WE CAN CHANGE PROVIDED WE HAVE WILL TO CHANGE

 

WE CAN CHANGE PROVIDED WE HAVE WILL TO CHANGE

We make ourselves slaves of our own weaknesses Weaknesses which may push us in their web of influences Though knowing well that such weaknesses are self-destructive Yet we tend to do nothing  constructive To change tamoguna tendency into sattvicguna trait Tamoguna is the quality of imbalance or inactive The vicious circle of events goes on, one leads  to another still more harmful than the earlier one We’re bereft of even an iota of awareness Of  ‘how much is too much’ belief  pushing us down the drain still further till such time we get submerged totally From where it is hard to come ou unsullied. There still is way out from this utter confusion A jam of chaos of our own creation Created knowingly, perchance or influenced by situation best course is to disentangle from this web strand by strand With undaunted will and firm stand  till such time we become totally free of cobwebs of weak spots We ought to bear in mind right away It is never too late to mend our ways But for this to be a reality We shall have to be adopt sincerity Replete with goodness and purity As our true and enduring dharma Both in thoughts and in karma And imprint an sattvic idea forever in our mind It is never too late to mend Thus rid ourselves of the weaknesses which pervades in us And walk with head held aloft With sufficient graces of our lord. THE LURE OF BAD HABIT IS VERY SEVERE  We can get these bad habits with ease but once these are imbibed, it is virtually difficult to eredicate from our system. For example, if we win a in gambling, our greed for wining more such games for winning ‘some more’  if only we had exercised control in the intial stages of our bad habit, we could have not developed such a bad habit. What transpired in case of Pandavas in Mahabharta epic is a relevant lesson for us all. For winning more, the pandavas wagered their everything including the consort Dropati . Or it may be lust for sex  beyond marriage which sometimes puts us in critical situation when the same is detected at the later stage. Many of the families have been broken by this bad habit. While it is easy to fall prey to these bad habits, but difficult to erase these habits. But their consequences are really tragic ultimately. THREE TENDENCIES OF HUMANS Humans have three qualities or traits. A tendency of having balance in which goodness, constructive holistic ideals prevail besides a person lives virtuously, is in peace with himself and others around him. This is termed as sattvic tendency. It is a positive oriented quality and a person possessing this quality is upright, righteous and adjusts in any situation he/she is placed. This also symbolizes white. Secondly, a person who posses the quality of excessive passion, is egocentric, considers himself/herself as the centre of attraction. This person is rajasvic in nature. He considers himself as self made person and wants everybody to follow him. This symbolises red or passion. Thirdly, a person who is who is having imbalance in life, dull and inactive, ignorant besides disorder and chaos prevail. This person is tamasic in nature. He is always negative in his/her words and deeds. This sort of a person is always negative in words and deeds. This symbolizes black. WE CAN CHANGE IF WE HAVE THE WILL TO CHANGE  Our endeavour should be to change our habits – turn from black to white and living our life with positive orientation. This could be done through adoption of virtuous traits by shunning negative traits and replacing these with positive traits. Whenever a sincere realization dawns on us, we mend our ways and thus make concerted but sincere efforts in order to make the journey of our life smoother without any cobwebs on our path. For real realization to come by, it is important to understand the habits and behaviour we have imbibed – both positive and negative in the light of situation we are placed. Be that as it may, we can make our life better by endeavouring to do better than before. If on the way, we get some bad habit, we ought to proacrively exert to pin point that one and attack that habit and do everything possible to rectify the same and make it positive, first by trial and error method and subsequenty it will become a positive one. For this to be reality it is a must that we erase the drab which exists there. It is undisputable fact that we humans are the product of our own thoughts and actions. If our actions go counter to our perceived good intentions, then, sure enough, we have to change the course of action in the light of bad results of our actions.

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Accepting your bad thoughts means you want to refine these thoughts. It is really a good sign of your refinement. Only the resolute will from your inner recesses of your mind should come and show you the path for your overall benefit.

Having killing thoughts too is a sign that you were not fortunate to have good childhood – may be you could not get quality time from your parents due to their pre-occupation with their jobs etc or may be due to bad influence of your environment. Or still more, you may not have got good peer group. All these may have influenced your thoughts.

Now as you are very clear about your thoughts, you are the only one who could help yourself. First of all just tell your parents, they will be more than happy to pull you out of this predicament. No parents wants their children to be in anxiety and that too with ‘killing thoughts’.They will try every means at their disposal to help you including the help of some medical experts in the field but one thing should not be lost sight of that there is a solution of every problem, if and when we want to have those solutions!

I think, nothing is amiss as on today. You have positive views on life. God is great. He comes to the rescue of those who seek Him most sincerely. With His presence and association, we can solve any problem. Have sincere belief in Him and you will out unscathed. God bless you. You should also have a firm belief that ‘TIME’ is a great healer. *

*It has been observed that those who can decipher their thoughts, may be at times negative ones, can certainly mend their ways, follow the right path by shunning those negatively oriented ideas which are playing in his/her mindset. This could only be done through self analysis and introspection. This path though is strewn with thorn but once we follow this path with right earnest, the destination is not that far – a destination of self awakening and clarity of vision with God’s grace.

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ON SINCERITY

ON SINCERITY

Sincere word originated from Latin ‘sincerus’  meaning – pure, genuine, honest, upright, whole-souled etc. While transacting our duties, we adopt various methods in fructifying various tasks to be undertaken by us. There could be ethical or sincere mannerism and there could be corrupt practices adopted for doing these tasks. Although, in both, our assigned tasks  would  see the light of the day yet in former instance, we have adopted sincere methods (which gives us innate satiety) and in latter ones we have cheated or adopted insincere or dishonest methods (which  are unethical in nature) for success.

Sincere methods connote what we transact wholeheartedly with transparency, with genuine internal emotions and without any reservations. Not only internal emotions, our external impressions should be above board or sincere. These feelings could be tested and attested in any space and time. The earnest devotion bereft of any hypocrisy or feigning of any kind. Besides, requisite conditionality about sincerity is absence of any sort of misgiving in fulfilling a promise or the principle espoused is fulfilled without any deviation from the principles to be followed most sincerely.

While talking about sincerity, it  is pertinent to mention that the attitude  reflected ought to be beyond  any  shred of doubt. For example,  principle held dear by Aydhya rulers through ages were: RAGHKUL REET SADA CHALI AAYI PARAN JAYE PAR VACHAN NA JAYE’ (It has been the eternal tradition of the lineage of Lord Ram (Raghu Kul) To honor one’s word most sincerely, even at the cost of one’s life).

Sincere person could adjust in any  person and environment in which he/she is placed without much complication. There are people who remain sincere and steadfast to upkeep the integriry and honour of the motherland with sincerity and without any reservation even they could make supreme sacrifice for its cause.

WHATEVER HAPPENS IN OUR LIVES, HAPPENS FOR OUR GOOD. IS NOT IT?

 

HAPPENINGS IN OUR LIVES

What had happened in the days gone by
Whatever is happenning right now, presently
What would happen in the choppy waters of future, so uncertain
Belief that what would happen would happen for our good indeed
Will finally bring about positivity to our frame of mind
Whence results are unfavourable
We put in still more effort
To make ourselves competitive and ready to act
To pass any impending test that life puts
If success kisses our footsteps
We feel hugely elated
If otherwise despite best of our efforts
Thence we feel excessively perplexed
Introspecting to whom to bank on in the situation presented.

