to understand the habits and behaviour we have imbibed – both positive and negative in the light of situation we are placed. Be that as it may, we can make our life better by endeavouring to do better than before. If on the way, we get some bad habit, we ought to proacrively exert to pin point that one and attack that habit and do everything possible to rectify the same and make it positive, first by trial and error method and subsequenty it will become a positive one. For this to be reality it is a must that we erase the drab which exists there.

It is undisputable fact that we humans are the product of our own thoughts and actions. If our actions go counter to our perceived good intentions, then, sure enough, we have to change the course of action in the light of bad results of our actions.

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Posted by on July 2, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

How do I tell my parents that I have bad anxiety thoughts about them Like killings thoughts need help?

How do I tell my parents that I have bad anxiety thoughts about them Like killings thoughts need help? (A question asked by somebody).

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Accepting your bad thoughts means you want to refine these thoughts. It is really a good sign of your refinement. Only the resolute will from your inner recesses of your mind should come and show you the path for your overall benefit.

Having killing thoughts too is a sign that you were not fortunate to have good childhood – may be you could not get quality time from your parents due to their pre-occupation with their jobs etc or may be due to bad influence of your environment. Or still more, you may not have got good peer group. All these may have influenced your thoughts.

Now as you are very clear about your thoughts, you are the only one who could help yourself. First of all just tell your parents, they will be more than happy to pull you out of this predicament. No parents wants their children to be in anxiety and that too with ‘killing thoughts’.They will try every means at their disposal to help you including the help of some medical experts in the field but one thing should not be lost sight of that there is a solution of every problem, if and when we want to have those solutions!

I think, nothing is amiss as on today. You have positive views on life. God is great. He comes to the rescue of those who seek Him most sincerely. With His presence and association, we can solve any problem. Have sincere belief in Him and you will out unscathed. God bless you. You should also have a firm belief that ‘TIME’ is a great healer. *

*It has been observed that those who can decipher their thoughts, may be at times negative ones, can certainly mend their ways, follow the right path by shunning those negatively oriented ideas which are playing in his/her mindset. This could only be done through self analysis and introspection. This path though is strewn with thorn but once we follow this path with right earnest, the destination is not that far – a destination of self awakening and clarity of vision with God’s grace.

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Posted by on June 24, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

ON SINCERITY

ON SINCERITY

Sincere word originated from Latin ‘sincerus’  meaning – pure, genuine, honest, upright, whole-souled etc. While transacting our duties, we adopt various methods in fructifying various tasks to be undertaken by us. There could be ethical or sincere mannerism and there could be corrupt practices adopted for doing these tasks. Although, in both, our assigned tasks  would  see the light of the day yet in former instance, we have adopted sincere methods (which gives us innate satiety) and in latter ones we have cheated or adopted insincere or dishonest methods (which  are unethical in nature) for success.

Sincere methods connote what we transact wholeheartedly with transparency, with genuine internal emotions and without any reservations. Not only internal emotions, our external impressions should be above board or sincere. These feelings could be tested and attested in any space and time. The earnest devotion bereft of any hypocrisy or feigning of any kind. Besides, requisite conditionality about sincerity is absence of any sort of misgiving in fulfilling a promise or the principle espoused is fulfilled without any deviation from the principles to be followed most sincerely.

While talking about sincerity, it  is pertinent to mention that the attitude  reflected ought to be beyond  any  shred of doubt. For example,  principle held dear by Aydhya rulers through ages were: RAGHKUL REET SADA CHALI AAYI PARAN JAYE PAR VACHAN NA JAYE’ (It has been the eternal tradition of the lineage of Lord Ram (Raghu Kul) To honor one’s word most sincerely, even at the cost of one’s life).

Sincere person could adjust in any  person and environment in which he/she is placed without much complication. There are people who remain sincere and steadfast to upkeep the integriry and honour of the motherland with sincerity and without any reservation even they could make supreme sacrifice for its cause.

 
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Posted by on June 19, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

WHATEVER HAPPENS IN OUR LIVES, HAPPENS FOR OUR GOOD. IS NOT IT?

 

HAPPENINGS IN OUR LIVES


What had happened in the days gone by
Whatever is happenning right now, presently
What would happen in the choppy waters of future, so uncertain
Belief that what would happen would happen for our good indeed
Will finally bring about positivity to our frame of mind
Whence results are unfavourable
We put in still more effort
To make ourselves competitive and ready to act
To pass any impending test that life puts
If success kisses our footsteps
We feel hugely elated
If otherwise despite best of our efforts
Thence we feel excessively perplexed
Introspecting to whom to bank on in the situation presented.