Knowing well, we have exhausted all the evenues available
Persevered, worked hard thereby leaving no stones unturned
Now only option left with us finally
Is to decypher the inner voice correctly
And leave everything on the god’s bounties
And just introspect with cool headedly
That outcome was not in our favour basically
Because it was not destined to be so
May be negative outcome is appropriate for us
Success may have brought in its wake
More misfortunes than we could anticipate
Thus leaving everything on creator’s grace
Will pull us out of the predicaments we are presently placed.

WHATEVER HAPPENS IN OUR LIVES, HAPPENS FOR OUR GOOD. IS NOT IT?

It is a fact that the experiences that we acquire in our lives (good or not so good) makes us cautious about how to deal with them. If somebody criticises us unreasonably, we should actually take it as a blessing in disguise, with an idea that there may be some leeway to improve; that is why the criticism. This ought to be taken as a bounty from God for our improvement. Be it as it may, i consider it double whammy since it will afford us opportunity to improve our calibre and also a strong belief that our Bhagwan Ji too is with us in this endeavour.

There may be cynicism involved that when something happens, we have to withstand the consequences / outcomes,  favourable  or unfavourable. They think that whatever happens has to be borne without any demur by the concerned person.  They do not think that sometimes mystic hands too can play a part in rendering us succour and saves us from the impending predicament. This way, our belief in our Creator just gets soldified – that he can pull us up when need be with a belief that whatever happens, happens for our good.

If something appropriate happens in our life, we take it as the result of our hard work or still more, we think the good results were partly due to our efforts and apt situations under which we were placed. But when it comes to inappropriate results, then, we heap faultline on destiny or more so, on providence. We never realize that what has happened good or bad or what would happen would be good for us. It has also been experienced that if we put our best and sincere efforts and have total belief in god, then everything turn out to be in our favour but with a caveat, destiny can provide us things we want which surprises us many a times, but we have to make an effort to get it. For instance, if we are provided a plateful of pudding, we have to make an effort to eat it. It will not come to our mouth without  us making an effort. 

Even our creation, evolution and destruction are in our favour. When a child is born, it follows a fixed pattern of growth – childhood, adolescence, adulthood, youth, middle-age, oldage and subsequently death. Our soul (atma) being eternal, gets transferred and takes new carrier in its next birth. Every living beings, without exception,  follows this outline. Then according to theory of reincarnation, we die for a new beginning – meaning whatever chain has been created by our creator is good for us, proving that his writ runs large. We want it or not , just does not matter.

Having conviction, that whatever happens (success or failure) happens for our good. If we are having this belief, then failure will not be as daunting and pain giving as we think it would be otherwise.

Some of real-life incidences i would like to relate which happened in my life which has soldified my belief that the hand of god is real.

• It so happened that i had cleaned up the flower pots, removing some of the earth from each of these so that these pots could be watered with ease and some of the water remains in the flower pots to maintain its moisture level for some more time. Due to my busy schedule, i did not get time to remove the bagful of earth for some days. Two days back, as i was busy writing something on my laptop, i heard a commotion outside my home. When i opened my main gate, i saw smoke emanating from inside the room where the electric meters and electric connections for six units of houses are installed. I saw people shouting, fire, fire, but nobody was doing anything to extinguish the fire that had engulfed the entire units of the meter boxes connecting main lines etc. To throw water on the live power supply was out, throwing sand or earth was the only option.

Suddenly i realized that we had a bagfull of earth. I runningly picked up the bag and started throwing the dry earth on the power units on fire.. Low and behold, the fire started dousing and dimming on the portion i was throwing the dry earth. A further furtive effort extinguished the fire in next eight minutes. What a relief we all got when the engulfing fire was put off. What if the fire could have remained for next ten more miutes? It could have spread to the entire units of houses and the plastic wires could have given boost to the spread of fire. 

Then i introspected that if i would have disposed off the bag full of earth what would have been the fate of the houses in my neighbourhood, only option was to wait for the fire brigade or the people from the power department who, anyhow, reached after 20 minutes! And in 20 minutes, the the fire must have engulfed the entire buildings. I also must have been helpless spectator like others who were only crying hoarse but doing nothing tangible for dousing the rampaging fire. I reached to the conclusion that whatever happens or done or undone is good for us ultimately with the grace of god.

• While waiting for a bus ride, i missed an opportunity to avail the bus to go to my destination because it was full to the capacity but i could have adjusted, if I wanted, but I decided against it – may be due to some internal cues. I had to wait for next half an hour for next bus ride.  On the way, when our bus stopped, we could know that something amiss had happened. There was a tragic accident in which all the 60 passengers died. To my utter horror, it was the same bus which I skipped about an hour before.  I would have been amongst the dead if I would have taken a ride an hour before. I was fortunate but not the others who were there on the fateful bus. What it proves

• My four years grandson had a sudden small cut while playing with his toy. When i asked him what had happened, he most innocently replied. God has punished him for his fault – meaning doing something untoward brings in its bad results. His simple reply surprised me immensely. Even a small kid believes that if he does something bad God will punish him. Meaning there is a lesson in this small incident – good or not so good. Besides whatever happens is due to Him. It is for our refinement. Nothing else.

DISCUSSION ON SPIRITUALISM, PRINCIPLES OF SPIRITUALISM, UNPRINCIPLED ACTIONS OR KARMA AND GREY AREAS IN OUR LIVES.

 

DISCUSSION ON SPIRITUALISM, PRINCIPLES OF SPIRITUALISM, UNPRINCIPLED ACTIONS OR KARMA AND GREY AREAS IN OUR LIVES.

 

SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

 

Adopting a way of life with freewill

Just transcending boundaries

No inhibitions of any scriptures

Selection of journey is not forced

Through some injunctions or some laid down method

These are followed with pure intentions

With purity in action

Purity in convention

Purity in perception

Adopting righteous path bereft of any inhibition

With a positive desire to excel

Not losing sight of positive attitude

Humility and compassion aplenty

Along with doling out from the pool

Of possessions and knowledge

With full trust and belief

For unity of self with that of universe

Expecting little or nothing in return

Resulting in acquiring equanimity

And eternal peace in plenty

Eternal bliss is the final outcome of all these pursuits

The impediments of all these are unprincipled actions

Malice towards others, anger and greed for others possessions

These negative traits retard

Our spiritual march any further.  

 

SPIRITUAL JOURNEY IS A FREEWILL ENDEAVOUR

Spiritual journey is free-style  endeavour – just without any inhibition,  no string attached. No laid down norms followed, no methodology or particular procedure followed while we take the route of spiritualism. Whatever suitable and convenient way is good and ease with which we can follow the sojourn  is appropriate for us.

First of all, we should be able to understand spiritualism. SPIRITUAL principles are based on truth, pure consciousness, pure knowhow, pure perception, pure conception, doing everything without let or fear, pure desirability, righteousness, compassion or kindness, love and renunciation without any inhibition of any kind etc. In other words, whatever the path we follow, we do it truthfully, systematically and with enthusiasm, desire; freedom; liberation; positive attitude,  compassion, with a sense of sacrifice, giving away possessions in excess of one’s own basic necessities without any expectations in return, living purposefully following moral turpitude,  unity of self with universe, contributing holistically for the upliftment of body, mind and soul enabling and empowering, enrichment, commitment for enduring peace and happiness  besides eternal bliss.

The spiritual path is traversed with good traits like compassion, humility, gratitude, trust and integrity. Everybody would like to cultivate these and make these applicable in their lives. By doing so, we attach meaning and significance to our lives. Now love, wisdom and compassion are the spiritual principles. These add luster to our lives and make us sublime and provide peace and equanimity in our life. When inner and outer harmony manifest in the form of true understanding and acceptance, preference will align with principles dear to us.