Knowing well, we have exhausted all the evenues available
Persevered, worked hard thereby leaving no stones unturned
Now only option left with us finally
Is to decypher the inner voice correctly
And leave everything on the god’s bounties
And just introspect with cool headedly
That outcome was not in our favour basically
Because it was not destined to be so
May be negative outcome is appropriate for us
Success may have brought in its wake
More misfortunes than we could anticipate
Thus leaving everything on creator’s grace
Will pull us out of the predicaments we are presently placed.

WHATEVER HAPPENS IN OUR LIVES, HAPPENS FOR OUR GOOD. IS NOT IT?

It is a fact that the experiences that we acquire in our lives (good or not so good) makes us cautious about how to deal with them. If somebody criticises us unreasonably, we should actually take it as a blessing in disguise, with an idea that there may be some leeway to improve; that is why the criticism. This ought to be taken as a bounty from God for our improvement. Be it as it may, i consider it double whammy since it will afford us opportunity to improve our calibre and also a strong belief that our Bhagwan Ji too is with us in this endeavour.

There may be cynicism involved that when something happens, we have to withstand the consequences / outcomes,  favourable  or unfavourable. They think that whatever happens has to be borne without any demur by the concerned person.  They do not think that sometimes mystic hands too can play a part in rendering us succour and saves us from the impending predicament. This way, our belief in our Creator just gets soldified – that he can pull us up when need be with a belief that whatever happens, happens for our good.

If something appropriate happens in our life, we take it as the result of our hard work or still more, we think the good results were partly due to our efforts and apt situations under which we were placed. But when it comes to inappropriate results, then, we heap faultline on destiny or more so, on providence. We never realize that what has happened good or bad or what would happen would be good for us. It has also been experienced that if we put our best and sincere efforts and have total belief in god, then everything turn out to be in our favour but with a caveat, destiny can provide us things we want which surprises us many a times, but we have to make an effort to get it. For instance, if we are provided a plateful of pudding, we have to make an effort to eat it. It will not come to our mouth without  us making an effort. 

Even our creation, evolution and destruction are in our favour. When a child is born, it follows a fixed pattern of growth – childhood, adolescence, adulthood, youth, middle-age, oldage and subsequently death. Our soul (atma) being eternal, gets transferred and takes new carrier in its next birth. Every living beings, without exception,  follows this outline. Then according to theory of reincarnation, we die for a new beginning – meaning whatever chain has been created by our creator is good for us, proving that his writ runs large. We want it or not , just does not matter.

Having conviction, that whatever happens (success or failure) happens for our good. If we are having this belief, then failure will not be as daunting and pain giving as we think it would be otherwise.

Some of real-life incidences i would like to relate which happened in my life which has soldified my belief that the hand of god is real.

  • It so happened that i had cleaned up the flower pots, removing some of the earth from each of these so that these pots could be watered with ease and some of the water remains in the flower pots to maintain its moisture level for some more time. Due to my busy schedule, i did not get time to remove the bagful of earth for some days. Two days back, as i was busy writing something on my laptop, i heard a commotion outside my home. When i opened my main gate, i saw smoke emanating from inside the room where the electric meters and electric connections for six units of houses are installed. I saw people shouting, fire, fire, but nobody was doing anything to extinguish the fire that had engulfed the entire units of the meter boxes connecting main lines etc. To throw water on the live power supply was out, throwing sand or earth was the only option.

Suddenly i realized that we had a bagfull of earth. I runningly picked up the bag and started throwing the dry earth on the power units on fire.. Low and behold, the fire started dousing and dimming on the portion i was throwing the dry earth. A further furtive effort extinguished the fire in next eight minutes. What a relief we all got when the engulfing fire was put off. What if the fire could have remained for next ten more miutes? It could have spread to the entire units of houses and the plastic wires could have given boost to the spread of fire. 

Then i introspected that if i would have disposed off the bag full of earth what would have been the fate of the houses in my neighbourhood, only option was to wait for the fire brigade or the people from the power department who, anyhow, reached after 20 minutes! And in 20 minutes, the the fire must have engulfed the entire buildings. I also must have been helpless spectator like others who were only crying hoarse but doing nothing tangible for dousing the rampaging fire. I reached to the conclusion that whatever happens or done or undone is good for us ultimately with the grace of god.

  • While waiting for a bus ride, i missed an opportunity to avail the bus to go to my destination because it was full to the capacity but i could have adjusted, if I wanted, but I decided against it – may be due to some internal cues. I had to wait for next half an hour for next bus ride.  On the way, when our bus stopped, we could know that something amiss had happened. There was a tragic accident in which all the 60 passengers died. To my utter horror, it was the same bus which I skipped about an hour before.  I would have been amongst the dead if I would have taken a ride an hour before. I was fortunate but not the others who were there on the fateful bus. What it proves
  • My four years grandson had a sudden small cut while playing with his toy. When i asked him what had happened, he most innocently replied. God has punished him for his fault – meaning doing something untoward brings in its bad results. His simple reply surprised me immensely. Even a small kid believes that if he does something bad God will punish him. Meaning there is a lesson in this small incident – good or not so good. Besides whatever happens is due to Him. It is for our refinement. Nothing else.
 
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Posted by on June 10, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

DISCUSSION ON SPIRITUALISM, PRINCIPLES OF SPIRITUALISM, UNPRINCIPLED ACTIONS OR KARMA AND GREY AREAS IN OUR LIVES.

 

DISCUSSION ON SPIRITUALISM, PRINCIPLES OF SPIRITUALISM, UNPRINCIPLED ACTIONS OR KARMA AND GREY AREAS IN OUR LIVES.

 

SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

 

Adopting a way of life with freewill

Just transcending boundaries

No inhibitions of any scriptures

Selection of journey is not forced

Through some injunctions or some laid down method

These are followed with pure intentions

With purity in action

Purity in convention

Purity in perception

Adopting righteous path bereft of any inhibition

With a positive desire to excel

Not losing sight of positive attitude

Humility and compassion aplenty

Along with doling out from the pool

Of possessions and knowledge

With full trust and belief

For unity of self with that of universe

Expecting little or nothing in return

Resulting in acquiring equanimity

And eternal peace in plenty

Eternal bliss is the final outcome of all these pursuits

The impediments of all these are unprincipled actions

Malice towards others, anger and greed for others possessions

These negative traits retard

Our spiritual march any further.  

 

SPIRITUAL JOURNEY IS A FREEWILL ENDEAVOUR

Spiritual journey is free-style  endeavour – just without any inhibition,  no string attached. No laid down norms followed, no methodology or particular procedure followed while we take the route of spiritualism. Whatever suitable and convenient way is good and ease with which we can follow the sojourn  is appropriate for us.

First of all, we should be able to understand spiritualism. SPIRITUAL principles are based on truth, pure consciousness, pure knowhow, pure perception, pure conception, doing everything without let or fear, pure desirability, righteousness, compassion or kindness, love and renunciation without any inhibition of any kind etc. In other words, whatever the path we follow, we do it truthfully, systematically and with enthusiasm, desire; freedom; liberation; positive attitude,  compassion, with a sense of sacrifice, giving away possessions in excess of one’s own basic necessities without any expectations in return, living purposefully following moral turpitude,  unity of self with universe, contributing holistically for the upliftment of body, mind and soul enabling and empowering, enrichment, commitment for enduring peace and happiness  besides eternal bliss.

The spiritual path is traversed with good traits like compassion, humility, gratitude, trust and integrity. Everybody would like to cultivate these and make these applicable in their lives. By doing so, we attach meaning and significance to our lives. Now love, wisdom and compassion are the spiritual principles. These add luster to our lives and make us sublime and provide peace and equanimity in our life. When inner and outer harmony manifest in the form of true understanding and acceptance, preference will align with principles dear to us.

We have to shift our focus from self centeredness to encompass more than our identity of some faith or the other, transcend things that limits — we’ve to aim for coherence. Cultivating balance leads to peace of mind. Spirituality is the movement of peace and it springs from our own inner equanimity. When our inner and outer harmony manifests in the form of understanding and acceptance, preference will align with principle. Truth wins at the end though  untrue preferences may be in any dimensions.


What is good for one may be bad for others. In spiritualism there are some rituals which are not liked by some people but are being followed by some. There are the ones which has not stood the test of time such as ritual of sati is not longer followed now as was being done before hand. One believer may follow certain way of prayer while other may follow the other one. It is termed as spiritual preferences.