We have to shift our focus from self centeredness to encompass more than our identity of some faith or the other, transcend things that limits — we’ve to aim for coherence. Cultivating balance leads to peace of mind. Spirituality is the movement of peace and it springs from our own inner equanimity. When our inner and outer harmony manifests in the form of understanding and acceptance, preference will align with principle. Truth wins at the end though  untrue preferences may be in any dimensions.

What is good for one may be bad for others. In spiritualism there are some rituals which are not liked by some people but are being followed by some. There are the ones which has not stood the test of time such as ritual of sati is not longer followed now as was being done before hand. One believer may follow certain way of prayer while other may follow the other one. It is termed as spiritual preferences.

UNPRINCIPLED WAY OF LIFE / NEGATIVE TRAITS WHICH TAKE US AWAY FROM SPIRITUAL PATH

We know how some of colleagues in our offices steal, hide, withdraw some important document or information in order to put other in disrupt and present the same as theirs in order to earn some brownie points and in the process lower others’ esteem. We also hide tax related information so as to save some money. Or hide cash in some parts of the tax havens to earn more and escape from the tax net. Recent Panama leak has exposed a systematic crime and corruption besides tax evasion of gigantic proportion. This leak has also highlighted behind the iron curtain secret deals which are fishy in nature.

If we just ignore unprincipled behavior means we are siding with the wrong doers and it is also self-evident that our ignoring unethical transgression hardly means it will just disappear in thin air. It remains here and kicking. For its eradication some tangible steps are needed besides ignoring wrongdoings also tantamount to supporting these ignoble acts of omissions and commissions. Ignoring a danger hardly means the danger is removed from our midst.
It has been seen that if we gloss over or look the other way after seeing something fishy means we ourselves are part of this non-transparent deal. This grey area is the black spot which needs to be curbed and and loophole plugged. If there is a fishy transaction, it should be brought to light. Some may say, they were ignorant, not knowing the exact position. Others may just say why he, of all the people, should come forward and point finger? If everybody thinks so, then, sure enough, unprincipled people will have a field day all the times.

When unethical behavior such as lying, cheating, stealing, hoodwinking and other violations take place due to our own then what? When we deal with people to whom we do not know, it does not pain much but when it comes to in our own bosom friends or in our most near relations then it falls under the category of grey areas and thus is most glaring. In daily discourses we come across such ill-conceived behavior almost on daily basis.

That which goes against our conscience is considered unethical on individual’s standpoint. It may also be unethical for community as a whole. Further whatever comes stemming due to fear of our karmic force; that if I act in a particular way, it may not be good for me overall. May be wisdom also comes in the way of action and if we act otherwise then that course may not be good for all.

We usually err because of our own judgement or a situation in which we are placed. We may err sometimes because of own judgement. Or due to our deliberate negligence or may be due to following some irresponsible way. We may think it to be right course of action but other may take it otherwise. There are injunction for doing a thing like sexual immorality is considered a sin and should not be resorted to. Gray area include; drinking, smoking, gambling, dressing in a way we want, viewing any movie we like. Err, slip-up, blunder, intentional-mistake are due to situation or condition in which we are placed.

All the creations by our creator are lovable but to discriminate on the basis of religion or caste, colour etc is not good. We become judgmental about others without thinking that all are created by our lovable Creator and He has gifted all air, water, sun equally with no bias. Our conscience may say something to be in order but it is also a fact that our aptitude, faculty or intuition or judgment may not be able to decipher good from bad sometimes. Moral judgement are driven from value system. When we commit a mistake, our conscious does not permit it because we think that our actions are contrary to the moral values. Or our actions are falling under negative trait.

WHAT IS SPIRITUAL PREFERENCE

We may prefer one set of methods for our prayers which is contrary to others or may be that is not in sync with the general spiritual principles. Then what? Would we be sticking with our own preferences or shift our gear to spiritual principles which are time tested. Which way we follow in real sense of term depends on our own aptitude and our own decision according to the situation in which we are placed.

GREY AREAS IN OUR DAILY LIVES

There are in fact grey areas in almost the aspects of our activities in one form or another. There are certain way of doing something which may not be in sync with rules and conventions of the community in which we are living. But all is still not lost. There are some areas where balance is to be maintained by us. Compare the behavior of two entities; a known astrologer and a unknown bus conductor. I happen to e-contact an astrologer and wanted to know about answer to my query: Whether our hard work could change our destiny? The answer to this query was prefaced as: ‘You’ll have to pay Rs. Three thousands for every question asked!  Also on a visit to my relative, I had on me Re. one less than the actual fare of Rs. 10/-. He accepted Rs. 9/- and gave a ticket for Rs. 10/-. Contrast it with the action of astrologer and the bus conductor.

There are the parents who are ill-treated by their offspring in their oldage. This is a disgrace. The children should introspect, how the parents had brought them up. The father eked out a living and the mother sweat at home. She slept in the wet part of the bed but kept the child in the dry part. How and why do the children; when they grow up just forget? Some parents also do injustice with their grown up children. For instance if two children of a parents are there, one is provided every rights of ownership of the household but the other one woefully is divested off all the possessions and expelled from home without any plausible reason or rationality. Is it justified, too? This too is a grey area in our society which requires a relook.

There is no doubt that man is errs, but in doing so, he sometimes acts unethically thus tarnishing his image not only his own eyes but also in the eyes of general public. It is double whammy since firstly the person concerned knows that his act of stealing others’ possessions is wrong and secondly when people come to know about it, it becomes all the more difficult to save his skin.

• Discriminate humans on the basis of colour. and region besides castiest attitude. The sham of racism is really a black spot and a slap on our face who tend to be civilized yet discriminate because of colour!

• Immorality

• To deceive others by heaping with white lies.

• Show disrespect to our older members.

• To show innocence where none exists.

• To show to be truthful where none exists.

• Drunk with pride and ego.

• Children not been taught the value system from their childhood.

• To most audaciously tell lies for gaining sympathy of others.

• Being thankless for others’ bounties to us.

 

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WHAT IS INSTINCT AND INSTINCTIVE ACTION?

WHAT IS INSTINCT AND INSTINCTIVE ACTION?

INSTINCTIVE ACTION BY THE LIVING BEINGS

An inborn response to an action
To an unforeseen event
Which comes just naturally
With little or no interference
By organisms’ existing intelligence.

No one teaches a baby how to cry
When in need for attention or feed
Or while learning to crawl or walk.

Animals live in the natural settings
Survive on the basis of their natural instincts
Which the Mother Nature
Has bestowed them aplenty
Even more than so called evolved humans.

The birds make their nests
On the basis of their instincts
Migrate from one place to another of their choice
In anticipation of change of climate
Caring fig for the manmade barriers so openly
or borders, which are protected, so unstintingly.

Even plants’ growth depends on the light and shade

Persistently assisted by their instincts
Sun flower changes its direction
As per the light of the Sun
Or in shade and light
There is perceptive change in the plants.

Photosynthesis is the best examples
By which plants convert light energy
Into chemical energy

In presence of light of sun
Which fuels the organisms activities
Which the Mother Nature has bestowed on the plants

Thus living beings complete their

Full circle of reliance on each other

In which instinct plays a predominant role.

 

INSTINCT

Instinct is something which is intrinsic or intuitive in an human or animal which need not to be learned. It comes just naturally without a thought about a happening or an event. Our brain need not play its part in this. We observe that the newly born baby cries whenever there is a need for feed, learns to crawl or walk, which could be construed as an instinct action, etc. Then animals behave on the basis of their instincts. In other words, when there is automatic response to stimuli, we call this action based on instinct.