UNPRINCIPLED WAY OF LIFE / NEGATIVE TRAITS WHICH TAKE US AWAY FROM SPIRITUAL PATH

We know how some of colleagues in our offices steal, hide, withdraw some important document or information in order to put other in disrupt and present the same as theirs in order to earn some brownie points and in the process lower others’ esteem. We also hide tax related information so as to save some money. Or hide cash in some parts of the tax havens to earn more and escape from the tax net. Recent Panama leak has exposed a systematic crime and corruption besides tax evasion of gigantic proportion. This leak has also highlighted behind the iron curtain secret deals which are fishy in nature.


If we just ignore unprincipled behavior means we are siding with the wrong doers and it is also self-evident that our ignoring unethical transgression hardly means it will just disappear in thin air. It remains here and kicking. For its eradication some tangible steps are needed besides ignoring wrongdoings also tantamount to supporting these ignoble acts of omissions and commissions. Ignoring a danger hardly means the danger is removed from our midst.
It has been seen that if we gloss over or look the other way after seeing something fishy means we ourselves are part of this non-transparent deal. This grey area is the black spot which needs to be curbed and and loophole plugged. If there is a fishy transaction, it should be brought to light. Some may say, they were ignorant, not knowing the exact position. Others may just say why he, of all the people, should come forward and point finger? If everybody thinks so, then, sure enough, unprincipled people will have a field day all the times.

When unethical behavior such as lying, cheating, stealing, hoodwinking and other violations take place due to our own then what? When we deal with people to whom we do not know, it does not pain much but when it comes to in our own bosom friends or in our most near relations then it falls under the category of grey areas and thus is most glaring. In daily discourses we come across such ill-conceived behavior almost on daily basis.

That which goes against our conscience is considered unethical on individual’s standpoint. It may also be unethical for community as a whole. Further whatever comes stemming due to fear of our karmic force; that if I act in a particular way, it may not be good for me overall. May be wisdom also comes in the way of action and if we act otherwise then that course may not be good for all.

We usually err because of our own judgement or a situation in which we are placed. We may err sometimes because of own judgement. Or due to our deliberate negligence or may be due to following some irresponsible way. We may think it to be right course of action but other may take it otherwise. There are injunction for doing a thing like sexual immorality is considered a sin and should not be resorted to. Gray area include; drinking, smoking, gambling, dressing in a way we want, viewing any movie we like. Err, slip-up, blunder, intentional-mistake are due to situation or condition in which we are placed.

All the creations by our creator are lovable but to discriminate on the basis of religion or caste, colour etc is not good. We become judgmental about others without thinking that all are created by our lovable Creator and He has gifted all air, water, sun equally with no bias. Our conscience may say something to be in order but it is also a fact that our aptitude, faculty or intuition or judgment may not be able to decipher good from bad sometimes. Moral judgement are driven from value system. When we commit a mistake, our conscious does not permit it because we think that our actions are contrary to the moral values. Or our actions are falling under negative trait.


WHAT IS SPIRITUAL PREFERENCE

We may prefer one set of methods for our prayers which is contrary to others or may be that is not in sync with the general spiritual principles. Then what? Would we be sticking with our own preferences or shift our gear to spiritual principles which are time tested. Which way we follow in real sense of term depends on our own aptitude and our own decision according to the situation in which we are placed.

GREY AREAS IN OUR DAILY LIVES

There are in fact grey areas in almost the aspects of our activities in one form or another. There are certain way of doing something which may not be in sync with rules and conventions of the community in which we are living. But all is still not lost. There are some areas where balance is to be maintained by us. Compare the behavior of two entities; a known astrologer and a unknown bus conductor. I happen to e-contact an astrologer and wanted to know about answer to my query: Whether our hard work could change our destiny? The answer to this query was prefaced as: ‘You’ll have to pay Rs. Three thousands for every question asked!  Also on a visit to my relative, I had on me Re. one less than the actual fare of Rs. 10/-. He accepted Rs. 9/- and gave a ticket for Rs. 10/-. Contrast it with the action of astrologer and the bus conductor.


There are the parents who are ill-treated by their offspring in their oldage. This is a disgrace. The children should introspect, how the parents had brought them up. The father eked out a living and the mother sweat at home. She slept in the wet part of the bed but kept the child in the dry part. How and why do the children; when they grow up just forget? Some parents also do injustice with their grown up children. For instance if two children of a parents are there, one is provided every rights of ownership of the household but the other one woefully is divested off all the possessions and expelled from home without any plausible reason or rationality. Is it justified, too? This too is a grey area in our society which requires a relook.

There is no doubt that man is errs, but in doing so, he sometimes acts unethically thus tarnishing his image not only his own eyes but also in the eyes of general public. It is double whammy since firstly the person concerned knows that his act of stealing others’ possessions is wrong and secondly when people come to know about it, it becomes all the more difficult to save his skin.

  • Discriminate humans on the basis of colour. and region besides castiest attitude. The sham of racism is really a black spot and a slap on our face who tend to be civilized yet discriminate because of colour!
  • Immorality
  • To deceive others by heaping with white lies.
  • Show disrespect to our older members.
  • To show innocence where none exists.
  • To show to be truthful where none exists.
  • Drunk with pride and ego.
  • Children not been taught the value system from their childhood.
  • To most audaciously tell lies for gaining sympathy of others.
  • Being thankless for others’ bounties to us.

 

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Posted by on May 29, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

WHAT IS INSTINCT AND INSTINCTIVE ACTION?

WHAT IS INSTINCT AND INSTINCTIVE ACTION?

INSTINCTIVE ACTION BY THE LIVING BEINGS

An inborn response to an action
To an unforeseen event
Which comes just naturally
With little or no interference
By organisms’ existing intelligence.

No one teaches a baby how to cry
When in need for attention or feed
Or while learning to crawl or walk.

Animals live in the natural settings
Survive on the basis of their natural instincts
Which the Mother Nature
Has bestowed them aplenty
Even more than so called evolved humans.

The birds make their nests
On the basis of their instincts
Migrate from one place to another of their choice
In anticipation of change of climate
Caring fig for the manmade barriers so openly
or borders, which are protected, so unstintingly.

Even plants’ growth depends on the light and shade

Persistently assisted by their instincts
Sun flower changes its direction
As per the light of the Sun
Or in shade and light
There is perceptive change in the plants.

Photosynthesis is the best examples
By which plants convert light energy
Into chemical energy

In presence of light of sun
Which fuels the organisms activities
Which the Mother Nature has bestowed on the plants

Thus living beings complete their

Full circle of reliance on each other

In which instinct plays a predominant role.

 

INSTINCT

Instinct is something which is intrinsic or intuitive in an human or animal which need not to be learned. It comes just naturally without a thought about a happening or an event. Our brain need not play its part in this. We observe that the newly born baby cries whenever there is a need for feed, learns to crawl or walk, which could be construed as an instinct action, etc. Then animals behave on the basis of their instincts. In other words, when there is automatic response to stimuli, we call this action based on instinct.

Instinct has been mentioned in Holy Bible as: Even the stork in the sky Knows her seasons; And the turtle, dove and the swift and the thrush observe the time of their migration; But My people do not know The ordinance of the LORD. It goes to amplify that in all the living world, instincts play predominant role. Mother Nature has bestowed this train in plants too: touch-me-not (Mimosa pudica) just folds its leaves inward when it is disturbed. I am of the view that humans sometimes just feign ignorance about instincts or willfully do not recognize the existence of this important trait.

INSTINCTIVE ACTION BY LIVING WORLD

A natural reaction on the spur of moment or displaying of particular behavior by people or species without recourse to a thought or analysis is instinctive act. In other words, it is innate behavior or inclination of an individual or an organism to act in consequence to an act. It is through instincts that the birds migrate from one place to another in anticipation of change in climate or imminence of some danger. The police use dogs for locating the criminals merely because dogs’ instincts are very responsive and through their scent itself they can help locate them. Dogs are also used for locating the victims trapped inside the debris of buildings in the event of natural disasters etc. When water is thrown on the animals, suddenly, they shake their fur and remove water. There are other natural behavior of animals and birds worlds like making their living places, nests, learning to fly, animals learning to fight etc come under category of instinctive behavior.

It has been experienced, when in spiral of piquant situations, even a die hard atheist will instinctively invoke God for deliverance. This inner voice comes just naturally. In Holy Quran it has been said: The Fitrah (natural human instinct) proves the Existence of Allah.