Instinct has been mentioned in Holy Bible as: Even the stork in the sky Knows her seasons; And the turtle, dove and the swift and the thrush observe the time of their migration; But My people do not know The ordinance of the LORD. It goes to amplify that in all the living world, instincts play predominant role. Mother Nature has bestowed this train in plants too: touch-me-not (Mimosa pudica) just folds its leaves inward when it is disturbed. I am of the view that humans sometimes just feign ignorance about instincts or willfully do not recognize the existence of this important trait.

INSTINCTIVE ACTION BY LIVING WORLD

A natural reaction on the spur of moment or displaying of particular behavior by people or species without recourse to a thought or analysis is instinctive act. In other words, it is innate behavior or inclination of an individual or an organism to act in consequence to an act. It is through instincts that the birds migrate from one place to another in anticipation of change in climate or imminence of some danger. The police use dogs for locating the criminals merely because dogs’ instincts are very responsive and through their scent itself they can help locate them. Dogs are also used for locating the victims trapped inside the debris of buildings in the event of natural disasters etc. When water is thrown on the animals, suddenly, they shake their fur and remove water. There are other natural behavior of animals and birds worlds like making their living places, nests, learning to fly, animals learning to fight etc come under category of instinctive behavior.

It has been experienced, when in spiral of piquant situations, even a die hard atheist will instinctively invoke God for deliverance. This inner voice comes just naturally. In Holy Quran it has been said: The Fitrah (natural human instinct) proves the Existence of Allah.

Some factors are responsible for instinctive behavior firstly it is happens without previous knowledge or experience. In other words, it is expression of innate or internal reaction which comes to the fore without any forethought. The instinctive or insightful action that an organism exhibits can alter the stimulated action on the spur. This action could be trained or sharpened with experience.

ROLE OF INSTINCT IN OUR LIFE

The role played by the living beings/species depends on the role of social learning by individual besides the affect of environment and maturity gained through different experiences. Intuitive-related aspects play a prominent role in all the processes. Our past experiences form our behaviour. More of connective experiences make our behavior mature and when crunch comes this behavior helps us take decisive action on the spur. Meaning we can call instinctive or impulsive reaction to an event as a mature behavior (learned behavior through various experiences). Here two things have to be kept in mind; the learned behavior and the innate reaction to an event. But innate behavior does not happen without first experiencing some failures. I think a balanced mix of inner strength and healthy experiences (both hits and misses) we make mature behavior which we call instinctive behavior or intuitive / perceptive reaction or impulsive reaction.

INSTINCTIVE BEHAVIOR & SPIRITUALITY

First of all it is important to understand what spirituality is all about. For some spirituality is about going to prearranged or formal places of worship like church, mosque, temple or any other organized places for conducting religious discourses or holding prayers according to the our beliefs and faiths we espouse. Or spirituality is obtained through private prayers, conducting yogic postures, meditation or silent contemplation. Taking into account the meaning of the spiritualism, it is worthwhile to surmise that if we follow spiritualism then by its practice in real life we are actually forming a habit or behavior pattern by following spiritual beliefs. In other words, it is through training ourselves that we form our behaviour and thereby give power to our inner self. All these activities, if followed in right earnest then we can activate our instinctive tendencies.

It is said in Bhagavad Gītā that simply by surrendering oneself unto the lotus feet of the Lord….to pray to God when one is in difficulty is a natural instinct in every living beings.

Following factors are considered while we talk about instinctive action:-

(i) Instinctive behavior is automatic and sudden, without any personal effort.

(ii) It is a trigger to some event or a happening – known to have taken place or anticipated.

(iii) An intrinsic force is overpowering if developed by observing conditions required for this purpose.

(iv) For this sort of an act training or experience makes a positive impact and makes it a positive and in fact evolved habit or behavior. The behavior such as helping an accident victim, rendering help in dousing fire, cooperating in lifting a weight, sorting out differences between close relations etc.

(v) Instincts happen in all the living world. In animal it is more prominent and in humans it is evolved through daily experiences.

(vi) Reflex action may or may not happen with or without the help of brain.

(vii) There is evolution of humans due to knowledge gained over a period of time through various experiences.

(viii) Environment plays a obvious role in molding the instinctive behavior of humans and other species.

(ix) Instinctive behavior could be with learning or without learning even.

(x) When our instinct is strong, it can anticipate the occurrence of an event and prepare for the defence.

(xi) Humans have evolved from the instinct to survive through variety of experiences.

I survived solely because of grace of Providence or can say the instinct or inner voice. My left hand wrist had fractured a few months back. Though the pain is less yet it cannot be fully used i.e. it is in the process of fully healing for lifting any weights etc. While boarding a speeding vehicle, I was just to use my left hand for catching the handle for boarding the entrance door. But suddenly on the spur, my instinct fore-warned me and I stopped my extended hand and used the right hand to take hold of the handle of the window just on time. Therefore, I also call the instinctive act as the act graced by our Lord.

In Bhagward Gita it has been made amply clear: Only when we face the instinct to survive and the instinct to possess, will we enter the zone of fearlessness. Until then it can never happen.

 

ON GAMBLING AND ITS REPERCUSSIONS.

 

Holy Quran says: God prohibits gambling and games of chance in very clear terms.

Holy Bible  says:  For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?

Bhagwad Gita: There are many kinds of cheaters all over the universe. Of all cheating processes, gambling stands supreme…..

In Sikhism it is vividly enunciated: Sikhs are advised not to gamble in games of chance, but to earn a living by honest means while engaged in earnest hard work.

GAMBLING

Temptation for some ‘more’ easy money

A curse that we promote anyway

At first we start it as a ‘time-pass’

Thence it becomes a habit difficult to leave us

Easy to be formed but quite hard

To be easily forsaken at all

And finally becomes a cause of our downfall!

The question we should ponder

Resources earned with hard work

Bring forth prosperity and all round happiness

When used for our offspring

And dependents we hold dear

Besides elevating our Soul to new heights.

Whereas money earned

Other than the sweat of our brow

Like from impulsive gambling

Or through unpredictable betting

Being easily made is frittered away very easily

This money when used for our children and love ones

Bring about results so gloomy

That we are stunned as to how it all occurred eventually

And with it all we lose sheen of our own soul!

We become slave to gaming as a habit

Through constant repetition

Form a permanent addiction 

Leading to physiologically harsh implications

Along with psychologically severe afflictions

This way we become cause of our own destruction

This way, we not only ruin our own selves

But the future of our well-wishers.

 

ON GAMBLING AND ITS REPERCUSSIONS.

 

Even as we ponder: Habits die hard’ yet there are the myriads of habits which not only adversely impact the individual concerned but also the entire family to which that individual belongs. Habit of gambling is one amongst them. Many a families have had disastrous repercussions financially, socially, morally and physically.  It is a vice which sullies our soul ultimately.

The literal meaning of gamble is to play a game or match wherein outcome or result is uncertain or a pastime which depends purely on chance or a bet with an intention and expectation to reap windfall profit – a shorter gain. People may say, in life we take so many risks and let there be another risk for earning randomly without botheration of hard work. If only this were so simple! It is not so as we all know, it is a reckless or hazardous and downright negative behavior/ habit which impacts not only the individual concerned but also the entire family.

Gambling may also include risking on some unsettled issues or agreements of household or betting or wager on some unpredictable result of a game like cricket, hockey or football which wholly depends on chance – result could be any. Investing in stock exchange also is a sort of a gamble. There is a huge risk involved. The stocks we put in our investment may become bullish or may crash to abysmal levels. This uncertain boom or doom may put ourselves high or may dry us of all our resources at our command.