Some factors are responsible for instinctive behavior firstly it is happens without previous knowledge or experience. In other words, it is expression of innate or internal reaction which comes to the fore without any forethought. The instinctive or insightful action that an organism exhibits can alter the stimulated action on the spur. This action could be trained or sharpened with experience.

ROLE OF INSTINCT IN OUR LIFE

The role played by the living beings/species depends on the role of social learning by individual besides the affect of environment and maturity gained through different experiences. Intuitive-related aspects play a prominent role in all the processes. Our past experiences form our behaviour. More of connective experiences make our behavior mature and when crunch comes this behavior helps us take decisive action on the spur. Meaning we can call instinctive or impulsive reaction to an event as a mature behavior (learned behavior through various experiences). Here two things have to be kept in mind; the learned behavior and the innate reaction to an event. But innate behavior does not happen without first experiencing some failures. I think a balanced mix of inner strength and healthy experiences (both hits and misses) we make mature behavior which we call instinctive behavior or intuitive / perceptive reaction or impulsive reaction.

INSTINCTIVE BEHAVIOR & SPIRITUALITY

First of all it is important to understand what spirituality is all about. For some spirituality is about going to prearranged or formal places of worship like church, mosque, temple or any other organized places for conducting religious discourses or holding prayers according to the our beliefs and faiths we espouse. Or spirituality is obtained through private prayers, conducting yogic postures, meditation or silent contemplation. Taking into account the meaning of the spiritualism, it is worthwhile to surmise that if we follow spiritualism then by its practice in real life we are actually forming a habit or behavior pattern by following spiritual beliefs. In other words, it is through training ourselves that we form our behaviour and thereby give power to our inner self. All these activities, if followed in right earnest then we can activate our instinctive tendencies.

It is said in Bhagavad Gītā that simply by surrendering oneself unto the lotus feet of the Lord….to pray to God when one is in difficulty is a natural instinct in every living beings.

Following factors are considered while we talk about instinctive action:-

(i) Instinctive behavior is automatic and sudden, without any personal effort.

(ii) It is a trigger to some event or a happening – known to have taken place or anticipated.

(iii) An intrinsic force is overpowering if developed by observing conditions required for this purpose.

(iv) For this sort of an act training or experience makes a positive impact and makes it a positive and in fact evolved habit or behavior. The behavior such as helping an accident victim, rendering help in dousing fire, cooperating in lifting a weight, sorting out differences between close relations etc.

(v) Instincts happen in all the living world. In animal it is more prominent and in humans it is evolved through daily experiences.

(vi) Reflex action may or may not happen with or without the help of brain.

(vii) There is evolution of humans due to knowledge gained over a period of time through various experiences.

(viii) Environment plays a obvious role in molding the instinctive behavior of humans and other species.

(ix) Instinctive behavior could be with learning or without learning even.

(x) When our instinct is strong, it can anticipate the occurrence of an event and prepare for the defence.

(xi) Humans have evolved from the instinct to survive through variety of experiences.

I survived solely because of grace of Providence or can say the instinct or inner voice. My left hand wrist had fractured a few months back. Though the pain is less yet it cannot be fully used i.e. it is in the process of fully healing for lifting any weights etc. While boarding a speeding vehicle, I was just to use my left hand for catching the handle for boarding the entrance door. But suddenly on the spur, my instinct fore-warned me and I stopped my extended hand and used the right hand to take hold of the handle of the window just on time. Therefore, I also call the instinctive act as the act graced by our Lord.

In Bhagward Gita it has been made amply clear: Only when we face the instinct to survive and the instinct to possess, will we enter the zone of fearlessness. Until then it can never happen.

 

 
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Posted by on April 16, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT

 

ON GAMBLING AND ITS REPERCUSSIONS.

 

Holy Quran says: God prohibits gambling and games of chance in very clear terms.

Holy Bible  says:  For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?

Bhagwad Gita: There are many kinds of cheaters all over the universe. Of all cheating processes, gambling stands supreme…..

In Sikhism it is vividly enunciated: Sikhs are advised not to gamble in games of chance, but to earn a living by honest means while engaged in earnest hard work.

GAMBLING

Temptation for some ‘more’ easy money

A curse that we promote anyway

At first we start it as a ‘time-pass’

Thence it becomes a habit difficult to leave us

Easy to be formed but quite hard

To be easily forsaken at all

And finally becomes a cause of our downfall!