What do you call a bettor – a empty brained who neither thinks about himself nor of his entire family. The honour and future of entire family is put in disarray by a foolhardy fellow. He is dishonest to himself, his entire family, his community and finally to his Creator? Fact stands out that those who are gambling addicts are affilicted with mental and physical problems (mood changing, cannot be relied upon for any decisive action under the sun besides may have personality disorders).

The daily habit we have cultivated over a period of time with our own sweet-will like various types of addictions like: smoking (nicotine from cigarettes is addictive like heroin which not only adversely affects our lungs but also brain besides it produces undesirable affects on almost all the parts of our body including brain), drugs (Intake of drugs could have both short and long term implications on our body and also leads to addiction besides when addicted, it is difficult to get rid of this risky habit without the help of an experienced medical practitioner) and other health risky habits, these habits are easy to form but difficult to erase from our system.

We know what happened in the famour epic Mahabharta to Pandavas who wagered everything in the game of a dice with Kauravas. Shakuni induced the Pandavas to wager one precious things after another and won everything (their kingdom and everything that it contained, their own selves including  their most precious gem their consort Dropati). The entire loss was due to the hope of winning and paid heavy price after losing everything. This was done basically by the deception and conceit of Shakuni. We also know what was the consequence of this deception and consequence. Pandavas were exiled and even after their tenure of exile  was over they were subjected to different kinds of discrimination. The result of all this was a most ferocious battle between Pandavas and Kauravas in which there was death and destruction wroght on Kauravas and even the winners Pandavas too lost much. This epic of Mahabharta should be a guide for us all what a gamble can bring about – a total destruction.

Then there is tradition of gambling on Diwali day. It is believed that on this day Maan Parvati played dice with Lord Shiva. But unfortunately, some irresponsible people just continues and make it a habit to gamble even staking high to earn more after this festival. Yesterday, I happen to meet a fellow who had lost a hefty sum of money on the eve of Diwali (on which it is viewed that if we gamble, good omen befalls on us for our entire life). The entire amount was taken from the other party on an interest @ 10 % per month which comes to whopping amount per month. This fellow was forced to give this interest from monthly payment. On paying this huge rate of interest, he was left with only a paltry amount with which he had to meet his entire month’s expenditure  including the fee of his children; while his principle amount remained intact!  This individual and his family members who are dependent upon him entirely were left to fend for themselves. What predicament, this insensitive person had put himself and his entire family! This case shows to what limit our greed could take us and consequences it can lead us to.

Not only this one, there are many examples in which the person(s) concerned  could not stand the ensueing trauma of repayment to the creditors and were forced to commit  suicide leaving their families in the lurch for good. This is a problem gamblers or gambling addicts who wager everything with an expectation to win to become rich without  hard work / sweating fall in the pit of uncertainity for good. Compulsive gambling is a vice and lowers the person concerned morally, socially, physically, emotionally/psychologically and even spiritually.

Doubtlessly, there are some adverse implications for the addicts and their families who resort to gambling. These include:-

1. Economical implications. Consequences of becoming rich instantly through gambling has financial implications for the entire family when that addict wagers everything including home and hearth. This loss is felt by the entire family; the children in the family for whom money is required for their upbringing and schooling suffer adversely. More often than not, compulsive gambler lose their jobs because they are not able to devote wholeheartedly on the job-at-hand.

2. Adverse Implications on children. It becomes all the more problematic for the children whose parents are gambling addicts. They are either left at home or somewhere else while both the parents gamble and one can very well imagine the predicament of these hapless children when both of the parents lose. Ultimately, it has been observed that the children too become gambling addicts when they grow up and are forced to live a life which their parents led.

3. Sociological Implications. When there is somebody in the household who is a gambling addict, the entire family suffers. There is a threat of creditors looming large and the entire community comes to know of it all. Worse still a police case may also result in some cases. This, many a times, causes irreparable damage to reputation of the entire family. All members of the family face social stigma.

 

4. Psychological implications. When there is an addict in a particular family, everyone in the community comes to know about this fellow. This way, the entire family experiences emotional and psychological problems resulting in mental and stress related diseases.

 

5. Physiological Implications. While an addict in the family just fritters the hard earned resources due to greed for more, the members of the family have to fend for themselves. They are constrained to live with less or no resources at all; the family members are forced to live frugally impacting their physical wellbeing.

 

6. Gambling and Spiritualism. Gambling is associated with attachment and greed for more worldly possessions and hence a negative Karma and carries with it a disgrace of negativity whereas spiritualism is associated with knowledge (Gyan) and when this knowledge is used practically it helps us in transformation of ourselves holistically – not merely religiously but in moral and ethical standpoints too we acquire higher platform. But gambling as a vice snatches all these from us.

The following suggestions are made for the one is swayed/lured to gambling curse and turned into addicts:-

 

• Habits are formed through repetition. This is true for good and bad habits. We may start gambling as a mark of religious practice (just innocently) but end up having a perennial habit. Then why to gamble at all – even as a mark of religious ritual? A bad habit cannot be construed as good one even when a religious tag is attached with it?

 

• Greed & Gambling. When the stakes are higher then our expectations too become higher and it is not that our expectations are always met, then what? We lose. This loss of our precious earned resources take toll not only as an individual but also our family too gets aftershocks. This greed for anything has to stop. Earnest earning through hard work pays huge dividends should never be forgotten.

 

• Honest earnings bring prosperity. It has been experienced that if we use the hard earned money for the family, it will bring huge rich dividends for us and our offspring. Resources  coming through corrupt practices, like gambling etc and used on our children bring dismay and negative results ultimately. ‘As you sow so shall you reap’ is the best example for this.

 

• While wagering remember that there is somebody waiting for you at home who loves you. While we are gambling, we should never forget the unfortunate examples of those who lost their everything including the members of their families through the scourge of gambling.

 

• Cultivate good pastime. It is well said: ‘ An idle brain is a devil’s workshop’. We should cultivate some positive and productive pastime so as to utilize our spare time so that we may not be lured by some dangerous game like gambling or betting.

 

• Children should be kept away. Even when we are playing some innocuous games like rummy or cards even when the stakes are very little, the children should be kept away from these all lest they too fall prey to these.

 

• Accept your fault & determine not to gamble. Problem with us is that, in the first place, we do not accept our fault. It is a eternal truth that till such time we accept our fault, we cannot rid ourselves of gambling or any other malaise that bedevils us. Therefore determination to rid of any vice or evil precedes acceptance. Being rigid on our part will not help find solution to the pestering problem hence choice is on us whether we want solution to our addiction problem or not. This problems of addiction to gambling was created by us and we have to seek its solution, the sooner it is done the better?

 

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ON SELF-RELIANCE / SELF SUFFICIENCY

ON SELF-RELIANCE

ON INDIVIDUAL PLANE

While speaking about self reliance, we have to be doubly sure about individual’s self-sufficiency in relation to an his/her body needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs etc. We also think that every individual is different, intelligence wise, physically besides putting up with changes that may entail while facing a situation. A person who, through his work and achievements, inspires confidence despite handicaps is really a person with a difference. Irrespective of what others think, nobody but myself can make things right for me. My strength flows from the strength of my own mind. The assertion by Napoleon Bonaparte is more relevant here: ‘The word impossible is in the dictionary of fools’. He was the person fired by self confidence and drive who faced every situation squarely and came out unscathed. He was a workaholic and risk taking genius – a personage with steadfast mind. He exemplified a personality imbued with a pursuit of self-reliance and self sufficiency and exploited his resources to the hilt. But everybody cannot be Napoleon. So nobody can work for me, think for me, pray for me (I have to do it by/for myself).