The question we should ponder

Resources earned with hard work

Bring forth prosperity and all round happiness

When used for our offspring

And dependents we hold dear

Besides elevating our Soul to new heights.

Whereas money earned

Other than the sweat of our brow

Like from impulsive gambling

Or through unpredictable betting

Being easily made is frittered away very easily

This money when used for our children and love ones

Bring about results so gloomy

That we are stunned as to how it all occurred eventually

And with it all we lose sheen of our own soul!

We become slave to gaming as a habit

Through constant repetition

Form a permanent addiction 

Leading to physiologically harsh implications

Along with psychologically severe afflictions

This way we become cause of our own destruction

This way, we not only ruin our own selves

But the future of our well-wishers.

 

ON GAMBLING AND ITS REPERCUSSIONS.

 

Even as we ponder: Habits die hard’ yet there are the myriads of habits which not only adversely impact the individual concerned but also the entire family to which that individual belongs. Habit of gambling is one amongst them. Many a families have had disastrous repercussions financially, socially, morally and physically.  It is a vice which sullies our soul ultimately.

The literal meaning of gamble is to play a game or match wherein outcome or result is uncertain or a pastime which depends purely on chance or a bet with an intention and expectation to reap windfall profit – a shorter gain. People may say, in life we take so many risks and let there be another risk for earning randomly without botheration of hard work. If only this were so simple! It is not so as we all know, it is a reckless or hazardous and downright negative behavior/ habit which impacts not only the individual concerned but also the entire family.

Gambling may also include risking on some unsettled issues or agreements of household or betting or wager on some unpredictable result of a game like cricket, hockey or football which wholly depends on chance – result could be any. Investing in stock exchange also is a sort of a gamble. There is a huge risk involved. The stocks we put in our investment may become bullish or may crash to abysmal levels. This uncertain boom or doom may put ourselves high or may dry us of all our resources at our command.

What do you call a bettor – a empty brained who neither thinks about himself nor of his entire family. The honour and future of entire family is put in disarray by a foolhardy fellow. He is dishonest to himself, his entire family, his community and finally to his Creator? Fact stands out that those who are gambling addicts are affilicted with mental and physical problems (mood changing, cannot be relied upon for any decisive action under the sun besides may have personality disorders).

The daily habit we have cultivated over a period of time with our own sweet-will like various types of addictions like: smoking (nicotine from cigarettes is addictive like heroin which not only adversely affects our lungs but also brain besides it produces undesirable affects on almost all the parts of our body including brain), drugs (Intake of drugs could have both short and long term implications on our body and also leads to addiction besides when addicted, it is difficult to get rid of this risky habit without the help of an experienced medical practitioner) and other health risky habits, these habits are easy to form but difficult to erase from our system.

We know what happened in the famour epic Mahabharta to Pandavas who wagered everything in the game of a dice with Kauravas. Shakuni induced the Pandavas to wager one precious things after another and won everything (their kingdom and everything that it contained, their own selves including  their most precious gem their consort Dropati). The entire loss was due to the hope of winning and paid heavy price after losing everything. This was done basically by the deception and conceit of Shakuni. We also know what was the consequence of this deception and consequence. Pandavas were exiled and even after their tenure of exile  was over they were subjected to different kinds of discrimination. The result of all this was a most ferocious battle between Pandavas and Kauravas in which there was death and destruction wroght on Kauravas and even the winners Pandavas too lost much. This epic of Mahabharta should be a guide for us all what a gamble can bring about – a total destruction.

Then there is tradition of gambling on Diwali day. It is believed that on this day Maan Parvati played dice with Lord Shiva. But unfortunately, some irresponsible people just continues and make it a habit to gamble even staking high to earn more after this festival. Yesterday, I happen to meet a fellow who had lost a hefty sum of money on the eve of Diwali (on which it is viewed that if we gamble, good omen befalls on us for our entire life). The entire amount was taken from the other party on an interest @ 10 % per month which comes to whopping amount per month. This fellow was forced to give this interest from monthly payment. On paying this huge rate of interest, he was left with only a paltry amount with which he had to meet his entire month’s expenditure  including the fee of his children; while his principle amount remained intact!  This individual and his family members who are dependent upon him entirely were left to fend for themselves. What predicament, this insensitive person had put himself and his entire family! This case shows to what limit our greed could take us and consequences it can lead us to.