If I fall; I only have to make efforts to get up, nobody except me will have to do it. If nothing works well in our life, I’ll have to make concerted attempt to put synergy in our effort in whatever way we can. This is what happened in my case. I had an accidental fall last month due to which my left hand wrist got fractured. It looked as though every path around me had stopped; my job, my active life, my prayers, etc just got affected. But my inner voice prompted me to face the facts squarely and encouraged me to not to put a stop on any activity with even a sling pouch in my left arm proving that if we want to face challenges, we can!

A question pops up, can we be self reliant with all the inconsistencies and imperfections in our capacities? Nobody in fact is perfect in all the walks of life and if somebody thinks it otherwise then that person seemingly is over-indulging in self-worth. Also we have to introspect whether the chessboard of life could be played by a single person or not. Self-sufficiency or self-reliant surmise may spring a thought as to how an individual could be self sufficient, he may excel in one field but may have to take the help of others in fulfilling his agenda. But it can also be emphasized, despite imperfections, we can take the assistance of those who can fill the gap in inconsistencies and make sincere efforts for becoming self-contained.

We tend to be overwhelmed by our disabilities but think of the people who suffered from various forms of disabilities yet they made their mark in different fields. They not only became SELF RELIANT but also inspiration for others who get disheartened even with slightest adverse circumstance.

How best the people with various types of disabilities train and conduct themselves through trial and error method in order to be self reliant. Although failures will certainly be there yet will to survive and excel under duress makes huge difference. They not only make themselves reliant for themselves but also become beacon-light for others and show that disability of any nature could be overcome with self-determination of highest order. Following are some of the examples of physically challenged persons challenged the adverse situations / conditions and showed their fighting instinct and out-shined..

• Sudha Chandran from India despite her disability (with artificial right leg – which was amputated due to an accident) she became a talented dancer. For her talents she has been numerous awards.
• How blind and deaf Helen Adams Keller learned to communicate and camoaigned the causes of women, rights of workers along with other causes.
• 
  Stephen William Hawking with motor neuron disease (which was detected when he was only 21 years) but became a world famous theoretical physicist, won Presidential Medal of Freedom (a highest civilian award) and other awards due to his strong will and zeal to excel.
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  Example of John Nash is really impressive. He started showing signs of paranoia. After recovery, his scientific temper became more pronounced besides he won rewards for his work.

We follow other people’s footprints or follow oft beaten track while doing anything important and do not create some unique or adopt out of the box method for fructification of our fforts. Even in prayers we tend to conform to what others do and fear what ‘others’ would think if we adopt something singular practice in order to seek God’s connectivity. Those who do their jobs differently achieve something exclusive. Mere empty ideas will hardly make any difference; putting these ideas into practice in our own way; using our head and heart; without external influences or coercions will make us more self reliant self-contained.

Self-reliance actually means to nurture a belief that one is self-sufficient; one is able to satisfy one’s needs without depending more on others for meeting needs. Here too one thing stands out, by nature, all things created by our Creator are dependent on each other for their survival. Interdependence and sustain each other is the natural outcome for an action plan to be executed in a systematic manner.

Individualism is reasonable but humans cannot exist in isolation though all have their importance in their sphere of activity/influence. When an individual takes for granted others, besides a person who forcibly or illegally snatches others possessions through deception, that person lives a parasitic life. One who does not care for others or does not share the fruits of his action is bound to fail after sometime.

Man depends on others for meeting his needs; from childhood onwards. The child wholly depends on parents for meeting all its needs. In the loving care of parents, child grows up, learns the first lesson from parents and then from the formal institutions and his confusions are removed and his self-confidence is established.

Normal practice is to send our children to school and our combined education makes them self reliant. But it is sad commentary that when we talk about self reliant, we mean it for economic self reliance. Real self reliance happens if a person gains spiritually, morally and economically partly through self efforts and partly through the assistance of others with enough graces of our God. Confidence in working with strangers comes when one has learnt the traits of assimilation initially. Thus essentially, gaining independence and taking decisions freely result when one is flexible in learning the art of living under different sets of situations one is placed for self reliant in all the spheres of our lives.

SELF RELIANCE IN PRODUCTION

If above is relevant for humans it is also relevant for nations. We are aware that now a days we are living in a global village where anything happening casts a shadow globally. For instance economic slowdown /meltdown in China is having economic repercussions world over the happenings in Syria is having its reverberations all the world over.

In other words, what is true of an individual is also true in a larger perspective while it relates to international relations. Besides being proud of our heritage and produce things ourselves for meeting our demand but also export the same for earning foreign exchange which could be conveniently used for meeting the import bills besides boosting our foreign exchange reserves. A country should be self sufficient in the fields like industry, agricultural produce, science and technology in sync with the growth in population. Also, now a days, one country has to be self reliant in defence related production to protect its sovereignty.

Total self reliance is not possible, so the nations depend on each other for meeting their demands. Some countries may say that they are self-reliant, they do not need other countries support for driving their economies which can meet their demand and supply – it is not possible at least presently because of advancements in various fields.

For self reliant we should ponder over the following aspects:-

• Creative Zeal. To be self reliant at individual plane we have to create something unique / some out of the box accomplishment.
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  Excel despite our limitations, (physical and resource-wise). No adverse circumstance should deter us from our chosen path. There are several examples wherein people have become self contained and self reliant despite their disabilities. Here self confidence coupled with God’s graces count.

 

WHAT IS MEANT BY AURA, ITS BENEFITS AND CAN WE CHANGE OUR NEGATIVE AURA BY OUR SOUND KARMA (GOOD DEEDS)?

WHAT IS MEANT BY AURA, ITS BENEFITS AND CAN WE CHANGE OUR NEGATIVE AURA BY OUR SOUND KARMA (GOOD DEEDS)?

MY AURA & ME

What type of person I want to be

Depends entirely on my Creator and me

If I want to remain static

In the midst of changing dynamics

Whilst opportunities abound

To pick and choose from amongst

Surely, I’ll have to awake from my slumber

Not a soul will coax me to get up

From a self imposed inactivity

It’s factually I and me only

Who’ll have to make an effort with sincerity

Nobody else will bell the cat for me, really

If I want to remain weakling with fragile aura for ever

Then nobody, my friends, cares

And why anybody ought to show even a shred of anxiety

When I don’t take the first step forward with and for dignity

For earning a place for my own self – with my own efforts diligently

Thus help remove the stigma of being a weak-link for good

And become a person with energy filled aura that counts, for sure

HARBANS KHAJURIA

Every atom and part thereof in the universe and everything/everybody is composed of vibrations. Even our thoughts we conceive and put into practice are made up of vibrations – motion of energy. Besides our consciousness are made up of vibrations. Aura is defined as the electro-photonic vibration response to an external object or excitement thereof. An aura is the particular type of space or atmosphere or a vital force that surrounds every living and non-living things and give out energy; positive or negative depending on the matter it is made of and energy emitted by it. For example, light and soft shades indicate a positive condition and dark shade indicate a negative condition. If our aura is made up of vibration then a question arises from where this vibration is created? There may be some cause of this vibration – without doubt from our Creator.

KINDS OF AURAS & FACTORS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR FORMATION

An aura is the affect or influence or sphere of energy or lack of it we create on the space we occupy. How much of aura we possess depends on the factors:

•   Morality and discipline followed by an individual;
• Perfect balance in life to be maintained for enhancing our aura;
• Our daily deeds and misdeeds which obstruct positive energy;
• Life style we follow – upright and based on principles or care less about these aspects;
• Whether we follow Spiritualistic life or otherwise;
• Whether we possess mental strength or possess mental lethargy;
• Enlightened Soul Or Total Ignorant and do not make any effort to enhance our know-how;
• Possessing Magnetism to pull others towards us with our good traits;
• Or repel others with our presence, with cold and negative behavior etc.
• Sphere of influence differs from person to person according to the traits we imbibe;

• When our aura is weak, our space is limited while in case of those who are steadfast in character and heartwarming, possess vast expanse of influence. It all depends on the positivity we possess;
• The spread affect or sway of influence is lasting for some while in others it is fragile or limited or a little or ineffectual totally depending on the personality of the individual.

BENEFITS OF ROBUST AURA

How best we react to a situation depends on our aura we are possessing presently. When we are down due to some sudden incident, if our aura is robust, we are unfaltering in our response to that incident – we face the situation squarely and take charge. Contrarily, when our aura is weak, it is ineffectual; it caves in / hides into our shell. Our aura affects us physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and even intellectually and bestows us assistance when required.

It is also a fact that we should get our aura checked from some expert so that we devise ways and means to boost / improve it. A person with sound aura is full of joy, accommodative, have clarity both verbal and in action to be transacted and maintains equanimity both in happy and sad moments. Best things about our strong aura is that it also improves our intuitive power.

More energy means more patience to face coming stresses and strains of our lives. Not only this, it is surprising how our strong aura increases our immunity and protects us from diseases. It also protects us from pollutants of all kinds bedeviling our environs.

 

SPIRITUALISM AND AURA

Christ Consciousness or Krishna Consciousness could come through our self effort. This is the result of righteousness we follow and positive behavior we follow in our daily lives. Those of us who are self aware through self realization are the ones who possess equanimity in weal and woe exhibit a fine-tuned aura. It also goes to show that we are ourselves responsible for building or improving our aura to be fully heightened one or cold or weak. With our improved aura, we feel energized, are joyous, healthy and every activity of ours brings better results. The good omen that comes from within us comes from our aura. Knowing the intensity of our aura, we can get ourselves healed from a wide range of diseases including physiological and psychological related diseases.

CHANGE IN THE INTENSITY OF OUR AURA

Aura around living things changes with time but differs from person to person according to our conscious intend (more our willpower more aura grows) but aura around non-living objects is changeless. Aura around humans is made up of electromagnetic radiation, depending upon our intuitive capacity, intense or limited intentions, emotional maturity, maturity and will to act or react to a situation.

It goes to show that we can afford to improve our aura through self introspection / self analysis / self effort and then acting in such a manner that it infuses confidence to transact our day – to – day activities with inherent enormous energy. We should never forget that when we are resilient, patient, not stressed, we are able to truly understand state of affairs around us, and with it we can devise ways and means to improve our aura, if self help does not work, then expert’s opinion could be sought so as to boost / enhance it for longevity and healthy life.

AURAS DIFFER FROM PERSON TO PERSON

We’ve very limited knowledge about the universe we see and even about ourselves which we boast of knowing. A normal person can know the aura of another person if concerted effort is made. In the pictures of our Gods, we see a visible circle around their heads. How best we can make use of senses and also our consciousness to find our auras, depends on our sincerity of our effort.

TYPES OF ARAUS & NEED TO CHANGE IT

There are varieties of auras which we cultivate due to our own Karmic deeds and misdeeds. Positive deeds results in positive auras and negative deeds brings in its wake negative auras. There is an urgent need to know about our aura, if need be, from the experts in the field so as to device ways and means to change it according to the need. Some of the auras are given below:-

BRIGHT OR WHITE AND CLEAN AURA. While is the colour of perfection. It is an indication of perfect harmony. It is the colour of Light connected with God. In other words it is the colour of GOD a DIVINE LIGHT.

YELLOW – GOLDEN AURA. YELLOW: It is the indication of mental growth, awareness and intelligence with analytical thoughts. But when yellow is aligned with grey or black it is indicative of negative mindset.

GREEN COLOURED AURA. It the colour of harmony, proper balance in life and also indicates the subject’s connectivity with the Creator and compassionate in nature. But when green is aligned with murky or dark or grey it shows the person concerned is jealous, selfish to the core and more possessiveness.

ORANGE SHADED AURA. It is the colour of sun (mixing of red and yellow). It reflects creativity and awareness which could be used for healing purposes whereas negative shade of orange colour connotes aggressiveness along with destructive behavior.

BLUE AURA. It is connected with the spiritualism and positivity. But when blue is aligned with grey and black it indicates negativity

GRAY AND DARK AURA. BLACK. This is the colour wherein the subject is negatively oriented in every aspect. He is blocking the Light of our Creator.

INDOGO AURA. One who is in the process of seeking spiritual truth very intensively.VIOLET

AURA. It connotes selfless love and spirituality besides being humane and considerate and compassionate.

BROWN AURA. It reflects negative inclinations

RED SHADED AURA . it may either positive side may signify love but when deep red signifies negative side may reflect anger.

GOOD AURA REFLECTS THE INNER SELF OF A PERSON

When we know about our aura, we can simply gauge the thoughts of subject before he/she tells us something verbally. We can even know whether that person is telling truth or otherwise. When we see a bright and clean aura, we can expect something good from that person. That person cannot be untruth in his / her words and deeds. Furthermore, this sort of a person is spiritually forward moving where when we see a grey or dark aura; it is sure that such a person will have ill-intention or have intentions which are difficult to decipher. However, we cannot consider a person laudable mere at his face value; how best that person is dressed or how best he impresses you with his speech or good posture these are not the best indicators of good aura as it has been proven outer impressions are always deceptive.

HOW TO CHOOSE A PERSON AS A GURU FOR US

While choosing a spiritual preacher or Guru, we’ ve to be very careful. We’ve experienced so called Gurus most recently who were found to have indulged in unethical and immoral acts and proved themselves to be ‘sheep in wolf’s clothings’ but outwordly they professed wisdom and acted saintly. These people, in place of enlightening us will do an irreparable damage/retard or put a stop to our own spiritual journey. Such people only have ulterior motive or would like to control the masses for meeting the nefarious designs. Gurus with Yellow –Golden aura around their heads are preferred ones.

HOW BEST TO GAUGE A PERSON’S AURA & ITS USES

When we are able to decipher the aura of a person, we are also able to find out the diseases the subject is afflicted with. By consciously controlling aura we can actually provide required heat to our body. Auras can help us develop our consciousness, spiritual development and affords us an opportunity to know about Mother Nature. Those people who cultivate negativities like anger, jealousy, greed, rancor, fear, and pursue all sort of ways and means to satisfy their material possession urge, etc ultimately suppress their true nature and by so doing these sorts of people just suppress their auras. Also, by observing the auras of others, we can improve our own through intensely following the principles involved. It has been observed that children up to the age of five can see the aura. We must have experienced infants while looking at some person show instant liking by smiling while they see a good aura or cry when they see a negative or dark aura. Children do have strong auras since they are not have negativity which the adults are prone to.

HOW TO MAKE OUR AURA ROBUST

1. SELF AWARENESS. Through self introspection/self analysis we have to know where we stand on ‘aura ladder’. If we are unable to know this individually then we can seek the help of experts in the field and then follow the regime of self correction so as to have self improvement in whatever way we lack.
2. 
   Removing Negativity. When our intension is merely to get material possessions and want to get in whatever way it is possible, then possibly we are lacking the characteristics which make us negatively inclined which makes us all the more weak in our aura. All the negativity like anger, jealousy, rancor, greed, etc have to be rid from our midst and transform into a positively oriented individual. Having positivity means having good aura.