Not only this one, there are many examples in which the person(s) concerned  could not stand the ensueing trauma of repayment to the creditors and were forced to commit  suicide leaving their families in the lurch for good. This is a problem gamblers or gambling addicts who wager everything with an expectation to win to become rich without  hard work / sweating fall in the pit of uncertainity for good. Compulsive gambling is a vice and lowers the person concerned morally, socially, physically, emotionally/psychologically and even spiritually.

Doubtlessly, there are some adverse implications for the addicts and their families who resort to gambling. These include:-

  1. Economical implications. Consequences of becoming rich instantly through gambling has financial implications for the entire family when that addict wagers everything including home and hearth. This loss is felt by the entire family; the children in the family for whom money is required for their upbringing and schooling suffer adversely. More often than not, compulsive gambler lose their jobs because they are not able to devote wholeheartedly on the job-at-hand.
  1. Adverse Implications on children. It becomes all the more problematic for the children whose parents are gambling addicts. They are either left at home or somewhere else while both the parents gamble and one can very well imagine the predicament of these hapless children when both of the parents lose. Ultimately, it has been observed that the children too become gambling addicts when they grow up and are forced to live a life which their parents led.
  1. Sociological Implications. When there is somebody in the household who is a gambling addict, the entire family suffers. There is a threat of creditors looming large and the entire community comes to know of it all. Worse still a police case may also result in some cases. This, many a times, causes irreparable damage to reputation of the entire family. All members of the family face social stigma.

 

  1. Psychological implications. When there is an addict in a particular family, everyone in the community comes to know about this fellow. This way, the entire family experiences emotional and psychological problems resulting in mental and stress related diseases.

 

  1. Physiological Implications. While an addict in the family just fritters the hard earned resources due to greed for more, the members of the family have to fend for themselves. They are constrained to live with less or no resources at all; the family members are forced to live frugally impacting their physical wellbeing.

 

  1. Gambling and Spiritualism. Gambling is associated with attachment and greed for more worldly possessions and hence a negative Karma and carries with it a disgrace of negativity whereas spiritualism is associated with knowledge (Gyan) and when this knowledge is used practically it helps us in transformation of ourselves holistically – not merely religiously but in moral and ethical standpoints too we acquire higher platform. But gambling as a vice snatches all these from us.

The following suggestions are made for the one is swayed/lured to gambling curse and turned into addicts:-

 

  • Habits are formed through repetition. This is true for good and bad habits. We may start gambling as a mark of religious practice (just innocently) but end up having a perennial habit. Then why to gamble at all – even as a mark of religious ritual? A bad habit cannot be construed as good one even when a religious tag is attached with it?

 

  • Greed & Gambling. When the stakes are higher then our expectations too become higher and it is not that our expectations are always met, then what? We lose. This loss of our precious earned resources take toll not only as an individual but also our family too gets aftershocks. This greed for anything has to stop. Earnest earning through hard work pays huge dividends should never be forgotten.

 

  • Honest earnings bring prosperity. It has been experienced that if we use the hard earned money for the family, it will bring huge rich dividends for us and our offspring. Resources  coming through corrupt practices, like gambling etc and used on our children bring dismay and negative results ultimately. ‘As you sow so shall you reap’ is the best example for this.

 

  • While wagering remember that there is somebody waiting for you at home who loves you. While we are gambling, we should never forget the unfortunate examples of those who lost their everything including the members of their families through the scourge of gambling.

 

  • Cultivate good pastime. It is well said: ‘ An idle brain is a devil’s workshop’. We should cultivate some positive and productive pastime so as to utilize our spare time so that we may not be lured by some dangerous game like gambling or betting.

 

  • Children should be kept away. Even when we are playing some innocuous games like rummy or cards even when the stakes are very little, the children should be kept away from these all lest they too fall prey to these.

 

  • Accept your fault & determine not to gamble. Problem with us is that, in the first place, we do not accept our fault. It is a eternal truth that till such time we accept our fault, we cannot rid ourselves of gambling or any other malaise that bedevils us. Therefore determination to rid of any vice or evil precedes acceptance. Being rigid on our part will not help find solution to the pestering problem hence choice is on us whether we want solution to our addiction problem or not. This problems of addiction to gambling was created by us and we have to seek its solution, the sooner it is done the better?

 

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Posted by on February 5, 2016 in Inner Thoughts, SELF IMPROVEMENT