3. Spiritualism and aura. Having rid off the smut from our system, we can follow a life which has compassion for others, selfless life, feeling pain and others feel pain, help others when required, meet the needs of others, love others as we want others to love us, etc. Having acquired these traits in life, we can easily establish connectivity with our Creator because He too loves those who love his/her fellow being. Establishing connectivity means our aura has become robust.

4. Positive Attitude and Sincerity. A life full of positive attitude besides righteous living makes our life purposeful and without encumbrance from the present birth to the other one and also decreasing our Karmic deficit from the previous births. This also helps in enhancing the AURA of ours.

5. Infants and Auras. It has been said that a child upto the age of five can see the aura of other people. It is because of the fact that an infant is not affected by the ups and downs of the life which will follow after this age only. We must have observed a child smiling while looking at a person and also weeping while looking on the other. It is simply because the child is able to see the aura of a person and responses accordingly. With this point in view, we should always keep the children away from bad company, bad deeds and educate the child in such a manner that he/she develops a positive frame of mind and aura and is not enslaved by negativity.

WHAT IT IS – IF NOT LOVE?

 

WHAT IT IS – IF NOT LOVE?

 

 

Love can make huge difference in our life

Whilst hate can make huge dent in our life.

 

 

Spouse seeing off her partner

Going to work in the morning hours

Gives a sweet departing smile

And receives back with a huge grin

With a cup of coffee steaming

Washes off all the grimness

Generated during day’s work

What it is – if not love?

 

 

At mid-night stroke

Disturbed my sleep due to noisy snores

Of my better-half

Pecked her neck with love

Resultantly earned noise free sleep

And a lovely filled hug to reminisce

Till next night for a lovely repeat

That is the love of a spouse

Even the disturbance is held high

What it is – if not love?

 

 

Whilst coming out of thy home for a morning stroll

Street dogs just come in horde and wag their tails

Dance and grunt with joy abound

Keep pace with thee till final walk is finished

Guard ye as though protecting thee

From imminent dangers lurking at the nook and corner

What it is – if not love!

 

 

In the morning hours while watering plants

The leaves just flutter – without any wind

As though giving thanks

For taking care

What it is – if not love!

 

 

Sitting in the chair

Seemingly bored and forlorn

Then the grand-child makes entry grand

Takes charge of mine just complete

A peaceful voice just emanates from within

Which washes off everything

As if it existed not ever

What it is – if not love?

 

 

While taking a bus ride

Everything was just nice

Till the driver puts sudden brakes

To save the dog that comes on the road

Fellow passenger being off guard

Receives injury in the forehead

A kerchief held tight holds the oozing blood

Then dressing and stitching of wound fellow  got healed

What it is – if not love?

 

 

Seeing the skidding of the two wheeler

Due to losing control so sudden

The lady at the pillion falls down

Receives head injury and resultant concussion

Taken to hospital and provided medical attention

Doctor proclaim the patient brought on time

Otherwise must have consequences worst

What it is – if not love?

 

 

Umpteen times thee render help

To thy fellows in distress

Or the ones who need your support

What makes difference is the timely assistance.

What is this if not love?

 

Finally Divine Love for all His creations

Without doubt is without any comparison

He meets our demands without asking

For He is All Knowing Being.

What it is – if not His love for us all?

 

HARBANS KHAJURIA

 

DIVINE LOVE AND US HUMANS

 

Love of our Supreme Lord is for all His creations. It is seemingly more for humans because with the endowment of the special powers of differentiation, the power of discrimination between good and bad besides eternal (soul) and non-eternal (our physical body).

 

Humans should reciprocate His Love by showering  love to the ones who are less fortunate souls (due to one reason or the other) with a fond notion that whatever material potency we have here on this earth is due to His eternal love. We did not bring anything from our previous birth –  if there was any at all? The Lord is the rescuer of the fallen and descends into our material world through infinite manifestations in which He reveals Himself, out of His infinite love for us and to emancipate the conditioned souls. It is out of His Infinite Love and mercy for us humans that He descends in countless forms suited to annihilate the demoniac and deliver us of their evil designs besides establishing the commandments dear to Him. Supreme Lord  is love personified and He thus could be attained through unquestionable Love and not by challenges for He is unquestionable and unchallengeable Supreme Truth – brimming with Love. Recognize it and we can have His Love, question Him, He will not be understood by us.

 

 

 

This love of the Infinite Absolute Lord facilitates us humans to serve others in a manner suited to our faculties and capabilities. To attain the Infinite Love of the Infinite Supreme for our supreme bliss, we have to come out of our reveries and grasp the opportunity with both hands – now itself lest it may be too late. Let the love of the Supreme One rule our hearts.

Also, a showing pure love for His creations, in words and deeds,  makes it possible to get the answers of our pestering questions without asking Him for He is All Knowing Super Being. This love too helps in self emancipation, self realization and finally liberation (Moksh). Thus fact remains, He understands the language of LOVE the most.

 

• LOVE BETWEEN OUR RELATIONS

 

Between Husband & Wife. As love is a strong positive emotional bond with its two components being regard and affection for each other. I shall not go into how the two souls were united in nuptial alliance (it may be through some inter-mediatory or a love marriage – love at first sight type!). But the marriage to be successful, it is a must that the edifice of a delightful relationship is only possible:

 

• When we have a total belief in the dictum ‘love begets love’ and hate begets even more hate.

 

• When love bond between the spouses is strong and withstands any upheaval.

 

• While being in love and practicing it during the lifetime, it is also a must that spouses should pounder what the opposite of love (hate) could do to their lives! A total chaos / collapse of everything we have – indeed?

 

• When ample mutual confidence and trust is there. This is possible when we share our high and low tidings with fortitude.

 

• ·Respect each others’ privacy, if and when required but not at the cost of losing confidence on each other.

 

• Just forget and forgive each others’ past mistakes – bury these where nobody is able to unravel.

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• Enjoy every moment (good or bad) fully. Bad moments can be enjoyed with each others’ participation – thinking that no problem is intractable with each others’ assistance. If the problem cannot be solved, just forget about the problem itself, time will solve it eventually.

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• Love each others’ drawbacks/weaknesses! But never make fun and belittle your partner for this petty thing. 

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• Never forget that we all are infallible in one way or the other. One who considers himself / herself flawless, amply shows there is something loose in that person’s system. That person cannot love others except self – can call that person conceited / eccentric.
• If nothing works despite hard efforts, just turn to spirituality. It has mystic power of setting right any relationship.

·       Defending your spouse at all costs.

 

Love for the Offspring

 

It is commonly seen fact that parents who has a lasting love for each other, their children also grow in a positive frame of mind. Parents should imbibe the following characteristics:-

·       Received the initial love and affection in the early stages of childhood thus solidifying their base.

 

·       If possible, spiritual knowledge should also be taught. Children brought up in the lap of spirituality can never turn violent.

 

·       True meaning of love should be taught to them. Not the one which is connected with lust only.

 

• Cultural and civic sense imbibed.

 

• Strong sense of responsibility.

 

• Value system taught to the children.

 

• Power to distinguish between right and wrong.

 

• Any other important point(s) which the parents would like to enlighten the young minds; suited to the family requirement.

 

Grand Parents.

 

Then there are some families in which the grant parents are also living as a family unit. We should shower special love and affection to these aged people who have seen the ups and downs in their lifetime.

 

• Their lifetime experience should be taped properly for the benefit of the family as a whole.

 

·       They should have say in the family affairs as far as possible.

 

·       They should never think that they are being neglected in any manner.

 

• Their blessings can make difference should never be forgotten.